#schooltrauma — Public Fediverse posts
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CW: mh-, depression, trauma
:WhatAWeek: I'm depressed.
:ThisIsFine: Here, have some toxic positivity.So a week ago I was re-traumatized.
As a child I was traumatized at home by an authoritarian, violent stepdad. I was bullied by the teachers at school. Recently in a class I discussed with a professor whether teachers who react wrong to a situation can be classified as bullies. He said no, because the criteria are not met.
The criteria are:
* long term (✔️they did it for 10 years)
* power imbalance (✔️obviously)
* helplessness (✔️ nobody was on my side)
* intention to harm (✔️not as obvious, but imo they intentionally never asked me whether I felt safe at home and just blamed me for bad tests an no homework)The retraumatization happened during a get together with a professor for sitting in on lectures. He was everything that was wrong with school back in my days and I had hoped had gotten better:
1. totalitarian
He made a lot of absolute rules, but one that in retrospect I noticed to be illegal: He won't let kids into class if they are 5 minutes late *and have a doctors note* because of a medical appointment. AFAIK the state and state employees have a duty to educate kids. He argued the kids were exempted from class anyway, so they didn't need to go to that lesson. But they are not exempted from being tested on the subject or submiting homeworks on it.
2. dehumanization
He treated me and my collegue like mindless drones he could terrorize to his pleasing.
3. discrimination
One of his arbitrary absolute rules was a dresscode that I couldn't meet, because I'm nonbinary and won't wear gendered clothes and because I can't afford to buy clothes I won't ever wear again for sitting in on lectures unpayed.I was in survival mode and didn't notice how bad it was in the situation. I couldn't sleep for a few days then I quit the whole thing before sitting in the first time. I felt some relief, but it was not over, by far. My mental state got a lot worse and so many things trigger me right now - though some of them are bad even if I was in a good mental state.
I need a break right now, so I'll cut this short: the rest has to do with my social anxiety, group dynamics and lots of toxic positivity and normativity.
#NotJustSad #MentalHealth #depression #trauma #SchoolTrauma #bullying #FediLZ #discrimination
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CW: Re-introduction
Long time no post... Time for a #reintroduction I guess! A lot has changed since I was here last. I found out I'm a #starseed, I learned #reiki, and these things have completely changed my life. I also learned a few things about #crystals and want to learn a lot more. Getting back into making music, including for #meditation.
Still relevant:
#Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic
#NonBinary #Lesbian #LGBTQIA
#SchoolTrauma #TraumaHealing #CPTSD #InternalFamilySystems #Narcissism #NarcissisticAbuse
#PersonalGrowth #Multipotentialite #Autodidact #Unschooling
#MartialArts #InlineSkating #Linux #Writing #Blogging #Music #Art #Programming #Gaming
#Cats #Dogs #Wolves #Horses #Animals -
CW: Re-introduction
Long time no post... Time for a #reintroduction I guess! A lot has changed since I was here last. I found out I'm a #starseed, I learned #reiki, and these things have completely changed my life. I also learned a few things about #crystals and want to learn a lot more. Getting back into making music, including for #meditation.
Still relevant:
#Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic
#NonBinary #Lesbian #LGBTQIA
#SchoolTrauma #TraumaHealing #CPTSD #InternalFamilySystems #Narcissism #NarcissisticAbuse
#PersonalGrowth #Multipotentialite #Autodidact #Unschooling
#MartialArts #InlineSkating #Linux #Writing #Blogging #Music #Art #Programming #Gaming
#Cats #Dogs #Wolves #Horses #Animals -
CW: Re-introduction
Long time no post... Time for a #reintroduction I guess! A lot has changed since I was here last. I found out I'm a #starseed, I learned #reiki, and these things have completely changed my life. I also learned a few things about #crystals and want to learn a lot more. Getting back into making music, including for #meditation.
Still relevant:
#Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic
#NonBinary #Lesbian #LGBTQIA
#SchoolTrauma #TraumaHealing #CPTSD #InternalFamilySystems #Narcissism #NarcissisticAbuse
#PersonalGrowth #Multipotentialite #Autodidact #Unschooling
#MartialArts #InlineSkating #Linux #Writing #Blogging #Music #Art #Programming #Gaming
#Cats #Dogs #Wolves #Horses #Animals -
CW: Re-introduction
Long time no post... Time for a #reintroduction I guess! A lot has changed since I was here last. I found out I'm a #starseed, I learned #reiki, and these things have completely changed my life. I also learned a few things about #crystals and want to learn a lot more. Getting back into making music, including for #meditation.
