#relationships — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #relationships, aggregated by home.social.
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Why Tantra Massage Doesn’t Give Everyone the Same Experience
Sometimes someone comes to me with a very specific expectation “I want to completely relax” “I want to feel more” “I want to learn how to experience pleasure” “I want to release tension” “I want to finally feel something” And sometimes the expectation is even more specific: someone has heard about another person's experience and arrives believing that their own session should feel exactly the same This is where a problem begins Tantra massage isn't a user manual […] -
Jimmy Tip: Community Before Commerce
Serving Des Moines is more than just business; it's about building a community. When you invest time and energy into the local area, you create trust and connections that advertising can't buy. Think about the businesses you naturally recommend. Chances are, you know something about the people behind them. Maybe they volunteered at an event. Maybe they helped another business owner. Maybe they served on a board or showed up when the community needed them. You trust them. That trust becomes a brand.https://mybuddyjimmy.wordpress.com/2026/08/27/jimmy-tip-community-before-commerce/
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Mel Robbins shares her waitress tip secret about women at the table https://www.diningandcooking.com/restaurants/16668/ #Food&Drink #Lifestyle #relationships #Restaurant #Restaurants #SocialEtiquette
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Maybe I shouldn't date at all. Problem solved. No more drama or responsibility.
#reflections #relationships #isolation #mentalhealth #trust #livedexperience #trauma #boundaries #guilt #authenticity #dignity #humanconnection #growth #healing
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Of course, logically, no one wants to be with me if all I do is leave them. Whether real or not, intentionally or unintentionally. It just breaks their trust. When trust is broken, it is broken.
#reflections #relationships #isolation #mentalhealth #trust #livedexperience #trauma #boundaries #guilt #authenticity #dignity #humanconnection #growth #healing
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You be the judge: should my partner stop eating off other people’s plates?
By Interviews by Georgina LawtonHelen says grabbing friends’ leftovers is a no-no. Bill thinks wasting food is wrong. You decide who should eat their words• Find out how to get a disagreement settled or become a juror
#Lifeandstyle #Relationships #Hygiene #TheGuardian #InterviewsbyGeorginaLawton
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Thrive Again - Your Relationship Podcast
This podcast is for couples and singles who want to unlock their relationship potential using a conscious and holistic approach that brought us back to a state of beautiful harmony...Great Australian Pods Podcast Directory: https://www.greataustralianpods.com/thrive-again/
#AusPods #Podcasts #Podcasting #Australia #Society #Culture #Parenting #Families #Relationships #SelfDevelopment
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A moment that changed me: I sought out rejection. Instead, strangers met me with profound generosity
By Sophie JonesAs I turned 21, fear was holding me back. So I decided to face it headfirst. It taught me that courage leads to connection – and people who owe you nothing can be astonishingly kind
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2026/aug/26/a-moment-that-changed-me-i-sought-out-rejection
#Lifeandstyle #Relationships #Books #TheGuardian #SophieJones
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Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue @higginbothampublications.wordpress.com@higginbothampublications.wordpress.com ·Melting into Your Arms
https://www.amazon.com/Melting-Into-Your-Nicole-Higginbotham-Hogue-ebook/dp/B0BN2NF1DT/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.uRvXEzR4mldbCtnMcX_B1s5UXWjyQBy5K-EKkdPIcv4k8ELFEdfVIFB31TNksZ8XQ4UHM3kCRbdls5-fNFyNO_n79ou3vYx1XEozmOxd7h70IzcakJPBGsIysbt4wSPd3IKMpNDSGNjUba74Bze8sOoHu1szsyP7nZ3SZHN79oqzNRTjWGZf7qjk-LLIpMZpLlMw3PBWWezyjg7P7NjToAuaNR9KyCGmenFrcsGHHow.UKQi-7M0bYfB4uho2Zy52KSSAD_CT47Epbf7sMgvoFku0026amp;dib_tag=seu0026amp;qid=1741801415u0026amp;refinements=p_27%3ANicole+Higginbotham-Hogueu0026amp;s=booksu0026amp;sr=1-1 […]https://higginbothampublications.wordpress.com/2026/08/25/melting-into-your-arms-32/
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CW: Article: Boring Polyamory: Equality and Bedrooms
The other month, I described my polyamory as 'boring', which attracted lots of interesting questions and feedback. Let's address the first one - why does my partner not have a bedroom of 'her own', even though both of her partners get one?
