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After Ludhiana girl’s death in Ontario, woman found dead in Brampton

Grief descended on a family from Ahmedgarh, after being informed about the sudden and mysterious death of their…
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https://www.newsbeep.com/ca/631785/

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Invisible Threads by Maureen Walgren

A tender account of a mother’s grief after a devastating loss and the countless echoes of love it leaves behind
The post Invisible Threads by Maureen Walgren appeared first on Independent Book Review.
https://independentbookreview.com/2026/04/09/invisible-threads-by-maureen-walgren/

#bookreview #GriefAndLoss #indiememoir #InvisibleThreads #memoir

They left and left behind a silence that's unbearable… Everything passes, except the pain of loss — it stays in the heart like a wound that never heals.

#GriefAndLoss #HealingJourney #MissingYou #PainOfLoss #UnbearableSilence #GriefQuotes #LostButNotForgotten #Heartbreak #EmotionalHealing #ForeverInMyHeart #Quotes #ShareInspireQuotes

With a grieving heart, I am saddened to share that Locke Besse, friend and supporter to so many, passed away on March 26 from complications of surgery.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/rest-in-peace-locke-besse-friend-to-many-she-gave-so-much-7e0a73eed1a9

#LGBTQ #Allies #InMemoriam #GriefAndLoss

Me & my family can relate to what Sharman experienced with her Mother's death. Sharman became a death doula after her Mom died.

We still can't afford any family burial plots. We keep Dad's urn with his memorial altar at home.
I got into death doula work in late 2023, months after Dad died.

When you're poor it is super expensive to be sick & it's also expensive to die. Funeral industry is a racket. I had to take out a small loan to cover all of Dad's funeral/memorial services.

https://mstdn.ca/@thetyee/116319135426441927

#Death #Funerals #PoorFamilies #CostOfDeath #DeathDoulas #EndOfLifeCare #GriefAndLoss #FamilyResponsibility

Me & my family can relate to what Sharman experienced with her Mother's death. Sharman became a death doula after her Mom died.

We still can't afford any family burial plots. We keep Dad's urn with his memorial altar at home.
I got into death doula work in late 2023, months after Dad died.

When you're poor it is super expensive to be sick & it's also expensive to die. Funeral industry is a racket. I had to take out a small loan to cover all of Dad's funeral/memorial services.

https://mstdn.ca/@thetyee/116319135426441927

#Death #Funerals #PoorFamilies #CostOfDeath #DeathDoulas #EndOfLifeCare #GriefAndLoss #FamilyResponsibility

Me & my family can relate to what Sharman experienced with her Mother's death. Sharman became a death doula after her Mom died.

We still can't afford any family burial plots. We keep Dad's urn with his memorial altar at home.
I got into death doula work in late 2023, months after Dad died.

When you're poor it is super expensive to be sick & it's also expensive to die. Funeral industry is a racket. I had to take out a small loan to cover all of Dad's funeral/memorial services.

https://mstdn.ca/@thetyee/116319135426441927

#Death #Funerals #PoorFamilies #CostOfDeath #DeathDoulas #EndOfLifeCare #GriefAndLoss #FamilyResponsibility

Me & my family can relate to what Sharman experienced with her Mother's death. Sharman became a death doula after her Mom died.

We still can't afford any family burial plots. We keep Dad's urn with his memorial altar at home.
I got into death doula work in late 2023, months after Dad died.

When you're poor it is super expensive to be sick & it's also expensive to die. Funeral industry is a racket. I had to take out a small loan to cover all of Dad's funeral/memorial services.

https://mstdn.ca/@thetyee/116319135426441927

#Death #Funerals #PoorFamilies #CostOfDeath #DeathDoulas #EndOfLifeCare #GriefAndLoss #FamilyResponsibility

Me & my family can relate to what Sharman experienced with her Mother's death. Sharman became a death doula after her Mom died.

We still can't afford any family burial plots. We keep Dad's urn with his memorial altar at home.
I got into death doula work in late 2023, months after Dad died.

