#self-worth — Public Fediverse posts
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"The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel." Fair? Read the blog. #SelfAwareness #Confidence #PersonalGrowth #Mindset #SelfWorth #LifeLessons #ThoughtOfTheDay #Perspective
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From FB, and so relatable. The Self There is a particular kind of shame that comes from looking around one day and feeling like everybody else got a head start on being a person.
They built careers while you were learning how not to panic. They formed healthy relationships while you were still mistaking familiar pain for love. They saved money, took risks, travelled, studied, made plans and developed confidence while enormous parts of your energy were being spent simply trying to feel safe inside your own life.
But nobody sees time that way.
They see the age.
By thirty you should have this. By forty you should know that. By fifty surely you should be further along. There are invisible milestones everywhere, and when your life doesn’t match them it can feel like evidence that you’ve somehow failed at adulthood.
So you compare your chapter to somebody else’s without accounting for what it cost you just to reach the page you’re on.
You forget the years spent recovering from things you didn’t cause. The relationships you had to unlearn. The beliefs about yourself you had to dismantle. The energy lost to anxiety, hypervigilance, grief, dissociation, people-pleasing or simply getting through days that looked completely ordinary to everybody else.
That time wasn’t empty.
You were doing work.
It just wasn’t the kind of work society knows how to put on a résumé.
You were learning that love shouldn’t frighten you. You were learning that saying no doesn’t make you cruel. You were discovering which parts of your personality were actually yours and which were adaptations. You were learning how to make decisions without asking what would upset everyone else first.
Some people got to spend their early years building a life.
Others had to spend part of adulthood rebuilding the person who was supposed to live it.
Of course those timelines look different.
This doesn’t mean trauma should become the explanation for everything that hasn’t happened yet, or that we have no agency over where we go from here. But shame is a terrible starting line.
Maybe you aren’t lazy. Maybe you aren’t immature. Maybe you haven’t “wasted your potential.”
Maybe you’ve been measuring yourself against people whose energy wasn’t being spent fighting battles you couldn’t see.
There is no prize for arriving at somebody else’s version of life on time.
And perhaps I’m not behind at all.
Perhaps this is simply what my life looks like after taking the long way back to myself.
#theself #knowthyself #feelingbehind #complextrauma #cptsd #childhoodtrauma #traumarecovery #healingjourney #selfworth #selfcomparison #selfawareness #psychology #mentalhealth #survivalmode #latebloomer
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My dears, never shrink yourselves to fit into spaces that weren't built for your magnificence! Your spirit is a nebula, vast and ever-expanding, and you deserve to occupy every inch of it with pride. #LwaxanaTroi #SelfWorth #AllStarTrek #StarTrek #StarTrekTNG #TNG #StarTrekDS9 #DS9 #Mastodon
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Pull up a chair. #Disability #SelfWorth #DisabledAndProud
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Oh yes indeed, so when you're criticising yourself unnecessarily, stop & mentally give yourself a loving hug because we're only human & no one has ever been perfect 🙏🫂
#wellbeing #freedom #lovinglife #happy #love #mentalhealth #kindness #selfacceptance #selfworth #human #onlyhuman
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What do you do when the world keeps telling you, you suck?
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We live in a world where people stick fake camera lenses on the back of their phone to feel better about themselves.
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Speech settings apply to inner voices too. #SelfWorth #MentalHealth #Disability
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If someone has to convince you of your worth, you're asking the wrong people. Know your value first.
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There is something about you that you have learned to say with an apology in front of it. Somebody taught you to.
A woman did that with me a few days ago. We were talking about working together, and she told me that in her previous jobs, she would see what could be better and say so, and it never went well. Then she asked if that was going to be a problem here too
She wasn’t asking. She was warning me
I knew the sentence because I lived it. I was the one who raised the problem nobody wanted raised. I wasn’t trying to be difficult. I just could not ignore what I knew would make the thing truly great. And every time, the temperature dropped a little
The thing she learned to apologize for is the thing greatness is made of
Maybe yours isn’t about work. Are you the one who asks the extra question? Too honest? Too direct? Too invested?
Go back and look at the thing you apologize for. That’s exactly what makes you rare
Shabbat Shalom 💙
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Adults remember the days of their youth with memories they created when young.
Adults tend to consider younger people as a whole, a strange one. They view this bunch through their adult lense – a lense a lot grumpier by ageing.Candice Odgers has a different take: "This isn't an anxious generation. It's a resilient one. Let's start treating them that way."
In 12 minutes: https://go.ted.com/candiceodgers#EstelleSays #ageing #youth #memories #psychology #socioPsych #socioPsychology #selfWorth #socialization #smartphones #socialMedia #socialMediaBan
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Permission slip, signed and dated. #Disability #SelfWorth #Learning
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Imposter!
