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DATE: July 17, 2026 at 08:00AM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Believing in hell is linked to fewer casual sexual encounters, study finds
URL: https://www.psypost.org/believing-in-hell-is-linked-to-fewer-casual-sexual-encounters-study-finds/
A new study published in the journal Psychology of Religion and Spirituality suggests that believing in hell might be linked to more conservative sexual behaviors across different societies. The findings indicate that while religious beliefs help shape romantic choices, the fear of supernatural punishment tends to act as a stronger societal deterrent against casual sex and infidelity than the hope of heavenly reward.
Across many different cultures and historical periods, human societies have embraced the concept of an afterlife where actions on Earth face divine judgment. The study authors, Samudera Fadlilla Jamaluddin and Fakhirah Inayaturrobbani of the Faculty of Psychology at Universitas Gadjah Mada, wanted to explore why these specific religious ideas persist so strongly in the modern world.
They proposed that expectations of moral consequences after death frequently apply directly to human sexuality. “Much of the psychology-of-religion literature treats religiosity as a single, undifferentiated construct,” Jamaluddin said. “While there is strong evidence that fear of supernatural punishment promotes cooperation, far less is known about how afterlife beliefs specifically relate to romantic and sexual behavior.”
In many traditions, short-term mating behaviors and infidelity are labeled as sins deserving of eternal punishment. Long-term committed relationships usually receive praise and validation as a sacred obligation. Religious frameworks tend to moralize monogamy by framing marital commitment as a holy duty rather than a mere social contract.
“We were struck by the fact that short-term mating is so often moralized as ‘sin’ while long-term commitment is praised,” Jamaluddin said. “We wanted to test whether beliefs in heaven and hell might steer people toward relationship choices that support stability, which could help explain why these beliefs have persisted for so long.”
Monogamous relationships tend to offer numerous adaptive benefits for human survival and community building. By concentrating parental investment, monogamous unions lower the risk of resource deprivation and child malnourishment. These family structures foster paternal certainty and promote efficient resource pooling among partners. Stable marriages also create a structured environment where parents can easily pass down their religious values to their children.
The scientists proposed that specific afterlife beliefs encourage monogamy, which in turn ensures those same beliefs survive across generations. To capture both broad cultural patterns and individual psychology, the scientists conducted two separate investigations.
The first study examined macrolevel associations across different countries to understand the broader societal climate. The authors analyzed data from the World Values Survey and a large cross-cultural relationship data set. They looked at information from 27 countries, including 37,349 participants for the belief measures and 21,400 participants for the sexual behavior measures.
For each country, the researchers calculated the national averages for belief in heaven and belief in hell. They also gathered national data on relationship preferences, casual sexual experiences, emotional infidelity, and relationship satisfaction.
To ensure statistical accuracy, the models controlled for several national socioeconomic factors. These included gross domestic product per capita, a metric known as the Gini index which measures income inequality, national unemployment rates, and attitudes about gender equality.
The analysis produced distinct patterns for belief in hell compared to belief in heaven. At the societal level, a higher national prevalence of belief in hell predicted lower rates of casual sexual behavior. Countries with stronger beliefs in hell also reported much lower rates of sexual infidelity and lower societal acceptance of casual sex.
“Belief in hell, more than belief in heaven, is consistently linked to sexual restraint, including lower casual sex, more conservative attitudes, and less infidelity,” Jamaluddin told PsyPost. “At the societal level this holds even after accounting for wealth, inequality, and gender equality.”
Interestingly, the general biological desire for casual sex did not significantly decrease in these regions. This suggests that people in these societies experience similar impulses but choose not to act on them due to the fear of supernatural punishment. “Notably, these beliefs do not seem to reduce sexual desire itself; rather, they appear to shape whether people act on it,” Jamaluddin said. “This fits the idea that the threat of punishment is a more reliable behavioral constraint than the promise of reward.”
When looking at belief in heaven at the national level, the associations with lower infidelity and casual sex were much weaker. These positive links largely disappeared after adjusting for the economic and equality factors. Other relationship dynamics, such as intimacy, passion, and commitment, did not show reliable links to either belief once socioeconomic conditions were factored in. This provides evidence that socioeconomic context strongly shapes relationship dynamics alongside religious climate.
The authors then shifted their focus to the individual level for their second study. This shift helped them avoid the ecological inference fallacy. This fallacy is a logical error where one incorrectly assumes that broad societal trends apply perfectly to every single individual within that society.
The researchers used data from the United States General Social Survey collected between 1972 and 2024. The sample size for this second study varied from 388 to 4,788 participants depending on the specific survey questions being analyzed. This variation occurred because the survey uses a split-ballot design, meaning not all questions are asked to all participants in every single year.
