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Happy Pride from Veen and Venus! :heart_bi: :heart_pan:

#art #oc #originalcharacter #originalcharacters #outerspunk #vecest #veentahk #veen #venus #webcomic #pride2026 #bisexuality #pansexuality #pride #alien

it's the year twenty twenty-six and people are still trying to impose a hard line of difference between bi and pan, like "bi people like this and pan people like that" or whatever... which inevitably ends up coming across biphobic or panphobic or somehow both at once, and alienates people because you're telling them that their sexuality is inaccurate.

as a bi person myself, i am imploring every single one of you trying to make a definitive distinction between bi and pan to understand that there is significant overlap between the two terms and the people who use them, and often it just comes down to whichever one the queer individual in question vibes with.

and a lot of the time, that comes down to whether you prefer a warm or a cool colour palette.

#bisexuality #pansexuality #queer #pridemonth

Pride month is about to start, so felt like making a new icon again. Bremner this time.

https://rkniner.ca/gal/f/G/bremner-pride-hypno-icon.png
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/65190958/
https://www.weasyl.com/~rkniner/submissions/2590847/hypnotized-bremner-pride-icon

#Furry #FurryArt #Hypno #Hypnosis #PrideMonth #Asexuality #Aegosexuality #Pansexuality

Newsflash, if you like me on a dating app, you are not at the same time:

* a straight man,

* a lesbian,

* a gynosexual.

You might be pansexual, however. No, pansexuality does not require that you be *equally* attracted to all genders.

I'm tired of folks in the above categories liking me.

I'm an AMAB enby, and male-presenting.

#dating #OnlineDating #pansexuality

Shameless #Sexuality: More than Monogamy Panel

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GUc0r9urYc&list=WL

#ICYMI

From #pansexuality to #polyamory, join us for a discussion that is guaranteed to be about More than #Monogamy, featuring:

Janice Selbie
Founder of CORT, Divorcing Religion Workshop, & Shameless Sexuality: Life After #Purity Culture, Divorcing #Religion
Keith Mullin
Mandisa Thomas
- Founder and President, Black Nonbelievers
Marie LePage
Sheldon and Katherine Roberts

Yep, that’s me in that studio! Last month for #BiVisibilityWeek I joined host Chris Burkill for Episode 6 of Straightn’t, Sky’s internal Vodcast from the #LGBTQ+ at Sky Employee Network to talk all things #Bisexuality, #Pansexuality & #GenderFluidity! I feel really proud that Sky offers the opportunity for us to share and express our identities so freely and openly with nothing but support and respect. Just another thing that makes #LifeAtSky so special.

Today is the Pansexual & Panromantic Day -- a day for all Pan people to be celebrated and recognized in their truthful and valid feelings and experiences.

FUR/HELP continues its unwavering support for Pan people, as well as each identity of LGBTQIA+. We stand with Pan people. Pan people matter, and Pan people are valid.

More on our OpenCollective: https://opencollective.com/furhelp/updates/open-to-all

#Pansexuality #PansexualPride

(I'm watching the old 1983 animated series Dungeons & Dragons. I've seen the English version when I was a kid. I'm now watching the Spanish version.)

Elf: Hi, I'm Bob the Elf.

Warrior: Hi, Bob.... Wait. Why do they call you 'the Elf?' Do all elves get 'the Elf' at the end of their names.

Elf: Well...

Sorcerer: Yeah, that's strange. [To the warrior.] It's like if they called you Eric the Human.

Acrobat: Haha... that sounds stupid.

Elf: Now...

Barbarian: Or is it that there is only one elf in the entire world.

Elf: Look, they used to call me Bob, the pansexual, but that got old fast. So now, it is Bob the Elf.

#DungeonsAndDragons #elves #pansexuality

#TrumpSupporters sent into #meltdown by #HHS' ‘#woke’ #PansexualPrideDay #post.

The post attracted a number #hatefulcomments, with some describing it as “#nonsense” or “#joking” that #pansexuality meant being #attracted to #kitchen #pots.

#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Sexuality #SexualOrientation #Conservatives #Extremism #Fascism #RepublicanParty #Hate #Bigotry #Panphobia #Homophobia #ThePartyOfHate

https://www.thepinknews.com/2024/12/09/trump-us-government-department-of-health-and-human-services-pansexual/

It’s #PanVisibility Day, an awareness-raising date to get people talking about #pansexuality and #panromanticism.

https://bicommunitynews.co.uk/2024/05/24/pan-visibility-day-2024/

I've been rebelling against the patriarchy and all the devolves from it since at least 1996.

That's when I met my ex-wife. I was 24. She was 44.

"OMG! The age gap! What about kids?"

She already had kids. I did not want kids of my own. What's this fucking edict that everybody should produce children? Eh?

So I've been at it for a long time, even if I did not know what I was doing.

