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What is BPD or Borderline Personality Disorder? A handy guide for my community:
Typically the major symptom is emotional dysregulation - which means feeling emotions at 150%-200%. Yet paradoxically, folk with BPD struggle to define the feelings they are feeling. Also typical - complete lack of self worth. Worthlessness. What could cause this?
It's a chronic trauma response. Chronic childhood trauma usually with parents either absent or ill equipped to support their child. Sexual abuse is a common occurrence. This can lead to a child developing a heightened sense of parent's/carer's emotions to avoid negative consequences - becoming the "empath".
Diagnosis is typically a long road - the industry avoids these people and will go so far as to avoid mentioning traits in notes in an effort to shield the patient from the stigma - ultimately unhelpful. BPD folk like to 'woo' healthcare providers as another major symptom is...
Abandonment issues. Everybody leaves and the cycle feeds into itself. Self isolating to avoid losing more people. No self worth so no reason to think you're worthy of support. This is why BPD has one of the highest suicide rates 12-15% suicide with the remainder contemplating it because they see their mental health condition as the cause, not the response.
In recent years C-PTSD has become a popular patsy to side step this stigma (and believe me, there are few things in this world stigmatised as BPD) but unfortunately C-PTSD doesn't capture the scope of BPD.
Other common traits:
- rage (if not outward then directed inward, also not necessarily constant)
- substance abuse to manage symptoms
- dialectical (black & white) thinking (technically defined as an inability to hold opposing truths or, to live in the grey area)
- unstable relationships
- impulsivity
- dissociation (zoning out or going numb to escape -this is the antipode of emotional dysregulation, I call it the logic prison and believe this is where most severe self damage occurs in BPD)
- common comorbid eating disorders (a range of these, anorexia/bulemia/orthorexia - it's about control mixed with worthlessness and self harm)
- self harming behaviours (very large range of these that are very confronting to people around us)Other features:
- nuerodivirgent foundation (autism, ADHD, OCD)
- 4-6% of population affected
- commonly diagnosed in women but gender split is 50/50 (there are more than two genders though), men are usually forcibly diagnosed after institutionalisation or incarceration)
- 75% identify as queer ( BPD and how to support it needs to become common knowledge health literacy in the queer community)
- high tolerance to acute pain (especially self inflicted), very low tolerance to chronic pain, both physical and emotional
- dysregulation of pain (experienced like an emotion)
- a chaotic inner dialogue and an inability to process uncomfortable emotionsMore:
- hyper fixation on "favourite persons" especially an inability to define our self without others and frantic efforts to avoid losing them
- "splitting" behaviour ie. switching from worship to derision & often back again (creating unstable relationships) usually due to conflict but sometimes due to delusion/confusion/double empathy problem
- meltdowns in which mental processing is severely compromised (I call it the bottleneck)
- known as the most painful mental illness
- exceptionally poorly understood by society & the mental health industry despite being more common than other well known mental illnesses
- social chameleons often viewed as manipulative (due to that abandonment fear)
- maladaptive behaviour ie. response to issues that create further problems due to an inability addressing issues that create uncomfortable emotions
- likely common in self-identifying alcoholics
- unmanageable intrusive thoughts
- commonly hereditary and commonly due to mentally ill parentingA pervasive common experience is a lack of boundaries. It's not that we don't have them more that we never developed them due to grooming behaviour from carers. Poor boundaries regarding everything, very poor response when folk don't reciprocate with low boundaries. Getting better is about developing solid personal boundaries (around a stable sense of self).
Diagnosis of BPD revolves around the 9 defining traits of BPD in the DSM. This is done by psychiatrists. If you tick 5 boxes or more, you will be given the diagnosis. This leads to healthcare treating your condition as black & white (the irony) depending on how you report or observation of you (OBJECTIVE). After you have the label healthcare services will be wary of you (someone that is in desperate need of consistent healthcare to recover).
Severe empathy leads to higher frequency of these people in helping professions (if not disabled by it). It's not considered a disability or disease but an affliction that is a personal responsibility. Shortened life span and decrease in quality of life due to all of the above mentioned.
How to fix it: begin to develop a sense of self. Learn to create foundations that never existed. Learn what the criteria from the DSM-V are and how it applies to you but recognise this as a response, not a foundation. Develop skills from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT - yet be aware of the similarities to ABA or Applied Behavioral Therapy). Attempt to learn about sobriety and start to manage your comorbid conditions. Reach out for support services, use everything you can access. Create art. Create LOTS of art.
Art is play. Art is self expression. When you develop an art practice you create an avenue for flow, flow is healing.
Ultimately, be kind to yourself. Learn to be kind to yourself. Shift your self talk, no more self disparaging inner monologue. Begin to develop radical self acceptance & see that emotions are a construct of experience. Neural networks are highly established from a life of trauma & forging new ones takes time & reinforcement. Again RADICAL self acceptance. You're allowed to fuck this up, you will fuck this up, repeatedly. The objective here is not to erase this part of you but to learn to hold it with love and move forwards. You're trauma responses are valid.
A common problem is creating an identity out of the diagnosis. Diagnosis exists in the medical world to create a treatment protocol but giving someone without a sense of identity a pathology usually leads to attaching to it, the ultimate self fulfilling prophecy. You might have BPD but you are not BPD itself. That part of your picture is blank for now and you get to colour it in with what is truly authentic to who you are.
What helped me? Seeing others that had what I have. Recognising my empathy for them and realising I am equally worth that kindness, especially to my self. Deciding to cut out the people who can't or don't support you the way you need. Stop being there for them. You have to stop letting people hurt you so they won't leave. You have to stop engaging with people that don't respect your sense of self or constantly use you for their own validation. You only liked them because you saw yourself in them (literally) because you don't have your own sense of self. If they are someone you can't leave behind you need to start learning about attachment styles and tell them to concurrently heal with you. If they care, they'll listen.
If you can, access therapy that understands what BPD actually is. This is very hard to find, many people can't comprehend the scope of BPD to provide effective care. Meltdowns and rage burn bridges quickly and effectively. Just remember, you learned this, how to react like this. It was created in you, not by you. It is not you.
I changed my name. I caught the ball that my parents dropped and made the game my own. My rules. My boundaries. My self worth.
There's so much more to all of this but I couldn't have got to where I am without first understanding what I've shared. The truth is, I'm autistic with a ton of chronic trauma. This isn't recognised by the healthcare industry. I hope the autistic community can recognise this type of neurodivergence and that its misunderstanding is the foundation of so much darkness in the world.
People with BPD are fallen angels. In the darkness we only forwards our trauma but when we find the light, holy shit we get shiny.
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Your BlueSky Feed Is Porn You Didn’t Ask For Because Your Friends Are Gooners With a Severe Porn Addiction
A common complaint I see people make on Bluesky is: why am I being served so much porn or things I am not interested in? They will incorrectly believe that the algorithm is broken. It’s not broken. You didn’t know the people you knew as well as you thought you did. Porn addiction is a thing, and porn addiction is especially common with weebs. You’re seeing deranged shit because people you follow have porn addictions and are into deranged shit. So, though you may not be consuming porn, people in your network are. That activity kicks into your feeds.
The issue I have with that is that it essentially normalizes being sex pests in a space on the Internet. That sets the expectation that it is good—attractive, even—to act like that elsewhere. That expectation alienates relationships. Bluesky creates a cultural space that offers an unrealistic, bizarre representation of social relationships, which isolates and alienates the users who stay on there consuming erotica and porn like they do.
So, user repos in Bluesky have a property for likes. Bluesky’s underlying AT Protocol stores likes as first-class structured records in each user’s AT Protocol repository. In the AT Protocol lexicon, a like is an app.bsky.feed.like record type. Unlike a simple boolean flag on a post, it is its own record with a creation timestamp and a subject field that holds a strong reference to the liked record.
That strong reference is composed of an AT-URI and a CID. The AT-URI identifies the exact record in the network by DID, collection, and record key. The CID is a cryptographic content identifier that uniquely identifies the exact content of that liked record.
These like records exist under the app.bsky.feed.like namespace in the user’s repo. Bluesky’s repo model is built so that these repos are hosted on a user’s Personal Data Server and are publicly readable through the AT Protocol APIs. Because of that, the like record and its fields can be fetched, indexed, and used by any client or service that can query the protocol.
The protocol exposes operations like getLikes. This returns all of the like records tied to a particular subject’s AT-URI and CID. It also exposes getActorLikes. This returns all of the subject references a given actor has liked. Those API calls return structured like objects with timestamps and subject references directly from the public repository data.
Various feeds hosted by different PDSs use the likes property to construct the feeds that you see. Since the likes of people you follow are included in your social graph, along with your own likes, you’re going to get served the porn they are consuming. Because likes are public and anyone can write an algorithm to see everyone’s likes, you can clearly see just how much porn people are consuming.
Honestly, what started to turn my stomach about the people on Bluesky is how they behave across different contexts. If you look through the records of the posts they interact with, you’ll see them engaging with political posts in the replies like a normal person. Then, when you look through their AT Protocol records, you see hours and hours of them interacting with every kind of porn imaginable. I am not exaggerating. Hours of likes for porn posts within 1–10 minutes of each other. Am I sex-negative? A prude? No, this site is filled with furry, gay bara porn, lol. You can have a drink without being an alcoholic. The problem with these people is like people who can’t have one drink without drinking the whole fucking day; they can’t consume porn in healthy ways.
I think people assume that their feed is customized for them and based on their likes. No—feeds are generalized based on what everyone likes and then served to your subgraph. It’s not just about who you follow; it’s about who they follow. So if you follow someone who follows a lot of people with porn addictions, you will see porn. Bluesky isn’t weighting the algorithm to do this. Basically, it’s the people in your social network with furry, hentai, or trans porn addictions who are driving it.
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Your BlueSky Feed Is Porn You Didn’t Ask For Because Your Friends Are Gooners With a Severe Porn Addiction
A common complaint I see people make on Bluesky is: why am I being served so much porn or things I am not interested in? They will incorrectly believe that the algorithm is broken. It’s not broken. You didn’t know the people you knew as well as you thought you did. Porn addiction is a thing, and porn addiction is especially common with weebs. You’re seeing deranged shit because people you follow have porn addictions and are into deranged shit. So, though you may not be consuming porn, people in your network are. That activity kicks into your feeds.
The issue I have with that is that it essentially normalizes being sex pests in a space on the Internet. That sets the expectation that it is good—attractive, even—to act like that elsewhere. That expectation alienates relationships. Bluesky creates a cultural space that offers an unrealistic, bizarre representation of social relationships, which isolates and alienates the users who stay on there consuming erotica and porn like they do.
So, user repos in Bluesky have a property for likes. Bluesky’s underlying AT Protocol stores likes as first-class structured records in each user’s AT Protocol repository. In the AT Protocol lexicon, a like is an app.bsky.feed.like record type. Unlike a simple boolean flag on a post, it is its own record with a creation timestamp and a subject field that holds a strong reference to the liked record.
That strong reference is composed of an AT-URI and a CID. The AT-URI identifies the exact record in the network by DID, collection, and record key. The CID is a cryptographic content identifier that uniquely identifies the exact content of that liked record.
These like records exist under the app.bsky.feed.like namespace in the user’s repo. Bluesky’s repo model is built so that these repos are hosted on a user’s Personal Data Server and are publicly readable through the AT Protocol APIs. Because of that, the like record and its fields can be fetched, indexed, and used by any client or service that can query the protocol.
The protocol exposes operations like getLikes. This returns all of the like records tied to a particular subject’s AT-URI and CID. It also exposes getActorLikes. This returns all of the subject references a given actor has liked. Those API calls return structured like objects with timestamps and subject references directly from the public repository data.
Various feeds hosted by different PDSs use the likes property to construct the feeds that you see. Since the likes of people you follow are included in your social graph, along with your own likes, you’re going to get served the porn they are consuming. Because likes are public and anyone can write an algorithm to see everyone’s likes, you can clearly see just how much porn people are consuming.
Honestly, what started to turn my stomach about the people on Bluesky is how they behave across different contexts. If you look through the records of the posts they interact with, you’ll see them engaging with political posts in the replies like a normal person. Then, when you look through their AT Protocol records, you see hours and hours of them interacting with every kind of porn imaginable. I am not exaggerating. Hours of likes for porn posts within 1–10 minutes of each other. Am I sex-negative? A prude? No, this site is filled with furry, gay bara porn, lol. You can have a drink without being an alcoholic. The problem with these people is like people who can’t have one drink without drinking the whole fucking day; they can’t consume porn in healthy ways.
I think people assume that their feed is customized for them and based on their likes. No—feeds are generalized based on what everyone likes and then served to your subgraph. It’s not just about who you follow; it’s about who they follow. So if you follow someone who follows a lot of people with porn addictions, you will see porn. Bluesky isn’t weighting the algorithm to do this. Basically, it’s the people in your social network with furry, hentai, or trans porn addictions who are driving it.
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Your BlueSky Feed Is Porn You Didn’t Ask For Because Your Friends Are Gooners With a Severe Porn Addiction
A common complaint I see people make on Bluesky is: why am I being served so much porn or things I am not interested in? They will incorrectly believe that the algorithm is broken. It’s not broken. You didn’t know the people you knew as well as you thought you did. Porn addiction is a thing, and porn addiction is especially common with weebs. You’re seeing deranged shit because people you follow have porn addictions and are into deranged shit. So, though you may not be consuming porn, people in your network are. That activity kicks into your feeds.
The issue I have with that is that it essentially normalizes being sex pests in a space on the Internet. That sets the expectation that it is good—attractive, even—to act like that elsewhere. That expectation alienates relationships. Bluesky creates a cultural space that offers an unrealistic, bizarre representation of social relationships, which isolates and alienates the users who stay on there consuming erotica and porn like they do.
So, user repos in Bluesky have a property for likes. Bluesky’s underlying AT Protocol stores likes as first-class structured records in each user’s AT Protocol repository. In the AT Protocol lexicon, a like is an app.bsky.feed.like record type. Unlike a simple boolean flag on a post, it is its own record with a creation timestamp and a subject field that holds a strong reference to the liked record.
That strong reference is composed of an AT-URI and a CID. The AT-URI identifies the exact record in the network by DID, collection, and record key. The CID is a cryptographic content identifier that uniquely identifies the exact content of that liked record.
These like records exist under the app.bsky.feed.like namespace in the user’s repo. Bluesky’s repo model is built so that these repos are hosted on a user’s Personal Data Server and are publicly readable through the AT Protocol APIs. Because of that, the like record and its fields can be fetched, indexed, and used by any client or service that can query the protocol.
The protocol exposes operations like getLikes. This returns all of the like records tied to a particular subject’s AT-URI and CID. It also exposes getActorLikes. This returns all of the subject references a given actor has liked. Those API calls return structured like objects with timestamps and subject references directly from the public repository data.
Various feeds hosted by different PDSs use the likes property to construct the feeds that you see. Since the likes of people you follow are included in your social graph, along with your own likes, you’re going to get served the porn they are consuming. Because likes are public and anyone can write an algorithm to see everyone’s likes, you can clearly see just how much porn people are consuming.
Honestly, what started to turn my stomach about the people on Bluesky is how they behave across different contexts. If you look through the records of the posts they interact with, you’ll see them engaging with political posts in the replies like a normal person. Then, when you look through their AT Protocol records, you see hours and hours of them interacting with every kind of porn imaginable. I am not exaggerating. Hours of likes for porn posts within 1–10 minutes of each other. Am I sex-negative? A prude? No, this site is filled with furry, gay bara porn, lol. You can have a drink without being an alcoholic. The problem with these people is like people who can’t have one drink without drinking the whole fucking day; they can’t consume porn in healthy ways.
I think people assume that their feed is customized for them and based on their likes. No—feeds are generalized based on what everyone likes and then served to your subgraph. It’s not just about who you follow; it’s about who they follow. So if you follow someone who follows a lot of people with porn addictions, you will see porn. Bluesky isn’t weighting the algorithm to do this. Basically, it’s the people in your social network with furry, hentai, or trans porn addictions who are driving it.
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Bluesky is An Ontological Space for Sadomasochism, Trolling, & Schadenfreude
So, during the initial exodus from Twitter after it became X following Elon Musk’s purchase, many people left but kept their accounts, purposefully to bully, surveil, antagonize, and troll others. People—including me—moved to Bluesky, Mastodon, or both, and used their Twitter accounts purely for harassment and similar behavior. Essentially, X became the place you went to act like a dumpster fire. Because most people within occult niches are highly toxic, I tend to not only block them but also block anyone they follow for reasons I’m about to explain.
I really only use that account to criticize occulture, post nudes, or share YouTube videos. Since I’m aware of fed posting, I avoid commenting on political topics or anarchist discourse on the Clearnet. Keep that in mind. If you scroll through my profile, you’ll see me poking fun at chaotes, posting nudes, gushing about or complaining about my husband, sharing dating horror story YouTube videos, or pet grooming videos. If you look at my likes, you’ll only see gay porn, mathematics papers, engineering papers, etc. There’s no mention of anything political, especially genocides.
There was a person I’d never interacted with who was part of a starter pack for occultists. I blocked them. Then I woke up this morning to find I was added to this list:
Chomsky Honks
Genocide apologist posting cringe from a Starbucks as it burns down around themSo, with all that in mind, these occultists I’ve never interacted with added me to a list. I am neither invested in Bluesky nor strongly connected to their network, primarily because I block almost everyone on it and don’t ever look at any feeds whatsoever, including the Home, followers, or Discover feeds. Therefore, the posts I do interact with are from pockets of people way outside my network. It’s kind of like driving to the bathhouse in Atlanta from a small town in Bubbafuck, Georgia, because everyone in your small town is garbage. Same idea, ontologically.
Honestly, I don’t care, because I’ve mostly moved back to Mastodon and blog more.
What they’ve done is implicitly a form of defamation, because they feel slighted and justified in defaming someone they don’t know, simply because a stranger they’ve never spoken to blocked them. I tend to do a basic block on anyone who blocks me, because if you’ve decided you don’t want to see me, there’s probably no good-faith reason for us to engage in the future. It’s likely there’s some malicious intent later on. As you can see with this, I was correct.
So, in order for them to know I blocked them, they had to continuously check who had blocked them, and they believe people who block them should be punished through bullying. Since the description of the list doesn’t fit me, they retaliated out of malice. The idea behind these cliques is pretty simple: they feel threatened by anyone who rejects their normative statements because it means they are being rejected, and they view any form of dissent as an existential threat. As a result, they believe people who reject them, set boundaries, or dissent from the consensus of their culture need to be punished, and the AT protocol provides convenient tools for brigading. Ironically, these people are anti-fascist yet have a very Christian-like evangelical way of viewing the world. The lack of insight is pretty funny.
I’m the child of cult leaders and members with Cluster B personalities, so I’m not clutching my pearls, especially since I’m already set up elsewhere outside of Bluesky. They do not have the means to impose significant consequences on me, so I find it amusing. I genuinely find it funny how they eat each other. I’m not calling anyone to action—I’m just enjoying the fire.
This person wasn’t aware of who I was. We never interacted, and being added to a list that defames me happened directly after I blocked them without any prior interaction. I saw their account from the firehose and wasn’t algorithmically presented with it, meaning we’re not even in the same clique. Now, if they had said something like “spams hashtags, trolls, makes alts,” that would make sense.
When you look at it for what it is, they wanted to defame, disparage, and brigade—punitive actions because they interpreted a boundary as hostile. This is projection, as they are weaponizing a mechanism to enforce boundaries. Do I care? No. I’m just pointing out how it turned its predecessor, X, into what it is now. It became a place for people to harass others, not a space for genuine, good-faith discussions, connections, or even debates. That is not my interpretation.
Well, to anyone who knows, you might ask: Did they block you because you have a particular reputation? No. I am a Web 1.0 mage, so the networks I’m known in have roots and associations in the old forums. The occulture people who have fixated on me for years go all the way back to Wizard Forums, the psionics forums, the unsolved mystery forums, etc., from the early 2000s. If you’re a circa 2016 social media influencer mage, you probably wouldn’t know me—primarily because the moment I see you, I’ll block you. There’s also a moderation block list just for me and my alts.
This behavior is typical of the culture on Bluesky, so much so that it’s a common complaint people now have—many no longer view block lists as legitimate moderation tools. People are being advised to be skeptical of lists with a large number of people.
Oh, I’m not playing the victim here. I don’t care, because I could easily get back at them. I’m infamously vindictive and petty. More importantly, it supports my point and vindicates me. I’m not signaling victimhood; rather, I’m pointing out a culture, albeit one I participate in. Tying this back to my initial point: part of what signaled the death of Twitter as a serious forum and its transformation into X was the bullying. A while ago, I did a phylogenetic memetic analysis that basically showed how the culture on Bluesky is highly derivative of image boards. But don’t you bully and troll people? Yes, yes, I do – on Bluesky, and the lack of moderation and culture enable it. That’s my point.
Bluesky is an accelerationist and reactionary platform that gives you the tools to surveil and harass people. The developers of Bluesky and the AT Protocol have explicitly said they are technological accelerationists and libertarians. I’m not virtue signaling here; rather, I am saying Bluesky is a reactionary platform, so its culture should be understood as performative, hostile, and adversarial—not cooperative or collaborative. Just like Twitter. You can’t do what I do on Bluesky on the fediverse, because the culture won’t allow it.
You saw this type of behavior on Tumblr, where the population carrying the memetics of that culture migrated to Twitter and now Bluesky. Essentially, Bluesky became a place where malice, bullying, and hostile behavior became so normalized that I’m not even upset about lists being weaponized like this. For example, I’m not posting this on Bluesky, and I, myself, have bullied people on Bluesky. But I behave myself on Mastodon. I am using myself as an example. The trolling is happening on Bluesky. The thoughtful posts are happening on Mastodon. The blog this will be posted on is federated, so this is being posted to the fediverse.
That’s what happened to Twitter. It started normalizing hostile, toxic behavior, so that people left the platform and only returned to Twitter for schadenfreude. I have my own WordPress fediverse instance. I am just on Bluesky for the schadenfreude.
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Bluesky is An Ontological Space for Sadomasochism, Trolling, & Schadenfreude
So, during the initial exodus from Twitter after it became X following Elon Musk’s purchase, many people left but kept their accounts, purposefully to bully, surveil, antagonize, and troll others. People—including me—moved to Bluesky, Mastodon, or both, and used their Twitter accounts purely for harassment and similar behavior. Essentially, X became the place you went to act like a dumpster fire. Because most people within occult niches are highly toxic, I tend to not only block them but also block anyone they follow for reasons I’m about to explain.
I really only use that account to criticize occulture, post nudes, or share YouTube videos. Since I’m aware of fed posting, I avoid commenting on political topics or anarchist discourse on the Clearnet. Keep that in mind. If you scroll through my profile, you’ll see me poking fun at chaotes, posting nudes, gushing about or complaining about my husband, sharing dating horror story YouTube videos, or pet grooming videos. If you look at my likes, you’ll only see gay porn, mathematics papers, engineering papers, etc. There’s no mention of anything political, especially genocides.
There was a person I’d never interacted with who was part of a starter pack for occultists. I blocked them. Then I woke up this morning to find I was added to this list:
Chomsky Honks
Genocide apologist posting cringe from a Starbucks as it burns down around themSo, with all that in mind, these occultists I’ve never interacted with added me to a list. I am neither invested in Bluesky nor strongly connected to their network, primarily because I block almost everyone on it and don’t ever look at any feeds whatsoever, including the Home, followers, or Discover feeds. Therefore, the posts I do interact with are from pockets of people way outside my network. It’s kind of like driving to the bathhouse in Atlanta from a small town in Bubbafuck, Georgia, because everyone in your small town is garbage. Same idea, ontologically.
Honestly, I don’t care, because I’ve mostly moved back to Mastodon and blog more.
What they’ve done is implicitly a form of defamation, because they feel slighted and justified in defaming someone they don’t know, simply because a stranger they’ve never spoken to blocked them. I tend to do a basic block on anyone who blocks me, because if you’ve decided you don’t want to see me, there’s probably no good-faith reason for us to engage in the future. It’s likely there’s some malicious intent later on. As you can see with this, I was correct.
So, in order for them to know I blocked them, they had to continuously check who had blocked them, and they believe people who block them should be punished through bullying. Since the description of the list doesn’t fit me, they retaliated out of malice. The idea behind these cliques is pretty simple: they feel threatened by anyone who rejects their normative statements because it means they are being rejected, and they view any form of dissent as an existential threat. As a result, they believe people who reject them, set boundaries, or dissent from the consensus of their culture need to be punished, and the AT protocol provides convenient tools for brigading. Ironically, these people are anti-fascist yet have a very Christian-like evangelical way of viewing the world. The lack of insight is pretty funny.
I’m the child of cult leaders and members with Cluster B personalities, so I’m not clutching my pearls, especially since I’m already set up elsewhere outside of Bluesky. They do not have the means to impose significant consequences on me, so I find it amusing. I genuinely find it funny how they eat each other. I’m not calling anyone to action—I’m just enjoying the fire.
This person wasn’t aware of who I was. We never interacted, and being added to a list that defames me happened directly after I blocked them without any prior interaction. I saw their account from the firehose and wasn’t algorithmically presented with it, meaning we’re not even in the same clique. Now, if they had said something like “spams hashtags, trolls, makes alts,” that would make sense.
When you look at it for what it is, they wanted to defame, disparage, and brigade—punitive actions because they interpreted a boundary as hostile. This is projection, as they are weaponizing a mechanism to enforce boundaries. Do I care? No. I’m just pointing out how it turned its predecessor, X, into what it is now. It became a place for people to harass others, not a space for genuine, good-faith discussions, connections, or even debates. That is not my interpretation.
Well, to anyone who knows, you might ask: Did they block you because you have a particular reputation? No. I am a Web 1.0 mage, so the networks I’m known in have roots and associations in the old forums. The occulture people who have fixated on me for years go all the way back to Wizard Forums, the psionics forums, the unsolved mystery forums, etc., from the early 2000s. If you’re a circa 2016 social media influencer mage, you probably wouldn’t know me—primarily because the moment I see you, I’ll block you. There’s also a moderation block list just for me and my alts.
This behavior is typical of the culture on Bluesky, so much so that it’s a common complaint people now have—many no longer view block lists as legitimate moderation tools. People are being advised to be skeptical of lists with a large number of people.
Oh, I’m not playing the victim here. I don’t care, because I could easily get back at them. I’m infamously vindictive and petty. More importantly, it supports my point and vindicates me. I’m not signaling victimhood; rather, I’m pointing out a culture, albeit one I participate in. Tying this back to my initial point: part of what signaled the death of Twitter as a serious forum and its transformation into X was the bullying. A while ago, I did a phylogenetic memetic analysis that basically showed how the culture on Bluesky is highly derivative of image boards. But don’t you bully and troll people? Yes, yes, I do – on Bluesky, and the lack of moderation and culture enable it. That’s my point.
Bluesky is an accelerationist and reactionary platform that gives you the tools to surveil and harass people. The developers of Bluesky and the AT Protocol have explicitly said they are technological accelerationists and libertarians. I’m not virtue signaling here; rather, I am saying Bluesky is a reactionary platform, so its culture should be understood as performative, hostile, and adversarial—not cooperative or collaborative. Just like Twitter. You can’t do what I do on Bluesky on the fediverse, because the culture won’t allow it.
You saw this type of behavior on Tumblr, where the population carrying the memetics of that culture migrated to Twitter and now Bluesky. Essentially, Bluesky became a place where malice, bullying, and hostile behavior became so normalized that I’m not even upset about lists being weaponized like this. For example, I’m not posting this on Bluesky, and I, myself, have bullied people on Bluesky. But I behave myself on Mastodon. I am using myself as an example. The trolling is happening on Bluesky. The thoughtful posts are happening on Mastodon. The blog this will be posted on is federated, so this is being posted to the fediverse.
That’s what happened to Twitter. It started normalizing hostile, toxic behavior, so that people left the platform and only returned to Twitter for schadenfreude. I have my own WordPress fediverse instance. I am just on Bluesky for the schadenfreude.
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#Communiqué: United in the Fight Against #Mpox in Africa - #High-Level #Emergency Regional #Meeting
We, the Ministers of #Health of #Angola, #Benin, #Burundi, #Cameroon, #CentralAfricanRepublic, #Congo, #RDC, #Gabon, #Ghana, #Liberia, #Nigeria, #Uganda and partners, meeting in #Kinshasa, #DemocraticRepublicCongo on 13 April 2024;
NOTING WITH CONCERN the prolonged and ongoing #epidemic of #mpox in several Central and West African countries and the #potential #risk of #transmission to #neighbouring countries and beyond;
SERIOUSLY CONCERNED about the changing transmission dynamics, high #mortality rate and transmissibility of the monkeypox #virus, as well as the morbidity, mortality and social and #economic #impacts;
AWARE of the limitations on access to and acquisition of #medical #countermeasures, including #diagnostics,# treatments, #vaccines and other tools for early detection, verification, care, treatment and prevention;RECOGNIZING the common threat posed by the mpox outbreak to the health and economic security of the populations of the Central and West African regions and the urgent need to address this common threat by all member states of the African Union;
ACKNOWLEDGING the existing frameworks, protocols, strategies and agreements for cross-border solidarity, collaboration and coordination on infectious disease issues,....CONVINCED of the #urgent need to strengthen preparedness and response to mpox at points of entry and within the respective national borders of #AU Member States, including the need for a #coordinated regional and sub-regional approach to prepare and respond effectively and rapidly to mpox and other similar #epidemics;
NOTING the need for a strong national focus on the recommended comprehensive interventions (surveillance, contact tracing, community engagement, #vaccination and targeted research);
COMMENDING national #governments in the region for their ongoing reflections and analyses of the situation, as well as their efforts to respond to mpox epidemics, including collaborative initiatives on mpox research to fill knowledge gaps;
COMMENDING Africa #CDC, #WHO, #UNICEF, #US #CDC, #USAID, #CEPI, Wellcome Trust, GAVI and other technical and financial partners for their support to the mpox response, including cross-border collaboration between affected and at-risk neighbouring countries;Collectively, we resolve and commit our governments and institutions to:
https://africacdc.org/news-item/communique-united-in-the-fight-against-mpox-in-africa-high-level-emergency-regional-meeting/ -
Have We Met?
Humanity can meet new beings in any campaign. This is especially true for those that take place in the future. The characters, in particular, will encounter those they have never met before. These campaigns will be known as first contact campaigns. How does everyone encounter each other? Is the contact friendly or hostile? Does is come as a surprise?
Hello, Stranger
The method for tracking first contact will use a stratified path. This applies if the society has had prior first contacts. If this is the original first contact, there will be no protocols. There won’t be rules telling everyone who to talk to, what to say, or how to dress. In some cases, the midshipman can address the President. The language used can be more suitable for an after-dinner game than for first contact. Yet, in more refined situations, the ship captain addresses a formal representative. A proper delegate also does this. They would use well-rehearsed speeches. A great example for how not to first contact would be in the Star Trek series Enterprise. In that series, none of the crew was trained in foreign relations. Even the highly experienced Vulcan lacked training, especially with first contact protocols. The Federation was so new that they have been in the same place themselves. Contrast this with the way things are in Star Trek Next Generation. At that point, the Federation has so many first contacts that there is a protocol for everything. In the episode First Contact, we are shown how first contact is handled. There is some response to every question and issue that is brought up regardless of which side brings it up.
Contact, Where?
The place where the contact is made can show a problem. Imagine meeting for the first time someone who is important on a park bench. How about that same person being met in a crowded stadium? Would a reception hall be appropriate? Each of these places would work for a first contact. Yet only a formal setting seems appropriate. The belief for the bench is that nothing is official or formal. That will make it completely changeable. The same will be said for every other place except for the formal setting. In a formal setting, it is believed that everyone is an official from their respective society. They also use proper language. They are making a final document.
Permanent?
Will the meeting set up permanent relations? What happens if one side desires to get out? Are there going to be any repercussions? If the meeting creates anything permanent, it will depend on the public profile of each society’s members. How well known and public they will be a deciding factor. If either side attempts to stay hidden from the other, then the first contact be canceled out if desired. If both sides are well known by the general public, then the first contact will be well viewed. It will also be analyzed.
Desires
The results of the first contact will intend to be friendly. This will not always be the case. No two groups will always agree on everything. What happens when there is a disagreement? There will be times when two or more societies cannot settle their disagreements. They enter into some form of nonviolent hostilities, which is basically a cold war. While this cold war approach has many possibilities for TTRPGs, it has many problems for the societies that make them. Another possible outcome would be that they can never agree on anything and go fully into some declared war.
Entities?
Most of the greatest stories will involve major governments. These also involve corporations having first contact with an unknown entity. Must this always be the case? Are there any ways that smaller groups or individuals can have their own first contact? Would it be possible for a situation where one side is greatly powerful and the other is relatively weaker? Essentially, every time that you make the first meeting with someone new, that will be a first contact. You do not need to go through any established protocols. This is true unless you are acting on behalf of some other agency. The comparative size of each party will not matter. What matters will be what each side brings to the table. If the smaller party has something that the larger party must have, then their relative size will be equivalent.
The process of first contact is something that is often discussed in many stories as some form of complication. The actual dealings of first contact can be troublesome in its proper course. Nevertheless, it does not have to be what is described in fiction. Those protocol-filled meetings will take center stage. That is not the only manner they must take. The most common first contact occurs when one business opens a dialog with another business. Alternatively, it involves an individual making contact with a stranger. These smaller first contacts will not make major headlines. They won’t create great stories. Nonetheless, they will be much more important for the characters and campaign in the long run. They will then set the stage for exciting stories the players will want to tell for years to come.
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Have We Met?
Humanity can meet new beings in any campaign. This is especially true for those that take place in the future. The characters, in particular, will encounter those they have never met before. These campaigns will be known as first contact campaigns. How does everyone encounter each other? Is the contact friendly or hostile? Does is come as a surprise?
Hello, Stranger
The method for tracking first contact will use a stratified path. This applies if the society has had prior first contacts. If this is the original first contact, there will be no protocols. There won’t be rules telling everyone who to talk to, what to say, or how to dress. In some cases, the midshipman can address the President. The language used can be more suitable for an after-dinner game than for first contact. Yet, in more refined situations, the ship captain addresses a formal representative. A proper delegate also does this. They would use well-rehearsed speeches. A great example for how not to first contact would be in the Star Trek series Enterprise. In that series, none of the crew was trained in foreign relations. Even the highly experienced Vulcan lacked training, especially with first contact protocols. The Federation was so new that they have been in the same place themselves. Contrast this with the way things are in Star Trek Next Generation. At that point, the Federation has so many first contacts that there is a protocol for everything. In the episode First Contact, we are shown how first contact is handled. There is some response to every question and issue that is brought up regardless of which side brings it up.
Contact, Where?
The place where the contact is made can show a problem. Imagine meeting for the first time someone who is important on a park bench. How about that same person being met in a crowded stadium? Would a reception hall be appropriate? Each of these places would work for a first contact. Yet only a formal setting seems appropriate. The belief for the bench is that nothing is official or formal. That will make it completely changeable. The same will be said for every other place except for the formal setting. In a formal setting, it is believed that everyone is an official from their respective society. They also use proper language. They are making a final document.
Permanent?
Will the meeting set up permanent relations? What happens if one side desires to get out? Are there going to be any repercussions? If the meeting creates anything permanent, it will depend on the public profile of each society’s members. How well known and public they will be a deciding factor. If either side attempts to stay hidden from the other, then the first contact be canceled out if desired. If both sides are well known by the general public, then the first contact will be well viewed. It will also be analyzed.
