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@girlonthenet I compiled all my answers from the Jenga threads hopefully that makes it easier to work with:
#PSA: #Flirting is like playing #Jenga, and a lot of people don't know how to play Jenga either.
If you're not familiar with Jenga, here's my description: Jenga is a *cooperative*, turn-based game, in which you and one or more willing partners attempt to build anticipation until someone gets too flustered and spills the pieces.
The win condition is:"How long can we maintain that state *just* before the tower falls—when everyone is on the edge of their seats, leaning in, wide-eyed and holding their breath?"
The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. As tension builds, everyone gets more involved in the game, and when the tower finally topples—regardless of who knocked it over—it should be exciting, fun for everyone, and involve positive aftercare; that's what makes people happy they played with you (and want to play another round).
Some mistakes I see people making when they play:
- forcing the game; not everyone wants to play with you—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you *can* make an early goblin move that'll destabilize the tower in the hopes of a quick topple, but if your only goal is to spill blocks, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to knock the tower over—don't use them—folx won't want to play with you.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear, and if you knock the tower down, as long as y'all're having fun playing, there's nothing stopping you from picking right back up and starting another round.
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Some mistakes I see people making when they flirt (or engage in any social interaction):
- forcing the interaction; not everyone is open to that kind of attention—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you can open with a dick pic or a wolf-whistle, but if your goal is to flirt *at* someone, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to sleep with you—don't use them—that's coercion at best, and quite possibly sexual assault.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear. If you're genuine, and playing because you want the *other* person to have fun, then most folx will be flattered you made that effort, even if they're not interested in playing a full round.
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"How do I let someone know I want to play with them?"
> Try complimenting them on something they *put effort into*—"Those are amazing earrings!"
"How do I do that without feeling creepy?"
> Smile, say it, and disengage. If they're receptive, they'll engage you.
"How do I know what to say?"
> Most people are pretty interesting, and most people who want to be interacted with will put out bids for interaction, so look for cues. Are they wearing a cool t-shirt? Is their hair dyed? Have they smiled at you more than once (and you're not a customer)?
"Yeah, but really, how do I know what to say?"
> The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. When they take a turn, they'll often leave an opening just for you. If they don't, they might also be bad a Jenga, or they're not really into playing with you right now.
"Can you give me examples?"
> Sure.
You're in line at a grocery store, and there's a cute person in line next to you, so you wait until *one* of you is leaving the line. "Your hair is amazing; I love that color blue 😊", then you go back to what you were doing. If they want to play, they'll say something like "thanks, I just dyed it! 🩵" and then wait for you to take your turn again; if they don't want to play, they might just say "thanks" and disengage. If it's your turn again, you might respond "did you have it professionally done? I've been meaning to redye mine 😅" Now it's their turn to respond.
Of course your turns will look different, but each one should take a cue from your partner, and also volunteer a possible move for them to make on their turn.
"My games keep fizzling out, how do I keep them lively?"
> Look for their cues, and leave your own cues for them. Co-op games are about helping your teammates so you can all have the most fun, and *anyone* feels awkward when they don't know what they should do on their turn, so don't leave them hanging.
"How do I let someone know I'd like to play again sometime?"
> Tell them. "I really enjoyed talking to you 😊 and I'd like to do it again if you're interested. Can I give you my Mastodon handle?". If they look confused, just say you're a friend of @alice; that'll probably work.
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Credentials: am always somewhere between friendly and flirty, and love giving (and getting) good compliments.
Testimonial: Last week I explained this to a nice woman who said she didn't know how to flirt. A couple days later, she texted me that she tried it at a party over the weekend and ended up having sex with someone. (I can't tell you that it had anything to do with my advice, or that your experience will be similar, but it's a thing that happened)
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One of the most genuinely attractive traits I see in people is when they seem like they're honestly just happy that I exist.
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The only folx I've seen who are *really* bad at flirting are the ones who treat it like a zero-sum game, or the ones who are poor sports when they don't "win".
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Gently exiting a conversation you're not vibing with is a tricky task, and one I sometimes struggle with too.
You have a few options...
1. Find a way to be interested in what they're talking about. This can be a good opportunity to learn something new, experience new perspectives, or just enjoy someone else geeking out about something that fascinates them.
2. Put in bids to change the subject. This can be as simple as responding to their turn with something tangential that moves the conversation into an area you're more comfortable with, or leaving more explicit openings for them to ask you things about yourself.
3. Let them know you don't know enough about that topic to carry on a conversation about it, or that the topic is touching on something that makes you uncomfortable, and you'd like to move on to something else that you can both have more fun with.
That said, some people haven't learned how to play Jenga, so they default to Solitaire. And since it's not very fun to have a game played at you, it can be time to disengage, excuse yourself, and find someone else to play with.
