#internalfamilysystems — Public Fediverse posts
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Parts is now fully open to the public, no more waiting list. The homepage's been refreshed a bit, too! https://parts.ifs.tools/ #InternalFamilySystems #clojure
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Parts is now fully open to the public, no more waiting list. The homepage's been refreshed a bit, too! https://parts.ifs.tools/ #InternalFamilySystems #clojure
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Parts is now fully open to the public, no more waiting list. The homepage's been refreshed a bit, too! https://parts.ifs.tools/ #InternalFamilySystems #clojure
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Parts is now fully open to the public, no more waiting list. The homepage's been refreshed a bit, too! https://parts.ifs.tools/ #InternalFamilySystems #clojure
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Launching Parts: https://gosha.net/2026/parts/ #IFS #InternalFamilySystems
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Launching Parts: https://gosha.net/2026/parts/ #IFS #InternalFamilySystems
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Launching Parts: https://gosha.net/2026/parts/ #IFS #InternalFamilySystems
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Launching Parts: https://gosha.net/2026/parts/ #IFS #InternalFamilySystems
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A Few Guided Gatherings
When we gather, we inspire
When we gather, we learn.
When we gather, we comfort.
When we gather, we encourage.
When we gather, we teach.
When we gather, we hold.
When we gather, we witness.
And, sometimes, our gatherings become embers that can spark change.
Lasting change rarely starts with fireworks. Sometimes it starts with a group of strangers.
Not too long ago, I had a signing event. I was going to read from a book, sign autographs. I intentionally designed the signing so that it was about more than reading a passage and signing a book. I asked thoughtful questions, challenged surface answers, and chose a provoking sample to read. Because I wanted a real conversation. I wanted connection. An attendee hung back and asked one question, then another, and a third. The answers mattered to her and soon there were tears and hugs. Later, she would e-mail me to say she completed a disclosure guide I wrote and gifted to the attendees to give to someone she trusted.
Gatherings have the potential to be more than awkward. They have the potential to shift our perceptions. And I wanted to create more of those spaces.
Within these pages, you’ll find workshops and circles I lead throughout the year. You can look here for upcoming dates and information on how to sign up. None of these are therapy spaces. Instead, they are collaborative gatherings meant to help identity thought and behavior patterns, equip you with grounding, somatic and breath exercises, teach you the neuroscience behind defense mechanisms so we can examine old scripts to see if they are still needed and, most of all, provide a sense of community. Whether it was abuse, betrayal, heartbreak, loss or disappointment, we have all struggled with challenges; no one is exempt from anger, anxiety, depression or fear. We’ve all learned ways to survive alone. And also – our hearts can rest a little easier when we don’t have to. Some opportunities are guided so that you can experience what it feels like to not be alone. Some are so that you can learn more about a human rights’ issue because when we know things, we become empowered.
If you have any questions at all, please – let’s talk.
Reimagine your story. Rekindle your light. Reignite your voice through creativity and connection.
ashRISE is a free six-week, trauma-informed workshop that blends nervous-system education, grounding and somatic tools with creative reflection, helping participants recognize the “smoke signals” of survival and shape what they have carried into something visible, useful and entirely their own. It does not ask anyone to erase the past or perform healing; it offers practical ways to feel more present while honoring the parts of us that worked so hard to survive.
Next cohort starts: August 2, 2026 –
Sign up for the next session here
HERO is an interactive workshop for survivors of sexual and physical violence, created to make room for honest stories, personal expression and the stubborn truth that survival itself is evidence of courage. Through connection, optional sharing and creative work, participants are invited to challenge shame, recognize the hero within themselves and discover that what happened may have changed their lives without becoming the whole of who they are.
Next Workshop Date: September 12, 2026
Sign up for the next session here
Be the Hope is an interactive human-trafficking awareness workshop that moves beyond statistics to examine how exploitation begins, why vulnerable people may not recognize or name what is happening to them, and how ordinary people can notice warning signs and respond with compassion rather than judgment. It is built around the belief that hope is not merely something we feel, but something we can choose to become for another person.