Participants reported their personal beliefs in heaven and hell, alongside their attitudes toward premarital sex and infidelity. The survey also asked respondents to report their number of lifetime sexual partners, marital satisfaction, and total number of children. The scientists controlled for the age and income of each individual respondent. This allowed them to isolate the specific psychological effect of the religious beliefs from demographic influences.
At the individual level, both belief in heaven and belief in hell predicted more sexually and romantically conservative orientations. Stronger personal belief in either concept was associated with a lower acceptance of premarital sex. Participants who believed in an afterlife also reported having fewer lifetime sexual partners than those who did not.
Individual belief in heaven and hell also positively predicted a higher number of children. This finding aligns with broader trends linking higher religiosity to higher fertility rates and family formation. These family-oriented behaviors help facilitate the intergenerational continuity of religious values.
Neither belief reliably predicted an individual’s overall marital satisfaction or their likelihood of getting divorced. This indicates that afterlife beliefs function more specifically to regulate sexual behavior rather than shaping overall relationship quality. The punishment aspect of hell and the reward aspect of heaven both seem to motivate pro-family behavior at the individual level.
“The most striking result was how differently the beliefs behaved across levels of analysis,” Jamaluddin said. “At the societal level, belief in hell stood out as the unique predictor of sexual restraint, but at the individual level both heaven and hell predicted greater fertility and more conservative attitudes. It was a useful reminder that country-level patterns and individual psychology are not the same thing.”
The authors suggest that the prospect of supernatural punishment functions as a high-stakes prohibitive cost. This mechanism is somewhat analogous to loss aversion, a psychological concept where people prefer avoiding negative outcomes over acquiring equivalent gains.
The threat of hell serves as a consistent moral constraint against violating relationship norms. The abstract rewards of heaven can sometimes lead to moral licensing, where individuals justify minor transgressions because they feel their overall good deeds have earned them a reward.
Readers should avoid assuming that religious beliefs are the sole cause of monogamous behavior or relationship stability. The socioeconomic environment plays a massive role in shaping human relationships. In regions lacking strong government support systems, religious communities often provide the essential social and economic support that helps keep families together.
The threat of divine damnation might simply reinforce the behaviors that keep this communal support intact. “The effects are modest and correlational, so they describe tendencies across groups rather than destiny for any individual,” Jamaluddin said. “The societal analysis also rests on only 27 countries, so those estimates should be read as suggestive.”
He added that the individual-level associations were statistically robust and replicated the broad pattern, which gave the team more confidence. The study also relies on self-reported survey data spanning several decades. This methodology can obscure specific generational shifts in how religious beliefs interact with evolving sexual norms over time.
The reliance on correlational data also means the researchers cannot definitively prove that belief in hell directly causes a person to avoid casual sex. “First, this is correlational, not causal, so we are not claiming that belief in hell makes people faithful,” Jamaluddin said. “Second, and most importantly, readers should avoid the ecological inference fallacy: a pattern that appears across countries does not mean individuals within those countries behave that way.”
He also noted that the findings are not a value judgment about religious or non-religious people. Future investigations might track individuals over extended periods to see how changing religious beliefs influence sexual behavior as a person ages. Scientists could also explore how these specific afterlife beliefs operate in non-Abrahamic religious traditions that view the afterlife differently.
“We would like to move toward designs that can better address mechanism and change over time, such as cohort or longitudinal analyses and cross-cultural individual-level data,” Jamaluddin said. He hopes future studies will test the idea that these beliefs operate through deliberate, reflective moral reasoning rather than by altering impulse or desire.
The study, “From Damnation to Devotion: A Multilevel Investigation of Hell Versus Heaven Beliefs and Sexual Fidelity,” was authored by Samudera Fadlilla Jamaluddin and Fakhirah Inayaturrobbani.
URL: https://www.psypost.org/believing-in-hell-is-linked-to-fewer-casual-sexual-encounters-study-finds/
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#psychology #counseling #socialwork #psychotherapy @psychotherapist @psychotherapists @psychology @socialpsych @socialwork @psychiatry #mentalhealth #psychiatry #healthcare #depression #psychotherapist #HellBeliefs #SexualBehavior #Monogamy #ReligiousBeliefs #AfterlifeInfluence #InfidelityRates #CasualSexDecline #MoralPunishment #HeavenVsHell #PsychologyOfReligion
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DATE: July 17, 2026 at 08:00AM
SOURCE: PSYPOST.ORG** Research quality varies widely from fantastic to small exploratory studies. Please check research methods when conclusions are very important to you. **
-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Believing in hell is linked to fewer casual sexual encounters, study finds
URL: https://www.psypost.org/believing-in-hell-is-linked-to-fewer-casual-sexual-encounters-study-finds/
A new study published in the journal Psychology of Religion and Spirituality suggests that believing in hell might be linked to more conservative sexual behaviors across different societies. The findings indicate that while religious beliefs help shape romantic choices, the fear of supernatural punishment tends to act as a stronger societal deterrent against casual sex and infidelity than the hope of heavenly reward.