Desires
The results of the first contact will intend to be friendly. This will not always be the case. No two groups will always agree on everything. What happens when there is a disagreement? There will be times when two or more societies cannot settle their disagreements. They enter into some form of nonviolent hostilities, which is basically a cold war. While this cold war approach has many possibilities for TTRPGs, it has many problems for the societies that make them. Another possible outcome would be that they can never agree on anything and go fully into some declared war.
Entities?
Most of the greatest stories will involve major governments. These also involve corporations having first contact with an unknown entity. Must this always be the case? Are there any ways that smaller groups or individuals can have their own first contact? Would it be possible for a situation where one side is greatly powerful and the other is relatively weaker? Essentially, every time that you make the first meeting with someone new, that will be a first contact. You do not need to go through any established protocols. This is true unless you are acting on behalf of some other agency. The comparative size of each party will not matter. What matters will be what each side brings to the table. If the smaller party has something that the larger party must have, then their relative size will be equivalent.
The process of first contact is something that is often discussed in many stories as some form of complication. The actual dealings of first contact can be troublesome in its proper course. Nevertheless, it does not have to be what is described in fiction. Those protocol-filled meetings will take center stage. That is not the only manner they must take. The most common first contact occurs when one business opens a dialog with another business. Alternatively, it involves an individual making contact with a stranger. These smaller first contacts will not make major headlines. They won’t create great stories. Nonetheless, they will be much more important for the characters and campaign in the long run. They will then set the stage for exciting stories the players will want to tell for years to come.
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Have We Met?
Humanity can meet new beings in any campaign. This is especially true for those that take place in the future. The characters, in particular, will encounter those they have never met before. These campaigns will be known as first contact campaigns. How does everyone encounter each other? Is the contact friendly or hostile? Does is come as a surprise?
Hello, Stranger
The method for tracking first contact will use a stratified path. This applies if the society has had prior first contacts. If this is the original first contact, there will be no protocols. There won’t be rules telling everyone who to talk to, what to say, or how to dress. In some cases, the midshipman can address the President. The language used can be more suitable for an after-dinner game than for first contact. Yet, in more refined situations, the ship captain addresses a formal representative. A proper delegate also does this. They would use well-rehearsed speeches. A great example for how not to first contact would be in the Star Trek series Enterprise. In that series, none of the crew was trained in foreign relations. Even the highly experienced Vulcan lacked training, especially with first contact protocols. The Federation was so new that they have been in the same place themselves. Contrast this with the way things are in Star Trek Next Generation. At that point, the Federation has so many first contacts that there is a protocol for everything. In the episode First Contact, we are shown how first contact is handled. There is some response to every question and issue that is brought up regardless of which side brings it up.
Contact, Where?
The place where the contact is made can show a problem. Imagine meeting for the first time someone who is important on a park bench. How about that same person being met in a crowded stadium? Would a reception hall be appropriate? Each of these places would work for a first contact. Yet only a formal setting seems appropriate. The belief for the bench is that nothing is official or formal. That will make it completely changeable. The same will be said for every other place except for the formal setting. In a formal setting, it is believed that everyone is an official from their respective society. They also use proper language. They are making a final document.
Permanent?
Will the meeting set up permanent relations? What happens if one side desires to get out? Are there going to be any repercussions? If the meeting creates anything permanent, it will depend on the public profile of each society’s members. How well known and public they will be a deciding factor. If either side attempts to stay hidden from the other, then the first contact be canceled out if desired. If both sides are well known by the general public, then the first contact will be well viewed. It will also be analyzed.
Desires
The results of the first contact will intend to be friendly. This will not always be the case. No two groups will always agree on everything. What happens when there is a disagreement? There will be times when two or more societies cannot settle their disagreements. They enter into some form of nonviolent hostilities, which is basically a cold war. While this cold war approach has many possibilities for TTRPGs, it has many problems for the societies that make them. Another possible outcome would be that they can never agree on anything and go fully into some declared war.
Entities?
Most of the greatest stories will involve major governments. These also involve corporations having first contact with an unknown entity. Must this always be the case? Are there any ways that smaller groups or individuals can have their own first contact? Would it be possible for a situation where one side is greatly powerful and the other is relatively weaker? Essentially, every time that you make the first meeting with someone new, that will be a first contact. You do not need to go through any established protocols. This is true unless you are acting on behalf of some other agency. The comparative size of each party will not matter. What matters will be what each side brings to the table. If the smaller party has something that the larger party must have, then their relative size will be equivalent.
The process of first contact is something that is often discussed in many stories as some form of complication. The actual dealings of first contact can be troublesome in its proper course. Nevertheless, it does not have to be what is described in fiction. Those protocol-filled meetings will take center stage. That is not the only manner they must take. The most common first contact occurs when one business opens a dialog with another business. Alternatively, it involves an individual making contact with a stranger. These smaller first contacts will not make major headlines. They won’t create great stories. Nonetheless, they will be much more important for the characters and campaign in the long run. They will then set the stage for exciting stories the players will want to tell for years to come.
Please refer this blog to your friends and family. If you use this link, everyone will receive a bonus.
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Have We Met?
Humanity can meet new beings in any campaign. This is especially true for those that take place in the future. The characters, in particular, will encounter those they have never met before. These campaigns will be known as first contact campaigns. How does everyone encounter each other? Is the contact friendly or hostile? Does is come as a surprise?
Hello, Stranger
The method for tracking first contact will use a stratified path. This applies if the society has had prior first contacts. If this is the original first contact, there will be no protocols. There won’t be rules telling everyone who to talk to, what to say, or how to dress. In some cases, the midshipman can address the President. The language used can be more suitable for an after-dinner game than for first contact. Yet, in more refined situations, the ship captain addresses a formal representative. A proper delegate also does this. They would use well-rehearsed speeches. A great example for how not to first contact would be in the Star Trek series Enterprise. In that series, none of the crew was trained in foreign relations. Even the highly experienced Vulcan lacked training, especially with first contact protocols. The Federation was so new that they have been in the same place themselves. Contrast this with the way things are in Star Trek Next Generation. At that point, the Federation has so many first contacts that there is a protocol for everything. In the episode First Contact, we are shown how first contact is handled. There is some response to every question and issue that is brought up regardless of which side brings it up.
Contact, Where?
The place where the contact is made can show a problem. Imagine meeting for the first time someone who is important on a park bench. How about that same person being met in a crowded stadium? Would a reception hall be appropriate? Each of these places would work for a first contact. Yet only a formal setting seems appropriate. The belief for the bench is that nothing is official or formal. That will make it completely changeable. The same will be said for every other place except for the formal setting. In a formal setting, it is believed that everyone is an official from their respective society. They also use proper language. They are making a final document.
Permanent?
Will the meeting set up permanent relations? What happens if one side desires to get out? Are there going to be any repercussions? If the meeting creates anything permanent, it will depend on the public profile of each society’s members. How well known and public they will be a deciding factor. If either side attempts to stay hidden from the other, then the first contact be canceled out if desired. If both sides are well known by the general public, then the first contact will be well viewed. It will also be analyzed.
Desires
The results of the first contact will intend to be friendly. This will not always be the case. No two groups will always agree on everything. What happens when there is a disagreement? There will be times when two or more societies cannot settle their disagreements. They enter into some form of nonviolent hostilities, which is basically a cold war. While this cold war approach has many possibilities for TTRPGs, it has many problems for the societies that make them. Another possible outcome would be that they can never agree on anything and go fully into some declared war.
Entities?
Most of the greatest stories will involve major governments. These also involve corporations having first contact with an unknown entity. Must this always be the case? Are there any ways that smaller groups or individuals can have their own first contact? Would it be possible for a situation where one side is greatly powerful and the other is relatively weaker? Essentially, every time that you make the first meeting with someone new, that will be a first contact. You do not need to go through any established protocols. This is true unless you are acting on behalf of some other agency. The comparative size of each party will not matter. What matters will be what each side brings to the table. If the smaller party has something that the larger party must have, then their relative size will be equivalent.
The process of first contact is something that is often discussed in many stories as some form of complication. The actual dealings of first contact can be troublesome in its proper course. Nevertheless, it does not have to be what is described in fiction. Those protocol-filled meetings will take center stage. That is not the only manner they must take. The most common first contact occurs when one business opens a dialog with another business. Alternatively, it involves an individual making contact with a stranger. These smaller first contacts will not make major headlines. They won’t create great stories. Nonetheless, they will be much more important for the characters and campaign in the long run. They will then set the stage for exciting stories the players will want to tell for years to come.
Please refer this blog to your friends and family. If you use this link, everyone will receive a bonus.
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Interesting piece in Nature last week about Antarctic research infrastructure. China has just opened it's fifth station, as the US retreats from science in general, and especially polar research. Many countries in Europe are also rather weakly present in the Antarctic, and there is no common EU programme.
In Denmark, we haven't even ratified the Madrid protocols for environmental protection of Antarctica, never mind signed the Antarctic Treaty. In spite of the actually rather strong Danish input to Antarctic research in general - much of which is driven by the fact that our future sea level rise will be largely determined by what happens in the Antarctic.
#Antarctica #PolarREsearch #ArcticScience #PolarScience
Edit: broken link, apologies, try this
https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-025-02157-x -
"Roles in the world of programming: The path to the industry through non-technical professions and their analogies with the film industry"
Introduction:
In the modern world, programming has become one of the most popular and dynamically developing professions. However, success in this field is not limited solely to technical skills. In the world of software development, as in the film industry, there are important roles that are not directly related to coding, but are key to the successful delivery of a project. Just as in cinema there are not only directors and camera operators, but also producers, marketing managers, PR specialists and other professionals, in the IT field there is also a number of non-technical professions that support and develop the project, ensuring its successful implementation.
This work is aimed at helping novice developers and anyone interested in understanding the structure of projects that exist in the world of programming and understanding what roles there may be in such projects in addition to developers. We'll look at how the software development process works, what key people work on the project, and how a newcomer without a technical background can find a role in the industry.
As an example, we will take a hypothetical project improvement Ygdrassil. This project has already attracted the attention of many developers and users, and there is every reason to believe that it can be supplemented with new functionality, especially in the field of user interface (UI). We will look at how the introduction of new roles and improved communication between the various development participants can affect the success of such a project, as well as its further development.
Rationale:
The world of programming is vast and multifaceted, and to successfully become a part of this world, it is important to understand not only the technical aspects, but also the organizational, management and communication roles. Roles in software development, as in film production, are not always limited to technical people, but include professionals who manage the project, interact with stakeholders, handle marketing issues and develop the community. These roles are equally valuable and are necessary for the project to be successful and attract the attention of the audience.
For many aspiring developers, the process of choosing a path in the industry can be daunting, and they are often confused about what opportunities exist outside of technical work. This work aims to provide a clear understanding of how the world of programming works, what key roles exist in a project, and how a beginner can choose his or her path beyond just technical skills.
Key words:
Programming
Roles in the project
Software development
An open-source project
Career path
New to programming
Development process
Startups and large companies
Skill development
Non-technical roles
Labor market in IT
The authors' goal:
The purpose of this work is to provide novice programmers and anyone interested with a complete and clear idea of how the world of programming works. We strive to:
Describe the main roles that may exist in a project and their relationships.
Explain how a newbie can enter this world and what skills and knowledge are required for each role.
Provide insight into the development process, how different specialists interact, and how to choose your path in this area.
Talk about career development and opportunities for growth in programming, including in the context of open-source projects and startups.
Conclusion:
We are confident that understanding the structure of projects, roles in the team and development paths will help beginning professionals make an informed choice and quickly adapt to the world of programming. This work serves as a guide for those who want to enter the industry, as well as for those who are already in it and want to expand their horizons.
Now this is a complete description with title, introduction, rationale, keywords and purpose of the work.
Yes, improving Yggdrasil code can be beneficial in several ways, depending on your goals and needs. Here are some reasons to improve your code:
Performance: Code optimization can improve code performance by reducing the use of resources such as memory and CPU time.
Safety: If the code has not been updated or vulnerabilities have been identified, improving it and updating it to meet modern security standards is an important task.
Readability and Maintainability: Improving the structure and quality of the code can make it easier to maintain and develop, especially if the project is maintained by multiple developers.
Compatibility and Extensibility: Perhaps the project can be improved by making it more compatible with modern technologies and extensible for new use cases.
Integration with other projects: If new features or integrations with other systems are added to the project, improving the code will better support such extensions.
Testability: Improving the code may include creating more convenient testing methods, which is important for the reliability and stability of the system.
If there are specific areas for improvement or bottlenecks in a project, this can be particularly important in improving the overall efficiency and quality of the system.
Successful development and maintenance of a project such as Yggdrasil requires several key participants with different skills and experience. Here is a list of required roles:
Project Manager:
Responsible for planning, coordinating, managing deadlines and priorities.
Monitors task completion, sets goals, and evaluates progress.
Interacts with other project participants and customers.
System Architect:
Develops the system architecture, defines the main components and their interactions.
Conducts requirements analysis and makes recommendations on technology selection.
Developers (Backend/Full-stack):
They write the main code of the system, including the server side, working with databases and API.
They are engaged in performance optimization, bug fixes, and functionality improvements.
Security Engineer:
Ensures system security, including work with cryptography, authentication, and protection against attacks.
Checks code for vulnerabilities, implements and maintains security systems.
Network Engineer:
Specializes in setting up and optimizing network connections.
Works with protocols and distributed systems such as p2p and VPN.
Testers (QA):
Conduct software testing, identify bugs and errors.
Working on test automation and creating tests for new features.
Technical Writer:
Creates technical documentation describing the architecture, code, instructions for developers and users.
Keeps documentation current and accessible.
UI/UX designer (if required):
Responsible for the user interface (if the project includes a client side with UI).
Works on ease of use, improves user interaction with the system.
System Administrator (DevOps):
Provides infrastructure deployment, monitoring and support.
Works on automating CI/CD processes, managing servers and containers.
Analyst/Researcher:
Conducts requirements and market analysis, assesses user needs and technology trends.
May also research new approaches and algorithms to improve the system.
Each of these roles plays an important role in supporting and developing the project. Team structure may vary depending on the size and complexity of the project, and some roles may be combined into one person, especially on smaller projects.
Yes, a similar role in project development can be identified "Product Manager", who performs functions similar to a producer in the film business.
Product manager:
General Product Management: Just as a producer manages the creation of a film, a product manager is responsible for the entire life cycle of a product, from idea to release and support.
Coordination between teams: A product manager often coordinates the interaction of various teams (developers, designers, marketers, testers) and ensures that tasks are completed on time.
Making key decisions: Just as a producer makes strategic decisions, a product manager determines development directions, functional priorities, and also negotiates with stakeholders (for example, customers or investors).
Resources and budget: A product manager also manages resources, controls the project budget, assigns tasks so that the product is delivered on time and within budget.
Differences from the producer:
Unlike a producer, who may be involved in financing and promotion in the film industry, a product manager focuses more on the actual development of the product and its features, as well as interaction with users.
If the project is large and complex, there may be several product managers, each of whom is responsible for separate parts of the project, such as the frontend, backend or infrastructure.
The initiator of a project similar to Yggdrasil could be founder or initiator of the idea (for example, in the context of a startup or open-source project). This is a person or group of people who:
Form the basic concept: The project initiator often defines the project's vision, goals and mission. They can be theoreticians, practitioners or enthusiasts who see a need to solve a problem and propose their own approach.
Attract resources and partners: It is important that the initiator can assemble a team, attract investors, volunteers or even influential partners to implement the idea.
Starting development: The proponent may organize the initial phase of the project, including basic concept development, prototypes, or research, to prove the viability of the idea and gain support from other stakeholders.
Define strategy and goals: The initiator sets the tone for the project and determines what problems or needs it solves. In the case of open-source projects, the initiator may be the person who has set himself the task of solving technical or social problems, which in turn attracts other developers.
In a more formal structure, such as a startup, the initiator may be founder or general director, while in the open-source community it might be project leader or even several people coordinating the initial development.
Thus, an initiator is someone who launches an idea and inspires others to pursue it, whether through technical or financial efforts.
In a more formalized project team context, there are several key roles associated with the initiative and launch of the project. Here's how it could be:
1. Project Initiator
This is the person or group of people who initiates the project. They may be:
Founders (especially in startups or within new organizations).
Ideologists or thought leaders — people who propose a solution to a specific problem or create a project concept, setting a general strategy and goals.
Sponsors - financial or resource initiators who provide start-up capital or support the project at its initial stage.
2. Project Manager
A formalized manager who can be appointed to coordinate all aspects of the project. This person:
Manages all phases of development including planning, execution and control.
Ensures project completion is on time, within budget and in compliance with requirements.
Coordinates teams and stakeholders, monitors risks and resolves issues that arise during the process.
3. Product Owner
In the context of Agile development or Scrum methodology, this person is responsible for the product development strategy:
Serves as a link between customers (or users) and the development team.
Makes key decisions regarding product functionality and its priorities.
Responsible for maintaining the product backlog and can initiate changes at various stages of development.
4. Development team
This is a group of technical specialists working on the implementation of the project:
Developers (Backend, Frontend, Full-stack).
Security Engineers.
Testers (QA).
System administrators or DevOps specialists.
5. Head of department or program (Program Manager)
If the project is part of a larger enterprise (for example, in large organizations), this role may be allocated:
Oversees several projects aimed at achieving a common business goal.
Responsible for ensuring synergy between various projects and their interdependence.
6. Investor/Project Sponsor
A project sponsor or investor is a person or organization that provides financing for a project:
Supports the project financially and strategically.
Can actively participate in key senior-level decisions.
Provides resources and mentorship to the project.
Thus, in a formalized structure, the project has a clear hierarchy, where project initiator is the key figure who forms the strategy and initial ideas, and project Manager or product manager ensure the implementation of these ideas through team coordination and project management.
Interesting question! Role general producer in the film business has several unique aspects that do not always translate easily to technology projects such as software development or startups. However, there are several factors that may explain why the equivalent of such a role is not as prominent in software development projects.
Reasons for the absence of an obvious analogue of the “general producer”:
Distributed responsibilities: In film, a producer (including a general producer) often performs many tasks, including financial management, crew selection, production management, marketing and distribution. In technology projects, these tasks are distributed among different roles:
Project Manager or product manager can take charge of time management, task management and team coordination.
System Architects And technical leaders are responsible for the technological direction.
Finance executives or investors manage financing and budget planning.
Differences in approaches to risk and financing: In the film business, a producer manages a project as a complex business with high risks and investors, often with many uncertain factors such as the success of the film, audience reactions and marketing strategies. In software development projects, risks are more predictable and can be reduced to managing the team, time and budget. Investors or sponsors are often involved in the project, but do not take on such comprehensive responsibility for the development process itself.
Focus on technology: In technology and software development, the role focuses on creating the product. Here, the success of a product primarily depends on the team of developers, engineers and managers who are responsible for the technical side, unlike in film, where the producer can make a wider range of decisions, including the choice of actors and scripts.
Flexibility and Agile approaches: Modern IT projects often use flexible methodology (Agile, Scrum, etc.), where the focus is on an iterative process and constant adaptation of the product. This means that project roles often focus on specific tasks and goals at each stage, and product management is more collaborative than centralized. The role of "general producer" might be perceived as redundant, since coordination is already delegated to various roles.
Division into narrower roles: In an IT environment, there is a clearer division of labor between technical, business and operational roles. This reduces the need for a single person to cover all aspects, as a film producer does. For example, one person may be responsible for marketing, another for product development, and a third for finance.
Potential analogue of a general producer
If we consider the analogy with general producer, then we can distinguish several roles that can combine the functions inherent in a producer in the film business:
Lead Product Manager or Product Director: He can take on project management at a higher level, coordinating not only the technical aspects, but also the overall product strategy, its market prospects, as well as interaction with various stakeholders (investors, partners, etc.).
Chief Operating Officer (COO): In large companies, the COO role may cover functions similar to a general producer. He oversees all operational aspects of the business, including finances, resources, team and strategies.
Executive Director (CEO) or founder: In startups and small projects, the founder or CEO often performs functions similar to the producer. They may be responsible for everything from concept to marketing to financing, overseeing the project at every level.
Thus, although the role general producer in its full sense is not always present in technology projects, elements of this function can be distributed among several key roles in the team.
In context open-source projects role similar general producer, may also not be as clearly defined, but several analogies can be drawn with more traditional business roles. Open-source projects have a unique structure where responsibilities are often distributed among many participants, but certain individuals can still perform functions similar to those of a film producer. This is what it looks like:
1. Project Lead or Lead Developer
Role in an open-source project project leader will often perform functions similar to the general producer:
Development coordination: The project leader manages the overall direction of development, makes key architectural decisions, and coordinates the work of other participants.
Responsibility for vision and strategy: Like the CEO, the leader shapes the project's development strategy, deciding which features to implement and which to reject, depending on the needs of the community and users.
Attracting participants: A leader often works with other developers, just as a film producer works with actors and creators. This may include managing community contributions, attracting new contributors, and maintaining engagement.
2. Technical Lead
In open-source projects, especially if the project is large, the role of a technical manager can be similar to some of the functions of a producer:
Technical management: The technical leader resolves key issues related to the implementation of functionality, technologies and tools that will be used.
Code quality control: Just as a producer ensures the quality of the final product in a movie, a technical leader ensures that the code meets quality standards and safety requirements.
3. Community Manager
Although the role community manager in an open-source project is not a direct analogue of a producer, he plays an important role in organizing interactions with the outside world, which is also typical for producers:
Engaging and motivating participants: The community manager works with external participants, organizing communication between them and the main developers.
Marketing and promotion of the project: The manager is actively working to disseminate information about the project, attracting new users and developers.
Organization of events and meetings: He can organize meetups, webinars or other events aimed at developing the project.
4. Project Sponsor or Funding Organizations
In the open-source world there may be financial sponsors, such as large companies, organizations or individual donors who support the project with funds. Although the role sponsor in open-source is different from a producer in cinema, they also play an important role in the support and development of the project:
Financing: Sponsors often provide the project with the financial resources needed for its growth, infrastructure, and developers.
Resources and advertising: Sponsors can help a project gain more attention, as well as help build infrastructure and attract new participants.
5. Founder of the project (Founder)
The founder of an open-source project can perform functions similar to the role of a producer:
Initiator of idea and strategy: The founder forms the concept of the project, creates its mission and vision.
Attracting a team and partners: Just like a film producer assembles a team and manages the entire process, the founder of an open-source project can attract other developers, organize teams and decide how to develop the project in the future.
6. Consultants or mentors
In large open-source projects there may be consultants or mentors, who serve as external experts, helping to guide the project in the right direction. While this role is not exactly the same as a producer, it can involve helping make important decisions, especially at a more senior level.
Summary
In open-source projects, the role general producer somewhat breaks down into several separate functions:
Project leader Responsible for strategy, management and vision.
Technical Leader manages technical aspects.
Community Manager deals with external relations, engagement and popularization.
Sponsors or funding organizations provide resources.
Although in the open-source world there is no clear-cut role analogous to the general producer in film, all of these participants collectively perform tasks that ensure the successful development of the project and the achievement of its goals.
Finally, to output the project Ygdrassil to the next level, it is necessary to focus on improving the user interface (UI), providing more flexible customization for users and adding new opportunities for interacting with the project. This may include improving navigation, adding new visual elements and tools for effective project management. In addition, it is worth considering introducing functionality that will more effectively integrate teamwork and the exchange of ideas, which is especially important for open-source projects. Improving these aspects will not only increase the project's appeal to a wider audience, but will also create opportunities for greater community engagement and increased user numbers. The question "Where are you going?" in the context of Ygdrassil, one can answer this way: towards creating an intuitive, powerful and convenient tool for everyone who is looking for opportunities to organize and manage projects in the world of programming.
Here is a list of possible project touchpoints Ygdrassil with other projects that can significantly improve the user experience, expand the functionality and PC/software combination, and also make these technologies more accessible and useful for specialists and beginners, especially in the face of current challenges:
1. Integration with tools for remote work (for example, Slack, Microsoft Teams)
Provide easy integration with popular communication and teamwork platforms, improving collaboration and communication across projects.
2. Support for cloud technologies (for example, AWS, Google Cloud, Azure)
Implementation of integration with cloud services for data storage, application deployment and scalability to expand the functionality of the project.
3. API for interaction with external services
The ability to integrate with other services via API, which will open up new opportunities for expanding the functionality of Igdrassil, including synchronization with other projects and task automation.
4. Data visualization and analytics (for example, integration with Power BI, Tableau)
Adding functions for data visualization, which will allow users to easily analyze project statistics, draw conclusions and make informed decisions.
5. Integration with project management systems (for example, Jira, Trello, Asana)
Built-in support for popular project management systems will improve planning, control and reporting of tasks, which will provide greater flexibility in the work of teams.
6. Using blockchain technologies to verify and track changes
Integration with blockchain platforms to ensure transparency and security of transactions, as well as to track the history of changes in the project.
7. Integration with Git and other version control systems
The ability to more easily interact with Git repositories for convenient storage and synchronization of source code.
8. Using machine learning to analyze project data
Implementation of machine learning algorithms that will analyze user behavior and predict needs, improving interaction with the interface and optimizing functionality.
9. Interfaces for users with special needs (accessibility)
Development of adaptive interfaces that will be convenient for people with disabilities, for example, support for screen readers, high-contrast themes and voice control.
10. Supports Augmented Reality (AR) and Virtual Reality (VR) to showcase projects
Introducing AR/VR to demonstrate and interact with projects in a more interactive format, which can be useful for presentations and training.
11. Implementation of neural network solutions for task automation
Using neural networks to automate routine tasks such as reporting, code analysis, or documentation generation.
12. Integration with online learning platforms (e.g. Coursera, Udemy)
Implementation of educational modules or courses available directly through the Igdrassil interface to train new users or improve their skills.
13. Supports multitasking and real-time collaboration
Creation of tools for effective work on a project in real time with the possibility of parallel editing and instant exchange of information.
14. Flexibility in customizing UI/UX for different types of users
The ability to customize the interface for different types of users: from beginners to experts, providing simplicity for some and deep customization for others.
15. Integration with monitoring and logging systems (for example, Prometheus, Grafana)
Ability to monitor project activity, performance and errors using popular monitoring and visualization tools.
16. Integration with automated testing platforms (for example, Selenium, Jenkins)
Incorporating capabilities for automated software testing within a project, improving the quality of the released product.
17. Support for DevOps practices to automate deployment and CI/CD
Introducing capabilities for automated deployment and integration with CI/CD pipelines, improving development speed and stability.
18. Integration with services for managing finances and resources (for example, QuickBooks, Xero)
The ability to manage project finances, track budgets, expenses and income using integration with popular financial platforms.
19. API support for working with the Internet of Things (IoT)
Ability to interact with IoT devices to create more complex and integrated software development solutions.
20. Integration with video conferencing systems (for example, Zoom, Google Meet)
Seamlessly integrate with video communication platforms for meetings and discussions, ensuring effective collaboration among teams located in different locations.
21. Implementation of cybersecurity and data protection solutions
Integration with data security, leak and malware protection tools, and access rights management.
22. Support for integration with social networks to promote projects
Implementation of functions for automatic dissemination of information about the project through social networks, which will help in popularizing it and attracting users.
23. Use of cryptocurrencies for financing and transactions within the project
The introduction of support for cryptocurrency payments and financing facilities, which will give the project additional flexibility in financing and attracting investments.
24. Flexible notification and reminder system
Implementation of a notification system that will be flexibly customized to the needs of users and remind them of key events, deadlines and changes in the project.
25. Support for language packs and interface localization
The ability to choose the interface language and support users from different countries and regions, which will make the project more accessible and expand the audience.
26. Mechanisms for managing the life cycle of software and its versions
Implementation of version and release management tools that will simplify the process of deploying and updating the application.
These improvements can significantly increase the functionality of Igdrassil, improve the user experience and make the project more convenient and accessible to a wide audience, including both experts and beginners. Importantly, most of these changes are relevant to current trends and challenges related to remote work, security, efficiency and accessibility of technology.
Self-hosting is indeed becoming increasingly attractive in the context of privacy and anonymity, especially with increasing attention to data protection and the value of personal information. In connection with the objectives of the project Ygdrassil Several directions can be considered that could improve the project and support the idea of autonomy, privacy and security for users. Here are some of them that may be useful and practical to implement:
1. Self-hosting as an alternative to cloud solutions
Description: Offer users the ability to deploy Ygdrassil on their own servers or local machines. This will ensure complete control over the data and the project, minimizing the risks of leaks or unauthorized access.
How to implement: Develop detailed documentation for installing and configuring Igdrassil on various platforms (Linux, Windows, macOS) with simple instructions and scripts for automatic configuration.
Advantages: Increased security, data protection and the ability to work in completely closed or local networks.
2. Support for anonymous networks (for example, Tor, I2P)
Description: Integration with anonymous networks such as Tor or I2P will allow users to use the project in an environment with the maximum degree of privacy and anonymity.
How to implement: Enable the ability for users to connect to the project via Tor, ensuring their IP address is hidden and improved protection from surveillance. You can offer separate configurations and settings for using such networks.
Advantages: Privacy and protection from monitoring or tracking, which is especially important for users who value anonymity.
3. Data encryption on the client side (End-to-Encryption)
Description: Implement client-side data encryption before sending it to the server, so that only users can decrypt their data and even project administrators cannot access the content.
How to implement: Use standard and proven cryptographic methods such as AES for encryption and integrate them into the project so that only authorized users can decrypt their data.
Advantages: Increased security and privacy, protecting data from potential leaks, attacks or unauthorized access attempts.
4. Decentralized data stores
Description: Possibility of using decentralized data storage systems such as IPFS (InterPlanetary File System) or Sia. This will allow users to store data on distributed networks, making them less vulnerable to attacks and giving them more control over their data.
How to implement: Integrate support for IPFS or other similar services so that users can store and share data through decentralized storage.
Advantages: Censorship protection, increased data availability, decentralized storage and improved privacy.
5. Local and secure databases
Description: Offer the ability to use local databases to store information rather than relying on cloud solutions. You can also offer the option of using protected and encrypted databases.
How to implement: Integrate SQLite, local or distribution databases with the ability to encrypt data on the user side, without requiring centralized storage.
Advantages: Users have full control over their data, which improves security and protects it from external control.
6. Confidential authentication methods
Description: Design and implement authentication mechanisms that maintain confidentiality, such as using cryptographic methods or two-factor authentication (2FA) over secure channels.
How to implement: Supports authentication through secure and anonymous channels, such as one-time passwords, biometrics, or tokens that do not require linking to personal information.
Advantages: Increased security, protection against phishing attacks and minimizing the need to collect personal information.
7. Autonomous update and patch systems
Description: Offer a solution that allows users to receive updates and security patches through offline channels, not tied to external servers, to avoid the risk of surveillance or data leaks.
How to implement: Use an automatic update system that will check for patches and updates across a distributed network, without the need to connect to centralized servers.
Advantages: Security from external monitoring, the ability to update autonomously and minimize privacy risks.
8. Local or private networks for data synchronization
Description: Implementation of functionality for data synchronization and interaction between users on local networks or private VPNs, excluding external servers and minimizing the risk of leaks.
How to implement: Develop functionality for exchanging data through secure channels, such as local networks or VPNs, without the need to use cloud servers.
Advantages: Increased security and privacy, eliminating dependence on cloud providers.
9. Data recovery mechanisms using cryptographic keys
Description: Implementation of a system for restoring access to data using cryptographic keys, which will allow the user to restore data in the event of loss of access, without resorting to external sources.
How to implement: Implement functionality to create backup keys or tokens that can be used to restore data.
Advantages: Protection against data loss, ease of access restoration without the participation of third parties.
10. Supports multi-factor authentication via key storage devices (such as YubiKey)
Description: To improve security, you can offer support for authentication through devices that generate one-time keys, such as YubiKey or other hardware devices.
How to implement: Integrate support for such devices into the project's authentication system.
Advantages: Enhanced security, protection against phishing and other authentication attacks.
These solutions can make a project Ygdrassil more attractive to users who value privacy, security and autonomy. Implementing such capabilities will ensure reliable data protection and help build trust among users, especially in the face of growing threats to personal information online.
Implement all these possibilities within the project Ygdrassilmaking them work “out of the box” for an untrained user is certainly difficult, but possible if you approach the implementation step by step. However, there are a few important points to consider:
1. Keep it simple for untrained users
Implementing most of these functions in a finished product requires creating an intuitive interface that hides all the complexity behind convenient settings and smart assistants. For untrained users, it is important that most operations are performed automatically, without the need for intervention.
How to implement it:
For self-hosting You can develop simple scripts or installation wizards that automate the deployment, configuration, and upgrade processes. This can be achieved through the use of containers (such as Docker), which can be configured with minimal effort.
Integration with Tor and I2P should not only be possible, but also offered as an easy setup in the interface. A couple of clicks to connect through these networks, with pre-configured settings, will improve the experience for beginners.
Encryption data must be transparent. For example, automatically encrypting data on the client side without the user needing to know how it works can be implemented as on/off settings.
2. Technical complexity and documentation
One important aspect will be the quality of documentation and training materials. For an untrained user, it will be useful if all the information is presented in a step-by-step format with clear explanations.
How to implement it:
Add built-in hints And interactive tutorials, which will help the user go through all the setup steps.
Provide flexible interface settings using templates for different types of users (newbies, experienced users, administrators).
Turn on automatic updates, which will eliminate the need to manually search for patches and updates, as well as integration with services for restoring from backups.
3. Performance issues and hardware requirements
Some of the proposed solutions may require quite powerful resources, such as encryption and decentralized data storage (IPFS). For the casual user, it is important that such features work effectively even on less powerful devices.
How to implement it:
Enable feature step-by-step setup, where the user can choose which features and services to activate based on the power of their device.
For remote hosting and use of cloud services You can offer options with minimal requirements, for example, using cloud providers for data storage, which will reduce the load on the local computer.
4. Transparency in use and user interface
Integration process with technologies such as Tor, IPFS, or machine learning, may be difficult to understand for beginners. It is important that such systems operate in the background, with clear and understandable status alerts, and provide the user with the ability to enable or disable these features at their discretion.
How to implement it:
Simple and intuitive interface with visual indicators what's happening in the background (for example, when data is encrypted or when a Tor connection is active).
Enable ready-made presets with safe settings for beginners, and more complex, customizable settings for experienced users.
5. Problems with network infrastructure and dependencies on third-party solutions
The use of decentralized technologies and anonymous networks such as Tor, can cause performance and connection stability issues, which can be frustrating for the untrained user.
How to implement it:
Simplify the process of switching between main network And anonymous network, so that the user can easily return to normal operation if problems with anonymity arise.
The out-of-the-box approach means that most of these dependencies and technologies will work automatically, hiding technical details and providing stable work.
What can be realistically implemented for untrained users:
Basic functions (e.g. self-hosting, basic encryption, Tor connection) can be made accessible to beginners with simple tools and instructions.
Cloud and decentralized solutions can be implemented through standard interfaces with basic settings for beginners, but with the possibility of deeper customization for experienced users.
Updates and patches: You can implement automatic update and patch mechanisms to protect against vulnerabilities without user intervention.
Easy security setup: Users can enable or disable security features (such as encryption and anonymous networks) through the interface with minimal settings.
What is the way out:
In order to do this “really out of the box”, you need to consider two important aspects:
Simplicity of the interface and automation of all complex technical processes.
Accessibility for different types of users, including those without technical experience.
