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  1. Match auf #OkCupid gerade. Wir unterhalten uns nett und sie hat wohl auch ADHS.
    Kommt aber aus #Magdeburg und will dort nicht weg und ich kann perspektivisch nicht aus #Hannover weg.

    Ist eigentlich schon wieder zum scheitern verurteilt. 🙈🥺😫

    #Dating

  2. @frrreddy
    🦜 there is #alovoa, but not too many european users.
    mastodon.social/@alovoa_love

    🌱 #veggly is quite popular with people who don't eat children, or want to quit. you can use it unlimited free-of-charge. they have a #webapp, which makes it easier to choose if and when to share your location data, and to block ads. least bad option i could find.
    veggly.net/faq/

    🧑‍💻 but someone should make an #opensource #fediverse #dating app. or maybe #webxdc? if it already exists, then i couldn't find it.

  3. @frrreddy
    🦜 there is #alovoa, but not too many european users.
    mastodon.social/@alovoa_love

    🌱 #veggly is quite popular with people who don't eat children, or want to quit. you can use it unlimited free-of-charge. they have a #webapp, which makes it easier to choose if and when to share your location data, and to block ads. least bad option i could find.
    veggly.net/faq/

    🧑‍💻 but someone should make an #opensource #fediverse #dating app. or maybe #webxdc? if it already exists, then i couldn't find it.

  4. @frrreddy
    🦜 there is #alovoa, but not too many european users.
    mastodon.social/@alovoa_love

    🌱 #veggly is quite popular with people who don't eat children, or want to quit. you can use it unlimited free-of-charge. they have a #webapp, which makes it easier to choose if and when to share your location data, and to block ads. least bad option i could find.
    veggly.net/faq/

    🧑‍💻 but someone should make an #opensource #fediverse #dating app. or maybe #webxdc? if it already exists, then i couldn't find it.

  5. @frrreddy
    🦜 there is #alovoa, but not too many european users.
    mastodon.social/@alovoa_love

    🌱 #veggly is quite popular with people who don't eat children, or want to quit. you can use it unlimited free-of-charge. they have a #webapp, which makes it easier to choose if and when to share your location data, and to block ads. least bad option i could find.
    veggly.net/faq/

    🧑‍💻 but someone should make an #opensource #fediverse #dating app. or maybe #webxdc? if it already exists, then i couldn't find it.

  6. @frrreddy
    🦜 there is #alovoa, but not too many european users.
    mastodon.social/@alovoa_love

    🌱 #veggly is quite popular with people who don't eat children, or want to quit. you can use it unlimited free-of-charge. they have a #webapp, which makes it easier to choose if and when to share your location data, and to block ads. least bad option i could find.
    veggly.net/faq/

    🧑‍💻 but someone should make an #opensource #fediverse #dating app. or maybe #webxdc? if it already exists, then i couldn't find it.

  7. ...of us -- at least -- is earning enough for us to do life. It's never been a competition.

    I don't know what the glitch is with the men described in that article --

    ESPECIALLY GEN Z MEN, WTACTUALF ARE 31% OF YOU DOING WITH YOUR BRAINS?!? --

    but damn I feel bad for anyone navigating the dating scene these days. I simply could not with these ignorant, emotionally stunted misogynists.

    3/3

    #marriage
    #relationships
    #dating
    #GenX
    #GenZ
    #IndependentWomen
    #teamwork

  8. Spam is usually treated as something to delete.

    In my new blog post, I argue why that’s a mistake - how spam can reveal valuable insights, and how moderation enslave us.

    vitonsky.net/blog/2026/05/12/s

    #blog #post #socialmedia #social #media #spam #dating #wellbeing

  9. #PSA: #Flirting is like playing #Jenga, and a lot of people don't know how to play Jenga either.

    If you're not familiar with Jenga, here's my description: Jenga is a *cooperative*, turn-based game, in which you and one or more willing partners attempt to build anticipation until someone gets too flustered and spills the pieces.

    The win condition is:"How long can we maintain that state *just* before the tower falls—when everyone is on the edge of their seats, leaning in, wide-eyed and holding their breath?"

    The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. As tension builds, everyone gets more involved in the game, and when the tower finally topples—regardless of who knocked it over—it should be exciting, fun for everyone, and involve positive aftercare; that's what makes people happy they played with you (and want to play another round).

    Some mistakes I see people making when they play:

    - forcing the game; not everyone wants to play with you—respect that.

    - making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you *can* make an early goblin move that'll destabilize the tower in the hopes of a quick topple, but if your only goal is to spill blocks, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.

    - trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to knock the tower over—don't use them—folx won't want to play with you.

    - dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear, and if you knock the tower down, as long as y'all're having fun playing, there's nothing stopping you from picking right back up and starting another round.

    ---

    Some mistakes I see people making when they flirt (or engage in any social interaction):

    - forcing the interaction; not everyone is open to that kind of attention—respect that.

    - making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you can open with a dick pic or a wolf-whistle, but if your goal is to flirt *at* someone, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.

    - trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to sleep with you—don't use them—that's coercion at best, and quite possibly sexual assault.

    - dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear. If you're genuine, and playing because you want the *other* person to have fun, then most folx will be flattered you made that effort, even if they're not interested in playing a full round.

    ---

    "How do I let someone know I want to play with them?"

    > Try complimenting them on something they *put effort into*—"Those are amazing earrings!"

    "How do I do that without feeling creepy?"

    > Smile, say it, and disengage. If they're receptive, they'll engage you.

    "How do I know what to say?"

    > Most people are pretty interesting, and most people who want to be interacted with will put out bids for interaction, so look for cues. Are they wearing a cool t-shirt? Is their hair dyed? Have they smiled at you more than once (and you're not a customer)?

    "Yeah, but really, how do I know what to say?"

    > The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. When they take a turn, they'll often leave an opening just for you. If they don't, they might also be bad a Jenga, or they're not really into playing with you right now.

    "Can you give me examples?"

    > Sure.

    You're in line at a grocery store, and there's a cute person in line next to you, so you wait until *one* of you is leaving the line. "Your hair is amazing; I love that color blue 😊", then you go back to what you were doing. If they want to play, they'll say something like "thanks, I just dyed it! 🩵" and then wait for you to take your turn again; if they don't want to play, they might just say "thanks" and disengage. If it's your turn again, you might respond "did you have it professionally done? I've been meaning to redye mine 😅" Now it's their turn to respond.

    Of course your turns will look different, but each one should take a cue from your partner, and also volunteer a possible move for them to make on their turn.

    "My games keep fizzling out, how do I keep them lively?"

    > Look for their cues, and leave your own cues for them. Co-op games are about helping your teammates so you can all have the most fun, and *anyone* feels awkward when they don't know what they should do on their turn, so don't leave them hanging.

    "How do I let someone know I'd like to play again sometime?"

    > Tell them. "I really enjoyed talking to you 😊 and I'd like to do it again if you're interested. Can I give you my Mastodon handle?". If they look confused, just say you're a friend of @alice; that'll probably work.

    #Dating #Socializing #Anxiety

  10. My Favorite Half-Night Stand "I'm lonely. I’m lonely because I don’t tell people what I need or what I want" Sale: $18.99 to $2.99 by Christina Lauren Rating: 4.2/5 (9,262 Reviews) #romance #friends #humor #booksky #romcom #dating #books #friendsToLovers #college #funny #christinalauren

    My Favorite Half-Night Stand

  11. My Favorite Half-Night Stand "I'm lonely. I’m lonely because I don’t tell people what I need or what I want" Sale: $18.99 to $2.99 by Christina Lauren Rating: 4.2/5 (9,262 Reviews) #romance #friends #humor #booksky #romcom #dating #books #friendsToLovers #college #funny #christinalauren

    My Favorite Half-Night Stand

  12. My Favorite Half-Night Stand "I'm lonely. I’m lonely because I don’t tell people what I need or what I want" Sale: $18.99 to $2.99 by Christina Lauren Rating: 4.2/5 (9,262 Reviews) #romance #friends #humor #booksky #romcom #dating #books #friendsToLovers #college #funny #christinalauren

    My Favorite Half-Night Stand

  13. My Favorite Half-Night Stand "I'm lonely. I’m lonely because I don’t tell people what I need or what I want" Sale: $18.99 to $2.99 by Christina Lauren Rating: 4.2/5 (9,262 Reviews) #romance #friends #humor #booksky #romcom #dating #books #friendsToLovers #college #funny #christinalauren

    My Favorite Half-Night Stand

  14. Hetero-Dating-Apps sind wie ein Museum der männlichen Widerlichkeiten.

    Gestern bei einer Freundin auf Tinder geswiped, rein zu Unterhaltungszwecken. Was eins halt so macht beim Chillen 🤭