Next Workshop Date: August 22, 2026
Sign up for the next session here
The Storynlight Circle offers personalized, trauma-informed coaching for people ready to understand the stories, survival patterns and protective responses they carry with greater curiosity and compassion. Through one-on-one conversation, grounding tools and support between sessions, the work honors each person’s pace while helping them move toward self-trust, boundaries and a life shaped by more than what happened to them.
#art #blogging #coaching #community #connection #creativity #free #healing #hope #ifs #inspiration #internalFamilySystems #life #mentalHealth #support #trauma #workshop #workshops #Writing
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A Few Guided Gatherings
When we gather, we inspire
When we gather, we learn.
When we gather, we comfort.
When we gather, we encourage.
When we gather, we teach.
When we gather, we hold.
When we gather, we witness.
And, sometimes, our gatherings become embers that can spark change.
Lasting change rarely starts with fireworks. Sometimes it starts with a group of strangers.
Not too long ago, I had a signing event. I was going to read from a book, sign autographs. I intentionally designed the signing so that it was about more than reading a passage and signing a book. I asked thoughtful questions, challenged surface answers, and chose a provoking sample to read. Because I wanted a real conversation. I wanted connection. An attendee hung back and asked one question, then another, and a third. The answers mattered to her and soon there were tears and hugs. Later, she would e-mail me to say she completed a disclosure guide I wrote and gifted to the attendees to give to someone she trusted.
Gatherings have the potential to be more than awkward. They have the potential to shift our perceptions. And I wanted to create more of those spaces.
Within these pages, you’ll find workshops and circles I lead throughout the year. You can look here for upcoming dates and information on how to sign up. None of these are therapy spaces. Instead, they are collaborative gatherings meant to help identity thought and behavior patterns, equip you with grounding, somatic and breath exercises, teach you the neuroscience behind defense mechanisms so we can examine old scripts to see if they are still needed and, most of all, provide a sense of community. Whether it was abuse, betrayal, heartbreak, loss or disappointment, we have all struggled with challenges; no one is exempt from anger, anxiety, depression or fear. We’ve all learned ways to survive alone. And also – our hearts can rest a little easier when we don’t have to. Some opportunities are guided so that you can experience what it feels like to not be alone. Some are so that you can learn more about a human rights’ issue because when we know things, we become empowered.
If you have any questions at all, please – let’s talk.
Reimagine your story. Rekindle your light. Reignite your voice through creativity and connection.
ashRISE is a free six-week, trauma-informed workshop that blends nervous-system education, grounding and somatic tools with creative reflection, helping participants recognize the “smoke signals” of survival and shape what they have carried into something visible, useful and entirely their own. It does not ask anyone to erase the past or perform healing; it offers practical ways to feel more present while honoring the parts of us that worked so hard to survive.
Next cohort starts: August 2, 2026 –
Sign up for the next session here
HERO is an interactive workshop for survivors of sexual and physical violence, created to make room for honest stories, personal expression and the stubborn truth that survival itself is evidence of courage. Through connection, optional sharing and creative work, participants are invited to challenge shame, recognize the hero within themselves and discover that what happened may have changed their lives without becoming the whole of who they are.
Next Workshop Date: September 12, 2026
Sign up for the next session here
Be the Hope is an interactive human-trafficking awareness workshop that moves beyond statistics to examine how exploitation begins, why vulnerable people may not recognize or name what is happening to them, and how ordinary people can notice warning signs and respond with compassion rather than judgment. It is built around the belief that hope is not merely something we feel, but something we can choose to become for another person.
Next Workshop Date: August 22, 2026
Sign up for the next session here
The Storynlight Circle offers personalized, trauma-informed coaching for people ready to understand the stories, survival patterns and protective responses they carry with greater curiosity and compassion. Through one-on-one conversation, grounding tools and support between sessions, the work honors each person’s pace while helping them move toward self-trust, boundaries and a life shaped by more than what happened to them.
