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I'm trying to embrace #drawing #comics badly for the sake of getting ideas down on paper. But this week caught me by surprise, because I just. could. not. go there.
Part of being an #abuse #survivor is respecting my own boundaries and not pushing myself into a place I don't want to be. So instead, I started sketching where I am right now. Part of #memoir is being in conversation with younger versions of myself - which is also part of #InternalFamilySystems therapy (#IFS). This page is both.
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Wow. The IFS unconference I participated in today was so good: a lovely, mellow vibe; smart people, space to connect and absorb new experiences. 👍
Looking forward to another this spring!
#InternalFamilySystems #IFScoach #lifeCoach -
Had a great morning with my partner. She slept at my place.
I had four clients today and therapies went great. #InternalFamilySystems #IFS is absolutely amazing and I love working with it.
My partner stopped by and had lunch with me. That was unexpected and made me happy.
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Reflecting on my week:
classes, clients, self-coaching …▪ I'm *so* impressed with how an #InternalFamilySystems approach is helping my clients access important insights, quickly. Check it out!
▪ A significant part of learning the method is doing our own inner work; I'm pleased & surprised at the calm & energy it's brought me.
▪ I learn so much better in the company of like-minded peers, especially when we have a structure where we can chat & share insights.
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I have spent way too long on this landing page for Parts. I think I'm gonna call it done and ship it soon, just need to adjust a couple of more things in the playground. #InternalFamilySystems
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Continuing to iterate on the sidebar UI for Parts, trying the Figma-style approach today, where the properties editor palette only shows up if a Part or a Relationship are selected. Cleaner, I think! #InternalFamilySystems
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More progress on Parts! Got a first version of the relationships between different parts working, plus improved the editing experience. #ClojureScript #UIx #InternalFamilySystems
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More progress on Parts! Got a first version of the relationships between different parts working, plus improved the editing experience. #ClojureScript #UIx #InternalFamilySystems
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More progress on Parts! Got a first version of the relationships between different parts working, plus improved the editing experience. #ClojureScript #UIx #InternalFamilySystems
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More progress on Parts! Got a first version of the relationships between different parts working, plus improved the editing experience. #ClojureScript #UIx #InternalFamilySystems
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More progress on Parts! Got a first version of the relationships between different parts working, plus improved the editing experience. #ClojureScript #UIx #InternalFamilySystems
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If you're an #InternalFamilySystems practitioner and want to be part of the founding group of therapists that will shape Parts, please register your interest on the Parts website: https://parts.ifs.tools ✨
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Parts, our #InternalFamilySystems parts-mapping tool, is getting closer to being ready for launch. The backend is more or less done, and now I get to focus on my favourite part: the UI. ClojureScript and UIx make for a really powerful combination there!
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Trauma, Attachment & Resilience - Online Summit
32 talks - 35 speakers - 10 days of live interaction
March 10-24
free live webinars (pay for recordings)https://summit2025.quantum-way.com
Coming up: Peter Levine, Richard Schwartz, Stephen Porges, Bessel van der Kolk, ...
#EMDR #Brainspotting #IFS #InternalFamilySystems #SomaticExperiencing #Polyvagal
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doing some brainstorming of functionality for the Parts mvp. https://parts.ifs.tools #internalfamilysystems
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While doing some #internalFamilySystems therapy this morning, a rather judgmental part came up & wanted another part to shut up. When asked about its goal, “Harmony” was its answer. Here’s my new mantra: one cannot find harmony by telling people to STFU. It just doesn’t work. It requires listening.
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I brought up this idea of acting from 'outside' myself to my therapist and on my own I have been thinking on this more closely. I’m using therapy to help me flesh this out. My therapist suggested that we explore the #internalfamilysystems model in conjunction with this idea and I'm very open to that and grateful that she brought it up and is willing to walk along with me, following my lead, as I sort this out. She is really the only person I have to talk to in my life that doesn't simply look confused by my analysis of my own inner world. Everyone else means well, but I feel constantly invalidated because they cannot relate to me.
And what I'm exploring IS a confusing idea and *I’m* not even entirely sure what is going on here. I can sense two different experiences; two different approaches to perspective. Slowly, a clearer picture is forming.
The outside voice, as I’ve been referring to it, makes suggestions that are detached from my emotions. It's a bit like a NT person trying to tell a ND person to suck it up. It's not unkind to me, this voice, but it’s out of touch. It creates rules and guidelines for how I should live without taking my emotions into account. It wants to create solutions without considering how to work from such an emotional place when that IS where I am, it is my reality. It wants me to ignore my emotions and act, live, be as if they weren't even there when in actuality they are very much present and they cause a lot of strife and obstacle.
