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  1. 🍷✨ Ah, another riveting tale of someone discovering the earth-shattering #benefits of not being perpetually sloshed. We're treated to a year-long saga of #abstinence, where quitting booze becomes a pseudo-academic quest rivaling Plato's Allegory of the Cave. Spoiler: Life is marginally better without hangovers—who would've thought? 🤔🎉
    dynomight.net/drinking/ #journey #sober #living #self-discovery #health #HackerNews #HackerNews #ngated

  2. I was raised on #hedonism and old habits die hard. Sometimes I indulge, though I know it’s a fool’s game. I have “junkie-reasoning” for that indulgence, which is that #abstinence robs us of the opportunity to parse the folly of pursuing #happiness through #pleasure.

    It’s not water-tight, this “argument”, but it’s predicated on the #assumption that we can’t transform our #attachment to what we are not in #contact with.

    Happy to discuss ~ eager, even: I could be wrong… it’s happened before!

  3. I was raised on #hedonism and old habits die hard. Sometimes I indulge, though I know it’s a fool’s game. I have “junkie-reasoning” for that indulgence, which is that #abstinence robs us of the opportunity to parse the folly of pursuing #happiness through #pleasure.

    It’s not water-tight, this “argument”, but it’s predicated on the #assumption that we can’t transform our #attachment to what we are not in #contact with.

    Happy to discuss ~ eager, even: I could be wrong… it’s happened before!

  4. I was raised on #hedonism and old habits die hard. Sometimes I indulge, though I know it’s a fool’s game. I have “junkie-reasoning” for that indulgence, which is that #abstinence robs us of the opportunity to parse the folly of pursuing #happiness through #pleasure.

    It’s not water-tight, this “argument”, but it’s predicated on the #assumption that we can’t transform our #attachment to what we are not in #contact with.

    Happy to discuss ~ eager, even: I could be wrong… it’s happened before!

  5. I was raised on #hedonism and old habits die hard. Sometimes I indulge, though I know it’s a fool’s game. I have “junkie-reasoning” for that indulgence, which is that #abstinence robs us of the opportunity to parse the folly of pursuing #happiness through #pleasure.

    It’s not water-tight, this “argument”, but it’s predicated on the #assumption that we can’t transform our #attachment to what we are not in #contact with.

    Happy to discuss ~ eager, even: I could be wrong… it’s happened before!

  6. A quotation from Bertrand Russell

    The happy life is to an extraordinary extent the same as the good life. Professional moralists have made too much of self-denial, and in so doing have put the emphasis in the wrong place. Conscious self-denial leaves a man self-absorbed and vividly aware of what he has sacrificed; in consequence it fails often of its immediate object and almost always of its ultimate purpose. What is needed is not self-denial, but that kind of direction of interest outward which will lead spontaneously and naturally to the same acts that a person absorbed in the pursuit of his own virtue could only perform by means of conscious self-denial.

    Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) English mathematician and philosopher
    Conquest of Happiness, Part 2, ch. 17 “The Happy Man” (1930)

    More about this quote: wist.info/russell-bertrand/818…

    #quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #bertrandrussell #asceticism #temperance #celibacy #abstinence #diet #focus #goodlife #happiness #interest #selfdenial #selfrestriction

  7. A quotation from Joseph Addison

    Temperance and abstinence, faith and devotion, are in themselves perhaps as laudable as any other virtues; but those which make a man popular and beloved are justice, charity, munificence, and, in short, all the good qualities which render us beneficial to each other.

    Joseph Addison (1672-1719) English essayist, poet, statesman
    Essay (1711-12-08), The Spectator, No. 243

    More info about this quote: wist.info/addison-joseph/78835…

    #quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #josephaddision #abstinence #behavior #beneficence #character #charity #devotion #faith #giving #goldenrule #goodperson #justice #loveyourneighbor #qualities #temperance #traits #usefulness #popularity

  8. A quotation from Montaigne

    Philosophy does not do battle against such pleasures as are natural, provided that temperance accompanies them; she teaches moderation in such things not avoidance.
     
    [La philosophie n’estrive point contre les voluptez naturelles, pourveu que la mesure y soit joincte : & en presche la moderation, non la fuitte.]

    Michel de Montaigne (1533-1592) French essayist
    Essay (1586), “On some Lines of Virgil [Sur des vers de Virgile], Essays, Book 3, ch. 5 (3.5) (1595) [tr. Screech (1987)]

    Sourcing, notes, other translations: wist.info/montaigne-michel-de/…

    #quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #montaigne #abstinence #delight #enjoyment #moderation #philosophy #pleasure #selfcontrol #sensuality #temperance

  9. A Study on “No Fap” for Women?

    Originally Published on March 18th, 2025 at 09:45 am

    Most often, when we talk about online communities for abstinence from pornography and masturbation, such as No Fap, we are talking about men.

    Online forums purporting abstinence, particularly Reddit, are a predominantly male space. So, where do the women go? 

    While we know men more often report problematic sexual behavior than women, women do still struggle with PSB issues. Where is their safe space? A recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior recently addressed this question.

    A No Fap Study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior

    The authors analyzed the posts from a women-only online forum called Porn Free Women. 

    Porn Free Women was developed because most pornography abstinence online spaces are dominated by men and many women did not feel comfortable or accepted participating in them.

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    Therapeutic, Empowerment and Heteronormative

    The analysis of the discussions revealed 16 predominant topics that fell within three themes: 

    • Therapeutic
    • Empowerment
    • Heteronormative

    Half of the discussions fit the therapeutic theme. Pornography abstinence was discussed as overcoming adversity through healing and transformation. Here pornography was seen as addictive.  

    Over a quarter of the posts fit into the heteronormative theme. The discussions involved romantic relationships, identity anxiety and ideas of being a “real” woman. 

    The empowerment theme emphasized female empowerment and agency in building a supportive community to promote well-being.  

    Many of the women in the forum identified with the philosophy of pornography addiction. 

    Unlike men, many of these women use their own past sexual victimization to rationalize their entry into pornography addiction.  

    This study was interesting because it is one of the very few studies that look at a women’s perspective on desired abstinence from pornography. In a field dominated by heteronormative male voices, it is refreshing to see science finally take an interest in the female voices in the arena.  

    Reference

    Zhang, X & Silva, D.E. (2024).  “I feel like a fraud who acts like a feminist”: The discussion themes and sexual scripts in the Porn Free Women online forum.  Archives of Sexual Behavior.  Doi.org/10.1007/s10508-024-02858-w 

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    #abstinence #ArchivesOfSexualBehavior #femaleMasturbation #femaleMasturbationAbstinence #femaleMasturbationAddiction #femalePornographyAbstinence #femalePornographyAddiction #femalePornographyUse #IFeelLikeAFraudWhoActsLikeAFeminist #masturbation #masturbationAbstinence #masturbationAddiction #noFap #PornFreeWomen #pornography #pornographyAbstinence #pornographyAddiction #pornographyAddictionRecovery #problematicPornographyUse #problematicPornographyUsePPU_ #problematicSexualBehavior #Silva #studyOnPornographyAbstinence #Zhang