When you're poor it is super expensive to be sick & it's also expensive to die. Funeral industry is a racket. I had to take out a small loan to cover all of Dad's funeral/memorial services.

https://mstdn.ca/@thetyee/116319135426441927

#Death #Funerals #PoorFamilies #CostOfDeath #DeathDoulas #EndOfLifeCare #GriefAndLoss #FamilyResponsibility

I Accidentally Deleted My Most Important Piece of Writing

A grieving writer's reconciliation Continue reading on The Writing Cooperative »
https://writingcooperative.com/i-accidentally-deleted-my-most-important-piece-of-writing-a39b2c18a45

#lifelessons #writinglife #technology #griefandloss #nostalgia

The Shocking Truth: Can Family Therapy Backfire and Make Things Worse?

https://lifecounselingorlando.com/can-family-therapy-make-things-worse/

#therapist #traumarecovery #healthyboundaries #griefsupport #childloss #consciousvibrancy #selfhealer #griefandloss #copingskills #lifeafterloss #grievingprocess #widow #bookrelease #rockvillemd #signdesign #griefcoach #griefwork #talkaboutgrief #griefprocess #grievingquotes

It doesn't matter how many times I've heard it. It never gets any easier. Hearing that "they're gone" hurts just as much, if not more, than the first time I ever heard that phrase. #deathandloss #griefandloss

Jamie

There was a Grief and Remembrance ceremony today at work and this is the altar. Zoom in and you'll see my Dad's smile in the rusty frame leaning against the vase. It was very moving. First time I have publicly expressed my still extant deep grief about his death. As many say this time of year, the veil is thin between the living and the dead...a good time to grieve, remember, and look forward because life goes on, even when you wish it wouldn't. 💔💔💔💔💔 #grief #griefandloss #prolongedgrief

My bio lists #GriefandLoss as one of my interests, but I have yet to post on the subject.
I lost my beloved sister in 1999 when she was 15 & I was 24, & lost my father (69) quite suddenly to #PancreaticCancer in 2016.
As an #ArtsAndHealth practitioner I have encountered loss in all its forms, working with those living with #dementia & other age-related illnesses, & also with the #Bereaved.
Here, I wrote about the #loss of my father through the lens of #MusicAndGrief.

https://medium.com/@sharmurphy/listening-on-when-it-hurts-to-listen-b778c78c3779

My bio lists #GriefandLoss as one of my interests, but I have yet to post on the subject.
I lost my beloved sister in 1999 when she was 15 & I was 24, & lost my father (69) quite suddenly to #PancreaticCancer in 2016.
As an #ArtsAndHealth practitioner I have encountered loss in all its forms, working with those living with #dementia & other age-related illnesses, & also with the #Bereaved.
Here, I wrote about the #loss of my father through the lens of #MusicAndGrief.

https://medium.com/@sharmurphy/listening-on-when-it-hurts-to-listen-b778c78c3779

My bio lists #GriefandLoss as one of my interests, but I have yet to post on the subject.
I lost my beloved sister in 1999 when she was 15 & I was 24, & lost my father (69) quite suddenly to #PancreaticCancer in 2016.
As an #ArtsAndHealth practitioner I have encountered loss in all its forms, working with those living with #dementia & other age-related illnesses, & also with the #Bereaved.
Here, I wrote about the #loss of my father through the lens of #MusicAndGrief.

https://medium.com/@sharmurphy/listening-on-when-it-hurts-to-listen-b778c78c3779

My bio lists #GriefandLoss as one of my interests, but I have yet to post on the subject.
I lost my beloved sister in 1999 when she was 15 & I was 24, & lost my father (69) quite suddenly to #PancreaticCancer in 2016.
As an #ArtsAndHealth practitioner I have encountered loss in all its forms, working with those living with #dementia & other age-related illnesses, & also with the #Bereaved.
Here, I wrote about the #loss of my father through the lens of #MusicAndGrief.

