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Familiarity is the enemy: On why Enterprise systems have failed for 60 years

https://felixbarbalet.com/familiarity-is-the-enemy/

#HackerNews #Familiarity #is #the #enemy #Enterprise #systems #failure #technology #innovation #business #insights

Familiarity is the enemy: On why Enterprise systems have failed for 60 years

https://felixbarbalet.com/familiarity-is-the-enemy/

#HackerNews #Familiarity #is #the #enemy #Enterprise #systems #failure #technology #innovation #business #insights

Familiarity is the enemy: On why Enterprise systems have failed for 60 years

https://felixbarbalet.com/familiarity-is-the-enemy/

#HackerNews #Familiarity #is #the #enemy #Enterprise #systems #failure #technology #innovation #business #insights

Familiarity is the enemy: On why Enterprise systems have failed for 60 years

https://felixbarbalet.com/familiarity-is-the-enemy/

#HackerNews #Familiarity #is #the #enemy #Enterprise #systems #failure #technology #innovation #business #insights

Familiarity is the enemy: On why Enterprise systems have failed for 60 years

https://felixbarbalet.com/familiarity-is-the-enemy/

#HackerNews #Familiarity #is #the #enemy #Enterprise #systems #failure #technology #innovation #business #insights

I don't know for sure but I think I just lost a #friend over being too #forgiving in the moment.

Sorry not sorry. I don't stand for what I can't #become as such.

I do what I can to #embrace all #people who #appreciate who I am. It's all I can do, and if that #means my #contribution towards #friendships isn't meant to #last then so #be it. But if it does, they're really #rare and I #cherish them because they're very easy to #lose over #something you thought you could #understand at the time.

I'll #say this.

All #echo #chambers are the #primary #reason as to why a #friendship falls apart. Because I've seen this #effect everyone to the point of no #return possible, and honestly...you can't get along with people who spend more of their #time invested into something other than what you are doing with that person together. And I don't think I'm alone in wishing that at times, such an #investment cultivates #familiarity over #routine on a continuous basis.

But you know what? I still appreciate the chance to #care for all it is #worth as such. I do my best to live #life with no #regrets to count on #growing without me there to #manage them.

It's my own #fault for putting a bit of my #soul into everything I do alongside my #heart and #mind accordingly. And as afar as I #know there's no #changing that, at least in a very easy way.

If you ever truly #need #friends by your side, you'll know whether they're people you can #count on or not, by the way they #treat your #ambitions as an #individual person.

You can still #respect someone if they do not #acknowledge that you have any. But the chances of you becoming #close, are not as great.

With that being said, you do not need to #support the same #ambition someone else does, in order to be friends. You just need to set your #ego aside so that such a person can fulfill their #desire the best way they know how to.

That's what I do, and I carry a lot of #weight because of it. All of the #memories set aside because the soul wasn't ready to let go of the ones #entrapping their #conscious #focus throughout seemingly more #important issues outside of my #control in all of the #moments they last.

Putting my best #self forward, means respecting that and not forcing the #matter at hand. It doesn't make that #feeling go away, born of lost #opportunity at the #core of #potential #reciprocity as such.

But yes #indeed I know #hope is not so easily broken by #fragile #futility alone. Which is why I continue to #forgive but not #forget all of the ways life makes a different #path #unfold into #being by the #presence of #purpose for everyone.

I don't know for sure but I think I just lost a #friend over being too #forgiving in the moment.

Sorry not sorry. I don't stand for what I can't #become as such.

I do what I can to #embrace all #people who #appreciate who I am. It's all I can do, and if that #means my #contribution towards #friendships isn't meant to #last then so #be it. But if it does, they're really #rare and I #cherish them because they're very easy to #lose over #something you thought you could #understand at the time.

I'll #say this.

All #echo #chambers are the #primary #reason as to why a #friendship falls apart. Because I've seen this #effect everyone to the point of no #return possible, and honestly...you can't get along with people who spend more of their #time invested into something other than what you are doing with that person together. And I don't think I'm alone in wishing that at times, such an #investment cultivates #familiarity over #routine on a continuous basis.

But you know what? I still appreciate the chance to #care for all it is #worth as such. I do my best to live #life with no #regrets to count on #growing without me there to #manage them.

