#breakups — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #breakups, aggregated by home.social.
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So I stayed in the darkness with you
I had this song stuck in my head all weekend and I was struggling to put into words what I was so caught by. Writing this blog post about Kristeva’s Black Sun left me with a much clearer sense of what I’ve been circling around without being able to articulate. What she’s describing is a shattering loss. A total collapse of meaning:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_gMq3hRLDD0
The stars, the moon
They have all been blown out
You've left me in the dark
No dawn, no day
I'm always in this twilight
In the shadow of your heartThere is a loss of the Other, without whom “I was in the darkness so darkness I became”. There is an incorporation of the loss in which she is “always in this twilight in the shadow of your heart”. Through the creative force of signification she maps out her exit from the darkness, acknowledging that when she leaves she will always be marked from the experience: she could find her way back.
I took the stars from my eyes and then I made a map
And knew that somehow I could find my way back
Then I heard your heart beating, you were in the darkness too
So I stayed in the darkness with youBut then she hears the Other’s heart beating. They too have become the darkness. The map is forsaken. The exit is abandoned. Instead she prepares to make her home there together. It’s a beautiful sentiment. Or is it? After writing that Kristeva post it feels more like a refusal of mourning masquerading as an act of cosmic solidarity. It’s a peculiarly self-deceptive form of melancholia in which going deeper into the loss feels like it’s getting closer to recovering the lost object.
The fantasy that there is some deeper form of togetherness latent within the traumatic reality of the unravelling. At what point would the imagined togetherness actually arrive? Unless there’s a point where the bottom is reached, where the bedrock of cosmic solidarity is actually located, this is ultimately an act of tragic self-deception. It is one in which refusing to abandon the Other doesn’t give them what it aspires to while also abandoning the self. It made me think back to this passage from Nick Cave in Faith, Hope and Carnage:
But what I want to say is this: this will happen to everybody at some point – a deconstruction of the known self. It may not necessarily be a death, but there will be some kind of devastation. We see it happen to people all the time: a marriage breakdown, or a transgression that has a devastating effect on a person’s life, or health issues, or a betrayal, or a public shaming, or a separation where someone loses their kids, or whatever it is. And it shatters them completely, into a million pieces, and it seems like there is no coming back. It’s over. But in time they put themselves together piece by piece. And the thing is, when they do that, they often find that they are a different person, a changed, more complete, more realised, more clearly drawn person. I think that’s what it is to live, really – to die in a way and to be reborn. And sometimes it can happen many times over, that complex reordering of ourselves.
The choice to stay in the darkness is an embrace of that shattering. But it’s simultaneously a refusal of the piecing together, the healing, the rebirth which follows the shattering. It’s a refusal of life masquerading as an embrace of life.
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Guy’s brutally honest breakup text goes viral and reminds everyone that ‘ghosting’ isn’t cool
https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.upworthy.com/ghosting-is-not-cool-breakup-text-ex1/
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Guy’s brutally honest breakup text goes viral and reminds everyone that ‘ghosting’ isn’t cool
https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.upworthy.com/ghosting-is-not-cool-breakup-text-ex1/
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What’s love? - tiotrom.com/2026/07/whats-love…
Here's an article I just wrote about a word I used to hate!
#love #relationships #breakup #breakups
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What’s love? - tiotrom.com/2026/07/whats-love…
Here's an article I just wrote about a word I used to hate!
