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#Seasteading #MonkeyKnifeFight #BunkerBros #Shame

“How much of today’s #societal #collapse and #atomization can be attributed to the blatant disregard for #shame by what Foxworth called #optimization culture?”
www.newyorker.com/news/fault-l...

The Death of Shame Is Tearing ...

“How much of today’s #societal #collapse and #atomization can be attributed to the blatant disregard for #shame by what Foxworth called #optimization culture?”
www.newyorker.com/news/fault-l...

The Death of Shame Is Tearing ...

“How much of today’s #societal #collapse and #atomization can be attributed to the blatant disregard for #shame by what Foxworth called #optimization culture?”
www.newyorker.com/news/fault-l...

The Death of Shame Is Tearing ...

“How much of today’s #societal #collapse and #atomization can be attributed to the blatant disregard for #shame by what Foxworth called #optimization culture?”
www.newyorker.com/news/fault-l...

The Death of Shame Is Tearing ...

“How much of today’s #societal #collapse and #atomization can be attributed to the blatant disregard for #shame by what Foxworth called #optimization culture?”
www.newyorker.com/news/fault-l...

The Death of Shame Is Tearing ...

With Donald Trump announcing bans on Canadian alcohol & dairy, it's high time Saskatchewan & Alberta join the other provinces in banning US liquor! And since US dairy standards are far lower, Canada needs to all out ban it in retaliation! #shame #cdnpoli #ElbowsUp www.thestar.com/politics/fed...

Donald Trump bans Canadian alc...

Between threatening to ban sales of Bombardier aircraft and ban Canadian products from US contracts, Donald Trump keeps on shooting himself in the foot! Americans need to #VoteBlue for this November's midterms and end his hostile actions! #shame #cdnpoli #ElbowsUp www.thestar.com/politics/fed...

Donald Trump says he’ll block ...

Direct from the Horse's Mouth - as the saying goes.

Sailors from the USS Abraham Lincoln report that the nine-month deployment was “the worst deployment that they have ever experienced,” , and their #1 priority was to "FaceTime and see their kids, see their spouses and see their parents,”. https://www.the-independent.com/news/world/americas/us-politics/uss-lincoln-thailand-deployment-trump-b3045557.html #USSAbrahamLincoln #USNavy #Lincoln #Sailers #DoD #Shame #AircraftCarrier #Navy #Carrier

Direct from the Horse's Mouth - as the saying goes.

Sailors from the USS Abraham Lincoln report that the nine-month deployment was “the worst deployment that they have ever experienced,” , and their #1 priority was to "FaceTime and see their kids, see their spouses and see their parents,”. https://www.the-independent.com/news/world/americas/us-politics/uss-lincoln-thailand-deployment-trump-b3045557.html #USSAbrahamLincoln #USNavy #Lincoln #Sailers #DoD #Shame #AircraftCarrier #Navy #Carrier

Direct from the Horse's Mouth - as the saying goes.

Sailors from the USS Abraham Lincoln report that the nine-month deployment was “the worst deployment that they have ever experienced,” , and their #1 priority was to "FaceTime and see their kids, see their spouses and see their parents,”. https://www.the-independent.com/news/world/americas/us-politics/uss-lincoln-thailand-deployment-trump-b3045557.html #USSAbrahamLincoln #USNavy #Lincoln #Sailers #DoD #Shame #AircraftCarrier #Navy #Carrier

Direct from the Horse's Mouth - as the saying goes.

Sailors from the USS Abraham Lincoln report that the nine-month deployment was “the worst deployment that they have ever experienced,” , and their #1 priority was to "FaceTime and see their kids, see their spouses and see their parents,”. https://www.the-independent.com/news/world/americas/us-politics/uss-lincoln-thailand-deployment-trump-b3045557.html #USSAbrahamLincoln #USNavy #Lincoln #Sailers #DoD #Shame #AircraftCarrier #Navy #Carrier

Direct from the Horse's Mouth - as the saying goes.