It's my own #fault for putting a bit of my #soul into everything I do alongside my #heart and #mind accordingly. And as afar as I #know there's no #changing that, at least in a very easy way.

If you ever truly #need #friends by your side, you'll know whether they're people you can #count on or not, by the way they #treat your #ambitions as an #individual person.

You can still #respect someone if they do not #acknowledge that you have any. But the chances of you becoming #close, are not as great.

With that being said, you do not need to #support the same #ambition someone else does, in order to be friends. You just need to set your #ego aside so that such a person can fulfill their #desire the best way they know how to.

That's what I do, and I carry a lot of #weight because of it. All of the #memories set aside because the soul wasn't ready to let go of the ones #entrapping their #conscious #focus throughout seemingly more #important issues outside of my #control in all of the #moments they last.

Putting my best #self forward, means respecting that and not forcing the #matter at hand. It doesn't make that #feeling go away, born of lost #opportunity at the #core of #potential #reciprocity as such.

But yes #indeed I know #hope is not so easily broken by #fragile #futility alone. Which is why I continue to #forgive but not #forget all of the ways life makes a different #path #unfold into #being by the #presence of #purpose for everyone.

I don't know for sure but I think I just lost a #friend over being too #forgiving in the moment.

Sorry not sorry. I don't stand for what I can't #become as such.

I do what I can to #embrace all #people who #appreciate who I am. It's all I can do, and if that #means my #contribution towards #friendships isn't meant to #last then so #be it. But if it does, they're really #rare and I #cherish them because they're very easy to #lose over #something you thought you could #understand at the time.

I'll #say this.

All #echo #chambers are the #primary #reason as to why a #friendship falls apart. Because I've seen this #effect everyone to the point of no #return possible, and honestly...you can't get along with people who spend more of their #time invested into something other than what you are doing with that person together. And I don't think I'm alone in wishing that at times, such an #investment cultivates #familiarity over #routine on a continuous basis.

But you know what? I still appreciate the chance to #care for all it is #worth as such. I do my best to live #life with no #regrets to count on #growing without me there to #manage them.

It's my own #fault for putting a bit of my #soul into everything I do alongside my #heart and #mind accordingly. And as afar as I #know there's no #changing that, at least in a very easy way.

If you ever truly #need #friends by your side, you'll know whether they're people you can #count on or not, by the way they #treat your #ambitions as an #individual person.

You can still #respect someone if they do not #acknowledge that you have any. But the chances of you becoming #close, are not as great.

With that being said, you do not need to #support the same #ambition someone else does, in order to be friends. You just need to set your #ego aside so that such a person can fulfill their #desire the best way they know how to.

That's what I do, and I carry a lot of #weight because of it. All of the #memories set aside because the soul wasn't ready to let go of the ones #entrapping their #conscious #focus throughout seemingly more #important issues outside of my #control in all of the #moments they last.

Putting my best #self forward, means respecting that and not forcing the #matter at hand. It doesn't make that #feeling go away, born of lost #opportunity at the #core of #potential #reciprocity as such.

But yes #indeed I know #hope is not so easily broken by #fragile #futility alone. Which is why I continue to #forgive but not #forget all of the ways life makes a different #path #unfold into #being by the #presence of #purpose for everyone.

I don't know for sure but I think I just lost a #friend over being too #forgiving in the moment.

Sorry not sorry. I don't stand for what I can't #become as such.

I do what I can to #embrace all #people who #appreciate who I am. It's all I can do, and if that #means my #contribution towards #friendships isn't meant to #last then so #be it. But if it does, they're really #rare and I #cherish them because they're very easy to #lose over #something you thought you could #understand at the time.

I'll #say this.

All #echo #chambers are the #primary #reason as to why a #friendship falls apart. Because I've seen this #effect everyone to the point of no #return possible, and honestly...you can't get along with people who spend more of their #time invested into something other than what you are doing with that person together. And I don't think I'm alone in wishing that at times, such an #investment cultivates #familiarity over #routine on a continuous basis.

But you know what? I still appreciate the chance to #care for all it is #worth as such. I do my best to live #life with no #regrets to count on #growing without me there to #manage them.