Across many different cultures and historical periods, human societies have embraced the concept of an afterlife where actions on Earth face divine judgment. The study authors, Samudera Fadlilla Jamaluddin and Fakhirah Inayaturrobbani of the Faculty of Psychology at Universitas Gadjah Mada, wanted to explore why these specific religious ideas persist so strongly in the modern world.
They proposed that expectations of moral consequences after death frequently apply directly to human sexuality. “Much of the psychology-of-religion literature treats religiosity as a single, undifferentiated construct,” Jamaluddin said. “While there is strong evidence that fear of supernatural punishment promotes cooperation, far less is known about how afterlife beliefs specifically relate to romantic and sexual behavior.”
In many traditions, short-term mating behaviors and infidelity are labeled as sins deserving of eternal punishment. Long-term committed relationships usually receive praise and validation as a sacred obligation. Religious frameworks tend to moralize monogamy by framing marital commitment as a holy duty rather than a mere social contract.
“We were struck by the fact that short-term mating is so often moralized as ‘sin’ while long-term commitment is praised,” Jamaluddin said. “We wanted to test whether beliefs in heaven and hell might steer people toward relationship choices that support stability, which could help explain why these beliefs have persisted for so long.”
Monogamous relationships tend to offer numerous adaptive benefits for human survival and community building. By concentrating parental investment, monogamous unions lower the risk of resource deprivation and child malnourishment. These family structures foster paternal certainty and promote efficient resource pooling among partners. Stable marriages also create a structured environment where parents can easily pass down their religious values to their children.
The scientists proposed that specific afterlife beliefs encourage monogamy, which in turn ensures those same beliefs survive across generations. To capture both broad cultural patterns and individual psychology, the scientists conducted two separate investigations.
The first study examined macrolevel associations across different countries to understand the broader societal climate. The authors analyzed data from the World Values Survey and a large cross-cultural relationship data set. They looked at information from 27 countries, including 37,349 participants for the belief measures and 21,400 participants for the sexual behavior measures.
For each country, the researchers calculated the national averages for belief in heaven and belief in hell. They also gathered national data on relationship preferences, casual sexual experiences, emotional infidelity, and relationship satisfaction.
To ensure statistical accuracy, the models controlled for several national socioeconomic factors. These included gross domestic product per capita, a metric known as the Gini index which measures income inequality, national unemployment rates, and attitudes about gender equality.
The analysis produced distinct patterns for belief in hell compared to belief in heaven. At the societal level, a higher national prevalence of belief in hell predicted lower rates of casual sexual behavior. Countries with stronger beliefs in hell also reported much lower rates of sexual infidelity and lower societal acceptance of casual sex.
“Belief in hell, more than belief in heaven, is consistently linked to sexual restraint, including lower casual sex, more conservative attitudes, and less infidelity,” Jamaluddin told PsyPost. “At the societal level this holds even after accounting for wealth, inequality, and gender equality.”
Interestingly, the general biological desire for casual sex did not significantly decrease in these regions. This suggests that people in these societies experience similar impulses but choose not to act on them due to the fear of supernatural punishment. “Notably, these beliefs do not seem to reduce sexual desire itself; rather, they appear to shape whether people act on it,” Jamaluddin said. “This fits the idea that the threat of punishment is a more reliable behavioral constraint than the promise of reward.”
When looking at belief in heaven at the national level, the associations with lower infidelity and casual sex were much weaker. These positive links largely disappeared after adjusting for the economic and equality factors. Other relationship dynamics, such as intimacy, passion, and commitment, did not show reliable links to either belief once socioeconomic conditions were factored in. This provides evidence that socioeconomic context strongly shapes relationship dynamics alongside religious climate.
The authors then shifted their focus to the individual level for their second study. This shift helped them avoid the ecological inference fallacy. This fallacy is a logical error where one incorrectly assumes that broad societal trends apply perfectly to every single individual within that society.