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Got your "pregame" plans for Memorial Day Weekend yet? @BurbSecWest is the Thursday before Memorial Day, and this month is sponsored by Orca and Push Security. I look forward to seeing everyone out there. Details for where and when are available here: https://burbsec.com/west/.
I look forward to seeing you there.
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Got your "pregame" plans for Memorial Day Weekend yet? @BurbSecWest is the Thursday before Memorial Day, and this month is sponsored by Orca and Push Security. I look forward to seeing everyone out there. Details for where and when are available here: https://burbsec.com/west/.
I look forward to seeing you there.
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Got your "pregame" plans for Memorial Day Weekend yet? @BurbSecWest is the Thursday before Memorial Day, and this month is sponsored by Orca and Push Security. I look forward to seeing everyone out there. Details for where and when are available here: https://burbsec.com/west/.
I look forward to seeing you there.
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Got your "pregame" plans for Memorial Day Weekend yet? @BurbSecWest is the Thursday before Memorial Day, and this month is sponsored by Orca and Push Security. I look forward to seeing everyone out there. Details for where and when are available here: https://burbsec.com/west/.
I look forward to seeing you there.
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Got your "pregame" plans for Memorial Day Weekend yet? @BurbSecWest is the Thursday before Memorial Day, and this month is sponsored by Orca and Push Security. I look forward to seeing everyone out there. Details for where and when are available here: https://burbsec.com/west/.
I look forward to seeing you there.
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#PSA: #Flirting is like playing #Jenga, and a lot of people don't know how to play Jenga either.
If you're not familiar with Jenga, here's my description: Jenga is a *cooperative*, turn-based game, in which you and one or more willing partners attempt to build anticipation until someone gets too flustered and spills the pieces.
The win condition is:"How long can we maintain that state *just* before the tower falls—when everyone is on the edge of their seats, leaning in, wide-eyed and holding their breath?"
The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. As tension builds, everyone gets more involved in the game, and when the tower finally topples—regardless of who knocked it over—it should be exciting, fun for everyone, and involve positive aftercare; that's what makes people happy they played with you (and want to play another round).
Some mistakes I see people making when they play:
- forcing the game; not everyone wants to play with you—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you *can* make an early goblin move that'll destabilize the tower in the hopes of a quick topple, but if your only goal is to spill blocks, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to knock the tower over—don't use them—folx won't want to play with you.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear, and if you knock the tower down, as long as y'all're having fun playing, there's nothing stopping you from picking right back up and starting another round.
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Some mistakes I see people making when they flirt (or engage in any social interaction):
- forcing the interaction; not everyone is open to that kind of attention—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you can open with a dick pic or a wolf-whistle, but if your goal is to flirt *at* someone, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to sleep with you—don't use them—that's coercion at best, and quite possibly sexual assault.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear. If you're genuine, and playing because you want the *other* person to have fun, then most folx will be flattered you made that effort, even if they're not interested in playing a full round.
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"How do I let someone know I want to play with them?"
> Try complimenting them on something they *put effort into*—"Those are amazing earrings!"
"How do I do that without feeling creepy?"
> Smile, say it, and disengage. If they're receptive, they'll engage you.
"How do I know what to say?"
> Most people are pretty interesting, and most people who want to be interacted with will put out bids for interaction, so look for cues. Are they wearing a cool t-shirt? Is their hair dyed? Have they smiled at you more than once (and you're not a customer)?
"Yeah, but really, how do I know what to say?"
> The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. When they take a turn, they'll often leave an opening just for you. If they don't, they might also be bad a Jenga, or they're not really into playing with you right now.
"Can you give me examples?"
> Sure.
You're in line at a grocery store, and there's a cute person in line next to you, so you wait until *one* of you is leaving the line. "Your hair is amazing; I love that color blue 😊", then you go back to what you were doing. If they want to play, they'll say something like "thanks, I just dyed it! 🩵" and then wait for you to take your turn again; if they don't want to play, they might just say "thanks" and disengage. If it's your turn again, you might respond "did you have it professionally done? I've been meaning to redye mine 😅" Now it's their turn to respond.
Of course your turns will look different, but each one should take a cue from your partner, and also volunteer a possible move for them to make on their turn.
"My games keep fizzling out, how do I keep them lively?"
> Look for their cues, and leave your own cues for them. Co-op games are about helping your teammates so you can all have the most fun, and *anyone* feels awkward when they don't know what they should do on their turn, so don't leave them hanging.
"How do I let someone know I'd like to play again sometime?"
> Tell them. "I really enjoyed talking to you 😊 and I'd like to do it again if you're interested. Can I give you my Mastodon handle?". If they look confused, just say you're a friend of @alice; that'll probably work.
