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In France, "La France insoumise" proposes explicit mandates and dismissal referendums. (I don't think it will happen.)

#Ostracism is a dismissal mechanism which works: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ostracism

The dating app A4A Radar (Adam4Adam) IMO wrongfully suspends my account. Before that, they IMO wrongfully accused me of being spammer, censored all my messaging and then stopped censoring me again before IMO wrongfully suspending me altogether.

IMO The app is bullying me by groundlessly and abusively suspending my account, without me violating any conditions, which ruins my romantic and dating life and causes toxic loneliness which, according to research, has as bad health effect as smoking 18 cigarettes a day. I was communicating respectfully and didn’t send any sexual pictures. Before, the app IMO bullied and harrassed me by wrongful blocking and accusations: I don’t spam and just write introductory messages about my interests (nothing sexual, no sexual pictures) and suddenly a red banner appears at the top of the screen falsely accusing me “Error: you are marked a spammer” and messages stop working, I can’t even read incoming messages (censorship) or communicate with other people. The app is IMO hypocritical because it’s the app which is IMO spamming with adverts, not me.

Also:

"I’ve Been Banned From Almost Every Dating App" -- https://www.vice.com/en/article/banned-from-dating-apps/

"The hidden consequences of being banned from dating apps Thousands say they've been permanently banned from dating apps — and it's affecting their love lives." -- https://mashable.com/article/what-happens-when-youre-banned-from-dating-apps

I feel

e x t r e m e l y s t r o n g c o n t e m p t

towards the vendor of the A4A Adam (Adam4Adam) dating app which used to be one of the few usable ones.

#abuse #homophobia #homophobicabuse #authoritarianism #contempt #bigtech #censorship #ostracism #digitalostracism #wrongful #wrongfulaccusation #wrongfulban #unjustban #ban #banning #bullying #groundless #abusive #innocent #falseaccusation

The dating app A4A Radar (Adam4Adam) IMO wrongfully suspends my account. Before that, they IMO wrongfully accused me of being spammer, censored all my messaging and then stopped censoring me again before IMO wrongfully suspending me altogether.

IMO The app is bullying me by groundlessly and abusively suspending my account, without me violating any conditions, which ruins my romantic and dating life and causes toxic loneliness which, according to research, has as bad health effect as smoking 18 cigarettes a day. I was communicating respectfully and didn’t send any sexual pictures. Before, the app IMO bullied and harrassed me by wrongful blocking and accusations: I don’t spam and just write introductory messages about my interests (nothing sexual, no sexual pictures) and suddenly a red banner appears at the top of the screen falsely accusing me “Error: you are marked a spammer” and messages stop working, I can’t even read incoming messages (censorship) or communicate with other people. The app is IMO hypocritical because it’s the app which is IMO spamming with adverts, not me.

Also:

"I’ve Been Banned From Almost Every Dating App" -- https://www.vice.com/en/article/banned-from-dating-apps/

"The hidden consequences of being banned from dating apps Thousands say they've been permanently banned from dating apps — and it's affecting their love lives." -- https://mashable.com/article/what-happens-when-youre-banned-from-dating-apps

I feel

e x t r e m e l y s t r o n g c o n t e m p t

towards the vendor of the A4A Adam (Adam4Adam) dating app which used to be one of the few usable ones.

#abuse #homophobia #homophobicabuse #authoritarianism #contempt #bigtech #censorship #ostracism #digitalostracism #wrongful #wrongfulaccusation #wrongfulban #unjustban #ban #banning #bullying #groundless #abusive #innocent #falseaccusation

The dating app A4A Radar (Adam4Adam) IMO wrongfully suspends my account. Before that, they IMO wrongfully accused me of being spammer, censored all my messaging and then stopped censoring me again before IMO wrongfully suspending me altogether.

IMO The app is bullying me by groundlessly and abusively suspending my account, without me violating any conditions, which ruins my romantic and dating life and causes toxic loneliness which, according to research, has as bad health effect as smoking 18 cigarettes a day. I was communicating respectfully and didn’t send any sexual pictures. Before, the app IMO bullied and harrassed me by wrongful blocking and accusations: I don’t spam and just write introductory messages about my interests (nothing sexual, no sexual pictures) and suddenly a red banner appears at the top of the screen falsely accusing me “Error: you are marked a spammer” and messages stop working, I can’t even read incoming messages (censorship) or communicate with other people. The app is IMO hypocritical because it’s the app which is IMO spamming with adverts, not me.

