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DATE: July 27, 2026 at 06:00AM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: The psychology of jealousy: Study explores how perceived mate value is linked to relationship conflict
A recent study published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior suggests that how individuals perceive their own attractiveness and desirability compared to their romantic partners is linked to relationship tension. The findings indicate that feeling more replaceable than a primary partner tends to predict greater conflict and feelings of competition, regardless of whether the relationship is monogamous or open. However, people in consensually non-monogamous relationships who practice open communication and experience joy for their partner’s other romances tend to report less jealousy and conflict overall.
In relationship psychology, mate value refers to a person’s overall desirability as a romantic partner. This concept encompasses traits such as physical appearance, personality, social status, and access to resources. When partners evaluate each other, they often notice differences in these traits, which is known as a mate value discrepancy.
Past research shows that when people feel they have a lower mate value than their partner, they often feel insecure. They might worry about being replaced by someone more attractive or successful. This insecurity tends to trigger jealousy and behaviors aimed at guarding the partner from rivals, which psychologists call mate retention.
Most prior studies on this topic only looked at monogamous relationships. In monogamy, people expect to have only one partner at a time, which theoretically reduces competition. Consensually non-monogamous relationships operate quite differently, as partners explicitly agree that they can have romantic or sexual relationships with other people.
Because people in consensually non-monogamous relationships are openly exposed to their partner’s other partners, they might regularly observe differences in mate value. Faith Swanson, a researcher in the Department of Psychology at Texas State University and a prevention specialist at Cenikor Foundations, wanted to explore how these dynamics play out across different mating styles. The study was conducted under the supervision of Rhonda N. Balzarini, an assistant professor of psychology at Texas State University and an affiliated researcher at the Kinsey Institute.
“One thing that’s always fascinated me is that humans have a long history of flexible mating systems, but a lot of relationship research still focuses almost entirely on monogamy,” Swanson said. “We wanted to know whether the same evolutionary processes that shape jealousy, conflict, and mate guarding in monogamous couples also apply to consensually non-monogamous (CNM) relationships, or whether people adapt to those relationships in different ways.”
The researchers analyzed data from a final sample of 512 participants. This group included 312 individuals in monogamous relationships and 200 individuals in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Participants were recruited through social media advertisements and online forums. The sample was international, spanning 62 countries, though the majority of participants identified as white, female, and living in Europe or North America, with an average age of about 35 years old.
Participants completed online surveys regarding themselves and up to two current romantic partners. They answered questions to assess their own mate value and the mate value of each partner. To do this, they rated how difficult it would be to replace themselves or their partner on various domains, such as physical attractiveness, emotional stability, and financial resources.
The survey also measured the frequency of conflict with each partner. Participants reported their anticipated jealousy by rating how distressed they would feel if their partner became intimate with someone else. To measure mate retention, participants indicated how often they used specific tactics to keep their partner. Psychologists generally divide these into two categories: “benefit-provisioning” tactics, which are positive behaviors like giving gifts or showing love and care, and “cost-inflicting” tactics, which are negative behaviors like monopolizing the partner’s time or putting down competitors.
Another measure assessed intrasexual competitiveness, which is the tendency to view people of the same sex as rivals for romantic attention. Finally, participants in consensually non-monogamous relationships answered questions about specific relationship maintenance strategies. These strategies included disclosing attractions to others, discussing jealousy openly, establishing a partner hierarchy, and experiencing compersion. Compersion is defined as feeling joy or positive emotions when a partner is romantically or sexually involved with someone else. The survey also asked about structural practices, such as how partners distribute resources like time and money, their willingness to help raise a partner’s children, and their dedication to sexual health and safer sex practices.
The analysis revealed several nuanced patterns regarding how partners compare themselves to one another. “Across both monogamous and CNM relationships, people who perceived themselves as lower in mate value tended to report more conflict and greater competitiveness with potential rivals,” Swanson explained.
“From an evolutionary perspective, that makes sense,” Swanson added. “If someone feels more replaceable than their partner, they may become more sensitive to potential threats to the relationship because, ancestrally, losing a valuable partner could have had important reproductive or survival consequences.”
Some of the results challenged previous assumptions about primary partnerships. “One finding that surprised us was that mate value discrepancies did not consistently predict jealousy or mate retention in primary relationships, despite prior research suggesting they should,” Swanson noted. “Instead, the strongest and most consistent associations involved conflict and intrasexual competitiveness.”