Now that I'm out of multiple closets as pansexual, polyamorous, into BDSM, and still thinking nothing of age gap relationships...

"Provided everybody is an adult, right?"

Yes. Why do I need to specify this? :why:

As I was saying, now that I'm out of multiple closets, it has become clearer to me that a lot of society's edicts are arbitrary rules disguised as scientific fact.

(This post was brought to you by shrooms.)

#patriarchy #ArbitraryRules #pansexuality #polyamory #BDSM #AgeGapRelationships #science

As much as I want to experience having sex with somebody other than a cis man, I’m not sure I ever will.
There are 4 main reasons for this: Covid, #autism, #demisexuality, and low self-esteem.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/i-havent-dated-or-slept-with-anyone-since-realizing-i-m-pansexual-5e4ee21c758c?sk=0acf9fb6f5524300f81b079b1d801d10

#LGBTQ #Pansexuality #Dating #Relationships #Love #Health

to fit my makeup I went for a pan flag inspired outfit today! :BlobhajPrideHeart: :blobcatcoffee:

#outfit #clothes #fitcheck #pansexuality #prideflag

Also, some more info bits;

I moved over to tech.lgbt from the main masto instance late in 2023. Feeling quite at home and am happy for the continued connections and new ones gained in the process.

I like to observe and learn. Will chime in sporadically when I think I may contribute to a conversation or spontaneous share a bad take. None of my thoughts in post are set in stone. I live to learn and don’t wanna be stuck in opinions when confronted with information that contributes to reforming of them. Online, am more reserved than in person. Overall happy to be here

#reintroduction #california #germany #Munich #pansexuality #reintroduction #introduction #queer #pansexual #blackmastodon

New year, new instance and new (old) me. A mini #reintroduction to for the tech.lgbt 🏳️‍🌈 profile remix.

I am Justin (Jusi), he/him & they/them but all pronouns are OK. Late 30’s from #california USA. Living in #germany (metro-regio #Munich). Moved here spontaneously on an opportunity to see more of the world, with it turning into a bunch of life lessons for good and bad.

Personally label myself queer, social/politically leftist, orientation aligning with #pansexuality and am anti-suburban sprawl/car these days too.

Open for new connections, stronger community, solidarity, empathy and book/music/movie recommendations.

#reintroduction #introduction #queer #pansexual #blackmastodon

I went to a bi board game event again yesterday.

We had a newcomer. She was a lady, older than I am, but most likely younger than my ex-wife. She was probably in her 60s. Unfortunately, she quickly discovered her incompatibility with us.

The powers that be decided to play Escape. (This game: https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/113294/escape-curse-temple)

It was a bad choice for our newbie. I've played other board games before, and even I was a bit bewildered. There are no "turns" in this game. You just go at it, until you succeed or fail. I managed to get a couple of rules messed up. My #ActuallyAutistic mind was a bit panicked at first, but in some situations I'm able to switch gears and tell myself that I can just do my best, and that's what I did.

The lady I mentioned above couldn't do this. She asked a couple of questions after we had started playing, and then she decided to leave. The leader of our group went after her, but he came back saying she wouldn't stay. Apparently, she had been hankering for a card game. Sorry, we don't play cards.

Still, that game was a bad choice. We felt very sorry.

Then people talked about age, and I pointed out that I'm no spring chicken. They asked my age and I said 51. They all thought I was younger. I mentioned the autistic bonus, but another guy said he's autistic too and people routinely peg him as older than he is. I might have stepped into this one. :derpface:

I was sporting the pins I show in the picture below while I was there, and I got kudos from the folks at the event. I regularly go to queer events where my various labels are not necessarily evident. I figured I might want to label myself.

Incidentally, if someone has a system to quickly add or remove the pins to their clothing, I'm all ears. I don't intent to be labeled all the time. 😂

#bisexual #queer #lgbtqia #BoardGames #pins #polyamory #pansexuality #autism #autistic

The Girl Who Mistook Me For A Pile Of Bricks

I wanted to give her everything, but she backstabbed me.

I’ve mentioned it before. The queer world is rather small. You should be nice to the people you run into, even when breaking up with them. If you do not, you may get a cold reception the next time you run into them. I wanted to give everything to the girl I’m going to talk about, but she bit the hand that fed her. If she ran into me now, she’d get a frigid reception.

#AutisticWriters #Dating #love #MentalHealth #pansexuality #polyamory #queer #relationships #sex #SubstanceAbuse #SuicidalIdeations #YourAutisticLife

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/01/31/the-girl-who-mistook-me-for-a-pile-of-bricks/

Happy #PansexualPrideDay, everyone! Yes, I’m a Panda 🐼. The gender binary makes no sense to me and so I don’t really recognise it as relevant to my preferences. I see a spectrum and the people outside it altogether and it’s all good. I’m also #GenderFluid, for pretty much much the same reasons. It’s not a big deal. I’ve known this for years, it’s not a secret, just don’t feel the need to bring it up much #Pansexual #Pansexuality #PansexualPride

Being Unattached Is Not Something I Need To Make Peace With

If being unattached works for you, great. It ain’t working for me.

