#heteronormativity — Public Fediverse posts

… #Unmarried couples in which one #parent stays at home would not qualify under the draft. Single #parents who do not work would not be eligible for the subsidy.

Some department lawyers working on the plan have questioned the legality of requiring recipients to be married, acc/to the people familiar with the matter.

#Trump #law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy

… #Unmarried couples in which one #parent stays at home would not qualify under the draft. Single #parents who do not work would not be eligible for the subsidy.

Some department lawyers working on the plan have questioned the legality of requiring recipients to be married, acc/to the people familiar with the matter.

#Trump #law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy

… #Unmarried couples in which one #parent stays at home would not qualify under the draft. Single #parents who do not work would not be eligible for the subsidy.

Some department lawyers working on the plan have questioned the legality of requiring recipients to be married, acc/to the people familiar with the matter.

#Trump #law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy

… #Unmarried couples in which one #parent stays at home would not qualify under the draft. Single #parents who do not work would not be eligible for the subsidy.

Some department lawyers working on the plan have questioned the legality of requiring recipients to be married, acc/to the people familiar with the matter.

#Trump #law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy

… #Unmarried couples in which one #parent stays at home would not qualify under the draft. Single #parents who do not work would not be eligible for the subsidy.

Some department lawyers working on the plan have questioned the legality of requiring recipients to be married, acc/to the people familiar with the matter.

#Trump #law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy

The new rule being drafted would allow #married couples with one stay-at-home parent in certain income brackets to collect a subsidy, according to the people, who spoke on the condition of anonymity to describe the plan before it is finalized. The change could be made WITHOUT approval from #Congress.

#Trump #law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy

The new rule being drafted would allow #married couples with one stay-at-home parent in certain income brackets to collect a subsidy, according to the people, who spoke on the condition of anonymity to describe the plan before it is finalized. The change could be made WITHOUT approval from #Congress.

#Trump #law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy

The new rule being drafted would allow #married couples with one stay-at-home parent in certain income brackets to collect a subsidy, according to the people, who spoke on the condition of anonymity to describe the plan before it is finalized. The change could be made WITHOUT approval from #Congress.

#Trump #law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy

The new rule being drafted would allow #married couples with one stay-at-home parent in certain income brackets to collect a subsidy, according to the people, who spoke on the condition of anonymity to describe the plan before it is finalized. The change could be made WITHOUT approval from #Congress.

#Trump #law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy

The new rule being drafted would allow #married couples with one stay-at-home parent in certain income brackets to collect a subsidy, according to the people, who spoke on the condition of anonymity to describe the plan before it is finalized. The change could be made WITHOUT approval from #Congress.

#Trump #law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy

#Trump Officials Plan to Pay At-Home #Parents, Using Funds for Working Ones

The proposed benefit, a top policy priority for #JDVance, would apply only to #married couples & tap a fund intended to provide federal #childcare subsidies to #WorkingParents.

#law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy
https://www.nytimes.com/2026/09/05/us/politics/stay-at-home-parents-subsidies.html?unlocked_article_code=1._FA.FRjY.ZCWLQiS1gk4E&smid=nytcore-ios-share

#Trump Officials Plan to Pay At-Home #Parents, Using Funds for Working Ones

The proposed benefit, a top policy priority for #JDVance, would apply only to #married couples & tap a fund intended to provide federal #childcare subsidies to #WorkingParents.

#law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy
https://www.nytimes.com/2026/09/05/us/politics/stay-at-home-parents-subsidies.html?unlocked_article_code=1._FA.FRjY.ZCWLQiS1gk4E&smid=nytcore-ios-share

#Trump Officials Plan to Pay At-Home #Parents, Using Funds for Working Ones

The proposed benefit, a top policy priority for #JDVance, would apply only to #married couples & tap a fund intended to provide federal #childcare subsidies to #WorkingParents.

#law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy
https://www.nytimes.com/2026/09/05/us/politics/stay-at-home-parents-subsidies.html?unlocked_article_code=1._FA.FRjY.ZCWLQiS1gk4E&smid=nytcore-ios-share

#Trump Officials Plan to Pay At-Home #Parents, Using Funds for Working Ones

The proposed benefit, a top policy priority for #JDVance, would apply only to #married couples & tap a fund intended to provide federal #childcare subsidies to #WorkingParents.

#law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy
https://www.nytimes.com/2026/09/05/us/politics/stay-at-home-parents-subsidies.html?unlocked_article_code=1._FA.FRjY.ZCWLQiS1gk4E&smid=nytcore-ios-share

#Trump Officials Plan to Pay At-Home #Parents, Using Funds for Working Ones

The proposed benefit, a top policy priority for #JDVance, would apply only to #married couples & tap a fund intended to provide federal #childcare subsidies to #WorkingParents.

#law #FarRight #AltRight #conservative #MaleSupremacy #TradWives #heterosexism #heteronormativity #sexism #misogyny #plutocracy #aristocracy
https://www.nytimes.com/2026/09/05/us/politics/stay-at-home-parents-subsidies.html?unlocked_article_code=1._FA.FRjY.ZCWLQiS1gk4E&smid=nytcore-ios-share

The persistence of heteronormativity is not only due to the weight of social conventions and norms, but also to material conditions of existence: being in a couple means having more resources. Sophie Lewis asserts that the conditions of heterosexuality are inseparable from economic realities: ‘Most women are too overworked, too exhausted by the demands of capitalism and its culture of compulsory enjoyment to even have the opportunity to learn to love.’

