#ethicalnonmonogamy — Public Fediverse posts

@jasmine @navi
> non-ethical monogamy?

I've heard that's quite a popular choice.

#poly
#polyamory
#ethicalnonmonogamy

Okay poly people. What's your dream polycule? I'll go first. Haha
The entire cast of Sense8. 🤣
#polyamory #enm #ethicalNonMonogamy #relationships #love #sense8

Age: 21+ Open relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all—and they’re definitely not just about sex.
Read full article here: https://afterdarktreasures.com/blogs/relationship-advice/is-an-open-relationship-right-for-you-a-honest-modern-guide

Read the full guide exclusively on After Dark Treasures and share it with someone who’s curious..

#OpenRelationships #EthicalNonMonogamy #PolyamoryLife #ModernLove #SexPositiveEducation #RelationshipGoals #CommunicationMatters #AfterDarkTreasures #IntimacyExplored #AdultWellness #SexualFreedom #LoveWithoutLimits #RelationshipEducation #throuple #LGBTQ

Age: 21+ Open relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all—and they’re definitely not just about sex.
Read full article here: https://afterdarktreasures.com/blogs/relationship-advice/is-an-open-relationship-right-for-you-a-honest-modern-guide

Read the full guide exclusively on After Dark Treasures and share it with someone who’s curious..

#OpenRelationships #EthicalNonMonogamy #PolyamoryLife #ModernLove #SexPositiveEducation #RelationshipGoals #CommunicationMatters #AfterDarkTreasures #IntimacyExplored #AdultWellness #SexualFreedom #LoveWithoutLimits #RelationshipEducation #throuple #LGBTQ

Age: 21+ Open relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all—and they’re definitely not just about sex.
Read full article here: https://afterdarktreasures.com/blogs/relationship-advice/is-an-open-relationship-right-for-you-a-honest-modern-guide

Read the full guide exclusively on After Dark Treasures and share it with someone who’s curious..

#OpenRelationships #EthicalNonMonogamy #PolyamoryLife #ModernLove #SexPositiveEducation #RelationshipGoals #CommunicationMatters #AfterDarkTreasures #IntimacyExplored #AdultWellness #SexualFreedom #LoveWithoutLimits #RelationshipEducation #throuple #LGBTQ

You know what would probably blow the mind of your average monogamist? Asexual polyamory people. The next time someone finds out I'm poly and jumps right to talking about sex and threesomes, I'm going to bring up that counterexample and let them sit with what that says about their ideas of love and relationships.
#polyamory #lgbtqia #asexuality #ace #monogamy #ENM #ethicalNonmonogamy #poly #lgbtq #queer

Ich jetzt meine Beziehungsberatungs-Website übersetzt und freue mich über Anfragen und Weiterverbreitung

I have translated my relationship counseling website, look forward to enquiries and would be happy for people to spread the word

• Deutsch: katharina-debus.de/beziehungsb…
• English: katharina-debus.de/relationshi…

Ich biete Beziehungsberatung in Berlin und online für alle Geschlechterkonstellationen und alle einvernehmlichen Lebensweisen, Beziehungsmodelle und Sexualitäten. Wichtig ist mir, nicht mit Schablonen einer ‚guten‘ oder ‚richtigen‘ Beziehung zu arbeiten – weder entlang gesamtgesellschaftlicher Normalitätsvorstellungen noch entlang von Community-Normen –, sondern Umgangsweisen zu entwickeln, die zu den beteiligten Menschen passen. Mein Ziel ist die Unterstützung hin zu Beziehungen, die allen Beteiligten guttun und auch mit Herausforderungen umgehen können. Dabei arbeite ich vielfaltsorientiert, diskriminierungsreflektiert und herrschaftskritisch/machtkritisch.

I offer relationship counseling in Berlin and online for all gender constellations and all consensual relationship models and sexualities. Rather than working with templates of ‘good’ or ‘right’ relationships—either based on societal or community norms—I aim to support you to co-create approaches that correspond to your individual wishes, needs, and boundaries. My goal is to assist in fostering relationships that are beneficial to all involved and can also handle challenges. In this process, I appreciate diversity and strive to take into account and mitigate effects of discrimination, inequality and power imbalances on relationships.