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#PSA: #Flirting is like playing #Jenga, and a lot of people don't know how to play Jenga either.
If you're not familiar with Jenga, here's my description: Jenga is a *cooperative*, turn-based game, in which you and one or more willing partners attempt to build anticipation until someone gets too flustered and spills the pieces.
The win condition is:"How long can we maintain that state *just* before the tower falls—when everyone is on the edge of their seats, leaning in, wide-eyed and holding their breath?"
The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. As tension builds, everyone gets more involved in the game, and when the tower finally topples—regardless of who knocked it over—it should be exciting, fun for everyone, and involve positive aftercare; that's what makes people happy they played with you (and want to play another round).
Some mistakes I see people making when they play:
- forcing the game; not everyone wants to play with you—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you *can* make an early goblin move that'll destabilize the tower in the hopes of a quick topple, but if your only goal is to spill blocks, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to knock the tower over—don't use them—folx won't want to play with you.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear, and if you knock the tower down, as long as y'all're having fun playing, there's nothing stopping you from picking right back up and starting another round.
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Some mistakes I see people making when they flirt (or engage in any social interaction):
- forcing the interaction; not everyone is open to that kind of attention—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you can open with a dick pic or a wolf-whistle, but if your goal is to flirt *at* someone, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to sleep with you—don't use them—that's coercion at best, and quite possibly sexual assault.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear. If you're genuine, and playing because you want the *other* person to have fun, then most folx will be flattered you made that effort, even if they're not interested in playing a full round.
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"How do I let someone know I want to play with them?"
> Try complimenting them on something they *put effort into*—"Those are amazing earrings!"
"How do I do that without feeling creepy?"
> Smile, say it, and disengage. If they're receptive, they'll engage you.
"How do I know what to say?"
> Most people are pretty interesting, and most people who want to be interacted with will put out bids for interaction, so look for cues. Are they wearing a cool t-shirt? Is their hair dyed? Have they smiled at you more than once (and you're not a customer)?
"Yeah, but really, how do I know what to say?"
> The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. When they take a turn, they'll often leave an opening just for you. If they don't, they might also be bad a Jenga, or they're not really into playing with you right now.
"Can you give me examples?"
> Sure.
You're in line at a grocery store, and there's a cute person in line next to you, so you wait until *one* of you is leaving the line. "Your hair is amazing; I love that color blue 😊", then you go back to what you were doing. If they want to play, they'll say something like "thanks, I just dyed it! 🩵" and then wait for you to take your turn again; if they don't want to play, they might just say "thanks" and disengage. If it's your turn again, you might respond "did you have it professionally done? I've been meaning to redye mine 😅" Now it's their turn to respond.
Of course your turns will look different, but each one should take a cue from your partner, and also volunteer a possible move for them to make on their turn.
"My games keep fizzling out, how do I keep them lively?"
> Look for their cues, and leave your own cues for them. Co-op games are about helping your teammates so you can all have the most fun, and *anyone* feels awkward when they don't know what they should do on their turn, so don't leave them hanging.
"How do I let someone know I'd like to play again sometime?"
> Tell them. "I really enjoyed talking to you 😊 and I'd like to do it again if you're interested. Can I give you my Mastodon handle?". If they look confused, just say you're a friend of @alice; that'll probably work.
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#PSA: #Flirting is like playing #Jenga, and a lot of people don't know how to play Jenga either.
If you're not familiar with Jenga, here's my description: Jenga is a *cooperative*, turn-based game, in which you and one or more willing partners attempt to build anticipation until someone gets too flustered and spills the pieces.
The win condition is:"How long can we maintain that state *just* before the tower falls—when everyone is on the edge of their seats, leaning in, wide-eyed and holding their breath?"
The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. As tension builds, everyone gets more involved in the game, and when the tower finally topples—regardless of who knocked it over—it should be exciting, fun for everyone, and involve positive aftercare; that's what makes people happy they played with you (and want to play another round).
Some mistakes I see people making when they play:
- forcing the game; not everyone wants to play with you—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you *can* make an early goblin move that'll destabilize the tower in the hopes of a quick topple, but if your only goal is to spill blocks, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to knock the tower over—don't use them—folx won't want to play with you.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear, and if you knock the tower down, as long as y'all're having fun playing, there's nothing stopping you from picking right back up and starting another round.
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Some mistakes I see people making when they flirt (or engage in any social interaction):
- forcing the interaction; not everyone is open to that kind of attention—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you can open with a dick pic or a wolf-whistle, but if your goal is to flirt *at* someone, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to sleep with you—don't use them—that's coercion at best, and quite possibly sexual assault.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear. If you're genuine, and playing because you want the *other* person to have fun, then most folx will be flattered you made that effort, even if they're not interested in playing a full round.
