#dating — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #dating, aggregated by home.social.
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The sexual tension was electric – until I saw his girlfriend’s name
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@girlonthenet I compiled all my answers from the Jenga threads hopefully that makes it easier to work with:
#PSA: #Flirting is like playing #Jenga, and a lot of people don't know how to play Jenga either.
If you're not familiar with Jenga, here's my description: Jenga is a *cooperative*, turn-based game, in which you and one or more willing partners attempt to build anticipation until someone gets too flustered and spills the pieces.
The win condition is:"How long can we maintain that state *just* before the tower falls—when everyone is on the edge of their seats, leaning in, wide-eyed and holding their breath?"
The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. As tension builds, everyone gets more involved in the game, and when the tower finally topples—regardless of who knocked it over—it should be exciting, fun for everyone, and involve positive aftercare; that's what makes people happy they played with you (and want to play another round).
Some mistakes I see people making when they play:
- forcing the game; not everyone wants to play with you—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you *can* make an early goblin move that'll destabilize the tower in the hopes of a quick topple, but if your only goal is to spill blocks, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to knock the tower over—don't use them—folx won't want to play with you.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear, and if you knock the tower down, as long as y'all're having fun playing, there's nothing stopping you from picking right back up and starting another round.
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Some mistakes I see people making when they flirt (or engage in any social interaction):
- forcing the interaction; not everyone is open to that kind of attention—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you can open with a dick pic or a wolf-whistle, but if your goal is to flirt *at* someone, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to sleep with you—don't use them—that's coercion at best, and quite possibly sexual assault.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear. If you're genuine, and playing because you want the *other* person to have fun, then most folx will be flattered you made that effort, even if they're not interested in playing a full round.
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"How do I let someone know I want to play with them?"
> Try complimenting them on something they *put effort into*—"Those are amazing earrings!"
"How do I do that without feeling creepy?"
> Smile, say it, and disengage. If they're receptive, they'll engage you.
"How do I know what to say?"
> Most people are pretty interesting, and most people who want to be interacted with will put out bids for interaction, so look for cues. Are they wearing a cool t-shirt? Is their hair dyed? Have they smiled at you more than once (and you're not a customer)?
"Yeah, but really, how do I know what to say?"
> The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. When they take a turn, they'll often leave an opening just for you. If they don't, they might also be bad a Jenga, or they're not really into playing with you right now.
"Can you give me examples?"
> Sure.
You're in line at a grocery store, and there's a cute person in line next to you, so you wait until *one* of you is leaving the line. "Your hair is amazing; I love that color blue 😊", then you go back to what you were doing. If they want to play, they'll say something like "thanks, I just dyed it! 🩵" and then wait for you to take your turn again; if they don't want to play, they might just say "thanks" and disengage. If it's your turn again, you might respond "did you have it professionally done? I've been meaning to redye mine 😅" Now it's their turn to respond.
Of course your turns will look different, but each one should take a cue from your partner, and also volunteer a possible move for them to make on their turn.
"My games keep fizzling out, how do I keep them lively?"
> Look for their cues, and leave your own cues for them. Co-op games are about helping your teammates so you can all have the most fun, and *anyone* feels awkward when they don't know what they should do on their turn, so don't leave them hanging.
"How do I let someone know I'd like to play again sometime?"
> Tell them. "I really enjoyed talking to you 😊 and I'd like to do it again if you're interested. Can I give you my Mastodon handle?". If they look confused, just say you're a friend of @alice; that'll probably work.
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Credentials: am always somewhere between friendly and flirty, and love giving (and getting) good compliments.
Testimonial: Last week I explained this to a nice woman who said she didn't know how to flirt. A couple days later, she texted me that she tried it at a party over the weekend and ended up having sex with someone. (I can't tell you that it had anything to do with my advice, or that your experience will be similar, but it's a thing that happened)
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One of the most genuinely attractive traits I see in people is when they seem like they're honestly just happy that I exist.
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The only folx I've seen who are *really* bad at flirting are the ones who treat it like a zero-sum game, or the ones who are poor sports when they don't "win".