It's my own #fault for putting a bit of my #soul into everything I do alongside my #heart and #mind accordingly. And as afar as I #know there's no #changing that, at least in a very easy way.

If you ever truly #need #friends by your side, you'll know whether they're people you can #count on or not, by the way they #treat your #ambitions as an #individual person.

You can still #respect someone if they do not #acknowledge that you have any. But the chances of you becoming #close, are not as great.

With that being said, you do not need to #support the same #ambition someone else does, in order to be friends. You just need to set your #ego aside so that such a person can fulfill their #desire the best way they know how to.

That's what I do, and I carry a lot of #weight because of it. All of the #memories set aside because the soul wasn't ready to let go of the ones #entrapping their #conscious #focus throughout seemingly more #important issues outside of my #control in all of the #moments they last.

Putting my best #self forward, means respecting that and not forcing the #matter at hand. It doesn't make that #feeling go away, born of lost #opportunity at the #core of #potential #reciprocity as such.

But yes #indeed I know #hope is not so easily broken by #fragile #futility alone. Which is why I continue to #forgive but not #forget all of the ways life makes a different #path #unfold into #being by the #presence of #purpose for everyone.

I don't know for sure but I think I just lost a #friend over being too #forgiving in the moment.

Sorry not sorry. I don't stand for what I can't #become as such.

I do what I can to #embrace all #people who #appreciate who I am. It's all I can do, and if that #means my #contribution towards #friendships isn't meant to #last then so #be it. But if it does, they're really #rare and I #cherish them because they're very easy to #lose over #something you thought you could #understand at the time.

I'll #say this.

All #echo #chambers are the #primary #reason as to why a #friendship falls apart. Because I've seen this #effect everyone to the point of no #return possible, and honestly...you can't get along with people who spend more of their #time invested into something other than what you are doing with that person together. And I don't think I'm alone in wishing that at times, such an #investment cultivates #familiarity over #routine on a continuous basis.

But you know what? I still appreciate the chance to #care for all it is #worth as such. I do my best to live #life with no #regrets to count on #growing without me there to #manage them.

It's my own #fault for putting a bit of my #soul into everything I do alongside my #heart and #mind accordingly. And as afar as I #know there's no #changing that, at least in a very easy way.

If you ever truly #need #friends by your side, you'll know whether they're people you can #count on or not, by the way they #treat your #ambitions as an #individual person.

You can still #respect someone if they do not #acknowledge that you have any. But the chances of you becoming #close, are not as great.

With that being said, you do not need to #support the same #ambition someone else does, in order to be friends. You just need to set your #ego aside so that such a person can fulfill their #desire the best way they know how to.

That's what I do, and I carry a lot of #weight because of it. All of the #memories set aside because the soul wasn't ready to let go of the ones #entrapping their #conscious #focus throughout seemingly more #important issues outside of my #control in all of the #moments they last.

Putting my best #self forward, means respecting that and not forcing the #matter at hand. It doesn't make that #feeling go away, born of lost #opportunity at the #core of #potential #reciprocity as such.

But yes #indeed I know #hope is not so easily broken by #fragile #futility alone. Which is why I continue to #forgive but not #forget all of the ways life makes a different #path #unfold into #being by the #presence of #purpose for everyone.

A quotation from Samuel Johnson

That familiarity produces neglect, has been long observed. The effect of all external objects, however great or splendid, ceases with their novelty; the courtier stands without emotion in the royal presence; the rustick tramples under his foot the beauties of the spring with little attention to their colours or their fragrance; and the inhabitant of the coast darts his eye upon the immense diffusion of waters, without awe, wonder, or terrour.

Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) English writer, lexicographer, critic
Essay (1753-06-26), The Adventurer, No. 67

More info about this quote: wist.info/johnson-samuel/79944…

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #samueljohnson #background #banality #commonness #familiarity #neglect #normalcy #novelty #staleness

A quotation from Montaigne

Every man calls barbarous anything he is not accustomed to.
 
[Chacun appelle barbarie, ce qui n’est pas de son usage.]