Also:

"I’ve Been Banned From Almost Every Dating App" -- https://www.vice.com/en/article/banned-from-dating-apps/

"The hidden consequences of being banned from dating apps Thousands say they've been permanently banned from dating apps — and it's affecting their love lives." -- https://mashable.com/article/what-happens-when-youre-banned-from-dating-apps

I feel

e x t r e m e l y s t r o n g c o n t e m p t

towards the vendor of the A4A Adam (Adam4Adam) dating app which used to be one of the few usable ones.

#abuse #homophobia #homophobicabuse #authoritarianism #contempt #bigtech #censorship #ostracism #digitalostracism #wrongful #wrongfulaccusation #wrongfulban #unjustban #ban #banning #bullying #groundless #abusive #innocent #falseaccusation

The dating app A4A Radar (Adam4Adam) IMO wrongfully suspends my account. Before that, they IMO wrongfully accused me of being spammer, censored all my messaging and then stopped censoring me again before IMO wrongfully suspending me altogether.

IMO The app is bullying me by groundlessly and abusively suspending my account, without me violating any conditions, which ruins my romantic and dating life and causes toxic loneliness which, according to research, has as bad health effect as smoking 18 cigarettes a day. I was communicating respectfully and didn’t send any sexual pictures. Before, the app IMO bullied and harrassed me by wrongful blocking and accusations: I don’t spam and just write introductory messages about my interests (nothing sexual, no sexual pictures) and suddenly a red banner appears at the top of the screen falsely accusing me “Error: you are marked a spammer” and messages stop working, I can’t even read incoming messages (censorship) or communicate with other people. The app is IMO hypocritical because it’s the app which is IMO spamming with adverts, not me.

Also:

"I’ve Been Banned From Almost Every Dating App" -- https://www.vice.com/en/article/banned-from-dating-apps/

"The hidden consequences of being banned from dating apps Thousands say they've been permanently banned from dating apps — and it's affecting their love lives." -- https://mashable.com/article/what-happens-when-youre-banned-from-dating-apps

I feel

e x t r e m e l y s t r o n g c o n t e m p t

towards the vendor of the A4A Adam (Adam4Adam) dating app which used to be one of the few usable ones.

#abuse #homophobia #homophobicabuse #authoritarianism #contempt #bigtech #censorship #ostracism #digitalostracism #wrongful #wrongfulaccusation #wrongfulban #unjustban #ban #banning #bullying #groundless #abusive #innocent #falseaccusation

The dating app A4A Radar (Adam4Adam) IMO wrongfully suspends my account. Before that, they IMO wrongfully accused me of being spammer, censored all my messaging and then stopped censoring me again before IMO wrongfully suspending me altogether.

IMO The app is bullying me by groundlessly and abusively suspending my account, without me violating any conditions, which ruins my romantic and dating life and causes toxic loneliness which, according to research, has as bad health effect as smoking 18 cigarettes a day. I was communicating respectfully and didn’t send any sexual pictures. Before, the app IMO bullied and harrassed me by wrongful blocking and accusations: I don’t spam and just write introductory messages about my interests (nothing sexual, no sexual pictures) and suddenly a red banner appears at the top of the screen falsely accusing me “Error: you are marked a spammer” and messages stop working, I can’t even read incoming messages (censorship) or communicate with other people. The app is IMO hypocritical because it’s the app which is IMO spamming with adverts, not me.

Also:

"I’ve Been Banned From Almost Every Dating App" -- https://www.vice.com/en/article/banned-from-dating-apps/

"The hidden consequences of being banned from dating apps Thousands say they've been permanently banned from dating apps — and it's affecting their love lives." -- https://mashable.com/article/what-happens-when-youre-banned-from-dating-apps

I feel

e x t r e m e l y s t r o n g c o n t e m p t

towards the vendor of the A4A Adam (Adam4Adam) dating app which used to be one of the few usable ones.

#abuse #homophobia #homophobicabuse #authoritarianism #contempt #bigtech #censorship #ostracism #digitalostracism #wrongful #wrongfulaccusation #wrongfulban #unjustban #ban #banning #bullying #groundless #abusive #innocent #falseaccusation

Mocking the powerful is an ancient democratic custom; the #Athenians took it to extremes, judging by the way #Aristophanes mocked all known #political and cultural figures of his time.