https://medium.com/@sharmurphy/listening-on-when-it-hurts-to-listen-b778c78c3779

My bio lists #GriefandLoss as one of my interests, but I have yet to post on the subject.
I lost my beloved sister in 1999 when she was 15 & I was 24, & lost my father (69) quite suddenly to #PancreaticCancer in 2016.
As an #ArtsAndHealth practitioner I have encountered loss in all its forms, working with those living with #dementia & other age-related illnesses, & also with the #Bereaved.
Here, I wrote about the #loss of my father through the lens of #MusicAndGrief.

https://medium.com/@sharmurphy/listening-on-when-it-hurts-to-listen-b778c78c3779

I do not know what to do. I feel so helpless. There is nothing I can do.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/in-the-face-of-death-and-canadian-anti-lgbtq-bigotry-i-feel-so-helpless-e4c4fd3d72fc?sk=191a96567050f37ed6bd981d225a5ecf

#LGBTQ #Death #Dying #GriefAndLoss #Bigotry #Canada #CdnPoli #Family

I did, in a way, end up singing the “Ave Maria” at my father’s funeral.
I felt bad for the way I shut Dad down when he suggested it.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/2016-two-deaths-one-election-and-a-trip-to-a-psychiatrist-99c89a06ec7c?sk=f05cae0f6d614faff16b9b42adebfd74

#LGBTQ #Memoir #Elections #GriefAndLoss #ADHD

#MondayMourning: It’s YOUR Grief

Grief is a very individual experience. There are so many factors that affect it, like your personality, support network, beliefs, previous losses, and the security you feel in other aspects of your life (financial, housing, relationships, work).

Don't use the grief experiences of others as a gauge for your own. Grieve in the way that feels comfortable to you, and don't worry if others think you're doing it too much or too little.

#HisAndHearsePress #Grief #Mourning #GriefAndLoss #GriefSupport #GrieveYourWay

Met my Bestie for a late dinner with Benson. Her mom died two weeks ago and she's riding that tidal wave of grief as best she can. Tonight was a nice break from that. She laughed at Benson eating carrots and French fries and we chatted about home improvement projects and our fur babies.

This weekend is the anniversary of my mother's passing. I've been surfing on that wave of grief since 2001. Sometimes it's overwhelming and other times it's just a trickle.

My heart goes out to Bestie. She googled *how long exhaustion from grief lasts*. I told her a month. I lied. Sometimes lying is a comfort.

#Friendship
#griefandloss

What soap is for the body,
Tears are for the soul

- Jewish Proverb

#HisAndHearsePress #Proverb #JewishProverbs #Quotes #Grief #GriefQuotes #GriefAndLoss #Mourning #HaveAGoodCry #CryingIsHealing #DeathPositive

Not feeling like it’s a day to celebrate? It’s okay to be sad, angry, jealous, disappointed, or a mix of multiple emotions.

#HisAndHearsePress #FathersDay #Bittersweet #GriefAndLoss #MixedEmotions #FathersDayIsHard #UnhappyFathersDay

#MondayMourning: Wind Phone

An unconnected phone, sometimes in a booth, designed as a place to hold one-way conversations with lost loved ones. A notebook beside the phone allows visitors to write messages of remembrance.

The first public wind phone was created after the 2011 earthquake and tsunami in Otsuchi, Japan, and has been visited 30,000 times. Since then, replicas have appeared worldwide and enabled grieving people to reflect, connect, and speak their messages for the wind to carry.

What do you think? Would this be a helpful grief tool for you?

#HisAndHearsePress #Grief #GriefAndLoss #GriefSupport #GriefTools #WindPhone #Funeral #Memorial #Mourning #Bereavement

Mother’s Day isn’t a joyous occasion for all. It’s ok to be sad today, or a mix of conflicting emotions.

Here’s to those who have lost mothers or children, those who were unable to have children, those with complicated relationships with their mother or their children. 🥀 You’re all valid today.