Michel de Montaigne (1533-1592) French essayist
Essays, Book 1, ch. 30 (1.30), “Of Cannibals [Des Cannibales]” (1578) [tr. Screech (1987), 1.31]

More info about (and translations of) this quote: wist.info/montaigne-michel-de/…

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #montaigne #barbarism #barbarity #custom #familiarity #foreigners #jingoism #nationalism #savagery #tradition #unfamiliarity #bias #prejudice

https://www.evshift.com/336376/subaru-solterra-ev-for-loyalists-space-comfort-and-familiarity-shorts/ Subaru Solterra: EV for Loyalists? Space, Comfort, and Familiarity! #shorts ##Solterra #comfort #ElectricCars #ElectricVehicle #ElectricVehicles #EV #Familiarity #Loyalists #shorts #space #Subaru

Good morning. ☕🍵🐶

6 May 2025

So here we are—morning has arrived, and there’s coffee. I woke up late, nearly seven-thirty, a rare occurrence since I hardly ever sleep past six, if that long. Hmmm… I had hoped those first few sentences would spark something, but nothing seems to come to mind. Charlie is here. At first, I thought he wanted to go outside, but instead, he curled up next to my chair—an all-too-familiar sight. It’s funny how these small moments and daily habits shape our lives in ways we often overlook. Perhaps it’s the rhythm of life that matters most—the quiet consistency of morning coffee, the presence of loved ones, and, of course, our loyal, furry companions, who are both. Familiarity, after all, is the comfort food of existence.

"Familiarity reduces the greatness of things." – Seneca the Younger

#photo #photography #photographer #photographylovers #wildlife #morning #ducks #familiarity #lake #reflection

A quotation from Josh Billings

Mankind ain’t apt tew respekt verry mutch what they are familiar with, it iz what we don’t know, or kant see, that we hanker for.
 
[Mankind ain’t apt to respect very much what they are familiar with; it is what we don’t know, or can’t see, that we hanker for.]

Josh Billings (1818-1885) American humorist, aphorist [pseud. of Henry Wheeler Shaw]
Everybody’s Friend, Or; Josh Billing’s Encyclopedia and Proverbial Philosophy of Wit and Humor, ch. 156 “Affurisms: Embers on the Harth” (1874)

Sourcing, notes: wist.info/billings-josh/76244/

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #desire #familiarity #imagination #mundane #normalcy #novelty #respect #unknown #usual

A quotation from Montaigne

Men have seemed miraculous to the world, in whom their wives and valets have never seen anything even worth noticing. Few men have been admired by their own households.
 
[Tel a esté miraculeux au monde, auquel sa femme & son valet n’ont rien veu seulement de remerquable. Peu d’hommes ont esté admirez par leurs domestiques.]

Michel de Montaigne (1533-1592) French essayist
Essays, Book 3, ch. 2 “Of Repentance [Du repentir]” (1586) (3.2) (1595) [tr. Frame (1943)]

Sourcing, notes, alternate translations: wist.info/montaigne-michel-de/…

#quote #quotes #quotation #attendants #commonplace #contempt #domesticity #familiarity #family #household #perspective #proximity #servant #valet

SciTech Chronicles. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Jan 26, 2025

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#Beartooth #whitebark #pine #alpine #renewables #regulations #grid #opposition #wind #solar #maladaptive #daydreaming #immersive #compulsive #diagnosis #mask #heat #pump #gas #familiarity #advances #safety #performance #packets #network #pipeline #kernel #6.13

SciTech Chronicles. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Jan 26, 2025

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#Beartooth #whitebark #pine #alpine #renewables #regulations #grid #opposition #wind #solar #maladaptive #daydreaming #immersive #compulsive #diagnosis #mask #heat #pump #gas #familiarity #advances #safety #performance #packets #network #pipeline #kernel #6.13

#Design #Trends
Which icons to NOT use in 2025 · What works, what’s outdated, and what’s next https://ilo.im/161z8k

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#Audience #Familiarity #Innovation #Icons #Iconography #IconDesign #ProductDesign #UxDesign #UiDesign #WebDesign

« Let us be eager to leave what is familiar for what is true. »

— Francis Chan

🔗 · https://poligraf.tumblr.com/post/737718125235257344/liberatingreality-let-us-be-eager-to-leave-what