Creating such software may require a lot of effort at the development stage, but the result can be a very powerful tool for users seeking privacy, security and independence.#Programming #RolesInTheProject #SoftwareDevelopment #OpenSource #CareerPath #NewToProgramming #DevelopmentProcess #Startups #NonTechnicalRoles #IT #TechIndustry #ProjectManagement #UIUX #Marketing #CommunityBuilding #ProductManagement #CareerGrowth #TechLeadership #TechMarketing #Agile #LearnToCode #TechCareers #TechProjects #InnovationInTech #TechPathways
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@cloudskater wrote:
Some instances are run by bad people. Hell, a few projects like Lemmy and Matrix are DEVELOPED by assholes, but the FLOSS and federated nature of these platforms allows us to bypass/fork them and create healthy spaces outside their reach.
Nope, that is actually what is killing the fediverse. I just explained here:
The issue is the divergence in semantic interpretation that emerges at the interpretation layer. ActivityPub standardizes message delivery and defines common activity types. However, it leaves extension semantics and application-layer policy decisions to individual implementations. Servers may introduce custom JSON-LD namespaces and enforce local behaviors, such as reply restrictions, while remaining protocol-compliant. But, the noise created by divergences are problematic, because it creates unexpected, unintended, and unpredictable behavior.
Divergence appears when implementations rely on non-normative metadata and assume reciprocal handling to preserve a consistent user experience. Behavioral alignment then varies. Syntactic exchange succeeds, but behavioral consistency is not guaranteed. Though instances continue to federate at the transport level, policy semantics and processing logic differ across deployments. Those differences produce inconsistent experiences and results between implementations.
That leads to fragmentation, specifically semantic or behavioral fragmentation and an inconsistent user experiences. ActivityPub ensures syntactic interoperability, but semantic interoperability (everyone interprets and enforces rules the same way) varies. This creates a system that is federated at the transport level yet fragmented in behavior and expectations across implementations. It is funny how the thing that the fediverse touted has made the entire thing very brittle. ActivityPub technically federates correctly, but semantically falls apart once servers start adding their own behavioral rules.
https://neon-blue-demon-wyrm.x10.network/archives/16932
FYI, I’m not doing culture wars or political debates. I’m just saying this idea of “forking away” from them is literally breaking the fediverse’s distributed network and creating all kinds of issues with semantic interoperability. Yes, federation is still happening at the delivery level, but the semantic issues are out of fucking control. You are a federation by the very sheer skin of your teeth.
The reason why developers are leaving the fediverse is because you folks don’t take criticism. You respond to criticism with — I’m being so serious right now — political manifestos and harassing developers. ActivityPub developers and authors oversold you folks on the capabilities of ActivityStreams. They flat-out lied to y’all.
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@cloudskater wrote:
Some instances are run by bad people. Hell, a few projects like Lemmy and Matrix are DEVELOPED by assholes, but the FLOSS and federated nature of these platforms allows us to bypass/fork them and create healthy spaces outside their reach.
Nope, that is actually what is killing the fediverse. I just explained here:
The issue is the divergence in semantic interpretation that emerges at the interpretation layer. ActivityPub standardizes message delivery and defines common activity types. However, it leaves extension semantics and application-layer policy decisions to individual implementations. Servers may introduce custom JSON-LD namespaces and enforce local behaviors, such as reply restrictions, while remaining protocol-compliant. But, the noise created by divergences are problematic, because it creates unexpected, unintended, and unpredictable behavior.
Divergence appears when implementations rely on non-normative metadata and assume reciprocal handling to preserve a consistent user experience. Behavioral alignment then varies. Syntactic exchange succeeds, but behavioral consistency is not guaranteed. Though instances continue to federate at the transport level, policy semantics and processing logic differ across deployments. Those differences produce inconsistent experiences and results between implementations.
That leads to fragmentation, specifically semantic or behavioral fragmentation and an inconsistent user experiences. ActivityPub ensures syntactic interoperability, but semantic interoperability (everyone interprets and enforces rules the same way) varies. This creates a system that is federated at the transport level yet fragmented in behavior and expectations across implementations. It is funny how the thing that the fediverse touted has made the entire thing very brittle. ActivityPub technically federates correctly, but semantically falls apart once servers start adding their own behavioral rules.
https://neon-blue-demon-wyrm.x10.network/archives/16932
FYI, I’m not doing culture wars or political debates. I’m just saying this idea of “forking away” from them is literally breaking the fediverse’s distributed network and creating all kinds of issues with semantic interoperability. Yes, federation is still happening at the delivery level, but the semantic issues are out of fucking control. You are a federation by the very sheer skin of your teeth.
The reason why developers are leaving the fediverse is because you folks don’t take criticism. You respond to criticism with — I’m being so serious right now — political manifestos and harassing developers. ActivityPub developers and authors oversold you folks on the capabilities of ActivityStreams. They flat-out lied to y’all.
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@cloudskater wrote:
Some instances are run by bad people. Hell, a few projects like Lemmy and Matrix are DEVELOPED by assholes, but the FLOSS and federated nature of these platforms allows us to bypass/fork them and create healthy spaces outside their reach.
Nope, that is actually what is killing the fediverse. I just explained here:
The issue is the divergence in semantic interpretation that emerges at the interpretation layer. ActivityPub standardizes message delivery and defines common activity types. However, it leaves extension semantics and application-layer policy decisions to individual implementations. Servers may introduce custom JSON-LD namespaces and enforce local behaviors, such as reply restrictions, while remaining protocol-compliant. But, the noise created by divergences are problematic, because it creates unexpected, unintended, and unpredictable behavior.
Divergence appears when implementations rely on non-normative metadata and assume reciprocal handling to preserve a consistent user experience. Behavioral alignment then varies. Syntactic exchange succeeds, but behavioral consistency is not guaranteed. Though instances continue to federate at the transport level, policy semantics and processing logic differ across deployments. Those differences produce inconsistent experiences and results between implementations.
That leads to fragmentation, specifically semantic or behavioral fragmentation and an inconsistent user experiences. ActivityPub ensures syntactic interoperability, but semantic interoperability (everyone interprets and enforces rules the same way) varies. This creates a system that is federated at the transport level yet fragmented in behavior and expectations across implementations. It is funny how the thing that the fediverse touted has made the entire thing very brittle. ActivityPub technically federates correctly, but semantically falls apart once servers start adding their own behavioral rules.
https://neon-blue-demon-wyrm.x10.network/archives/16932
FYI, I’m not doing culture wars or political debates. I’m just saying this idea of “forking away” from them is literally breaking the fediverse’s distributed network and creating all kinds of issues with semantic interoperability. Yes, federation is still happening at the delivery level, but the semantic issues are out of fucking control. You are a federation by the very sheer skin of your teeth.
The reason why developers are leaving the fediverse is because you folks don’t take criticism. You respond to criticism with — I’m being so serious right now — political manifestos and harassing developers. ActivityPub developers and authors oversold you folks on the capabilities of ActivityStreams. They flat-out lied to y’all.
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ActivityPub Server’s Custom Reply‑Control Extensions Undermine Federation
It seems like Activitbypub developers are extending ActivityPub with optional metadata to fix a lot of its issues, but that is still problematic. Trying to add moderation tools and user control to threads seems to be the ongoing battle. I am fascinated by dumpster fires, so I’ve started looking at the ActivityPub protocol in detail. I tend to become fascinated with things that are going down in flames.
As a brief recap of the problem:
So, one of the very popular features on Bluesky—also popular on Twitter—is the ability to select who can reply to a post. A major issue in the Fediverse is the inability to decide who can reply, and once you block someone, their harassing reply is still there. I honestly thought it was simply a case of them choosing not to add or address it for cultural reasons. What is clear from that thread is that they were always aware that the ActivityPub protocol and most Fediverse implementations don’t provide a universal way to control reply visibility or enforce blocks across instances.
An ActivityPub server that has reply control is GoToSocial. ActivityPub, as defined by the W3C specification, standardizes how servers federate activities. It defines actors, inboxes, outboxes, and activity types (Create, Follow, Like, Announce, etc.) expressed using ActivityStreams 2.0. It also specifies delivery mechanics (including how a Create activity reaches another server’s inbox) and how collections behave.
The specification does not include interaction policy semantics such as “only followers may reply” or “replies require manual approval.” There is no field in the normative vocabulary requiring conforming servers to enforce reply permissions. That category of rule is outside the protocol’s defined contract.
GoToSocial implements reply controls through what it calls interaction policies. These appear as additional properties on ActivityStreams objects using a custom JSON-LD namespace controlled by the GoToSocial project.
JSON-LD permits additional namespaced terms. This means the document remains structurally valid ActivityStreams and federates normally. The meaning of those custom fields, however, comes from GoToSocial’s own documentation and implementation. Other servers can ignore them without violating ActivityPub because they are not part of the interoperable core vocabulary.
Enforcement occurs locally. When a remote server sends a reply—a Create activity whose object references another via inReplyTo—ActivityPub governs delivery, not acceptance criteria. Whether the receiving server checks a reply policy, rejects the activity, queues it, or displays it is determined in the server’s inbox-processing code. The decision to accept, display, or require approval happens after successful protocol-level delivery. This behavior belongs to the application layer.
These are server-side features layered on top of ActivityPub’s transport and data model that are not actually part of ActivityPub. The protocol ensures standardized delivery of activities; however, the server implementation defines additional constraints and user-facing behavior. Two GoToSocial instances may both recognize and act on the same extension fields. However, a different implementation, such as Mastodon, has no obligation under the specification to interpret or enforce GoToSocial’s interactionPolicy properties. These fields function as extension metadata rather than protocol requirements.
The semantics of GoToSocial are not part of the specification’s defined vocabulary and processing rules for ActivityPub. They no longer operate purely at the protocol layer; it has become an application-layer contract implemented by specific servers.
Let’s use the AT Protocol as an example. Bluesky’s direct messages (DMs) are not currently part of the AT Protocol (ATProto). The AT Protocol has nothing that specifies anything for DMs, so DMs are not part of the AT Protocol. The AT Protocol was designed to handle public social interactions, but it does not define private or encrypted messaging. Bluesky implemented DMs at the application level, outside of the core protocol. DMs are centralized and stored on Bluesky’s servers. What is happening with servers like GoToSocial is sort of like that. The difference is that the AT Protocol was designed for different app views; ActivityPub was not.
The issue is the divergence in semantic interpretation that emerges at the interpretation layer. ActivityPub standardizes message delivery and defines common activity types. However, it leaves extension semantics and application-layer policy decisions to individual implementations. Servers may introduce custom JSON-LD namespaces and enforce local behaviors, such as reply restrictions, while remaining protocol-compliant. But, the noise created by divergences are problematic, because it creates unexpected, unintended, and unpredictable behavior.
Divergence appears when implementations rely on non-normative metadata and assume reciprocal handling to preserve a consistent user experience. Behavioral alignment then varies. Syntactic exchange succeeds, but behavioral consistency is not guaranteed. Though instances continue to federate at the transport level, policy semantics and processing logic differ across deployments. Those differences produce inconsistent experiences and results between implementations.
That leads to fragmentation, specifically semantic or behavioral fragmentation and an inconsistent user experiences. ActivityPub ensures syntactic interoperability, but semantic interoperability (everyone interprets and enforces rules the same way) varies. This creates a system that is federated at the transport level yet fragmented in behavior and expectations across implementations. It is funny how the thing that the fediverse touted has made the entire thing very brittle. ActivityPub technically federates correctly, but semantically falls apart once servers start adding their own behavioral rules.
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ActivityPub Server’s Custom Reply‑Control Extensions Undermine Federation
It seems like Activitbypub developers are extending ActivityPub with optional metadata to fix a lot of its issues, but that is still problematic. Trying to add moderation tools and user control to threads seems to be the ongoing battle. I am fascinated by dumpster fires, so I’ve started looking at the ActivityPub protocol in detail. I tend to become fascinated with things that are going down in flames.
As a brief recap of the problem:
So, one of the very popular features on Bluesky—also popular on Twitter—is the ability to select who can reply to a post. A major issue in the Fediverse is the inability to decide who can reply, and once you block someone, their harassing reply is still there. I honestly thought it was simply a case of them choosing not to add or address it for cultural reasons. What is clear from that thread is that they were always aware that the ActivityPub protocol and most Fediverse implementations don’t provide a universal way to control reply visibility or enforce blocks across instances.
An ActivityPub server that has reply control is GoToSocial. ActivityPub, as defined by the W3C specification, standardizes how servers federate activities. It defines actors, inboxes, outboxes, and activity types (Create, Follow, Like, Announce, etc.) expressed using ActivityStreams 2.0. It also specifies delivery mechanics (including how a Create activity reaches another server’s inbox) and how collections behave.
The specification does not include interaction policy semantics such as “only followers may reply” or “replies require manual approval.” There is no field in the normative vocabulary requiring conforming servers to enforce reply permissions. That category of rule is outside the protocol’s defined contract.
GoToSocial implements reply controls through what it calls interaction policies. These appear as additional properties on ActivityStreams objects using a custom JSON-LD namespace controlled by the GoToSocial project.
JSON-LD permits additional namespaced terms. This means the document remains structurally valid ActivityStreams and federates normally. The meaning of those custom fields, however, comes from GoToSocial’s own documentation and implementation. Other servers can ignore them without violating ActivityPub because they are not part of the interoperable core vocabulary.
Enforcement occurs locally. When a remote server sends a reply—a Create activity whose object references another via inReplyTo—ActivityPub governs delivery, not acceptance criteria. Whether the receiving server checks a reply policy, rejects the activity, queues it, or displays it is determined in the server’s inbox-processing code. The decision to accept, display, or require approval happens after successful protocol-level delivery. This behavior belongs to the application layer.
These are server-side features layered on top of ActivityPub’s transport and data model that are not actually part of ActivityPub. The protocol ensures standardized delivery of activities; however, the server implementation defines additional constraints and user-facing behavior. Two GoToSocial instances may both recognize and act on the same extension fields. However, a different implementation, such as Mastodon, has no obligation under the specification to interpret or enforce GoToSocial’s interactionPolicy properties. These fields function as extension metadata rather than protocol requirements.
The semantics of GoToSocial are not part of the specification’s defined vocabulary and processing rules for ActivityPub. They no longer operate purely at the protocol layer; it has become an application-layer contract implemented by specific servers.
Let’s use the AT Protocol as an example. Bluesky’s direct messages (DMs) are not currently part of the AT Protocol (ATProto). The AT Protocol has nothing that specifies anything for DMs, so DMs are not part of the AT Protocol. The AT Protocol was designed to handle public social interactions, but it does not define private or encrypted messaging. Bluesky implemented DMs at the application level, outside of the core protocol. DMs are centralized and stored on Bluesky’s servers. What is happening with servers like GoToSocial is sort of like that. The difference is that the AT Protocol was designed for different app views; ActivityPub was not.
The issue is the divergence in semantic interpretation that emerges at the interpretation layer. ActivityPub standardizes message delivery and defines common activity types. However, it leaves extension semantics and application-layer policy decisions to individual implementations. Servers may introduce custom JSON-LD namespaces and enforce local behaviors, such as reply restrictions, while remaining protocol-compliant. But, the noise created by divergences are problematic, because it creates unexpected, unintended, and unpredictable behavior.
Divergence appears when implementations rely on non-normative metadata and assume reciprocal handling to preserve a consistent user experience. Behavioral alignment then varies. Syntactic exchange succeeds, but behavioral consistency is not guaranteed. Though instances continue to federate at the transport level, policy semantics and processing logic differ across deployments. Those differences produce inconsistent experiences and results between implementations.
That leads to fragmentation, specifically semantic or behavioral fragmentation and an inconsistent user experiences. ActivityPub ensures syntactic interoperability, but semantic interoperability (everyone interprets and enforces rules the same way) varies. This creates a system that is federated at the transport level yet fragmented in behavior and expectations across implementations. It is funny how the thing that the fediverse touted has made the entire thing very brittle. ActivityPub technically federates correctly, but semantically falls apart once servers start adding their own behavioral rules.
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ActivityPub Server’s Custom Reply‑Control Extensions Undermine Federation
It seems like Activitbypub developers are extending ActivityPub with optional metadata to fix a lot of its issues, but that is still problematic. Trying to add moderation tools and user control to threads seems to be the ongoing battle. I am fascinated by dumpster fires, so I’ve started looking at the ActivityPub protocol in detail. I tend to become fascinated with things that are going down in flames.
As a brief recap of the problem:
So, one of the very popular features on Bluesky—also popular on Twitter—is the ability to select who can reply to a post. A major issue in the Fediverse is the inability to decide who can reply, and once you block someone, their harassing reply is still there. I honestly thought it was simply a case of them choosing not to add or address it for cultural reasons. What is clear from that thread is that they were always aware that the ActivityPub protocol and most Fediverse implementations don’t provide a universal way to control reply visibility or enforce blocks across instances.
An ActivityPub server that has reply control is GoToSocial. ActivityPub, as defined by the W3C specification, standardizes how servers federate activities. It defines actors, inboxes, outboxes, and activity types (Create, Follow, Like, Announce, etc.) expressed using ActivityStreams 2.0. It also specifies delivery mechanics (including how a Create activity reaches another server’s inbox) and how collections behave.
The specification does not include interaction policy semantics such as “only followers may reply” or “replies require manual approval.” There is no field in the normative vocabulary requiring conforming servers to enforce reply permissions. That category of rule is outside the protocol’s defined contract.
GoToSocial implements reply controls through what it calls interaction policies. These appear as additional properties on ActivityStreams objects using a custom JSON-LD namespace controlled by the GoToSocial project.
JSON-LD permits additional namespaced terms. This means the document remains structurally valid ActivityStreams and federates normally. The meaning of those custom fields, however, comes from GoToSocial’s own documentation and implementation. Other servers can ignore them without violating ActivityPub because they are not part of the interoperable core vocabulary.
Enforcement occurs locally. When a remote server sends a reply—a Create activity whose object references another via inReplyTo—ActivityPub governs delivery, not acceptance criteria. Whether the receiving server checks a reply policy, rejects the activity, queues it, or displays it is determined in the server’s inbox-processing code. The decision to accept, display, or require approval happens after successful protocol-level delivery. This behavior belongs to the application layer.
These are server-side features layered on top of ActivityPub’s transport and data model that are not actually part of ActivityPub. The protocol ensures standardized delivery of activities; however, the server implementation defines additional constraints and user-facing behavior. Two GoToSocial instances may both recognize and act on the same extension fields. However, a different implementation, such as Mastodon, has no obligation under the specification to interpret or enforce GoToSocial’s interactionPolicy properties. These fields function as extension metadata rather than protocol requirements.
The semantics of GoToSocial are not part of the specification’s defined vocabulary and processing rules for ActivityPub. They no longer operate purely at the protocol layer; it has become an application-layer contract implemented by specific servers.
Let’s use the AT Protocol as an example. Bluesky’s direct messages (DMs) are not currently part of the AT Protocol (ATProto). The AT Protocol has nothing that specifies anything for DMs, so DMs are not part of the AT Protocol. The AT Protocol was designed to handle public social interactions, but it does not define private or encrypted messaging. Bluesky implemented DMs at the application level, outside of the core protocol. DMs are centralized and stored on Bluesky’s servers. What is happening with servers like GoToSocial is sort of like that. The difference is that the AT Protocol was designed for different app views; ActivityPub was not.
The issue is the divergence in semantic interpretation that emerges at the interpretation layer. ActivityPub standardizes message delivery and defines common activity types. However, it leaves extension semantics and application-layer policy decisions to individual implementations. Servers may introduce custom JSON-LD namespaces and enforce local behaviors, such as reply restrictions, while remaining protocol-compliant. But, the noise created by divergences are problematic, because it creates unexpected, unintended, and unpredictable behavior.
Divergence appears when implementations rely on non-normative metadata and assume reciprocal handling to preserve a consistent user experience. Behavioral alignment then varies. Syntactic exchange succeeds, but behavioral consistency is not guaranteed. Though instances continue to federate at the transport level, policy semantics and processing logic differ across deployments. Those differences produce inconsistent experiences and results between implementations.
That leads to fragmentation, specifically semantic or behavioral fragmentation and an inconsistent user experiences. ActivityPub ensures syntactic interoperability, but semantic interoperability (everyone interprets and enforces rules the same way) varies. This creates a system that is federated at the transport level yet fragmented in behavior and expectations across implementations. It is funny how the thing that the fediverse touted has made the entire thing very brittle. ActivityPub technically federates correctly, but semantically falls apart once servers start adding their own behavioral rules.
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'We cannot exist if we lose the water': In #Honduras, a community resists a #mine polluting the #RíoGuapinol
"#JuanLópez, representative of the Committee for the Defense of Common and Public Goods, told #RadioProgreso that the activists' next step is advocate for the revoking of Inversiones Los Pinares' mining contracts, the environmental license and the exploitation and exploration permit."
by Soli Salgado
October 18, 2022TOCOA, HONDURAS - "The Río Guapinol that streams through the Bajo Aguán valley in northern Honduras has long been a source of drinking, bathing, cleaning, irrigation and cooking water for the surrounding community in Tocoa.
"In the last few years, the river has also provided an education: how to resist an international mining operation that they say contaminates the river in the name of development; how to confront a seemingly compromised justice system when that #resistance goes awry; and — for the women in particular — how to become leaders of a movement upon the indefinite imprisonment of their husbands and sons.
"Vilma Cruz raised her five children using the river, including a son who wound up spending almost two and a half years in jail for protesting the mining as part of the #Guapinol8, a group whose 2019 arrests and long detentions drew international outrage.
"'We don't feel at peace because our water has been endangered,' she said. 'Now, when I go to the river, I feel my chest swell, like I'm not free.'
A mine emerges, a community responds
"About a decade ago, #InversionesLosPinares, formerly the Honduran #EMCO Mining Company and based in #Tocoa, applied for a concession to build an iron oxide mine in the protected #CarlosEscaleras #NationalPark. Then-President Juan Orlando Hernández authorized the request in 2013, a decision locals said was made without following protocol of consulting residents of the area.
"The #OpenPit #mining project was upstream of the #RíoGuapinol, a channel that stems from the larger #RíoAguan, a river that flows through tropical mountains from the Atlantic on the northern side of the #CentralAmerican country.
"When the Río Guapinol in 2018 started to turn a chocolate brown, locals took that as a cue to act against Inversiones Los Pinares.
"#GuapinolResiste, the local community's movement in response to the mining, said in a 2020 report that even before mining began, the construction of the facilities and roads had polluted both the Guapinol and #SanPedro rivers, affecting 14,000 residents who rely on the water for consumption and domestic purposes.
"'Losing the river would mean buying water, and you can't buy water for everything,' said Leonel George, who serves on the Municipal Committee for the Defense of Common and Public Goods, founded in 2018 in response to the mining project.
"The river, he added, is 'closely linked to life and the existence of everything that surrounds us,' noting that the committee's concern goes beyond the effects that contaminated water would have on human beings to the river's surrounding #forests and #biodiversity."
#JusticeForJuan #GuapinolRiver #WaterDefender #SaveTheForests #DefendTheSacred
#NoMiningWithoutConsent #WaterIsLife #SaveTheRivers #EMCO #InversionesLosPinares
#MunicipalCommitteeForTheDefenseOfCommonAndPublicGoods -
Earlier this year, Cendyne wrote a blog post covering the use of HKDF, building partially upon my own blog post about HKDF and the KDF security definition, but moreso inspired by a cryptographic issue they identified in another company’s product (dubbed AnonCo).
At the bottom they teased:
Database cryptography is hard. The above sketch is not complete and does not address several threats! This article is quite long, so I will not be sharing the fixes.
Cendyne
If you read Cendyne’s post, you may have nodded along with that remark and not appreciate the degree to which our naga friend was putting it mildly. So I thought I’d share some of my knowledge about real-world database cryptography in an accessible and fun format in the hopes that it might serve as an introduction to the specialization.
Note: I’m also not going to fix Cendyne’s sketch of AnonCo’s software here–partly because I don’t want to get in the habit of assigning homework or required reading, but mostly because it’s kind of obvious once you’ve learned the basics.
I’m including art of my fursona in this post… as is tradition for furry blogs.If you don’t like furries, please feel free to leave this blog and read about this topic elsewhere.
Thanks to CMYKat for the awesome stickers.
Contents
- Database Cryptography?
- Cryptography for Relational Databases
- The Perils of Built-in Encryption Functions
- Application-Layer Relational Database Cryptography
- Confused Deputies
- Canonicalization Attacks
- Multi-Tenancy
- Cryptography for NoSQL Databases
- NoSQL is Built Different
- Record Authentication
- Bonus: A Maximally Schema-Free, Upgradeable Authentication Design
- Searchable Encryption
- Order-{Preserving, Revealing} Encryption
- Deterministic Encryption
- Homomorphic Encryption
- Searchable Symmetric Encryption (SSE)
- You Can Have Little a HMAC, As a Treat
- Intermission
- Case Study: MongoDB Client-Side Encryption
- MongoCrypt: The Good
- How is Queryable Encryption Implemented?
- MongoCrypt: The Bad
- MongoCrypt: The Ugly
- MongoCrypt: The Good
- Wrapping Up
Database Cryptography?
The premise of database cryptography is deceptively simple: You have a database, of some sort, and you want to store sensitive data in said database.
The consequences of this simple premise are anything but simple. Let me explain.
Art: ScruffKerfluffThe sensitive data you want to store may need to remain confidential, or you may need to provide some sort of integrity guarantees throughout your entire system, or sometimes both. Sometimes all of your data is sensitive, sometimes only some of it is. Sometimes the confidentiality requirements of your data extends to where within a dataset the record you want actually lives. Sometimes that’s true of some data, but not others, so your cryptography has to be flexible to support multiple types of workloads.
Other times, you just want your disks encrypted at rest so if they grow legs and walk out of the data center, the data cannot be comprehended by an attacker. And you can’t be bothered to work on this problem any deeper. This is usually what compliance requirements cover. Boxes get checked, executives feel safer about their operation, and the whole time nobody has really analyzed the risks they’re facing.
But we’re not settling for mere compliance on this blog. Furries have standards, after all.
So the first thing you need to do before diving into database cryptography is threat modelling. The first step in any good threat model is taking inventory; especially of assumptions, requirements, and desired outcomes. A few good starter questions:
- What database software is being used? Is it up to date?
- What data is being stored in which database software?
- How are databases oriented in the network of the overall system?
- Is your database properly firewalled from the public Internet?
- How does data flow throughout the network, and when do these data flows intersect with the database?
- Which applications talk to the database? What languages are they written in? Which APIs do they use?
- How will cryptography secrets be managed?
- Is there one key for everyone, one key per tenant, etc.?
- How are keys rotated?
- Do you use envelope encryption with an HSM, or vend the raw materials to your end devices?
The first two questions are paramount for deciding how to write software for database cryptography, before you even get to thinking about the cryptography itself.
(This is not a comprehensive set of questions to ask, either. A formal threat model is much deeper in the weeds.)
The kind of cryptography protocol you need for, say, storing encrypted CSV files an S3 bucket is vastly different from relational (SQL) databases, which in turn will be significantly different from schema-free (NoSQL) databases.
Furthermore, when you get to the point that you can start to think about the cryptography, you’ll often need to tackle confidentiality and integrity separately.
If that’s unclear, think of a scenario like, “I need to encrypt PII, but I also need to digitally sign the lab results so I know it wasn’t tampered with at rest.”
My point is, right off the bat, we’ve got a three-dimensional matrix of complexity to contend with:
- On one axis, we have the type of database.
- Flat-file
- Relational
- Schema-free
- On another, we have the basic confidentiality requirements of the data.
- Field encryption
- Row encryption
- Column encryption
- Unstructured record encryption
- Encrypting entire collections of records
- Finally, we have the integrity requirements of the data.
- Field authentication
- Row/column authentication
- Unstructured record authentication
- Collection authentication (based on e.g. Sparse Merkle Trees)
And then you have a fourth dimension that often falls out of operational requirements for databases: Searchability.
Why store data in a database if you have no way to index or search the data for fast retrieval?
Credit: HarubakiIf you’re starting to feel overwhelmed, you’re not alone. A lot of developers drastically underestimate the difficulty of the undertaking, until they run head-first into the complexity.
Some just phone it in with
AES_Encrypt()calls in their MySQL queries. (Too bad ECB mode doesn’t provide semantic security!)Which brings us to the meat of this blog post: The actual cryptography part.
Cryptography is the art of transforming information security problems into key management problems.
Former coworker
Note: In the interest of time, I’m skipping over flat files and focusing instead on actual database technologies.
Cryptography for Relational Databases
Encrypting data in an SQL database seems simple enough, even if you’ve managed to shake off the complexity I teased from the introduction.
You’ve got data, you’ve got a column on a table. Just encrypt the data and shove it in a cell on that column and call it a day, right?
But, alas, this is a trap. There are so many gotchas that I can’t weave a coherent, easy-to-follow narrative between them all.
So let’s start with a simple question: where and how are you performing your encryption?
The Perils of Built-in Encryption Functions
MySQL provides functions called AES_Encrypt and AES_Decrypt, which many developers have unfortunately decided to rely on in the past.
It’s unfortunate because these functions implement ECB mode. To illustrate why ECB mode is bad, I encrypted one of my art commissions with AES in ECB mode:
Art by Riley, encrypted with AES-ECBThe problems with ECB mode aren’t exactly “you can see the image through it,” because ECB-encrypting a compressed image won’t have redundancy (and thus can make you feel safer than you are).
ECB art is a good visual for the actual issue you should care about, however: A lack of semantic security.
A cryptosystem is considered semantically secure if observing the ciphertext doesn’t reveal information about the plaintext (except, perhaps, the length; which all cryptosystems leak to some extent). More information here.
ECB art isn’t to be confused with ECB poetry, which looks like this:
Oh little one, you’re growing up
You’ll soon be writing C
You’ll treat your ints as pointers
You’ll nest the ternary
You’ll cut and paste from github
And try cryptography
But even in your darkest hour
Do not use ECBCBC’s BEASTly when padding’s abused
And CTR’s fine til a nonce is reused
Some say it’s a CRIME to compress then encrypt
Or store keys in the browser (or use javascript)
Diffie Hellman will collapse if hackers choose your g
And RSA is full of traps when e is set to 3
Whiten! Blind! In constant time! Don’t write an RNG!
But failing all, and listen well: Do not use ECBThey’ll say “It’s like a one-time-pad!
The data’s short, it’s not so bad
the keys are long–they’re iron clad
I have a PhD!”
And then you’re front page Hacker News
Your passwords cracked–Adobe Blues.
Don’t leave your penguins showing through,
Do not use ECB— Ben Nagy, PoC||GTFO 0x04:13
Most people reading this probably know better than to use ECB mode already, and don’t need any of these reminders, but there is still a lot of code that inadvertently uses ECB mode to encrypt data in the database.
Also,
Credit: CMYKattSHOW processlist;leaks your encryption keys. Oops.Application-layer Relational Database Cryptography
Whether burned by ECB or just cautious about not giving your secrets to the system that stores all the ciphertext protected by said secret, a common next step for developers is to simply encrypt in their server-side application code.
And, yes, that’s part of the answer. But how you encrypt is important.
Credit: Harubaki“I’ll encrypt with CBC mode.”
If you don’t authenticate your ciphertext, you’ll be sorry. Maybe try again?“Okay, fine, I’ll use an authenticated mode like GCM.”
Did you remember to make the table and column name part of your AAD? What about the primary key of the record?“What on Earth are you talking about, Soatok?”
Welcome to the first footgun of database cryptography!Confused Deputies
Encrypting your sensitive data is necessary, but not sufficient. You need to also bind your ciphertexts to the specific context in which they are stored.
To understand why, let’s take a step back: What specific threat does encrypting your database records protect against?
We’ve already established that “your disks walk out of the datacenter” is a “full disk encryption” problem, so if you’re using application-layer cryptography to encrypt data in a relational database, your threat model probably involves unauthorized access to the database server.
What, then, stops an attacker from copying ciphertexts around?
Credit: CMYKattLet’s say I have a legitimate user account with an ID 12345, and I want to read your street address, but it’s encrypted in the database. But because I’m a clever hacker, I have unfettered access to your relational database server.
All I would need to do is simply…
UPDATE table SET addr_encrypted = 'your-ciphertext' WHERE id = 12345…and then access the application through my legitimate access. Bam, data leaked. As an attacker, I can probably even copy fields from other columns and it will just decrypt. Even if you’re using an authenticated mode.
We call this a confused deputy attack, because the deputy (the component of the system that has been delegated some authority or privilege) has become confused by the attacker, and thus undermined an intended security goal.
The fix is to use the AAD parameter from the authenticated mode to bind the data to a given context. (AAD = Additional Authenticated Data.)
- $addr = aes_gcm_encrypt($addr, $key);+ $addr = aes_gcm_encrypt($addr, $key, canonicalize([+ $tableName,+ $columnName,+ $primaryKey+ ]);
Now if I start cutting and pasting ciphertexts around, I get a decryption failure instead of silently decrypting plaintext.
This may sound like a specific vulnerability, but it’s more of a failure to understand an important general lesson with database cryptography:
Where your data lives is part of its identity, and MUST be authenticated.
Soatok’s Rule of Database Cryptography
Canonicalization Attacks
In the previous section, I introduced a pseudocode called
canonicalize(). This isn’t a pasto from some reference code; it’s an important design detail that I will elaborate on now.First, consider you didn’t do anything to canonicalize your data, and you just joined strings together and called it a day…
function dumbCanonicalize( string $tableName, string $columnName, string|int $primaryKey): string { return $tableName . '_' . $columnName . '#' . $primaryKey;}Consider these two inputs to this function:
dumbCanonicalize('customers', 'last_order_uuid', 123);dumbCanonicalize('customers_last_order', 'uuid', 123);
In this case, your AAD would be the same, and therefore, your deputy can still be confused (albeit in a narrower use case).
In Cendyne’s article, AnonCo did something more subtle: The canonicalization bug created a collision on the inputs to HKDF, which resulted in an unintentional key reuse.
Up until this point, their mistake isn’t relevant to us, because we haven’t even explored key management at all. But the same design flaw can re-emerge in multiple locations, with drastically different consequence.
Multi-Tenancy
Once you’ve implemented a mitigation against Confused Deputies, you may think your job is done. And it very well could be.
Often times, however, software developers are tasked with building support for Bring Your Own Key (BYOK).
This is often spawned from a specific compliance requirement (such as cryptographic shredding; i.e. if you erase the key, you can no longer recover the plaintext, so it may as well be deleted).
Other times, this is driven by a need to cut costs: Storing different users’ data in the same database server, but encrypting it such that they can only encrypt their own records.
Two things can happen when you introduce multi-tenancy into your database cryptography designs:
- Invisible Salamanders becomes a risk, due to multiple keys being possible for any given encrypted record.
- Failure to address the risk of Invisible Salamanders can undermine your protection against Confused Deputies, thereby returning you to a state before you properly used the AAD.
So now you have to revisit your designs and ensure you’re using a key-committing authenticated mode, rather than just a regular authenticated mode.
Isn’t cryptography fun?
“What Are Invisible Salamanders?”
This refers to a fun property of AEAD modes based on Polynomical MACs. Basically, if you:
- Encrypt one message under a specific key and nonce.
- Encrypt another message under a separate key and nonce.
…Then you can get the same exact ciphertext and authentication tag. Performing this attack requires you to control the keys for both encryption operations.
This was first demonstrated in an attack against encrypted messaging applications, where a picture of a salamander was hidden from the abuse reporting feature because another attached file had the same authentication tag and ciphertext, and you could trick the system if you disclosed the second key instead of the first. Thus, the salamander is invisible to attackers.