Sailors from the USS Abraham Lincoln report that the nine-month deployment was “the worst deployment that they have ever experienced,” , and their #1 priority was to "FaceTime and see their kids, see their spouses and see their parents,”. https://www.the-independent.com/news/world/americas/us-politics/uss-lincoln-thailand-deployment-trump-b3045557.html #USSAbrahamLincoln #USNavy #Lincoln #Sailers #DoD #Shame #AircraftCarrier #Navy #Carrier

A quotation from Ben Franklin

Having been poor is no shame, but being ashamed of it, is.

Benjamin Franklin (1706–1790) American statesman, scientist, philosopher, aphorist
Poor Richard Improved (1749 ed.)

More about this quote: wist.info/franklin-benjamin/29…

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #franklin #benfranklin #benjaminfranklin #poorrichard #poorrichardsalmanac #poor #poverty #shame

The country will remember. The Youth remembers!
Shame! Shame! Shame!
#TheCountryWillRemember #YouthRemembers #Shame #Justice #Accountability #Democracy #HumanRights #CivilRights #RuleOfLaw #Constitution #Freedom #Equality #Truth #Transparency #PublicInterest #CivicEngagement #PeoplesVoice #SocialJustice #StandForJustice #SpeakUp #RaiseYourVoice #NoMoreSilence #India #Mastodon #activism

The Places in My Dreams

The world within, the world of my dreams, is similar to the one I walk through every day. But it is different.

The streets bend strangely. The rooms open where they should not. The people and places are often indifferent to me, and sometimes, they are even antagonistic.

They are not merely people and places. They are representations of emotions I have not yet worked through from the previous day. Sixteen waking hours are not enough to fully grasp all that I have experienced, endured, feared, desired, regretted, or misunderstood.

And so, in the night, these things come alive.

They take on faces. They become houses, roads, crowds, locked doors, ruined landscapes, familiar rooms made unfamiliar. They guide me through the shadow lands—not always kindly, but truthfully. They show me what I could not see while awake.

My dreams are not escapes from the day.

They are the day returning in another form, asking to be understood.

Some nights I find myself back in places I have never been, and yet they feel older than memory. A school that was never my school. A church with hallways that keep multiplying. A childhood home rearranged by grief. A city I know by instinct, though no map has ever held it.

In these places, I am often trying to get somewhere.

I am late. I am lost. I am looking for someone. I am trying to explain myself to people who will not listen. I am searching for a room, a door, a vehicle, a path, a way home. Sometimes I am carrying something fragile. Sometimes I have forgotten what I was supposed to carry. Sometimes I am responsible for a task I do not understand, surrounded by people who seem to know the rules but refuse to tell me.

This is the cruelty of the dream world: everyone else seems initiated.

They move through the strange landscape as if it is ordinary. They know which hallway leads out, which road is safe, which bus to board, which door not to open. I am the stranger in a world that somehow belongs to me. I am the dreamer, and yet I am not in control.

Perhaps this is why the places feel antagonistic. They do not hate me. They are simply unwilling to flatter me. They will not pretend I am finished with what I have not faced. They will not comfort me with easy explanations. They turn my emotions into architecture and ask me to walk through them.

Fear becomes a narrow bridge.

Regret becomes a house with too many locked rooms.

Anger becomes a storm on the edge of town.

Shame becomes a crowd that sees me before I am ready to be seen.

Grief becomes a road that always returns to the same place.

And longing—longing becomes a light in a window I can never quite reach.

I wake from these dreams with the feeling that I have traveled farther than my body could have gone. I have crossed cities, fields, stairways, basements, sanctuaries, ruins, and train stations. I have spoken with the dead and avoided the living. I have been judged by strangers and ignored by friends. I have wandered through the unfinished weather of my own soul.

Then morning comes, and the ordinary world returns.

The walls are where I left them. The floor is solid. The dog needs to go out. The coffee waits. The phone glows with its small demands. The day begins again, pretending to be separate from the night.

But I know better.