#art #blogging #coaching #community #connection #creativity #free #healing #hope #ifs #inspiration #internalFamilySystems #life #mentalHealth #support #trauma #workshop #workshops #Writing
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A Few Guided Gatherings
When we gather, we inspire
When we gather, we learn.
When we gather, we comfort.
When we gather, we encourage.
When we gather, we teach.
When we gather, we hold.
When we gather, we witness.
And, sometimes, our gatherings become embers that can spark change.
Lasting change rarely starts with fireworks. Sometimes it starts with a group of strangers.
Not too long ago, I had a signing event. I was going to read from a book, sign autographs. I intentionally designed the signing so that it was about more than reading a passage and signing a book. I asked thoughtful questions, challenged surface answers, and chose a provoking sample to read. Because I wanted a real conversation. I wanted connection. An attendee hung back and asked one question, then another, and a third. The answers mattered to her and soon there were tears and hugs. Later, she would e-mail me to say she completed a disclosure guide I wrote and gifted to the attendees to give to someone she trusted.
Gatherings have the potential to be more than awkward. They have the potential to shift our perceptions. And I wanted to create more of those spaces.
Within these pages, you’ll find workshops and circles I lead throughout the year. You can look here for upcoming dates and information on how to sign up. None of these are therapy spaces. Instead, they are collaborative gatherings meant to help identity thought and behavior patterns, equip you with grounding, somatic and breath exercises, teach you the neuroscience behind defense mechanisms so we can examine old scripts to see if they are still needed and, most of all, provide a sense of community. Whether it was abuse, betrayal, heartbreak, loss or disappointment, we have all struggled with challenges; no one is exempt from anger, anxiety, depression or fear. We’ve all learned ways to survive alone. And also – our hearts can rest a little easier when we don’t have to. Some opportunities are guided so that you can experience what it feels like to not be alone. Some are so that you can learn more about a human rights’ issue because when we know things, we become empowered.
If you have any questions at all, please – let’s talk.
Reimagine your story. Rekindle your light. Reignite your voice through creativity and connection.
ashRISE is a free six-week, trauma-informed workshop that blends nervous-system education, grounding and somatic tools with creative reflection, helping participants recognize the “smoke signals” of survival and shape what they have carried into something visible, useful and entirely their own. It does not ask anyone to erase the past or perform healing; it offers practical ways to feel more present while honoring the parts of us that worked so hard to survive.
Next cohort starts: August 2, 2026 –
Sign up for the next session here
HERO is an interactive workshop for survivors of sexual and physical violence, created to make room for honest stories, personal expression and the stubborn truth that survival itself is evidence of courage. Through connection, optional sharing and creative work, participants are invited to challenge shame, recognize the hero within themselves and discover that what happened may have changed their lives without becoming the whole of who they are.
Next Workshop Date: September 12, 2026
Sign up for the next session here
Be the Hope is an interactive human-trafficking awareness workshop that moves beyond statistics to examine how exploitation begins, why vulnerable people may not recognize or name what is happening to them, and how ordinary people can notice warning signs and respond with compassion rather than judgment. It is built around the belief that hope is not merely something we feel, but something we can choose to become for another person.
Next Workshop Date: August 22, 2026
Sign up for the next session here
The Storynlight Circle offers personalized, trauma-informed coaching for people ready to understand the stories, survival patterns and protective responses they carry with greater curiosity and compassion. Through one-on-one conversation, grounding tools and support between sessions, the work honors each person’s pace while helping them move toward self-trust, boundaries and a life shaped by more than what happened to them.
#art #blogging #coaching #community #connection #creativity #free #healing #hope #ifs #inspiration #internalFamilySystems #life #mentalHealth #support #trauma #workshop #workshops #Writing
Explore the Circle -
A Few Guided Gatherings
When we gather, we inspire
When we gather, we learn.
When we gather, we comfort.
When we gather, we encourage.
When we gather, we teach.
When we gather, we hold.