The data provides evidence for a different pattern when looking at secondary partners in non-monogamous relationships. A secondary partner is typically someone with whom an individual has a less intertwined or newer relationship, compared to a primary partner.
“We were also intrigued that in CNM relationships, perceiving oneself as higher in mate value than a secondary partner was associated with greater conflict, jealousy, and mate retention,” Swanson told PsyPost. “This suggests that relationship dynamics may differ depending on whether someone is interacting with a primary or secondary partner, raising interesting questions for future research.”
The researchers suspect this happens because secondary relationships are often newer, less stable, and lack the established boundaries of a primary pair-bond. Without a deep history of conflict resolution, perceived differences in desirability might trigger frustration, especially if a highly desirable person feels entitled to a certain relationship quality or fears the unstable arrangement will fall apart.
Engaging in specific communication strategies was associated with reduced relationship tension. “At the same time, one of the encouraging findings was that mate value dynamics aren’t fixed,” Swanson said. “For example, in CNM relationships, practices like openly communicating about jealousy and discussing attractions to others were associated with less conflict and jealousy.”
“This suggests that while emotional processes like jealousy and competitiveness may have deep evolutionary roots influencing the ways in which we perceive relationship security, how we manage and integrate them are flexible and shaped by processes like communication, trust, and negotiation between partners,” she explained.
On the other hand, endorsing a partner hierarchy, which involves explicitly prioritizing one partner over others, was linked to more frequent conflict, increased jealousy, and higher rates of mate guarding. The scientists also found that high mate value individuals with multiple partners sometimes engaged in more positive mate retention, such as giving benefit-provisioning gifts or showing affection, to maintain their relationships.
The scientists also noted some differences between men and women, which may reflect different evolutionary mating strategies. For instance, men who perceived their own mate value as low were more likely to view other men as romantic competitors, likely because they feel a heightened need to compete for access to partners. In contrast, women in monogamous relationships reported more competitiveness when they perceived their partner as highly desirable. The researchers suggest that because women are often oriented toward long-term mating, they may fiercely guard a highly desirable partner to protect their established bond. Both men and women in non-monogamous relationships reported less sexual and possessive jealousy than their monogamous counterparts.
Readers should note that psychological factors do not exist in a vacuum. “Most of the effects were relatively modest, which is common in psychological research because human relationships are incredibly complex,” Swanson pointed out. “Mate value perceptions explained part of the picture, but certainly not all of it.”
“I’d think of mate value as one cue among many that people use to evaluate relationship security,” Swanson added. “Factors like communication, attachment style, trust, personality, and shared experiences are also incredibly important. Our findings suggest that mate value perceptions contribute to relationship dynamics, but they’re only one piece of a much larger puzzle.”
To prevent misinterpretations, the researchers emphasize the limits of their data. “A key point in the study is that participants’ perceptions of their own mate value were more strongly associated with conflict and intrasexual competitiveness than either their perceptions of a partner’s mate value, or the discrepancy between their two partners,” Swanson emphasized. “In other words, how someone perceives their own value explains more about conflict and competitiveness than how they perceive their partner(s).”
Because the research design was cross-sectional, it only captures a single snapshot in time. “It’s also important not to interpret these findings as causal,” she warned. “Because the study was cross-sectional, we can’t conclude that mate value perceptions lead to conflict or competition.”
“It’s equally possible that experiencing conflict or competition influences how people evaluate themselves and their partners, so future longitudinal research will be needed to untangle these relationships,” Swanson noted.
The sample size for analyzing secondary partners was also relatively small. Only 88 participants provided data for a second partner. This small sample limits the statistical power of those specific findings, meaning the results related to secondary partners should be replicated in larger groups.
“I’d love to continue exploring how evolved mating psychology interacts with modern relationship structures,” Swanson said of her future plans. “Humans have such flexible mating systems, and I think there’s so much we don’t understand about how evolved psychological mechanisms influence our relationships.”
“Moving forward, I’d like to conduct longitudinal research and collect data from both members of a couple, rather than relying on one partner’s perspective,” she added. This approach would capture reciprocal dynamics that exist between both people in a couple.