The researchers used data from the United States General Social Survey collected between 1972 and 2024. The sample size for this second study varied from 388 to 4,788 participants depending on the specific survey questions being analyzed. This variation occurred because the survey uses a split-ballot design, meaning not all questions are asked to all participants in every single year.
Participants reported their personal beliefs in heaven and hell, alongside their attitudes toward premarital sex and infidelity. The survey also asked respondents to report their number of lifetime sexual partners, marital satisfaction, and total number of children. The scientists controlled for the age and income of each individual respondent. This allowed them to isolate the specific psychological effect of the religious beliefs from demographic influences.
At the individual level, both belief in heaven and belief in hell predicted more sexually and romantically conservative orientations. Stronger personal belief in either concept was associated with a lower acceptance of premarital sex. Participants who believed in an afterlife also reported having fewer lifetime sexual partners than those who did not.
Individual belief in heaven and hell also positively predicted a higher number of children. This finding aligns with broader trends linking higher religiosity to higher fertility rates and family formation. These family-oriented behaviors help facilitate the intergenerational continuity of religious values.
Neither belief reliably predicted an individual’s overall marital satisfaction or their likelihood of getting divorced. This indicates that afterlife beliefs function more specifically to regulate sexual behavior rather than shaping overall relationship quality. The punishment aspect of hell and the reward aspect of heaven both seem to motivate pro-family behavior at the individual level.
“The most striking result was how differently the beliefs behaved across levels of analysis,” Jamaluddin said. “At the societal level, belief in hell stood out as the unique predictor of sexual restraint, but at the individual level both heaven and hell predicted greater fertility and more conservative attitudes. It was a useful reminder that country-level patterns and individual psychology are not the same thing.”
The authors suggest that the prospect of supernatural punishment functions as a high-stakes prohibitive cost. This mechanism is somewhat analogous to loss aversion, a psychological concept where people prefer avoiding negative outcomes over acquiring equivalent gains.
The threat of hell serves as a consistent moral constraint against violating relationship norms. The abstract rewards of heaven can sometimes lead to moral licensing, where individuals justify minor transgressions because they feel their overall good deeds have earned them a reward.
Readers should avoid assuming that religious beliefs are the sole cause of monogamous behavior or relationship stability. The socioeconomic environment plays a massive role in shaping human relationships. In regions lacking strong government support systems, religious communities often provide the essential social and economic support that helps keep families together.
The threat of divine damnation might simply reinforce the behaviors that keep this communal support intact. “The effects are modest and correlational, so they describe tendencies across groups rather than destiny for any individual,” Jamaluddin said. “The societal analysis also rests on only 27 countries, so those estimates should be read as suggestive.”
He added that the individual-level associations were statistically robust and replicated the broad pattern, which gave the team more confidence. The study also relies on self-reported survey data spanning several decades. This methodology can obscure specific generational shifts in how religious beliefs interact with evolving sexual norms over time.
The reliance on correlational data also means the researchers cannot definitively prove that belief in hell directly causes a person to avoid casual sex. “First, this is correlational, not causal, so we are not claiming that belief in hell makes people faithful,” Jamaluddin said. “Second, and most importantly, readers should avoid the ecological inference fallacy: a pattern that appears across countries does not mean individuals within those countries behave that way.”
He also noted that the findings are not a value judgment about religious or non-religious people. Future investigations might track individuals over extended periods to see how changing religious beliefs influence sexual behavior as a person ages. Scientists could also explore how these specific afterlife beliefs operate in non-Abrahamic religious traditions that view the afterlife differently.
“We would like to move toward designs that can better address mechanism and change over time, such as cohort or longitudinal analyses and cross-cultural individual-level data,” Jamaluddin said. He hopes future studies will test the idea that these beliefs operate through deliberate, reflective moral reasoning rather than by altering impulse or desire.
The study, “From Damnation to Devotion: A Multilevel Investigation of Hell Versus Heaven Beliefs and Sexual Fidelity,” was authored by Samudera Fadlilla Jamaluddin and Fakhirah Inayaturrobbani.
URL: https://www.psypost.org/believing-in-hell-is-linked-to-fewer-casual-sexual-encounters-study-finds/
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#psychology #counseling #socialwork #psychotherapy @psychotherapist @psychotherapists @psychology @socialpsych @socialwork @psychiatry #mentalhealth #psychiatry #healthcare #depression #psychotherapist #HellBeliefs #SexualBehavior #Monogamy #ReligiousBeliefs #AfterlifeInfluence #InfidelityRates #CasualSexDecline #MoralPunishment #HeavenVsHell #PsychologyOfReligion
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💁🏻♀️ TIL: 🐦💞 Most #birds practice social #monogamy, but only a few species actually mate for life.