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Gently exiting a conversation you're not vibing with is a tricky task, and one I sometimes struggle with too.
You have a few options...
1. Find a way to be interested in what they're talking about. This can be a good opportunity to learn something new, experience new perspectives, or just enjoy someone else geeking out about something that fascinates them.
2. Put in bids to change the subject. This can be as simple as responding to their turn with something tangential that moves the conversation into an area you're more comfortable with, or leaving more explicit openings for them to ask you things about yourself.
3. Let them know you don't know enough about that topic to carry on a conversation about it, or that the topic is touching on something that makes you uncomfortable, and you'd like to move on to something else that you can both have more fun with.
That said, some people haven't learned how to play Jenga, so they default to Solitaire. And since it's not very fun to have a game played at you, it can be time to disengage, excuse yourself, and find someone else to play with.
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Manischewitz out here doing the real work.
"Love is calling-and #Manischewitz is answering with a new twist on modern #dating. From May 20 through June 3, #Jewish singles across the country are invited to apply now at the official #casting website (Manischewitz Matchmakers - Manischewitz) for a chance to be cast in #Manischewitz #Matchmakers, the brand’s first reality dating show inspired by the time-honored (and sometimes relentless) tradition of Jewish #matchmaking."
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Syntribation is the hands-free masturbation technique giving women ‘amazing’ orgasms
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📰 Emma Wortelboer herkent liefdesproblemen in nieuw programma op Texel: 'Vijver is best klein'
https://nieuwsjunkies.nl/artikel/1Gf1
🕜 13:40 | RTL Nieuws
🔸 #Dating #BNNVARA #Presentator #Texel -
📰 Emma Wortelboer herkent liefdesproblemen in nieuw programma op Texel: 'Vijver is best klein'
https://nieuwsjunkies.nl/artikel/1Gf1
🕜 13:40 | RTL Nieuws
🔸 #Dating #BNNVARA #Presentator #Texel -
📰 Emma Wortelboer herkent liefdesproblemen in nieuw programma op Texel: 'Vijver is best klein'
https://nieuwsjunkies.nl/artikel/1Gf1
🕜 13:40 | RTL Nieuws
🔸 #Dating #BNNVARA #Presentator #Texel -
📰 Emma Wortelboer herkent liefdesproblemen in nieuw programma op Texel: 'Vijver is best klein'
https://nieuwsjunkies.nl/artikel/1Gf1
🕜 13:40 | RTL Nieuws
🔸 #Dating #BNNVARA #Presentator #Texel -
here are a few #dating tips for guys trying to get with girls:
#1 : WASH YOUR FUCKING HANDS
and #2 : IF YOU ARE USING THE TOILET AT HER PLACE, DO NOT LEAVE PISS ON IT
fuck me, i dont ever want to have to live with a cis man if i can help it
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Are there any apps or sites out there where you can send someone a link to see and leave reviews of you as a date/partner??
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Are there any apps or sites out there where you can send someone a link to see and leave reviews of you as a date/partner??
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Are there any apps or sites out there where you can send someone a link to see and leave reviews of you as a date/partner??
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Are there any apps or sites out there where you can send someone a link to see and leave reviews of you as a date/partner??