“I think one of the most important contributions of this work is that it expands relationship science beyond a monogamy-only perspective,” Swanson concluded. “Rather than assuming the same psychological processes operate identically across all relationships, our findings suggest that some mechanisms are shared, while others depend on relationship context and the ways partners manage challenges together.”
“Ultimately, the study reinforces that relationships, whether monogamous or consensually non-monogamous, are shaped not only by perceptions of mate value, but also by the communication and maintenance practices partners use to navigate them,” she said.
The study, “How Perceived Mate Value Discrepancies are Related to Jealousy, Mate Guarding, Intrasexual Competition, and Partner Conflict in Monogamous and Consensually Nonmonogamous Relationships,” was authored by Faith L. Swanson, Rhonda N. Balzarini, Justin K. Mogilski, and Taylor M. Himes.
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#psychology #counseling #socialwork #psychotherapy @psychotherapist @psychotherapists @psychology @socialpsych @socialwork @psychiatry #mentalhealth #psychiatry #healthcare #depression #psychotherapist #JealousyInRelationships #MateValue #CNMRelationships #RelationshipConflict #MateGuarding #IntrasexualCompetition #OpenCommunication #Compersion #RelationshipPsychology #EvolutionaryPsychology
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DATE: July 27, 2026 at 06:00AM
SOURCE: PSYPOST.ORG** Research quality varies widely from fantastic to small exploratory studies. Please check research methods when conclusions are very important to you. **
-------------------------------------------------TITLE: The psychology of jealousy: Study explores how perceived mate value is linked to relationship conflict
A recent study published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior suggests that how individuals perceive their own attractiveness and desirability compared to their romantic partners is linked to relationship tension. The findings indicate that feeling more replaceable than a primary partner tends to predict greater conflict and feelings of competition, regardless of whether the relationship is monogamous or open. However, people in consensually non-monogamous relationships who practice open communication and experience joy for their partner’s other romances tend to report less jealousy and conflict overall.
In relationship psychology, mate value refers to a person’s overall desirability as a romantic partner. This concept encompasses traits such as physical appearance, personality, social status, and access to resources. When partners evaluate each other, they often notice differences in these traits, which is known as a mate value discrepancy.
Past research shows that when people feel they have a lower mate value than their partner, they often feel insecure. They might worry about being replaced by someone more attractive or successful. This insecurity tends to trigger jealousy and behaviors aimed at guarding the partner from rivals, which psychologists call mate retention.
Most prior studies on this topic only looked at monogamous relationships. In monogamy, people expect to have only one partner at a time, which theoretically reduces competition. Consensually non-monogamous relationships operate quite differently, as partners explicitly agree that they can have romantic or sexual relationships with other people.
Because people in consensually non-monogamous relationships are openly exposed to their partner’s other partners, they might regularly observe differences in mate value. Faith Swanson, a researcher in the Department of Psychology at Texas State University and a prevention specialist at Cenikor Foundations, wanted to explore how these dynamics play out across different mating styles. The study was conducted under the supervision of Rhonda N. Balzarini, an assistant professor of psychology at Texas State University and an affiliated researcher at the Kinsey Institute.
“One thing that’s always fascinated me is that humans have a long history of flexible mating systems, but a lot of relationship research still focuses almost entirely on monogamy,” Swanson said. “We wanted to know whether the same evolutionary processes that shape jealousy, conflict, and mate guarding in monogamous couples also apply to consensually non-monogamous (CNM) relationships, or whether people adapt to those relationships in different ways.”
The researchers analyzed data from a final sample of 512 participants. This group included 312 individuals in monogamous relationships and 200 individuals in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Participants were recruited through social media advertisements and online forums. The sample was international, spanning 62 countries, though the majority of participants identified as white, female, and living in Europe or North America, with an average age of about 35 years old.
Participants completed online surveys regarding themselves and up to two current romantic partners. They answered questions to assess their own mate value and the mate value of each partner. To do this, they rated how difficult it would be to replace themselves or their partner on various domains, such as physical attractiveness, emotional stability, and financial resources.