Ornithologist Bart Kempenaers from the #MaxPlanck Institute explains that longevity, predation risk, and site fidelity all influence whether #animals stay partnered. Even lifelong animal pairs don’t always mate exclusively, with “cheating” and “divorce” playing a role.
👉 https://www.popsci.com/science/do-animals-mate-for-life/
#mating #wolves #science #biology #evolution #ornithology #nature #wildlife #swans #eagles #albatrosses #love
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💁🏻♀️ TIL: 🐦💞 Most #birds practice social #monogamy, but only a few species actually mate for life.
Ornithologist Bart Kempenaers from the #MaxPlanck Institute explains that longevity, predation risk, and site fidelity all influence whether #animals stay partnered. Even lifelong animal pairs don’t always mate exclusively, with “cheating” and “divorce” playing a role.
👉 https://www.popsci.com/science/do-animals-mate-for-life/
#mating #wolves #science #biology #evolution #ornithology #nature #wildlife #swans #eagles #albatrosses #love
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Friday's fire take:
Monogamy is not the natural state of humans and defs not the natural state of hellions.
"But humans are naturally monogamous!"
U are not.
- U cheat like, a LOT.
- U divorce at crazy rates. Like up to 50% of first marriages and up to 70% of other ones.
- Even when u don't cheat, u often skirt the border of like... emotional cheating. Or u know, climb the fence and sneak into emotional cheating land lol.
Okie, some of u might be monogamous but I don't think its as common as u think. Ur obsession with it is bc even if u were never Abrahamic, u have been force fed their views. I think probs, u are not entirely mono, even if u do tje mono thing for short times."What about hellions?"
Pfft we are mostly like u. Including the dumb indoctrination.
"What about u?"
I'm non-mono but demi. So not mono but super picky.
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Friday's fire take:
Monogamy is not the natural state of humans and defs not the natural state of hellions.
"But humans are naturally monogamous!"
U are not.
- U cheat like, a LOT.
- U divorce at crazy rates. Like up to 50% of first marriages and up to 70% of other ones.
- Even when u don't cheat, u often skirt the border of like... emotional cheating. Or u know, climb the fence and sneak into emotional cheating land lol.
Okie, some of u might be monogamous but I don't think its as common as u think. Ur obsession with it is bc even if u were never Abrahamic, u have been force fed their views. I think probs, u are not entirely mono, even if u do tje mono thing for short times."What about hellions?"
Pfft we are mostly like u. Including the dumb indoctrination.
"What about u?"
I'm non-mono but demi. So not mono but super picky.
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Is #monogamy just a bad idea, forcing us to repress some of our most basic instincts? Or is it necessary for a functioning society and the rearing of well adjusted little humans? Would our #mentalhealth be better or worse if we embraced the alternatives? I guess it’s different for everyone. Personally, I don’t like sharing my partner with others, but I’m terribly promiscuous inside my own mind, so as a compromise I’m outwardly monogamous. Not very authentic.
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Do humans have a high capacity for commitment? One way to find out is to explore the default of nearly all of our romantic relationships: monogamy. Are we wired for it? Scientists have searched for the answer to this for decades. Here’s more from @sciencefocus:
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Do humans have a high capacity for commitment? One way to find out is to explore the default of nearly all of our romantic relationships: monogamy. Are we wired for it? Scientists have searched for the answer to this for decades. Here’s more from @sciencefocus:
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monogamy is the way you organize, if you can't trust the rest of the world.
of course you can't create trust with the partner either but at least you are able to control one person better then many relationships.
monogamy looses it's purpose when humankind abolishes war. -
Hey, if I (As a feminist.) go into a relationship with a sexist with the attempt in making them feminist that's fine, right?
Sure, they violate the rights of anyone who's not a man for fun, but I like them too much.
Hey, if I (As a vegan.) go into a relationship with a non-vegan with the attempt in making them vegan that's fine, right?
Sure, they violate the rights of non-human animals for fun, but I like them too much.
What do you mean that's not real love?
I understand the premise, but I don't get how you could go into a relationship with such people. You're already starting the relationship wrong. And you can like such a person enough to get into A RELATIONSHIP with them? Yuck. #Relationship #Relationships #Couple #Couples #Monogamy #Polygamy #Vegan -
Nice paper out in @PNASNews on the #evolution of #monogamy. It shows that monogamy worldwide mostly appeared as a result of competition for heritable wealth at the individual level, rather than as a way to promote cooperation at the group level.