The dream has left its residue. A feeling follows me, sometimes faint, sometimes heavy. A hallway from the dream lingers inside the hallway of the house. A face from the night appears behind the face of someone I know. A mood clings to the morning like fog.

The shadow lands do not vanish when I wake.

They retreat.

They wait beneath the visible world, beneath errands and conversations, beneath sermons and chores, beneath the version of myself that knows how to answer when someone asks, “How are you?”

I say, “I’m fine.”

But somewhere beneath that answer, an entire city is still burning, or flooding, or rebuilding itself in the dark.

Film Review: SHAME (2011): Steve McQueen, Michael Fassbender

Link: https://film-book.com/film-review-shame-2011-steve-mcqueen-michael-fassbender/?fsp_sid=217769

#AlexManette #AlexandraVino #AmyHargreaves #AnnaRoseHopkins #BrianaMarin #CareyMulligan #CharisseBellante #dramamovie #ElizabethMasucci #FoxSearchlightPictures #HannahWare #JakeRichardSiciliano #JamesBadgeDale #LucyWalters #MichaelFassbender #MovieTrailer #NicoleBeharie #RobertMontano #Shame #Shame2011 #SteveMcQueen

G7 leaders (almost) all having a chat

#America

#DireStraitsKnows #theworld #destroyingAmerica #shame #worldnews #thePresident #worldStage #photo #geopolitics #G7 #photograph #historic

#Trump convierte el #Mundial en la " #Copa del #Miedo " : #EEUU #USA limita los visados , despliega el #ICE.

¡ QUE VERGUËNZA ! WHAT A SHAME !
🤮🤮🤮

#BOYCOTT THIS #WORLD #CUP OF #HATRED AND #SEGREGATIONISM

#CUP OF #SHAME #USA2026

✊️✊️✊️

#USA2026 #LOSANGELES2026 #LA2026
#JESSIE #OWENS 1968 RESPECT AND MODEL
#FOOTBALL #SOCCER #PLAYERS #REBELS

SHOW THE WORLD YOU HAVE A #CONCIENCE AND A #MORALITY

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A quotation from Brennan Manning

When we wallow in guilt, remorse, and shame over real or imagined sins of the past, we are disdaining God’s gift of grace.

Brennan Manning (1934-2013) American author, laicized priest, theologian, speaker [Richard Francis Xavier Manning]
The Ragamuffin Gospel, ch. 6 “Grazie, Signore” (1990)

More about this quote: wist.info/manning-brennan/8381…

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #brennanmanning #ivinegrace #divinelove #God #grace #guilt #remorse #selfindulgence #shame #sinfulness #sins #wallowing

A quotation from Robert Louis Stevenson

And how many loves have perished because, from pride, or spite, or diffidence, or that unmanly shame which withholds a man from daring to betray emotion, a lover, at the critical point of the relation, has but hung his head and held his tongue?

Robert Louis Stevenson (1850-1894) Scottish essayist, novelist, poet
Essay (1879-05), “The Truth of Intercourse,” Cornhill Magazine, Vol. 39

More about this quote: wist.info/stevenson-robert-lou…

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #robertlouisstevenson #emotion #love #masculinity #relationship #reticence #shame #shuttingdown #silence

Paul #Ammar, #Shame on #You
#European #capitals for your #silence

#Iran #Femme #Vie #Liberté

#FREE #IRANIANS FROM THE #MOLLAHS

#F_CK #TRUMP

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Is Food Addiction Real? Just in Time for Thanksgiving!

Food Addiction: The “Addiction” We All Talk About

Many of us have joked about being “addicted” to ice cream or chips, describing an intense craving that feels impossible to resist. This common experience is at the heart of a serious scientific debate: Is Food Addiction (FA) a genuine addiction, similar to substance addiction? 

The conversation has grown more complex as modern definitions of addiction have expanded.

Influential bodies like the American Society of Addiction Medicine no longer require the ingestion of a psychoactive substance for something to be considered an addiction. Similarly, behavioral addictions like gambling disorder are now formally recognized. This has intensified the scientific inquiry into whether addictive-like eating fits the same mold. 