#HisAndHearsePress #MothersDay #UnhappyMothersDay #Bittersweet #Grief #Loss #GriefAndLoss #Infertility #ChildLoss

#MondayMourning: Mourning Animals

You've heard of mourning doves (so-named because of their melancholic coo), but did you know there's also a mourning warbler (a bird that looks like it's wearing a mourning veil) and a mourning *GECKO* (their nightly vocalizations were once interpreted as mourning the lack of male mates in the entirely female species - true story)?!

That's not what we're talking about today though. We're talking about wild animals that grieve the loss of their herd/pack mates.

Scientists have long refused to consider whether animals grieve since it's assumed that grief requires an understanding of life and death. It's also easy to anthropomorphize animals, which is to say that we assign them human characteristics and emotions.

However, scientists are finally opening up to the idea. Innovations in testing and monitoring have revealed new information. Here are some behaviors they've observed in various species, specifically ones known for forming social bonds.

- Cetaceans (whales, dolphins, porpoises) often carry or push their dead in the water to keep them close or afloat, especially after the loss of a calf. It's awkward and tiring, going against self preservation instincts for no clear purpose.

- Elephants spend time visiting with and touching their dead. Touching allows them to investigate, but they also spend time standing around the body without touching. They return over time to visit the skeletal remains. A study has shown that elephants cry around dead bodies (they produce tears when they're stressed or excited), and their vocalizations change. They can also bury or cover bodies.

- Non-human primates (different types of monkeys) gather together, standing watch for days. Dead baby monkeys are carried and mothers scream. Some become depressed enough to stop eating, starving to death. Chimpanzees can check the body for signs of life, then clean debris from fur and use tools to clean teeth. Baboons have shown higher levels of stress hormones followed by increased grooming behaviors (which stimulates oxytocin to counteract it).

- Magpies bring grass to lay by the bodies of their dead.

- Giraffes have been seen nudging and guarding dead calves, not eating or drinking. They wrap their necks around each other, almost like a hug.

Some animal behavior is attributed to chemical shifts, causing ants and termites to bury their dead. Large groups of crows gather around carcasses, but it's more of an investigatory behavior than grief (a *murder investigation*, if you will). Rather than mourning, they're collecting information and identifying potential threats in the area.

It'll be interesting to see science evolve so we can discover how universal mourning really is!

#HisAndHearsePress #Grief #GriefAndLoss #Animals #AnimalGrief #Wildlife #Funeral #AnimalBehavior #Mourning

“To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.”

- Thomas Campbell

#HisAndHearsePress #Grief #GriefQuotes #GriefAndLoss #Death #Funeral #Cemetery #DeathPositive

Sometimes death casts a shadow over celebrations. It’s helpful to make a plan: how do you want to spend the special day?

The dread or anticipation of a birthday, anniversary, or holiday can be worse the the day itself. Decide in advance if you want to include the memory of your loved one or try to distract yourself from the loss. Think about whether you’d prefer to be alone, be with a few close people, or be surrounded by a crowd. Do you want to stay home, or go out? It’s okay to take a break from or even permanently change traditions. Don’t feel obligated to do things just because you*always* do it that way.

In time, you’ll learn how to balance grief with celebrating. Sometimes all you can do is laugh and make the best of a terrible situation, like the family who made a dumpster fire birthday cake. Read their full story here:

https://www.today.com/food/people/teen-dumpster-fire-cake-honors-moms-birthday-dad-death-rcna77450

#HisAndHearsePress #GriefAndLoss #Grief #HolidayGrief #BirthdayGrief #DumpsterFire #BirthdayCake #Funeral #DeathPositive #GrieveYourOwnWay

“All deaths are sudden, no matter how gradual the dying may be.”

- Michael McDowell

#HisAndHearsePress #Quote #Quotes #GriefQuotes #GriefAndLoss #Death #DeathAndDying #MichaelMcDowell #Hospice #PalliativeCare

Condolence cards aren’t as popular as they used to be, but they’re still a nice, tangible piece of support that a grieving person can hold on to. It’s more real than a comment on a Facebook post because it shows you actually put forth some effort.

You can send cards later too. Many times, support is withdrawn after services have concluded. Consider sending a card weeks or months later to remind someone they’re still in your thoughts.