The ancients weren't content with that though; there was #ostracism, the expelling of those thought to be influential enough to be considered a threat to democracy. No justification was required, just a set number of votes.

#NoDecorumForFascists is one of those "use it or lose it" things, like #democracy itself.

"Fear is induced by coercion, the threat of negative consequences such as #ostracism and demotion. To be sure, blatant coercion facilitates the denial of responsibility and thereby compliance with corrupt directives. Such coercion, however, leaves less room for (perceived) volition, a key precondition for the dissonance reduction process discussed earlier. Newcomers subject to blatant coercion have a sufficient justification for their obedience – to avoid the threat – and thus do not need to realign their attitudes to accommodate the otherwise dissonant behavior. […] Coercion may affect behavior only as long as the pressure is applied. For these reasons, blatant coercion tends to be an ineffective means of sustaining corruption."

"definitely ruins my chance of online dating" -- "akin to being cancelled from all dating" -- "being banned has had an impact on her dating life" -- "I’ve Been Banned From Almost Every Dating App" -- "locked out of dating apps can be far more significant for young people looking for a lifelong partner" -- "People unable to get onto those apps are potentially losing out on finding their life partner" -- "owns five of the top eight dating apps" -- "two-thirds of the online dating market" -- "bans, when they’re handed out, are pretty absolute. The companies overseeing dating apps can not just ban usernames and email addresses, but also IP addresses (from where you log onto the internet) and device identifiers, meaning that individual devices can be barred from rejoining apps"

https://www.vice.com/en/article/banned-from-dating-apps/

I feel

e x t r e m e l y s t r o n g c o n t e m p t

towards 2 or 3 major apps who groundlessly banned me despite me doing nothing impolite, nothing disrespectful, no violations of terms and conditions.

#ostracism #groundlessostracism #abuse #systemicabuse #discrimination #contempt #dating #datingapp #datingapps #ruins #onlinedating #cancelled #cancel #cancelculture #toxic #ban #banned #abuseofbans #losingout #loneliness #banishing #groundlessbanishing #shunning #relationship #relationships #romanticrelationship #romanticrelationships #romance

"definitely ruins my chance of online dating" -- "akin to being cancelled from all dating" -- "being banned has had an impact on her dating life" -- "I’ve Been Banned From Almost Every Dating App" -- "locked out of dating apps can be far more significant for young people looking for a lifelong partner" -- "People unable to get onto those apps are potentially losing out on finding their life partner" -- "owns five of the top eight dating apps" -- "two-thirds of the online dating market" -- "bans, when they’re handed out, are pretty absolute. The companies overseeing dating apps can not just ban usernames and email addresses, but also IP addresses (from where you log onto the internet) and device identifiers, meaning that individual devices can be barred from rejoining apps"

https://www.vice.com/en/article/banned-from-dating-apps/

I feel

e x t r e m e l y s t r o n g c o n t e m p t

towards 2 or 3 major apps who groundlessly banned me despite me doing nothing impolite, nothing disrespectful, no violations of terms and conditions.

#ostracism #groundlessostracism #abuse #systemicabuse #discrimination #contempt #dating #datingapp #datingapps #ruins #onlinedating #cancelled #cancel #cancelculture #toxic #ban #banned #abuseofbans #losingout #loneliness #banishing #groundlessbanishing #shunning #relationship #relationships #romanticrelationship #romanticrelationships #romance

"definitely ruins my chance of online dating" -- "akin to being cancelled from all dating" -- "being banned has had an impact on her dating life" -- "I’ve Been Banned From Almost Every Dating App" -- "locked out of dating apps can be far more significant for young people looking for a lifelong partner" -- "People unable to get onto those apps are potentially losing out on finding their life partner" -- "owns five of the top eight dating apps" -- "two-thirds of the online dating market" -- "bans, when they’re handed out, are pretty absolute. The companies overseeing dating apps can not just ban usernames and email addresses, but also IP addresses (from where you log onto the internet) and device identifiers, meaning that individual devices can be barred from rejoining apps"

https://www.vice.com/en/article/banned-from-dating-apps/

I feel

e x t r e m e l y s t r o n g c o n t e m p t

towards 2 or 3 major apps who groundlessly banned me despite me doing nothing impolite, nothing disrespectful, no violations of terms and conditions.