#Beziehungsberatung #RelationshipCounseling #paarberatung #Paartherapie #couples-counseling #couples-therapy #bedürfnisorientiert #GeschlechtlicheVielfalt #SexuelleVielfalt #RomantischeVielfalt #queerinklusiv #queersensibel #queer #Beziehungsvielfalt #genderdiversity #sexualdiversity #romanticdiversity #relationshipdiversity #vielfaltsorientiert #Polyamorie #polyamory #ethischeNichtmonogamie #EthicalNonMonogamy #kink-aware #kinksensibel #kinkinklusiv #kinkinclusive #infektionsschutzsensibel #CovidCautious #diskriminierungssensibel #transinklusiv #geschlechterreflektiert #herrschaftskritisch #machtkritisch

Experienced #Polyamorous people of the Fedi, I need some #advice and #support. #Poly newb here; please be honest but gentle.

An incredibly cute and lovely human and fellow student has walked into my life, and I am verry much smitten. We're just getting to know each other and feeling out the vibes. With that being said, if things go the way I'd like them to, I want to ask them out with every fiber of my being. that means they'll have to find out I'm poly at some point, and that scares the hell out of me because what if that blows up my chances or otherwise backfires? I know it's stupid and that this is the chance you take, but still... makes my stomach squirm. Also, worth mentioning that for my own safety, the people around me do not know that I am poly.

So, my question is: how do y'all gage whether or not potential love interests are open to polyamory without being obvious about it? Any subtle hints or questions I could drop to feel things out so to speak? Would rather not get my hopes up too much. Or, am I thinking/going about this the entirely wrong way? Again, any advice or support would be fantastic.

#ENN #ethicalnonmonogamy

I just filled out this (unpaid) survey for OPEN, which is a polyamory advocacy organization! It took me 12 minutes. The survey description says they expect it to take 20-30 minutes, which makes sense - I'm fast at answering surveys.

Here is the link they told me to give people, which seems to tell them you were referred by a participant, but not which one: https://chapmanu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3qvDjh6xlTrjEZE?Source=participant

And here is a link with all tracking removed: https://chapmanu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3qvDjh6xlTrjEZE

#Polyamory #EthicalNonMonogamy

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I want to find my people around here. Follow me if you relate to these hashtags and I will follow you back.

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Yvonne Rorrer Declares Herself Ethically Non-Monogamous

Good for her, and for those of us who are also into ethical non-monogamy.

I have never heard of Yvonne Rorrer until Stephen Colbert talked about her on The Late Show last night. I know she is a Democrat, but I don’t know more about her political positions. At any rate, it is a good thing that she declared herself ethically non-monogamous in a statement. I’m not saying that she came out because I got from a Huffington Post article that she was already out.

Colbert talked about her as a swinger. Mainstream media often does such a piss-poor job at reporting about things they do not understand that I was wondering whether swinger was her expression, or whether the journalists jumped the gun, and assumed. The Huffington Post article I link to above confirms it is her expression.

Ethical non-monogamy is a large umbrella term. Swinging falls under this umbrella, and so does polyamory. (I am polyamorous.) In all cases, of ethical non-monogamy, the assumption is that everyone involved knows what is going on. Ethically non-monogamous people do not hide one relationship from another.

One thing irritated me in Colbert’s talk about Rorrer. It came across to me as mononormative. Colbert said,

She might be one of those people who thinks everybody wants to hear about their thing.

😩 Why did he need to go there? Why?

Colbert, like the majority of our population, monogamous, and straight. People will assume, correctly, those two characteristics about him. When people run into someone like me, or like Rorrer, they make the same assumptions, and they are wrong. We are both ethically non-monogamous. I am because I’m polyamorous. Rorrer is because she is a swinger. I’m moreover not straight, because I’m pansexual. I don’t know about Rorrer’s sexual orientation.

We do not talk about our ethical non-monogamy because we think that everybody wants to hear about it. We talk about it to normalize it, and because some people will benefit from it. In a world where monogamous people are in the majority, we who are ethically non-monogamous are assumed to be monogamous too. That is, until we tell people otherwise.

I’m open, too, about all kinds of things. I cannot count the number of times when, after being open about being pansexual, polyamorous, or autistic, I had a nice chat with someone else who was in a similar situation. This discussion would not have happened if I had not been open about my identity.

Please do not assume that when someone is in a minority group that, when they are being open about their identity, their intent is to shove their business into your face.