When we gather, we witness.
And, sometimes, our gatherings become embers that can spark change.
Lasting change rarely starts with fireworks. Sometimes it starts with a group of strangers.
Not too long ago, I had a signing event. I was going to read from a book, sign autographs. I intentionally designed the signing so that it was about more than reading a passage and signing a book. I asked thoughtful questions, challenged surface answers, and chose a provoking sample to read. Because I wanted a real conversation. I wanted connection. An attendee hung back and asked one question, then another, and a third. The answers mattered to her and soon there were tears and hugs. Later, she would e-mail me to say she completed a disclosure guide I wrote and gifted to the attendees to give to someone she trusted.
Gatherings have the potential to be more than awkward. They have the potential to shift our perceptions. And I wanted to create more of those spaces.
Within these pages, you’ll find workshops and circles I lead throughout the year. You can look here for upcoming dates and information on how to sign up. None of these are therapy spaces. Instead, they are collaborative gatherings meant to help identity thought and behavior patterns, equip you with grounding, somatic and breath exercises, teach you the neuroscience behind defense mechanisms so we can examine old scripts to see if they are still needed and, most of all, provide a sense of community. Whether it was abuse, betrayal, heartbreak, loss or disappointment, we have all struggled with challenges; no one is exempt from anger, anxiety, depression or fear. We’ve all learned ways to survive alone. And also – our hearts can rest a little easier when we don’t have to. Some opportunities are guided so that you can experience what it feels like to not be alone. Some are so that you can learn more about a human rights’ issue because when we know things, we become empowered.
If you have any questions at all, please – let’s talk.
Reimagine your story. Rekindle your light. Reignite your voice through creativity and connection.
ashRISE is a free six-week, trauma-informed workshop that blends nervous-system education, grounding and somatic tools with creative reflection, helping participants recognize the “smoke signals” of survival and shape what they have carried into something visible, useful and entirely their own. It does not ask anyone to erase the past or perform healing; it offers practical ways to feel more present while honoring the parts of us that worked so hard to survive.
Next cohort starts: August 2, 2026 –
Sign up for the next session here
HERO is an interactive workshop for survivors of sexual and physical violence, created to make room for honest stories, personal expression and the stubborn truth that survival itself is evidence of courage. Through connection, optional sharing and creative work, participants are invited to challenge shame, recognize the hero within themselves and discover that what happened may have changed their lives without becoming the whole of who they are.
Next Workshop Date: September 12, 2026
Sign up for the next session here
Be the Hope is an interactive human-trafficking awareness workshop that moves beyond statistics to examine how exploitation begins, why vulnerable people may not recognize or name what is happening to them, and how ordinary people can notice warning signs and respond with compassion rather than judgment. It is built around the belief that hope is not merely something we feel, but something we can choose to become for another person.
Next Workshop Date: August 22, 2026
Sign up for the next session here
The Storynlight Circle offers personalized, trauma-informed coaching for people ready to understand the stories, survival patterns and protective responses they carry with greater curiosity and compassion. Through one-on-one conversation, grounding tools and support between sessions, the work honors each person’s pace while helping them move toward self-trust, boundaries and a life shaped by more than what happened to them.
#art #blogging #coaching #community #connection #creativity #free #healing #hope #ifs #inspiration #internalFamilySystems #life #mentalHealth #support #trauma #workshop #workshops #Writing
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I'm trying to embrace #drawing #comics badly for the sake of getting ideas down on paper. But this week caught me by surprise, because I just. could. not. go there.
Part of being an #abuse #survivor is respecting my own boundaries and not pushing myself into a place I don't want to be. So instead, I started sketching where I am right now. Part of #memoir is being in conversation with younger versions of myself - which is also part of #InternalFamilySystems therapy (#IFS). This page is both.
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I'm trying to embrace #drawing #comics badly for the sake of getting ideas down on paper. But this week caught me by surprise, because I just. could. not. go there.