Oh, and I’m not 100% sure on the etiquette for sending a condolence card when you’re “the one who did it.” Any thoughts?

#HisAndHearsePress #Condolences #CondolenceCard #Sympathy #Funeral #GriefAndLoss #FuneralMemes #KidsSayTheDarndestThings

“The song is ended, but the melody lingers on.”

- Irving Berlin

#HisAndHearsePress #Quote #Quotes #IrvingBerlin #Grief #GriefAndLoss #Death #DeathPositive #Music

#MondayMourning: Stages of Grief - Expectations vs Reality

Most of us are aware of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's DABDA grief model (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) and take it to mean "the stages of grief."

However... the stages are a collection of anecdotal experiences from dying people, NOT the people grieving!

Kubler-Ross studied over 200 terminally ill patients, but amassed a collection of case studies rather than empirical evidence or systematic investigation. Newer studies don't really support her findings.

Still, we steadfastly cling to the prescribed grief journey and compare our own experiences to that example of normality. We crave direction and validation in times of emotional upheaval, and following a guideline gives us a lifeline. Otherwise, how do we know if we're grieving "right?"

In reality, the grief journey doesn't make linear stops. It's a mishmash of conflicting emotions, like a rollercoaster that sometimes goes forward, sometimes goes backward, and sometimes falls off the rails completely. Judging your experience by the metrics of societal expectations will lead you to believe that you're failing at grieving properly. Don't do that.

Instead, get to know the variety of emotions that may pass through you while you navigate your loss. Accept them as normal and valid, then let them go. If any particular feeling becomes overwhelming and you're unable to cope, you're allowed to ask for guidance, counseling, support groups etc.

No one's grief will be the same as yours, so don't compare! Grieve on your own timeline and whatever way suits your needs.

#HisAndHearsePress #Grief #StagesOfGrief #GriefAndLoss #Emotions #Death #MentalHealth #ElisabethKublerRoss #OnDeathAndDying #GriefTips #GriefSupport

On National “Get Over It” Day, you might be tempted to push yourself to get over your grief.

Don’t do that.

Societal expectations pressure us to return to normal ASAP, but it’s not realistic or helpful. Grief is, unfortunately, a journey with no finish line. You don’t get to “end” grief.

Does the death of a loved one continue to impact you for the rest of your life? Yes.

Does it help for you to pretend you’re “better,” ignoring your emotions and refusing further help and support? No.

Are there ways to make life livable again, despite continuing to feel the pain and loss? Yes.

If you’re grieving a loss and someone tells you (or even implies) that you should get over it, assume it’s meant with good intentions (they don’t want to see you suffering). Then take that sentiment and drop it in the trash. It’s not a healthy mindset.

Continue to grieve. Learn to live beside your loss.

#HisAndHearsePress #NationalGetOverItDay #GetOverIt #Death #Loss #Grief #GriefAndLoss #GriefSupport #GriefTips #BadAdvice

“Our loved ones may be nailed in a coffin but their epitaph is nailed in our hearts. Death cannot kill love.”

- Vincent Okay Nwachukwu

#HisAndHearsePress #Quote #Quotes #GriefQuotes #Grief #GriefAndLoss #Death #Love

“Often the grave encloses, unknowingly, two hearts in the same coffin.”

- Alphonse de Lamartine

#HisAndHearsePress #Grief #GriefAndLoss #GriefQuotes #Quotes #LiteraryQuotes #Funeral #Memorial #AlphonseDeLamartine

“I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.”