#ostracism #groundlessostracism #abuse #systemicabuse #discrimination #contempt #dating #datingapp #datingapps #ruins #onlinedating #cancelled #cancel #cancelculture #toxic #ban #banned #abuseofbans #losingout #loneliness #banishing #groundlessbanishing #shunning #relationship #relationships #romanticrelationship #romanticrelationships #romance

"definitely ruins my chance of online dating" -- "akin to being cancelled from all dating" -- "being banned has had an impact on her dating life" -- "I’ve Been Banned From Almost Every Dating App" -- "locked out of dating apps can be far more significant for young people looking for a lifelong partner" -- "People unable to get onto those apps are potentially losing out on finding their life partner" -- "owns five of the top eight dating apps" -- "two-thirds of the online dating market" -- "bans, when they’re handed out, are pretty absolute. The companies overseeing dating apps can not just ban usernames and email addresses, but also IP addresses (from where you log onto the internet) and device identifiers, meaning that individual devices can be barred from rejoining apps"

https://www.vice.com/en/article/banned-from-dating-apps/

I feel

e x t r e m e l y s t r o n g c o n t e m p t

towards 2 or 3 major apps who groundlessly banned me despite me doing nothing impolite, nothing disrespectful, no violations of terms and conditions.

#ostracism #groundlessostracism #abuse #systemicabuse #discrimination #contempt #dating #datingapp #datingapps #ruins #onlinedating #cancelled #cancel #cancelculture #toxic #ban #banned #abuseofbans #losingout #loneliness #banishing #groundlessbanishing #shunning #relationship #relationships #romanticrelationship #romanticrelationships #romance

"definitely ruins my chance of online dating" -- "akin to being cancelled from all dating" -- "being banned has had an impact on her dating life" -- "I’ve Been Banned From Almost Every Dating App" -- "locked out of dating apps can be far more significant for young people looking for a lifelong partner" -- "People unable to get onto those apps are potentially losing out on finding their life partner" -- "owns five of the top eight dating apps" -- "two-thirds of the online dating market" -- "bans, when they’re handed out, are pretty absolute. The companies overseeing dating apps can not just ban usernames and email addresses, but also IP addresses (from where you log onto the internet) and device identifiers, meaning that individual devices can be barred from rejoining apps"

https://www.vice.com/en/article/banned-from-dating-apps/

I feel

e x t r e m e l y s t r o n g c o n t e m p t

towards 2 or 3 major apps who groundlessly banned me despite me doing nothing impolite, nothing disrespectful, no violations of terms and conditions.

#ostracism #groundlessostracism #abuse #systemicabuse #discrimination #contempt #dating #datingapp #datingapps #ruins #onlinedating #cancelled #cancel #cancelculture #toxic #ban #banned #abuseofbans #losingout #loneliness #banishing #groundlessbanishing #shunning #relationship #relationships #romanticrelationship #romanticrelationships #romance

@karlauerbach

I love this idea.

#Lysistrata
#Ostracism
#DenialOfService as a tool of #CivilSociety and #Decency

@karlauerbach

I love this idea.

#Lysistrata
#Ostracism
#DenialOfService as a tool of #CivilSociety and #Decency

@karlauerbach

I love this idea.

#Lysistrata
#Ostracism
#DenialOfService as a tool of #CivilSociety and #Decency

@karlauerbach

I love this idea.

#Lysistrata
#Ostracism
#DenialOfService as a tool of #CivilSociety and #Decency

@karlauerbach

I love this idea.

#Lysistrata
#Ostracism
#DenialOfService as a tool of #CivilSociety and #Decency

"We study formation of ostracism in a society from a game theoretical perspective. […] Alienating minority occurs even when there is a penalty for disliking and people are encouraged to favor others. Considering that the target is accidentally picked, we can understand ostracism as an inherent part of the group formation, rather than a result of specific discrepancy among people. Another finding is that a single individual who seeks for unconditional unification of the society (“philanthropist”) likely invites his/her own isolation from the society, while the existence of such person generally promotes coalition of others."

Kim P. (2014). A simple model of #ostracism formation. PloS one, 9(4), e94333. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0094333

The Social Outcast by Kipling D. Williams, 2012

Ostracism, Social Exclusion, Rejection, and Bullying

This book focuses on the ubiquitous and powerful effects of ostracism, social exclusion, rejection, and bullying. Human beings are an intrinsically gregarious species. Most of our evolutionary success is no doubt due to our highly developed ability to cooperate and interact with each other.