The survey also measured the frequency of conflict with each partner. Participants reported their anticipated jealousy by rating how distressed they would feel if their partner became intimate with someone else. To measure mate retention, participants indicated how often they used specific tactics to keep their partner. Psychologists generally divide these into two categories: “benefit-provisioning” tactics, which are positive behaviors like giving gifts or showing love and care, and “cost-inflicting” tactics, which are negative behaviors like monopolizing the partner’s time or putting down competitors.
Another measure assessed intrasexual competitiveness, which is the tendency to view people of the same sex as rivals for romantic attention. Finally, participants in consensually non-monogamous relationships answered questions about specific relationship maintenance strategies. These strategies included disclosing attractions to others, discussing jealousy openly, establishing a partner hierarchy, and experiencing compersion. Compersion is defined as feeling joy or positive emotions when a partner is romantically or sexually involved with someone else. The survey also asked about structural practices, such as how partners distribute resources like time and money, their willingness to help raise a partner’s children, and their dedication to sexual health and safer sex practices.
The analysis revealed several nuanced patterns regarding how partners compare themselves to one another. “Across both monogamous and CNM relationships, people who perceived themselves as lower in mate value tended to report more conflict and greater competitiveness with potential rivals,” Swanson explained.
“From an evolutionary perspective, that makes sense,” Swanson added. “If someone feels more replaceable than their partner, they may become more sensitive to potential threats to the relationship because, ancestrally, losing a valuable partner could have had important reproductive or survival consequences.”
Some of the results challenged previous assumptions about primary partnerships. “One finding that surprised us was that mate value discrepancies did not consistently predict jealousy or mate retention in primary relationships, despite prior research suggesting they should,” Swanson noted. “Instead, the strongest and most consistent associations involved conflict and intrasexual competitiveness.”
The data provides evidence for a different pattern when looking at secondary partners in non-monogamous relationships. A secondary partner is typically someone with whom an individual has a less intertwined or newer relationship, compared to a primary partner.
“We were also intrigued that in CNM relationships, perceiving oneself as higher in mate value than a secondary partner was associated with greater conflict, jealousy, and mate retention,” Swanson told PsyPost. “This suggests that relationship dynamics may differ depending on whether someone is interacting with a primary or secondary partner, raising interesting questions for future research.”
The researchers suspect this happens because secondary relationships are often newer, less stable, and lack the established boundaries of a primary pair-bond. Without a deep history of conflict resolution, perceived differences in desirability might trigger frustration, especially if a highly desirable person feels entitled to a certain relationship quality or fears the unstable arrangement will fall apart.
Engaging in specific communication strategies was associated with reduced relationship tension. “At the same time, one of the encouraging findings was that mate value dynamics aren’t fixed,” Swanson said. “For example, in CNM relationships, practices like openly communicating about jealousy and discussing attractions to others were associated with less conflict and jealousy.”
“This suggests that while emotional processes like jealousy and competitiveness may have deep evolutionary roots influencing the ways in which we perceive relationship security, how we manage and integrate them are flexible and shaped by processes like communication, trust, and negotiation between partners,” she explained.
On the other hand, endorsing a partner hierarchy, which involves explicitly prioritizing one partner over others, was linked to more frequent conflict, increased jealousy, and higher rates of mate guarding. The scientists also found that high mate value individuals with multiple partners sometimes engaged in more positive mate retention, such as giving benefit-provisioning gifts or showing affection, to maintain their relationships.
The scientists also noted some differences between men and women, which may reflect different evolutionary mating strategies. For instance, men who perceived their own mate value as low were more likely to view other men as romantic competitors, likely because they feel a heightened need to compete for access to partners. In contrast, women in monogamous relationships reported more competitiveness when they perceived their partner as highly desirable. The researchers suggest that because women are often oriented toward long-term mating, they may fiercely guard a highly desirable partner to protect their established bond. Both men and women in non-monogamous relationships reported less sexual and possessive jealousy than their monogamous counterparts.
Readers should note that psychological factors do not exist in a vacuum. “Most of the effects were relatively modest, which is common in psychological research because human relationships are incredibly complex,” Swanson pointed out. “Mate value perceptions explained part of the picture, but certainly not all of it.”
“I’d think of mate value as one cue among many that people use to evaluate relationship security,” Swanson added. “Factors like communication, attachment style, trust, personality, and shared experiences are also incredibly important. Our findings suggest that mate value perceptions contribute to relationship dynamics, but they’re only one piece of a much larger puzzle.”