To find answers, a recent longitudinal study looked at the role of emotion regulation, how we handle our feelings, to compare food addiction and substance misuse.

The findings were surprising, revealing critical differences in the emotional pathways that drive these behaviors. This article breaks down the three most impactful takeaways that challenge what we think we know about food addiction.

1. The Counter-Intuitive Role of Positive Emotions in Food Addiction

Takeaway 1: Acting on a Good Mood Predicts Substance Misuse, But Deters Food Addiction.

One of the study’s most unexpected findings relates to “positive urgency.” It’s described as a psychological trait. One defined as the tendency to act impulsively when experiencing strong positive emotions, like feeling overjoyed or extremely happy.

The research, which tracked women over six months, found a striking divergence.

A one-unit increase in a person’s positive urgency score was associated with: 

• A 100% to 200% increase in the odds of future alcohol or drug-related problems. 
• A 50% decrease in the odds of future food addiction. 

Why would feeling good lead to such different outcomes?

The researchers suggest it comes down to the reinforcing power of the substance or behavior.

Individuals high in positive urgency may seek to amplify or extend their good feelings, and psychoactive substances are far more effective at this than food.

The study’s authors explain: Women with greater positive urgency may tend to select psychoactive substances such as alcohol or drugs that can more effectively amplify or prolong their positive feelings, rather than food. Food’s effects are less potent and thus less reinforcing than psychoactive substances. 

This discovery is significant because it highlights a fundamental difference in the emotional triggers for food addiction versus substance misuse.

While a good mood might increase the risk for substance misuse, it appears to have the opposite effect on addictive-like eating.

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2. How We Judge Our Feelings Matter… But Differently

Takeaway 2: Not Accepting Your Negative Emotions Has Opposite Effects on Food Addiction vs. Alcohol-Related Problems

Another key aspect of emotion regulation is the “non-acceptance of one’s negative emotions.”

This is the tendency to have self-critical or judgmental reactions like shame, guilt, or frustration to your own distressing feelings. 

Here again, the study found that this trait was linked to food addiction and alcohol-related problems in opposite ways: 

• Non-acceptance was associated with more severe food addiction symptoms.
• Non-acceptance was associated with less severe alcohol-related problems.

The researchers hypothesize that this difference may be rooted in social stigma.

Women who feel ashamed of their negative emotions might turn to food as a coping mechanism because overeating is often viewed as less stigmatized than alcohol misuse.

The study references other research showing that the label “food addict” is perceived as less shameful than “substance or alcohol addiction.” This suggests that societal norms and the fear of judgment can profoundly shape which coping behaviors we adopt.

3. The Complicated Truth About Negative Moods and Food Addiction

Takeaway 3: The Link Between Bad Moods and Bingeing Isn’t a Simple One

The idea that we eat to soothe bad feelings, often called “emotional eating,” is a popular one. This is related to the concept of “negative urgency,” or the tendency to act impulsively when experiencing strong negative emotions. 

At first glance, the study’s data seemed to support this common belief.

When looking at a single point in time, the researchers found that negative urgency was a common link between both food addiction and substance misuse. 

However, when they analyzed the data over time in a more sophisticated multivariate model, the picture changed dramatically.

After controlling for other emotion-regulation factors, negative urgency was not a significant predictor of future food addiction or substance misuse problems. 

This doesn’t mean bad moods are irrelevant.

Rather, it suggests that negative urgency might be a “fellow traveler.” It’s present alongside the true driver, but not in the driver’s seat itself.

When the researchers statistically controlled for the powerful effect of positive urgency, the predictive signal from negative urgency faded away. This finding challenges the simple narrative that “feeling bad leads to addiction” and reveals that, over the long term, other emotional factors are far more influential.

Conclusion: A Different Kind of Struggle

While food addiction and substance addiction share surface-level similarities like cravings and loss of control, this new research paints a picture of two surprisingly different psychological profiles.