Still relevant:
#Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic
#NonBinary #Lesbian #LGBTQIA
#SchoolTrauma #TraumaHealing #CPTSD #InternalFamilySystems #Narcissism #NarcissisticAbuse
#PersonalGrowth #Multipotentialite #Autodidact #Unschooling
#MartialArts #InlineSkating #Linux #Writing #Blogging #Music #Art #Programming #Gaming
#Cats #Dogs #Wolves #Horses #Animals -
Subject: Surviving school
Thank you to 'I've Been Autistic All Along' on FB for this message.
💞🫂
#SchoolAnxiety #NotFineInSchool #SchoolTrauma #Education #Autistic
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Anxiety is the most common reason why parents choose to take pupils out of school.
#SchoolAnxiety #EBSA
#SchoolTrauma #HomeEducation #Unschooling -
Anxiety is the most common reason why parents choose to take pupils out of school.
#SchoolAnxiety #EBSA
#SchoolTrauma #HomeEducation #Unschooling -
Anxiety is the most common reason why parents choose to take pupils out of school.
#SchoolAnxiety #EBSA
#SchoolTrauma #HomeEducation #Unschooling -
Anxiety is the most common reason why parents choose to take pupils out of school.
#SchoolAnxiety #EBSA
#SchoolTrauma #HomeEducation #Unschooling -
Anxiety is the most common reason why parents choose to take pupils out of school.
#SchoolAnxiety #EBSA
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Subject: Not fine in school
"What if our 'square pegs' aren't the problem? What if they're actually the canaries in the mine, alerting us to problems in our education system?"
#Education #Schools #SEND #SchoolTrauma #NotFineInSchool #ActuallyAutistic
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Did you suffer school trauma?
#SchoolTrauma
#Autistic
#ActuallyAutisticCredit to Sunshine Support for the slide.
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The tyranny of school attendance.
And what these traffic light systems actually mean🚦
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Hey, imagine if we had a school system model that made every single child feel they're not quite good enough, and some children feel like they're worse than useless? 😁
Oh. We do. 🤔
#School #Education #SchoolTrauma #Capitalism #Competition #ModernSociety
More below ⬇️
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CW: School is designed to dumb people down (thread)
Snippets from an article by John Taylor Gatto. Full text here: https://www.wesjones.com/gatto1.htm
What if there is no "problem" with our schools? What if they are the way they are, so expensively flying in the face of common sense and long experience in how children learn things, not because they are doing something wrong but because they are doing something right? Is it possible that George W. Bush accidentally spoke the truth when he said we would "leave no child behind"? Could it be that our schools are designed to make sure not one of them ever really grows up?
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More on Not Fine in School here: https://notfineinschool.co.uk/
#education #Schools #SEND #Children #SchoolTrauma #NotFineInSchool
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"A child who deviates (...) may be telling us (...) that the arrangements of our schools are harmful to human beings.
Something toxic is in the air, and these children refuse to inhale it."
(Another quote from Square Pegs, great book!)
#education #Schools #SEND #Children #SchoolTrauma #NotFineInSchool
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Subject: not fine in school
"What if our 'square pegs' aren't the problem? What if they're actually the canaries in the mine, alerting us to problems in our education system?"
https://www.teamsquarepeg.org/what-we-do
#education #Schools #SEND #Children #SchoolTrauma #NotFineInSchool
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Hey, imagine if we had a school system model that made every single child feel they're not quite good enough, and some children feel like they're worse than useless? 😁
Oh. We do. 🤔
#School #Education #SchoolTrauma #Capitalism #Competition #ModernSociety
More below ⬇️
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1. people are being wholesome and awesome on my #schoolTrauma discord
2. my cat is eating better after the vet visit
3. Gentleman Jack is such a good show -
CW: Ways school made me depressed
Ways school made me depressed, as a neurodivergent non-binary lesbian:
https://audenwolf.com/ways-school-made-me-depressed/It's over 3000 words long. I wrote this a while ago, but haven't shared it on here properly yet. #Boost if you want to, I'll appreciate that a lot.