Daily writing prompt Do you think we’re shaped more by our experiences or by who we are? View all responsesDo be honest, I don’t really think about that at all. It’s not that I don’t care, but what’s the point? I was just going to type “When I was younger…” and an image of an old skin and bones guy with a scraggly white beard wearing a red flannel shirt and suspenders sitting in a rocking chair with a gaggle of children sitting in a semi-circle in front of him popped into my mind. And while looking down at those children he leans forward, and with one hand on his knee and the other waving his pipe around in the air he says, “Why when I was your age children…”
When I was going to school the prompt question was phrased as nature vs. nurture and I can say I didn’t care much about back then either.
Why when I was your age children I didn’t care much about anything.
Unless you’re a psychologist, or a behavioral psychologist or whatever, why does it matter?
Now on to the important stuff. Today Rojie asks: Write about a time when you felt like you had imposter syndrome. Well, to continue being honest, I don’t really know. I frequently have bouts of self-doubt and I can often see successes in life as luck or just having been in the right place at the right time. That’s how I frequently think about my writing and I haven’t really thought about it, but it’s probably the reason I write stuff and file it away and never submit anything for publication. I dismiss any compliments I might receive as the person offering them just trying to be kind. If grade school was good for anything, it was honesty. Because while getting picked last in gym class for whatever unpleasant thing we might have had to do that day was painful, it was at least honest. No false sincerity there, no jock pranks there, just what I knew to be true there. So this, blogging – yesterday, tomorrow, right now – would be one of those times I feel like I had imposter syndrome.
I just watched the movie Us the other day which was all about imposters. It was a good movie for what it was, but I hated the ending. Endings like that can ruin the entire movie for me and I think the only reason they’re done is to generate buzz. I’m wondering now if it’s not done because of a sense of imposter syndrome by the writer or director? Maybe they don’t think the movie is good enough as it stands so they add something to get people talking? In this case the ending really contradicted the plot of the movie so it brought the whole movie into question.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLjHt5tkRFo&list=RDXLjHt5tkRFo&start_radio=1
#BehavioralPsychology #Blogging #dailyprompt #dailyprompt2824 #Fake #Faker #FOWC #Imposter #ImposterSyndrome #JordanPeele #MentalHealth #mindset #Movie #Prank #Psychology #selfImprovement #SelfWorth #SimonGarfunkle #Us #UsMovie #Writing -
Say it again for the folks in the back. #Blind #SelfWorth #DisabledAndProud
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DESERVE... Do I?
Maybe the question isn't...
"Do I deserve happiness?"
Maybe it's...
"Who taught me what happiness should look like?"
A reflection on self-worth, healing, and redefining happiness, inspired by Dewanda's "Pantas Bahagia."
📖 Read the full article:
🔗 https://hpmusic.id/blog/what-does-deserve-really-mean -
DESERVE... Do I?
Maybe the question isn't...
"Do I deserve happiness?"
Maybe it's...
"Who taught me what happiness should look like?"
A reflection on self-worth, healing, and redefining happiness, inspired by Dewanda's "Pantas Bahagia."
📖 Read the full article:
🔗 https://hpmusic.id/blog/what-does-deserve-really-mean -
The Seven of Cups asks the hard one: are you chasing your own desire, or a dream that family, society, or an old version of you handed you to carry? Not every cup on the table is yours to drink.
#Tarot #SevenOfCups #TarotReading #Divination #Witchcraft #Pagan #Druid #SelfWorth #Healing #Oracle #QueerWitch #Cartomancy↳ (reply) https://twp.ai/4hs0fK
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Deathcap surfaced in today's reading, for everyone taught early to stay quiet, compliant, small. The card's turn: that smallness was survival once. It was never who you are.
#Tarot #TarotReading #Oracle #Deathcap #Witchcraft #Pagan #Druid #Divination #SelfWorth #Healing #QueerWitch #FolkMagic↳ (reply) Full reading → https://twp.ai/4hs0fD
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241 Days Later
For so much of the last week, I have been focused on what felt broken. The Body Dysmorphia. The RSD. The exhaustion. The darkness that likes to lurk in the shadows, waiting for an opportunity to convince me that I am weaker than I really am. Monday reminded me that while those things may always be part of my story, they are not the whole story.https://perfectlyimperfectlife.blog/2026/06/23/241-days-later/
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Your value is not measured by your productivity.
Not by how many errands you ran.
Not by how clean your house is.
Not by how much you accomplished today.Some days surviving is the accomplishment.
And if that's where you are today, I'm proud of you. ❤️
#ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #InvisibleIllness #Spoonie #SelfWorth
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Do you ever miss the person you used to be?
One thing chronic illness has taught me is that we don’t just grieve our health.
Sometimes we grieve our independence.
Our energy.
Our spontaneity.
The version of ourselves that existed before everything changed.I’m learning that missing who I was doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate who I am now.
💜 What do you miss most about the person you used to be?
#ChronicIllness
#ChronicPain
#Disability
#Spoonie
#MentalHealth
#ChronicIllnessCommunity
#SelfWorth