#AutisticWriters #EthicalNonMonogamy #polyamory #SexualMinorities #StephenColbert #swinging #TheLateShow #YourAutisticLife #YvonneRorrer

Just ended a three hour video chat with my boys. I know I'm high on New Relationship Energy™ but the number of times we all had the urge to jump through the screen to hug each other is... A lot of times! This is my first time trying to make a long distance relationship work. Largely because before I don't think I had the maturity and, let's face it, the financial means to make it viable. We just made plans for them to come in June for my birthday. 🥰
#polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #love

Ever since returning back from the Netherlands, I've been so happy. I feel like one of those cartoon characters that floats around and sings because they're lovestruck.
Well, pushing aside about 24 hours of missing them.... (Me? Miss someone? That's rarely ever happened and was a very new experience!)
Just got time off and a ticket to go back at the end of March.
(Please bear with me. 🙃)
#love #polyamory #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer #enm #ethicalnonmonogamy #gay #gaymen #crush

What an amazing week and some change with these guys... Sometimes when you least expect it, amazing people come (back) into your life and despite the hurdles, you've got to seize the moment and do what you can. Counting the days till I can go back and see my boys next month. ☘️
#polyamory #love #friends #enm #ethicalnonmonogamy #gay #queer #lgbtqia #lgbtq #gaymen

I've had the most amazing polyaffirmative weekend. Exactly what the doctor ordered. Hung out with an old, dear friend that I love immensely and his situationship. We all felt something special immediately.
Cuddle puddles, compersion and connection. ❤️❤️❤️
#polyamory #love #friends #enm #ethicalnonmonogamy #gay #queer #lgbtqia #lgbtq #gaymen

3/3 These are just examples, and your own patterns will likely be very different - and even more important.

#enm #poly #polyam #polyamfam #polyamory #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #polyamorytiktok #polyamoryawareness #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #openmarriage #queer #lgbtq #polycule #kitchentablepoly #therapy #therapytok #counsellor #counselling #counsellorsoftiktok #ukcounsellor #queertherapist #relationships

Anyone else crying their eyes out because you had to break up with a guy for his own good, because he couldn't be polyaccepting anymore than you could be monogamous? I've had so much else going on in my life that I think it's only a month after that I can do my grievance. I'm a mess tonight. We really love(d) each other and tried so hard.
#love #breakup #polyamory #polyamorist #ethicalnonmonogamy #enm #monogamy #relationships #humans #mentalhealth

When someone asks me to describe my newest boyfriend

#discoelysium #polyamory #cryptid #cryptozoology #humor #funny #videogames #ethicalnonmonogamy #rpg

Things I've learned from spending the morning on Relationship Tok:

*Folks are obsessed with controlling their partners. Their dress. Their behavior. Their time. Their other relationships.

*People do not like boundaries or wouldn't recognize a boundary if it sat up and said, No thanks.

*Most folks learned this crap in their own families and get really upset when told it's unhealthy and problematic.

*The youth are expert in this controlling relationship crap out the gate -- which is gross and alarming.

*Respectability rules in relationships are a tool of social control and it's typically gendered.

*Folks are afraid of freedom. Their own and their partner's.

I don't want to control my partners. (First, that's exhausting as hell. I ain't got time for that.) They are free. I am free. Freedom is great for everyone.

God I'm so glad that I put in the time over the past 4 years to unlearn and unpack that toxic, controlling shit.

Yay me!

#SoPo #ENM #ethicalnonmonogamy

Things I've learned from spending the morning on Relationship Tok:

*Folks are obsessed with controlling their partners. Their dress. Their behavior. Their time. Their other relationships.

*People do not like boundaries or wouldn't recognize a boundary if it sat up and said, No thanks.

*Most folks learned this crap in their own families and get really upset when told it's unhealthy and problematic.

*The youth are expert in this controlling relationship crap out the gate -- which is gross and alarming.

*Respectability rules in relationships are a tool of social control and it's typically gendered.

*Folks are afraid of freedom. Their own and their partner's.

I don't want to control my partners. (First, that's exhausting as hell. I ain't got time for that.) They are free. I am free. Freedom is great for everyone.

God I'm so glad that I put in the time over the past 4 years to unlearn and unpack that toxic, controlling shit.

Yay me!

#SoPo #ENM #ethicalnonmonogamy

Things I've learned from spending the morning on Relationship Tok:

*Folks are obsessed with controlling their partners. Their dress. Their behavior. Their time. Their other relationships.

*People do not like boundaries or wouldn't recognize a boundary if it sat up and said, No thanks.

*Most folks learned this crap in their own families and get really upset when told it's unhealthy and problematic.

*The youth are expert in this controlling relationship crap out the gate -- which is gross and alarming.

*Respectability rules in relationships are a tool of social control and it's typically gendered.

*Folks are afraid of freedom. Their own and their partner's.

I don't want to control my partners. (First, that's exhausting as hell. I ain't got time for that.) They are free. I am free. Freedom is great for everyone.

God I'm so glad that I put in the time over the past 4 years to unlearn and unpack that toxic, controlling shit.

Yay me!

#SoPo #ENM #ethicalnonmonogamy

Things I've learned from spending the morning on Relationship Tok:

*Folks are obsessed with controlling their partners. Their dress. Their behavior. Their time. Their other relationships.