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"How do I let someone know I want to play with them?"
> Try complimenting them on something they *put effort into*—"Those are amazing earrings!"
"How do I do that without feeling creepy?"
> Smile, say it, and disengage. If they're receptive, they'll engage you.
"How do I know what to say?"
> Most people are pretty interesting, and most people who want to be interacted with will put out bids for interaction, so look for cues. Are they wearing a cool t-shirt? Is their hair dyed? Have they smiled at you more than once (and you're not a customer)?
"Yeah, but really, how do I know what to say?"
> The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. When they take a turn, they'll often leave an opening just for you. If they don't, they might also be bad a Jenga, or they're not really into playing with you right now.
"Can you give me examples?"
> Sure.
You're in line at a grocery store, and there's a cute person in line next to you, so you wait until *one* of you is leaving the line. "Your hair is amazing; I love that color blue 😊", then you go back to what you were doing. If they want to play, they'll say something like "thanks, I just dyed it! 🩵" and then wait for you to take your turn again; if they don't want to play, they might just say "thanks" and disengage. If it's your turn again, you might respond "did you have it professionally done? I've been meaning to redye mine 😅" Now it's their turn to respond.
Of course your turns will look different, but each one should take a cue from your partner, and also volunteer a possible move for them to make on their turn.
"My games keep fizzling out, how do I keep them lively?"
> Look for their cues, and leave your own cues for them. Co-op games are about helping your teammates so you can all have the most fun, and *anyone* feels awkward when they don't know what they should do on their turn, so don't leave them hanging.
"How do I let someone know I'd like to play again sometime?"
> Tell them. "I really enjoyed talking to you 😊 and I'd like to do it again if you're interested. Can I give you my Mastodon handle?". If they look confused, just say you're a friend of @alice; that'll probably work.
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#PSA: #Flirting is like playing #Jenga, and a lot of people don't know how to play Jenga either.
If you're not familiar with Jenga, here's my description: Jenga is a *cooperative*, turn-based game, in which you and one or more willing partners attempt to build anticipation until someone gets too flustered and spills the pieces.
The win condition is:"How long can we maintain that state *just* before the tower falls—when everyone is on the edge of their seats, leaning in, wide-eyed and holding their breath?"
The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. As tension builds, everyone gets more involved in the game, and when the tower finally topples—regardless of who knocked it over—it should be exciting, fun for everyone, and involve positive aftercare; that's what makes people happy they played with you (and want to play another round).
Some mistakes I see people making when they play:
- forcing the game; not everyone wants to play with you—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you *can* make an early goblin move that'll destabilize the tower in the hopes of a quick topple, but if your only goal is to spill blocks, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to knock the tower over—don't use them—folx won't want to play with you.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear, and if you knock the tower down, as long as y'all're having fun playing, there's nothing stopping you from picking right back up and starting another round.
---
Some mistakes I see people making when they flirt (or engage in any social interaction):
- forcing the interaction; not everyone is open to that kind of attention—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you can open with a dick pic or a wolf-whistle, but if your goal is to flirt *at* someone, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to sleep with you—don't use them—that's coercion at best, and quite possibly sexual assault.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear. If you're genuine, and playing because you want the *other* person to have fun, then most folx will be flattered you made that effort, even if they're not interested in playing a full round.
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"How do I let someone know I want to play with them?"
> Try complimenting them on something they *put effort into*—"Those are amazing earrings!"
"How do I do that without feeling creepy?"
> Smile, say it, and disengage. If they're receptive, they'll engage you.
"How do I know what to say?"
> Most people are pretty interesting, and most people who want to be interacted with will put out bids for interaction, so look for cues. Are they wearing a cool t-shirt? Is their hair dyed? Have they smiled at you more than once (and you're not a customer)?
"Yeah, but really, how do I know what to say?"
> The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. When they take a turn, they'll often leave an opening just for you. If they don't, they might also be bad a Jenga, or they're not really into playing with you right now.
"Can you give me examples?"
> Sure.
You're in line at a grocery store, and there's a cute person in line next to you, so you wait until *one* of you is leaving the line. "Your hair is amazing; I love that color blue 😊", then you go back to what you were doing. If they want to play, they'll say something like "thanks, I just dyed it! 🩵" and then wait for you to take your turn again; if they don't want to play, they might just say "thanks" and disengage. If it's your turn again, you might respond "did you have it professionally done? I've been meaning to redye mine 😅" Now it's their turn to respond.
Of course your turns will look different, but each one should take a cue from your partner, and also volunteer a possible move for them to make on their turn.