The difficulty is trying to act from within the storm, as it were. To make decisions by using my emotions as cues or to solve problems while also considering my emotions. Outside of making usually thoughtless, spontaneous choices driven solely by emotion, I’ve never done this. I've never managed or really tried to integrate my emotions in a balanced way. I either act from a completely emotional place or I act as if I don't have them. I make movements within windows where my emotions are quiet and I move hard and fast while they aren't cutting into me and then I suffer the cuts and bruises that I inevitably get because I'm essentially running at full speed on numb feet, with a body unfeeling, and then when I can feel again I realize how much I've injured myself by trying to be someone I'm not.
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#IFS is amazing, even for the therapist. Woke up this morning in a terrible shape. Felt like a terrible therapist the first four sessions today but the fifth and last session was IFS and I came alive. When IFS works, there's some kind of energy released that's enough to both the client and the therapist.
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CW: Re-introduction
Long time no post... Time for a #reintroduction I guess! A lot has changed since I was here last. I found out I'm a #starseed, I learned #reiki, and these things have completely changed my life. I also learned a few things about #crystals and want to learn a lot more. Getting back into making music, including for #meditation.
Still relevant:
#Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic
#NonBinary #Lesbian #LGBTQIA
#SchoolTrauma #TraumaHealing #CPTSD #InternalFamilySystems #Narcissism #NarcissisticAbuse
#PersonalGrowth #Multipotentialite #Autodidact #Unschooling
#MartialArts #InlineSkating #Linux #Writing #Blogging #Music #Art #Programming #Gaming
#Cats #Dogs #Wolves #Horses #Animals -
Pixar's "Inside Out" is based on the #InternalFamilySystems model by the way!
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"Therapeutic changes and healing happen when enough Self energy is felt by parts. Self energy enables protectors to open up and share what is keeping them in their current roles, and also supports parts releasing burdens when they are ready."
"Please notice that Self energy is the healing quality of #IFS, and this means that parts with enough Self energy can help other parts heal and change."
What is Self energy:
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I finally found an (available) IFS therapist, and she sent me this link to a YouTube series that introduces Internal Family Systems. It's great! I'm impressed, she's doing a great job giving examples and making the concepts clear.
If you've read Richard Schwartz's book(s) and enjoy getting the same things explained in a slightly different way, or have friends asking you what the heck IFS is and want a link for them, check it out:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLCJ2fBBavCJEoQPzbMIOuQ2luJDHrWPSL
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https://lateboomersden.blog/2024/02/26/ifs-meeting-the-people-inside-your-head/
IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy has been quite a discovery. Reminds me in a lot of ways of Carl Jung's map of the mind. I think it shows a lot of promise.
#Discoveries, #IFS, #InternalFamilySystems, #Psychology, #RichardSchwartz, #Therapy, #Trauma -
I'm taking a lot of classes with psychotherapists lately.
It's exciting to see them discover and incorporate things we coaches have been doing for decades.
Conversely, I'm learning from them *why* the methods I use are so helpful, and how therapists can help clients in a way that I can't.
Win-win \o/
#psychotherapists #coaching #lifecoach #InternalFamilySystems #neurobiology #trauma
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#healing can come from unexpected places. Check out #IFS #internalfamilysystems for #trauma #recovery help. #psychology #innerchild #lgbt A Self-Proclaimed 'Daddy' Helped Me Heal My Childhood Trauma https://www.insider.com/self-proclaimed-daddy-helped-heal-childhood-trauma-2023-9?amp
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Welcome to another episode of: inside my head.
Was approached by a staff member where I volunteer (different department) had my sleeve tugged and was told “You are *such* a nice person!”
Except in my head it sounded like an accusation and I thought I was in trouble.
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These feelings of course are a gift from my family.
For those familiar with #InternalFamilySystems (IFS) there are 7 types of inner critics:
The perfectionist, the inner controller, the task master, the underminer, the destroyer, the guilt-tripper, and the conformist.
I have the Destroyer inner critic for constant company.