*People do not like boundaries or wouldn't recognize a boundary if it sat up and said, No thanks.

*Most folks learned this crap in their own families and get really upset when told it's unhealthy and problematic.

*The youth are expert in this controlling relationship crap out the gate -- which is gross and alarming.

*Respectability rules in relationships are a tool of social control and it's typically gendered.

*Folks are afraid of freedom. Their own and their partner's.

I don't want to control my partners. (First, that's exhausting as hell. I ain't got time for that.) They are free. I am free. Freedom is great for everyone.

God I'm so glad that I put in the time over the past 4 years to unlearn and unpack that toxic, controlling shit.

Yay me!

#SoPo #ENM #ethicalnonmonogamy

Things I've learned from spending the morning on Relationship Tok:

*Folks are obsessed with controlling their partners. Their dress. Their behavior. Their time. Their other relationships.

*People do not like boundaries or wouldn't recognize a boundary if it sat up and said, No thanks.

*Most folks learned this crap in their own families and get really upset when told it's unhealthy and problematic.

*The youth are expert in this controlling relationship crap out the gate -- which is gross and alarming.

*Respectability rules in relationships are a tool of social control and it's typically gendered.

*Folks are afraid of freedom. Their own and their partner's.

I don't want to control my partners. (First, that's exhausting as hell. I ain't got time for that.) They are free. I am free. Freedom is great for everyone.

God I'm so glad that I put in the time over the past 4 years to unlearn and unpack that toxic, controlling shit.

Yay me!

#SoPo #ENM #ethicalnonmonogamy

Every time I meet someone who's "unsuccessfully" #poly (can't find anyone to #date, can't find anyone interested in more than hookups and one-night-stands, #relationships always fizzle as soon as the #NRE dies, or only ever winds up in bad/abusive relationships that end messily), it's the same few basic problems.

Toxic #mononormativity.

Toxic #masculinity.

Toxic #heteronormativity.

#Sexism.

People who find #polyamory "easy" are the ones who have already faced these problems and named them. They might not have properly *solved* all those issues yet (goodness knows even I sometimes hide for safety behind some #passing-privilege and let people make #heteromononormative #assumptions about me, and I've been out-and-proud #non-monogamous for decades). But if you're finding #EthicalNonMonogamy difficult, it's probably one (or a combination) of those issues. And if more seasoned poly-folk roll their eyes at you and don't take the time to explain it, it's because we've heard it literally hundreds of times before.

Which doesn't make you bad, or stupid, or even unsuited to being non-monogamous. It just means you're still early in the journey, and can't progress until you do some work.

Every time I meet someone who's "unsuccessfully" #poly (can't find anyone to #date, can't find anyone interested in more than hookups and one-night-stands, #relationships always fizzle as soon as the #NRE dies, or only ever winds up in bad/abusive relationships that end messily), it's the same few basic problems.

Toxic #mononormativity.

Toxic #masculinity.

Toxic #heteronormativity.

#Sexism.

People who find #polyamory "easy" are the ones who have already faced these problems and named them. They might not have properly *solved* all those issues yet (goodness knows even I sometimes hide for safety behind some #passing-privilege and let people make #heteromononormative #assumptions about me, and I've been out-and-proud #non-monogamous for decades). But if you're finding #EthicalNonMonogamy difficult, it's probably one (or a combination) of those issues. And if more seasoned poly-folk roll their eyes at you and don't take the time to explain it, it's because we've heard it literally hundreds of times before.

Which doesn't make you bad, or stupid, or even unsuited to being non-monogamous. It just means you're still early in the journey, and can't progress until you do some work.

Every time I meet someone who's "unsuccessfully" #poly (can't find anyone to #date, can't find anyone interested in more than hookups and one-night-stands, #relationships always fizzle as soon as the #NRE dies, or only ever winds up in bad/abusive relationships that end messily), it's the same few basic problems.

Toxic #mononormativity.

Toxic #masculinity.

Toxic #heteronormativity.

#Sexism.

People who find #polyamory "easy" are the ones who have already faced these problems and named them. They might not have properly *solved* all those issues yet (goodness knows even I sometimes hide for safety behind some #passing-privilege and let people make #heteromononormative #assumptions about me, and I've been out-and-proud #non-monogamous for decades). But if you're finding #EthicalNonMonogamy difficult, it's probably one (or a combination) of those issues. And if more seasoned poly-folk roll their eyes at you and don't take the time to explain it, it's because we've heard it literally hundreds of times before.