"My games keep fizzling out, how do I keep them lively?"
> Look for their cues, and leave your own cues for them. Co-op games are about helping your teammates so you can all have the most fun, and *anyone* feels awkward when they don't know what they should do on their turn, so don't leave them hanging.
"How do I let someone know I'd like to play again sometime?"
> Tell them. "I really enjoyed talking to you 😊 and I'd like to do it again if you're interested. Can I give you my Mastodon handle?". If they look confused, just say you're a friend of @alice; that'll probably work.
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#PSA: #Flirting is like playing #Jenga, and a lot of people don't know how to play Jenga either.
If you're not familiar with Jenga, here's my description: Jenga is a *cooperative*, turn-based game, in which you and one or more willing partners attempt to build anticipation until someone gets too flustered and spills the pieces.
The win condition is:"How long can we maintain that state *just* before the tower falls—when everyone is on the edge of their seats, leaning in, wide-eyed and holding their breath?"
The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. As tension builds, everyone gets more involved in the game, and when the tower finally topples—regardless of who knocked it over—it should be exciting, fun for everyone, and involve positive aftercare; that's what makes people happy they played with you (and want to play another round).
Some mistakes I see people making when they play:
- forcing the game; not everyone wants to play with you—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you *can* make an early goblin move that'll destabilize the tower in the hopes of a quick topple, but if your only goal is to spill blocks, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to knock the tower over—don't use them—folx won't want to play with you.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear, and if you knock the tower down, as long as y'all're having fun playing, there's nothing stopping you from picking right back up and starting another round.
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Some mistakes I see people making when they flirt (or engage in any social interaction):
- forcing the interaction; not everyone is open to that kind of attention—respect that.
- making "big dick" moves to speed the game up; sure, you can open with a dick pic or a wolf-whistle, but if your goal is to flirt *at* someone, it's better if you just play with yourself at home.
- trying to get the other person to lose; there are plenty of sneaky ways to make the other person more likely to sleep with you—don't use them—that's coercion at best, and quite possibly sexual assault.
- dragging out your turn because you're too afraid to "lose"; it's not as bad as you fear. If you're genuine, and playing because you want the *other* person to have fun, then most folx will be flattered you made that effort, even if they're not interested in playing a full round.
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"How do I let someone know I want to play with them?"
> Try complimenting them on something they *put effort into*—"Those are amazing earrings!"
"How do I do that without feeling creepy?"
> Smile, say it, and disengage. If they're receptive, they'll engage you.
"How do I know what to say?"
> Most people are pretty interesting, and most people who want to be interacted with will put out bids for interaction, so look for cues. Are they wearing a cool t-shirt? Is their hair dyed? Have they smiled at you more than once (and you're not a customer)?
"Yeah, but really, how do I know what to say?"
> The game is played by taking turns poking around for a good piece and then making a move. Each move raises the stakes *just a little bit*. When they take a turn, they'll often leave an opening just for you. If they don't, they might also be bad a Jenga, or they're not really into playing with you right now.
"Can you give me examples?"
> Sure.
You're in line at a grocery store, and there's a cute person in line next to you, so you wait until *one* of you is leaving the line. "Your hair is amazing; I love that color blue 😊", then you go back to what you were doing. If they want to play, they'll say something like "thanks, I just dyed it! 🩵" and then wait for you to take your turn again; if they don't want to play, they might just say "thanks" and disengage. If it's your turn again, you might respond "did you have it professionally done? I've been meaning to redye mine 😅" Now it's their turn to respond.
Of course your turns will look different, but each one should take a cue from your partner, and also volunteer a possible move for them to make on their turn.
"My games keep fizzling out, how do I keep them lively?"
> Look for their cues, and leave your own cues for them. Co-op games are about helping your teammates so you can all have the most fun, and *anyone* feels awkward when they don't know what they should do on their turn, so don't leave them hanging.
"How do I let someone know I'd like to play again sometime?"
> Tell them. "I really enjoyed talking to you 😊 and I'd like to do it again if you're interested. Can I give you my Mastodon handle?". If they look confused, just say you're a friend of @alice; that'll probably work.
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Tag der offenen Werkstatt 2026 im FreiWerk
FreiWerk Paderborn, Samstag, 30. Mai um 13:00 MESZ
Herzliche Einladung zum Tag der offenen Werkstatt 2026 im FreiWerk
Am Samstag, dem 30.05.2026, laden wir herzlich in unsere offene Werkstatt ein. Von 13 bis 18 Uhr stellen wir in gemütlicher Atmosphäre unsere Räumlichkeiten und unseren Verein vor. Im Laufe des Tages gibt es Werkstattführungen und Workshopangebote zum spontanen Mitmachen.