#love #relationships #breakup #breakups
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#Breakups #alternatefridaymusic #BreakingUp
Good Enough -- Fred Eaglesmith
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And when I see her she says hi
But she's got that look in her eye
I know she's got some other guy
He looks like he's in junior high
I stole myself a car last week
Drove it up to willis peaks
Covered it in gasoline
But it's not the same when she's not with meWhen I was good enough and we lived the life
Good enough and she carried a knife
Good enough and she wasn't like anybody that you ever knew
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#Breakups #alternatefridaymusic #BreakingUp
Good Enough -- Fred Eaglesmith
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And when I see her she says hi
But she's got that look in her eye
I know she's got some other guy
He looks like he's in junior high
I stole myself a car last week
Drove it up to willis peaks
Covered it in gasoline
But it's not the same when she's not with meWhen I was good enough and we lived the life
Good enough and she carried a knife
Good enough and she wasn't like anybody that you ever knew
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Sorry for uploading instead of linking but my favorite version doesn't seem to be on YT -
Big Fish
Nobody is comingyou are here all aloneWhat does that mean?I am surrounded by faces whiteblackmost of them bluelike the sky? yes, like the mirroring oceandeepand composed as if by disturbing its waters you might awake something long forgottena sea giant? A sea giant. yes. I am just afraid I am still wearing the clown's clothesyet I never said anything funnyand he’s laughing, bursting intears flaming out all over the floor his shoes lined up at the door That’s the joke!!!did you get it?I am […] -
Big Fish
Nobody is comingyou are here all aloneWhat does that mean?I am surrounded by faces whiteblackmost of them bluelike the sky? yes, like the mirroring oceandeepand composed as if by disturbing its waters you might awake something long forgottena sea giant? A sea giant. yes. I am just afraid I am still wearing the clown's clothesyet I never said anything funnyand he’s laughing, bursting intears flaming out all over the floor his shoes lined up at the door That’s the joke!!!did you get it?I am […] -
New York Times: The Breakup Loop: Why the TikTok Algorithm May Keep You Heartbroken. This link goes to a gift article. “As social media companies face increasing scrutiny over addictive design features and accusations that their algorithms can feed users harmful content, mental health advocates are pointing to the platforms’ handling of breakup content as a stark example of their failure to […]
https://rbfirehose.com/2026/07/27/the-breakup-loop-why-the-tiktok-algorithm-may-keep-you-heartbroken-new-york-times/ -
New York Times: The Breakup Loop: Why the TikTok Algorithm May Keep You Heartbroken. This link goes to a gift article. “As social media companies face increasing scrutiny over addictive design features and accusations that their algorithms can feed users harmful content, mental health advocates are pointing to the platforms’ handling of breakup content as a stark example of their failure to […]
https://rbfirehose.com/2026/07/27/the-breakup-loop-why-the-tiktok-algorithm-may-keep-you-heartbroken-new-york-times/ -
Scientists use brain scans to show love and heartbreak actually rewire your brain
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Scientists use brain scans to show love and heartbreak actually rewire your brain
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Lesbian couple shares news of their breakup with a funny photoshoot
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Lesbian couple shares news of their breakup with a funny photoshoot
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Why do breakups hurt so much? Researcher put people in MRI scanners to find out. Her answer explains everything.
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Why do breakups hurt so much? Researcher put people in MRI scanners to find out. Her answer explains everything.
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Sumida Aquarium Posts 2026 Penguin Relationship Chart, with Drama and Breakups
https://www.sumida-aquarium.com/special/sokanzu/en/2026/
#HackerNews #SumidaAquarium #PenguinDrama #RelationshipChart #Breakups #2026 #WildlifeNews
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Sumida Aquarium Posts 2026 Penguin Relationship Chart, with Drama and Breakups
https://www.sumida-aquarium.com/special/sokanzu/en/2026/
#HackerNews #SumidaAquarium #PenguinDrama #RelationshipChart #Breakups #2026 #WildlifeNews
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Did you know breakups later in life can improve well-being? 🤔
A study from the University of Cologne shows that in stressful relationships or with mental health issues, many feel relieved after a breakup.
👉 more info: https://bit.ly/4sg0N04
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Did you know breakups later in life can improve well-being? 🤔
A study from the University of Cologne shows that in stressful relationships or with mental health issues, many feel relieved after a breakup.
👉 more info: https://bit.ly/4sg0N04
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Knowing when to walk away is a superpower. Don't settle for a relationship that costs you your #dignity. #selfrespect #breakups #growth
https://artsincubator.ca/motivation/walking-away-before-ugly.html
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PsyPost: Social media surveillance of ex-partners linked to worse breakup recovery. “A new series of studies published in Computers in Human Behavior has found that keeping tabs on a former romantic partner through social media hinders emotional recovery.”
https://rbfirehose.com/2025/12/23/psypost-social-media-surveillance-of-ex-partners-linked-to-worse-breakup-recovery/ -
PsyPost: Social media surveillance of ex-partners linked to worse breakup recovery. “A new series of studies published in Computers in Human Behavior has found that keeping tabs on a former romantic partner through social media hinders emotional recovery.”
https://rbfirehose.com/2025/12/23/psypost-social-media-surveillance-of-ex-partners-linked-to-worse-breakup-recovery/ -
Iconic rock band officially breaks up after chaotic final concert.