    Ich als schwuler Mann kenne mich mit männlichen Anmachversuchen aus, aber das hier? Das war wie ein Crashkurs in "Wie widerlich kann ich als Mann maximal sein".
    Schwule Männer sind alles andere als heilig, klar. Auch im Gay-Dating gibt es Übergriffigkeit, Grenzüberschreitungen, Druck und toxisches Verhalten. Das ist kein Problem, das sich auf hetero Dating beschränkt. Aber in diesem Fall hat mich die Wucht und Selbstverständlichkeit der Übergriffigkeit nochmal auf eine andere Weise getroffen.
    Ich bin froh, keine hetero Frau* zu sein. Ja, vielen ist bewusst, was Frauen* auf Dating-Apps abbekommen. Aber es zu sehen, ist dann doch nochmal ein anderes Level.
    Wenn ich mir diese Nachrichten, Profile und "Charme"-Offensiven anschaue, verliere ich den letzten Funken Hoffnung in die Menschheit.
    Oder zumindest in die ♂️ Hälfte davon. 🤯 🤮
    Viele dieser Nachrichten sind nicht einfach "creepy" oder "unangenehm". Das ist pure verbale Gewalt gegenüber Frauen*.
    Dafür gibt es keine Ausreden, keine "boys will be boys"-Scheisse und keine Legitimation. Punkt.

    #Patriarchat #toxicmasculinity #Sexismus #Dating #Misogynie #Gewalt

  15. Hetero-Dating-Apps sind wie ein Museum der männlichen Widerlichkeiten.

    Gestern bei einer Freundin auf Tinder geswiped, rein zu Unterhaltungszwecken. Was eins halt so macht beim Chillen 🤭

    Ich als schwuler Mann kenne mich mit männlichen Anmachversuchen aus, aber das hier? Das war wie ein Crashkurs in "Wie widerlich kann ich als Mann maximal sein".
    Schwule Männer sind alles andere als heilig, klar. Auch im Gay-Dating gibt es Übergriffigkeit, Grenzüberschreitungen, Druck und toxisches Verhalten. Das ist kein Problem, das sich auf hetero Dating beschränkt. Aber in diesem Fall hat mich die Wucht und Selbstverständlichkeit der Übergriffigkeit nochmal auf eine andere Weise getroffen.
    Ich bin froh, keine hetero Frau* zu sein. Ja, vielen ist bewusst, was Frauen* auf Dating-Apps abbekommen. Aber es zu sehen, ist dann doch nochmal ein anderes Level.
    Wenn ich mir diese Nachrichten, Profile und "Charme"-Offensiven anschaue, verliere ich den letzten Funken Hoffnung in die Menschheit.
    Oder zumindest in die ♂️ Hälfte davon. 🤯 🤮
    Viele dieser Nachrichten sind nicht einfach "creepy" oder "unangenehm". Das ist pure verbale Gewalt gegenüber Frauen*.
    Dafür gibt es keine Ausreden, keine "boys will be boys"-Scheisse und keine Legitimation. Punkt.

    #Patriarchat #toxicmasculinity #Sexismus #Dating #Misogynie #Gewalt

  16. Hetero-Dating-Apps sind wie ein Museum der männlichen Widerlichkeiten.

    Gestern bei einer Freundin auf Tinder geswiped, rein zu Unterhaltungszwecken. Was eins halt so macht beim Chillen 🤭

    Ich als schwuler Mann kenne mich mit männlichen Anmachversuchen aus, aber das hier? Das war wie ein Crashkurs in "Wie widerlich kann ich als Mann maximal sein".
    Schwule Männer sind alles andere als heilig, klar. Auch im Gay-Dating gibt es Übergriffigkeit, Grenzüberschreitungen, Druck und toxisches Verhalten. Das ist kein Problem, das sich auf hetero Dating beschränkt. Aber in diesem Fall hat mich die Wucht und Selbstverständlichkeit der Übergriffigkeit nochmal auf eine andere Weise getroffen.
    Ich bin froh, keine hetero Frau* zu sein. Ja, vielen ist bewusst, was Frauen* auf Dating-Apps abbekommen. Aber es zu sehen, ist dann doch nochmal ein anderes Level.
    Wenn ich mir diese Nachrichten, Profile und "Charme"-Offensiven anschaue, verliere ich den letzten Funken Hoffnung in die Menschheit.
    Oder zumindest in die ♂️ Hälfte davon. 🤯 🤮
    Viele dieser Nachrichten sind nicht einfach "creepy" oder "unangenehm". Das ist pure verbale Gewalt gegenüber Frauen*.
    Dafür gibt es keine Ausreden, keine "boys will be boys"-Scheisse und keine Legitimation. Punkt.