#books
#nonfiction
#SocialPsychology
#ostracism
#exclusion
#rejection
#bullying

OSTRACISM (Polònia) presenta nova demo: "Remembrance" #Ostracism #Raw #AtmosphericBlackMetal #Setembre2025 #Polònia #NovaDemo #Metall #Metal #MúsicaMetal #MetalMusic

A quotation from Judith Martin

You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you behave in a way that offends the people you’re trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you.

Judith Martin (b. 1938) American author, journalist, etiquette expert [a.k.a. Miss Manners]
Interview (1995-03-06) by Virginia Shea, “Miss Mannners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Internet Behavior,” Computerworld, Vol. 29, No. 10

Sourcing, notes: wist.info/martin-judith/77832/

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #judithmartin #missmanners #etiquette #offending #offensiveness #ostracism #politeness #rudeness #socializing #shunning

A quotation from Judith Martin

You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you behave in a way that offends the people you’re trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you.

Judith Martin (b. 1938) American author, journalist, etiquette expert [a.k.a. Miss Manners]
Interview (1995-03-06) by Virginia Shea, “Miss Mannners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Internet Behavior,” Computerworld, Vol. 29, No. 10

Sourcing, notes: wist.info/martin-judith/77832/

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #judithmartin #missmanners #etiquette #offending #offensiveness #ostracism #politeness #rudeness #socializing #shunning

A quotation from Judith Martin

You can deny all you want that there is etiquette, and a lot of people do in everyday life. But if you behave in a way that offends the people you’re trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you.

Judith Martin (b. 1938) American author, journalist, etiquette expert [a.k.a. Miss Manners]
Interview (1995-03-06) by Virginia Shea, “Miss Mannners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Internet Behavior,” Computerworld, Vol. 29, No. 10

Sourcing, notes: wist.info/martin-judith/77832/

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #judithmartin #missmanners #etiquette #offending #offensiveness #ostracism #politeness #rudeness #socializing #shunning

🪞 For narcissistic people, the gap between perception and reality may go far deeper than we thought

#psychology #selfpsychology #narcissism #self #ostracism #psychotherapy #socialpsychology

https://theconversation.com/for-narcissistic-people-the-gap-between-perception-and-reality-may-go-far-deeper-than-we-thought-250434

“ Since a #boycott is voluntary and nonviolent, the law cannot stop it. Opponents of boycotts historically have the choice of suffering under it, yielding to its demands, or attempting to suppress it through extralegal means, such as force and coercion. “
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boycott

Charles Cunningham Boycott was an English land agent whose #ostracism by his local community in #Mayo Ireland gave the English language the term #boycott.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Boycott

Dark personality traits and attachment styles linked to perceptions of exclusion https://www.psypost.org/dark-personality-traits-and-attachment-styles-linked-to-perceptions-of-exclusion/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon #DarkPersonalityTraits #AttachmentStyles #PerceptionsOfExclusion #Ostracism #PsychologyResearch

#Fascist #Florida #Governor and #Republican #Presidential hopeful #RonDeSantis Just #Bragged About Open #Bigotry, and the #GOP Will Follow.

His appalling #antiLGBTQ #ad set a new #standard—#celebration of open #ostracism and #bigotry. #History tells us that this will become the new #GOP position.

#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Florida #Fascism #RepublicanParty #Hate #Bigotry #Violence #Genocide #Discrimination #Homophobia #Transphobia #ThePartyOfHate

https://newrepublic.com/article/174079/desantis-just-bragged-open-bigotry-gop-will-follow

Meet the #LGBTQ #activist who challenged his #Caribbean #country’s #antisodomy #law and #won.

Facing #ostracism and risking his #life as the public face of the #LGBTQ #movement, David took his #government to #court in 2022 to demand an end to his country’s #ColonialEra #antisodomy #law.

#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Caribbean #AntiguaAndBarbuda

https://thegrio.com/2023/06/11/lgbtq-activist-challenged-caribbean-country-anti-sodomy-law-and-won/

Valuing truth over conformity

https://embrace-autism.com/valuing-truth-over-conformity/

#Socialconnectedness #Socialcognition #Groupidentity #Ostracization #Conformity #JoschaBach #Cognition #Agreement #Curiosity #Ostracism #Opinions #Truth #Video