I’m going to start with a comment about the terminology I’m using. I’ve settled on unattached to indicate a state in which someone has no romantic partner. I was going to say single, but this does not quite fit. Some single people can have a romantic partner and yet still be single, in the sense that they’ve never been married.

I’d say that my initial impulse to go with single is a result of the oppressive heteronormativity and mononormativity that are everywhere in our society. According to these two normativities, you start in life as single, then you get married, then you die. For some people, these normativities also allow the status of being divorced. However, you cannot return to the state of single. Of course, you can remarry, and divorce again.

I am currently unattached. I was married for 22 years, that relationship lasted a total of 26 years. Post divorce, I’ve been in multiple romantic relationships, even a threesome, but none of these relationships lasted. I’m not going to beat around the bush, I don’t like being unattached. I like to care for someone. Yes, I also like people to care for me, and at times it is fairly important, like when I had cancer, but finding someone to care for me is not my primary goal. I want to care for someone else.

Let me add here that it is not just for the sex. Yes, the sex can be great, but I also like to love people outside the bedroom and use my life experience to help them. I’ve replaced a car headlight for an ex of mine. I’ve helped multiple exes with their mental health problems. I like to say that I’m polyamorous, not polyfuckerous.

Every now and then someone comes to me singing the praises of being unattached. They’ll typically use the term single but translated into my language the message is:

I used to hate being unattached, but I’ve learned to be happy with it.

For these people, there’s a process that exists that can get you from being unhappy with being unattached, to being happy with this state of fact. Listen, if this happened for you, all the more power to you. I’m not going to deny your own experience. It becomes an issue when people take this idea and want to impose it on everyone. They imagine that everybody has to go down the path of acceptance. This is my issue.

Let me clarify something. If I don’t feel entirely satisfied when I’m unattached, it is definitely not out of a desire to meet some sort of social expectation. Yes, the social expectation is that we should all form heterosexual pairs, and that unattached people are somehow incomplete, or broken. My take on this is, screw society and its demands. What do I mean when I say screw society and its demands? I mean the following:

1. We do not have to be attached to anyone else to be happy. It is possible for unattached people to be entirely happy and not feeling that they miss anything.
2. We do not have to be with someone of the opposite sex. Queer folks are allowed to exist.
3. We do not have to be only with one other person. It could be two people, or three, or more. Polyamorous folks are allowed to exist too.

I’m pansexual and polyamorous. Yes, I can be romantically involved with multiple people and feel compersion towards them. If you don’t know, compersion is that feeling of joy which happens when your partner(s) experience romantic success with someone else. I’ve felt compersion before.

As I’ve said before, if you are unattached and are happy about it, then that’s great. Just don’t take your own experience as some sort of process that everyone has to go through. I think I’ve said it in other articles, but I’m going to repeat it here. All my relationships, even the failures, have taught me something about me or the universe. I wouldn’t be the man I am today without these experiences. No, I don’t think I could have learned what I learned in some other way.

If you don’t want someone to care for in your life, that’s entirely fine. For my part, I do want someone to care for. This is why I’m still looking.

#AutisticWriters #heteronormativity #mononormativity #pansexuality #polyamory #single #society #unattached #YourAutisticLife

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2023/12/01/being-unattached-is-not-something-i-need-to-make-peace-with/

Being Unattached Is Not Something I Need To Make Peace With

If being unattached works for you, great. It ain't working for me.

I’m going to start with a comment about the terminology I’m using. I’ve settled on unattached to indicate a state...

#YourAutisticLife #AutisticWriters #single #unattached #pansexuality #polyamory #mononormativity #heteronormativity #society

https://open.substack.com/pub/yourautisticlife/p/being-unattached-is-not-something?r=2hhuwi&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

#LGBTQ related #Wikipedia article created 9 hours ago

Plurisexuality

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plurisexuality
Plurisexuality or multisexuality is a term used to describe individuals who are attracted to multiple genders

#Bisexuality #Pansexuality #Neologisms

I went to pick up medicine at the local CVS pharmacy.

While I was waiting in line, a woman was talking to a child. Eventually, I realized that she was speaking French. So I asked her, and she's from France. She came to the US about 17 years ago. She asked me about my story and I mentioned that I came 26 years ago because of my ex-wife, but that we're now divorced. She said she was divorcing. I got my medicine and we parted way.

" :headache: She's divorcing. You're divorced. Why did you not hit on her?"

She looked great, no doubt. However, I'm not great about hitting on people IRL, out of the blue. Also, the chances that she'd be into me are pretty slim. She'd have to be happy with my pansexuality, my polyamory, my BDSM-ness, etc.