    #Patriarchat #toxicmasculinity #Sexismus #Dating #Misogynie #Gewalt

  17. Hetero-Dating-Apps sind wie ein Museum der männlichen Widerlichkeiten.

    Gestern bei einer Freundin auf Tinder geswiped, rein zu Unterhaltungszwecken. Was eins halt so macht beim Chillen 🤭

    Ich als schwuler Mann kenne mich mit männlichen Anmachversuchen aus, aber das hier? Das war wie ein Crashkurs in "Wie widerlich kann ich als Mann maximal sein".
    Schwule Männer sind alles andere als heilig, klar. Auch im Gay-Dating gibt es Übergriffigkeit, Grenzüberschreitungen, Druck und toxisches Verhalten. Das ist kein Problem, das sich auf hetero Dating beschränkt. Aber in diesem Fall hat mich die Wucht und Selbstverständlichkeit der Übergriffigkeit nochmal auf eine andere Weise getroffen.
    Ich bin froh, keine hetero Frau* zu sein. Ja, vielen ist bewusst, was Frauen* auf Dating-Apps abbekommen. Aber es zu sehen, ist dann doch nochmal ein anderes Level.
    Wenn ich mir diese Nachrichten, Profile und "Charme"-Offensiven anschaue, verliere ich den letzten Funken Hoffnung in die Menschheit.
    Oder zumindest in die ♂️ Hälfte davon. 🤯 🤮
    Viele dieser Nachrichten sind nicht einfach "creepy" oder "unangenehm". Das ist pure verbale Gewalt gegenüber Frauen*.
    Dafür gibt es keine Ausreden, keine "boys will be boys"-Scheisse und keine Legitimation. Punkt.

    #Patriarchat #toxicmasculinity #Sexismus #Dating #Misogynie #Gewalt

  18. Hetero-Dating-Apps sind wie ein Museum der männlichen Widerlichkeiten.

    Gestern bei einer Freundin auf Tinder geswiped, rein zu Unterhaltungszwecken. Was eins halt so macht beim Chillen 🤭

    Ich als schwuler Mann kenne mich mit männlichen Anmachversuchen aus, aber das hier? Das war wie ein Crashkurs in "Wie widerlich kann ich als Mann maximal sein".
    Schwule Männer sind alles andere als heilig, klar. Auch im Gay-Dating gibt es Übergriffigkeit, Grenzüberschreitungen, Druck und toxisches Verhalten. Das ist kein Problem, das sich auf hetero Dating beschränkt. Aber in diesem Fall hat mich die Wucht und Selbstverständlichkeit der Übergriffigkeit nochmal auf eine andere Weise getroffen.
    Ich bin froh, keine hetero Frau* zu sein. Ja, vielen ist bewusst, was Frauen* auf Dating-Apps abbekommen. Aber es zu sehen, ist dann doch nochmal ein anderes Level.
    Wenn ich mir diese Nachrichten, Profile und "Charme"-Offensiven anschaue, verliere ich den letzten Funken Hoffnung in die Menschheit.
    Oder zumindest in die ♂️ Hälfte davon. 🤯 🤮
    Viele dieser Nachrichten sind nicht einfach "creepy" oder "unangenehm". Das ist pure verbale Gewalt gegenüber Frauen*.
    Dafür gibt es keine Ausreden, keine "boys will be boys"-Scheisse und keine Legitimation. Punkt.

    #Patriarchat #toxicmasculinity #Sexismus #Dating #Misogynie #Gewalt

  19. → AI Is About to Solve Loneliness. That’s a Problem
    newyorker.com/magazine/2025/07

    “[L]oneliness is corrective feedback: a nudge, or sometimes a shove, pushing us toward connection. […] It can push us to text a friend, show up for brunch, open the dating app. It can also make us try harder with the people already in our lives—working to regulate our moods, to manage conflict, to be genuinely interested in others.”

    #AI #text #friend #dating #people #feedback #conflict #Loneliness #connection

  20. The Reality of Modern Isolation and Connections

    Someone: "Men don't try any more"

    Me: "They said:"

    • "I don't need a man."
    • "Men are rubbish."
    • "Take a look at this screenshot. This guy is single, and I'm not responsible. Blocked."
    • "I will marry later. Right now I am focused on studies and career."
    • "This guy is ugly, and I will blame him for making me uncomfortable. I like this other guy who's handsome. Look at this picture."

    That someone: "Now, it makes sense.