Art: CMYKatWe’re not quite done with relational databases yet, but we should talk about NoSQL databases for a bit. The final topic in scope applies equally to both, after all.
Cryptography for NoSQL Databases
Most of the topics from relational databases also apply to NoSQL databases, so I shall refrain from duplicating them here. This article is already sufficiently long to read, after all, and I dislike redundancy.
NoSQL is Built Different
The main thing that NoSQL databases offer in the service of making cryptographers lose sleep at night is the schema-free nature of NoSQL designs.
What this means is that, if you’re using a client-side encryption library for a NoSQL database, the previous concerns about confused deputy attacks are amplified by the malleability of the document structure.
Additionally, the previously discussed cryptographic attacks against the encryption mode may be less expensive for an attacker to pull off.
Consider the following record structure, which stores a bunch of data stored with AES in CBC mode:
{ "encrypted-data-key": "<blob>", "name": "<ciphertext>", "address": [ "<ciphertext>", "<ciphertext>" ], "social-security": "<ciphertext>", "zip-code": "<ciphertext>"}If this record is decrypted with code that looks something like this:
$decrypted = [];// ... snip ...foreach ($record['address'] as $i => $addrLine) { try { $decrypted['address'][$i] = $this->decrypt($addrLine); } catch (Throwable $ex) { // You'd never deliberately do this, but it's for illustration $this->doSomethingAnOracleCanObserve($i); // This is more believable, of course: $this->logDecryptionError($ex, $addrLine); $decrypted['address'][$i] = ''; }}Then you can keep appending rows to the
Art: Harubaki"address"field to reduce the number of writes needed to exploit a padding oracle attack against any of the<ciphertext>fields.This isn’t to say that NoSQL is less secure than SQL, from the context of client-side encryption. However, the powerful feature sets that NoSQL users are accustomed to may also give attackers a more versatile toolkit to work with.
Record Authentication
A pedant may point out that record authentication applies to both SQL and NoSQL. However, I mostly only observe this feature in NoSQL databases and document storage systems in the wild, so I’m shoving it in here.
Encrypting fields is nice and all, but sometimes what you want to know is that your unencrypted data hasn’t been tampered with as it flows through your system.
The trivial way this is done is by using a digital signature algorithm over the whole record, and then appending the signature to the end. When you go to verify the record, all of the information you need is right there.
This works well enough for most use cases, and everyone can pack up and go home. Nothing more to see here.
Except…
When you’re working with NoSQL databases, you often want systems to be able to write to additional fields, and since you’re working with schema-free blobs of data rather than a normalized set of relatable tables, the most sensible thing to do is to is to append this data to the same record.
Except, oops! You can’t do that if you’re shoving a digital signature over the record. So now you need to specify which fields are to be included in the signature.
And you need to think about how to model that in a way that doesn’t prohibit schema upgrades nor allow attackers to perform downgrade attacks. (See below.)
I don’t have any specific real-world examples here that I can point to of this problem being solved well.Art: CMYKat
Furthermore, as with preventing confused deputy and/or canonicalization attacks above, you must also include the fully qualified path of each field in the data that gets signed.
As I said with encryption before, but also true here:
Where your data lives is part of its identity, and MUST be authenticated.
Soatok’s Rule of Database Cryptography
This requirement holds true whether you’re using symmetric-key authentication (i.e. HMAC) or asymmetric-key digital signatures (e.g. EdDSA).
Bonus: A Maximally Schema-Free, Upgradeable Authentication Design
Art: HarubakiOkay, how do you solve this problem so that you can perform updates and upgrades to your schema but without enabling attackers to downgrade the security? Here’s one possible design.
Let’s say you have two metadata fields on each record:
- A compressed binary string representing which fields should be authenticated. This field is, itself, not authenticated. Let’s call this
meta-auth. - A compressed binary string representing which of the authenticated fields should also be encrypted. This field is also authenticated. This is at most the same length as the first metadata field. Let’s call this
meta-enc.
Furthermore, you will specify a canonical field ordering for both how data is fed into the signature algorithm as well as the field mappings in
meta-authandmeta-enc.{ "example": { "credit-card": { "number": /* encrypted */, "expiration": /* encrypted */, "ccv": /* encrypted */ }, "superfluous": { "rewards-member": null } }, "meta-auth": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false, /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ true /* meta-enc */ ]), "meta-enc": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ ]), "signature": /* -- snip -- */}When you go to append data to an existing record, you’ll need to update
meta-authto include the mapping of fields based on this canonical ordering to ensure only the intended fields get validated.When you update your code to add an additional field that is intended to be signed, you can roll that out for new records and the record will continue to be self-describing:
- New records will have the additional field flagged as authenticated in
meta-auth(andmeta-encwill grow) - Old records will not, but your code will still sign them successfully
- To prevent downgrade attacks, simply include a schema version ID as an additional plaintext field that gets authenticated. An attacker who tries to downgrade will need to be able to produce a valid signature too.
You might think
meta-authgives an attacker some advantage, but this only includes which fields are included in the security boundary of the signature or MAC, which allows unauthenticated data to be appended for whatever operational purpose without having to update signatures or expose signing keys to a wider part of the network.{ "example": { "credit-card": { "number": /* encrypted */, "expiration": /* encrypted */, "ccv": /* encrypted */ }, "superfluous": { "rewards-member": null } }, "meta-auth": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false, /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ true, /* meta-enc */ true /* meta-version */ ]), "meta-enc": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false, /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ true /* meta-version */ ]), "meta-version": 0x01000000, "signature": /* -- snip -- */}If an attacker tries to use the
meta-authfield to mess with a record, the best they can hope for is an Invalid Signature exception (assuming the signature algorithm is secure to begin with).Even if they keep all of the fields the same, but play around with the structure of the record (e.g. changing the XPath or equivalent), so long as the path is authenticated with each field, breaking this is computationally infeasible.
Searchable Encryption
If you’ve managed to make it through the previous sections, congratulations, you now know enough to build a secure but completely useless database.
Art: CMYKatOkay, put away the pitchforks; I will explain.
Part of the reason why we store data in a database, rather than a flat file, is because we want to do more than just read and write. Sometimes computer scientists want to compute. Almost always, you want to be able to query your database for a subset of records based on your specific business logic needs.
And so, a database which doesn’t do anything more than store ciphertext and maybe signatures is pretty useless to most people. You’d have better luck selling Monkey JPEGs to furries than convincing most businesses to part with their precious database-driven report generators.
Art: SophieSo whenever one of your users wants to actually use their data, rather than just store it, they’re forced to decide between two mutually exclusive options:
- Encrypting the data, to protect it from unauthorized disclosure, but render it useless
- Doing anything useful with the data, but leaving it unencrypted in the database
This is especially annoying for business types that are all in on the Zero Trust buzzword.
Fortunately, the cryptographers are at it again, and boy howdy do they have a lot of solutions for this problem.
Order-{Preserving, Revealing} Encryption
On the fun side of things, you have things like Order-Preserving and Order-Revealing Encryption, which Matthew Green wrote about at length.
[D]atabase encryption has been a controversial subject in our field. I wish I could say that there’s been an actual debate, but it’s more that different researchers have fallen into different camps, and nobody has really had the data to make their position in a compelling way. There have actually been some very personal arguments made about it.
Attack of the week: searchable encryption and the ever-expanding leakage function
The problem with these designs is that they have a significant enough leakage that it no longer provides semantic security.
From Grubbs, et al. (GLMP, 2019.)
Colors inverted to fit my blog’s theme better.To put it in other words: These designs are only marginally better than ECB mode, and probably deserve their own poems too.
Order revealing
Reveals much more than order
Softcore ECBOrder preserving
Semantic security?
Only in your dreamsHaiku for your consideration
Deterministic Encryption
Here’s a simpler, but also terrible, idea for searchable encryption: Simply give up on semantic security entirely.
If you recall the
AES_{De,En}crypt()functions built into MySQL I mentioned at the start of this article, those are the most common form of deterministic encryption I’ve seen in use.SELECT * FROM foo WHERE bar = AES_Encrypt('query', 'key');However, there are slightly less bad variants. If you use AES-GCM-SIV with a static nonce, your ciphertexts are fully deterministic, and you can encrypt a small number of distinct records safely before you’re no longer secure.
From Page 14 of the linked paper. Full view.That’s certainly better than nothing, but you also can’t mitigate confused deputy attacks. But we can do better than this.
Homomorphic Encryption
In a safer plane of academia, you’ll find homomorphic encryption, which researchers recently demonstrated with serving Wikipedia pages in a reasonable amount of time.
Homomorphic encryption allows computations over the ciphertext, which will be reflected in the plaintext, without ever revealing the key to the entity performing the computation.
If this sounds vaguely similar to the conditions that enable chosen-ciphertext attacks, you probably have a good intuition for how it works: RSA is homomorphic to multiplication, AES-CTR is homomorphic to XOR. Fully homomorphic encryption uses lattices, which enables multiple operations but carries a relatively enormous performance cost.
Art: HarubakiHomomorphic encryption sometimes intersects with machine learning, because the notion of training an encrypted model by feeding it encrypted data, then decrypting it after-the-fact is desirable for certain business verticals. Your data scientists never see your data, and you have some plausible deniability about the final ML model this work produces. This is like a Siren song for Venture Capitalist-backed medical technology companies. Tech journalists love writing about it.
However, a less-explored use case is the ability to encrypt your programs but still get the correct behavior and outputs. Although this sounds like a DRM technology, it’s actually something that individuals could one day use to prevent their ISPs or cloud providers from knowing what software is being executed on the customer’s leased hardware. The potential for a privacy win here is certainly worth pondering, even if you’re a tried and true Pirate Party member.
Just say “NO” to the copyright cartels.Art: CMYKat
Searchable Symmetric Encryption (SSE)
Forget about working at the level of fields and rows or individual records. What if we, instead, worked over collections of documents, where each document is viewed as a set of keywords from a keyword space?
Art: CMYKatThat’s the basic premise of SSE: Encrypting collections of documents rather than individual records.
The actual implementation details differ greatly between designs. They also differ greatly in their leakage profiles and susceptibility to side-channel attacks.
Some schemes use a so-called trapdoor permutation, such as RSA, as one of their building blocks.
Some schemes only allow for searching a static set of records, while others can accommodate new data over time (with the trade-off between more leakage or worse performance).
If you’re curious, you can learn more about SSE here, and see some open source SEE implementations online here.
You’re probably wondering, “If SSE is this well-studied and there are open source implementations available, why isn’t it more widely used?”
Your guess is as good as mine, but I can think of a few reasons:
- The protocols can be a little complicated to implement, and aren’t shipped by default in cryptography libraries (i.e. OpenSSL’s libcrypto or libsodium).
- Every known security risk in SSE is the product of a trade-offs, rather than there being a single winner for all use cases that developers can feel comfortable picking.
- Insufficient marketing and developer advocacy.
SSE schemes are mostly of interest to academics, although Seny Kamara (Brown Univeristy professior and one of the luminaries of searchable encryption) did try to develop an app called Pixek which used SSE to encrypt photos.
Maybe there’s room for a cryptography competition on searchable encryption schemes in the future.
You Can Have Little a HMAC, As a Treat
Finally, I can’t talk about searchable encryption without discussing a technique that’s older than dirt by Internet standards, that has been independently reinvented by countless software developers tasked with encrypting database records.
The oldest version I’ve been able to track down dates to 2006 by Raul Garcia at Microsoft, but I’m not confident that it didn’t exist before.
The idea I’m alluding to goes like this:
- Encrypt your data, securely, using symmetric cryptography.
(Hopefully your encryption addresses the considerations outlined in the relevant sections above.) - Separately, calculate an HMAC over the unencrypted data with a separate key used exclusively for indexing.
When you need to query your data, you can just recalculate the HMAC of your challenge and fetch the records that match it. Easy, right?
Even if you rotate your keys for encryption, you keep your indexing keys static across your entire data set. This lets you have durable indexes for encrypted data, which gives you the ability to do literal lookups for the performance hit of a hash function.
Additionally, everyone has HMAC in their toolkit, so you don’t have to move around implementations of complex cryptographic building blocks. You can live off the land. What’s not to love?
Hooray!However, if you stopped here, we regret to inform you that your data is no longer indistinguishable from random, which probably undermines the security proof for your encryption scheme.
How annoying!Of course, you don’t have to stop with the addition of plain HMAC to your database encryption software.
Take a page from Troy Hunt: Truncate the output to provide k-anonymity rather than a direct literal look-up.
“K-What Now?”
Imagine you have a full HMAC-SHA256 of the plaintext next to every ciphertext record with a static key, for searchability.
Each HMAC output corresponds 1:1 with a unique plaintext.
Because you’re using HMAC with a secret key, an attacker can’t just build a rainbow table like they would when attempting password cracking, but it still leaks duplicate plaintexts.
For example, an HMAC-SHA256 output might look like this:
Art: CMYKat\04a74e4c0158e34a566785d1a5e1167c4e3455c42aea173104e48ca810a8b1aeIf you were to slice off most of those bytes (e.g. leaving only the last 3, which in the previous example yields
a8b1ae), then with sufficient records, multiple plaintexts will now map to the same truncated HMAC tag.Which means if you’re only revealing a truncated HMAC tag to the database server (both when storing records or retrieving them), you can now expect false positives due to collisions in your truncated HMAC tag.
These false positives give your data a discrete set of anonymity (called k-anonymity), which means an attacker with access to your database cannot:
- Distinguish between two encrypted records with the same short HMAC tag.
- Reverse engineer the short HMAC tag into a single possible plaintext value, even if they can supply candidate queries and study the tags sent to the database.
As with SSE above, this short HMAC technique exposes a trade-off to users.
- Too much k-anonymity (i.e. too many false positives), and you will have to decrypt-then-discard multiple mismatching records. This can make queries slow.
- Not enough k-anonymity (i.e. insufficient false positives), and you’re no better off than a full HMAC.
Even more troublesome, the right amount to truncate is expressed in bits (not bytes), and calculating this value depends on the number of unique plaintext values you anticipate in your dataset. (Fortunately, it grows logarithmically, so you’ll rarely if ever have to tune this.)
If you’d like to play with this idea, here’s a quick and dirty demo script.
Intermission
If you started reading this post with any doubts about Cendyne’s statement that “Database cryptography is hard”, by making it to this point, they’ve probably been long since put to rest.
Art: HarubakiConversely, anyone that specializes in this topic is probably waiting for me to say anything novel or interesting; their patience wearing thin as I continue to rehash a surface-level introduction of their field without really diving deep into anything.
Thus, if you’ve read this far, I’d like to demonstrate the application of what I’ve covered thus far into a real-world case study into an database cryptography product.
Case Study: MongoDB Client-Side Encryption
MongoDB is an open source schema-free NoSQL database. Last year, MongoDB made waves when they announced Queryable Encryption in their upcoming client-side encryption release.
Taken from the press release, but adapted for dark themes.A statement at the bottom of their press release indicates that this isn’t clown-shoes:
Queryable Encryption was designed by MongoDB’s Advanced Cryptography Research Group, headed by Seny Kamara and Tarik Moataz, who are pioneers in the field of encrypted search. The Group conducts cutting-edge peer-reviewed research in cryptography and works with MongoDB engineering teams to transfer and deploy the latest innovations in cryptography and privacy to the MongoDB data platform.
If you recall, I mentioned Seny Kamara in the SSE section of this post. They certainly aren’t wrong about Kamara and Moataz being pioneers in this field.
So with that in mind, let’s explore the implementation in libmongocrypt and see how it stands up to scrutiny.
MongoCrypt: The Good
MongoDB’s encryption library takes key management seriously: They provide a KMS integration for cloud users by default (supporting both AWS and Azure).
MongoDB uses Encrypt-then-MAC with AES-CBC and HMAC-SHA256, which is congruent to what Signal does for message encryption.
How Is Queryable Encryption Implemented?
From the current source code, we can see that MongoCrypt generates several different types of tokens, using HMAC (calculation defined here).
According to their press release:
The feature supports equality searches, with additional query types such as range, prefix, suffix, and substring planned for future releases.
Which means that most of the juicy details probably aren’t public yet.
These HMAC-derived tokens are stored wholesale in the data structure, but most are encrypted before storage using AES-CTR.
There are more layers of encryption (using AEAD), server-side token processing, and more AES-CTR-encrypted edge tokens. All of this is finally serialized (implementation) as one blob for storage.
Since only the equality operation is currently supported (which is the same feature you’d get from HMAC), it’s difficult to speculate what the full feature set looks like.
However, since Kamara and Moataz are leading its development, it’s likely that this feature set will be excellent.
MongoCrypt: The Bad
Every call to
do_encrypt()includes at most the Key ID (but typicallyNULL) as the AAD. This means that the concerns over Confused Deputies (and NoSQL specifically) are relevant to MongoDB.However, even if they did support authenticating the fully qualified path to a field in the AAD for their encryption, their AEAD construction is vulnerable to the kind of canonicalization attack I wrote about previously.
First, observe this code which assembles the multi-part inputs into HMAC.
/* Construct the input to the HMAC */uint32_t num_intermediates = 0;_mongocrypt_buffer_t intermediates[3];// -- snip --if (!_mongocrypt_buffer_concat ( &to_hmac, intermediates, num_intermediates)) { CLIENT_ERR ("failed to allocate buffer"); goto done;}if (hmac == HMAC_SHA_512_256) { uint8_t storage[64]; _mongocrypt_buffer_t tag = {.data = storage, .len = sizeof (storage)}; if (!_crypto_hmac_sha_512 (crypto, Km, &to_hmac, &tag, status)) { goto done; } // Truncate sha512 to first 256 bits. memcpy (out->data, tag.data, MONGOCRYPT_HMAC_LEN);} else { BSON_ASSERT (hmac == HMAC_SHA_256); if (!_mongocrypt_hmac_sha_256 (crypto, Km, &to_hmac, out, status)) { goto done; }}The implementation of
_mongocrypt_buffer_concat()can be found here.If either the implementation of that function, or the code I snipped from my excerpt, had contained code that prefixed every segment of the AAD with the length of the segment (represented as a
uint64_tto make overflow infeasible), then their AEAD mode would not be vulnerable to canonicalization issues.Using TupleHash would also have prevented this issue.
Silver lining for MongoDB developers: Because the AAD is either a key ID or NULL, this isn’t exploitable in practice.
The first cryptographic flaw sort of cancels the second out.
If the libmongocrypt developers ever want to mitigate Confused Deputy attacks, they’ll need to address this canonicalization issue too.
MongoCrypt: The Ugly
MongoCrypt supports deterministic encryption.
If you specify deterministic encryption for a field, your application passes a deterministic initialization vector to AEAD.
We already discussed why this is bad above.
Wrapping Up
This was not a comprehensive treatment of the field of database cryptography. There are many areas of this field that I did not cover, nor do I feel qualified to discuss.
However, I hope anyone who takes the time to read this finds themselves more familiar with the subject.
Additionally, I hope any developers who think “encrypting data in a database is [easy, trivial] (select appropriate)” will find this broad introduction a humbling experience.
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Earlier this year, Cendyne wrote a blog post covering the use of HKDF, building partially upon my own blog post about HKDF and the KDF security definition, but moreso inspired by a cryptographic issue they identified in another company’s product (dubbed AnonCo).
At the bottom they teased:
Database cryptography is hard. The above sketch is not complete and does not address several threats! This article is quite long, so I will not be sharing the fixes.
Cendyne
If you read Cendyne’s post, you may have nodded along with that remark and not appreciate the degree to which our naga friend was putting it mildly. So I thought I’d share some of my knowledge about real-world database cryptography in an accessible and fun format in the hopes that it might serve as an introduction to the specialization.
Note: I’m also not going to fix Cendyne’s sketch of AnonCo’s software here–partly because I don’t want to get in the habit of assigning homework or required reading, but mostly because it’s kind of obvious once you’ve learned the basics.
I’m including art of my fursona in this post… as is tradition for furry blogs.If you don’t like furries, please feel free to leave this blog and read about this topic elsewhere.
Thanks to CMYKat for the awesome stickers.
Contents
- Database Cryptography?
- Cryptography for Relational Databases
- The Perils of Built-in Encryption Functions
- Application-Layer Relational Database Cryptography
- Confused Deputies
- Canonicalization Attacks
- Multi-Tenancy
- Cryptography for NoSQL Databases
- NoSQL is Built Different
- Record Authentication
- Bonus: A Maximally Schema-Free, Upgradeable Authentication Design
- Searchable Encryption
- Order-{Preserving, Revealing} Encryption
- Deterministic Encryption
- Homomorphic Encryption
- Searchable Symmetric Encryption (SSE)
- You Can Have Little a HMAC, As a Treat
- Intermission
- Case Study: MongoDB Client-Side Encryption
- MongoCrypt: The Good
- How is Queryable Encryption Implemented?
- MongoCrypt: The Bad
- MongoCrypt: The Ugly
- MongoCrypt: The Good
- Wrapping Up
Database Cryptography?
The premise of database cryptography is deceptively simple: You have a database, of some sort, and you want to store sensitive data in said database.
The consequences of this simple premise are anything but simple. Let me explain.
Art: ScruffKerfluffThe sensitive data you want to store may need to remain confidential, or you may need to provide some sort of integrity guarantees throughout your entire system, or sometimes both. Sometimes all of your data is sensitive, sometimes only some of it is. Sometimes the confidentiality requirements of your data extends to where within a dataset the record you want actually lives. Sometimes that’s true of some data, but not others, so your cryptography has to be flexible to support multiple types of workloads.
Other times, you just want your disks encrypted at rest so if they grow legs and walk out of the data center, the data cannot be comprehended by an attacker. And you can’t be bothered to work on this problem any deeper. This is usually what compliance requirements cover. Boxes get checked, executives feel safer about their operation, and the whole time nobody has really analyzed the risks they’re facing.
But we’re not settling for mere compliance on this blog. Furries have standards, after all.
So the first thing you need to do before diving into database cryptography is threat modelling. The first step in any good threat model is taking inventory; especially of assumptions, requirements, and desired outcomes. A few good starter questions:
- What database software is being used? Is it up to date?
- What data is being stored in which database software?
- How are databases oriented in the network of the overall system?
- Is your database properly firewalled from the public Internet?
- How does data flow throughout the network, and when do these data flows intersect with the database?
- Which applications talk to the database? What languages are they written in? Which APIs do they use?
- How will cryptography secrets be managed?
- Is there one key for everyone, one key per tenant, etc.?
- How are keys rotated?
- Do you use envelope encryption with an HSM, or vend the raw materials to your end devices?
The first two questions are paramount for deciding how to write software for database cryptography, before you even get to thinking about the cryptography itself.
(This is not a comprehensive set of questions to ask, either. A formal threat model is much deeper in the weeds.)
The kind of cryptography protocol you need for, say, storing encrypted CSV files an S3 bucket is vastly different from relational (SQL) databases, which in turn will be significantly different from schema-free (NoSQL) databases.
Furthermore, when you get to the point that you can start to think about the cryptography, you’ll often need to tackle confidentiality and integrity separately.
If that’s unclear, think of a scenario like, “I need to encrypt PII, but I also need to digitally sign the lab results so I know it wasn’t tampered with at rest.”
My point is, right off the bat, we’ve got a three-dimensional matrix of complexity to contend with:
- On one axis, we have the type of database.
- Flat-file
- Relational
- Schema-free
- On another, we have the basic confidentiality requirements of the data.
- Field encryption
- Row encryption
- Column encryption
- Unstructured record encryption
- Encrypting entire collections of records
- Finally, we have the integrity requirements of the data.
- Field authentication
- Row/column authentication
- Unstructured record authentication
- Collection authentication (based on e.g. Sparse Merkle Trees)
And then you have a fourth dimension that often falls out of operational requirements for databases: Searchability.
Why store data in a database if you have no way to index or search the data for fast retrieval?
Credit: HarubakiIf you’re starting to feel overwhelmed, you’re not alone. A lot of developers drastically underestimate the difficulty of the undertaking, until they run head-first into the complexity.
Some just phone it in with
AES_Encrypt()calls in their MySQL queries. (Too bad ECB mode doesn’t provide semantic security!)Which brings us to the meat of this blog post: The actual cryptography part.
Cryptography is the art of transforming information security problems into key management problems.
Former coworker
Note: In the interest of time, I’m skipping over flat files and focusing instead on actual database technologies.
Cryptography for Relational Databases
Encrypting data in an SQL database seems simple enough, even if you’ve managed to shake off the complexity I teased from the introduction.
You’ve got data, you’ve got a column on a table. Just encrypt the data and shove it in a cell on that column and call it a day, right?
But, alas, this is a trap. There are so many gotchas that I can’t weave a coherent, easy-to-follow narrative between them all.
So let’s start with a simple question: where and how are you performing your encryption?
The Perils of Built-in Encryption Functions
MySQL provides functions called AES_Encrypt and AES_Decrypt, which many developers have unfortunately decided to rely on in the past.
It’s unfortunate because these functions implement ECB mode. To illustrate why ECB mode is bad, I encrypted one of my art commissions with AES in ECB mode:
Art by Riley, encrypted with AES-ECBThe problems with ECB mode aren’t exactly “you can see the image through it,” because ECB-encrypting a compressed image won’t have redundancy (and thus can make you feel safer than you are).
ECB art is a good visual for the actual issue you should care about, however: A lack of semantic security.
A cryptosystem is considered semantically secure if observing the ciphertext doesn’t reveal information about the plaintext (except, perhaps, the length; which all cryptosystems leak to some extent). More information here.
ECB art isn’t to be confused with ECB poetry, which looks like this:
Oh little one, you’re growing up
You’ll soon be writing C
You’ll treat your ints as pointers
You’ll nest the ternary
You’ll cut and paste from github
And try cryptography
But even in your darkest hour
Do not use ECBCBC’s BEASTly when padding’s abused
And CTR’s fine til a nonce is reused
Some say it’s a CRIME to compress then encrypt
Or store keys in the browser (or use javascript)
Diffie Hellman will collapse if hackers choose your g
And RSA is full of traps when e is set to 3
Whiten! Blind! In constant time! Don’t write an RNG!
But failing all, and listen well: Do not use ECBThey’ll say “It’s like a one-time-pad!
The data’s short, it’s not so bad
the keys are long–they’re iron clad
I have a PhD!”
And then you’re front page Hacker News
Your passwords cracked–Adobe Blues.
Don’t leave your penguins showing through,
Do not use ECB— Ben Nagy, PoC||GTFO 0x04:13
Most people reading this probably know better than to use ECB mode already, and don’t need any of these reminders, but there is still a lot of code that inadvertently uses ECB mode to encrypt data in the database.
Also,
Credit: CMYKattSHOW processlist;leaks your encryption keys. Oops.Application-layer Relational Database Cryptography
Whether burned by ECB or just cautious about not giving your secrets to the system that stores all the ciphertext protected by said secret, a common next step for developers is to simply encrypt in their server-side application code.
And, yes, that’s part of the answer. But how you encrypt is important.
Credit: Harubaki“I’ll encrypt with CBC mode.”
If you don’t authenticate your ciphertext, you’ll be sorry. Maybe try again?“Okay, fine, I’ll use an authenticated mode like GCM.”
Did you remember to make the table and column name part of your AAD? What about the primary key of the record?“What on Earth are you talking about, Soatok?”
Welcome to the first footgun of database cryptography!Confused Deputies
Encrypting your sensitive data is necessary, but not sufficient. You need to also bind your ciphertexts to the specific context in which they are stored.
To understand why, let’s take a step back: What specific threat does encrypting your database records protect against?
We’ve already established that “your disks walk out of the datacenter” is a “full disk encryption” problem, so if you’re using application-layer cryptography to encrypt data in a relational database, your threat model probably involves unauthorized access to the database server.
What, then, stops an attacker from copying ciphertexts around?
Credit: CMYKattLet’s say I have a legitimate user account with an ID 12345, and I want to read your street address, but it’s encrypted in the database. But because I’m a clever hacker, I have unfettered access to your relational database server.
All I would need to do is simply…
UPDATE table SET addr_encrypted = 'your-ciphertext' WHERE id = 12345…and then access the application through my legitimate access. Bam, data leaked. As an attacker, I can probably even copy fields from other columns and it will just decrypt. Even if you’re using an authenticated mode.
We call this a confused deputy attack, because the deputy (the component of the system that has been delegated some authority or privilege) has become confused by the attacker, and thus undermined an intended security goal.
The fix is to use the AAD parameter from the authenticated mode to bind the data to a given context. (AAD = Additional Authenticated Data.)
- $addr = aes_gcm_encrypt($addr, $key);+ $addr = aes_gcm_encrypt($addr, $key, canonicalize([+ $tableName,+ $columnName,+ $primaryKey+ ]);
Now if I start cutting and pasting ciphertexts around, I get a decryption failure instead of silently decrypting plaintext.
This may sound like a specific vulnerability, but it’s more of a failure to understand an important general lesson with database cryptography:
Where your data lives is part of its identity, and MUST be authenticated.
Soatok’s Rule of Database Cryptography
Canonicalization Attacks
In the previous section, I introduced a pseudocode called
canonicalize(). This isn’t a pasto from some reference code; it’s an important design detail that I will elaborate on now.First, consider you didn’t do anything to canonicalize your data, and you just joined strings together and called it a day…
function dumbCanonicalize( string $tableName, string $columnName, string|int $primaryKey): string { return $tableName . '_' . $columnName . '#' . $primaryKey;}Consider these two inputs to this function:
dumbCanonicalize('customers', 'last_order_uuid', 123);dumbCanonicalize('customers_last_order', 'uuid', 123);
In this case, your AAD would be the same, and therefore, your deputy can still be confused (albeit in a narrower use case).
In Cendyne’s article, AnonCo did something more subtle: The canonicalization bug created a collision on the inputs to HKDF, which resulted in an unintentional key reuse.
Up until this point, their mistake isn’t relevant to us, because we haven’t even explored key management at all. But the same design flaw can re-emerge in multiple locations, with drastically different consequence.
Multi-Tenancy
Once you’ve implemented a mitigation against Confused Deputies, you may think your job is done. And it very well could be.
Often times, however, software developers are tasked with building support for Bring Your Own Key (BYOK).
This is often spawned from a specific compliance requirement (such as cryptographic shredding; i.e. if you erase the key, you can no longer recover the plaintext, so it may as well be deleted).
Other times, this is driven by a need to cut costs: Storing different users’ data in the same database server, but encrypting it such that they can only encrypt their own records.
Two things can happen when you introduce multi-tenancy into your database cryptography designs:
- Invisible Salamanders becomes a risk, due to multiple keys being possible for any given encrypted record.
- Failure to address the risk of Invisible Salamanders can undermine your protection against Confused Deputies, thereby returning you to a state before you properly used the AAD.
So now you have to revisit your designs and ensure you’re using a key-committing authenticated mode, rather than just a regular authenticated mode.
Isn’t cryptography fun?
“What Are Invisible Salamanders?”
This refers to a fun property of AEAD modes based on Polynomical MACs. Basically, if you:
- Encrypt one message under a specific key and nonce.
- Encrypt another message under a separate key and nonce.
…Then you can get the same exact ciphertext and authentication tag. Performing this attack requires you to control the keys for both encryption operations.
This was first demonstrated in an attack against encrypted messaging applications, where a picture of a salamander was hidden from the abuse reporting feature because another attached file had the same authentication tag and ciphertext, and you could trick the system if you disclosed the second key instead of the first. Thus, the salamander is invisible to attackers.
Art: CMYKatWe’re not quite done with relational databases yet, but we should talk about NoSQL databases for a bit. The final topic in scope applies equally to both, after all.
Cryptography for NoSQL Databases
Most of the topics from relational databases also apply to NoSQL databases, so I shall refrain from duplicating them here. This article is already sufficiently long to read, after all, and I dislike redundancy.
NoSQL is Built Different
The main thing that NoSQL databases offer in the service of making cryptographers lose sleep at night is the schema-free nature of NoSQL designs.
What this means is that, if you’re using a client-side encryption library for a NoSQL database, the previous concerns about confused deputy attacks are amplified by the malleability of the document structure.
Additionally, the previously discussed cryptographic attacks against the encryption mode may be less expensive for an attacker to pull off.
Consider the following record structure, which stores a bunch of data stored with AES in CBC mode:
{ "encrypted-data-key": "<blob>", "name": "<ciphertext>", "address": [ "<ciphertext>", "<ciphertext>" ], "social-security": "<ciphertext>", "zip-code": "<ciphertext>"}If this record is decrypted with code that looks something like this:
$decrypted = [];// ... snip ...foreach ($record['address'] as $i => $addrLine) { try { $decrypted['address'][$i] = $this->decrypt($addrLine); } catch (Throwable $ex) { // You'd never deliberately do this, but it's for illustration $this->doSomethingAnOracleCanObserve($i); // This is more believable, of course: $this->logDecryptionError($ex, $addrLine); $decrypted['address'][$i] = ''; }}Then you can keep appending rows to the
Art: Harubaki"address"field to reduce the number of writes needed to exploit a padding oracle attack against any of the<ciphertext>fields.This isn’t to say that NoSQL is less secure than SQL, from the context of client-side encryption. However, the powerful feature sets that NoSQL users are accustomed to may also give attackers a more versatile toolkit to work with.
Record Authentication
A pedant may point out that record authentication applies to both SQL and NoSQL. However, I mostly only observe this feature in NoSQL databases and document storage systems in the wild, so I’m shoving it in here.
Encrypting fields is nice and all, but sometimes what you want to know is that your unencrypted data hasn’t been tampered with as it flows through your system.
The trivial way this is done is by using a digital signature algorithm over the whole record, and then appending the signature to the end. When you go to verify the record, all of the information you need is right there.
This works well enough for most use cases, and everyone can pack up and go home. Nothing more to see here.
Except…
When you’re working with NoSQL databases, you often want systems to be able to write to additional fields, and since you’re working with schema-free blobs of data rather than a normalized set of relatable tables, the most sensible thing to do is to is to append this data to the same record.
Except, oops! You can’t do that if you’re shoving a digital signature over the record. So now you need to specify which fields are to be included in the signature.
And you need to think about how to model that in a way that doesn’t prohibit schema upgrades nor allow attackers to perform downgrade attacks. (See below.)
I don’t have any specific real-world examples here that I can point to of this problem being solved well.Art: CMYKat
Furthermore, as with preventing confused deputy and/or canonicalization attacks above, you must also include the fully qualified path of each field in the data that gets signed.
As I said with encryption before, but also true here:
Where your data lives is part of its identity, and MUST be authenticated.
Soatok’s Rule of Database Cryptography
This requirement holds true whether you’re using symmetric-key authentication (i.e. HMAC) or asymmetric-key digital signatures (e.g. EdDSA).
Bonus: A Maximally Schema-Free, Upgradeable Authentication Design
Art: HarubakiOkay, how do you solve this problem so that you can perform updates and upgrades to your schema but without enabling attackers to downgrade the security? Here’s one possible design.
Let’s say you have two metadata fields on each record:
- A compressed binary string representing which fields should be authenticated. This field is, itself, not authenticated. Let’s call this
meta-auth. - A compressed binary string representing which of the authenticated fields should also be encrypted. This field is also authenticated. This is at most the same length as the first metadata field. Let’s call this
meta-enc.