To prevent misinterpretations, the researchers emphasize the limits of their data. “A key point in the study is that participants’ perceptions of their own mate value were more strongly associated with conflict and intrasexual competitiveness than either their perceptions of a partner’s mate value, or the discrepancy between their two partners,” Swanson emphasized. “In other words, how someone perceives their own value explains more about conflict and competitiveness than how they perceive their partner(s).”
Because the research design was cross-sectional, it only captures a single snapshot in time. “It’s also important not to interpret these findings as causal,” she warned. “Because the study was cross-sectional, we can’t conclude that mate value perceptions lead to conflict or competition.”
“It’s equally possible that experiencing conflict or competition influences how people evaluate themselves and their partners, so future longitudinal research will be needed to untangle these relationships,” Swanson noted.
The sample size for analyzing secondary partners was also relatively small. Only 88 participants provided data for a second partner. This small sample limits the statistical power of those specific findings, meaning the results related to secondary partners should be replicated in larger groups.
“I’d love to continue exploring how evolved mating psychology interacts with modern relationship structures,” Swanson said of her future plans. “Humans have such flexible mating systems, and I think there’s so much we don’t understand about how evolved psychological mechanisms influence our relationships.”
“Moving forward, I’d like to conduct longitudinal research and collect data from both members of a couple, rather than relying on one partner’s perspective,” she added. This approach would capture reciprocal dynamics that exist between both people in a couple.
“I think one of the most important contributions of this work is that it expands relationship science beyond a monogamy-only perspective,” Swanson concluded. “Rather than assuming the same psychological processes operate identically across all relationships, our findings suggest that some mechanisms are shared, while others depend on relationship context and the ways partners manage challenges together.”
“Ultimately, the study reinforces that relationships, whether monogamous or consensually non-monogamous, are shaped not only by perceptions of mate value, but also by the communication and maintenance practices partners use to navigate them,” she said.
The study, “How Perceived Mate Value Discrepancies are Related to Jealousy, Mate Guarding, Intrasexual Competition, and Partner Conflict in Monogamous and Consensually Nonmonogamous Relationships,” was authored by Faith L. Swanson, Rhonda N. Balzarini, Justin K. Mogilski, and Taylor M. Himes.
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#psychology #counseling #socialwork #psychotherapy @psychotherapist @psychotherapists @psychology @socialpsych @socialwork @psychiatry #mentalhealth #psychiatry #healthcare #depression #psychotherapist #JealousyInRelationships #MateValue #CNMRelationships #RelationshipConflict #MateGuarding #IntrasexualCompetition #OpenCommunication #Compersion #RelationshipPsychology #EvolutionaryPsychology
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The etymology of compersion inculdes a reference to a Ouija board. 😂
(This is oddly narratively satisfying.)
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The etymology of compersion inculdes a reference to a Ouija board. 😂
(This is oddly narratively satisfying.)
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Nochmal zwei Begriffserklärungen.
Wer kennt's? Wer fühlt's?#NRE #NewRelationshipEnergy #compersion #Polyamorie #Polyamory #Beziehungen
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Compersión:
Es la alegría empática que sientes al ver a un ser querido (especialmente tu pareja) feliz, incluso cuando esa felicidad proviene de su relación o conexión con otra persona.
Algunas personas lo ven como lo opuesto a los celos; para mí es una emoción que se cultiva, por medio de la renuncia a ciertas narrativas dominantes.
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"Don't you ever feel lonely and jealous when your partner's out on a date and you're not?"
Haha, oh, my sweet summer child.
You underestimate what a treat it is to spend a night by myself, eating pizza bagels & watching Studio Ghibli, with absolutely no need to entertain anyone else.
Don't get me wrong -- I love my partners! But I love them a heck of a lot more when I get to be away from them sometimes.
Society expects us to live in each others' pockets, and to spend very little time alone. But for an introvert like me? Time all by myself, unobserved and unaccompanied, is an absolute necessity.
I love knowing that my more-extroverted partner is out getting their social needs met, while I'm having my delightful goblin-time.
#polyamory #dating #introvert #ambivert #SocialNeeds #compersion #queer
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"Don't you ever feel lonely and jealous when your partner's out on a date and you're not?"
Haha, oh, my sweet summer child.
