#reciprocity — Public Fediverse posts

Dating apps.
Whispers: you'll find a partner
Reality: a minefield of getting ghosted

(Poll version)

#datingapps #ghosting #modernromance #digitalexhaustion #livedexperience #mentalhealth #vulnerability #relationships #reciprocity #reflections #authenticity #boundaries

Dating apps.
Whispers: you'll find a partner
Reality: a minefield of getting ghosted

#datingapps #ghosting #modernromance #digitalexhaustion #livedexperience #mentalhealth #vulnerability #relationships #reciprocity #reflections #authenticity #boundaries

Sending an honest expression of interest only to be met with total silence—while the app shows they are online and viewing your profile—exposes the cold, dehumanising reality of modern ghosting culture.

https://the.kalvin.click/the-silence-of-the-screen-reciprocity-asymmetry-and-the-modern-dating-loop/

#dating #ghosting #communication #reciprocity #livedexperience #mentalhealth #vulnerability #rejection #boundaries #authenticity #modernlove #relationships #empathy

Ghosting on dating apps—when one’s online, views your profile, but never replies—exposes its hypocrisy: the ghoster still expects respect despite dismissing the other.

https://the.kalvin.click/the-silence-of-the-screen-reciprocity-asymmetry-and-the-modern-dating-loop/

#dating #ghosting #communication #reciprocity #livedexperience #mentalhealth #vulnerability #rejection #boundaries #authenticity #modernlove #relationships #empathy

You don't expect it, but any time you've actually had a hand in making something — a friendship, an idea, a shared meal — it ends up remaking you, too.

Further reading: https://emotusoperandi.medium.com/your-self-care-action-items-f1c98bcedca6

#BenKadel #LifeboatAcademy #StayHuman #Reciprocity #Practice

If you think your life has clean edges, follow it far enough and find other lives touching yours.

Further reading: https://emotusoperandi.medium.com/your-self-care-action-items-f1c98bcedca6

#GraceLeeBoggs #LifeboatAcademy #StayHuman #Grounding #Reciprocity

Rain falls, rivers carry, forests breathe, bodies return to soil, and new life rises from what came before.

Further reading: https://emotusoperandi.medium.com/how-can-i-help-part-1-4142df8a3cf1

#LifeboatAcademy #StayHuman #Reciprocity #LivingSystems #RobinWallKimmerer

"Because the feeling of #reciprocity is one of the most powerful regulators of the #autonomicnervoussystem, a great deal of repair and rewiring can happen in #relationships winged with true reciprocity. Dana writes:

'Reciprocity is a connection between people that is created in the back-and-forth communication between two autonomic nervous systems. It is the experience of heartfelt listening and responding. We are nourished in experiences of reciprocity, feeling the ebb and flow, giving and receiving, attunement, and resonance.'"

https://www.themarginalian.org/2026/08/05/polyvagal-theory/

TimeBanks UK
"Timebanking is a way of exchanging skills without any money changing hands.."
https://timebanking.org/

#SolarPunkSunday #Community #UK #TimeBanks #Swaps #Reciprocity #TimeBanking

TimeBanks
"Experience the power of reciprocity through TimeBanking. Building stronger communities through time-based exchanges. Offer your time, get help when you need it, and make a difference without using money."
https://www.timebanks.org/

#SolarPunkSunday #Community #TimeBanks #Swaps #Reciprocity #TimeBanking

I love this so much!!! ❤️ So #SolarPunk!

#WellingtonNZ #Timebank

"What is the #WellingtonTimebank?

Members of Wellington Timebank exchange skills, time, and knowledge. We use time instead of money as a currency. All work is valued equally, no matter what it is. Timebank is for everyone! Everyone has skills, abilities, experiences and knowledge. Everyone has needs and things that make our lives easier or more enjoyable.

Our Wellington Timebank community spans across the Wellington region and has over 1000 members.

'Wellington Timebank is important because it is an excellent opportunity to make connections between diverse groups of people, helps build trust in the community, share skills and knowledge!'
- Eduardo, Timebank member since 2019


Join the Wellington Timebank

To sign up, all you need to do is:

1. Complete the application form.

2. Complete a Ministry of Justice Conviction check.

3. Attend one of our monthly in-person introduction sessions to learn about timebanking and meet other timebankers.

4. Make a yearly membership donation if you can (Optional).

‍
Vision, mission, goals:

At Wellington Timebank, we are committed to enhancing the lives of members in the community through our wide range of trade opportunities, activities and events.