Furthermore, you will specify a canonical field ordering for both how data is fed into the signature algorithm as well as the field mappings in
meta-authandmeta-enc.{ "example": { "credit-card": { "number": /* encrypted */, "expiration": /* encrypted */, "ccv": /* encrypted */ }, "superfluous": { "rewards-member": null } }, "meta-auth": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false, /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ true /* meta-enc */ ]), "meta-enc": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ ]), "signature": /* -- snip -- */}When you go to append data to an existing record, you’ll need to update
meta-authto include the mapping of fields based on this canonical ordering to ensure only the intended fields get validated.When you update your code to add an additional field that is intended to be signed, you can roll that out for new records and the record will continue to be self-describing:
- New records will have the additional field flagged as authenticated in
meta-auth(andmeta-encwill grow) - Old records will not, but your code will still sign them successfully
- To prevent downgrade attacks, simply include a schema version ID as an additional plaintext field that gets authenticated. An attacker who tries to downgrade will need to be able to produce a valid signature too.
You might think
meta-authgives an attacker some advantage, but this only includes which fields are included in the security boundary of the signature or MAC, which allows unauthenticated data to be appended for whatever operational purpose without having to update signatures or expose signing keys to a wider part of the network.{ "example": { "credit-card": { "number": /* encrypted */, "expiration": /* encrypted */, "ccv": /* encrypted */ }, "superfluous": { "rewards-member": null } }, "meta-auth": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false, /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ true, /* meta-enc */ true /* meta-version */ ]), "meta-enc": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false, /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ true /* meta-version */ ]), "meta-version": 0x01000000, "signature": /* -- snip -- */}If an attacker tries to use the
meta-authfield to mess with a record, the best they can hope for is an Invalid Signature exception (assuming the signature algorithm is secure to begin with).Even if they keep all of the fields the same, but play around with the structure of the record (e.g. changing the XPath or equivalent), so long as the path is authenticated with each field, breaking this is computationally infeasible.
Searchable Encryption
If you’ve managed to make it through the previous sections, congratulations, you now know enough to build a secure but completely useless database.
Art: CMYKatOkay, put away the pitchforks; I will explain.
Part of the reason why we store data in a database, rather than a flat file, is because we want to do more than just read and write. Sometimes computer scientists want to compute. Almost always, you want to be able to query your database for a subset of records based on your specific business logic needs.
And so, a database which doesn’t do anything more than store ciphertext and maybe signatures is pretty useless to most people. You’d have better luck selling Monkey JPEGs to furries than convincing most businesses to part with their precious database-driven report generators.
Art: SophieSo whenever one of your users wants to actually use their data, rather than just store it, they’re forced to decide between two mutually exclusive options:
- Encrypting the data, to protect it from unauthorized disclosure, but render it useless
- Doing anything useful with the data, but leaving it unencrypted in the database
This is especially annoying for business types that are all in on the Zero Trust buzzword.
Fortunately, the cryptographers are at it again, and boy howdy do they have a lot of solutions for this problem.
Order-{Preserving, Revealing} Encryption
On the fun side of things, you have things like Order-Preserving and Order-Revealing Encryption, which Matthew Green wrote about at length.
[D]atabase encryption has been a controversial subject in our field. I wish I could say that there’s been an actual debate, but it’s more that different researchers have fallen into different camps, and nobody has really had the data to make their position in a compelling way. There have actually been some very personal arguments made about it.
Attack of the week: searchable encryption and the ever-expanding leakage function
The problem with these designs is that they have a significant enough leakage that it no longer provides semantic security.
From Grubbs, et al. (GLMP, 2019.)
Colors inverted to fit my blog’s theme better.To put it in other words: These designs are only marginally better than ECB mode, and probably deserve their own poems too.
Order revealing
Reveals much more than order
Softcore ECBOrder preserving
Semantic security?
Only in your dreamsHaiku for your consideration
Deterministic Encryption
Here’s a simpler, but also terrible, idea for searchable encryption: Simply give up on semantic security entirely.
If you recall the
AES_{De,En}crypt()functions built into MySQL I mentioned at the start of this article, those are the most common form of deterministic encryption I’ve seen in use.SELECT * FROM foo WHERE bar = AES_Encrypt('query', 'key');However, there are slightly less bad variants. If you use AES-GCM-SIV with a static nonce, your ciphertexts are fully deterministic, and you can encrypt a small number of distinct records safely before you’re no longer secure.
From Page 14 of the linked paper. Full view.That’s certainly better than nothing, but you also can’t mitigate confused deputy attacks. But we can do better than this.
Homomorphic Encryption
In a safer plane of academia, you’ll find homomorphic encryption, which researchers recently demonstrated with serving Wikipedia pages in a reasonable amount of time.
Homomorphic encryption allows computations over the ciphertext, which will be reflected in the plaintext, without ever revealing the key to the entity performing the computation.
If this sounds vaguely similar to the conditions that enable chosen-ciphertext attacks, you probably have a good intuition for how it works: RSA is homomorphic to multiplication, AES-CTR is homomorphic to XOR. Fully homomorphic encryption uses lattices, which enables multiple operations but carries a relatively enormous performance cost.
Art: HarubakiHomomorphic encryption sometimes intersects with machine learning, because the notion of training an encrypted model by feeding it encrypted data, then decrypting it after-the-fact is desirable for certain business verticals. Your data scientists never see your data, and you have some plausible deniability about the final ML model this work produces. This is like a Siren song for Venture Capitalist-backed medical technology companies. Tech journalists love writing about it.
However, a less-explored use case is the ability to encrypt your programs but still get the correct behavior and outputs. Although this sounds like a DRM technology, it’s actually something that individuals could one day use to prevent their ISPs or cloud providers from knowing what software is being executed on the customer’s leased hardware. The potential for a privacy win here is certainly worth pondering, even if you’re a tried and true Pirate Party member.
Just say “NO” to the copyright cartels.Art: CMYKat
Searchable Symmetric Encryption (SSE)
Forget about working at the level of fields and rows or individual records. What if we, instead, worked over collections of documents, where each document is viewed as a set of keywords from a keyword space?
Art: CMYKatThat’s the basic premise of SSE: Encrypting collections of documents rather than individual records.
The actual implementation details differ greatly between designs. They also differ greatly in their leakage profiles and susceptibility to side-channel attacks.
Some schemes use a so-called trapdoor permutation, such as RSA, as one of their building blocks.
Some schemes only allow for searching a static set of records, while others can accommodate new data over time (with the trade-off between more leakage or worse performance).
If you’re curious, you can learn more about SSE here, and see some open source SEE implementations online here.
You’re probably wondering, “If SSE is this well-studied and there are open source implementations available, why isn’t it more widely used?”
Your guess is as good as mine, but I can think of a few reasons:
- The protocols can be a little complicated to implement, and aren’t shipped by default in cryptography libraries (i.e. OpenSSL’s libcrypto or libsodium).
- Every known security risk in SSE is the product of a trade-offs, rather than there being a single winner for all use cases that developers can feel comfortable picking.
- Insufficient marketing and developer advocacy.
SSE schemes are mostly of interest to academics, although Seny Kamara (Brown Univeristy professior and one of the luminaries of searchable encryption) did try to develop an app called Pixek which used SSE to encrypt photos.
Maybe there’s room for a cryptography competition on searchable encryption schemes in the future.
You Can Have Little a HMAC, As a Treat
Finally, I can’t talk about searchable encryption without discussing a technique that’s older than dirt by Internet standards, that has been independently reinvented by countless software developers tasked with encrypting database records.
The oldest version I’ve been able to track down dates to 2006 by Raul Garcia at Microsoft, but I’m not confident that it didn’t exist before.
The idea I’m alluding to goes like this:
- Encrypt your data, securely, using symmetric cryptography.
(Hopefully your encryption addresses the considerations outlined in the relevant sections above.) - Separately, calculate an HMAC over the unencrypted data with a separate key used exclusively for indexing.
When you need to query your data, you can just recalculate the HMAC of your challenge and fetch the records that match it. Easy, right?
Even if you rotate your keys for encryption, you keep your indexing keys static across your entire data set. This lets you have durable indexes for encrypted data, which gives you the ability to do literal lookups for the performance hit of a hash function.
Additionally, everyone has HMAC in their toolkit, so you don’t have to move around implementations of complex cryptographic building blocks. You can live off the land. What’s not to love?
Hooray!However, if you stopped here, we regret to inform you that your data is no longer indistinguishable from random, which probably undermines the security proof for your encryption scheme.
How annoying!Of course, you don’t have to stop with the addition of plain HMAC to your database encryption software.
Take a page from Troy Hunt: Truncate the output to provide k-anonymity rather than a direct literal look-up.
“K-What Now?”
Imagine you have a full HMAC-SHA256 of the plaintext next to every ciphertext record with a static key, for searchability.
Each HMAC output corresponds 1:1 with a unique plaintext.
Because you’re using HMAC with a secret key, an attacker can’t just build a rainbow table like they would when attempting password cracking, but it still leaks duplicate plaintexts.
For example, an HMAC-SHA256 output might look like this:
Art: CMYKat\04a74e4c0158e34a566785d1a5e1167c4e3455c42aea173104e48ca810a8b1aeIf you were to slice off most of those bytes (e.g. leaving only the last 3, which in the previous example yields
a8b1ae), then with sufficient records, multiple plaintexts will now map to the same truncated HMAC tag.Which means if you’re only revealing a truncated HMAC tag to the database server (both when storing records or retrieving them), you can now expect false positives due to collisions in your truncated HMAC tag.
These false positives give your data a discrete set of anonymity (called k-anonymity), which means an attacker with access to your database cannot:
- Distinguish between two encrypted records with the same short HMAC tag.
- Reverse engineer the short HMAC tag into a single possible plaintext value, even if they can supply candidate queries and study the tags sent to the database.
As with SSE above, this short HMAC technique exposes a trade-off to users.
- Too much k-anonymity (i.e. too many false positives), and you will have to decrypt-then-discard multiple mismatching records. This can make queries slow.
- Not enough k-anonymity (i.e. insufficient false positives), and you’re no better off than a full HMAC.
Even more troublesome, the right amount to truncate is expressed in bits (not bytes), and calculating this value depends on the number of unique plaintext values you anticipate in your dataset. (Fortunately, it grows logarithmically, so you’ll rarely if ever have to tune this.)
If you’d like to play with this idea, here’s a quick and dirty demo script.
Intermission
If you started reading this post with any doubts about Cendyne’s statement that “Database cryptography is hard”, by making it to this point, they’ve probably been long since put to rest.
Art: HarubakiConversely, anyone that specializes in this topic is probably waiting for me to say anything novel or interesting; their patience wearing thin as I continue to rehash a surface-level introduction of their field without really diving deep into anything.
Thus, if you’ve read this far, I’d like to demonstrate the application of what I’ve covered thus far into a real-world case study into an database cryptography product.
Case Study: MongoDB Client-Side Encryption
MongoDB is an open source schema-free NoSQL database. Last year, MongoDB made waves when they announced Queryable Encryption in their upcoming client-side encryption release.
Taken from the press release, but adapted for dark themes.A statement at the bottom of their press release indicates that this isn’t clown-shoes:
Queryable Encryption was designed by MongoDB’s Advanced Cryptography Research Group, headed by Seny Kamara and Tarik Moataz, who are pioneers in the field of encrypted search. The Group conducts cutting-edge peer-reviewed research in cryptography and works with MongoDB engineering teams to transfer and deploy the latest innovations in cryptography and privacy to the MongoDB data platform.
If you recall, I mentioned Seny Kamara in the SSE section of this post. They certainly aren’t wrong about Kamara and Moataz being pioneers in this field.
So with that in mind, let’s explore the implementation in libmongocrypt and see how it stands up to scrutiny.
MongoCrypt: The Good
MongoDB’s encryption library takes key management seriously: They provide a KMS integration for cloud users by default (supporting both AWS and Azure).
MongoDB uses Encrypt-then-MAC with AES-CBC and HMAC-SHA256, which is congruent to what Signal does for message encryption.
How Is Queryable Encryption Implemented?
From the current source code, we can see that MongoCrypt generates several different types of tokens, using HMAC (calculation defined here).
According to their press release:
The feature supports equality searches, with additional query types such as range, prefix, suffix, and substring planned for future releases.
Which means that most of the juicy details probably aren’t public yet.
These HMAC-derived tokens are stored wholesale in the data structure, but most are encrypted before storage using AES-CTR.
There are more layers of encryption (using AEAD), server-side token processing, and more AES-CTR-encrypted edge tokens. All of this is finally serialized (implementation) as one blob for storage.
Since only the equality operation is currently supported (which is the same feature you’d get from HMAC), it’s difficult to speculate what the full feature set looks like.
However, since Kamara and Moataz are leading its development, it’s likely that this feature set will be excellent.
MongoCrypt: The Bad
Every call to
do_encrypt()includes at most the Key ID (but typicallyNULL) as the AAD. This means that the concerns over Confused Deputies (and NoSQL specifically) are relevant to MongoDB.However, even if they did support authenticating the fully qualified path to a field in the AAD for their encryption, their AEAD construction is vulnerable to the kind of canonicalization attack I wrote about previously.
First, observe this code which assembles the multi-part inputs into HMAC.
/* Construct the input to the HMAC */uint32_t num_intermediates = 0;_mongocrypt_buffer_t intermediates[3];// -- snip --if (!_mongocrypt_buffer_concat ( &to_hmac, intermediates, num_intermediates)) { CLIENT_ERR ("failed to allocate buffer"); goto done;}if (hmac == HMAC_SHA_512_256) { uint8_t storage[64]; _mongocrypt_buffer_t tag = {.data = storage, .len = sizeof (storage)}; if (!_crypto_hmac_sha_512 (crypto, Km, &to_hmac, &tag, status)) { goto done; } // Truncate sha512 to first 256 bits. memcpy (out->data, tag.data, MONGOCRYPT_HMAC_LEN);} else { BSON_ASSERT (hmac == HMAC_SHA_256); if (!_mongocrypt_hmac_sha_256 (crypto, Km, &to_hmac, out, status)) { goto done; }}The implementation of
_mongocrypt_buffer_concat()can be found here.If either the implementation of that function, or the code I snipped from my excerpt, had contained code that prefixed every segment of the AAD with the length of the segment (represented as a
uint64_tto make overflow infeasible), then their AEAD mode would not be vulnerable to canonicalization issues.Using TupleHash would also have prevented this issue.
Silver lining for MongoDB developers: Because the AAD is either a key ID or NULL, this isn’t exploitable in practice.
The first cryptographic flaw sort of cancels the second out.
If the libmongocrypt developers ever want to mitigate Confused Deputy attacks, they’ll need to address this canonicalization issue too.
MongoCrypt: The Ugly
MongoCrypt supports deterministic encryption.
If you specify deterministic encryption for a field, your application passes a deterministic initialization vector to AEAD.
We already discussed why this is bad above.
Wrapping Up
This was not a comprehensive treatment of the field of database cryptography. There are many areas of this field that I did not cover, nor do I feel qualified to discuss.
However, I hope anyone who takes the time to read this finds themselves more familiar with the subject.
Additionally, I hope any developers who think “encrypting data in a database is [easy, trivial] (select appropriate)” will find this broad introduction a humbling experience.
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Earlier this year, Cendyne wrote a blog post covering the use of HKDF, building partially upon my own blog post about HKDF and the KDF security definition, but moreso inspired by a cryptographic issue they identified in another company’s product (dubbed AnonCo).
At the bottom they teased:
Database cryptography is hard. The above sketch is not complete and does not address several threats! This article is quite long, so I will not be sharing the fixes.
Cendyne
If you read Cendyne’s post, you may have nodded along with that remark and not appreciate the degree to which our naga friend was putting it mildly. So I thought I’d share some of my knowledge about real-world database cryptography in an accessible and fun format in the hopes that it might serve as an introduction to the specialization.
Note: I’m also not going to fix Cendyne’s sketch of AnonCo’s software here–partly because I don’t want to get in the habit of assigning homework or required reading, but mostly because it’s kind of obvious once you’ve learned the basics.
I’m including art of my fursona in this post… as is tradition for furry blogs.If you don’t like furries, please feel free to leave this blog and read about this topic elsewhere.
Thanks to CMYKat for the awesome stickers.
Contents
- Database Cryptography?
- Cryptography for Relational Databases
- The Perils of Built-in Encryption Functions
- Application-Layer Relational Database Cryptography
- Confused Deputies
- Canonicalization Attacks
- Multi-Tenancy
- Cryptography for NoSQL Databases
- NoSQL is Built Different
- Record Authentication
- Bonus: A Maximally Schema-Free, Upgradeable Authentication Design
- Searchable Encryption
- Order-{Preserving, Revealing} Encryption
- Deterministic Encryption
- Homomorphic Encryption
- Searchable Symmetric Encryption (SSE)
- You Can Have Little a HMAC, As a Treat
- Intermission
- Case Study: MongoDB Client-Side Encryption
- MongoCrypt: The Good
- How is Queryable Encryption Implemented?
- MongoCrypt: The Bad
- MongoCrypt: The Ugly
- MongoCrypt: The Good
- Wrapping Up
Database Cryptography?
The premise of database cryptography is deceptively simple: You have a database, of some sort, and you want to store sensitive data in said database.
The consequences of this simple premise are anything but simple. Let me explain.
Art: ScruffKerfluffThe sensitive data you want to store may need to remain confidential, or you may need to provide some sort of integrity guarantees throughout your entire system, or sometimes both. Sometimes all of your data is sensitive, sometimes only some of it is. Sometimes the confidentiality requirements of your data extends to where within a dataset the record you want actually lives. Sometimes that’s true of some data, but not others, so your cryptography has to be flexible to support multiple types of workloads.
Other times, you just want your disks encrypted at rest so if they grow legs and walk out of the data center, the data cannot be comprehended by an attacker. And you can’t be bothered to work on this problem any deeper. This is usually what compliance requirements cover. Boxes get checked, executives feel safer about their operation, and the whole time nobody has really analyzed the risks they’re facing.
But we’re not settling for mere compliance on this blog. Furries have standards, after all.
So the first thing you need to do before diving into database cryptography is threat modelling. The first step in any good threat model is taking inventory; especially of assumptions, requirements, and desired outcomes. A few good starter questions:
- What database software is being used? Is it up to date?
- What data is being stored in which database software?
- How are databases oriented in the network of the overall system?
- Is your database properly firewalled from the public Internet?
- How does data flow throughout the network, and when do these data flows intersect with the database?
- Which applications talk to the database? What languages are they written in? Which APIs do they use?
- How will cryptography secrets be managed?
- Is there one key for everyone, one key per tenant, etc.?
- How are keys rotated?
- Do you use envelope encryption with an HSM, or vend the raw materials to your end devices?
The first two questions are paramount for deciding how to write software for database cryptography, before you even get to thinking about the cryptography itself.
(This is not a comprehensive set of questions to ask, either. A formal threat model is much deeper in the weeds.)
The kind of cryptography protocol you need for, say, storing encrypted CSV files an S3 bucket is vastly different from relational (SQL) databases, which in turn will be significantly different from schema-free (NoSQL) databases.
Furthermore, when you get to the point that you can start to think about the cryptography, you’ll often need to tackle confidentiality and integrity separately.
If that’s unclear, think of a scenario like, “I need to encrypt PII, but I also need to digitally sign the lab results so I know it wasn’t tampered with at rest.”
My point is, right off the bat, we’ve got a three-dimensional matrix of complexity to contend with:
- On one axis, we have the type of database.
- Flat-file
- Relational
- Schema-free
- On another, we have the basic confidentiality requirements of the data.
- Field encryption
- Row encryption
- Column encryption
- Unstructured record encryption
- Encrypting entire collections of records
- Finally, we have the integrity requirements of the data.
- Field authentication
- Row/column authentication
- Unstructured record authentication
- Collection authentication (based on e.g. Sparse Merkle Trees)
And then you have a fourth dimension that often falls out of operational requirements for databases: Searchability.
Why store data in a database if you have no way to index or search the data for fast retrieval?
Credit: HarubakiIf you’re starting to feel overwhelmed, you’re not alone. A lot of developers drastically underestimate the difficulty of the undertaking, until they run head-first into the complexity.
Some just phone it in with
AES_Encrypt()calls in their MySQL queries. (Too bad ECB mode doesn’t provide semantic security!)Which brings us to the meat of this blog post: The actual cryptography part.
Cryptography is the art of transforming information security problems into key management problems.
Former coworker
Note: In the interest of time, I’m skipping over flat files and focusing instead on actual database technologies.
Cryptography for Relational Databases
Encrypting data in an SQL database seems simple enough, even if you’ve managed to shake off the complexity I teased from the introduction.
You’ve got data, you’ve got a column on a table. Just encrypt the data and shove it in a cell on that column and call it a day, right?
But, alas, this is a trap. There are so many gotchas that I can’t weave a coherent, easy-to-follow narrative between them all.
So let’s start with a simple question: where and how are you performing your encryption?
The Perils of Built-in Encryption Functions
MySQL provides functions called AES_Encrypt and AES_Decrypt, which many developers have unfortunately decided to rely on in the past.
It’s unfortunate because these functions implement ECB mode. To illustrate why ECB mode is bad, I encrypted one of my art commissions with AES in ECB mode:
Art by Riley, encrypted with AES-ECBThe problems with ECB mode aren’t exactly “you can see the image through it,” because ECB-encrypting a compressed image won’t have redundancy (and thus can make you feel safer than you are).
ECB art is a good visual for the actual issue you should care about, however: A lack of semantic security.
A cryptosystem is considered semantically secure if observing the ciphertext doesn’t reveal information about the plaintext (except, perhaps, the length; which all cryptosystems leak to some extent). More information here.
ECB art isn’t to be confused with ECB poetry, which looks like this:
Oh little one, you’re growing up
You’ll soon be writing C
You’ll treat your ints as pointers
You’ll nest the ternary
You’ll cut and paste from github
And try cryptography
But even in your darkest hour
Do not use ECBCBC’s BEASTly when padding’s abused
And CTR’s fine til a nonce is reused
Some say it’s a CRIME to compress then encrypt
Or store keys in the browser (or use javascript)
Diffie Hellman will collapse if hackers choose your g
And RSA is full of traps when e is set to 3
Whiten! Blind! In constant time! Don’t write an RNG!
But failing all, and listen well: Do not use ECBThey’ll say “It’s like a one-time-pad!
The data’s short, it’s not so bad
the keys are long–they’re iron clad
I have a PhD!”
And then you’re front page Hacker News
Your passwords cracked–Adobe Blues.
Don’t leave your penguins showing through,
Do not use ECB— Ben Nagy, PoC||GTFO 0x04:13
Most people reading this probably know better than to use ECB mode already, and don’t need any of these reminders, but there is still a lot of code that inadvertently uses ECB mode to encrypt data in the database.
Also,
Credit: CMYKattSHOW processlist;leaks your encryption keys. Oops.Application-layer Relational Database Cryptography
Whether burned by ECB or just cautious about not giving your secrets to the system that stores all the ciphertext protected by said secret, a common next step for developers is to simply encrypt in their server-side application code.
And, yes, that’s part of the answer. But how you encrypt is important.
Credit: Harubaki“I’ll encrypt with CBC mode.”
If you don’t authenticate your ciphertext, you’ll be sorry. Maybe try again?“Okay, fine, I’ll use an authenticated mode like GCM.”
Did you remember to make the table and column name part of your AAD? What about the primary key of the record?“What on Earth are you talking about, Soatok?”
Welcome to the first footgun of database cryptography!Confused Deputies
Encrypting your sensitive data is necessary, but not sufficient. You need to also bind your ciphertexts to the specific context in which they are stored.
To understand why, let’s take a step back: What specific threat does encrypting your database records protect against?
We’ve already established that “your disks walk out of the datacenter” is a “full disk encryption” problem, so if you’re using application-layer cryptography to encrypt data in a relational database, your threat model probably involves unauthorized access to the database server.
What, then, stops an attacker from copying ciphertexts around?
Credit: CMYKattLet’s say I have a legitimate user account with an ID 12345, and I want to read your street address, but it’s encrypted in the database. But because I’m a clever hacker, I have unfettered access to your relational database server.
All I would need to do is simply…
UPDATE table SET addr_encrypted = 'your-ciphertext' WHERE id = 12345…and then access the application through my legitimate access. Bam, data leaked. As an attacker, I can probably even copy fields from other columns and it will just decrypt. Even if you’re using an authenticated mode.
We call this a confused deputy attack, because the deputy (the component of the system that has been delegated some authority or privilege) has become confused by the attacker, and thus undermined an intended security goal.
The fix is to use the AAD parameter from the authenticated mode to bind the data to a given context. (AAD = Additional Authenticated Data.)
- $addr = aes_gcm_encrypt($addr, $key);+ $addr = aes_gcm_encrypt($addr, $key, canonicalize([+ $tableName,+ $columnName,+ $primaryKey+ ]);
Now if I start cutting and pasting ciphertexts around, I get a decryption failure instead of silently decrypting plaintext.
This may sound like a specific vulnerability, but it’s more of a failure to understand an important general lesson with database cryptography:
Where your data lives is part of its identity, and MUST be authenticated.
Soatok’s Rule of Database Cryptography
Canonicalization Attacks
In the previous section, I introduced a pseudocode called
canonicalize(). This isn’t a pasto from some reference code; it’s an important design detail that I will elaborate on now.First, consider you didn’t do anything to canonicalize your data, and you just joined strings together and called it a day…
function dumbCanonicalize( string $tableName, string $columnName, string|int $primaryKey): string { return $tableName . '_' . $columnName . '#' . $primaryKey;}Consider these two inputs to this function:
dumbCanonicalize('customers', 'last_order_uuid', 123);dumbCanonicalize('customers_last_order', 'uuid', 123);
In this case, your AAD would be the same, and therefore, your deputy can still be confused (albeit in a narrower use case).
In Cendyne’s article, AnonCo did something more subtle: The canonicalization bug created a collision on the inputs to HKDF, which resulted in an unintentional key reuse.
Up until this point, their mistake isn’t relevant to us, because we haven’t even explored key management at all. But the same design flaw can re-emerge in multiple locations, with drastically different consequence.
Multi-Tenancy
Once you’ve implemented a mitigation against Confused Deputies, you may think your job is done. And it very well could be.
Often times, however, software developers are tasked with building support for Bring Your Own Key (BYOK).
This is often spawned from a specific compliance requirement (such as cryptographic shredding; i.e. if you erase the key, you can no longer recover the plaintext, so it may as well be deleted).
Other times, this is driven by a need to cut costs: Storing different users’ data in the same database server, but encrypting it such that they can only encrypt their own records.
Two things can happen when you introduce multi-tenancy into your database cryptography designs:
- Invisible Salamanders becomes a risk, due to multiple keys being possible for any given encrypted record.
- Failure to address the risk of Invisible Salamanders can undermine your protection against Confused Deputies, thereby returning you to a state before you properly used the AAD.
So now you have to revisit your designs and ensure you’re using a key-committing authenticated mode, rather than just a regular authenticated mode.
Isn’t cryptography fun?
“What Are Invisible Salamanders?”
This refers to a fun property of AEAD modes based on Polynomical MACs. Basically, if you:
- Encrypt one message under a specific key and nonce.
- Encrypt another message under a separate key and nonce.
…Then you can get the same exact ciphertext and authentication tag. Performing this attack requires you to control the keys for both encryption operations.
This was first demonstrated in an attack against encrypted messaging applications, where a picture of a salamander was hidden from the abuse reporting feature because another attached file had the same authentication tag and ciphertext, and you could trick the system if you disclosed the second key instead of the first. Thus, the salamander is invisible to attackers.
Art: CMYKatWe’re not quite done with relational databases yet, but we should talk about NoSQL databases for a bit. The final topic in scope applies equally to both, after all.
Cryptography for NoSQL Databases
Most of the topics from relational databases also apply to NoSQL databases, so I shall refrain from duplicating them here. This article is already sufficiently long to read, after all, and I dislike redundancy.
NoSQL is Built Different
The main thing that NoSQL databases offer in the service of making cryptographers lose sleep at night is the schema-free nature of NoSQL designs.
What this means is that, if you’re using a client-side encryption library for a NoSQL database, the previous concerns about confused deputy attacks are amplified by the malleability of the document structure.
Additionally, the previously discussed cryptographic attacks against the encryption mode may be less expensive for an attacker to pull off.
Consider the following record structure, which stores a bunch of data stored with AES in CBC mode:
{ "encrypted-data-key": "<blob>", "name": "<ciphertext>", "address": [ "<ciphertext>", "<ciphertext>" ], "social-security": "<ciphertext>", "zip-code": "<ciphertext>"}If this record is decrypted with code that looks something like this:
$decrypted = [];// ... snip ...foreach ($record['address'] as $i => $addrLine) { try { $decrypted['address'][$i] = $this->decrypt($addrLine); } catch (Throwable $ex) { // You'd never deliberately do this, but it's for illustration $this->doSomethingAnOracleCanObserve($i); // This is more believable, of course: $this->logDecryptionError($ex, $addrLine); $decrypted['address'][$i] = ''; }}Then you can keep appending rows to the
Art: Harubaki"address"field to reduce the number of writes needed to exploit a padding oracle attack against any of the<ciphertext>fields.This isn’t to say that NoSQL is less secure than SQL, from the context of client-side encryption. However, the powerful feature sets that NoSQL users are accustomed to may also give attackers a more versatile toolkit to work with.
Record Authentication
A pedant may point out that record authentication applies to both SQL and NoSQL. However, I mostly only observe this feature in NoSQL databases and document storage systems in the wild, so I’m shoving it in here.
Encrypting fields is nice and all, but sometimes what you want to know is that your unencrypted data hasn’t been tampered with as it flows through your system.
The trivial way this is done is by using a digital signature algorithm over the whole record, and then appending the signature to the end. When you go to verify the record, all of the information you need is right there.
This works well enough for most use cases, and everyone can pack up and go home. Nothing more to see here.
Except…
When you’re working with NoSQL databases, you often want systems to be able to write to additional fields, and since you’re working with schema-free blobs of data rather than a normalized set of relatable tables, the most sensible thing to do is to is to append this data to the same record.
Except, oops! You can’t do that if you’re shoving a digital signature over the record. So now you need to specify which fields are to be included in the signature.
And you need to think about how to model that in a way that doesn’t prohibit schema upgrades nor allow attackers to perform downgrade attacks. (See below.)
I don’t have any specific real-world examples here that I can point to of this problem being solved well.Art: CMYKat
Furthermore, as with preventing confused deputy and/or canonicalization attacks above, you must also include the fully qualified path of each field in the data that gets signed.
As I said with encryption before, but also true here:
Where your data lives is part of its identity, and MUST be authenticated.
Soatok’s Rule of Database Cryptography
This requirement holds true whether you’re using symmetric-key authentication (i.e. HMAC) or asymmetric-key digital signatures (e.g. EdDSA).
Bonus: A Maximally Schema-Free, Upgradeable Authentication Design
Art: HarubakiOkay, how do you solve this problem so that you can perform updates and upgrades to your schema but without enabling attackers to downgrade the security? Here’s one possible design.
Let’s say you have two metadata fields on each record:
- A compressed binary string representing which fields should be authenticated. This field is, itself, not authenticated. Let’s call this
meta-auth. - A compressed binary string representing which of the authenticated fields should also be encrypted. This field is also authenticated. This is at most the same length as the first metadata field. Let’s call this
meta-enc.
Furthermore, you will specify a canonical field ordering for both how data is fed into the signature algorithm as well as the field mappings in
meta-authandmeta-enc.{ "example": { "credit-card": { "number": /* encrypted */, "expiration": /* encrypted */, "ccv": /* encrypted */ }, "superfluous": { "rewards-member": null } }, "meta-auth": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false, /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ true /* meta-enc */ ]), "meta-enc": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ ]), "signature": /* -- snip -- */}When you go to append data to an existing record, you’ll need to update
meta-authto include the mapping of fields based on this canonical ordering to ensure only the intended fields get validated.When you update your code to add an additional field that is intended to be signed, you can roll that out for new records and the record will continue to be self-describing:
- New records will have the additional field flagged as authenticated in
meta-auth(andmeta-encwill grow) - Old records will not, but your code will still sign them successfully
- To prevent downgrade attacks, simply include a schema version ID as an additional plaintext field that gets authenticated. An attacker who tries to downgrade will need to be able to produce a valid signature too.
You might think
meta-authgives an attacker some advantage, but this only includes which fields are included in the security boundary of the signature or MAC, which allows unauthenticated data to be appended for whatever operational purpose without having to update signatures or expose signing keys to a wider part of the network.{ "example": { "credit-card": { "number": /* encrypted */, "expiration": /* encrypted */, "ccv": /* encrypted */ }, "superfluous": { "rewards-member": null } }, "meta-auth": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false, /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ true, /* meta-enc */ true /* meta-version */ ]), "meta-enc": compress_bools([ true, /* example.credit-card.number */ true, /* example.credit-card.expiration */ true, /* example.credit-card.ccv */ false, /* example.superfluous.rewards-member */ true /* meta-version */ ]), "meta-version": 0x01000000, "signature": /* -- snip -- */}If an attacker tries to use the
meta-authfield to mess with a record, the best they can hope for is an Invalid Signature exception (assuming the signature algorithm is secure to begin with).Even if they keep all of the fields the same, but play around with the structure of the record (e.g. changing the XPath or equivalent), so long as the path is authenticated with each field, breaking this is computationally infeasible.
Searchable Encryption
If you’ve managed to make it through the previous sections, congratulations, you now know enough to build a secure but completely useless database.
Art: CMYKatOkay, put away the pitchforks; I will explain.
Part of the reason why we store data in a database, rather than a flat file, is because we want to do more than just read and write. Sometimes computer scientists want to compute. Almost always, you want to be able to query your database for a subset of records based on your specific business logic needs.
And so, a database which doesn’t do anything more than store ciphertext and maybe signatures is pretty useless to most people. You’d have better luck selling Monkey JPEGs to furries than convincing most businesses to part with their precious database-driven report generators.
Art: SophieSo whenever one of your users wants to actually use their data, rather than just store it, they’re forced to decide between two mutually exclusive options:
- Encrypting the data, to protect it from unauthorized disclosure, but render it useless
- Doing anything useful with the data, but leaving it unencrypted in the database
This is especially annoying for business types that are all in on the Zero Trust buzzword.
Fortunately, the cryptographers are at it again, and boy howdy do they have a lot of solutions for this problem.
Order-{Preserving, Revealing} Encryption
On the fun side of things, you have things like Order-Preserving and Order-Revealing Encryption, which Matthew Green wrote about at length.
[D]atabase encryption has been a controversial subject in our field. I wish I could say that there’s been an actual debate, but it’s more that different researchers have fallen into different camps, and nobody has really had the data to make their position in a compelling way. There have actually been some very personal arguments made about it.
Attack of the week: searchable encryption and the ever-expanding leakage function
The problem with these designs is that they have a significant enough leakage that it no longer provides semantic security.
From Grubbs, et al. (GLMP, 2019.)
Colors inverted to fit my blog’s theme better.To put it in other words: These designs are only marginally better than ECB mode, and probably deserve their own poems too.
Order revealing
Reveals much more than order
Softcore ECBOrder preserving
Semantic security?
Only in your dreamsHaiku for your consideration
Deterministic Encryption
Here’s a simpler, but also terrible, idea for searchable encryption: Simply give up on semantic security entirely.
If you recall the
AES_{De,En}crypt()functions built into MySQL I mentioned at the start of this article, those are the most common form of deterministic encryption I’ve seen in use.SELECT * FROM foo WHERE bar = AES_Encrypt('query', 'key');However, there are slightly less bad variants. If you use AES-GCM-SIV with a static nonce, your ciphertexts are fully deterministic, and you can encrypt a small number of distinct records safely before you’re no longer secure.