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The date was going well – until he shared his thoughts on breastfeeding
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Men, Hide Your Cats - The New York Times
https://www.nytimes.com/2026/05/22/style/modern-love-men-hide-your-cats.html
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Human Disturbances Dominated The Unprecedentedly High Frequency Of Yellow River Flood Over The Last Millennium
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https://doi.org/10.1126/sciadv.adf8576 <-- shared paper
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https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/3000-years-humans-alterations-chinas-yellow-river-created-catastrophic-situation-exists-today-180951815/ <-- shared technical article
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#humanimpacts #anthropogenic #water #hydrography #hydrology #flood #flooding #river #catchment #engineering #riverine #YellowRiver #China #climatechange #extremeweather #floodhazard #risk #hazard #history #historic #sediment #reconstruction #spatialanalysis #spatiotemporal #levee #breaches #Holocene #geologic #fluvial #sustainability #planning #management #watermanagement #stress #change #dating #radiocarbon #OSL #sampling #paleoflood #overtopping #slackwater #sedimentation #model #modeling #embankment #riverstage #dams -
Human Disturbances Dominated The Unprecedentedly High Frequency Of Yellow River Flood Over The Last Millennium
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https://doi.org/10.1126/sciadv.adf8576 <-- shared paper
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https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/3000-years-humans-alterations-chinas-yellow-river-created-catastrophic-situation-exists-today-180951815/ <-- shared technical article
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#humanimpacts #anthropogenic #water #hydrography #hydrology #flood #flooding #river #catchment #engineering #riverine #YellowRiver #China #climatechange #extremeweather #floodhazard #risk #hazard #history #historic #sediment #reconstruction #spatialanalysis #spatiotemporal #levee #breaches #Holocene #geologic #fluvial #sustainability #planning #management #watermanagement #stress #change #dating #radiocarbon #OSL #sampling #paleoflood #overtopping #slackwater #sedimentation #model #modeling #embankment #riverstage #dams -
Human Disturbances Dominated The Unprecedentedly High Frequency Of Yellow River Flood Over The Last Millennium
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https://doi.org/10.1126/sciadv.adf8576 <-- shared paper
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https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/3000-years-humans-alterations-chinas-yellow-river-created-catastrophic-situation-exists-today-180951815/ <-- shared technical article
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#humanimpacts #anthropogenic #water #hydrography #hydrology #flood #flooding #river #catchment #engineering #riverine #YellowRiver #China #climatechange #extremeweather #floodhazard #risk #hazard #history #historic #sediment #reconstruction #spatialanalysis #spatiotemporal #levee #breaches #Holocene #geologic #fluvial #sustainability #planning #management #watermanagement #stress #change #dating #radiocarbon #OSL #sampling #paleoflood #overtopping #slackwater #sedimentation #model #modeling #embankment #riverstage #dams -
Human Disturbances Dominated The Unprecedentedly High Frequency Of Yellow River Flood Over The Last Millennium
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https://doi.org/10.1126/sciadv.adf8576 <-- shared paper
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https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/3000-years-humans-alterations-chinas-yellow-river-created-catastrophic-situation-exists-today-180951815/ <-- shared technical article
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#humanimpacts #anthropogenic #water #hydrography #hydrology #flood #flooding #river #catchment #engineering #riverine #YellowRiver #China #climatechange #extremeweather #floodhazard #risk #hazard #history #historic #sediment #reconstruction #spatialanalysis #spatiotemporal #levee #breaches #Holocene #geologic #fluvial #sustainability #planning #management #watermanagement #stress #change #dating #radiocarbon #OSL #sampling #paleoflood #overtopping #slackwater #sedimentation #model #modeling #embankment #riverstage #dams -
Human Disturbances Dominated The Unprecedentedly High Frequency Of Yellow River Flood Over The Last Millennium
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https://doi.org/10.1126/sciadv.adf8576 <-- shared paper
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https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/3000-years-humans-alterations-chinas-yellow-river-created-catastrophic-situation-exists-today-180951815/ <-- shared technical article
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#humanimpacts #anthropogenic #water #hydrography #hydrology #flood #flooding #river #catchment #engineering #riverine #YellowRiver #China #climatechange #extremeweather #floodhazard #risk #hazard #history #historic #sediment #reconstruction #spatialanalysis #spatiotemporal #levee #breaches #Holocene #geologic #fluvial #sustainability #planning #management #watermanagement #stress #change #dating #radiocarbon #OSL #sampling #paleoflood #overtopping #slackwater #sedimentation #model #modeling #embankment #riverstage #dams -
I liked him – but he’d only orgasm under one very strange condition
https://fed.brid.gy/r/https://metro.co.uk/2026/05/22/liked-orgasm-one-strange-condition-28461424/
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Forget romance, this city has the most impatient (and horniest) daters in Europe
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Forget romance, this city has the most impatient (and horniest) daters in Europe
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"It should be obvious to anyone living in the world that people want all kinds of different things for their lives and that what makes one person happy isn’t going to do it for another. There may very well be men out there who only want to marry homeschooled Republican virgins, but I sure as hell don’t want to spend my life with one. Why would I? That sounds like an actual nightmare."