Sophie Lewis wrote ‘Abolish the Family: A Manifesto for Care and Liberation’

#relationships #domesticWork #sociology #heteroNormativity #materialistFeminism #feminism #love #subjugation #appropriation #sexism #heteroSexuality #patriarchy #subalternStudies #family

'What distinguishes Wittig's theoretical, political and literary project, and makes it an unavoidable pole of intellectual attraction today, is its radical anti-essentialism. It's the radical anti-essentialism that Wittig applies to the most credible of beliefs, because of the strength of its naturalization: the idea that men and women are naturally complementary "natural groups".'

Sara Garbagnoli explained in 2023: https://www.moniquewittig.com/wp-content/uploads/Sara-in-AOC-english.pdf 🧶

#revolution #reciprocity #radicality #reversibility #materialistFeminism #materialism #beliefs #subjugation #naturalism #essentialism #sexism #heteroSexism #heteroNormativity #feminisms #MoniqueWittig #Wittig #literature #homosexuality #lesbianism #feminism #internationalism #patriarchy #minorityStudies #queer #nonBinary #culturalHistory #lesbians #otherness #linguistics

Heterosexuality is a regime of political oppression 🧶

"Just as racism produces race and not the other way round, sexism produces sex through the relationship of domination that reduces the dominated to things or natural objects."
… said Natacha Chetcuti-Osorovitz summarizing Monique Wittig

#materialism #beliefs #subjugation #radicality #EstelleSays #materialistFeminism #naturalism #appropriation #sexism #heteroSexuality #saphism #heteroNormativity #feminisms #history #MoniqueWittig #Wittig #literature #homosexuality #lesbianism #feminism #internationalism #patriarchy #linguistics #writing #minorityStudies #universalism #queer #constructivism #antagonism #culturalHistory #lesbians

"If a young woman does not follow the social injunction to have feelings in a sexual relationship, she knows that she risks being called to order, being punished. Or to feel shame or guilt. This burden of the social norm is primarily internalised."

"There is, in all circles, the threatening 'spectre of the faggot'. The determination to appear as 'a man, a real man' and secure one's masculinity, while escaping suspicion of homosexuality, which is considered demeaning and dangerous. Some gay boys from privileged backgrounds have told me that they were in a relationship with a girl at school to give the impression, to cover their tracks."

An interview with Isabelle Clair, in 2023 (fr) https://www.ouest-france.fr/societe/sexualite/entretien-des-lage-de-15-ans-on-reve-detre-en-couple-explique-cette-sociologue-2fee21ae-cc7e-11ed-8144-e74efc02d2d3 @sociology @edutooters 🧶

#status #reputation #fragility #maleFragility #manliness #masculinity #virility #homophobia #quotes #bitches #whores #teenagers #norms #heteronormativity #normation #patriarchy #maleViolence #badBoy #boys #gender #highSchool #SecondarySchool #sociology

Margot Déage: "A girl who does not belong to a boy or a man can fall into the category of whore at any time, whatever her clothes or sexual practices."

Margot Déage: "Being in a position to say who’s a whore and who’s a good girl is a power in itself within the girls’ group, a power that is strongly mobilised by certain girls. The ones who can fall, in general, are the hardest on the matter."

(fr) https://www.radiofrance.fr/franceculture/podcasts/france-culture-va-plus-loin-l-invite-e-des-matins/violences-au-college-e-reputation-et-mauvais-genre-5265267

#reputation #SAAM #assault #sexualViolence #rapeCulture #sluts #whores #adolescence #violence #HappySlapping #film #norms #bioPower #heteronormativity #normalization #subdue #subjugation #patriarchy #brutalization #moralPanic #responsibility #maleViolence #empathy #masculinity #truth #evidence #parenting #rumours #gender #SecondarySchool #HighSchool #harassment #targeting #school #sociology #education

Every time I meet someone who's "unsuccessfully" #poly (can't find anyone to #date, can't find anyone interested in more than hookups and one-night-stands, #relationships always fizzle as soon as the #NRE dies, or only ever winds up in bad/abusive relationships that end messily), it's the same few basic problems.

Toxic #mononormativity.

Toxic #masculinity.

Toxic #heteronormativity.

#Sexism.

People who find #polyamory "easy" are the ones who have already faced these problems and named them. They might not have properly *solved* all those issues yet (goodness knows even I sometimes hide for safety behind some #passing-privilege and let people make #heteromononormative #assumptions about me, and I've been out-and-proud #non-monogamous for decades). But if you're finding #EthicalNonMonogamy difficult, it's probably one (or a combination) of those issues. And if more seasoned poly-folk roll their eyes at you and don't take the time to explain it, it's because we've heard it literally hundreds of times before.

Which doesn't make you bad, or stupid, or even unsuited to being non-monogamous. It just means you're still early in the journey, and can't progress until you do some work.