#quotes #FrancisChan #truth #ComfortZone #familiarity #vulnerability

« Let us be eager to leave what is familiar for what is true. »

— Francis Chan

🔗 · https://poligraf.tumblr.com/post/737718125235257344/liberatingreality-let-us-be-eager-to-leave-what

#quotes #FrancisChan #truth #ComfortZone #familiarity #vulnerability

« Let us be eager to leave what is familiar for what is true. »

— Francis Chan

🔗 · https://poligraf.tumblr.com/post/737718125235257344/liberatingreality-let-us-be-eager-to-leave-what

#quotes #FrancisChan #truth #ComfortZone #familiarity #vulnerability

« Let us be eager to leave what is familiar for what is true. »

— Francis Chan

🔗 · https://poligraf.tumblr.com/post/737718125235257344/liberatingreality-let-us-be-eager-to-leave-what

#quotes #FrancisChan #truth #ComfortZone #familiarity #vulnerability

« Let us be eager to leave what is familiar for what is true. »

— Francis Chan

🔗 · https://poligraf.tumblr.com/post/737718125235257344/liberatingreality-let-us-be-eager-to-leave-what

#quotes #FrancisChan #truth #ComfortZone #familiarity #vulnerability

A quotation from Holmes, Oliver Wendell, Sr.:

«
I will tell you my rule. Talk about those subjects you have had long in your mind, and listen to what others say about subjects you have studied but recently. Knowledge and timber shouldn’t be much used till they are seasoned.
»

Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/holmes-sr-oliver-wendell/73545/

#quote #quotes #quotation #conclusions #consideration #contemplation #discussion #familiarity #knowledge #topic

A quotation from Holmes, Oliver Wendell, Sr.:

«
I will tell you my rule. Talk about those subjects you have had long in your mind, and listen to what others say about subjects you have studied but recently. Knowledge and timber shouldn’t be much used till they are seasoned.
»

Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/holmes-sr-oliver-wendell/73545/

#quote #quotes #quotation #conclusions #consideration #contemplation #discussion #familiarity #knowledge #topic

A quotation from Holmes, Oliver Wendell, Sr.:

«
I will tell you my rule. Talk about those subjects you have had long in your mind, and listen to what others say about subjects you have studied but recently. Knowledge and timber shouldn’t be much used till they are seasoned.
»

Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/holmes-sr-oliver-wendell/73545/

#quote #quotes #quotation #conclusions #consideration #contemplation #discussion #familiarity #knowledge #topic

A quotation from Billings, Josh:

«
“Familiarity breeds kontempt.” This only applies tew men, not tew hot bukwheat slapkakes, well buttered and sugared.
[“Familiarity breeds contempt.” This only applies to men, not to hot buckwheat slapcakes, well buttered and sugared.]
»

Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/billings-josh/18323/

#quote #quotes #quotation #appreciation #contempt #familiarity #food #pancakes

In tonight’s tutorial, we talked about how psychology makes sense of emotions like love. Is it all subjective? Maybe not as much as you think. Love can be studied scientifically—not just through brain scans showing neurotransmitters like dopamine and oxytocin but also through observable behaviours.

Take reciprocity: when someone likes us, we’re more likely to like them back. Or similarity: shared values, interests, and beliefs often strengthen attraction. Add proximity and familiarity—the magic of repeated exposure—and you start seeing how relationships form. Then there’s complementarity: where differences between people don’t divide but balance and enhance connection.

What fascinates me is how psychology bridges the personal and the universal. Yes, love feels deeply subjective, but studies show patterns we can test and measure—observing behaviours, tracking emotional responses, and using physiological data to explore what we feel.

Have you noticed these dynamics in your relationships? #Psychology #Love #Relationships #Emotions #Reciprocity #Similarity #Proximity #Familiarity #Complementarity

In tonight’s tutorial, we talked about how psychology makes sense of emotions like love. Is it all subjective? Maybe not as much as you think. Love can be studied scientifically—not just through brain scans showing neurotransmitters like dopamine and oxytocin but also through observable behaviours.

Take reciprocity: when someone likes us, we’re more likely to like them back. Or similarity: shared values, interests, and beliefs often strengthen attraction. Add proximity and familiarity—the magic of repeated exposure—and you start seeing how relationships form. Then there’s complementarity: where differences between people don’t divide but balance and enhance connection.