From Page 14 of the linked paper. Full view.That’s certainly better than nothing, but you also can’t mitigate confused deputy attacks. But we can do better than this.
Homomorphic Encryption
In a safer plane of academia, you’ll find homomorphic encryption, which researchers recently demonstrated with serving Wikipedia pages in a reasonable amount of time.
Homomorphic encryption allows computations over the ciphertext, which will be reflected in the plaintext, without ever revealing the key to the entity performing the computation.
If this sounds vaguely similar to the conditions that enable chosen-ciphertext attacks, you probably have a good intuition for how it works: RSA is homomorphic to multiplication, AES-CTR is homomorphic to XOR. Fully homomorphic encryption uses lattices, which enables multiple operations but carries a relatively enormous performance cost.
Art: HarubakiHomomorphic encryption sometimes intersects with machine learning, because the notion of training an encrypted model by feeding it encrypted data, then decrypting it after-the-fact is desirable for certain business verticals. Your data scientists never see your data, and you have some plausible deniability about the final ML model this work produces. This is like a Siren song for Venture Capitalist-backed medical technology companies. Tech journalists love writing about it.
However, a less-explored use case is the ability to encrypt your programs but still get the correct behavior and outputs. Although this sounds like a DRM technology, it’s actually something that individuals could one day use to prevent their ISPs or cloud providers from knowing what software is being executed on the customer’s leased hardware. The potential for a privacy win here is certainly worth pondering, even if you’re a tried and true Pirate Party member.
Just say “NO” to the copyright cartels.Art: CMYKat
Searchable Symmetric Encryption (SSE)
Forget about working at the level of fields and rows or individual records. What if we, instead, worked over collections of documents, where each document is viewed as a set of keywords from a keyword space?
Art: CMYKatThat’s the basic premise of SSE: Encrypting collections of documents rather than individual records.
The actual implementation details differ greatly between designs. They also differ greatly in their leakage profiles and susceptibility to side-channel attacks.
Some schemes use a so-called trapdoor permutation, such as RSA, as one of their building blocks.
Some schemes only allow for searching a static set of records, while others can accommodate new data over time (with the trade-off between more leakage or worse performance).
If you’re curious, you can learn more about SSE here, and see some open source SEE implementations online here.
You’re probably wondering, “If SSE is this well-studied and there are open source implementations available, why isn’t it more widely used?”
Your guess is as good as mine, but I can think of a few reasons:
- The protocols can be a little complicated to implement, and aren’t shipped by default in cryptography libraries (i.e. OpenSSL’s libcrypto or libsodium).
- Every known security risk in SSE is the product of a trade-offs, rather than there being a single winner for all use cases that developers can feel comfortable picking.
- Insufficient marketing and developer advocacy.
SSE schemes are mostly of interest to academics, although Seny Kamara (Brown Univeristy professior and one of the luminaries of searchable encryption) did try to develop an app called Pixek which used SSE to encrypt photos.
Maybe there’s room for a cryptography competition on searchable encryption schemes in the future.
You Can Have Little a HMAC, As a Treat
Finally, I can’t talk about searchable encryption without discussing a technique that’s older than dirt by Internet standards, that has been independently reinvented by countless software developers tasked with encrypting database records.
The oldest version I’ve been able to track down dates to 2006 by Raul Garcia at Microsoft, but I’m not confident that it didn’t exist before.
The idea I’m alluding to goes like this:
- Encrypt your data, securely, using symmetric cryptography.
(Hopefully your encryption addresses the considerations outlined in the relevant sections above.) - Separately, calculate an HMAC over the unencrypted data with a separate key used exclusively for indexing.
When you need to query your data, you can just recalculate the HMAC of your challenge and fetch the records that match it. Easy, right?
Even if you rotate your keys for encryption, you keep your indexing keys static across your entire data set. This lets you have durable indexes for encrypted data, which gives you the ability to do literal lookups for the performance hit of a hash function.
Additionally, everyone has HMAC in their toolkit, so you don’t have to move around implementations of complex cryptographic building blocks. You can live off the land. What’s not to love?
Hooray!However, if you stopped here, we regret to inform you that your data is no longer indistinguishable from random, which probably undermines the security proof for your encryption scheme.
How annoying!Of course, you don’t have to stop with the addition of plain HMAC to your database encryption software.
Take a page from Troy Hunt: Truncate the output to provide k-anonymity rather than a direct literal look-up.
“K-What Now?”
Imagine you have a full HMAC-SHA256 of the plaintext next to every ciphertext record with a static key, for searchability.
Each HMAC output corresponds 1:1 with a unique plaintext.
Because you’re using HMAC with a secret key, an attacker can’t just build a rainbow table like they would when attempting password cracking, but it still leaks duplicate plaintexts.
For example, an HMAC-SHA256 output might look like this:
Art: CMYKat\04a74e4c0158e34a566785d1a5e1167c4e3455c42aea173104e48ca810a8b1aeIf you were to slice off most of those bytes (e.g. leaving only the last 3, which in the previous example yields
a8b1ae), then with sufficient records, multiple plaintexts will now map to the same truncated HMAC tag.Which means if you’re only revealing a truncated HMAC tag to the database server (both when storing records or retrieving them), you can now expect false positives due to collisions in your truncated HMAC tag.
These false positives give your data a discrete set of anonymity (called k-anonymity), which means an attacker with access to your database cannot:
- Distinguish between two encrypted records with the same short HMAC tag.
- Reverse engineer the short HMAC tag into a single possible plaintext value, even if they can supply candidate queries and study the tags sent to the database.
As with SSE above, this short HMAC technique exposes a trade-off to users.
- Too much k-anonymity (i.e. too many false positives), and you will have to decrypt-then-discard multiple mismatching records. This can make queries slow.
- Not enough k-anonymity (i.e. insufficient false positives), and you’re no better off than a full HMAC.
Even more troublesome, the right amount to truncate is expressed in bits (not bytes), and calculating this value depends on the number of unique plaintext values you anticipate in your dataset. (Fortunately, it grows logarithmically, so you’ll rarely if ever have to tune this.)
If you’d like to play with this idea, here’s a quick and dirty demo script.
Intermission
If you started reading this post with any doubts about Cendyne’s statement that “Database cryptography is hard”, by making it to this point, they’ve probably been long since put to rest.
Art: HarubakiConversely, anyone that specializes in this topic is probably waiting for me to say anything novel or interesting; their patience wearing thin as I continue to rehash a surface-level introduction of their field without really diving deep into anything.
Thus, if you’ve read this far, I’d like to demonstrate the application of what I’ve covered thus far into a real-world case study into an database cryptography product.
Case Study: MongoDB Client-Side Encryption
MongoDB is an open source schema-free NoSQL database. Last year, MongoDB made waves when they announced Queryable Encryption in their upcoming client-side encryption release.
Taken from the press release, but adapted for dark themes.A statement at the bottom of their press release indicates that this isn’t clown-shoes:
Queryable Encryption was designed by MongoDB’s Advanced Cryptography Research Group, headed by Seny Kamara and Tarik Moataz, who are pioneers in the field of encrypted search. The Group conducts cutting-edge peer-reviewed research in cryptography and works with MongoDB engineering teams to transfer and deploy the latest innovations in cryptography and privacy to the MongoDB data platform.
If you recall, I mentioned Seny Kamara in the SSE section of this post. They certainly aren’t wrong about Kamara and Moataz being pioneers in this field.
So with that in mind, let’s explore the implementation in libmongocrypt and see how it stands up to scrutiny.
MongoCrypt: The Good
MongoDB’s encryption library takes key management seriously: They provide a KMS integration for cloud users by default (supporting both AWS and Azure).
MongoDB uses Encrypt-then-MAC with AES-CBC and HMAC-SHA256, which is congruent to what Signal does for message encryption.
How Is Queryable Encryption Implemented?
From the current source code, we can see that MongoCrypt generates several different types of tokens, using HMAC (calculation defined here).
According to their press release:
The feature supports equality searches, with additional query types such as range, prefix, suffix, and substring planned for future releases.
Which means that most of the juicy details probably aren’t public yet.
These HMAC-derived tokens are stored wholesale in the data structure, but most are encrypted before storage using AES-CTR.
There are more layers of encryption (using AEAD), server-side token processing, and more AES-CTR-encrypted edge tokens. All of this is finally serialized (implementation) as one blob for storage.
Since only the equality operation is currently supported (which is the same feature you’d get from HMAC), it’s difficult to speculate what the full feature set looks like.
However, since Kamara and Moataz are leading its development, it’s likely that this feature set will be excellent.
MongoCrypt: The Bad
Every call to
do_encrypt()includes at most the Key ID (but typicallyNULL) as the AAD. This means that the concerns over Confused Deputies (and NoSQL specifically) are relevant to MongoDB.However, even if they did support authenticating the fully qualified path to a field in the AAD for their encryption, their AEAD construction is vulnerable to the kind of canonicalization attack I wrote about previously.
First, observe this code which assembles the multi-part inputs into HMAC.
/* Construct the input to the HMAC */uint32_t num_intermediates = 0;_mongocrypt_buffer_t intermediates[3];// -- snip --if (!_mongocrypt_buffer_concat ( &to_hmac, intermediates, num_intermediates)) { CLIENT_ERR ("failed to allocate buffer"); goto done;}if (hmac == HMAC_SHA_512_256) { uint8_t storage[64]; _mongocrypt_buffer_t tag = {.data = storage, .len = sizeof (storage)}; if (!_crypto_hmac_sha_512 (crypto, Km, &to_hmac, &tag, status)) { goto done; } // Truncate sha512 to first 256 bits. memcpy (out->data, tag.data, MONGOCRYPT_HMAC_LEN);} else { BSON_ASSERT (hmac == HMAC_SHA_256); if (!_mongocrypt_hmac_sha_256 (crypto, Km, &to_hmac, out, status)) { goto done; }}The implementation of
_mongocrypt_buffer_concat()can be found here.If either the implementation of that function, or the code I snipped from my excerpt, had contained code that prefixed every segment of the AAD with the length of the segment (represented as a
uint64_tto make overflow infeasible), then their AEAD mode would not be vulnerable to canonicalization issues.Using TupleHash would also have prevented this issue.
Silver lining for MongoDB developers: Because the AAD is either a key ID or NULL, this isn’t exploitable in practice.
The first cryptographic flaw sort of cancels the second out.
If the libmongocrypt developers ever want to mitigate Confused Deputy attacks, they’ll need to address this canonicalization issue too.
MongoCrypt: The Ugly
MongoCrypt supports deterministic encryption.
If you specify deterministic encryption for a field, your application passes a deterministic initialization vector to AEAD.
We already discussed why this is bad above.
Wrapping Up
This was not a comprehensive treatment of the field of database cryptography. There are many areas of this field that I did not cover, nor do I feel qualified to discuss.
However, I hope anyone who takes the time to read this finds themselves more familiar with the subject.
Additionally, I hope any developers who think “encrypting data in a database is [easy, trivial] (select appropriate)” will find this broad introduction a humbling experience.
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Key Transparency and the Right to be Forgotten
This post is the first in a new series covering some of the reasoning behind decisions made in my project to build end-to-end encryption for direct messages on the Fediverse.
(Collectively, Fedi-E2EE.)
Although the reasons for specific design decisions should be immediately obvious from reading the relevant specification (and if not, I consider that a bug in the specification), I believe writing about it less formally will improve the clarity behind the specific design decisions taken.
In the inaugural post for this series, I’d like to focus on how the Fedi-E2EE Public Key Directory specification aims to provide Key Transparency and an Authority-free PKI for the Fediverse without making GDPR compliance logically impossible.
CMYKat‘s art, edited by me.Background
Key Transparency
For a clearer background, I recommend reading my blog post announcing the focused effort on a Public Key Directory, and then my update from August 2024.
If you’re in a hurry, I’ll be brief:
The goal of Key Transparency is to ensure everyone in a network sees the same view of who has which public key.
How it accomplishes this is a little complicated: It involves Merkle trees, digital signatures, and a higher-level protocol of distinct actions that affect the state machine.
If you’re thinking “blockchain”, you’re in the right ballpark, but we aren’t propping up a cryptocurrency. Instead, we’re using a centralized publisher model (per Public Key Directory instance) with decentralized verification.
Add a bit of cross-signing and replication, and you can stitch together a robust network of Public Key Directories that can be queried to obtain the currently-trusted list of public keys (or other auxiliary data) for a given Fediverse user. This can then be used to build application-layer protocols (i.e., end-to-end encryption with an identity key more robust than “trust on first use” due to the built-in audit trail to Merkle trees).
I’m handwaving a lot of details here. The Architecture and Specification documents are both worth a read if you’re curious to learn more.
HarubakiRight To Be Forgotten
I am not a lawyer, nor do I play one on TV. This is not legal advice. Other standard disclaimers go here.
Okay, now that we’ve got that out of the way, Article 17 of the GDPR establishes a “Right to erasure” for Personal Data.
What this actually means in practice has not been consistently decided by the courts yet. However, a publicly readable, immutable ledger that maps public keys (which may be considered Personal Data) with Actor IDs (which includes usernames, which are definitely Personal Data) goes against the grain when it comes to GDPR.
It remains an open question of there is public interest in this data persisting in a read-only ledger ad infinitum, which could override the right to be forgotten. If there is, that’s for the courts to decide, not furry tech bloggers.
I know it can be tempting, especially as an American with no presence in the European Union, to shrug and say, “That seems like a them problem.” However, if other folks want to be able to use my designs within the EU, I would be remiss to at least consider this potential pitfall and try to mitigate it in my designs.
So that’s exactly what I did.
AJAlmost Contradictory
At first glance, the privacy goals of both Key Transparency and the GDPR’s Right To Erasure are at odds.
- One creates an immutable, append-only history.
- The other establishes a right for EU citizens’ history to be selectively censored, which means history has to be mutable.
However, they’re not totally impossible to reconcile.
An untested legal theory circulating around large American tech companies is that “crypto shredding” is legally equivalent to erasure.
Crypto shredding is the act of storing encrypted data, and then when given a legal takedown request from an EU citizen, deleting the key instead of the data.
AJThis works from a purely technical perspective: If the data is encrypted, and you don’t know the key, to you it’s indistinguishable from someone who encrypted the same number of NUL bytes.
In fact, many security proofs for encryption schemes are satisfied by reaching this conclusion, so this isn’t a crazy notion.
Is Crypto Shredding Plausible?
In 2019, the European Parliamentary Research Service published a lengthy report titled Blockchain and the General Data Protection Regulation which states the following:
Before any examination of whether blockchain technology is capable of complying with Article 17 GDPR; it must be underscored that the precise meaning of the term ‘erasure’ remains unclear.
Article 17 GDPR does not define erasure, and the Regulation’s recitals are equally mum on how this term should be understood. It might be assumed that a common-sense understanding of this terminology ought to be embraced. According to the Oxford English Dictionary, erasure means ‘the removal or writing, recorded material, or data’ or ‘the removal of all traces of something: obliteration’.494
From this perspective, erasure could be taken to equal destruction. It has, however, already been stressed that the destruction of data on blockchains, particularly these of a public and permissionless nature, is far from straightforward.
There are, however, indications that the obligation inherent to Article 17 GDPR does not have to be interpreted as requiring the outright destruction of data. In Google Spain, the delisting of information from research results was considered to amount to erasure. It is important to note, however, that in this case, this is all that was requested of Google by the claimant, who did not have control over the original data source (an online newspaper publication). Had the claimant wished to obtain the outright destruction of the relevant data it would have had to address the newspaper, not Google. This may be taken as an indication that what the GDPR requires is that the obligation resting on data controllers is to do all they can to secure a result as close as possible to the destruction of their data within the limits of [their] own factual possibilities.
Dr Michèle Finck, Blockchain and the General Data Protection Regulation, pp. 75-76
From this, we can kind of intuit that the courts aren’t pedantic: The cited Google Spain case was satisfied by merely delisting the content, not the erasure of the newspaper’s archives.
The report goes on to say:
As awareness regarding the tricky reconciliation between Article 17 GDPR and distributed ledgers grows, a number of technical alternatives to the outright destruction of data have been considered by various actors. An often-mentioned solution is that of the destruction of the private key, which would have the effect of making data encrypted with a public key inaccessible. This is indeed the solution that has been put forward by the French data protection authority CNIL in its guidance on blockchains and the GDPR. The CNIL has suggested that erasure could be obtained where the keyed hash function’s secret key is deleted together with information from other systems where it was stored for processing.
Dr Michèle Finck, Blockchain and the General Data Protection Regulation, pp. 76-77
That said, I cannot locate a specific court decision that affirms that crypto erasure is legally sufficient for complying with data erasure requests (nor any that affirm that it’s necessary).
I don’t have a crystal ball that can read the future on what government compliance will decide, nor am I an expert in legal matters.
Given the absence of a clear legal framework, I do think it’s totally reasonable to consider crypto-shredding equivalent to data erasure. Most experts would probably agree with this. But it’s also possible that the courts could rule totally stupidly on this one day.
Therefore, I must caution anyone that follows a similar path: Do not claim GDPR compliance just because you implement crypto-shredding in a distributed ledger. All you can realistically promise is that you’re not going out of your way to make compliance logically impossible. All we have to go by are untested legal hypotheses, and very little clarity (even if the technologists are near-unanimous on the topic!).
Towards A Solution
With all that in mind, let’s start with “crypto shredding” as the answer to the GDPR + transparency log conundrum.
This is only the start of our complications.
CMYKatProtocol Risks Introduced by Crypto Shredding
Before the introduction of crypto shredding, the job of the Public Key Directory was simple:
- Receive a protocol message.
- Validate the protocol message.
- Commit the protocol message to a transparency log (in this case, Sigsum).
- Retrieve the protocol message whenever someone requests it to independently verify its inclusion.
- Miscellaneous other protocol things (cross-directory checkpoint commitment, replication, etc.).
Point being: there was very little that the directory could do to be dishonest. If they lied about the contents of a record, it would invalidate the inclusion proofs of every successive record in the ledger.
In order to make a given record crypto-shreddable without breaking the inclusion proofs for every record that follows, we need to commit to the ciphertext, not the plaintext. (And then, when a takedown request comes in, wipe the key.)
Now, things are quite more interesting.
Do you…
- …Distribute the encryption key alongside the ciphertext and let independent third parties decrypt it on demand?
…OR…
- Decrypt the ciphertext and serve plaintext through the public API, keeping the encryption key private so that it may be shredded later?
The first option seems simple, but runs into governance issues: How do you claim the data was crypto-shredded if countless individuals have a copy of the encryption key, and can therefore recover the plaintext from the ciphertext?
I don’t think that would stand up in court.
CMYKatClearly, your best option is the second one.
Okay, so how does an end user know that the ciphertext that was committed to the transparency ledger decrypts to the specific plaintext value served by the Public Key Directory? How do users know it’s not lying?
Quick aside: This question is also relevant if you went with the first option and used a non-committing AEAD mode for the actual encryption scheme.
In that scenario, a hostile nation state adversary could pressure a Public Key Directory to selectively give one decryption key to targeted users, and another to the rest of the Internet, in order to perform a targeted attack against citizens they’d rather didn’t have civil rights.
My entire goal with introducing key transparency to my end-to-end encryption proposal is to prevent these sorts of attacks, not enable them.
There are a lot of avenues we could explore here, but it’s always worth outlining the specific assumptions and security goals of any design before you start perusing the literature.
AJAssumptions
This is just a list of things we assume are true, and do not need to prove for the sake of our discussion here today. The first two are legal assumptions; the remainder are cryptographic.
Ask your lawyer if you want advice about the first two assumptions. Ask your cryptographer if you suspect any of the remaining assumptions are false.
- Crypto-shredding is a legally valid way to provide data erasure (as discussed above).
- EU courts will consider public keys to be Personal Data.
- The SHA-2 family of hash functions is secure (ignoring length-extension attacks, which won’t matter for how we’re using them).
- HMAC is a secure way to build a MAC algorithm out of a secure hash function.
- HKDF is a secure KDF if used correctly.
- AES is a secure 128-bit block cipher.
- Counter Mode (CTR) is a secure way to turn a block cipher into a stream cipher.
- AES-CTR + HMAC-SHA2 can be turned into a secure AEAD mode, if done carefully.
- Ed25519 is a digital signature algorithm that provides strong security against existent forgery under a chosen-message attack (SUF-CMA).
- Argon2id is a secure, memory-hard password KDF, when used with reasonable parameters. (You’ll see why in a moment.)
- Sigsum is a secure mechanism for building a transparency log.
This list isn’t exhaustive or formal, but should be sufficient for our purposes.
Security Goals
- The protocol messages stored in the Public Key Directory are accompanied by a Merkle tree proof of inclusion. This makes it append-only with an immutable history.
- The Public Key Directory cannot behave dishonestly about the decrypted plaintext for a given ciphertext without clients detecting the deception.
- Whatever strategy we use to solve this should be resistant to economic precomputation and brute-force attacks.
Can We Use Zero-Knowledge Proofs?
At first, this seems like an ideal situation for a succinct, non-interactive zero-knowledge proof.
After all, you’ve got some secret data that you hold, and you want to prove that a calculation is correct without revealing the data to the end user. This seems like the ideal setup for Schnorr’s identification protocol.
CMYKatUnfortunately, the second assumption (public keys being considered Personal Data by courts, even though they’re derived from random secret keys) makes implementing a Zero-Knowledge Proof here very challenging.
First, if you look at Ed25519 carefully, you’ll realize that it’s just a digital signature algorithm built atop a Schnorr proof, which requires some sort of public key (even an ephemeral one) to be managed.
Worse, if you try to derive this value solely from public inputs (rather than creating a key management catch-22), the secret scalar your system derives at will have been calculated from the user’s Personal Data–which only strengthens a court’s argument that the public key is therefore personally identifiable.
CMKatThere may be a more exotic zero-knowledge proof scheme that might be appropriate for our needs, but I’m generally wary of fancy new cryptography.
Here are two rules I live by in this context:
- If I can’t get the algorithms out of the crypto module for whatever programming language I find myself working with, it may as well not even exist.
- Corollary: If libsodium bindings are available, that counts as “the crypto module” too.
- If a developer needs to reach for a generic Big Integer library (e.g., GMP) for any reason in the course of implementing a protocol, I do not trust their implementation.
Unfortunately, a lot of zero-knowledge proof designs fail one or both of these rules in practice.
(Sorry not sorry, homomorphic encryption enthusiasts! The real world hasn’t caught up to your ideas yet.)
What About Verifiable Random Functions (VRFs)?
It may be tempting to use VRFs (i.e., RFC 9381), but this runs into the same problem as zero-knowledge proofs: we’re assuming that an EU court would deem public keys Personal Data.
But even if that assumption turns out false, the lifecycle of a protocol message looks like this:
- User wants to perform an action (e.g.,
AddKey). - Their client software creates a plaintext protocol message.
- Their client software generates a random 256-bit key for each potentially-sensitive attribute, so it can be shredded later.
- Their client software encrypts each attribute of the protocol message.
- The ciphertext and keys are sent to the Public Key Directory.
- For each attribute, the Public Key Directory decrypts the ciphertext with the key, verifies the contents, and then stores both. The ciphertext is used to generate a commitment on Sigsum (signed by the Public Key Directory’s keypair).
- The Public Key Directory serves plaintext to requestors, but does not disclose the key.
- In the future, the end user can demand a legal takedown, which just wipes the key.
Let’s assume I wanted to build a VRF out of Ed25519 (similar to what Signal does with VXEdDSA). Now I have a key management problem, which is pretty much what this project was meant to address in the first place.
VRFs are really cool, and more projects should use them, but I don’t think they will help me.
CMYKatSoatok’s Proposed Solution
If you want to fully understand the nitty-gritty implementation details, I encourage you to read the current draft specification, plus the section describing the encryption algorithm, and finally the plaintext commitment algorithm.
Now that we’ve established all that, I can begin to describe my approach to solving this problem.
First, we will encrypt each attribute of a protocol message, as follows:
- For subkey derivation, we use HKDF-HMAC-SHA512.
- For encrypting the actual plaintext, we use AES-256-CTR.
- For message authentication, we use HMAC-SHA512.
- Additional associated data (AAD) is accepted and handled securely; i.e., we don’t use YOLO as a hash construction.
This prevents an Invisible Salamander attack from being possible.
This encryption is performed client-side, by each user, and the symmetric key for each attribute is shared with the Public Key Directory when publishing protocol messages.
If they later issue a legal request for erasure, they can be sure that the key used to encrypt the data they previously published isn’t secretly the same key used by every other user’s records.
They always know this because they selected the key, not the server. Furthermore, everyone can verify that the hash published to the Merkle tree matches a locally generated hash of the ciphertext they just emitted.
This provides a mechanism to keep everyone honest. If anything goes wrong, it will be detected.
Next, to prevent the server from being dishonest, we include a plaintext commitment hash, which is included as part of the AAD (alongside the attribute name).
(Implementing crypto-shredding is straightforward: simply wipe the encryption keys for the attributes of the records in scope for the request.)
If you’ve read this far, you’re probably wondering, “What exactly do you mean by plaintext commitment?”
Art by Scruff.Plaintext Commitments
The security of a plaintext commitment is attained by the Argon2id password hashing function.
By using the Argon2id KDF, you can make an effective trapdoor that is easy to calculate if you know the plaintext, but economically infeasible to brute-force attack if you do not.
However, you need to do a little more work to make it safe.
HarubakiThe details here matter a lot, so this section is unavoidably going to be a little dense.
Pass the Salt?
Argon2id expects both a password and a salt.
If you eschew the salt (i.e., zero it out), you open the door to precomputation attacks (see also: rainbow tables) that would greatly weaken the security of this plaintext commitment scheme.
You need a salt.
If you generate the salt randomly, this commitment property isn’t guaranteed by the algorithm. It would be difficult, but probably not impossible, to find two salts (, ) such that .
Deriving the salt from public inputs eliminates this flexibility.
By itself, this reintroduces the risk of making salts totally deterministic, which reintroduces the risk of precomputation attacks (which motivated the salt in the first place).
If you include the plaintext in this calculation, it could also create a crib that gives attackers a shortcut for bypassing the cost of password hashing.
Furthermore, any two encryptions operations that act over the same plaintext would, without any additional design considerations, produce an identical value for the plaintext commitment.
CMYKatPublic Inputs for Salt Derivation
The initial proposal included the plaintext value for Argon2 salt derivation, and published the salt and Argon2 output next to each other.
Hacker News comex pointed out a flaw with this technique, so I’ve since revised how salts are selected to make them independent of the plaintext.
The public inputs for the Argon2 salt are now:
- The version identifier prefix for the ciphertext blob.
- The 256-bit random value used as a KDF salt (also stored in the ciphertext blob).
- A recent Merkle tree root.
- The attribute name (prefixed by its length).
These values are all hashed together with SHA-512, and then truncated to 128 bits (the length required by libsodium for Argon2 salts).
This salt is not stored, but can deterministically be calculated from public information.
Crisis Averted?
This sure sounds like we’ve arrived at a solution, but let’s also consider another situation before we declare our job done.
High-traffic Public Key Directories may have multiple users push a protocol message with the same recent Merkle root.
This may happen if two or more users query the directory to obtain the latest Merkle root before either of them publish their updates.
Later, if both of these users issue a legal takedown, someone might observe that the
recent-merkle-rootis the same for two messages, but their commitments differ.Is this enough leakage to distinguish plaintext records?
In my earlier design, we needed to truncate the salt and rely on understanding the birthday bound to reason about its security. This is no longer the case, since each salt is randomized by the same random value used in key derivation.
Choosing Other Parameters
As mentioned a second ago, we set the output length of the Argon2id KDF to 32 bytes (256 bits). We expect the security of this KDF to exceed , which to most users might as well be infinity.
With apologies to Filippo.The other Argon2id parameters are a bit hand-wavey. Although the general recommendation for Argon2id is to use as much memory as possible, this code will inevitably run in some low-memory environments, so asking for several gigabytes isn’t reasonable.
For the first draft, I settled on 16 MiB of memory, 3 iterations, and a parallelism degree of 1 (for widespread platform support).
Plaintext Commitment Algorithm
With all that figured out, our plaintext commitment algorithm looks something like this:
- Calculate the SHA512 hash of:
- A domain separation constant
- The header prefix (stored in the ciphertext)
- The randomness used for key-splitting in encryption (stored in the ciphertext)
- Recent Merkle Root
- Attribute Name Length (64-bit unsigned integer)
- Attribute Name
- Truncate this hash to the rightmost 16 bytes (128 bits). This is the salt.
- Calculate Argon2id over the following inputs concatenated in this order, with an output length of 32 bytes (256 bits), using the salt from step 2:
- Recent Merle Root Length (64-bit unsigned integer)
- Recent Merkle Root
- Attribute Name Length (64-bit unsigned integer)
- Attribute Name
- Plaintext Length (64-bit unsigned integer)
- Plaintext
The output (step 3) is included as the AAD in the attribute encryption step, so the authentication tag is calculated over both the randomness and the commitment.
To verify a commitment (which is extractable from the ciphertext), simply recalculate the commitment you expect (using the recent Merkle root specified by the record), and compare the two in constant-time.
If they match, then you know the plaintext you’re seeing is the correct value for the ciphertext value that was committed to the Merkle tree.
If the encryption key is shredded in the future, an attacker without knowledge of the plaintext will have an enormous uphill battle recovering it from the KDF output (and the salt will prove to be somewhat useless as a crib).
AJCaveats and Limitations
Although this design does satisfy the specific criteria we’ve established, an attacker that already knows the correct plaintext can confirm that a specific record matches it via the plaintext commitment.
This cannot be avoided: If we are to publish a commitment of the plaintext, someone with the plaintext can always confirm the commitment after the fact.
CMYKatWhether this matters at all to the courts is a question for which I cannot offer any insight.
Remember, we don’t even know if any of this is actually necessary, or if “moderation and platform safety” is a sufficient reason to sidestep the right to erasure.
If the courts ever clarify this adequately, we can simply publish the mapping of Actor IDs to public keys and auxiliary data without any crypto-shredding at all.
Trying to attack it from the other direction (download a crypto-shredded record and try to recover the plaintext without knowing it ahead of time) is attack angle we’re interested in.
Herd Immunity for the Forgotten
Another interesting implication that might not be obvious: The more Fediverse servers and users publish to a single Public Key Directory, the greater the anonymity pool available to each of them.
Consider the case where a user has erased their previous Fediverse account and used the GDPR to also crypto-shred the Public Key Directory entries containing their old Actor ID.
To guess the correct plaintext, you must not only brute-force guessing possible usernames, but also permute your guesses across all of the instances in scope.
The more instances there are, the higher the cost of the attack.
CMYKatRecap
I tasked myself with designing a Key Transparency solution that doesn’t make complying with Article 17 of the GDPR nigh-impossible. To that end, crypto-shredding seemed like the only viable way forward.
A serialized record containing ciphertext for each sensitive attribute would be committed to the Merkle tree. The directory would store the key locally and serve plaintext until a legal takedown was requested by the user who owns the data. Afterwards, the stored ciphertext committed to the Merkle tree is indistinguishable from random for any party that doesn’t already know the plaintext value.
I didn’t want to allow Public Key Directories to lie about the plaintext for a given ciphertext, given that they know the key and the requestor doesn’t.
After considering zero-knowledge proofs and finding them to not be a perfect fit, I settled on designing a plaintext commitment scheme based on the Argon2id password KDF. The KDF salts can be calculated from public inputs.
Altogether, this meets the requirements of enabling crypto-shredding while keeping the Public Key Directory honest. All known attacks for this design are prohibitively expensive for any terrestrial threat actors.
As an added bonus, I didn’t introduce anything fancy. You can build all of this with the cryptography available to your favorite programming language today.
CMYKatClosing Thoughts
If you’ve made it this far without being horribly confused, you’ve successfully followed my thought process for developing message attribute shreddability in my Public Key Directory specification.
This is just one component of the overall design proposal, but one that I thought my readers would enjoy exploring in greater detail than the specification needed to capture.
(This post was updated on 2024-11-22 to replace the incorrect term “PII” with “personal data”. Apologies for the confusion!)
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Stopping Web Server Abuse with Fail2Ban
At 4am yesterday morning I was awake. Luckily so, as I checked my email and saw a warning that my VPS had been running at 199% CPU for two hours. I went into my office and checked the logs. Someone had been hammering this site with HEAD requests since just after midnight with nearly 30,000 requests across different URLs in four hours.
If they’d hit the same page repeatedly, cached responses would have handled it. But by requesting thousands of distinct URLs, each request generated a fresh cache file, forcing PHP and the database to do real work every time. My small server was coping, but the load average was high.
I blocked the offending IP in .htaccess immediately. That stopped requests from reaching PHP, but I wanted a proper defence, something that would catch this kind of abuse automatically next time.
I already had Fail2Ban installed. I’d just never configured it for web server attacks. Time to do that.
Fail2Ban works by watching log files for patterns, then banning IPs that match too often. I needed two files: a filter to match Apache access log lines, and a jail to define the thresholds.
First, the filter at /etc/fail2ban/filter.d/apache-ratelimit.conf:
[Definition] # Matches any request line in Apache access log (combined/common format) failregex = ^<HOST> -."(GET|HEAD|POST|PUT|DELETE|OPTIONS) . ignoreregex =
This matches every request in the log.
The jail decides what volume of requests counts as abuse. It lives at /etc/fail2ban/jail.d/apache-ratelimit.conf:
[apache-ratelimit] enabled = true filter = apache-ratelimit logpath = /var/www/logs/access.log # Triggers a ban after too many requests in a short window maxretry = 500 findtime = 30 # Ban for 24 hours bantime = 86400 # Use iptables to drop packets from banned IPs banaction = iptables-multiport port = http,https protocol = tcp # Allowlist trusted networks ignoreip = 127.0.0.1
The logic: if a single IP makes more than 500 requests in 30 seconds then ban it for 24 hours. Adjust maxretry and findtime to suit your traffic patterns. Legitimate crawlers and real users won’t come close to these numbers, but an attacker blasting thousands
of requests will trip the threshold fast. These are not the numbers I’m using.The ignoreip directive keeps trusted networks (monitoring services, your own IPs) from getting caught.
The changes to Fail2Ban are activated with the following command (as root):
systemctl restart fail2ban
And I verified it was running by checking the status:
fail2ban-client status apache-ratelimit
Within a couple of minutes, the offending IP appeared in the banned list. I checked the access log, and there was nothing more from that IP. The requests weren’t just being rejected by Apache; iptables was dropping the packets before they reached the web server at all.
That’s the key advantage over an .htaccess block: banned traffic never touches Apache.A VPS with limited resources can’t absorb a flood of uncached requests. Caching helps with repeat visits to the same page, but an attacker who rotates URLs defeats that entirely. Fail2Ban shifts the defence from the application layer down to the network
layer, where it’s cheap to enforce.If you run a small site on a VPS, configure fail2ban for your web server. It takes ten minutes and it works.
Anyway, I presume whoever did that attack is reading this post since they seem to like my blog so much. Why did you do it?
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A Bad Wife
I live with my two husbands. The oldest one stands across the courtyard – dead – two feet above ground, several feet below. The youngest one is plugged in the bedroom, recharging. While I sit here, trying to write the story of my life. Where should I begin?
Let’s begin from the beginning.