I used to listen to their music when I was a kid.
Really sorry it had to end this way. Music is about having fun together and enjoying life. -
Ĝi estas #FortnightFridayMusic
gastiganto: @MarkIngs @bborn
subjekto: #breakups #disiĝo
kanto: Lasta kanto por eta Tingelingo
per: La Perdita Generacio
ligilo: https://youtu.be/g3_8guctzGUpor la anglaj parolantoj: a sweet song about the surprise of finding joy through the pain of a breakup
🎶 Ĉu vi scias ke mi prenis vian nomon?
Ĉu vi scias ke la lingvon lernis mi?
Eble ŝajnas kiel mi perdis aŭtonomon
sed tiuokaze mi ne skribus tiel ĉi 🎶5/4
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For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridayMusic
Fleetwood Mac - Go Your Own Way
"Tell me why everything turned around
Packing up, shacking up's all you wanna do
If I could, baby, I'd give you my world
Open up, everything's waiting for youYou can go your own way, go your own way
You can call it another lonely day
You can go your own way, go your own way*"* -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridayMusic
Fleetwood Mac - Go Your Own Way
"Tell me why everything turned around
Packing up, shacking up's all you wanna do
If I could, baby, I'd give you my world
Open up, everything's waiting for youYou can go your own way, go your own way
You can call it another lonely day
You can go your own way, go your own way*"* -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridayMusic
Bill Withers - Ain't No Sunshine
"Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
It's not warm when she's away
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
And she's always gone too long
Anytime she goes awayWonder this time where she's gone
Wonder if she's gonna stay
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
And this house just ain't no home
Anytime she goes away" -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridayMusic
Bill Withers - Ain't No Sunshine
"Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
It's not warm when she's away
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
And she's always gone too long
Anytime she goes awayWonder this time where she's gone
Wonder if she's gonna stay
Ain't no sunshine when she's gone
And this house just ain't no home
Anytime she goes away" -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridayMusic
Alanis Morissette - You Oughta Know
"And I'm here to remind you
Of the mess you left when you went away
It's not fair to deny me
Of the cross I bear that you gave to me
You, you, you oughta know" -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridayMusic
Alanis Morissette - You Oughta Know
"And I'm here to remind you
Of the mess you left when you went away
It's not fair to deny me
Of the cross I bear that you gave to me
You, you, you oughta know" -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridayMusic
Prince and The Revolution - Purple Rain
"I never wanted to be your weekend lover
I only wanted to be some kind of friend, hey
Baby, I could never steal you from another
It's such a shame our friendship had to end" -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridayMusic
Prince and The Revolution - Purple Rain
"I never wanted to be your weekend lover
I only wanted to be some kind of friend, hey
Baby, I could never steal you from another
It's such a shame our friendship had to end" -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridayMusic
Billy Joel - And So It Goes
"But if my silence made you leave
Then that would be my worst mistake
So I will share this room with you
And you can have this heart to break" -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridayMusic
Billy Joel - And So It Goes
"But if my silence made you leave
Then that would be my worst mistake
So I will share this room with you
And you can have this heart to break" -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridaymusic
KT Tunstall covering Bob Dylan - Tangled Up In Blue
"She was married when we first met
Soon to be divorced
I helped her out of a jam, I guess
We drove that car as far as we could
Abandoned it out west
Split up on a dark sad night
Both agreeing it was best
She turned around to look at me
As I was walking away
I heard her say over my shoulder
"We'll meet again someday
On the avenue"
Tangled up in blue" -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridaymusic
KT Tunstall covering Bob Dylan - Tangled Up In Blue
"She was married when we first met
Soon to be divorced
I helped her out of a jam, I guess
We drove that car as far as we could
Abandoned it out west
Split up on a dark sad night
Both agreeing it was best
She turned around to look at me
As I was walking away
I heard her say over my shoulder
"We'll meet again someday
On the avenue"
Tangled up in blue" -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridaymusic
Amy Winehouse - Love Is A Losing Game
"For you, I was a flame
Love is a losing game
Five-story fire as you came
Love is a losing game
One I wished I never played
Oh, what a mess we made
And now the final frame
Love is a losing game" -
For #Breakups themed #FortnightFridaymusic
Amy Winehouse - Love Is A Losing Game
"For you, I was a flame
Love is a losing game
Five-story fire as you came
Love is a losing game
One I wished I never played
Oh, what a mess we made
And now the final frame
Love is a losing game" -
More #FortnightFridayMusic 🎉
Hosts: @MarkIngs @bborn
Subject: #breakups
Song: I Heard It Through the Grape Vine
By: The Doug Anthony All Stars
Link: https://youtu.be/5brqK2xIInsThe greatest moment in Australian TV.