Vision: In our community we look out for each other and embrace #diversity.

Mission: Through exchanging skills, time and knowledge we foster relationships of trust and reciprocity. We harness the real wealth of the community and the value of each individual.


Values:

- We are all assets. Every person has something to contribute.
- #RedefiningWork. All kinds of work need to be honoured and rewarded.
- #Reciprocity. Relationships are about giving and receiving. “You need me” becomes “We need each other.”
- Social networks. People looking out for each other helps to weave communities of support, strength and trust.
- Respect. All of us matter and are accountable to one another.

‍
Our People

The Wellington Timebank is supported by a #Kaiwhakahaere / Coordinator and a Steering Committee and hosted by Te Whare Hapori o ngā Puna Waiora / Newtown Community Centre."

FMI:
https://www.newtowncommunity.org.nz/wellington-timebank

#SolarPunkSunday #SharingKnowledge #SharingSkills #TimeBanks #Aotearoea #BuildingCommunity #TimeBasedCurrency

The body often notices belonging before the mind does — somewhere between wet soil and a slower breath.

Further reading: https://medium.com/@emotusoperandi/lifeboats-the-backstory-c793bc4c501d

#LifeboatAcademy #RobinWallKimmerer #LivingSystems #Reciprocity #StayHuman

Reciprocal generosity is the expected default between peers, but a new study indicates that when the initial relationship is unequal, after a one-way path of generosity is established (e.g., from higher to lower ranked individual), that hierarchical relationship continues by default.

Summary: https://neurosciencenews.com/social-hierarchy-reciprocity-30873/

Original paper: https://direct.mit.edu/opmi/article/doi/10.1162/OPMI.a.357/137050/Expectations-of-Reciprocal-Generosity-Are-Specific

#Science #Psychology #Sociology #Generosity #Relationships #Reciprocity

The gift has always moved between living things without requiring a theory of generosity to do so — and what loosens in a person who receives something unearned isn't gratitude exactly, but the slow release of a story about the world that was never quite true.

This week's reflection: https://emotus.substack.com/p/daily-reflection-2025-05-21

#RobinWallKimmerer #LifeboatAcademy #GiftCulture #LivingSystems #Reciprocity

#Reciprocity, #Respect, #Relationality: Three Rs to Understand #IndigenousPerspectives on Development in the #Green conomy

By Edson Krenak, May 27, 2026

"Reciprocity is more than a practice; it is our way of life, the way of life. Instead of focusing solely on economic growth, without limit, we must pay attention to check whether all beings are enjoying life in a healthy place. Without reciprocity, the green economy will reproduce the same extractive logic it claims to overcome, and eventually fail our common home, Earth."

Read more:
https://www.culturalsurvival.org/news/reciprocity-respect-relationality-three-rs-understand-indigenous-perspectives-development

#IndigenousPeoples #Greenwashing #UncheckedGrowth #Capitalism #Colonialism #ExtractiveIndustries #LoveYourMotherEarth

Sweet Lady Violet is blooming again in France and I will never forget how this plant once helped me to get back one of my lost senses: https://www.cronenburg.net/sweet-lady-violet/ Yes, you can talk to plants and become friends.

#bloomscrolling #florespondence #HesperisMatronalis #wildFlowers #gardening #reciprocity #reconnectWithNature #scent #scentTherapy #hope #senses #NaturePhotography #FlowerPhotography #friends #lazygardening #summervibes #magicInTheMundane #treasure

When Everything Becomes a Deal

Cliff Potts, editor-in-chief, WPS News
Baybay City, Leyte, Philippines — May 23, 2026 — 4:05 p.m.

Transaction is not the enemy.

Healthy societies run on transaction.

You pay for a service.
You receive the service.
Both sides understand the terms.

That is fair exchange.

The problem begins when transaction quietly turns into extraction.

Transaction is open. Extraction hides its intent.

Transaction says, “Here is what I offer, here is what I ask.”
Extraction says, “Give first, and I’ll explain later.”

Transaction respects boundaries.
Extraction pushes past them.