You underestimate what a treat it is to spend a night by myself, eating pizza bagels & watching Studio Ghibli, with absolutely no need to entertain anyone else.
Don't get me wrong -- I love my partners! But I love them a heck of a lot more when I get to be away from them sometimes.
Society expects us to live in each others' pockets, and to spend very little time alone. But for an introvert like me? Time all by myself, unobserved and unaccompanied, is an absolute necessity.
I love knowing that my more-extroverted partner is out getting their social needs met, while I'm having my delightful goblin-time.
#polyamory #dating #introvert #ambivert #SocialNeeds #compersion #queer
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My partner had minor #surgery today and for me this was one of the more difficult experiences of being #poly. Sharing the privilege of caring for my partner, bringing her, fetching her, looking after her when she's back home, was hard. Seeing her being close with others or knowing that she shares intimacy with others was always a source of joy for me (#compersion ). Letting others in the #polycule have their moment in caring for her, was work. #polyamory #relationships
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"Why Open Relationships Are A Bad Idea — No Matter How Good They Sound"
I skimmed the article. The argument is mostly like this:
"I cannot generate compersion. Therefore, opening up a relationship would be torture for me, and thus, no one else can do it. Kthxbai!"
#polyamory #cnm #enm #nonmonogamy #compersion #mononormativity
https://worldcrunch.com/culture-society/open-relationships-mistake
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"Why Open Relationships Are A Bad Idea — No Matter How Good They Sound"
I skimmed the article. The argument is mostly like this:
"I cannot generate compersion. Therefore, opening up a relationship would be torture for me, and thus, no one else can do it. Kthxbai!"
#polyamory #cnm #enm #nonmonogamy #compersion #mononormativity
https://worldcrunch.com/culture-society/open-relationships-mistake
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New #book What Is #Compersion ?
Understanding #Positive #Empathy in Consensually #Non-Monogamous Relationships
Marie Thouin #Polyamory #OpenRelationships https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781538183953/What-Is-Compersion-Understanding-Positive-Empathy-in-Consensually-Non-Monogamous-Relationships -
https://doi.org/10.22613/zfpp/10.2.8 „bereichert nicht nur unser Verständnis von Compersion, sondern trägt auch zum Gelingen aller Arten von Beziehungen bei.“ Das Paper »Compersion in nicht-monogamen Beziehungen – eine buddhistische Perspektive« ist sehr lesenswert. #compersion #buddhismus #polyamorie #emotionen #beziehungen #nichtmonogam #eifersucht #dieviergöttlichenverweilzustände #ethik
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I'm far too fascinated with far too many topics. I've compiled an exhaustive list of hashtags for some of those interests; I'll try to do better about keeping it current and updated.
#ADHD #AdoptDontShop #Antifa #AntiNarcissism #Apatheist #BasicIncome #Bioswales #Bisexual #BLM #BorderCollies #BPD #Cannabis #CatsofMastodon #ClimateChange #Comedy #Compersion #Cooperatives #DadJokes #DBT #Debian #Democracy #Democrat #DemocraticSocialism #Depression #DisposablePeople #DogsofMastodon #EatTheRich #ElderMillenial #Empathy #EndCorporateWelfare #Equality #ExcessiveHashtags #ExecutiveDisfunction #FBR #GallowsHumor #History #Humanist #HumanRights #IStandWithUkraine #JusticeMatters #LegalizeIt #LGBTQ+ #LiberalAF #Linux #LoveIsLove #MaskUp #MentalIllness #MutualAid #NonSequiturs #Persist #Polyamory #ProChoice #Progressive #ProudWoke #Puns #Resist #Solidarity #Spaceballs #TwitterMigration #UBI #UnionStrong #USA #USPol #Vaccinated #VoteBlue #VotingRights #WeirdoLib #Weltschmerz #WokeAF #Xennial
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I'm far too fascinated with far too many topics. I've compiled an exhaustive list of hashtags for some of those interests; I'll try to do better about keeping it current and updated.