What fascinates me is how psychology bridges the personal and the universal. Yes, love feels deeply subjective, but studies show patterns we can test and measure—observing behaviours, tracking emotional responses, and using physiological data to explore what we feel.

Have you noticed these dynamics in your relationships? #Psychology #Love #Relationships #Emotions #Reciprocity #Similarity #Proximity #Familiarity #Complementarity

In tonight’s tutorial, we talked about how psychology makes sense of emotions like love. Is it all subjective? Maybe not as much as you think. Love can be studied scientifically—not just through brain scans showing neurotransmitters like dopamine and oxytocin but also through observable behaviours.

Take reciprocity: when someone likes us, we’re more likely to like them back. Or similarity: shared values, interests, and beliefs often strengthen attraction. Add proximity and familiarity—the magic of repeated exposure—and you start seeing how relationships form. Then there’s complementarity: where differences between people don’t divide but balance and enhance connection.

What fascinates me is how psychology bridges the personal and the universal. Yes, love feels deeply subjective, but studies show patterns we can test and measure—observing behaviours, tracking emotional responses, and using physiological data to explore what we feel.

Have you noticed these dynamics in your relationships? #Psychology #Love #Relationships #Emotions #Reciprocity #Similarity #Proximity #Familiarity #Complementarity

In tonight’s tutorial, we talked about how psychology makes sense of emotions like love. Is it all subjective? Maybe not as much as you think. Love can be studied scientifically—not just through brain scans showing neurotransmitters like dopamine and oxytocin but also through observable behaviours.

Take reciprocity: when someone likes us, we’re more likely to like them back. Or similarity: shared values, interests, and beliefs often strengthen attraction. Add proximity and familiarity—the magic of repeated exposure—and you start seeing how relationships form. Then there’s complementarity: where differences between people don’t divide but balance and enhance connection.

What fascinates me is how psychology bridges the personal and the universal. Yes, love feels deeply subjective, but studies show patterns we can test and measure—observing behaviours, tracking emotional responses, and using physiological data to explore what we feel.

Have you noticed these dynamics in your relationships? #Psychology #Love #Relationships #Emotions #Reciprocity #Similarity #Proximity #Familiarity #Complementarity

In tonight’s tutorial, we talked about how psychology makes sense of emotions like love. Is it all subjective? Maybe not as much as you think. Love can be studied scientifically—not just through brain scans showing neurotransmitters like dopamine and oxytocin but also through observable behaviours.

Take reciprocity: when someone likes us, we’re more likely to like them back. Or similarity: shared values, interests, and beliefs often strengthen attraction. Add proximity and familiarity—the magic of repeated exposure—and you start seeing how relationships form. Then there’s complementarity: where differences between people don’t divide but balance and enhance connection.

What fascinates me is how psychology bridges the personal and the universal. Yes, love feels deeply subjective, but studies show patterns we can test and measure—observing behaviours, tracking emotional responses, and using physiological data to explore what we feel.

Have you noticed these dynamics in your relationships? #Psychology #Love #Relationships #Emotions #Reciprocity #Similarity #Proximity #Familiarity #Complementarity

« Let us be eager to leave what is familiar for what is true. »

— Francis Chan

🔗 · https://poligraf.tumblr.com/post/737718125235257344/liberatingreality-let-us-be-eager-to-leave-what

#quotes #FrancisChan #truth #ComfortZone #familiarity #vulnerability

« Let us be eager to leave what is familiar for what is true. »

— Francis Chan

🔗 · https://poligraf.tumblr.com/post/737718125235257344/liberatingreality-let-us-be-eager-to-leave-what

#quotes #FrancisChan #truth #ComfortZone #familiarity #vulnerability

« Let us be eager to leave what is familiar for what is true. »

— Francis Chan

🔗 · https://poligraf.tumblr.com/post/737718125235257344/liberatingreality-let-us-be-eager-to-leave-what

#quotes #FrancisChan #truth #ComfortZone #familiarity #vulnerability

« Let us be eager to leave what is familiar for what is true. »