Part of being an #abuse #survivor is respecting my own boundaries and not pushing myself into a place I don't want to be. So instead, I started sketching where I am right now. Part of #memoir is being in conversation with younger versions of myself - which is also part of #InternalFamilySystems therapy (#IFS). This page is both.
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I'm trying to embrace #drawing #comics badly for the sake of getting ideas down on paper. But this week caught me by surprise, because I just. could. not. go there.
Part of being an #abuse #survivor is respecting my own boundaries and not pushing myself into a place I don't want to be. So instead, I started sketching where I am right now. Part of #memoir is being in conversation with younger versions of myself - which is also part of #InternalFamilySystems therapy (#IFS). This page is both.
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I'm trying to embrace #drawing #comics badly for the sake of getting ideas down on paper. But this week caught me by surprise, because I just. could. not. go there.
Part of being an #abuse #survivor is respecting my own boundaries and not pushing myself into a place I don't want to be. So instead, I started sketching where I am right now. Part of #memoir is being in conversation with younger versions of myself - which is also part of #InternalFamilySystems therapy (#IFS). This page is both.
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Wow. The IFS unconference I participated in today was so good: a lovely, mellow vibe; smart people, space to connect and absorb new experiences. 👍
Looking forward to another this spring!
#InternalFamilySystems #IFScoach #lifeCoach -
Wow. The IFS unconference I participated in today was so good: a lovely, mellow vibe; smart people, space to connect and absorb new experiences. 👍
Looking forward to another this spring!
#InternalFamilySystems #IFScoach #lifeCoach -
Wow. The IFS unconference I participated in today was so good: a lovely, mellow vibe; smart people, space to connect and absorb new experiences. 👍
Looking forward to another this spring!
#InternalFamilySystems #IFScoach #lifeCoach -
Wow. The IFS unconference I participated in today was so good: a lovely, mellow vibe; smart people, space to connect and absorb new experiences. 👍
Looking forward to another this spring!
#InternalFamilySystems #IFScoach #lifeCoach -
Had a great morning with my partner. She slept at my place.
I had four clients today and therapies went great. #InternalFamilySystems #IFS is absolutely amazing and I love working with it.
My partner stopped by and had lunch with me. That was unexpected and made me happy.
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Had a great morning with my partner. She slept at my place.
I had four clients today and therapies went great. #InternalFamilySystems #IFS is absolutely amazing and I love working with it.
My partner stopped by and had lunch with me. That was unexpected and made me happy.
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Had a great morning with my partner. She slept at my place.
I had four clients today and therapies went great. #InternalFamilySystems #IFS is absolutely amazing and I love working with it.
My partner stopped by and had lunch with me. That was unexpected and made me happy.
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Had a great morning with my partner. She slept at my place.
I had four clients today and therapies went great. #InternalFamilySystems #IFS is absolutely amazing and I love working with it.
My partner stopped by and had lunch with me. That was unexpected and made me happy.
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Reflecting on my week:
classes, clients, self-coaching …▪ I'm *so* impressed with how an #InternalFamilySystems approach is helping my clients access important insights, quickly. Check it out!
▪ A significant part of learning the method is doing our own inner work; I'm pleased & surprised at the calm & energy it's brought me.
▪ I learn so much better in the company of like-minded peers, especially when we have a structure where we can chat & share insights.
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Reflecting on my week:
classes, clients, self-coaching …▪ I'm *so* impressed with how an #InternalFamilySystems approach is helping my clients access important insights, quickly. Check it out!
▪ A significant part of learning the method is doing our own inner work; I'm pleased & surprised at the calm & energy it's brought me.
▪ I learn so much better in the company of like-minded peers, especially when we have a structure where we can chat & share insights.
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Reflecting on my week:
classes, clients, self-coaching …▪ I'm *so* impressed with how an #InternalFamilySystems approach is helping my clients access important insights, quickly. Check it out!
▪ A significant part of learning the method is doing our own inner work; I'm pleased & surprised at the calm & energy it's brought me.