In recent years, the line between the two has blurred.

Dating apps monetize attention.
Platforms monetize intimacy.
Movements monetize outrage.
Influencers monetize identity.

None of this is automatically wrong. Earning a living is not a crime. Selling a service is not immoral.

But when everything becomes a deal, something changes.

Friendship becomes networking.
Romance becomes subscription.
Community becomes fundraising.
Affection becomes leverage.

When that shift happens, trust erodes.

A healthy transaction leaves both people clear about what happened.

An extraction leaves one person confused, pressured, or diminished.

The difference is not always money. The difference is reciprocity.

Reciprocity means both sides give and both sides understand what is being exchanged.

Extraction depends on imbalance. It depends on speed. It depends on urgency. It depends on someone feeling too afraid, too lonely, or too hopeful to slow down.

This is not just about scams. It is about culture.

If we treat every interaction as a negotiation, we begin to assume everyone is a potential mark. If we assume everyone is a potential mark, we stop building trust. Without trust, even honest transactions feel suspect.

The answer is not to reject transaction. The answer is to restore clarity.

Say what you want.
Say what you offer.
Respect a no.
Accept a boundary.

If a connection only survives when one side keeps paying, that is not partnership. If a relationship collapses the moment someone asks for transparency, that is not stability.

We cannot remove money from modern life. But we can refuse to let it define every human interaction.

Not everything is a deal.
Not everything should be.

A stable society depends on more than contracts. It depends on fairness, honesty, and restraint.

Transaction builds systems.
Extraction corrodes them.

Knowing the difference — and acting on it — is how trust is rebuilt.

Ebenfalls im 📙 "Canon and Censorship in Islamic Intellectual History" (A. Dziri, B. Dziri & M. Gharaibeh; De Gruyter Brill) zu finden ist der 📖 "Between the Virtue of Reception and the Suppression of Voices“ von Amir Dziri und Mohammad Gharaibeh.

🔓 https://tinyurl.com/mrxp34uy

#Canonization, #Censorship, #Reception, #Reciprocity, #Dependence

We Didn’t Get Ruder—We Just Stopped Noticing Each Other: A Pagan View of Everyday Harm

https://pagangrove.wordpress.com/2026/04/22/we-didnt-get-ruder-we-just-stopped-noticing-each-other-a-pagan-view-of-everyday-harm/

I don't know for sure but I think I just lost a #friend over being too #forgiving in the moment.

Sorry not sorry. I don't stand for what I can't #become as such.

I do what I can to #embrace all #people who #appreciate who I am. It's all I can do, and if that #means my #contribution towards #friendships isn't meant to #last then so #be it. But if it does, they're really #rare and I #cherish them because they're very easy to #lose over #something you thought you could #understand at the time.

I'll #say this.

All #echo #chambers are the #primary #reason as to why a #friendship falls apart. Because I've seen this #effect everyone to the point of no #return possible, and honestly...you can't get along with people who spend more of their #time invested into something other than what you are doing with that person together. And I don't think I'm alone in wishing that at times, such an #investment cultivates #familiarity over #routine on a continuous basis.

But you know what? I still appreciate the chance to #care for all it is #worth as such. I do my best to live #life with no #regrets to count on #growing without me there to #manage them.

It's my own #fault for putting a bit of my #soul into everything I do alongside my #heart and #mind accordingly. And as afar as I #know there's no #changing that, at least in a very easy way.

If you ever truly #need #friends by your side, you'll know whether they're people you can #count on or not, by the way they #treat your #ambitions as an #individual person.

You can still #respect someone if they do not #acknowledge that you have any. But the chances of you becoming #close, are not as great.

With that being said, you do not need to #support the same #ambition someone else does, in order to be friends. You just need to set your #ego aside so that such a person can fulfill their #desire the best way they know how to.

That's what I do, and I carry a lot of #weight because of it. All of the #memories set aside because the soul wasn't ready to let go of the ones #entrapping their #conscious #focus throughout seemingly more #important issues outside of my #control in all of the #moments they last.

Putting my best #self forward, means respecting that and not forcing the #matter at hand. It doesn't make that #feeling go away, born of lost #opportunity at the #core of #potential #reciprocity as such.