Kaltgetränke und ein Buffet sorgen für das leibliche Wohl.
Egal ob du nur gucken und quatschen willst oder aktiv mitmachen, ob du regelmäßig hier bist oder zum ersten Mal von uns hörst – du bist herzlich willkommen!
https://calndr.de/event/tag-der-offenen-werkstatt-2026-im-freiwerk
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Tag der offenen Werkstatt 2026 im FreiWerk
FreiWerk Paderborn, Samstag, 30. Mai um 13:00 MESZ
Herzliche Einladung zum Tag der offenen Werkstatt 2026 im FreiWerk
Am Samstag, dem 30.05.2026, laden wir herzlich in unsere offene Werkstatt ein. Von 13 bis 18 Uhr stellen wir in gemütlicher Atmosphäre unsere Räumlichkeiten und unseren Verein vor. Im Laufe des Tages gibt es Werkstattführungen und Workshopangebote zum spontanen Mitmachen.
Kaltgetränke und ein Buffet sorgen für das leibliche Wohl.
Egal ob du nur gucken und quatschen willst oder aktiv mitmachen, ob du regelmäßig hier bist oder zum ersten Mal von uns hörst – du bist herzlich willkommen!
https://calndr.de/event/tag-der-offenen-werkstatt-2026-im-freiwerk
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Tag der offenen Werkstatt 2026 im FreiWerk
FreiWerk Paderborn, Samstag, 30. Mai um 13:00 MESZ
Herzliche Einladung zum Tag der offenen Werkstatt 2026 im FreiWerk
Am Samstag, dem 30.05.2026, laden wir herzlich in unsere offene Werkstatt ein. Von 13 bis 18 Uhr stellen wir in gemütlicher Atmosphäre unsere Räumlichkeiten und unseren Verein vor. Im Laufe des Tages gibt es Werkstattführungen und Workshopangebote zum spontanen Mitmachen.
Kaltgetränke und ein Buffet sorgen für das leibliche Wohl.
Egal ob du nur gucken und quatschen willst oder aktiv mitmachen, ob du regelmäßig hier bist oder zum ersten Mal von uns hörst – du bist herzlich willkommen!
https://calndr.de/event/tag-der-offenen-werkstatt-2026-im-freiwerk
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Tag der offenen Werkstatt 2026 im FreiWerk
FreiWerk Paderborn, Samstag, 30. Mai um 13:00 MESZ
Herzliche Einladung zum Tag der offenen Werkstatt 2026 im FreiWerk
Am Samstag, dem 30.05.2026, laden wir herzlich in unsere offene Werkstatt ein. Von 13 bis 18 Uhr stellen wir in gemütlicher Atmosphäre unsere Räumlichkeiten und unseren Verein vor. Im Laufe des Tages gibt es Werkstattführungen und Workshopangebote zum spontanen Mitmachen.
Kaltgetränke und ein Buffet sorgen für das leibliche Wohl.
Egal ob du nur gucken und quatschen willst oder aktiv mitmachen, ob du regelmäßig hier bist oder zum ersten Mal von uns hörst – du bist herzlich willkommen!
https://calndr.de/event/tag-der-offenen-werkstatt-2026-im-freiwerk
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Tag der offenen Werkstatt 2026 im FreiWerk
FreiWerk Paderborn, Samstag, 30. Mai um 13:00 MESZ
Herzliche Einladung zum Tag der offenen Werkstatt 2026 im FreiWerk
Am Samstag, dem 30.05.2026, laden wir herzlich in unsere offene Werkstatt ein. Von 13 bis 18 Uhr stellen wir in gemütlicher Atmosphäre unsere Räumlichkeiten und unseren Verein vor. Im Laufe des Tages gibt es Werkstattführungen und Workshopangebote zum spontanen Mitmachen.
Kaltgetränke und ein Buffet sorgen für das leibliche Wohl.
Egal ob du nur gucken und quatschen willst oder aktiv mitmachen, ob du regelmäßig hier bist oder zum ersten Mal von uns hörst – du bist herzlich willkommen!
https://calndr.de/event/tag-der-offenen-werkstatt-2026-im-freiwerk
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Interior of a Roman villa during a dinner party (Peter Dunn)
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Interior of a Roman villa during a dinner party (Peter Dunn)
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Interior of a Roman villa during a dinner party (Peter Dunn)
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Interior of a Roman villa during a dinner party (Peter Dunn)
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Interior of a Roman villa during a dinner party (Peter Dunn)
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I feel a dislike for most of the general behaviour of people tbh
For example I'll be at the office at work and one of the managers will come upstairs and whisper to another while we are all in the room. I can hear "psst psst software psst psst" so I know they are talking about me or something related to my work. So why be so weird about it?