Read more: https://danq.me/2026/08/25/polyamory-boring-bedrooms/#article #adulting #beds #houses #philosophy #polyamory #relationships #salary #sex #sexuality #themePark
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I love you; me too
I am a black cat crossing your street at midnight I am a mad man screaming and laughing, then crying and shouting I am a little bit crazy, I mean, I know where you live I want to talk all the time about feelings and their meaning You are crashing it at small talk (no wonder they broke up, wait…) I am a little bit too much but you know that already I am a faint trace crossing your way watching your apartment light up from a cold sidewalk and then sobbing, and weeping […] -
Fall News @ inside awareness
Newsletter topics for fall '26 - Embodied Mindfulness approach in personal change @ Inside Awarenesshttps://insideawareness.com/2026/08/25/fall-news-inside-awareness/
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CW: CW: relationship ending, emotional neglect, selfishness, conflict
I ended things last night with a partner and mate, and I think I finally saw the relationship for what it was.
We started talking about a problem they were having. They explicitly wanted my perspective, so I gave it to them. I was explaining my thoughts when they interrupted me. I asked them to let me finish, they did - and then, apparently, my crime was that I hadn't let them speak.
Except… they had. That wasn't the problem.
The problem was that my answer wasn't going where they wanted it to go.
What they actually wanted wasn't my perspective. They wanted a response that was short, convenient, and relevant to their definition of relevant.
The moment my thoughts wandered outside the narrow little circle of what directly concerned them, they became something they apparently didn't need to hear.
And I've seen this pattern before.
They weren't particularly interested in other people's experiences unless they intersected with their own. Other people's feelings, perspectives, problems, lives, they mattered largely insofar as they affected them, helped them, supported them, or did something for them.
That's a very lonely way to relate to people.
Then, in the end, they told me that I simply wasn't good at communicating, and that they pitied me for that, and they just wouldn't expect me to be useful for these things anymore.
I told her that, in all my years of relationships, friendships, teaching, mentoring, and communicating with people, they were the first person to tell me that.
Their answer?
No, apparently other people felt the same way. They just hadn't told me.
So I pointed out that they do not get to speak on behalf of people they don't even know, especially when they have no idea what these people actually think or feel.
They exploded. They said what I said was deeply offensive.
And hung up.
And honestly? That little ending rather neatly illustrated the entire problem.
I don't want to be loved for what I can provide. I don't want to be listened to only when my words are what is expected. And I certainly don't want to keep making myself smaller so someone else can remain the centre of every conversation.
I'm done.
Not because we disagreed.
Because I finally understood that there was never really much room for me in the relationship at all.
#Relationships #Boundaries #EmotionalLabour #SelfRespect #QueerLife #Communication
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Healthy relationships leave room for you exactly as you are, differences, disagreements, and all. Control works differently. It doesn’t arrive all at once; it creeps in, until your preferences start to feel like problems and their approval starts to feel conditional. If you’ve noticed that shift in yourself, please know it isn’t your fault, and you deserve relationships that don’t ask you to disappear to be loved.
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Discussed Venn diagrams with a couple of friends this morning, especially in the context of illustrating the utility of including all 3 or 4 of a specific set of design principles when creating certain kinds of things, and learned about the difference between Venn diagrams and Euler diagrams.
In short:
* a Venn diagram shows ALL possible relationships between different sets
* an Euler diagram shows only some relationships between different sets, typically focused on conveying relevant or the more important relationships
If you want to dive into their history and why these differences matter, bookmark (or open new tab) this Scientific American article to rabbithole later:
* https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/venn-diagrams-history-and-popularity-outside-of-math-explained/
In pop culture and media, nearly any diagram of overlapping circles with labeled regions is (errantly) referred to as a “Venn diagram”.