But yes #indeed I know #hope is not so easily broken by #fragile #futility alone. Which is why I continue to #forgive but not #forget all of the ways life makes a different #path #unfold into #being by the #presence of #purpose for everyone.

It has been demonstrated that reciprocal actions can be executed effectively. #StrategicResponse #Reciprocity

Reciprocity? If Americans can live freely in parts of Europe, shouldn’t Europeans expect fair access too? Equal treatment shouldn’t stop at the border. #Reciprocity #Transatlantic #Fairness #VisaPolicy #EU #USA #Equality

Ever feel like "you scratch my back..." has an invisible price tag? What if reciprocity isn't just social but how the universe holds itself together? Explore the regulating principle of existence.
👉 https://www.johnmackay.net/on-reciprocity.htm
#Philosophy #Ontology #Reciprocity

I love changing my #perspective by slipping into the most impossible roles. It helps me see everyday things with new eyes. When I became this cute little green #alien, this is the result:

🐸 a downloadable mini #zine as #HowTo #shift your perspective: https://ko-fi.com/s/700d3d3138

🌱 a photo reportage about a #space #moss #expedition: https://steady.page/en/naturematchcuts/posts/d242349d-fa59-4af8-a834-c93d580a4039

🐸 more infos about #zines and how to fold them: https://www.cronenburg.net/zines/

#reciprocity #natureWriting #nature #solarpunk #cartoon #education

My opinion - Foreign media in countries like #Australia, where this piece ran, shouldn't publish #Chinese government op-eds unless #China's state media publishes foreign diplomat op-eds.

#Reciprocity is a basic tenet of #diplomacy and should be enforced in the #digital and #media spaces.

I am considering this option in my life: the ability for people to pay me money, in return for my opinions and understandings. I believe this is part of the attention economy and the information and data economy, where engagement must be reciprocal and mutually beneficial. It seems that my attention and understanding are not yet widely sought after, so it makes sense to implement this.

#attentioneconomy #informationeconomy #monetisation #opinion #value #data #reciprocity #business #strategy

A quotation from The Bible

Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.
 
[Πάντα οὖν ὅσα ἐὰν θέλητε ἵνα ποιῶσιν ὑμῖν οἱ ἄνθρωποι, οὕτως καὶ ὑμεῖς ποιεῖτε αὐτοῖς· οὗτος γάρ ἐστιν ὁ νόμος καὶ οἱ προφῆται.]

The Bible (The New Testament) (AD 1st - 2nd C) Christian sacred scripture
Matthew 7: 12, “The Golden Rule” (Jesus) [KJV (1611)]

Sourcing, notes, other translations: wist.info/bible-nt/12104/

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #jesus #goldenrule #dountoothers #Christianity #compassion #empathy #fairness #goldenrule #Jesus #justice #meme #perspective #quidproquo #reciprocation #reciprocity #wisdom

I only just started this book and I fucking love it. Please read. Thank.

https://osupress.oregonstate.edu/book/indigenous-critical-reflections-on-traditional-ecological-knowledge

but no srsly, thank you for considering it. It feels like talking to a friend who Knows how fucked up your family is.

You've been away for a while, so you're shielded from the worst of their damaging tantrums, but uncompromising bare facts of the situation still sober you up somehow.

#book #BookTok #BookLovers #libro #libros #leer #read #books #books2025 #BooksWorthReading #indigenous #IndigenousMastodon #IndigenousPeople #MVSKOKE #eco #ecology #PoliticalEcology #BehavioralEcology #land #learn #learning #pedagogy #teacher #sustainability #sustainable #env #environment #critical #comm #comms #communication #culture #ethnicity #meaning #philosophy #sociology #colonialism #SolarPunk #punk #critique #relationships #responsibility #reciprocity #interpersona #accountable #accountability #restoration #EcosystemRestoration #HabitatRestoration #conviviality #cooperation #cooperative #MutualAid #HelpPeople #CoCreation #collaboration #Community #CommunalDecision

The contributions of community seed saving to health and wellbeing: A qualitative study in Thunder Bay, Canada

More on page 10 of the Fall 2024 Newsletter!

https://foodstudies.info/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Fall-2024-Newsletter.pdf

#OpenAccess #ThunderBay #Ontario #Canada #SeedSaving #Community #CommunitySeedSaving #FoodSystems #Sustainability #SustainableFoodSystems #MentalHealth #SpiritualHealth #PhysicalHealth #Wellbeing #Relationships #Reciprocity #PublicHealth #HealthIntervention

[Short film] #Tayal #Forest Club

"Ancestors! We’ve gotten stuck here. Can you help us find the way home?” pleads Yukan, an Atayal teenager lost in the forests of his forefathers.