One is characterized by impulsivity in good times, which predicts substance misuse, while the other is marked by self-judgment in bad times, which predicts addictive-like eating.

This challenges the one-size-fits-all model of addiction. 

The study’s overall conclusion is clear: “These findings suggest that FA [Food Addiction] is not associated with the same key deficits in emotion regulation as SA [Substance Addiction].” 

This leaves us with a critical question to consider:

If the emotional drivers for food addiction and substance addiction are so different, does this mean we need to rethink how we talk about, prevent, and treat addictive-like eating? 

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#addictionResearch #bingeEating #copingAndEmotions #eatingDisorders #emotionalEating #emotionalRegulation #evidenceBasedPractice #foodAddiction #negativeUrgency #positiveUrgency #shame #stigmaAndShame #substanceMisuse #traumaAndAddiction #treatmentImplications #womensMentalHealth

I suspect we will eventually get to a point where the engineers working on "AI" - at least, those working on the few applications that actually make the #companies #money - are going to start doing what many engineers working in the "defence" #industry do: obfuscating. Lying. To avoid others knowing what they actually do with their days.

"What do you do?"

"I design bomb casements for cluster munitions, to increase the total number of civilian casualties when despots use them against non-military targets" tends to get you #shunned at parties, so they say "Oh, I do structural steel work" or something else non-specific.

Similarly, "I develop language models that keep helpless customers occupied until they give up in frustration so the companies can lay off most of their customer-support staff" isn't going to be a popular announcement to all those at the party whose jobs were destroyed by "AI".

"Oh, I develop and apply algorithms to novel problems."

"Oh, I do data analysis."

"Oh, I'm a plumber."

#AI #LLM #jobs #shame #shun #engineer #software #vendor #unemployment #lying #obfuscating #layoffs #plumber

Probably the ugliest hotel (and building in general) I've seen in my life.
Excalibur Hotel and Casino, Las Vegas.
2023-06-27

#facepalm #shame #eyesore #hotel #casino #LasVegas #architecture #brutalism #fail #ugly #amateur #kitsch #faux

The antidote to #shame is #selfcompassion

Find the podcast by searching for That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding podcast in your podcast player.

#hoarding #hoardingdisorder #hoardingpodcast #mentalhealth #podcast

The Surprising Way #Porn Really Affects You, Explained by a #Urologist

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhYNnLrNomo

Dr. Rena Malik, urologist and #pelvic surgeon, examines the complex realities of #pornography use, exploring #scientificevidence on its potential benefits and risks for individuals and #couples. She discusses motivations behind porn consumption, its effects on #brainchemistry, #sexualhealth, and #relationships, as well as the impacts of #moralbeliefs, #shame, and problematic use.

Film Review: SHAME (2011): Steve McQueen, Michael Fassbender

https://film-book.com/film-review-shame-2011-steve-mcqueen-michael-fassbender/?feed_id=161705&_unique_id=67469828ef986

#FilmBook #AlexManette #AlexandraVino #AmyHargreaves #AnnaRoseHopkins #BrianaMarin #CareyMulligan #CharisseBellante #dramamovie #ElizabethMasucci #FoxSearchlightPictures #HannahWare #JakeRichardSiciliano #JamesBadgeDale #LucyWalters #MichaelFassbender #MovieTrailer #NicoleBeharie #RobertMontano #Shame #Shame2011 ...

... Ignominy ...
#sanatorium #asylum #medical #shame #abandoned #ruin #horrorai #paranormal #horrorai

Whoever #still #uses #facebook(#Meta), I #implore you to #Delete #Your #Facebook #Account #Immediately! It is turning into a #misinformation/#disinformation #and #pedophilia #socialmediasite very quickly. It is not safe, anymore. If you are a #diehard #MarkZuckerberg #fan, #shame #on #you! If you are still on the site, that means you #approve of what #Mark #Zuckerberg #and #his #cronies #are #doing. Oh, they also #support #communism! #FacebookIsOverParty #FacebookSucks #ZuckerbergIsAnIdiot