#marriage #dating #bullshit #lol
https://www.wonkette.com/p/can-you-believe-this-podcaster-got
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Cute Romantic Music Pack 3 [Electronic] #Anime #Happiness #Smitten #Lovelydovey #Sweet #Date #Electronic #Dating #Love #Romantic #Romance #Visualnovel #AssetStore
https://u3dn.com/packages/cute-romantic-music-pack-3-electronic-128360
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A queer love story that shies away from queerness? Netflix's "Soul Mate" plays up ambiguous intimacy only to fall flat. https://www.japantimes.co.jp/culture/2026/05/21/tv-streaming/soul-mate-netflix/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=mastodon #culture #tvstreaming #netflix #lgbtq #dating #relationships #streaming #japanesetv
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https://www.kpopnsfw.com/263214/260521-ningning-commented-on-an-instagram-post-regarding-giselle-yasuda-shintaro-dating-rumors-with-an-emoji-%f0%9f%98%82/ 260521 Ningning commented on an Instagram post regarding Giselle & Yasuda Shintaro dating rumors with an emoji “😂” #aespa #amp #commented #dating #Emoji #GISELLE #instagram #ningning #post #rumors #Shintaro #Yasuda
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Just a little organic chemistry thought for the day. 🧪💨
If I am an acid, my perfect neutralizer is supposed to be a base, right? It takes both to create that perfect, stable reaction.
So the real question is, who is the base? Who out there is holding down the other half of the equation? 😂⚖️
#Science #Chemistry #ScienceHumor #LifeThoughts #Relationships #Dating #Fediverse #AcidAndBase
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🆕 🎙️Rediff Christelle Murhula "Être une femme noire, c'est se préparer au rejet ou au fétichisme", autrice de 📖 « Amours silenciées - Repenser la révolution romantique depuis les marges » Editions Daronnes
Quand on subit le racisme dont la #misogynoir, le fétichisme, le validisme, la grossophobie et d’autres discriminations, peut-on rêver à un amour possible avec plus d’égalité, de respect ? https://singlejungle.lepodcast.fr/rediff-christelle-murhula-etre-une-femme-noire-cest-se-preparer-au-rejet-ou-au-fetichisme #podcast #dating #femmes
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Well, I thought AI cannot get much worse with regards to disrupting human connection and relationships, can it?
Well, actually, it can. I am so glad that I am not on dating sites anymore. If I was, I'd get off there right now.
Source for the post:
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Data Brokers’ and #AI Firms’ Opt-Out Forms Are Built to Fail, Report Finds
A new study finds AI companies, defense firms, and #dating apps are among 38 data collectors allegedly using manipulative design to confuse users while collecting their data.
#privacy #databrokers #darkpatterns #optouthttps://www.wired.com/story/data-brokers-and-ai-firms-opt-out-forms-are-built-to-fail-report-finds/
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Data Brokers’ and #AI Firms’ Opt-Out Forms Are Built to Fail, Report Finds
A new study finds AI companies, defense firms, and #dating apps are among 38 data collectors allegedly using manipulative design to confuse users while collecting their data.
#privacy #databrokers #darkpatterns #optouthttps://www.wired.com/story/data-brokers-and-ai-firms-opt-out-forms-are-built-to-fail-report-finds/
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Data Brokers’ and #AI Firms’ Opt-Out Forms Are Built to Fail, Report Finds
A new study finds AI companies, defense firms, and #dating apps are among 38 data collectors allegedly using manipulative design to confuse users while collecting their data.
#privacy #databrokers #darkpatterns #optouthttps://www.wired.com/story/data-brokers-and-ai-firms-opt-out-forms-are-built-to-fail-report-finds/
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Data Brokers’ and #AI Firms’ Opt-Out Forms Are Built to Fail, Report Finds
A new study finds AI companies, defense firms, and #dating apps are among 38 data collectors allegedly using manipulative design to confuse users while collecting their data.