This is imprecise at best, outright incorrect in many cases, especially diagrams of four circles.
A classic example is the “Ikigai” diagram:
Many (examples below) call this a Venn diagram. It is not a Venn diagram. It is an Euler diagram.
The Ikigai diagram fails to express two specific relationships between different sets, the two that contain opposing side circles but neither of the other two. The missing Ikigai sets relationships in particular:
1. only “you are good at” AND “the world needs” (with neither of the other two)
2. only “you love” AND “you can be paid for” (again with neither of the other two)
If you Google web search for "examples of four circle venn diagrams", Gemini gets this wrong:
And so do the majority of articles that Google shows in top results (which I’m not helping by linking here, but hey it’s Google’s job to fix its search quality, not mine. I was able to use Internet Archive links for two of them at least.)
* https://web.archive.org/web/20260823204717/https://boardmix.com/knowledge/4-circle-venn-diagrams/
* https://miro.com/templates/4-circle-venn-diagram/ (Miro’s own top template there is wrong, though others have contributed proper 4 set Venn diagrams)
* https://web.archive.org/web/20260823205434/https://www.istockphoto.com/illustrations/venn-4-circles-diagram
* https://www.educationworld.com/tools_templates/EW_venndiagram_4
This has interesting implications for expertise and trust.
Clearly by this one example search result, we cannot trust the expertise of "design tool" websites (boardmix, miro), nor stock photo websites.
Nor can we trust educationworld as a place to be educated.
Nor can we trust Google Search (or Google Gemini) to surface expertise above popular misconceptions.
Perhaps a good example of when to use Wikipedia search instead of Google (or other generic) web search.
Personally I generalize this example to “all proper nouns”, that is:
* Wikipedia search proper nouns instead Google or other general web searching.
You can make this more convenient by setting up “w” as a search shortcut for Wikipedia: https://tantek.com/2024/287/t2/setup-search-shortcuts-firefox
For reference / more reading on Venn diagrams and Euler diagrams:
* https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Venn_diagram
* https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Euler_diagram
#Venn #diagram #diagrams #VennDiagram #VennDiagrams #EulerDiagram #setTheory #relationships #Ikigai #fourCircles #fourCirclesVenn #fourCirclesVennDiagram #misconception #popMisconception #Google #GoogleSearch #GoogleWebSearch #webSearch #search #Gemini #GoogleGemini #GeminiWrong #expertise #trust #webTrust #Wikipedia
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This is how we do it: ‘Since having cancer, I’m more open – before I was straight, now I’m queer’
By As told to Naomi Larsson PiñedaFollowing the all-clear, Kevin and Jade found a new openness in discussing sex and intimacy – and also a shared desire for exploring polyamory
#Lifeandstyle #Sex #Relationships #TheGuardian #AstoldtoNaomiLarssonPieda
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Is it so wrong to compare the attraction of humans to gravitation?
Are not both measured by how they perform under extrem conditions?
Isnt both a sort of resonance?
And most of all: wouldn't it be best if human attraction performed as reliable as gravitation and didn't chip in excuses and false priorities and spoil it all in the process?
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The moment I knew: Days after September 11, we flew through turbulence – all I could say was ‘I love you’
By Scott WesterfeldIn 2001, Scott Westerfeld travelled from New York City to Sydney to see Justine Larbalestier. In the immediate aftermath of 9/11, they navigated the crisis as best they could, together
#Australianlifestyle #Relationships #September112001 #Dating #TheGuardian #ScottWesterfeld
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You Cannot Affirm Your Way Around the Inner Work
A gentle but honest conversation about spiritual bypassing and why affirmations, positivity, and spiritual practices cannot replace the deeper work of healing. This blog explores the importance of understanding our emotions, recognizing our triggers, having honest conversations about grief, fear, pain, and hurt, and taking loving accountability for how we show up in the world.https://angelblessings11.com/2026/08/22/you-cannot-affirm-your-way-around-the-inner-work/