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You know what would probably blow the mind of your average monogamist? Asexual polyamory people. The next time someone finds out I'm poly and jumps right to talking about sex and threesomes, I'm going to bring up that counterexample and let them sit with what that says about their ideas of love and relationships.
#polyamory #lgbtqia #asexuality #ace #monogamy #ENM #ethicalNonmonogamy #poly #lgbtq #queer -
You know what would probably blow the mind of your average monogamist? Asexual polyamory people. The next time someone finds out I'm poly and jumps right to talking about sex and threesomes, I'm going to bring up that counterexample and let them sit with what that says about their ideas of love and relationships.
#polyamory #lgbtqia #asexuality #ace #monogamy #ENM #ethicalNonmonogamy #poly #lgbtq #queer -
A scientist produced a monogamy ranking of dozens of mammals, including humans.
From @WSJ: "Humans are less monogamous than some mice but rank higher than one breed of sheep."
Gift link: https://flip.it/7nkbWY
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A scientist produced a monogamy ranking of dozens of mammals, including humans.
From @WSJ: "Humans are less monogamous than some mice but rank higher than one breed of sheep."
Gift link: https://flip.it/7nkbWY
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Vatican defends monogamy against polygamy, polyamory
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Shameless #Sexuality: More than Monogamy Panel
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GUc0r9urYc&list=WL
From #pansexuality to #polyamory, join us for a discussion that is guaranteed to be about More than #Monogamy, featuring:
Janice Selbie
Founder of CORT, Divorcing Religion Workshop, & Shameless Sexuality: Life After #Purity Culture, Divorcing #Religion
Keith Mullin
Mandisa Thomas
- Founder and President, Black Nonbelievers
Marie LePage
Sheldon and Katherine Roberts -
Shameless #Sexuality: More than Monogamy Panel
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GUc0r9urYc&list=WL
From #pansexuality to #polyamory, join us for a discussion that is guaranteed to be about More than #Monogamy, featuring:
Janice Selbie
Founder of CORT, Divorcing Religion Workshop, & Shameless Sexuality: Life After #Purity Culture, Divorcing #Religion
Keith Mullin
Mandisa Thomas
- Founder and President, Black Nonbelievers
Marie LePage
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My first iOS app is finally available on the App Store! I am really excited about this and super hyped about everyone who gives it a try or shares it 🥰
Relationship Menu is an app that can help people to reflect on what they need and want in a relationship - alone or together with one or multiple partners.
Get it here: https://apps.apple.com/app/id6746169721
You can also use it on the web: https://relationshipmenu.org
#SwiftUI #Swift #iosdev #relationship #polyamory #monogamy #nonmonogamy #indiedev #ios26
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My first iOS app is finally available on the App Store! I am really excited about this and super hyped about everyone who gives it a try or shares it 🥰
Relationship Menu is an app that can help people to reflect on what they need and want in a relationship - alone or together with one or multiple partners.
Get it here: https://apps.apple.com/app/id6746169721
You can also use it on the web: https://relationshipmenu.org
#SwiftUI #Swift #iosdev #relationship #polyamory #monogamy #nonmonogamy #indiedev #ios26
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Woohoo! My first app arrived on the App Store! 🎉😍
https://apps.apple.com/de/app/relationship-menu/id6746169721Much appreciation to anyone who finds it interesting, gives it a boost, or simply tries it out 🙈 #AppStore #iosdev #Swift #relationships #polyamory #monogamy #nonmonogamy
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Is #Monogamy Natural or Just a #SocialConstruct? So what’s the deal?
https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/is-monogamy-natural-or-just-a-social-construct/
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Is #Monogamy Natural or Just a #SocialConstruct? So what’s the deal?
https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/is-monogamy-natural-or-just-a-social-construct/
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#Monogamy vs. #Monogamish? 7% of #Americans Are in Monogamish #Relationships
When asked about their feelings towards monogamy, America tipped #nonmonogamous, with 39% of respondents saying monogamy is the only type of relationship they’d consider, and the other 61% saying otherwise.
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#Monogamy vs. #Monogamish? 7% of #Americans Are in Monogamish #Relationships
When asked about their feelings towards monogamy, America tipped #nonmonogamous, with 39% of respondents saying monogamy is the only type of relationship they’d consider, and the other 61% saying otherwise.
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Monopoly is when you switch between monogamy and polyamory, right?
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Monopoly is when you switch between monogamy and polyamory, right?
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When I’m with someone, #monogamy doesn’t feel like a difficult choice I am actively making: I’m not depriving myself of the thrill of novelty. It feels more like a genuine shaping of desire towards and around one person.
This time last year.