#privacy #databrokers #darkpatterns #optouthttps://www.wired.com/story/data-brokers-and-ai-firms-opt-out-forms-are-built-to-fail-report-finds/
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Data Brokers’ and #AI Firms’ Opt-Out Forms Are Built to Fail, Report Finds
A new study finds AI companies, defense firms, and #dating apps are among 38 data collectors allegedly using manipulative design to confuse users while collecting their data.
#privacy #databrokers #darkpatterns #optouthttps://www.wired.com/story/data-brokers-and-ai-firms-opt-out-forms-are-built-to-fail-report-finds/
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Relationship Expectations: Texting Social Media-Affection and Spending
https://wp.me/p84YjG-aTK
#relationships #dating #communication #texting #socialmedia #publicaffection #giftgiving #moderndating #datingadvice #relationshipadvice #menandrelationships #selfawareness #zsoltzsembahttps://zsoltzsemba.com/the-relationship-expectations-nobody-talks-about-until-its-too-late/
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Relationship Expectations: Texting Social Media-Affection and Spending
https://wp.me/p84YjG-aTK
#relationships #dating #communication #texting #socialmedia #publicaffection #giftgiving #moderndating #datingadvice #relationshipadvice #menandrelationships #selfawareness #zsoltzsembahttps://zsoltzsemba.com/the-relationship-expectations-nobody-talks-about-until-its-too-late/
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Relationship Expectations: Texting Social Media-Affection and Spending
https://wp.me/p84YjG-aTK
#relationships #dating #communication #texting #socialmedia #publicaffection #giftgiving #moderndating #datingadvice #relationshipadvice #menandrelationships #selfawareness #zsoltzsembahttps://zsoltzsemba.com/the-relationship-expectations-nobody-talks-about-until-its-too-late/
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Relationship Expectations: Texting Social Media-Affection and Spending
https://wp.me/p84YjG-aTK
#relationships #dating #communication #texting #socialmedia #publicaffection #giftgiving #moderndating #datingadvice #relationshipadvice #menandrelationships #selfawareness #zsoltzsembahttps://zsoltzsemba.com/the-relationship-expectations-nobody-talks-about-until-its-too-late/
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Relationship Expectations: Texting Social Media-Affection and Spending
https://wp.me/p84YjG-aTK
#relationships #dating #communication #texting #socialmedia #publicaffection #giftgiving #moderndating #datingadvice #relationshipadvice #menandrelationships #selfawareness #zsoltzsembahttps://zsoltzsemba.com/the-relationship-expectations-nobody-talks-about-until-its-too-late/
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CW: socialmedia
Semi-Anonymous Free Video Chat For Everyone In Three Minutes Or Less
Whether for privacy, safety, or some other reason, Jitsi is a great solution.
#communication #online #recommendation #relationships #society #dating #technology
https://ideatrash.net/2026/05/semi-anonymous-free-video-chat-for-everyone-in-three-minutes-or-less.html -
CW: socialmedia
Semi-Anonymous Free Video Chat For Everyone In Three Minutes Or Less
Whether for privacy, safety, or some other reason, Jitsi is a great solution.
#communication #online #recommendation #relationships #society #dating #technology
https://ideatrash.net/2026/05/semi-anonymous-free-video-chat-for-everyone-in-three-minutes-or-less.html -
CW: socialmedia
Semi-Anonymous Free Video Chat For Everyone In Three Minutes Or Less
Whether for privacy, safety, or some other reason, Jitsi is a great solution.
#communication #online #recommendation #relationships #society #dating #technology
https://ideatrash.net/2026/05/semi-anonymous-free-video-chat-for-everyone-in-three-minutes-or-less.html -
CW: socialmedia
Semi-Anonymous Free Video Chat For Everyone In Three Minutes Or Less
Whether for privacy, safety, or some other reason, Jitsi is a great solution.
#communication #online #recommendation #relationships #society #dating #technology
https://ideatrash.net/2026/05/semi-anonymous-free-video-chat-for-everyone-in-three-minutes-or-less.html