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CW: IFS, Buddhism, shame and compassion
"How can we start to dismantle the fierce self-protective defenses that keep us … always striving for more or better? #InternalFamilySystems and Pure Land #Buddhism offer us the same answer: we must encounter Great Love. We must begin to believe in the possibility of something that sees us exactly as we are, with all our deep flaws and ugliness, and that accepts us just the same." — Satya Robyn https://tricycle.org/article/meeting-shame-with-compassion/
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Adding some hashtags since my interests are all over the place. I'll add more when I think of them. #PositiveMasculinity, #Ethnomusicology, #Afrofuturism, #OldPeopleOfMastodon, #AlanWatts, #AlanLomax, #nonduality, #nondualism, #esoteric, #DarkAmbient, #SpiralDynamics, #metamodernism, #Neoplatonism, #IFS, #InternalFamilySystems
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CW: Weight, body dysmorphia
Guess who’s really freaking glad she’s got therapy scheduled on Monday!
Still feeling sideswiped by finding out my weight because the clinic my hand surgeon is at automatically prints it on referrals for OT. Two seconds and a Sharpie could have prevented this, feedback I’ll share.
Of course this happens during a month where extra treats are part of the celebrating.
Bless my wife who’s already reminded me, “It’s just a number!”, several times already this morning.
Leaning on an #IFS (#InternalFamilySystems) tool hard. I’m focusing on sending my “Body Cop” part to what I call The Asshole Clubhouse. It’s the part of me that screams at me about what I shouldn’t eat, what I must eat, and how my body is hideously misshapen. This part “rewards” good behavior with icy calm that’s really a kind of #Disassociation, a state I’m trying to avoid these days.
I’m grateful my new therapist named the miserable cycle this part throws me in to. She has been helping me understand how #cPTSD, #BodyDysmorphia, and #ED get tangled up with the need to make myself small, to not take up space, to become invisible. My past therapist downplayed it as “poor body image” to be addressed in group therapy after I finished reprocessing with her. This would cause me to get angrier with myself for “making such a big deal” about my body. Turns out that my “drama” is a disorder! -
Me practicing mapping my nervous system by myself: "OK, what are we escaping? What are we fighting? It's not even about [REDACTED] anymore, because even if [REDACTED] I would still have the same cycles."
Filed under #somatics #NeuralRewiring #InternalFamilySystems #PartsWork
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Me practicing mapping my nervous system by myself: "OK, what are we escaping? What are we fighting? It's not even about [REDACTED] anymore, because even if [REDACTED] I would still have the same cycles."
Filed under #somatics #NeuralRewiring #InternalFamilySystems #PartsWork
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#introduction My deal: sarcastic, self-deprecating lover of rational content tinged with snark, daydreaming of quitting my job, falling asleep to physics videos I don't understand, and unavailable men. Have a crush on my therapist. 🏳️🌈🇺🇦🌠🖖🤔🤯
#selfconscious #liberal #doughey #xennial #singlegay #atheist work #cybersecurity stans #MalloryArcher #Robyn #WillRiker goals #foldmylaudry journey #internalfamilysystems
Follow for inspirationally-hopeful-sad song lyrics and movie references.
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CW: Childhood Trauma/Abuse
While we’re dealing with foundation repairs and cleanup from moisture coming into the daylight basement I won’t be able to set up my yoga studio space yet. My wife bring in a clean, dry office needs to be first priority.
This all makes sense from the view of my adult brain.
However, because of #ChildhoodTrauma and #CPTSD, my 12-year-old-part is feeling bereft and afraid. She feels like her space just got trashed and there’s no place for her. She feels the same helpless fury that arose when my Mother would toss my room. Failing to fold clothing “correctly” in drawers would result in all the drawers in my room and the closet being dumped out in my bed and floor and I’d be grounded until I’d cleaned it up properly.
I’m working on reassuring her that it really is temporary and she will have an even cooler space eventually. I also (really bravely) told my wife what was coming up and she’s come up with a better temp space idea that might feel more comfortable.
As if a foundation leaking water and a move aren’t enough.
#HealingTrauma #TraumaRecovery #DevelopmentalTrauma #DisorganizedAttachment #IFS #PartsTherapy #InternalFamilySystems #StructuralDisassociation #AdventuresInTherapy
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CW: Long list of interests/hashtags
I see people posting lists of interests as hashtags, so I figured I'd jump on the bandwagon... :)
#Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic #SchoolTrauma
#NonBinary #Lesbian #LGBTQIA
#TraumaHealing #CPTSD #InternalFamilySystems #Narcissism #NarcissisticAbuse
#PersonalGrowth #Multipotentialite #Autodidact #Unschooling
#MartialArts #InlineSkating #Linux #Writing #Blogging #Music #Art #Programming #Gaming
#Cats #Dogs #Wolves #Horses #Animals