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Hey,
I'd like to start a collection of books, that are great eye-openers against normative concepts.I have read 2 books so far, that I think fit:
#Ace by #AngelaChen: Maybe the standard work on asexuality and a great book to understand and question allo-normativity (allo(sexual) being the opposite of ace/asexual)
#Platonic by #MarisaGFranco: An homage to platonic partnerships and against romantic normativity or also allo normativity (allo(romantic) being the opposite of aromantic here)
I'm next looking for a book on #RelationshipAnarchy to add to the list. Is there like a go-to book or must read? Please let me know.
Also do you know of any other books, that fit into the collection? It can be about/against any kind of normativity, not just related to gender, relationships and identity.
#BooksTodon #BookRecommendation #normativity #asexuality #asexual #aromantic #RelationshipAnarchism #QueerFeminism #HeteroNormativity #AlloNormativity #polyamory #monogamy #patriarchy
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Hey,
I'd like to start a collection of books, that are great eye-openers against normative concepts.I have read 2 books so far, that I think fit:
#Ace by #AngelaChen: Maybe the standard work on asexuality and a great book to understand and question allo-normativity (allo(sexual) being the opposite of ace/asexual)
#Platonic by #MarisaGFranco: An homage to platonic partnerships and against romantic normativity or also allo normativity (allo(romantic) being the opposite of aromantic here)
I'm next looking for a book on #RelationshipAnarchy to add to the list. Is there like a go-to book or must read? Please let me know.
Also do you know of any other books, that fit into the collection? It can be about/against any kind of normativity, not just related to gender, relationships and identity.
#BooksTodon #BookRecommendation #normativity #asexuality #asexual #aromantic #RelationshipAnarchism #QueerFeminism #HeteroNormativity #AlloNormativity #polyamory #monogamy #patriarchy
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Really enjoying the podcast!
A couple of topics I'd love to hear covered:
* Creating a consistent sleep routine - all podcasts seem to focus just on "how to get your brain to stop keeping you awake as you lie in bed". I've literally paid thousands of dollars to coaches, hypnotists etc to help me just to get INTO bed at a consistentish time that gets me 8 hours of sleep. So far to almost no effect. I really don't understand how my diet can be so good, and my sleep times so bad!
* ADHD dating - Does it work better with an ADHD or non ADHD partner?
* ADHD and sex - Is monogamy incompatible with ADHD? Is polyamory, or swinging more compatible, given novelty etc. Or worse, given RSD?
* Building a network of friends with adult ADHD.
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Really enjoying the podcast!
A couple of topics I'd love to hear covered:
* Creating a consistent sleep routine - all podcasts seem to focus just on "how to get your brain to stop keeping you awake as you lie in bed". I've literally paid thousands of dollars to coaches, hypnotists etc to help me just to get INTO bed at a consistentish time that gets me 8 hours of sleep. So far to almost no effect. I really don't understand how my diet can be so good, and my sleep times so bad!
* ADHD dating - Does it work better with an ADHD or non ADHD partner?
* ADHD and sex - Is monogamy incompatible with ADHD? Is polyamory, or swinging more compatible, given novelty etc. Or worse, given RSD?
* Building a network of friends with adult ADHD.
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#SeparationofChurchandState / #SOCAS #NEWS -
Federal agency flies #Christiannationalist flag
#Christianity Is Ramping Up in #PublicSchools
Trump #ReligiousLiberty Commission promotes #Christian #Nationalism
Christian-Owned Spa Cannot #Discriminate Against #TransWomen, #FederalAppealsCourt Rules
#Abstinence, #patriotism and #monogamy all required #curriculum under new #Ohio bill
When #Religious #Employers Get a Pass, #Workers Pay the Price
https://flipboard.com/@dustcircle/church-state-separation-g5hp0m0uy
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#SeparationofChurchandState / #SOCAS #NEWS -
Federal agency flies #Christiannationalist flag
#Christianity Is Ramping Up in #PublicSchools
Trump #ReligiousLiberty Commission promotes #Christian #Nationalism
Christian-Owned Spa Cannot #Discriminate Against #TransWomen, #FederalAppealsCourt Rules
#Abstinence, #patriotism and #monogamy all required #curriculum under new #Ohio bill
When #Religious #Employers Get a Pass, #Workers Pay the Price
https://flipboard.com/@dustcircle/church-state-separation-g5hp0m0uy
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My Relationship Menu app now finally supports filtering items by search! You can join the beta here: https://testflight.apple.com/join/4drmtcfm
I would love to add a mode that allows filtering by mode but I haven't figured out how I can add a button after the search field yet in #SwiftUI unfortunately.