#ADHD #AdoptDontShop #Antifa #AntiNarcissism #Apatheist #BasicIncome #Bioswales #Bisexual #BLM #BorderCollies #BPD #Cannabis #CatsofMastodon #ClimateChange #Comedy #Compersion #Cooperatives #DadJokes #DBT #Debian #Democracy #Democrat #DemocraticSocialism #Depression #DisposablePeople #DogsofMastodon #EatTheRich #ElderMillenial #Empathy #EndCorporateWelfare #Equality #ExcessiveHashtags #ExecutiveDisfunction #FBR #GallowsHumor #History #Humanist #HumanRights #IStandWithUkraine #JusticeMatters #LegalizeIt #LGBTQ+ #LiberalAF #Linux #LoveIsLove #MaskUp #MentalIllness #MutualAid #NonSequiturs #Persist #Polyamory #ProChoice #Progressive #ProudWoke #Puns #Resist #Solidarity #Spaceballs #TwitterMigration #UBI #UnionStrong #USA #USPol #Vaccinated #VoteBlue #VotingRights #WeirdoLib #Weltschmerz #WokeAF #Xennial
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I'm really freaking fortunate to have both a wonderful boyfriend and a wonderful husband, both of whom get along with each other with respect and camaraderie. My cup is full right now. What fills your cup?
#PolyGoals #ENM #Poly #Compersion #Polycule #Happiness #Gratitude
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I'm really freaking fortunate to have both a wonderful boyfriend and a wonderful husband, both of whom get along with each other with respect and camaraderie. My cup is full right now. What fills your cup?
#PolyGoals #ENM #Poly #Compersion #Polycule #Happiness #Gratitude
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Two popular DIY NAS operating systems: TrueNAS (formerly FreeNAS) & Unraid.
Both support virtualization and containers
Unraid requires a paid license (one-time purchase)
TrueNAS Scale is better suited for distributed storage.
More: https://cybertalk.io/en/unraid-vs-freenas/
#homeserver #server #Homese#digitalisierung #compersion #unraid #truenas #Server #homeserver #server #Homese#digitalisierung #compersion #unraid #truenas #Server -
Two popular DIY NAS operating systems: TrueNAS (formerly FreeNAS) & Unraid.
Both support virtualization and containers
Unraid requires a paid license (one-time purchase)
TrueNAS Scale is better suited for distributed storage.
More: https://cybertalk.io/en/unraid-vs-freenas/
#homeserver #server #Homese#digitalisierung #compersion #unraid #truenas #Server #homeserver #server #Homese#digitalisierung #compersion #unraid #truenas #Server -
Asking on behalf of a friend who's not on Mastodon (this seems like a safe space):
"Asking for advice: any nonmonogamists out there who could give me (I'm demi, my life partner is pan) advice and resources? Partner is exploring, I'm not."
#multiamory #enm #ethicalnonmonogamy #nonmonogamy #monogamish #polyamory #jealousy #compersion #demisexual #pansexual
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Member of the #AcadémieFrançaise complains about #English loan words and the consequences for #French society of the loss of the ancient French word "compersion" (in fact an English word invented in the 1970s)
https://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?p=59056
"And it's indeed ironic for a luminary of l'Académie Française to argue, by implication, that the remedy for the French nation's collapse is polyamory."
#compersion #polyamory #language #standards #LanguagePreservation #globalisme
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Member of the #AcadémieFrançaise complains about #English loan words and the consequences for #French society of the loss of the ancient French word "compersion" (in fact an English word invented in the 1970s)
https://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?p=59056
"And it's indeed ironic for a luminary of l'Académie Française to argue, by implication, that the remedy for the French nation's collapse is polyamory."
#compersion #polyamory #language #standards #LanguagePreservation #globalisme
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CW: Questions about polyamory
@rudie for me, as someone with a lot of anxious attachment issues as a result of trauma, I should emphasise that jealousy still exists within #polyamory, and there's no constructive point in trying to deny or demonise it. What helps me is to recontextualise how I view #romantic and/or #sexual #relationships - we aren't (generally) forced to restrict ourselves to one friend or family member, throughout our lives we learn that everyone has multiple loved ones and that each relationship offers unique benefits and outcomes for all the involved parties. And so, we learn to overcome jealousy by living and connecting within our means and being transparent about our feelings, limitations and boundaries, sharing our friends and family members with a wider community, trusting them to make our loved ones happy in ways we cannot.