#SchoolTrauma #ActuallyAutistic #nonbinary #CPTSD #Bullying #neurodiversity #Writing #Trauma
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CW: school trauma community discord invite
School Trauma Survivors is an online community for people who experienced or are experiencing #SchoolTrauma - whether it is/was caused by bullies, teachers, parents or the environment itself.
This community was built with #Neurodivergent, #LGBTQIA people in mind, but it is open to anyone as long as they follow our rules.
Join here:
https://discord.gg/hzKHh4zWHG
Boosts appreciated! <3 -
Because nearly 30 people voted "Yes" in my "should I make a #SchoolTrauma support community for Neurodivergent/LGBTQ+ people" poll... I'm busy doing exactly that. Watch this space for a Discord invite sooon! :)
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@Supposenot They need time to recover. No child can learn if their mental health is shattered.
The goal of finding the ‘right college’ or ‘program’ is a dead end, if the child doesn’t want to do it. No matter their ‘potential’.
The Autistic Community is littered with former ‘Gifted Children’ who burnt out. I think that #autisticburnout is a bigger risk right now, than finding the right college.
Hope it goes well xx
2/2@actuallyautistic
#actuallyautistic
#Autistickids
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CW: blog post about school trauma & violence
I empathize with school shooters
I once watched a TED Talk by the mother of one of the Columbine school shooters. It was pretty interesting, and I kept waiting for her to talk about school. It was a school shooting after all. But throughout the whole thing, school was very inconsequential in her talk.
There are reasons why they shoot up schools, specifically...
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CW: school trauma community?
Update:
I made one, you can join here: https://discord.gg/hzKHh4zWHGHello all #ActuallyAutistic #LGBTQ #SchoolTrauma survivors! Would you be interested in an online community focused on being able to talk about trauma caused by school specifically? I know from personal experience that it's a risky thing to talk about with many people because they just don't get it. So I'm thinking about creating a space for it.
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@autisticbookclub I bet there are quite a few around, ABC. I think it's a difficult thing to talk about sometimes because so much of parenting is portrayed by allistics in an idyllic, romanticised way so we probably feel a bit guilty for talking about some of the struggles or challenges we face.
You know, one of the shocking things for me has been coming to grips with just how different my child's needs are to mine - despite the fact that we are both autistic. While that might sound self evident to some, I too randomly expected my child and I would just "click" with ease & not have competing sensory & social needs. But here we are - two vastly different humans. I totally hear you & relate to what you are saying, in other words.
Would love to hear from more #actuallyautistic parents. #Schooltrauma is no joke.
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@BreezieLT I’m wondwr how many other #ActuallyAutistic parents of #AutisticChildren there are on here?
My kids are struggling, even with their relationship with me. I didn’t expect that at all. I thought because we are all Autistic we would understand each other and there’d be no teenage problems. I was wrong. 😑
#AutisticParents #SchoolTrauma @ActuallyAutistic
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CW: Long list of interests/hashtags
I see people posting lists of interests as hashtags, so I figured I'd jump on the bandwagon... :)
#Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic #SchoolTrauma
#NonBinary #Lesbian #LGBTQIA
#TraumaHealing #CPTSD #InternalFamilySystems #Narcissism #NarcissisticAbuse
#PersonalGrowth #Multipotentialite #Autodidact #Unschooling
#MartialArts #InlineSkating #Linux #Writing #Blogging #Music #Art #Programming #Gaming
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@NinjaWerewolf @KatyElphinstone
“ I also still felt pretty alone in my hatred of the experience. Most people around me didn’t really get it. There were a few who did, but I had to be careful who I talked to about it. ” - Auden Wolf
Thank-you for sharing & I agree with you and the above para is so true. 🙌 Ppl seem to take personal affront if you dare to voice concerns about ‘school’, yet our community is being horrendously let down…
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@KatyElphinstone Emperor’s New Clothes, exactly 😕
They refused to go back into school today, or ever, so homeschooling is the only option.
This has happened to all my children.
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Was there a moment when you stopped thinking, "what's wrong with me?" and started thinking "what's wrong with everything around me??"
For me it was seven years ago when my kid wasn't thriving at school. When I brought it up they tried to persuade me that (if there was a problem) it was my kid. "No bullying here', they said. Practically overnight I turned from a meek, mild 'good girl' to a tornado 🌪️
#AskingAutistics #Neurodivergent #SchoolTrauma #Society #ActuallyAutistic