I also hate having to guess whether someone is annoyed at me 🤣 like just say what you think and feel
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I feel a dislike for most of the general behaviour of people tbh
For example I'll be at the office at work and one of the managers will come upstairs and whisper to another while we are all in the room. I can hear "psst psst software psst psst" so I know they are talking about me or something related to my work. So why be so weird about it?
I also hate having to guess whether someone is annoyed at me 🤣 like just say what you think and feel
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I feel a dislike for most of the general behaviour of people tbh
For example I'll be at the office at work and one of the managers will come upstairs and whisper to another while we are all in the room. I can hear "psst psst software psst psst" so I know they are talking about me or something related to my work. So why be so weird about it?
I also hate having to guess whether someone is annoyed at me 🤣 like just say what you think and feel
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For 10 years, social anxiety kept us from meeting our neighbors. One afternoon changed everything.
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A quotation from Samuel Johnson
It is commonly observed, that when two Englishmen meet, their first talk is of the weather; they are in haste to tell each other, what each must already know, that it is hot or cold, bright or cloudy, windy or calm.
Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) English writer, lexicographer, critic
Essay (1758-06-24), The Idler, No. 11More about this quote: wist.info/johnson-samuel/20468…
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #samueljohnson #chitchat #conversation #discussion #English #meeting #socializing #topic #weather
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A quotation from Samuel Johnson
It is commonly observed, that when two Englishmen meet, their first talk is of the weather; they are in haste to tell each other, what each must already know, that it is hot or cold, bright or cloudy, windy or calm.
Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) English writer, lexicographer, critic
Essay (1758-06-24), The Idler, No. 11More about this quote: wist.info/johnson-samuel/20468…
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #samueljohnson #chitchat #conversation #discussion #English #meeting #socializing #topic #weather
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A dinner party in my first adult home--my apartment at 224 Bridge Street in Mifflintown. 1977. #dinner #dinnerparty #socializing #entertaining #graciousliving #apartment #apartmentlife #apartmentliving #placesetting #placesettings #decor #homedecor #Mifflintown #juniatacounty
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A banquet is probably the most fatiguing thing in the world except ditch-digging.
Mark Twain (1835-1910) American writer [pseud. of Samuel Clemens]
Dictation (1907-07-30)More about this quote: wist.info/twain-mark/69430/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #twain #marktwain #banquet #fatigue #misery #party #socializing #introvert #gettired
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A banquet is probably the most fatiguing thing in the world except ditch-digging.
Mark Twain (1835-1910) American writer [pseud. of Samuel Clemens]
Dictation (1907-07-30)More about this quote: wist.info/twain-mark/69430/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #twain #marktwain #banquet #fatigue #misery #party #socializing #introvert #gettired
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A banquet is probably the most fatiguing thing in the world except ditch-digging.
Mark Twain (1835-1910) American writer [pseud. of Samuel Clemens]
Dictation (1907-07-30)More about this quote: wist.info/twain-mark/69430/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #twain #marktwain #banquet #fatigue #misery #party #socializing #introvert #gettired
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A banquet is probably the most fatiguing thing in the world except ditch-digging.
Mark Twain (1835-1910) American writer [pseud. of Samuel Clemens]
Dictation (1907-07-30)More about this quote: wist.info/twain-mark/69430/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #twain #marktwain #banquet #fatigue #misery #party #socializing #introvert #gettired
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‘Slay, serve, survive’: How gen Z is rewriting the rules of work | Fashion | The Guardian
Link
📌 Summary:
- HBO/BBC show Industry描繪不同世代的衝突
- 年輕一代在工作上更加輕鬆
- 許多公司採用休閒文化，Ooo成為展示個人風格的方式
- 新世代工作方式和前輩有所不同
- 新世代重視協作和工作生活平衡
- 年長一代傾向於在工作上採用正式方式
- 年輕人希望在工作中有更多自由
🎯 Key Points:
- HBO/BBC show Industry描繪不同世代的衝突
- 新世代在工作上更加輕鬆
- 許多公司採用休閒文化，Ooo成為展示個人風格的方式
- 新世代重視協作和工作生活平衡
- 年長一代傾向於在工作上採用正式方式
- 年輕人希望在工作中有更多自由
🔖 Keywords:
#Gen Z
#Work Culture
#Office Environment
#Hustle Culture
#Work-Life Balance
#Communication
#Socializing
#TikTok
#Marketing
#Flexibility
#Collaboration
#Work from Home
#Work Environment
#Generational Differences
#Work and Personal Life
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New Survey Uncovers The Real Reasons Kids Avoid School
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Whether your child is in preschool or high school, hearing “I don’t want to go to school,” is inevitable. Typically, a tired or stressed kid might drag their feet in the morning after all, between the demands on their behavior, homework, and socializing, school can easily become overwhelming for students of any age and that’s totally normal But when the refusal to go to school becomes frequent and regularthere’s a chance your child is experiencing school […]
https://onlinemarketingscoops.com/2025/08/23/kids-school-avoidance/
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Why chasing 1,000 rejections might be the key to your biggest dreams
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Never have and never will believe in "#popular #kids". All that is is a #slur against the ones who put effort into #socializing from the ones that don't. I grew up and kept to myself most of the time, but my #friend group had its tentacles in every #clique. If you shared my interests, mainly #videogames and #basketball, I was ready to mingle. I wasn't vindictive or jealous of my peers that had made more connections. That's just sad.