- J.R.R. Tolkien

#HisAndHearsePress #GriefQuotes #GriefAndLoss #LiteraryQuotes #Tolkien #JRRTolkien #LOTR #ReturnOfTheKing #Funeral #Cry #TheRoadGoesEverOnAndOn
#Bookwyrm #Bookstodon

#MondayMourning: 9 New Year's Resolutions for Grievers

Everyone around you is brimming with hope, inspiration, and vigor as we start a fresh, new year... but you're not feeling it. If you've suffered a loss, the new year may feel daunting instead of uplifting. Here are some ways to tackle it one day at a time:

(courtesy of "What's Your Grief" with some thoughts of mine mixed in)

1. Go easy on yourself - forget goals, time deadlines, and the pressure to return to normalcy quickly

2. Spend time with people you like - try not to withdraw into isolation, but it's okay to avoid unsupportive people

3. Engage in one hobby or activity that makes you feel good - anything you do for YOU will give you self satisfaction and an outlet for expression (bonus points for being physically active, though focus on the way movement makes your body and mind feel instead of adopting exercise as a weight loss regimen)

4. Be honest about how you feel - again, don't rush to return to normalcy and pretend that you're "better"

5. Speak your loved one's name - don't be shy or worried about saying their name; encourage others to say the name too (they might be avoiding it for fear of upsetting you - give them permission)

6. Embrace one of your loved one's values, hopes, or dreams - honor their legacy by continuing to pursue something they started or cared deeply about

7. Support someone else - of course you ought to wait until you're ready, but helping someone through their loss can be tremendously satisfying and show you how much you've progressed along your own grief journey

8. Plan opportunities for remembrance - from scholarships and 5ks to scrapbooks and journaling, you can continue to recognize and celebrate your loved one

9. Seek formal support - whether your loss was recent or not, you can choose to find a support group or counselor to help you get "unstuck" on your grief journey

Read the original article at https://whatsyourgrief.com/8-new-years-resolutions-for-grievers/ (and buy their amazing new book!)

#HisAndHearsePress #GriefAndLoss #GriefSupport #GriefTips #WhatsYourGrief #NewYear #NewYearsResolution #DeathPositive #GriefCounseling #GriefTherapy

First questionable decision of 2023: I stayed up til 2am to finish reading The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid. 😵‍💫 No regrets 😁

How have I not read this book already?! I enjoyed it much more than I thought I would. It went far beyond the typical Hollywood love affairs and paparazzi I expected. There were recurring themes of loss, disenfranchised grief, and assisted death, plus interracial and LGBTQ relationships despite spanning a few decades that weren’t notable for acceptance. The author really drew me in and compelled me to keep reading. I *may* have teared up a bit at the end. Very well done.

Have you read this one? What did you think?

#HisAndHearsePress #AmReading #JustFinished #JustFinishedReading #Books #NYTBestseller #GriefAndLoss #LGBTQ #BookRecommendation #BookRecs #Bookwyrm #Bookstodon #BooksOfMastodon

Not feeling it this year? That’s okay. You can take a raincheck on the holidays. You’re also allowed to enjoy the season and feel happiness, even if you think you shouldn’t. Does that make you feel guilty?That’s normal. You can feel conflicting emotions at the same. Want some tips on how to cope with grief during the holidays? Read this resource from What’s Your Grief:

https://whatsyourgrief.com/64-tips-grief-at-the-holidays/

#HisAndHearsePress #GriefAndLoss #Mourning #GriefTips #HolidayGrief #GriefSupport

#MondayMourning: Weeping Willow

Often found in cemeteries (planted or engraved on gravestones) and used to symbolize mourning. Their drooping branches evince sadness. Rain running down their leaves gives the appearance of crying.

They also represent adaptability and resilience. Their flexibility allows them to weather storms, and their hardiness helps them survive and regenerate. Also associated with resurrection, immortality, and life after death.

Note: There are additional interpretations of weeping willow symbolism. Asian cultures attach significance to the trees, and there are also a number of Biblical meanings. Tl;dr, weeping willows aren’t just for sadness and death!

#HisAndHearsePress #Symbolism #Cemetery #Gravestone #Engraving #WeepingWillow #Trees #Mourning #GriefAndLoss

“Sometimes, only one person is missing, and the whole world seems depopulated.”

- Alphonse De Lamartine

#HisAndHearsePress #Mourning #Death #Quotes #QuoteOfTheDay #FamousQuotes #GriefQuotes #GriefAndLoss #AlphonseDeLamartine