▪ I learn so much better in the company of like-minded peers, especially when we have a structure where we can chat & share insights.
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Reflecting on my week:
classes, clients, self-coaching …▪ I'm *so* impressed with how an #InternalFamilySystems approach is helping my clients access important insights, quickly. Check it out!
▪ A significant part of learning the method is doing our own inner work; I'm pleased & surprised at the calm & energy it's brought me.
▪ I learn so much better in the company of like-minded peers, especially when we have a structure where we can chat & share insights.
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I have spent way too long on this landing page for Parts. I think I'm gonna call it done and ship it soon, just need to adjust a couple of more things in the playground. #InternalFamilySystems
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I have spent way too long on this landing page for Parts. I think I'm gonna call it done and ship it soon, just need to adjust a couple of more things in the playground. #InternalFamilySystems
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I have spent way too long on this landing page for Parts. I think I'm gonna call it done and ship it soon, just need to adjust a couple of more things in the playground. #InternalFamilySystems
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Continuing to iterate on the sidebar UI for Parts, trying the Figma-style approach today, where the properties editor palette only shows up if a Part or a Relationship are selected. Cleaner, I think! #InternalFamilySystems
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Continuing to iterate on the sidebar UI for Parts, trying the Figma-style approach today, where the properties editor palette only shows up if a Part or a Relationship are selected. Cleaner, I think! #InternalFamilySystems
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Continuing to iterate on the sidebar UI for Parts, trying the Figma-style approach today, where the properties editor palette only shows up if a Part or a Relationship are selected. Cleaner, I think! #InternalFamilySystems
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More progress on Parts! Got a first version of the relationships between different parts working, plus improved the editing experience. #ClojureScript #UIx #InternalFamilySystems
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More progress on Parts! Got a first version of the relationships between different parts working, plus improved the editing experience. #ClojureScript #UIx #InternalFamilySystems
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More progress on Parts! Got a first version of the relationships between different parts working, plus improved the editing experience. #ClojureScript #UIx #InternalFamilySystems
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More progress on Parts! Got a first version of the relationships between different parts working, plus improved the editing experience. #ClojureScript #UIx #InternalFamilySystems
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If you're an #InternalFamilySystems practitioner and want to be part of the founding group of therapists that will shape Parts, please register your interest on the Parts website: https://parts.ifs.tools ✨
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Parts, our #InternalFamilySystems parts-mapping tool, is getting closer to being ready for launch. The backend is more or less done, and now I get to focus on my favourite part: the UI. ClojureScript and UIx make for a really powerful combination there!
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If you're an #InternalFamilySystems practitioner and want to be part of the founding group of therapists that will shape Parts, please register your interest on the Parts website: https://parts.ifs.tools ✨
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Parts, our #InternalFamilySystems parts-mapping tool, is getting closer to being ready for launch. The backend is more or less done, and now I get to focus on my favourite part: the UI. ClojureScript and UIx make for a really powerful combination there!
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If you're an #InternalFamilySystems practitioner and want to be part of the founding group of therapists that will shape Parts, please register your interest on the Parts website: https://parts.ifs.tools ✨
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Parts, our #InternalFamilySystems parts-mapping tool, is getting closer to being ready for launch. The backend is more or less done, and now I get to focus on my favourite part: the UI. ClojureScript and UIx make for a really powerful combination there!
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Trauma, Attachment & Resilience - Online Summit
32 talks - 35 speakers - 10 days of live interaction
March 10-24
free live webinars (pay for recordings)https://summit2025.quantum-way.com
Coming up: Peter Levine, Richard Schwartz, Stephen Porges, Bessel van der Kolk, ...
#EMDR #Brainspotting #IFS #InternalFamilySystems #SomaticExperiencing #Polyvagal
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Trauma, Attachment & Resilience - Online Summit
32 talks - 35 speakers - 10 days of live interaction
March 10-24
free live webinars (pay for recordings)https://summit2025.quantum-way.com
Coming up: Peter Levine, Richard Schwartz, Stephen Porges, Bessel van der Kolk, ...