    Me: "Oh, I didn't mention this one yet. The parasocial industry promotion is taking advantage of broken-hearted and lonely men. We don't know if it's the real person messaging or a simulation of quick, fast-burning relationships."

    Me: "Also, I didn't mention that some people just didn't reply to messages but were at the same time claiming we are friends (parasocial)."

    #relationships #dating #life #mentalhealth #loneliness #society #tech #modern #wellness #stress #peace #communication #isolation #honesty #vibe

  21. The Reality of Modern Isolation and Connections

    Someone: "Men don't try any more"

    Me: "They said:"

    • "I don't need a man."
    • "Men are rubbish."
    • "Take a look at this screenshot. This guy is single, and I'm not responsible. Blocked."
    • "I will marry later. Right now I am focused on studies and career."
    • "This guy is ugly, and I will blame him for making me uncomfortable. I like this other guy who's handsome. Look at this picture."

    That someone: "Now, it makes sense.

    Me: "Oh, I didn't mention this one yet. The parasocial industry promotion is taking advantage of broken-hearted and lonely men. We don't know if it's the real person messaging or a simulation of quick, fast-burning relationships."

    Me: "Also, I didn't mention that some people just didn't reply to messages but were at the same time claiming we are friends (parasocial)."

    #relationships #dating #life #mentalhealth #loneliness #society #tech #modern #wellness #stress #peace #communication #isolation #honesty #vibe

  22. The Reality of Modern Isolation and Connections

    Someone: "Men don't try any more"

    Me: "They said:"

    • "I don't need a man."
    • "Men are rubbish."
    • "Take a look at this screenshot. This guy is single, and I'm not responsible. Blocked."
    • "I will marry later. Right now I am focused on studies and career."
    • "This guy is ugly, and I will blame him for making me uncomfortable. I like this other guy who's handsome. Look at this picture."

    That someone: "Now, it makes sense.

    Me: "Oh, I didn't mention this one yet. The parasocial industry promotion is taking advantage of broken-hearted and lonely men. We don't know if it's the real person messaging or a simulation of quick, fast-burning relationships."

    Me: "Also, I didn't mention that some people just didn't reply to messages but were at the same time claiming we are friends (parasocial)."

    #relationships #dating #life #mentalhealth #loneliness #society #tech #modern #wellness #stress #peace #communication #isolation #honesty #vibe

  23. The Reality of Modern Isolation and Connections

    Someone: "Men don't try any more"

    Me: "They said:"

    • "I don't need a man."
    • "Men are rubbish."
    • "Take a look at this screenshot. This guy is single, and I'm not responsible. Blocked."
    • "I will marry later. Right now I am focused on studies and career."
    • "This guy is ugly, and I will blame him for making me uncomfortable. I like this other guy who's handsome. Look at this picture."

    That someone: "Now, it makes sense.

    Me: "Oh, I didn't mention this one yet. The parasocial industry promotion is taking advantage of broken-hearted and lonely men. We don't know if it's the real person messaging or a simulation of quick, fast-burning relationships."

    Me: "Also, I didn't mention that some people just didn't reply to messages but were at the same time claiming we are friends (parasocial)."

    #relationships #dating #life #mentalhealth #loneliness #society #tech #modern #wellness #stress #peace #communication #isolation #honesty #vibe

  24. The Reality of Modern Isolation and Connections

    Someone: "Men don't try any more"

    Me: "They said:"

    • "I don't need a man."
    • "Men are rubbish."
    • "Take a look at this screenshot. This guy is single, and I'm not responsible. Blocked."
    • "I will marry later. Right now I am focused on studies and career."
    • "This guy is ugly, and I will blame him for making me uncomfortable. I like this other guy who's handsome. Look at this picture."

    That someone: "Now, it makes sense.

    Me: "Oh, I didn't mention this one yet. The parasocial industry promotion is taking advantage of broken-hearted and lonely men. We don't know if it's the real person messaging or a simulation of quick, fast-burning relationships."

    Me: "Also, I didn't mention that some people just didn't reply to messages but were at the same time claiming we are friends (parasocial)."

    #relationships #dating #life #mentalhealth #loneliness #society #tech #modern #wellness #stress #peace #communication #isolation #honesty #vibe

  25. Ça y est j'ai une idée d'atelier pour les @jdll .

    Atelier : site de rencontre en ligne.

    Objectif : designer un site de rencontre en ligne éthique et inclusif .

    Format : atelier participatif . 12 personnes. 2 -3h

    Des avis ? (A part que je suis pas dans le calendrier) . #mednum #dating #jdll