— Francis Chan

🔗 · https://poligraf.tumblr.com/post/737718125235257344/liberatingreality-let-us-be-eager-to-leave-what

#quotes #FrancisChan #truth #ComfortZone #familiarity #vulnerability

« Let us be eager to leave what is familiar for what is true. »

— Francis Chan

🔗 · https://poligraf.tumblr.com/post/737718125235257344/liberatingreality-let-us-be-eager-to-leave-what

#quotes #FrancisChan #truth #ComfortZone #familiarity #vulnerability

A quotation from Nietzsche:

«
Gradually we become tired of the old, of what we safely possess, and we stretch out our hands again. Even the most beautiful scenery is no longer assured of our love after we have lived in it for three months, and some more distant coast attracts our avarice: possessions are generally diminished by possession.
»

Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/nietzsche-friedrich/72055/

#quote #quotes #quotation #avarice #beauty #familiarity #possession #boredom #novelty #value

A quotation from Barzun, Jacques:

«
The need for a body of common knowledge and common reference does not disappear when a society is largely pluralistic, as ours has become. On the contrary, it grows more necessary, so that people of different origins and occupation may quickly find familiar g…
»

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https://wist.info/barzun-jacques/71989/

#quote #quotes #quotation #classic #incommon #commonground #commonlanguage #familiarity #knowledge #pluralism #reference #touchstone #trope

A quotation from Wilcox, Ella Wheeler:

«
The choicest garb, the sweetest grace,
Are oft to strangers shown;
The careless mien, the frowning face,
Are given to our own.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
»

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https://wist.info/wilcox-ella-wheeler/34348/

#quote #quotes #quotation #acquaintance #beloved #familiarity #family #flattery #friend #guest #hospitality #inconsideration #neglect

A quotation from Wilcox, Ella Wheeler:

«
The choicest garb, the sweetest grace,
Are oft to strangers shown;
The careless mien, the frowning face,
Are given to our own.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
»

Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/wilcox-ella-wheeler/34348/

#quote #quotes #quotation #acquaintance #beloved #familiarity #family #flattery #friend #guest #hospitality #inconsideration #neglect

A quotation from Wilcox, Ella Wheeler:

«
The choicest garb, the sweetest grace,
Are oft to strangers shown;
The careless mien, the frowning face,
Are given to our own.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
»

Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/wilcox-ella-wheeler/34348/

#quote #quotes #quotation #acquaintance #beloved #familiarity #family #flattery #friend #guest #hospitality #inconsideration #neglect

A quotation from Wilcox, Ella Wheeler:

«
The choicest garb, the sweetest grace,
Are oft to strangers shown;
The careless mien, the frowning face,
Are given to our own.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
»

Full quote, sourcing, notes:
https://wist.info/wilcox-ella-wheeler/34348/

#quote #quotes #quotation #acquaintance #beloved #familiarity #family #flattery #friend #guest #hospitality #inconsideration #neglect

“The basic idea is very simple. You make up an imaginary world that you would enjoy being in, and then you imagine yourself walking around in this world. Not much different, in principle, than what people do in any ordinary daydream. But here the idea is to work for consistency, so that it appears the same every time you enter it, and to continually add details to it. With practice and familiarity, this imaginary world will begin to take on a sense of being a ‘real’ place; not real in the same way as the physical world, but having a permanence about it nonetheless.”

https://library.hrmtc.com/2024/07/23/the-basic-idea-is-very-simple-you-make-up-an-imaginary-world-that-you-would-enjoy-being-in-and-then-you-imagine-yourself-walking-around-in-this-world-not-much-different-in-principle-than-what-p/

Oddly I find radio travel reports detailing the usual London travel bottlenecks almost comforting akin to the shipping forecast. #familiarity #travel #radio #UK #trafficReport #OddlyComforting

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Recently I have been thinking more about trolling. I have been thinking about why, I, and others, appear so negative or toxic on social media. I believe that one reason for this is that algorithms drive conversations and popularity, rather than time devoted to social media, and conversationalism.

## Return on Investment Then and Now

By this I mean that if I spent 20 hours on social media in 2006 or 2007 I would have spent 20 hours watching conversations between friends, and friends of friends. Today if I spend twenty hours on social media I may see three or four posts by friends, and hundreds from groups, and that are chosen by algorithms. The result is that the social circle that I built in 2006-2007 was a tight knit community of friends.