#EMDR #Brainspotting #IFS #InternalFamilySystems #SomaticExperiencing #Polyvagal
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Trauma, Attachment & Resilience - Online Summit
32 talks - 35 speakers - 10 days of live interaction
March 10-24
free live webinars (pay for recordings)https://summit2025.quantum-way.com
Coming up: Peter Levine, Richard Schwartz, Stephen Porges, Bessel van der Kolk, ...
#EMDR #Brainspotting #IFS #InternalFamilySystems #SomaticExperiencing #Polyvagal
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Trauma, Attachment & Resilience - Online Summit
32 talks - 35 speakers - 10 days of live interaction
March 10-24
free live webinars (pay for recordings)https://summit2025.quantum-way.com
Coming up: Peter Levine, Richard Schwartz, Stephen Porges, Bessel van der Kolk, ...
#EMDR #Brainspotting #IFS #InternalFamilySystems #SomaticExperiencing #Polyvagal
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doing some brainstorming of functionality for the Parts mvp. https://parts.ifs.tools #internalfamilysystems
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doing some brainstorming of functionality for the Parts mvp. https://parts.ifs.tools #internalfamilysystems
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doing some brainstorming of functionality for the Parts mvp. https://parts.ifs.tools #internalfamilysystems
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While doing some #internalFamilySystems therapy this morning, a rather judgmental part came up & wanted another part to shut up. When asked about its goal, “Harmony” was its answer. Here’s my new mantra: one cannot find harmony by telling people to STFU. It just doesn’t work. It requires listening.
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While doing some #internalFamilySystems therapy this morning, a rather judgmental part came up & wanted another part to shut up. When asked about its goal, “Harmony” was its answer. Here’s my new mantra: one cannot find harmony by telling people to STFU. It just doesn’t work. It requires listening.
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While doing some #internalFamilySystems therapy this morning, a rather judgmental part came up & wanted another part to shut up. When asked about its goal, “Harmony” was its answer. Here’s my new mantra: one cannot find harmony by telling people to STFU. It just doesn’t work. It requires listening.
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While doing some #internalFamilySystems therapy this morning, a rather judgmental part came up & wanted another part to shut up. When asked about its goal, “Harmony” was its answer. Here’s my new mantra: one cannot find harmony by telling people to STFU. It just doesn’t work. It requires listening.
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I brought up this idea of acting from 'outside' myself to my therapist and on my own I have been thinking on this more closely. I’m using therapy to help me flesh this out. My therapist suggested that we explore the #internalfamilysystems model in conjunction with this idea and I'm very open to that and grateful that she brought it up and is willing to walk along with me, following my lead, as I sort this out. She is really the only person I have to talk to in my life that doesn't simply look confused by my analysis of my own inner world. Everyone else means well, but I feel constantly invalidated because they cannot relate to me.
And what I'm exploring IS a confusing idea and *I’m* not even entirely sure what is going on here. I can sense two different experiences; two different approaches to perspective. Slowly, a clearer picture is forming.
The outside voice, as I’ve been referring to it, makes suggestions that are detached from my emotions. It's a bit like a NT person trying to tell a ND person to suck it up. It's not unkind to me, this voice, but it’s out of touch. It creates rules and guidelines for how I should live without taking my emotions into account. It wants to create solutions without considering how to work from such an emotional place when that IS where I am, it is my reality. It wants me to ignore my emotions and act, live, be as if they weren't even there when in actuality they are very much present and they cause a lot of strife and obstacle.
The difficulty is trying to act from within the storm, as it were. To make decisions by using my emotions as cues or to solve problems while also considering my emotions. Outside of making usually thoughtless, spontaneous choices driven solely by emotion, I’ve never done this. I've never managed or really tried to integrate my emotions in a balanced way. I either act from a completely emotional place or I act as if I don't have them. I make movements within windows where my emotions are quiet and I move hard and fast while they aren't cutting into me and then I suffer the cuts and bruises that I inevitably get because I'm essentially running at full speed on numb feet, with a body unfeeling, and then when I can feel again I realize how much I've injured myself by trying to be someone I'm not.