They were crying in the studio & at home. Everyone remembers seeing this live, even those who didn't 😜
For those who aren't Gen-X Aussies: the wildest, most irreverent comedians who were known for destroying sets & the audience stopped mid show & did something unforgettable.
4/4
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Another one for #FortnightFridayMusic by MarkIngs
The word for Dec 12 is #Breakups
Grant Hart's 2541 is, on one level, about the breakup of Husker Du, but it's not only that.
The slow build - so good.
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Another one for #FortnightFridayMusic by MarkIngs
The word for Dec 12 is #Breakups
Grant Hart's 2541 is, on one level, about the breakup of Husker Du, but it's not only that.
The slow build - so good.
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time to join us for #FortnightFridayMusic by @MarkIngs
The word for Dec 12 is #Breakups
Let's start with Husker Du and Standing in the Rain...
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time to join us for #FortnightFridayMusic by @MarkIngs
The word for Dec 12 is #Breakups
Let's start with Husker Du and Standing in the Rain...
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Even more #FortnightFridayMusic 🎉
Hosts: @MarkIngs @bborn
Subject: #breakups
Song: Say Goodbye
By: Hunters & Collectors
Link: https://youtu.be/8pp6hniAKHwBest live band I've ever seen:
🎶 Well just the other night I come home
After three months of constant grind & travel
& I went snivelling
I went crawling around to my girlfriend's house
& she came down hard upon me
& she ground her finger into my breastbone
& she said
"You don't make me feel... like I'm a woman... anymore" 🎶3/4
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Hey! It's #FortnightFridayMusic 🎉
Hosts: @MarkIngs @bborn
Subject: #breakups
Song: If You Leave Me, Can I Come Too?
By: Mental As Anything
Link: https://youtu.be/pHE9-56b-LkThe Mentals when they were all still young (and alive)
🎶 Words were exchanged last night
You could call it a fight
It's such a shame, I never thought we would
Wouldn't be so bad, if it weren't so good
I've had enough of that
With other loves in days gone by
It wasn't much I know
Mmm just enough, enough to make me cry 🎶2/4
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Join us for the “Fortnight Friday Music” Event on the Fediverse!
The word is “Breakups”
Hashtag: #FortnightFridayMusic
Hosted by: @bborn @MarkIngs
Subject: #Breakups
Selection: Anymore
Artist: #Dgar
Song Link: https://soundcloud.com/dgarmusic/anymore
Context: https://mindly.social/@bborn/115703567518413723This song has been sitting in pre-release on #Soundcloud for years now.
Anymore
~ Dgar.To my heart you had the key. You took away my dignity. It took me this long to see, what the fuck you're doing to me.
Tie me down, suburban chains. Keep me standing in the rain. I think you must like the pain. You are driving me insane. Insane!
In my face you slam the door, Kick my brains across the floor, I won't take it anymore, Anymore!
Ask me to be your spouse, Lead me you, you dirty louse, Armed gunmen in your house, Dissect my life, like a mouse,
Why did you make it so hard? Prowlers creeping in the dark. Setting traps in your backyard. Lock yourself behind bars. Yeah!
In my face you slam the door. Kick my brains across the floor. I won't take it anymore. Anymore. Anymore. Anymore. Anymore.