Back then if you trolled you would become invisible, because people would ignore you and block you. In the new era our timelines are driven by algorithms rather than friends, and friends of friends. We see the content that got the most engagement rather than the content we want to see. I believe that this has two effects.

## The Disengaged Audience

The first of these is that it promotes content, that in a healthy social network would be ignored. This encourages trolls and flame wars, rather than pleasant conversations. If you see polarising content, by someone you don’t know, out of your social network, you may behave in a more hostile manner than within a network of friends.

The other issue is that friends know you, so they know how to read the nuance in what you’re saying, as well as your base moral code. In a web of strangers it’s easy for people to misread what we write and jump to the wrong conclusions.

The second effect is that of saturation. On Twitter, Instagram and Facebook I see binfluencer content rather than the content by friends, colleagues and family so regularly that the networks become obsolete. If you see content that you don’t want to see, and you see it regularly, you may feel antipathy, and those with less of a moral censor will troll, rather than ignore.

## Conversations Aren’t Rewarded

Social Media, as it is today doesn’t reward conversation, and conviviality. It rewards clickbait sensationalism. I watch youtube and so many videos say “don’t forget to like, subscribe and click the bell”. I rarely do those things, because most of the time content is not worth a like and if you subscribe to a channel you usually stop watching content in my experience.

## AI Noise is Coming

As if the noise by binfluencers was not enough on Instagram there are [projects to make it worse, with AI characters](https://www.theverge.com/2024/6/18/24181196/butterflies-app-ai-chatbots-social-media). They want to start filling timelines with AI generated characters that will post, independently of human beings. They want to increase the amount of noise and wasted attention. I don’t see that this makes any sense. For me the raison d’être of social media is to find conversations with human beings, that go so well that we want to be friends in person. With the emergence of influencers this became much harder, and with AI characters the experience will be all the worse for it.

## Ad Blockers and Trolls

Although ad blockers and trolls are two seperate problems I believe that they are both indicators that websites and social media need to rethink how they think of their users. Ad blockers have grown in popularity because some sites innundate their sites with ads, and these ads are sometimes slow to load. On a Raspberry Pi they tend to crash it, if we are not careful.

Trolls are the second symptom. I believe that on a healthy social network people feel heard, and included within conversations so they don’t need to lash out, and they don’t feel isolated, so they have no reason to feel hostile. By using algorithms social media push content onto us that is not within our social network as decent people call them, and social graph as utilitarian engineers call it. By pushing that content via algorithms social networks and social networks are dilluted rather than amplified.

An example of this dillution is that when you look at FB, Threads, or IG you will be encouraged to jump from A to B before jumping to C to see content. You’re encouraged to be on all three versions of Facebook at once.

A few years ago I argued that if you need notifications, you have failed. My rational was that if a social network engages you, you will automatically check for new posts and interactions, without being nagged.

## A Time To Revert to Smaller Networks

I believe that now is the time to revert to smaller, niche social networks. FB, IG, TW and other networks have forgotten that community is what social media companies should be about.The more social media companies control what we see and who we are tempted to interact with, the more absurd it becomes to use them.

I like the network that I have found for Via Ferrata and other activities. I want to spend more time with that group. Social media was fun, but at this point it has become an absurd waste of time, and for me to write that, is saying somethingi.

https://www.main-vision.com/richard/blog/algorithms-and-social-media/

#algorithms #conversations #familiarity #friendships #networks #social #socialMedia

A quotation from Twain, Mark:

«
Familiarity breeds contempt — and children.
»

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https://wist.info/twain-mark/9825/

#quote #quotes #quotation #children #closeness #contempt #familiarity #marriage

A quotation from Twain, Mark:

«
Familiarity breeds contempt — and children.
»

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https://wist.info/twain-mark/9825/

#quote #quotes #quotation #children #closeness #contempt #familiarity #marriage

@dangoodin I didn't make any recommendation on where they should go, I highlighted that the #toxic #socialmedia #hellsite, #Twitter, isn't a #safeplace for any #marginalized community, despite common perceptions. #Familiarity isn't #safety.