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I brought up this idea of acting from 'outside' myself to my therapist and on my own I have been thinking on this more closely. I’m using therapy to help me flesh this out. My therapist suggested that we explore the #internalfamilysystems model in conjunction with this idea and I'm very open to that and grateful that she brought it up and is willing to walk along with me, following my lead, as I sort this out. She is really the only person I have to talk to in my life that doesn't simply look confused by my analysis of my own inner world. Everyone else means well, but I feel constantly invalidated because they cannot relate to me.
And what I'm exploring IS a confusing idea and *I’m* not even entirely sure what is going on here. I can sense two different experiences; two different approaches to perspective. Slowly, a clearer picture is forming.
The outside voice, as I’ve been referring to it, makes suggestions that are detached from my emotions. It's a bit like a NT person trying to tell a ND person to suck it up. It's not unkind to me, this voice, but it’s out of touch. It creates rules and guidelines for how I should live without taking my emotions into account. It wants to create solutions without considering how to work from such an emotional place when that IS where I am, it is my reality. It wants me to ignore my emotions and act, live, be as if they weren't even there when in actuality they are very much present and they cause a lot of strife and obstacle.
The difficulty is trying to act from within the storm, as it were. To make decisions by using my emotions as cues or to solve problems while also considering my emotions. Outside of making usually thoughtless, spontaneous choices driven solely by emotion, I’ve never done this. I've never managed or really tried to integrate my emotions in a balanced way. I either act from a completely emotional place or I act as if I don't have them. I make movements within windows where my emotions are quiet and I move hard and fast while they aren't cutting into me and then I suffer the cuts and bruises that I inevitably get because I'm essentially running at full speed on numb feet, with a body unfeeling, and then when I can feel again I realize how much I've injured myself by trying to be someone I'm not.
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I brought up this idea of acting from 'outside' myself to my therapist and on my own I have been thinking on this more closely. I’m using therapy to help me flesh this out. My therapist suggested that we explore the #internalfamilysystems model in conjunction with this idea and I'm very open to that and grateful that she brought it up and is willing to walk along with me, following my lead, as I sort this out. She is really the only person I have to talk to in my life that doesn't simply look confused by my analysis of my own inner world. Everyone else means well, but I feel constantly invalidated because they cannot relate to me.
And what I'm exploring IS a confusing idea and *I’m* not even entirely sure what is going on here. I can sense two different experiences; two different approaches to perspective. Slowly, a clearer picture is forming.
The outside voice, as I’ve been referring to it, makes suggestions that are detached from my emotions. It's a bit like a NT person trying to tell a ND person to suck it up. It's not unkind to me, this voice, but it’s out of touch. It creates rules and guidelines for how I should live without taking my emotions into account. It wants to create solutions without considering how to work from such an emotional place when that IS where I am, it is my reality. It wants me to ignore my emotions and act, live, be as if they weren't even there when in actuality they are very much present and they cause a lot of strife and obstacle.
The difficulty is trying to act from within the storm, as it were. To make decisions by using my emotions as cues or to solve problems while also considering my emotions. Outside of making usually thoughtless, spontaneous choices driven solely by emotion, I’ve never done this. I've never managed or really tried to integrate my emotions in a balanced way. I either act from a completely emotional place or I act as if I don't have them. I make movements within windows where my emotions are quiet and I move hard and fast while they aren't cutting into me and then I suffer the cuts and bruises that I inevitably get because I'm essentially running at full speed on numb feet, with a body unfeeling, and then when I can feel again I realize how much I've injured myself by trying to be someone I'm not.
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#IFS is amazing, even for the therapist. Woke up this morning in a terrible shape. Felt like a terrible therapist the first four sessions today but the fifth and last session was IFS and I came alive. When IFS works, there's some kind of energy released that's enough to both the client and the therapist.