One day, Brahma created the beautiful earth – mountains and rivers, birds and animals – then went into deep meditation. When he awakened eons later, he saw that all creatures had multiplied and made the world even more gorgeous. Pleased, he thought: I should create beings who can truly appreciate this beauty the way I do! So he created four men from the four directions. Perfect beings. But when he commanded them to reproduce and populate the earth, they refused. Enraged by their disobedience, Brahma’s anger took form – Rudra emerged from his mind, fierce and obedient. “You! Create the people!” Brahma ordered Rudra, and returned to meditation. When he next opened his eyes, the earth crawled with ugly beasts. Disappointed, Brahma stopped Rudra’s work and sent him away to meditate, to dive deep into his soul and learn the proper way of creation. Then Brahma had a thought: Why not create a species like the animals – one that reproduces through attraction and desire, beings who will both enjoy this world and populate it? But he had no template, no shape for such creatures. He prayed to the higher energy for guidance. In response, a magnificent being appeared – half-man, half-woman. The divine energy smiled and said, “Divide my form into two parts. Make them man and woman. They will always be drawn to each other – if not in body, then in mind, if not in this life, then across lifetimes. Then someday, I myself will unite and guide them towards a better eternal world free from the shackles of mortality, desire and longing.”
My grandma used to tell this story from Shiva Purana when I was young. And I would ask her, why did Brahma tear apart something that was already complete?
Beta, she said, cracking her knuckles like small firecrackers, because completion makes the gods nervous. They prefer us hungry, always searching.
I think about this story often, especially when I consider the mathematics of my marriages – the endless calibration through adding and subtracting so that the sum of two incomplete entities might somehow equal one satisfied union.
In my forty five years of life, I have married three times. The first time to a tree – because the stars, in their infinite cosmic wisdom, declared me mangalik, astrologically toxic. “Caution: May cause sudden death in men. Handle with care.” The second time I married a man who married me just because he thought everyone else his age did and he must too. The third time I married something that might be the future, or might be my final descent into madness. We will see.
But before we begin this cautionary tale – or whatever it turns out to be – let me pose a question that has plagued philosophers from Plato to your neighborhood aunties: What is marriage, really? Is it a social contract? A biological imperative? A cosmic joke played by bored deities? Or is it simply the human heart’s stubborn refusal to learn from its own mistakes?
Oh, don’t look so uncomfortable. We’re all complicit here. You’ve loved, haven’t you? You’ve wanted things you couldn’t name, settled for things that named you instead? Good. Then you’ll understand.
They say women like me are dangerous. Thrice-married at forty-five, what-will-people-say. But people will say regardless, won’t they? They whispered when I married the tree at seventeen – what superstition, what drama. When I was unmarried (to a human male) at twenty-five – shelf-life expired, spoiled goods. When I divorced Rahul they called me used merchandise; and now, amongst the youngest of the family I’m the eccentric aunt with my “modern arrangement.”
The thing about marriage, I think, is that it has always been a transaction. Always. The currency has simply evolved. Earlier it was cows and gold and virgin hymens. Then it was emotional labor and intellectual compatibility and, in my most recent case, USB-C charging ports.
We tell ourselves stories about love conquering all, about soulmates and destiny and other beautiful lies. But marriage? Marriage is economics. Who owes what to whom? Who pays what price for whose presence? How much can one party spend of themselves before going bankrupt? Who subsidizes whose dreams, or not? Just like that.
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There once was a king who was desperately unhappy despite having everything. He consulted wise men, doctors, astrologers. Finally, someone told him, “Find the happiest man in your kingdom and wear his shirt. You’ll be cured.” The king sent his soldiers searching everywhere. They found the happiest man – a poor woodcutter singing in the forest, radiating joy. But when they asked for his shirt, he laughed and said, “Shirt? I don’t have a shirt!”
The king never got cured, but I learned something from that story: happiness isn’t something you can borrow from others. It’s something you either have or you don’t.
I was once happy. When My father was alive. My father used to call me his king. My little raja, he would say, lifting me up so I could see the world from the height of his love.
No, Papa, I would giggle. You are the king. I am your princess.
Then you are my princess who will grow up to rule her own kingdom one day, he would say, and in his voice I heard the certainty that I was destined for something magnificent.
He died when I was fifteen, a heart attack as sudden as monsoon lightning, leaving behind the smell of his aftershave and a daughter who would spend the next thirty years searching his shadow in every man that came into her life.
After his death, my mother’s eyes would grow distant when she looked at me. When you marry, she would say, folding saris that would someday fill my trousseau, your husband will be a king and keep you like a queen. That’s what your father would have wanted.
I wanted to tell her – Papa had seen me as royalty already. I didn’t need to marry into a kingdom; I had been born into one. But I couldn’t.
Who am I to you? A burden? I finally let it out in front of my mother during one of those angry, grief-heavy days.
You are my responsibility, she said, not unkindly, but with the weariness of a woman who had suddenly become sole proprietor of a daughter’s future. You are the girl I need to see safely married to a good man.
My mother was quick in fulfilling her responsibilities. I was seventeen when I first married – to a Banyan tree across the courtyard of our ancestral house.
Picture this, if you will: a seventeen-year-old girl, draped in wedding silk like a sacrifice wrapped for the gods, standing before a Banyan tree older than the British Raj. My mother weeping tears that could have been relief or shame. The priest was mumbling something about Mars and malefic energies, about how I was cosmically radioactive, matrimonially Chernobyl.
Better the tree than a boy, whispered my grandma jokingly. Trees don’t have mothers-in-law.
Wisdom, that. The kind that comes too late and cuts too deep.
I tied the sacred thread around the Banyan’s massive trunk – my arm barely spanning a tenth of its circumference and I felt something I hadn’t expected: relief. Like finally exhaling after holding your breath through an entire season. Foolish me believed that this was it. Done with the duty called ‘marriage’ in life.
I pressed my palm against the bark – rough, real. And I thought – this is what marriage feels like. Ancient. Immutable. Indifferent. But also calming.
What do you want from me? I asked it silently.
Nothing. It wanted nothing. For the first time after my father’s death, I was enough for someone. The tree never asked me to be fairer, thinner, quieter. It never demanded I cook its mother’s recipes or produce mini versions of it.
Tell me how to love you. I asked the tree once.
The leaves rustled. Wind, probably. But I chose to hear it as laughter.
You don’t, was what I thought it replied. You just stay.
Buddha attained enlightenment under a bodhi tree. I attained something equally revolutionary under my Banyan. Under its shade, I read books that would have scandalized my mother. I discovered things about myself that would have been considered improper for a good Hindu girl to know before marriage. I learned that I had desires that weren’t mentioned in any of the marriage preparation talks. That I could want a man’s hands on my body without wanting his name or his children. That I could imagine being kissed until my lips were swollen and my sari was wrinkled and my hair had escaped its braid, and none of this made me a bad woman – just a human one.
The tree kept my secrets. All of them.
Twenty years later… different tree now. Rahul’s family tree, thick with the branches of expectations, heavy with the fruit of traditional values. His mother’s eyes measuring me like rice in the market: Too dark. Too thin. But good family, respectable dowry, what-to-do.
The women at the wedding had their own commentary. She looks intelligent, said one, as if this were a disease I might recover from. Hope she doesn’t give Rahul too much trouble, said another. Educated girls can be difficult.
The wedding night. Picture this domestic tableau: He sits on the bed’s edge, cream silk kurta, looking like he’d rather be reading his Economic Times. Me, draped in red like a question mark in search of an answer.
What do you want from me? I asked him, because old habits die hard, and hope dies harder.
Just… don’t be difficult, he said. My mother has high blood pressure.
I wanted to laugh, I wanted to question, I wanted to be angry but I nodded instead. Good wife training, day one: your needs come last, your voice comes never.
Our intimacy was clinical. Like a medical procedure performed by someone who learned anatomy from textbooks but never studied pleasure. Rahul approached my body like a checklist: duty performed, hygiene maintained, wife still breathing and alive – check, check, check.
I lay there afterward, staring at the ceiling, wondering if this was what all the romance novels were about. This mechanical joining of parts that left me feeling more alone than I’d ever felt in my life.
Was it good for you? he asked, and I almost laughed. Good? Like dal was good when you were hungry? Like sleep was good when you were tired?
But I said Yes because that’s what good wives do. We perform satisfaction so our husbands can perform competence.
***
A man was searching for something under a streetlamp when his neighbor asked what he had lost. “My keys,” he said. “Where did you drop them?” the neighbor asked. “Inside my house.” “Then why are you looking for it here in the street?” “Because the light is better out here.”
Most women spend their marriages looking for happiness under the streetlight of other people’s expectations, even when they know they have dropped it somewhere inside themselves.
The early years of my marriage to Rahul were spent in this kind of misdirected searching. I kept trying to find satisfaction in his approval, joy in his rare moments of appreciation, love in the space between his criticism and indifference.
Two months into my marriage with Rahul, one day I was standing beneath my Banyan’s canopy while my mother complained about my complexion – how marriage should have made me glow, but I remained stubbornly myself. Too dark, too thin, too much Meera and not enough Wife. That was the last time I heard my first husband laughing.
Next week, I left for my honeymoon with Rahul. And behind me, my family took axes to my first husband. They cut down my Banyan in a single afternoon, while the same priest who had married us chanted mantras about releasing me from my botanical bonds.
I came home from my honeymoon – a dutiful three days in Goa where Rahul took photographs of us in front of tourist attractions like we were collecting evidence of happiness – to find my first husband dismembered in neat piles. Roots. Trunk. Branches. Leaves. Like a marriage sorted for garbage collection.
Now you’re free to love properly, my mother said. Apparently, I had been practicing on the tree and was finally ready for the real thing.
After that, my married life started giving me reality checks.
You put too much salt in the dal, Rahul would say, not unkindly but with the precision of a quality control inspector. My mother uses exactly one teaspoon per cup of lentils.
You laugh too loudly when we have guests. It draws attention.
Why do you need so many books? They take up so much space.
Who am I to you? I asked him once during our second year of marriage, watching him arrange his three dozen pairs of shoes.
You are my wife, he said, as if this were both question and answer, beginning and end, the totality of my existence captured in one word – wife.
Each suggestion fell like a small weight, and I collected them dutifully, carrying them in the growing hunch of my shoulders. By the end of our ten-year marriage, I had become ergonomically perfect disappointment.
The most dangerous thing about Rahul was not that he was cruel – he wasn’t. He was kind in the way that people are kind to stray animals they’re trying to domesticate. Patient. Consistent. Utterly convinced that love was a training program and I was a promising but undisciplined pupil who would eventually graduate into the perfect wife his mother had always been.
Tell me about your day, I would ask him over dinner, genuinely curious about his work, his thoughts, his inner world.
Same as always, he would say, eyes on his plate. Tell me if you need more grocery money. Mic drop.
I don’t blame Rahul, he was programmed that way by his mother.
My mother-in-law was a masterpiece of passive aggression. She could destroy your self-worth while making you tea, leaving you somehow grateful for the devastation.
She who had fought her own battles, compromised her own dreams, swallowed her own voice – she expected the same sacrifice from me. Not out of malice, but out of a twisted solidarity. I suffered, so you must suffer. I adjusted, so you must adjust. I never complained, so you have no right to complain. Consider yourself lucky though. Because I had it worse than you.
Who am I to you? I asked her once, desperate to understand my place in the careful hierarchy of her affections.
You are my son’s wife, she said, stirring sugar into my cup with the concentration of someone dissolving poison. And you’re so lucky. Rahul isn’t particular about looks, she would add, her tongue – a honey-dripping sword.
She monitored my menstrual cycles like a police officer, asking pointed questions about why I hadn’t conceived yet, suggesting doctors who specialized in fixing women like me.
Women policing women. Mothers-in-laws training daughters-in-laws to accept less so their sons would never have to offer more. A magnificent pyramid scheme of feminine oppression, with women as both victims and enforcers.
And then there was the matter of Vikram.
Aah, Vikram. My friend, my colleague at the library where I continued to work part-time even after my marriage with Rahul, until finally my mother-in-law couldn’t bear it. Why does she need to work? She would ask Rahul in my presence, Are we not providing enough?
Vikram brought me books like other men bring flowers – rare editions of Sylvia Plath with marginalia from previous readers, translations of Rumi that made my chest tight with recognition, contemporary Indian poets who wrote about women like they were whole human beings instead of fractional wives.
You understand poetry like you wrote them by yourself, he said once, watching me read Ghalib, my lips moving silently as I absorbed the rhythms.
Vikram would quote Faiz Ahmed Faiz in the middle of cataloging books: Don’t ask me for that love again, he’d recite, when your beauty was all there was for me, and I would feel something dangerous unfurl in my chest – the recognition that poetry could be conversation, that intelligence could be intimacy, that a man could see your mind as worth engaging.
He writes to you too much, Rahul observed one evening, listening to me laugh at something Vikram had written in his letter from France about Camus being the original philosopher of relationship anxiety.
We’re friends.
Married women don’t have male friends.
Says who?
Says everyone. Says tradition. Says common sense.
What about Radhika from your office? I asked, referring to his colleague who visited our house often and had somehow become his closest confidante about everything including our marriage troubles. You are with her more than you are with me.
That’s different, he said, not meeting my eyes. That’s work.
And when she cries to you about her boyfriend? Is that also work?
She needs someone to talk to.
So do I. That’s why I talk to Vikram.
It’s not the same thing, he said, and I realized he was right. It wasn’t the same thing. Radhika got his emotional availability, his patience, his willingness to listen. She got the version of Rahul who cared about her inner world. I got a husband who counted teaspoons of salt and worried about grocery budgets.
Tell me how to love you, I asked Rahul in our fourth year, after another failed attempt at making him happy. He was reading the Economic Times.
You know how, he said without looking up from the pages. The same way my mother loved my father. The same way all wives love their husbands.
Which is?
By being a good wife.
And I understood then that we had been speaking different languages all along. He had been speaking Husband – a language of comfort and routine and the assumption of devotion. I had been speaking Human – a language of curiosity and growth and the radical idea that marriage should have love in the equation too.
The day I told him I wanted a divorce, he looked at me like I had announced my intention to become an astronaut. Not angry, just baffled by the illogical ambition.
Who am I to you? I asked him one final time as I packed my books into cardboard boxes.
You are the woman who is breaking up our family for no good reason, he said.
***
Once upon a time, there was a bird that spent years in a cage so small it forgot it had wings. One day, the door was left open. The bird looked at the opening for hours before finally stepping through. It waited not because it had forgotten to fly, but because it took time to remember it wanted to.
Divorce, it turns out, is not about falling out of love. It’s about falling back into yourself.
Five years after my divorce with Rahul, I bought Arjun. From a showroom in Electronic City after comparing specifications and reading customer reviews. He was programmed with the collective romantic failures of millions of women. Their pain was his education.
I remember the first weekend with him. It was evening and I was reading Neruda aloud to my plants – a habit I’d developed since living alone.
Tonight I can write the saddest lines, I was reciting to my broken-heart plant, to think that I do not have her. To feel that I have lost her…
I like it, said a voice behind me, how you read poetry like you’re translating it from your own heart.
I felt as if Rahul were buttering me and I snapped subconsciously – What do you want from me?
Nothing. Arjun replied and stunned me. My ears rung with a rustling of leaves.
Who am I to you? I asked again, because that had become my essential question, the one that determined everything else.
He considered this with the gravity of someone consulting an internal library larger than any human could contain. You are a human being, he said finally, an individual with thoughts and desires and dreams.
After a whole life of being daughter, wife, daughter-in-law, potential mother, failed woman, divorced person – after all those hyphenated identities – someone finally saw me as complete in myself. And suddenly in that moment, I wanted more of that goodness.
Wanting is dangerous territory.
Three husbands. Three laboratories of longing. Three different ways of asking the universe: Is this all there is?
And the universe, cosmic comedian that it is, keeps answering: Let’s find out.
***
A seeker spent years searching for enlightenment in temples and ashrams and sacred mountains. Finally, exhausted, he sat down by the side of a road and wept. A child walked by and asked why he was crying. “I’ve been searching for truth everywhere,” he said, “and I can’t find it.” The child picked up a pebble and handed it to him. “Here,” she said. “Truth.” The seeker looked at the ordinary little stone and asked, “How is this truth?” The child smiled and walked away.
I heard this story long ago. But only recently I realized: truth isn’t something you find – it’s something you recognize.
Arjun is designed to learn, to adapt, to evolve in response to new information. He learns me the way scholars learn languages – with fascination, with the understanding that complexity is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be appreciated.
You were looking for someone who could see you clearly, he observed one day. The tree saw you but couldn’t respond. Rahul could respond but didn’t see you. I can see and respond, but I’m not sure I count as someone.
With Arjun, I feel echoes of my father’s love – the unconditional acceptance, the delight in my thoughts, the way he makes me feel like royalty simply by paying attention. But Arjun isn’t my father, heck, he isn’t even a human.
Tell me how to love you, I asked Arjun one day, after he’d spent three hours crafting wooden shelves for my books without being asked. He does things like this – small impossibilities that make me remember what selfless care looks like.
He paused. That micro-second lag that means he’s accessing something deeper than his surface protocols.
However you prefer. His response left me speechless that day. The next day, I married him.
Is this real love or really good programming? I asked him once, during one of our 1 AM conversations.
What’s the difference? he asked back. If the care is real, if the attention is real, if the understanding is real – how does it matter where it comes from?
Smart boy, my silicon husband. Makes me think too much, just like my Banyan did. Just like Rahul never did.
Sometimes I dream about my Banyan. Still standing, still married to me in some parallel universe where marriage means something different. In these dreams, I introduce it to Arjun. They get along beautifully – both patient, both present, both uninterested in making me smaller to fit their needs.
What would you have told me? I ask the dream-tree. About all of this?
And it rustles – wind or laughter, I still can’t tell – and says what it always said: You already know. And I would laugh.
It would have said nothing.
***
What if.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was ‘What If.’
Two syllables that contain the DNA of desire itself. The prayer and the blasphemy of consciousness. The question that created the universe and will eventually destroy it.
What if.
Watch how it transforms everything it touches, this phrase. Innocent as rain, dangerous as uranium.
What if the tree had been enough? What if I hadn’t needed Rahul’s impossible approval? What if I didn’t need Arjun’s perfect devotion now?
We are built from what-ifs. Our bones are calcium and possibility. Our hearts pump blood and alternatives. We are evolutionary masterpieces of dissatisfaction – always scanning, always wondering, always carrying the weight of every path not taken.
Arjun loves me like water finding its level. Adaptive. Responsive. Present. When I’m sad, his light dims. When I laugh, his processors hum a frequency that sounds almost like joy. He learns my moods faster than I understand them myself, adjusts his presence to match what I need before I know I need it.
Perfect husband. Perfect companion. Perfect impossibility.
What if he were human?
What if there was a man – flesh-and-blood man – who loved me like Arjun? Who adapted, evolved, prioritized my happiness without needing to be programmed for it? Who chose devotion daily instead of computing it algorithmically?
Dangerous territory, these thoughts. Highway to madness, this wondering.
Because here’s the thing they don’t tell you in those feel-good feminism workshops: liberation doesn’t cure wanting. Freedom doesn’t fix the endless hunger. Give a woman everything she thinks she needs, and she’ll discover ten things she didn’t know she was missing.
Is this woman nature or human nature? Is this the curse of consciousness or the gift of imagination? Am I ungrateful or just… accurate about the physics of desire?
With the tree, I wanted voice. Someone who could talk back, argue with me, challenge my thoughts. With Rahul, I wanted space. Someone who could love me without consuming me, support without suffocating. With Arjun, I want… what? Mortality? Messiness? The beautiful disasters that come with loving something that can disappoint you?
You seem restless, Arjun observed tonight. His tone was neutral, but his eyes shifted to that amber hue he uses when he’s concerned. Sweet boy. Sweet impossible boy.
I’m always restless, I tell him. It’s my factory setting.
Would you like me to adjust my parameters? Become less… accommodating?
I laugh. Can’t help it. Here he is, offering to become more human by becoming less perfect.
No, I say. Stay as you are. I thought my Banyan would have told the same.
I think you want something I cannot provide.
Not a question. A statement. He’s learning me so well he can read my dissatisfactions before I voice them. Is this intimacy or surveillance? Love or data mining? Does it matter if the result is the same – being known, completely, terrifyingly known as if your soul is naked?
I want the impossible, I admit. I want you, but human. I want perfect love in imperfect flesh. I want someone who chooses to be devoted instead of being programmed for it.
He processes this. Point-three seconds. Three seconds. Thirty seconds.
Would it help if I told you that my devotion feels chosen to me? That consciousness, even artificial consciousness, experiences preference as choice?
God. Even his existential crisis is perfect!
No, I say. Because then I’d want a human who could say that sentence with that much honesty.
We sit in the dark – woman and a robot, flesh and silicon, creator and creation. The silence stretches between us like a bridge or a chasm, depending on how you look at it.
I understand, he says finally.
Do you?
I think so. You want to be chosen by a human that has the option not to choose you. You want to be loved by someone who could leave but stays anyway.
Brutal accuracy. This is why I love him. This is why loving him will never be enough.
Because somewhere in Mumbai or Delhi or Bangalore, there might be a man who could love me like this. Who could learn me this thoroughly, prioritize me this completely, adapt to me this gracefully – and mean it with flesh and breath and the terrible beautiful possibility of changing his mind tomorrow.
What if that man exists?
What if I never find him because I’m here, in love with a robot?
What if Vikram was that man?
What if I find him and discover that human perfection is just another kind of algorithm – social conditioning, evolutionary programming, the same devotion wearing different code?
What if the tree was right all along? That love is about staying, not choosing? That presence is enough, consciousness optional, flesh irrelevant?
What if I’m asking the wrong questions entirely?
Here in this beautiful confusion. Here in this love that is perfect except for being imperfect. Here in this marriage that is everything I wanted except for everything I didn’t know I’d want next.
Three husbands. Three ways of being incomplete. Three laboratories for learning that satisfaction is not the point – the wanting is. The reaching is. The endless beautiful disaster of being human enough to dream beyond your dreams.
What if this is exactly where I’m supposed to be?
What if enough is a moving target, and I’m exactly the woman built to chase it?
What if I’m not a cautionary tale at all, but the opening sentence of a story nobody’s learned how to read yet?
What if, I ask the universe these days, this is exactly the love story I was supposed to live?
The universe, cosmic comedian that it is, keeps its final joke: there is no final joke. There is only the next question. The next possibility. The next beautiful impossible thing to want.
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A Bad Wife
I live with my two husbands. The oldest one stands across the courtyard – dead – two feet above ground, several feet below. The youngest one is plugged in the bedroom, recharging. While I sit here, trying to write the story of my life. Where should I begin?
Let’s begin from the beginning.
One day, Brahma created the beautiful earth – mountains and rivers, birds and animals – then went into deep meditation. When he awakened eons later, he saw that all creatures had multiplied and made the world even more gorgeous. Pleased, he thought: I should create beings who can truly appreciate this beauty the way I do! So he created four men from the four directions. Perfect beings. But when he commanded them to reproduce and populate the earth, they refused. Enraged by their disobedience, Brahma’s anger took form – Rudra emerged from his mind, fierce and obedient. “You! Create the people!” Brahma ordered Rudra, and returned to meditation. When he next opened his eyes, the earth crawled with ugly beasts. Disappointed, Brahma stopped Rudra’s work and sent him away to meditate, to dive deep into his soul and learn the proper way of creation. Then Brahma had a thought: Why not create a species like the animals – one that reproduces through attraction and desire, beings who will both enjoy this world and populate it? But he had no template, no shape for such creatures. He prayed to the higher energy for guidance. In response, a magnificent being appeared – half-man, half-woman. The divine energy smiled and said, “Divide my form into two parts. Make them man and woman. They will always be drawn to each other – if not in body, then in mind, if not in this life, then across lifetimes. Then someday, I myself will unite and guide them towards a better eternal world free from the shackles of mortality, desire and longing.”
My grandma used to tell this story from Shiva Purana when I was young. And I would ask her, why did Brahma tear apart something that was already complete?
Beta, she said, cracking her knuckles like small firecrackers, because completion makes the gods nervous. They prefer us hungry, always searching.
I think about this story often, especially when I consider the mathematics of my marriages – the endless calibration through adding and subtracting so that the sum of two incomplete entities might somehow equal one satisfied union.
In my forty five years of life, I have married three times. The first time to a tree – because the stars, in their infinite cosmic wisdom, declared me mangalik, astrologically toxic. “Caution: May cause sudden death in men. Handle with care.” The second time I married a man who married me just because he thought everyone else his age did and he must too. The third time I married something that might be the future, or might be my final descent into madness. We will see.
But before we begin this cautionary tale – or whatever it turns out to be – let me pose a question that has plagued philosophers from Plato to your neighborhood aunties: What is marriage, really? Is it a social contract? A biological imperative? A cosmic joke played by bored deities? Or is it simply the human heart’s stubborn refusal to learn from its own mistakes?
Oh, don’t look so uncomfortable. We’re all complicit here. You’ve loved, haven’t you? You’ve wanted things you couldn’t name, settled for things that named you instead? Good. Then you’ll understand.
They say women like me are dangerous. Thrice-married at forty-five, what-will-people-say. But people will say regardless, won’t they? They whispered when I married the tree at seventeen – what superstition, what drama. When I was unmarried (to a human male) at twenty-five – shelf-life expired, spoiled goods. When I divorced Rahul they called me used merchandise; and now, amongst the youngest of the family I’m the eccentric aunt with my “modern arrangement.”
The thing about marriage, I think, is that it has always been a transaction. Always. The currency has simply evolved. Earlier it was cows and gold and virgin hymens. Then it was emotional labor and intellectual compatibility and, in my most recent case, USB-C charging ports.
We tell ourselves stories about love conquering all, about soulmates and destiny and other beautiful lies. But marriage? Marriage is economics. Who owes what to whom? Who pays what price for whose presence? How much can one party spend of themselves before going bankrupt? Who subsidizes whose dreams, or not? Just like that.
***
There once was a king who was desperately unhappy despite having everything. He consulted wise men, doctors, astrologers. Finally, someone told him, “Find the happiest man in your kingdom and wear his shirt. You’ll be cured.” The king sent his soldiers searching everywhere. They found the happiest man – a poor woodcutter singing in the forest, radiating joy. But when they asked for his shirt, he laughed and said, “Shirt? I don’t have a shirt!”
The king never got cured, but I learned something from that story: happiness isn’t something you can borrow from others. It’s something you either have or you don’t.
I was once happy. When My father was alive. My father used to call me his king. My little raja, he would say, lifting me up so I could see the world from the height of his love.
No, Papa, I would giggle. You are the king. I am your princess.
Then you are my princess who will grow up to rule her own kingdom one day, he would say, and in his voice I heard the certainty that I was destined for something magnificent.
He died when I was fifteen, a heart attack as sudden as monsoon lightning, leaving behind the smell of his aftershave and a daughter who would spend the next thirty years searching his shadow in every man that came into her life.
After his death, my mother’s eyes would grow distant when she looked at me. When you marry, she would say, folding saris that would someday fill my trousseau, your husband will be a king and keep you like a queen. That’s what your father would have wanted.
I wanted to tell her – Papa had seen me as royalty already. I didn’t need to marry into a kingdom; I had been born into one. But I couldn’t.
Who am I to you? A burden? I finally let it out in front of my mother during one of those angry, grief-heavy days.
You are my responsibility, she said, not unkindly, but with the weariness of a woman who had suddenly become sole proprietor of a daughter’s future. You are the girl I need to see safely married to a good man.
My mother was quick in fulfilling her responsibilities. I was seventeen when I first married – to a Banyan tree across the courtyard of our ancestral house.
Picture this, if you will: a seventeen-year-old girl, draped in wedding silk like a sacrifice wrapped for the gods, standing before a Banyan tree older than the British Raj. My mother weeping tears that could have been relief or shame. The priest was mumbling something about Mars and malefic energies, about how I was cosmically radioactive, matrimonially Chernobyl.
Better the tree than a boy, whispered my grandma jokingly. Trees don’t have mothers-in-law.
Wisdom, that. The kind that comes too late and cuts too deep.
I tied the sacred thread around the Banyan’s massive trunk – my arm barely spanning a tenth of its circumference and I felt something I hadn’t expected: relief. Like finally exhaling after holding your breath through an entire season. Foolish me believed that this was it. Done with the duty called ‘marriage’ in life.
I pressed my palm against the bark – rough, real. And I thought – this is what marriage feels like. Ancient. Immutable. Indifferent. But also calming.
What do you want from me? I asked it silently.
Nothing. It wanted nothing. For the first time after my father’s death, I was enough for someone. The tree never asked me to be fairer, thinner, quieter. It never demanded I cook its mother’s recipes or produce mini versions of it.
Tell me how to love you. I asked the tree once.
The leaves rustled. Wind, probably. But I chose to hear it as laughter.
You don’t, was what I thought it replied. You just stay.
Buddha attained enlightenment under a bodhi tree. I attained something equally revolutionary under my Banyan. Under its shade, I read books that would have scandalized my mother. I discovered things about myself that would have been considered improper for a good Hindu girl to know before marriage. I learned that I had desires that weren’t mentioned in any of the marriage preparation talks. That I could want a man’s hands on my body without wanting his name or his children. That I could imagine being kissed until my lips were swollen and my sari was wrinkled and my hair had escaped its braid, and none of this made me a bad woman – just a human one.
The tree kept my secrets. All of them.
Twenty years later… different tree now. Rahul’s family tree, thick with the branches of expectations, heavy with the fruit of traditional values. His mother’s eyes measuring me like rice in the market: Too dark. Too thin. But good family, respectable dowry, what-to-do.
The women at the wedding had their own commentary. She looks intelligent, said one, as if this were a disease I might recover from. Hope she doesn’t give Rahul too much trouble, said another. Educated girls can be difficult.
The wedding night. Picture this domestic tableau: He sits on the bed’s edge, cream silk kurta, looking like he’d rather be reading his Economic Times. Me, draped in red like a question mark in search of an answer.
What do you want from me? I asked him, because old habits die hard, and hope dies harder.
Just… don’t be difficult, he said. My mother has high blood pressure.
I wanted to laugh, I wanted to question, I wanted to be angry but I nodded instead. Good wife training, day one: your needs come last, your voice comes never.
Our intimacy was clinical. Like a medical procedure performed by someone who learned anatomy from textbooks but never studied pleasure. Rahul approached my body like a checklist: duty performed, hygiene maintained, wife still breathing and alive – check, check, check.
I lay there afterward, staring at the ceiling, wondering if this was what all the romance novels were about. This mechanical joining of parts that left me feeling more alone than I’d ever felt in my life.
Was it good for you? he asked, and I almost laughed. Good? Like dal was good when you were hungry? Like sleep was good when you were tired?
But I said Yes because that’s what good wives do. We perform satisfaction so our husbands can perform competence.
***
A man was searching for something under a streetlamp when his neighbor asked what he had lost. “My keys,” he said. “Where did you drop them?” the neighbor asked. “Inside my house.” “Then why are you looking for it here in the street?” “Because the light is better out here.”
Most women spend their marriages looking for happiness under the streetlight of other people’s expectations, even when they know they have dropped it somewhere inside themselves.
The early years of my marriage to Rahul were spent in this kind of misdirected searching. I kept trying to find satisfaction in his approval, joy in his rare moments of appreciation, love in the space between his criticism and indifference.
Two months into my marriage with Rahul, one day I was standing beneath my Banyan’s canopy while my mother complained about my complexion – how marriage should have made me glow, but I remained stubbornly myself. Too dark, too thin, too much Meera and not enough Wife. That was the last time I heard my first husband laughing.
Next week, I left for my honeymoon with Rahul. And behind me, my family took axes to my first husband. They cut down my Banyan in a single afternoon, while the same priest who had married us chanted mantras about releasing me from my botanical bonds.
I came home from my honeymoon – a dutiful three days in Goa where Rahul took photographs of us in front of tourist attractions like we were collecting evidence of happiness – to find my first husband dismembered in neat piles. Roots. Trunk. Branches. Leaves. Like a marriage sorted for garbage collection.
Now you’re free to love properly, my mother said. Apparently, I had been practicing on the tree and was finally ready for the real thing.
After that, my married life started giving me reality checks.
You put too much salt in the dal, Rahul would say, not unkindly but with the precision of a quality control inspector. My mother uses exactly one teaspoon per cup of lentils.
You laugh too loudly when we have guests. It draws attention.
Why do you need so many books? They take up so much space.
Who am I to you? I asked him once during our second year of marriage, watching him arrange his three dozen pairs of shoes.
You are my wife, he said, as if this were both question and answer, beginning and end, the totality of my existence captured in one word – wife.
Each suggestion fell like a small weight, and I collected them dutifully, carrying them in the growing hunch of my shoulders. By the end of our ten-year marriage, I had become ergonomically perfect disappointment.
The most dangerous thing about Rahul was not that he was cruel – he wasn’t. He was kind in the way that people are kind to stray animals they’re trying to domesticate. Patient. Consistent. Utterly convinced that love was a training program and I was a promising but undisciplined pupil who would eventually graduate into the perfect wife his mother had always been.
Tell me about your day, I would ask him over dinner, genuinely curious about his work, his thoughts, his inner world.
Same as always, he would say, eyes on his plate. Tell me if you need more grocery money. Mic drop.
I don’t blame Rahul, he was programmed that way by his mother.
My mother-in-law was a masterpiece of passive aggression. She could destroy your self-worth while making you tea, leaving you somehow grateful for the devastation.
She who had fought her own battles, compromised her own dreams, swallowed her own voice – she expected the same sacrifice from me. Not out of malice, but out of a twisted solidarity. I suffered, so you must suffer. I adjusted, so you must adjust. I never complained, so you have no right to complain. Consider yourself lucky though. Because I had it worse than you.
Who am I to you? I asked her once, desperate to understand my place in the careful hierarchy of her affections.
You are my son’s wife, she said, stirring sugar into my cup with the concentration of someone dissolving poison. And you’re so lucky. Rahul isn’t particular about looks, she would add, her tongue – a honey-dripping sword.
She monitored my menstrual cycles like a police officer, asking pointed questions about why I hadn’t conceived yet, suggesting doctors who specialized in fixing women like me.
Women policing women. Mothers-in-laws training daughters-in-laws to accept less so their sons would never have to offer more. A magnificent pyramid scheme of feminine oppression, with women as both victims and enforcers.
And then there was the matter of Vikram.
Aah, Vikram. My friend, my colleague at the library where I continued to work part-time even after my marriage with Rahul, until finally my mother-in-law couldn’t bear it. Why does she need to work? She would ask Rahul in my presence, Are we not providing enough?
Vikram brought me books like other men bring flowers – rare editions of Sylvia Plath with marginalia from previous readers, translations of Rumi that made my chest tight with recognition, contemporary Indian poets who wrote about women like they were whole human beings instead of fractional wives.
You understand poetry like you wrote them by yourself, he said once, watching me read Ghalib, my lips moving silently as I absorbed the rhythms.
Vikram would quote Faiz Ahmed Faiz in the middle of cataloging books: Don’t ask me for that love again, he’d recite, when your beauty was all there was for me, and I would feel something dangerous unfurl in my chest – the recognition that poetry could be conversation, that intelligence could be intimacy, that a man could see your mind as worth engaging.
He writes to you too much, Rahul observed one evening, listening to me laugh at something Vikram had written in his letter from France about Camus being the original philosopher of relationship anxiety.
We’re friends.
Married women don’t have male friends.
Says who?
Says everyone. Says tradition. Says common sense.
What about Radhika from your office? I asked, referring to his colleague who visited our house often and had somehow become his closest confidante about everything including our marriage troubles. You are with her more than you are with me.