As soon as I was confronted with the question "why should romantic/sexual relationships be any different?" I realised they don't - jealousy is rooted in self-insecurity and the resulting dishonesty/distrust, and so navigating your relationships to work honestly within you and your partner(s)' limits frees up a lot of the pressure which monogamy places on one person to be "everything" to another. Trust your partner(s) like you do your friends and family, and it can go a long way to turn jealousy into #compersion 💚 #polyam
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CW: Questions about polyamory
@rudie for me, as someone with a lot of anxious attachment issues as a result of trauma, I should emphasise that jealousy still exists within #polyamory, and there's no constructive point in trying to deny or demonise it. What helps me is to recontextualise how I view #romantic and/or #sexual #relationships - we aren't (generally) forced to restrict ourselves to one friend or family member, throughout our lives we learn that everyone has multiple loved ones and that each relationship offers unique benefits and outcomes for all the involved parties. And so, we learn to overcome jealousy by living and connecting within our means and being transparent about our feelings, limitations and boundaries, sharing our friends and family members with a wider community, trusting them to make our loved ones happy in ways we cannot.
As soon as I was confronted with the question "why do romantic/sexual relationships have to be any different?" I realised they don't - jealousy is rooted in self-insecurity and the resulting dishonesty/distrust, and so navigating your relationships to work honestly within you and your partner(s)' limits frees up a lot of the pressure which monogamy places on one person to be "everything" to another. Trust your partner(s) like you do your friends and family, and it can go a long way to turn jealousy into #compersion 💚 #polyam
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#Polyamory might not be for everyone but the skills you learn are.
#communication, #consent, #compersion (and many more) -
#ADHD #AdoptDontShop #Antifa #AntiNarcissism #Apatheist #BasicIncome #Bioswales #Bisexual #BLM #BorderCollies #BPD #Cannabis #CatsofMastodon #ClimateChange #Comedy #Compersion #Cooperatives #DadJokes #DBT #Debian #Democracy #Democrat #DemocraticSocialism #Depression #DisposablePeople #DogsofMastodon #EatTheRich #ElderMillenial #Empathy #EndCorporateWelfare #Equality #ExcessiveHashtags #ExecutiveDisfunction #FBR #GallowsHumor #History #Humanist #HumanRights #IStandWithUkraine #JusticeMatters #LegalizeIt #LGBTQ+ #LiberalAF #Linux #LoveIsLove #MaskUp #MentalIllness #MutualAid #NonSequiturs #Persist #Polyamory #ProChoice #Progressive #ProudWoke #Puns #Resist #Solidarity #Spaceballs #SubstackAuthor #TwitterMigration #UBI #UnionStrong #USA #USPol #Vaccinated #VoteBlue #VotingRights #WeirdoLib #Weltschmerz #WokeAF #Xennial
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#ADHD #AdoptDontShop #Antifa #AntiNarcissism #Apatheist #BasicIncome #Bioswales #Bisexual #BLM #BorderCollies #BPD #Cannabis #CatsofMastodon #ClimateChange #Comedy #Compersion #Cooperatives #DadJokes #DBT #Debian #Democracy #Democrat #DemocraticSocialism #Depression #DisposablePeople #DogsofMastodon #EatTheRich #ElderMillenial #Empathy #EndCorporateWelfare #Equality #ExcessiveHashtags #ExecutiveDisfunction #FBR #GallowsHumor #History #Humanist #HumanRights #IStandWithUkraine #JusticeMatters #LegalizeIt #LGBTQ+ #LiberalAF #Linux #LoveIsLove #MaskUp #MentalIllness #MutualAid #NonSequiturs #Persist #Polyamory #ProChoice #Progressive #ProudWoke #Puns #Resist #Solidarity #Spaceballs #SubstackAuthor #TwitterMigration #UBI #UnionStrong #USA #USPol #Vaccinated #VoteBlue #VotingRights #WeirdoLib #Weltschmerz #WokeAF #Xennial
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Finding #compersion in your #polyamory journey can be hard. Some people can even think that it's impossible and that they will never be able to get over their feelings of jealousy and possessiveness.
However, that's not true. Sometimes, compersion strikes when you least expect it.
https://www.discoveringpolyamory.com/blog/how-to-find-compersion-in-polyamory
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@TNLNYC
Ooo, I love that word as well as the Buddhist term #Mudita
and #Compersion; which have similar meanings. Yup agreed that it seems #Mastodon seems to embody them!