#Swift #iosdev #relationships #polyamory #nonmonogamy #monogamy
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Made for Each Other: Evolution of Monogamy in Poison Frogs
by @GrrlScientist via #Substack
#frogs #monogamy #evolution #SciComm https://substack.com/home/post/p-164371623
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Made for Each Other: Evolution of Monogamy in Poison Frogs
by @GrrlScientist via #Substack
#frogs #monogamy #evolution #SciComm https://substack.com/home/post/p-164371623
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Made for Each Other: Evolution of Monogamy in Poison Frogs
by @grrlscientist via #Substack
#frogs #monogamy #evolution #SciComm https://substack.com/home/post/p-164371623
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Made for Each Other: Evolution of Monogamy in Poison Frogs
by @grrlscientist via #Substack
#frogs #monogamy #evolution #SciComm https://substack.com/home/post/p-164371623
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JSON attachments also work now btw. for PDFs generated with the iOS version of my tool. We also now have support for sharing menus as end-to-end encrypted links! #relationship #Swift #swiftUI #iosdev #relationships #polyamory #nonmonogamy #monogamy
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Finally added PDF support to the iOS version of my #relationship menu tool! Haven’t managed to add a json attachment to to the PDF yet like the web version does unfortunately - open for suggestions! https://testflight.apple.com/join/4drmtcfm #Swift #swiftUI #iosdev #relationships #polyamory #nonmonogamy #monogamy
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Added a proper introduction sheet to the app now and redesigned a couple of things! #swift #swiftUI #iosdev #relationship #polyamory #poly #nonmonogamy #monogamy
Get the beta here: https://testflight.apple.com/join/4drmtcfm
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iPad support is now available in the beta! You can join here https://testflight.apple.com/join/4drmtcfm
#relationshipmenu #relationship #relationship #polyamory #poly #nonmonogamy #monogamy #swift #swiftUI #iosdev #ipad #iphone #pleaseboost
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New beta is available with a new menu creation flow thanks to the great feedback from @toffifeelix! I also added an example menu when no menu has been created yet ☺️
Link to TestFlight: https://testflight.apple.com/join/4drmtcfm iPad support will come tomorrow!
#iosdev #ios #swift #swiftUI #beta #relationshipmenu #relationship #relationships #polyamory #poly #nonmonogamy #monogamy #pleaseboost #boost
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The first beta is available in case anyone wants to test and give some feedback! https://testflight.apple.com/join/4drmtcfm
Ignore the ugly temporary icon 🙈
#polyamory #monogamy #nonmonogamy #openrelationship #relationships #relationship #app #development #ios #iosdev #swiftui #swift
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The first beta is available in case anyone wants to test and give some feedback! (2nd version is already submitted and will hopefully get updated soon - this one has some visual bugs) https://testflight.apple.com/join/4drmtcfm
Ignore the ugly temporary icon 🙈
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Liebe ist möglicherweise die einzige Ressource auf diesem Planeten, die nicht endlich ist. Und ausgerechnet da glauben die Menschen, sich beschränken zu müssen. 🤦
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Study explores the role of nurturance and eroticism in different relationship styles https://www.psypost.org/study-explores-the-role-of-nurturance-and-eroticism-in-different-relationship-styles/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon #Relationships #Nurturance #Eroticism #OpenRelationships #Monogamy
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@rspfau
I disagree with your interpretation of the word "marriage" as an inexact word, or it being cited as shorthand in the article for monogamy—the one I cited or the one you cited. Good article, so thanks for the link.Even the article finds itself using modern examples of "mating systems" and trying to apply it to ancestral human groups, but acknowledging it was failing as we can only speculate what does or doesn't apply to the past without data. Even sampling primates and other mammals gives a mixed signal which is also noise, giving unconvincing permission to apply what we are used to rather than what our society sees as radical and dangerous.
Early Middle Eastern archeological finds imply women dominated societies (see When God was a Woman by Merlin Stone), and admittedly this may be wrong, too. What was, and what we think it was, could be different things—though I'm convinced otherwise.
Marriage serves one purpose: guaranteeing paternity (theoretically) for the purpose of transferring property down the male line. As the article points out, other social groups like siblings, those related through the mother (cousins, uncles, aunts), groups of unrelated women, even tribes can handle child care without invoking marriage or involuntary monogamy to have husbands provide labor.
We must be careful not to assume what we were taught was true in our society describes what was true before patriarchal societies conquered the world.
#Archaeology #Maternity #Matriarchy #Patriarchy #Marriage #Monogamy #EngenderedWriting #Writer #Author #Gender #Fiction #WritingCommunity #WritersOfMastodon