On my way to the pharmacy, I also checked out a local international grocery store. They have bananas. I might pick up some this weekend, and maybe get some other stuff.

#pharmacy #medicine #French #divorce #pansexuality #polyamory #BDSM #GroceryStore

#Rapper #TeaFannie #SpeaksUp for #trans #kids with #smooth #rhymes.

“My #path is through my #voice,” says the #brashly #articulate #rapper based in #Calgary.

#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #SexualOrientation #Pansexuality #Entertainment #Music #Allies #Representation #Culture #BlackMastodon

https://xtramagazine.com/culture/rapper-tea-fannie-258490

#LaylaMoran on being #forced to #comeout: “It has left some #scars”

“I do think that there comes a point where I should have been allowed my #privacy to #workout what was going on”

#Women #Pansexuals #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #UK #SexualOrientation #Sexuality #Pansexuality #ComingOut #ForcedOuting #Politics #Media #Hate #Bigotry #Homophobia

https://diva-magazine.com/2023/10/23/layla-moran-on-being-forced-to-come-out/

Cards on the table...

I came out *for real* in Spring 2022. Prior to that, I was in a monogamous relationship with my ex-wife and I passed as straight. I knew I was pansexual, but I just went with the flow, and I have to say that it wasn't a struggle. However, with the marriage disintegrating, having survived cancer, and that cancer twiddling my brain in just the right way, I said "fuck that shit!"

So I got on the dating apps. Once upon a time, I was open to dating anyone and anything. However, I quickly discovered that men, generally speaking, are... let's say inconsiderate. I got a TON of stupid matches with men. At some point, I turned off everything but women, and trans women.

I've decided to widen my horizons again. I've now added non-binary folks to the mix.

Why did I wait???

Fear.

"You fucking asshole! They are not monsters."

I know that. I was not afraid *of them*. It was fear that I would end up disappointing them. You know all those years I was in my marriage? These are years during which I did not learn to be a queer. There's a hill I have to climb now.

I sometimes joke that my second-greatest fear is disappointing someone, and my first is disappointing someone in a romantic relationship. It is a joke in that I don't think it is useful to rank fears, but it is illustrative of the stuff going on in my mind.

I've been lucky that I've had a relationship with a trans girl earlier this year. There were a few rare moments where she
lectured me, and I just took it because I needed to learn. Alas, that did not last.

I'm about to be in a similar position again with my date tomorrow (a 31yo submissive baby boy). I may need lecturing... but I'll just listen. Truth be told, he already lectured me about something, but I listened.

#pansexual #pansexuality #dating

#Selfadmitted #fascist who lacks any #formal #education seems really #triggered by #WayneBrady’s #pansexuality: “He could be #attracted to any of us!”

#Homophobic #Rightwing #nutjob #MattWalsh demands Brady “pick a #team

#Pansexuals #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Conservatives #Extremism #Fascism #RepublicanParty #Hate #Bigotry #Violence #Genocide #Discrimination #Homophobia #ThePartyOfHate

https://www.queerty.com/right-wingnut-matt-walsh-is-really-triggered-by-wayne-bradys-pansexuality-he-could-be-attracted-to-any-of-us-20230809

12 #Pan #Icons to Celebrate Pansexual Visibility Day

On May 24 — we celebrate our #pan #siblings on #PansexualVisibilityDay. #Pansexuality is usually defined as a #sexualattraction to people with no connection or correlation to their #gender. It’s a term that more and more people feel comfortable identifying with.

#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #SexualOrientation #Gender
https://www.advocate.com/pansexual/pansexual-visibility-day-icons

The Label Wars Are Over And The Bisexuals Won

From the article - "Let’s get a few things straight. “Bisexual” is a sexual orientation term correctly understood by both the sex research community and everyday people as describing those who have both same-sex and opposite-sex attractions. Queer theorists and their online disciples may rant all day about how sexual orientation was invented by doctors to pathologize us, but there’s a problem with their worldview. The truth is, sexual orientation is a concept invented by the first LGBT activists so we could fight for our human rights. Even today, our right across much of the world to same-sex intimacy and same-sex marriage is protected by referring to the concept of sexual orientation. But queer theorists insist that all that matters is personal identity."

#Bi #Bisexual #Bisexuality
#Pan #Pansexual #Pansexuality

URL for the article is below:
https://www.queermajority.com/essays-all/the-label-wars-are-over

#Introduction

In search of an alternate dump for midnight thoughts.
These include #polyamory, #relationshipanarchy, #bisexuality, #pansexuality, #nonnormative identities and lifestyle, #digitalmarketing, branding, #petadoption, and #simping for people to name a few.

Here are separate pictures of my catto Chester and I unintentionally twinning on separate occassions.