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A quotation from Judith Martin
You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you behave in a way that offends the people you’re trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you.
Judith Martin (b. 1938) American author, journalist, etiquette expert [a.k.a. Miss Manners]
Interview (1995-03-06) by Virginia Shea, “Miss Mannners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Internet Behavior,” Computerworld, Vol. 29, No. 10Sourcing, notes: wist.info/martin-judith/77832/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #judithmartin #missmanners #etiquette #offending #offensiveness #ostracism #politeness #rudeness #socializing #shunning
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A quotation from Judith Martin
You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you behave in a way that offends the people you’re trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you.
Judith Martin (b. 1938) American author, journalist, etiquette expert [a.k.a. Miss Manners]
Interview (1995-03-06) by Virginia Shea, “Miss Mannners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Internet Behavior,” Computerworld, Vol. 29, No. 10Sourcing, notes: wist.info/martin-judith/77832/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #judithmartin #missmanners #etiquette #offending #offensiveness #ostracism #politeness #rudeness #socializing #shunning
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A quotation from Judith Martin
You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you behave in a way that offends the people you’re trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you.
Judith Martin (b. 1938) American author, journalist, etiquette expert [a.k.a. Miss Manners]
Interview (1995-03-06) by Virginia Shea, “Miss Mannners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Internet Behavior,” Computerworld, Vol. 29, No. 10Sourcing, notes: wist.info/martin-judith/77832/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #judithmartin #missmanners #etiquette #offending #offensiveness #ostracism #politeness #rudeness #socializing #shunning
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When your #bookclub needs a refresh -
#ShortStories to Read on the Fly With Your Book Club https://bookriot.com/short-stories-to-read-on-the-fly-with-your-book-club/
#reading #amreading #sharing #socializing #storytelling #performanceart
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#Bangkok's #GreenLine future in doubt: Will 20-baht fare survive?
"Transferring ownership to #MRTA cld ensure te line operates profitably at a 20-baht fare for at least 30yrs, largely due to substantial revenue fr te project’s #properties & #advertising space.. there’s a significant challenge: te Green Line currently carries a #debt of THB37.2bil fr #operational & #maintenance costs"
🧐To prevent #socializing #graft to #taxpayers & #commuters, #audit #integrity of tt debt?
https://thethaiger.com/news/bangkok/bangkoks-green-line-future-in-doubt-will-20-baht-fare-survive -
Before I became a Curmudgeonly Hermit, I loved to entertain. This was a party celebrating the marriage of my best friend from high school. 1977. #pit #stockmarket #game #games #entertaining #socializing #host #hosting #party #parties #weddingcelebration #marriage #1970s
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I definitely only expect to get along with a limited number of people since that's just the nature of people, that we don't all get along with each other, and also I am not optimized for getting along with others anyway.
Still, I think I'm rather friendly considering I could get most if not all my socialization needs met as a forest hermit. I don't need to socialize for the most part, and I find it rather difficult, but I nevertheless still enjoy talking to people and find it very worthwhile. -
Is it vanity to say you’re good at something? Here’s the distinction I want to make between when it is and isn’t. What do you think?
#socializing #healthyrelationship #boundariesmatter #audhd #autistic #actuallyautistic
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A quotation from George Carlin
Another nice thing about getting old is you can leave any social event early just by saying you’re tired.
George Carlin (1937-2008) American comedian
Show (2008-03-01), It’s Bad for Ya, "Old Fuck," Wells Fargo Center, Santa Rosa, California (HBO)More info about this quote: wist.info/carlin-george/78941/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #georgecarlin #elder #excuse #fatigue #gettired #gettingold #growingold #oldage #socialevent #socializing
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Boredom ends here! 🛑✨
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🔗 Enter the world of Ronza: https://ronza4chat.online
#Socializing #ChatRoom #Ronza_Chat #NewFriends #OnlineCommunity #HotTrends #MustJoin