"Bullied at school and weighed down at home by his dad’s drinking, Yukan is eager to escape it all. When his best friend, Watan, invites him on a hike, a physically and emotionally bruised Yukan grabs his machete and the two boys head into the woods. But this isn’t just any hike, or just any woods — as Yukan and Watan’s youthful overconfidence runs them up against the realities of nightfall in the dense and mountainous Atayal homelands, other forces begin to reveal themselves. Before they can find a way home, these two young Tayal men must first humble themselves enough to learn the lessons that the land itself has to offer.

"In TAYAL FOREST CLUB, Taiwan’s first Indigenous female film director, Laha Mebow, shares a coming-of-age tale that interweaves Tayal characters, settings, and symbols with the complexities arising from her community’s interactions with contemporary society."

Watch:
https://www.reciprocity.org/films/tayal-forest-club

#SolarPunkSunday #SaveTheForest #ForestProtectors #Nature #ProtectNature #Atayal #IndigenousTaiwanese #Taiwan #DCEFF #IndigenousStorytellers
#IndigenousFilms #LandDefenders #ReciprocityProject #Reciprocity #IndigenousFilmMakers #WomenDirectedFilms
#IndigenousWisdom #IndigenousKnowledge #Reciprocity

[Short film] ᎤᏕᏲᏅ (What They’ve Been Taught)

"Filmed on the #QuallaBoundary and #CherokeeNation, ᎤᏕᏲᏅ (What They’ve Been Taught) - pronounced "oo-day-yoh-nuh" - explores expressions of reciprocity within Cherokee communities, brought to life through a story told by an elder and first language speaker. ᎤᏕᏲᏅ is a reflection on tradition, language, land, and a commitment to maintaining balance. This film was created in collaboration with independent artists from both #CherokeeNation and the Eastern Band of Cherokee Indians.

"Today’s Cherokees are organized into three federally-recognized tribes: Cherokee Nation of Oklahoma, the Eastern Band of Cherokee Indians, and the United Keetoowah Band of Cherokee Indians. As with most of the films in this series, language is conveyed as an integral part of how Indigenous peoples interact with the land through culture and their distinct worldviews to enact reciprocity. Tom Belt demonstrates how embedded in the Cherokee language are worldviews for which concepts often do not have easy translations into English. For instance, the fact that there is no word for art, and that the idea of creating something with its source in the natural world means that the artist is not creating something new, but simply remaking that material into something else. “Art” is thus both a medium for creative cultural expression and that which connects humans to the natural world through the transformation of natural materials into what we call art.

"Tom also shares another key perspective, that the world does not belong to humans. He tells us the ownership of the world belongs to those who came before humans, making humans merely guests who have 'to be as careful and responsible as we can be.'

"This film further exposes how gratitude and gifting are intertwined as necessary ingredients of reciprocity. Did you notice in the beginning of the film the offering of tobacco as the tree was taken so the masks could be made? In American Indian cultures the offering of tobacco is an almost universal element of thanksgiving. Other things could be given as an offering as well. By assuming responsibility and respect for what is being taken, the offering constitutes an act of reciprocity and gratitude."

Watch:
https://www.reciprocity.org/films/udeyonv

#DCEFF #IndigenousStorytellers #IndigenousFilms #ReciprocityProject #Reciprocity #IndigenousFilmMakers #IndigenousWisdom #HonorTheEarth #EasternBandOfCherokeeIndians #UnitedKeetoowah #Reciprocity #Gratitude

Welcome all gifts, great and small, with sincere appreciation and notice how quickly joy builds. Giving - compliments, token gifts, and other gestures of goodwill (e.g., listening) has an equally powerful effect.

This is divine reciprocity - one of the ways goodness grows in the world.

www.catherineiversnorton.com

#ReadTheStain #writer #coach #psychology #spirituality #mentalhealth #mindfulness #presence #gift #giving #receiving #reciprocity #gratitude #joy