Which doesn't make you bad, or stupid, or even unsuited to being non-monogamous. It just means you're still early in the journey, and can't progress until you do some work.

Every time I meet someone who's "unsuccessfully" #poly (can't find anyone to #date, can't find anyone interested in more than hookups and one-night-stands, #relationships always fizzle as soon as the #NRE dies, or only ever winds up in bad/abusive relationships that end messily), it's the same few basic problems.

Toxic #mononormativity.

Toxic #masculinity.

Toxic #heteronormativity.

#Sexism.

People who find #polyamory "easy" are the ones who have already faced these problems and named them. They might not have properly *solved* all those issues yet (goodness knows even I sometimes hide for safety behind some #passing-privilege and let people make #heteromononormative #assumptions about me, and I've been out-and-proud #non-monogamous for decades). But if you're finding #EthicalNonMonogamy difficult, it's probably one (or a combination) of those issues. And if more seasoned poly-folk roll their eyes at you and don't take the time to explain it, it's because we've heard it literally hundreds of times before.

Which doesn't make you bad, or stupid, or even unsuited to being non-monogamous. It just means you're still early in the journey, and can't progress until you do some work.

Every time I meet someone who's "unsuccessfully" #poly (can't find anyone to #date, can't find anyone interested in more than hookups and one-night-stands, #relationships always fizzle as soon as the #NRE dies, or only ever winds up in bad/abusive relationships that end messily), it's the same few basic problems.

Toxic #mononormativity.

Toxic #masculinity.

Toxic #heteronormativity.

#Sexism.

People who find #polyamory "easy" are the ones who have already faced these problems and named them. They might not have properly *solved* all those issues yet (goodness knows even I sometimes hide for safety behind some #passing-privilege and let people make #heteromononormative #assumptions about me, and I've been out-and-proud #non-monogamous for decades). But if you're finding #EthicalNonMonogamy difficult, it's probably one (or a combination) of those issues. And if more seasoned poly-folk roll their eyes at you and don't take the time to explain it, it's because we've heard it literally hundreds of times before.

Which doesn't make you bad, or stupid, or even unsuited to being non-monogamous. It just means you're still early in the journey, and can't progress until you do some work.

Got a sore throat. Partner thinks it's because I made out with one of my dates. We go into yellow alert and started talking about getting vaccinations and STI checks. It's kinda difficult to find information specific for the non-monogamous.

So asking #Polyamorous #EthicalNonMonogamy #RelationshipAnarchy #Polyamory #RelationshipAnarchist #SexualHealth #SexPositive folks, what are the preventative health measures and checks I should do before I start getting sexually active with multiple people?

(Apart from fundamental things like using condoms, oral dams, contraceptive pills and the like)

Asking on behalf of a friend who's not on Mastodon (this seems like a safe space):

"Asking for advice: any nonmonogamists out there who could give me (I'm demi, my life partner is pan) advice and resources? Partner is exploring, I'm not."

#multiamory #enm #ethicalnonmonogamy #nonmonogamy #monogamish #polyamory #jealousy #compersion #demisexual #pansexual

Happy #polyamoryday #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #morethantwo #marriedandlooking

Yeah okay, let’s do an #introduction thread.

🔴#QUEER #ENM #TRANSGENDER: more specifically, I am #pansexual, #nonbinary, and like being called an #enby. I subscribe to #ethicalnonmonogamy and align with #relationshipanarchy

🟠#DISABLED #NEURODIVERGENT: I’m designated a #personwithdisabilities #pwd in #britishcolumbia #mentalillnessdepression #anxiety #socialanxietydisorder #ocd #bipolartype2 #bpd and ND with #adhd diagnosed and #autism suspected (cuz who can afford the $3k diagnosis?)

My #introduction should probably also say that I love #humour #cooking #news #theoreticalphysics #psychology #counseling #sextherapy #biblicalscholarship #witchcraft #neopaganism #EcologicalEconomy #sacramentalism #SocialHousing #SocialLandTrusts #democraticsocialism #politics #SexWorkers #erotica #spiritualism #spirituality #psychic #mediumship #freethinking #ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #bisexuality #LGBTIQ2+ liberation, and #gnostic thought, and I’ve also read the #ethicalslut.

Proper #introduction toot.

I'm Anton, I live in #lyttelton , a port town just outside #Christchurch #NewZealand #aotearoa Currently a data and research systems #librarian I am working on my 3rd act, and retraining to be a #counsellor #psychotherapist I'm going to use this profile for professional stuff, so it's a bit locked down.

Interests in
#narrativetherapy
#acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy
#relationships
#ethicalnonmonogamy
#whitefragility
#allyship

as well as:
#coffee
#dnd