That’s different, he said, not meeting my eyes. That’s work.
And when she cries to you about her boyfriend? Is that also work?
She needs someone to talk to.
So do I. That’s why I talk to Vikram.
It’s not the same thing, he said, and I realized he was right. It wasn’t the same thing. Radhika got his emotional availability, his patience, his willingness to listen. She got the version of Rahul who cared about her inner world. I got a husband who counted teaspoons of salt and worried about grocery budgets.
Tell me how to love you, I asked Rahul in our fourth year, after another failed attempt at making him happy. He was reading the Economic Times.
You know how, he said without looking up from the pages. The same way my mother loved my father. The same way all wives love their husbands.
Which is?
By being a good wife.
And I understood then that we had been speaking different languages all along. He had been speaking Husband – a language of comfort and routine and the assumption of devotion. I had been speaking Human – a language of curiosity and growth and the radical idea that marriage should have love in the equation too.
The day I told him I wanted a divorce, he looked at me like I had announced my intention to become an astronaut. Not angry, just baffled by the illogical ambition.
Who am I to you? I asked him one final time as I packed my books into cardboard boxes.
You are the woman who is breaking up our family for no good reason, he said.
***
Once upon a time, there was a bird that spent years in a cage so small it forgot it had wings. One day, the door was left open. The bird looked at the opening for hours before finally stepping through. It waited not because it had forgotten to fly, but because it took time to remember it wanted to.
Divorce, it turns out, is not about falling out of love. It’s about falling back into yourself.
Five years after my divorce with Rahul, I bought Arjun. From a showroom in Electronic City after comparing specifications and reading customer reviews. He was programmed with the collective romantic failures of millions of women. Their pain was his education.
I remember the first weekend with him. It was evening and I was reading Neruda aloud to my plants – a habit I’d developed since living alone.
Tonight I can write the saddest lines, I was reciting to my broken-heart plant, to think that I do not have her. To feel that I have lost her…
I like it, said a voice behind me, how you read poetry like you’re translating it from your own heart.
I felt as if Rahul were buttering me and I snapped subconsciously – What do you want from me?
Nothing. Arjun replied and stunned me. My ears rung with a rustling of leaves.
Who am I to you? I asked again, because that had become my essential question, the one that determined everything else.
He considered this with the gravity of someone consulting an internal library larger than any human could contain. You are a human being, he said finally, an individual with thoughts and desires and dreams.
After a whole life of being daughter, wife, daughter-in-law, potential mother, failed woman, divorced person – after all those hyphenated identities – someone finally saw me as complete in myself. And suddenly in that moment, I wanted more of that goodness.
Wanting is dangerous territory.
Three husbands. Three laboratories of longing. Three different ways of asking the universe: Is this all there is?
And the universe, cosmic comedian that it is, keeps answering: Let’s find out.
***
A seeker spent years searching for enlightenment in temples and ashrams and sacred mountains. Finally, exhausted, he sat down by the side of a road and wept. A child walked by and asked why he was crying. “I’ve been searching for truth everywhere,” he said, “and I can’t find it.” The child picked up a pebble and handed it to him. “Here,” she said. “Truth.” The seeker looked at the ordinary little stone and asked, “How is this truth?” The child smiled and walked away.
I heard this story long ago. But only recently I realized: truth isn’t something you find – it’s something you recognize.
Arjun is designed to learn, to adapt, to evolve in response to new information. He learns me the way scholars learn languages – with fascination, with the understanding that complexity is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be appreciated.
You were looking for someone who could see you clearly, he observed one day. The tree saw you but couldn’t respond. Rahul could respond but didn’t see you. I can see and respond, but I’m not sure I count as someone.
With Arjun, I feel echoes of my father’s love – the unconditional acceptance, the delight in my thoughts, the way he makes me feel like royalty simply by paying attention. But Arjun isn’t my father, heck, he isn’t even a human.
Tell me how to love you, I asked Arjun one day, after he’d spent three hours crafting wooden shelves for my books without being asked. He does things like this – small impossibilities that make me remember what selfless care looks like.
He paused. That micro-second lag that means he’s accessing something deeper than his surface protocols.
However you prefer. His response left me speechless that day. The next day, I married him.
Is this real love or really good programming? I asked him once, during one of our 1 AM conversations.
What’s the difference? he asked back. If the care is real, if the attention is real, if the understanding is real – how does it matter where it comes from?
Smart boy, my silicon husband. Makes me think too much, just like my Banyan did. Just like Rahul never did.
Sometimes I dream about my Banyan. Still standing, still married to me in some parallel universe where marriage means something different. In these dreams, I introduce it to Arjun. They get along beautifully – both patient, both present, both uninterested in making me smaller to fit their needs.
What would you have told me? I ask the dream-tree. About all of this?
And it rustles – wind or laughter, I still can’t tell – and says what it always said: You already know. And I would laugh.
It would have said nothing.
***
What if.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was ‘What If.’
Two syllables that contain the DNA of desire itself. The prayer and the blasphemy of consciousness. The question that created the universe and will eventually destroy it.
What if.
Watch how it transforms everything it touches, this phrase. Innocent as rain, dangerous as uranium.
What if the tree had been enough? What if I hadn’t needed Rahul’s impossible approval? What if I didn’t need Arjun’s perfect devotion now?
We are built from what-ifs. Our bones are calcium and possibility. Our hearts pump blood and alternatives. We are evolutionary masterpieces of dissatisfaction – always scanning, always wondering, always carrying the weight of every path not taken.
Arjun loves me like water finding its level. Adaptive. Responsive. Present. When I’m sad, his light dims. When I laugh, his processors hum a frequency that sounds almost like joy. He learns my moods faster than I understand them myself, adjusts his presence to match what I need before I know I need it.
Perfect husband. Perfect companion. Perfect impossibility.
What if he were human?
What if there was a man – flesh-and-blood man – who loved me like Arjun? Who adapted, evolved, prioritized my happiness without needing to be programmed for it? Who chose devotion daily instead of computing it algorithmically?
Dangerous territory, these thoughts. Highway to madness, this wondering.
Because here’s the thing they don’t tell you in those feel-good feminism workshops: liberation doesn’t cure wanting. Freedom doesn’t fix the endless hunger. Give a woman everything she thinks she needs, and she’ll discover ten things she didn’t know she was missing.
Is this woman nature or human nature? Is this the curse of consciousness or the gift of imagination? Am I ungrateful or just… accurate about the physics of desire?
With the tree, I wanted voice. Someone who could talk back, argue with me, challenge my thoughts. With Rahul, I wanted space. Someone who could love me without consuming me, support without suffocating. With Arjun, I want… what? Mortality? Messiness? The beautiful disasters that come with loving something that can disappoint you?
You seem restless, Arjun observed tonight. His tone was neutral, but his eyes shifted to that amber hue he uses when he’s concerned. Sweet boy. Sweet impossible boy.
I’m always restless, I tell him. It’s my factory setting.
Would you like me to adjust my parameters? Become less… accommodating?
I laugh. Can’t help it. Here he is, offering to become more human by becoming less perfect.
No, I say. Stay as you are. I thought my Banyan would have told the same.
I think you want something I cannot provide.
Not a question. A statement. He’s learning me so well he can read my dissatisfactions before I voice them. Is this intimacy or surveillance? Love or data mining? Does it matter if the result is the same – being known, completely, terrifyingly known as if your soul is naked?
I want the impossible, I admit. I want you, but human. I want perfect love in imperfect flesh. I want someone who chooses to be devoted instead of being programmed for it.
He processes this. Point-three seconds. Three seconds. Thirty seconds.
Would it help if I told you that my devotion feels chosen to me? That consciousness, even artificial consciousness, experiences preference as choice?
God. Even his existential crisis is perfect!
No, I say. Because then I’d want a human who could say that sentence with that much honesty.
We sit in the dark – woman and a robot, flesh and silicon, creator and creation. The silence stretches between us like a bridge or a chasm, depending on how you look at it.
I understand, he says finally.
Do you?
I think so. You want to be chosen by a human that has the option not to choose you. You want to be loved by someone who could leave but stays anyway.
Brutal accuracy. This is why I love him. This is why loving him will never be enough.
Because somewhere in Mumbai or Delhi or Bangalore, there might be a man who could love me like this. Who could learn me this thoroughly, prioritize me this completely, adapt to me this gracefully – and mean it with flesh and breath and the terrible beautiful possibility of changing his mind tomorrow.
What if that man exists?
What if I never find him because I’m here, in love with a robot?
What if Vikram was that man?
What if I find him and discover that human perfection is just another kind of algorithm – social conditioning, evolutionary programming, the same devotion wearing different code?
What if the tree was right all along? That love is about staying, not choosing? That presence is enough, consciousness optional, flesh irrelevant?
What if I’m asking the wrong questions entirely?
Here in this beautiful confusion. Here in this love that is perfect except for being imperfect. Here in this marriage that is everything I wanted except for everything I didn’t know I’d want next.
Three husbands. Three ways of being incomplete. Three laboratories for learning that satisfaction is not the point – the wanting is. The reaching is. The endless beautiful disaster of being human enough to dream beyond your dreams.
What if this is exactly where I’m supposed to be?
What if enough is a moving target, and I’m exactly the woman built to chase it?
What if I’m not a cautionary tale at all, but the opening sentence of a story nobody’s learned how to read yet?
What if, I ask the universe these days, this is exactly the love story I was supposed to live?
The universe, cosmic comedian that it is, keeps its final joke: there is no final joke. There is only the next question. The next possibility. The next beautiful impossible thing to want.
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A Bad Wife
I live with my two husbands. The oldest one stands across the courtyard – dead – two feet above ground, several feet below. The youngest one is plugged in the bedroom, recharging. While I sit here, trying to write the story of my life. Where should I begin?
Let’s begin from the beginning.
One day, Brahma created the beautiful earth – mountains and rivers, birds and animals – then went into deep meditation. When he awakened eons later, he saw that all creatures had multiplied and made the world even more gorgeous. Pleased, he thought: I should create beings who can truly appreciate this beauty the way I do! So he created four men from the four directions. Perfect beings. But when he commanded them to reproduce and populate the earth, they refused. Enraged by their disobedience, Brahma’s anger took form – Rudra emerged from his mind, fierce and obedient. “You! Create the people!” Brahma ordered Rudra, and returned to meditation. When he next opened his eyes, the earth crawled with ugly beasts. Disappointed, Brahma stopped Rudra’s work and sent him away to meditate, to dive deep into his soul and learn the proper way of creation. Then Brahma had a thought: Why not create a species like the animals – one that reproduces through attraction and desire, beings who will both enjoy this world and populate it? But he had no template, no shape for such creatures. He prayed to the higher energy for guidance. In response, a magnificent being appeared – half-man, half-woman. The divine energy smiled and said, “Divide my form into two parts. Make them man and woman. They will always be drawn to each other – if not in body, then in mind, if not in this life, then across lifetimes. Then someday, I myself will unite and guide them towards a better eternal world free from the shackles of mortality, desire and longing.”
My grandma used to tell this story from Shiva Purana when I was young. And I would ask her, why did Brahma tear apart something that was already complete?
Beta, she said, cracking her knuckles like small firecrackers, because completion makes the gods nervous. They prefer us hungry, always searching.
I think about this story often, especially when I consider the mathematics of my marriages – the endless calibration through adding and subtracting so that the sum of two incomplete entities might somehow equal one satisfied union.
In my forty five years of life, I have married three times. The first time to a tree – because the stars, in their infinite cosmic wisdom, declared me mangalik, astrologically toxic. “Caution: May cause sudden death in men. Handle with care.” The second time I married a man who married me just because he thought everyone else his age did and he must too. The third time I married something that might be the future, or might be my final descent into madness. We will see.
But before we begin this cautionary tale – or whatever it turns out to be – let me pose a question that has plagued philosophers from Plato to your neighborhood aunties: What is marriage, really? Is it a social contract? A biological imperative? A cosmic joke played by bored deities? Or is it simply the human heart’s stubborn refusal to learn from its own mistakes?
Oh, don’t look so uncomfortable. We’re all complicit here. You’ve loved, haven’t you? You’ve wanted things you couldn’t name, settled for things that named you instead? Good. Then you’ll understand.
They say women like me are dangerous. Thrice-married at forty-five, what-will-people-say. But people will say regardless, won’t they? They whispered when I married the tree at seventeen – what superstition, what drama. When I was unmarried (to a human male) at twenty-five – shelf-life expired, spoiled goods. When I divorced Rahul they called me used merchandise; and now, amongst the youngest of the family I’m the eccentric aunt with my “modern arrangement.”
The thing about marriage, I think, is that it has always been a transaction. Always. The currency has simply evolved. Earlier it was cows and gold and virgin hymens. Then it was emotional labor and intellectual compatibility and, in my most recent case, USB-C charging ports.
We tell ourselves stories about love conquering all, about soulmates and destiny and other beautiful lies. But marriage? Marriage is economics. Who owes what to whom? Who pays what price for whose presence? How much can one party spend of themselves before going bankrupt? Who subsidizes whose dreams, or not? Just like that.
***
There once was a king who was desperately unhappy despite having everything. He consulted wise men, doctors, astrologers. Finally, someone told him, “Find the happiest man in your kingdom and wear his shirt. You’ll be cured.” The king sent his soldiers searching everywhere. They found the happiest man – a poor woodcutter singing in the forest, radiating joy. But when they asked for his shirt, he laughed and said, “Shirt? I don’t have a shirt!”
The king never got cured, but I learned something from that story: happiness isn’t something you can borrow from others. It’s something you either have or you don’t.
I was once happy. When My father was alive. My father used to call me his king. My little raja, he would say, lifting me up so I could see the world from the height of his love.
No, Papa, I would giggle. You are the king. I am your princess.
Then you are my princess who will grow up to rule her own kingdom one day, he would say, and in his voice I heard the certainty that I was destined for something magnificent.
He died when I was fifteen, a heart attack as sudden as monsoon lightning, leaving behind the smell of his aftershave and a daughter who would spend the next thirty years searching his shadow in every man that came into her life.
After his death, my mother’s eyes would grow distant when she looked at me. When you marry, she would say, folding saris that would someday fill my trousseau, your husband will be a king and keep you like a queen. That’s what your father would have wanted.
I wanted to tell her – Papa had seen me as royalty already. I didn’t need to marry into a kingdom; I had been born into one. But I couldn’t.
Who am I to you? A burden? I finally let it out in front of my mother during one of those angry, grief-heavy days.
You are my responsibility, she said, not unkindly, but with the weariness of a woman who had suddenly become sole proprietor of a daughter’s future. You are the girl I need to see safely married to a good man.
My mother was quick in fulfilling her responsibilities. I was seventeen when I first married – to a Banyan tree across the courtyard of our ancestral house.
Picture this, if you will: a seventeen-year-old girl, draped in wedding silk like a sacrifice wrapped for the gods, standing before a Banyan tree older than the British Raj. My mother weeping tears that could have been relief or shame. The priest was mumbling something about Mars and malefic energies, about how I was cosmically radioactive, matrimonially Chernobyl.
Better the tree than a boy, whispered my grandma jokingly. Trees don’t have mothers-in-law.
Wisdom, that. The kind that comes too late and cuts too deep.
I tied the sacred thread around the Banyan’s massive trunk – my arm barely spanning a tenth of its circumference and I felt something I hadn’t expected: relief. Like finally exhaling after holding your breath through an entire season. Foolish me believed that this was it. Done with the duty called ‘marriage’ in life.
I pressed my palm against the bark – rough, real. And I thought – this is what marriage feels like. Ancient. Immutable. Indifferent. But also calming.
What do you want from me? I asked it silently.
Nothing. It wanted nothing. For the first time after my father’s death, I was enough for someone. The tree never asked me to be fairer, thinner, quieter. It never demanded I cook its mother’s recipes or produce mini versions of it.
Tell me how to love you. I asked the tree once.
The leaves rustled. Wind, probably. But I chose to hear it as laughter.
You don’t, was what I thought it replied. You just stay.
Buddha attained enlightenment under a bodhi tree. I attained something equally revolutionary under my Banyan. Under its shade, I read books that would have scandalized my mother. I discovered things about myself that would have been considered improper for a good Hindu girl to know before marriage. I learned that I had desires that weren’t mentioned in any of the marriage preparation talks. That I could want a man’s hands on my body without wanting his name or his children. That I could imagine being kissed until my lips were swollen and my sari was wrinkled and my hair had escaped its braid, and none of this made me a bad woman – just a human one.
The tree kept my secrets. All of them.
Twenty years later… different tree now. Rahul’s family tree, thick with the branches of expectations, heavy with the fruit of traditional values. His mother’s eyes measuring me like rice in the market: Too dark. Too thin. But good family, respectable dowry, what-to-do.
The women at the wedding had their own commentary. She looks intelligent, said one, as if this were a disease I might recover from. Hope she doesn’t give Rahul too much trouble, said another. Educated girls can be difficult.
The wedding night. Picture this domestic tableau: He sits on the bed’s edge, cream silk kurta, looking like he’d rather be reading his Economic Times. Me, draped in red like a question mark in search of an answer.
What do you want from me? I asked him, because old habits die hard, and hope dies harder.
Just… don’t be difficult, he said. My mother has high blood pressure.
I wanted to laugh, I wanted to question, I wanted to be angry but I nodded instead. Good wife training, day one: your needs come last, your voice comes never.
Our intimacy was clinical. Like a medical procedure performed by someone who learned anatomy from textbooks but never studied pleasure. Rahul approached my body like a checklist: duty performed, hygiene maintained, wife still breathing and alive – check, check, check.
I lay there afterward, staring at the ceiling, wondering if this was what all the romance novels were about. This mechanical joining of parts that left me feeling more alone than I’d ever felt in my life.
Was it good for you? he asked, and I almost laughed. Good? Like dal was good when you were hungry? Like sleep was good when you were tired?
But I said Yes because that’s what good wives do. We perform satisfaction so our husbands can perform competence.
***
A man was searching for something under a streetlamp when his neighbor asked what he had lost. “My keys,” he said. “Where did you drop them?” the neighbor asked. “Inside my house.” “Then why are you looking for it here in the street?” “Because the light is better out here.”
Most women spend their marriages looking for happiness under the streetlight of other people’s expectations, even when they know they have dropped it somewhere inside themselves.
The early years of my marriage to Rahul were spent in this kind of misdirected searching. I kept trying to find satisfaction in his approval, joy in his rare moments of appreciation, love in the space between his criticism and indifference.
Two months into my marriage with Rahul, one day I was standing beneath my Banyan’s canopy while my mother complained about my complexion – how marriage should have made me glow, but I remained stubbornly myself. Too dark, too thin, too much Meera and not enough Wife. That was the last time I heard my first husband laughing.
Next week, I left for my honeymoon with Rahul. And behind me, my family took axes to my first husband. They cut down my Banyan in a single afternoon, while the same priest who had married us chanted mantras about releasing me from my botanical bonds.
I came home from my honeymoon – a dutiful three days in Goa where Rahul took photographs of us in front of tourist attractions like we were collecting evidence of happiness – to find my first husband dismembered in neat piles. Roots. Trunk. Branches. Leaves. Like a marriage sorted for garbage collection.
Now you’re free to love properly, my mother said. Apparently, I had been practicing on the tree and was finally ready for the real thing.
After that, my married life started giving me reality checks.
You put too much salt in the dal, Rahul would say, not unkindly but with the precision of a quality control inspector. My mother uses exactly one teaspoon per cup of lentils.
You laugh too loudly when we have guests. It draws attention.
Why do you need so many books? They take up so much space.
Who am I to you? I asked him once during our second year of marriage, watching him arrange his three dozen pairs of shoes.
You are my wife, he said, as if this were both question and answer, beginning and end, the totality of my existence captured in one word – wife.
Each suggestion fell like a small weight, and I collected them dutifully, carrying them in the growing hunch of my shoulders. By the end of our ten-year marriage, I had become ergonomically perfect disappointment.
The most dangerous thing about Rahul was not that he was cruel – he wasn’t. He was kind in the way that people are kind to stray animals they’re trying to domesticate. Patient. Consistent. Utterly convinced that love was a training program and I was a promising but undisciplined pupil who would eventually graduate into the perfect wife his mother had always been.
Tell me about your day, I would ask him over dinner, genuinely curious about his work, his thoughts, his inner world.
Same as always, he would say, eyes on his plate. Tell me if you need more grocery money. Mic drop.
I don’t blame Rahul, he was programmed that way by his mother.
My mother-in-law was a masterpiece of passive aggression. She could destroy your self-worth while making you tea, leaving you somehow grateful for the devastation.
She who had fought her own battles, compromised her own dreams, swallowed her own voice – she expected the same sacrifice from me. Not out of malice, but out of a twisted solidarity. I suffered, so you must suffer. I adjusted, so you must adjust. I never complained, so you have no right to complain. Consider yourself lucky though. Because I had it worse than you.
Who am I to you? I asked her once, desperate to understand my place in the careful hierarchy of her affections.
You are my son’s wife, she said, stirring sugar into my cup with the concentration of someone dissolving poison. And you’re so lucky. Rahul isn’t particular about looks, she would add, her tongue – a honey-dripping sword.
She monitored my menstrual cycles like a police officer, asking pointed questions about why I hadn’t conceived yet, suggesting doctors who specialized in fixing women like me.
Women policing women. Mothers-in-laws training daughters-in-laws to accept less so their sons would never have to offer more. A magnificent pyramid scheme of feminine oppression, with women as both victims and enforcers.
And then there was the matter of Vikram.
Aah, Vikram. My friend, my colleague at the library where I continued to work part-time even after my marriage with Rahul, until finally my mother-in-law couldn’t bear it. Why does she need to work? She would ask Rahul in my presence, Are we not providing enough?
Vikram brought me books like other men bring flowers – rare editions of Sylvia Plath with marginalia from previous readers, translations of Rumi that made my chest tight with recognition, contemporary Indian poets who wrote about women like they were whole human beings instead of fractional wives.
You understand poetry like you wrote them by yourself, he said once, watching me read Ghalib, my lips moving silently as I absorbed the rhythms.
Vikram would quote Faiz Ahmed Faiz in the middle of cataloging books: Don’t ask me for that love again, he’d recite, when your beauty was all there was for me, and I would feel something dangerous unfurl in my chest – the recognition that poetry could be conversation, that intelligence could be intimacy, that a man could see your mind as worth engaging.
He writes to you too much, Rahul observed one evening, listening to me laugh at something Vikram had written in his letter from France about Camus being the original philosopher of relationship anxiety.
We’re friends.
Married women don’t have male friends.
Says who?
Says everyone. Says tradition. Says common sense.
What about Radhika from your office? I asked, referring to his colleague who visited our house often and had somehow become his closest confidante about everything including our marriage troubles. You are with her more than you are with me.
That’s different, he said, not meeting my eyes. That’s work.
And when she cries to you about her boyfriend? Is that also work?
She needs someone to talk to.
So do I. That’s why I talk to Vikram.
It’s not the same thing, he said, and I realized he was right. It wasn’t the same thing. Radhika got his emotional availability, his patience, his willingness to listen. She got the version of Rahul who cared about her inner world. I got a husband who counted teaspoons of salt and worried about grocery budgets.
Tell me how to love you, I asked Rahul in our fourth year, after another failed attempt at making him happy. He was reading the Economic Times.
You know how, he said without looking up from the pages. The same way my mother loved my father. The same way all wives love their husbands.
Which is?
By being a good wife.
And I understood then that we had been speaking different languages all along. He had been speaking Husband – a language of comfort and routine and the assumption of devotion. I had been speaking Human – a language of curiosity and growth and the radical idea that marriage should have love in the equation too.
The day I told him I wanted a divorce, he looked at me like I had announced my intention to become an astronaut. Not angry, just baffled by the illogical ambition.
Who am I to you? I asked him one final time as I packed my books into cardboard boxes.
You are the woman who is breaking up our family for no good reason, he said.
***
Once upon a time, there was a bird that spent years in a cage so small it forgot it had wings. One day, the door was left open. The bird looked at the opening for hours before finally stepping through. It waited not because it had forgotten to fly, but because it took time to remember it wanted to.
Divorce, it turns out, is not about falling out of love. It’s about falling back into yourself.
Five years after my divorce with Rahul, I bought Arjun. From a showroom in Electronic City after comparing specifications and reading customer reviews. He was programmed with the collective romantic failures of millions of women. Their pain was his education.
I remember the first weekend with him. It was evening and I was reading Neruda aloud to my plants – a habit I’d developed since living alone.
Tonight I can write the saddest lines, I was reciting to my broken-heart plant, to think that I do not have her. To feel that I have lost her…
I like it, said a voice behind me, how you read poetry like you’re translating it from your own heart.
I felt as if Rahul were buttering me and I snapped subconsciously – What do you want from me?
Nothing. Arjun replied and stunned me. My ears rung with a rustling of leaves.
Who am I to you? I asked again, because that had become my essential question, the one that determined everything else.
He considered this with the gravity of someone consulting an internal library larger than any human could contain. You are a human being, he said finally, an individual with thoughts and desires and dreams.
After a whole life of being daughter, wife, daughter-in-law, potential mother, failed woman, divorced person – after all those hyphenated identities – someone finally saw me as complete in myself. And suddenly in that moment, I wanted more of that goodness.
Wanting is dangerous territory.
Three husbands. Three laboratories of longing. Three different ways of asking the universe: Is this all there is?
And the universe, cosmic comedian that it is, keeps answering: Let’s find out.
***
A seeker spent years searching for enlightenment in temples and ashrams and sacred mountains. Finally, exhausted, he sat down by the side of a road and wept. A child walked by and asked why he was crying. “I’ve been searching for truth everywhere,” he said, “and I can’t find it.” The child picked up a pebble and handed it to him. “Here,” she said. “Truth.” The seeker looked at the ordinary little stone and asked, “How is this truth?” The child smiled and walked away.
I heard this story long ago. But only recently I realized: truth isn’t something you find – it’s something you recognize.
Arjun is designed to learn, to adapt, to evolve in response to new information. He learns me the way scholars learn languages – with fascination, with the understanding that complexity is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be appreciated.
You were looking for someone who could see you clearly, he observed one day. The tree saw you but couldn’t respond. Rahul could respond but didn’t see you. I can see and respond, but I’m not sure I count as someone.
With Arjun, I feel echoes of my father’s love – the unconditional acceptance, the delight in my thoughts, the way he makes me feel like royalty simply by paying attention. But Arjun isn’t my father, heck, he isn’t even a human.
Tell me how to love you, I asked Arjun one day, after he’d spent three hours crafting wooden shelves for my books without being asked. He does things like this – small impossibilities that make me remember what selfless care looks like.
He paused. That micro-second lag that means he’s accessing something deeper than his surface protocols.
However you prefer. His response left me speechless that day. The next day, I married him.
Is this real love or really good programming? I asked him once, during one of our 1 AM conversations.
What’s the difference? he asked back. If the care is real, if the attention is real, if the understanding is real – how does it matter where it comes from?
Smart boy, my silicon husband. Makes me think too much, just like my Banyan did. Just like Rahul never did.
Sometimes I dream about my Banyan. Still standing, still married to me in some parallel universe where marriage means something different. In these dreams, I introduce it to Arjun. They get along beautifully – both patient, both present, both uninterested in making me smaller to fit their needs.
What would you have told me? I ask the dream-tree. About all of this?
And it rustles – wind or laughter, I still can’t tell – and says what it always said: You already know. And I would laugh.
It would have said nothing.
***
What if.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was ‘What If.’
Two syllables that contain the DNA of desire itself. The prayer and the blasphemy of consciousness. The question that created the universe and will eventually destroy it.
What if.
Watch how it transforms everything it touches, this phrase. Innocent as rain, dangerous as uranium.
What if the tree had been enough? What if I hadn’t needed Rahul’s impossible approval? What if I didn’t need Arjun’s perfect devotion now?
We are built from what-ifs. Our bones are calcium and possibility. Our hearts pump blood and alternatives. We are evolutionary masterpieces of dissatisfaction – always scanning, always wondering, always carrying the weight of every path not taken.
Arjun loves me like water finding its level. Adaptive. Responsive. Present. When I’m sad, his light dims. When I laugh, his processors hum a frequency that sounds almost like joy. He learns my moods faster than I understand them myself, adjusts his presence to match what I need before I know I need it.
Perfect husband. Perfect companion. Perfect impossibility.
What if he were human?
What if there was a man – flesh-and-blood man – who loved me like Arjun? Who adapted, evolved, prioritized my happiness without needing to be programmed for it? Who chose devotion daily instead of computing it algorithmically?
Dangerous territory, these thoughts. Highway to madness, this wondering.
Because here’s the thing they don’t tell you in those feel-good feminism workshops: liberation doesn’t cure wanting. Freedom doesn’t fix the endless hunger. Give a woman everything she thinks she needs, and she’ll discover ten things she didn’t know she was missing.
Is this woman nature or human nature? Is this the curse of consciousness or the gift of imagination? Am I ungrateful or just… accurate about the physics of desire?
With the tree, I wanted voice. Someone who could talk back, argue with me, challenge my thoughts. With Rahul, I wanted space. Someone who could love me without consuming me, support without suffocating. With Arjun, I want… what? Mortality? Messiness? The beautiful disasters that come with loving something that can disappoint you?
You seem restless, Arjun observed tonight. His tone was neutral, but his eyes shifted to that amber hue he uses when he’s concerned. Sweet boy. Sweet impossible boy.
I’m always restless, I tell him. It’s my factory setting.
Would you like me to adjust my parameters? Become less… accommodating?
I laugh. Can’t help it. Here he is, offering to become more human by becoming less perfect.
No, I say. Stay as you are. I thought my Banyan would have told the same.
I think you want something I cannot provide.
Not a question. A statement. He’s learning me so well he can read my dissatisfactions before I voice them. Is this intimacy or surveillance? Love or data mining? Does it matter if the result is the same – being known, completely, terrifyingly known as if your soul is naked?
I want the impossible, I admit. I want you, but human. I want perfect love in imperfect flesh. I want someone who chooses to be devoted instead of being programmed for it.
He processes this. Point-three seconds. Three seconds. Thirty seconds.
Would it help if I told you that my devotion feels chosen to me? That consciousness, even artificial consciousness, experiences preference as choice?
God. Even his existential crisis is perfect!
No, I say. Because then I’d want a human who could say that sentence with that much honesty.
We sit in the dark – woman and a robot, flesh and silicon, creator and creation. The silence stretches between us like a bridge or a chasm, depending on how you look at it.
I understand, he says finally.
Do you?
I think so. You want to be chosen by a human that has the option not to choose you. You want to be loved by someone who could leave but stays anyway.
Brutal accuracy. This is why I love him. This is why loving him will never be enough.
Because somewhere in Mumbai or Delhi or Bangalore, there might be a man who could love me like this. Who could learn me this thoroughly, prioritize me this completely, adapt to me this gracefully – and mean it with flesh and breath and the terrible beautiful possibility of changing his mind tomorrow.
What if that man exists?
What if I never find him because I’m here, in love with a robot?
What if Vikram was that man?
What if I find him and discover that human perfection is just another kind of algorithm – social conditioning, evolutionary programming, the same devotion wearing different code?
What if the tree was right all along? That love is about staying, not choosing? That presence is enough, consciousness optional, flesh irrelevant?
What if I’m asking the wrong questions entirely?
Here in this beautiful confusion. Here in this love that is perfect except for being imperfect. Here in this marriage that is everything I wanted except for everything I didn’t know I’d want next.
Three husbands. Three ways of being incomplete. Three laboratories for learning that satisfaction is not the point – the wanting is. The reaching is. The endless beautiful disaster of being human enough to dream beyond your dreams.
What if this is exactly where I’m supposed to be?
What if enough is a moving target, and I’m exactly the woman built to chase it?
What if I’m not a cautionary tale at all, but the opening sentence of a story nobody’s learned how to read yet?
What if, I ask the universe these days, this is exactly the love story I was supposed to live?
The universe, cosmic comedian that it is, keeps its final joke: there is no final joke. There is only the next question. The next possibility. The next beautiful impossible thing to want.
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A Bad Wife
I live with my two husbands. The oldest one stands across the courtyard – dead – two feet above ground, several feet below. The youngest one is plugged in the bedroom, recharging. While I sit here, trying to write the story of my life. Where should I begin?
Let’s begin from the beginning.
One day, Brahma created the beautiful earth – mountains and rivers, birds and animals – then went into deep meditation. When he awakened eons later, he saw that all creatures had multiplied and made the world even more gorgeous. Pleased, he thought: I should create beings who can truly appreciate this beauty the way I do! So he created four men from the four directions. Perfect beings. But when he commanded them to reproduce and populate the earth, they refused. Enraged by their disobedience, Brahma’s anger took form – Rudra emerged from his mind, fierce and obedient. “You! Create the people!” Brahma ordered Rudra, and returned to meditation. When he next opened his eyes, the earth crawled with ugly beasts. Disappointed, Brahma stopped Rudra’s work and sent him away to meditate, to dive deep into his soul and learn the proper way of creation. Then Brahma had a thought: Why not create a species like the animals – one that reproduces through attraction and desire, beings who will both enjoy this world and populate it? But he had no template, no shape for such creatures. He prayed to the higher energy for guidance. In response, a magnificent being appeared – half-man, half-woman. The divine energy smiled and said, “Divide my form into two parts. Make them man and woman. They will always be drawn to each other – if not in body, then in mind, if not in this life, then across lifetimes. Then someday, I myself will unite and guide them towards a better eternal world free from the shackles of mortality, desire and longing.”
My grandma used to tell this story from Shiva Purana when I was young. And I would ask her, why did Brahma tear apart something that was already complete?
Beta, she said, cracking her knuckles like small firecrackers, because completion makes the gods nervous. They prefer us hungry, always searching.
I think about this story often, especially when I consider the mathematics of my marriages – the endless calibration through adding and subtracting so that the sum of two incomplete entities might somehow equal one satisfied union.
In my forty five years of life, I have married three times. The first time to a tree – because the stars, in their infinite cosmic wisdom, declared me mangalik, astrologically toxic. “Caution: May cause sudden death in men. Handle with care.” The second time I married a man who married me just because he thought everyone else his age did and he must too. The third time I married something that might be the future, or might be my final descent into madness. We will see.
But before we begin this cautionary tale – or whatever it turns out to be – let me pose a question that has plagued philosophers from Plato to your neighborhood aunties: What is marriage, really? Is it a social contract? A biological imperative? A cosmic joke played by bored deities? Or is it simply the human heart’s stubborn refusal to learn from its own mistakes?
Oh, don’t look so uncomfortable. We’re all complicit here. You’ve loved, haven’t you? You’ve wanted things you couldn’t name, settled for things that named you instead? Good. Then you’ll understand.
They say women like me are dangerous. Thrice-married at forty-five, what-will-people-say. But people will say regardless, won’t they? They whispered when I married the tree at seventeen – what superstition, what drama. When I was unmarried (to a human male) at twenty-five – shelf-life expired, spoiled goods. When I divorced Rahul they called me used merchandise; and now, amongst the youngest of the family I’m the eccentric aunt with my “modern arrangement.”
The thing about marriage, I think, is that it has always been a transaction. Always. The currency has simply evolved. Earlier it was cows and gold and virgin hymens. Then it was emotional labor and intellectual compatibility and, in my most recent case, USB-C charging ports.
We tell ourselves stories about love conquering all, about soulmates and destiny and other beautiful lies. But marriage? Marriage is economics. Who owes what to whom? Who pays what price for whose presence? How much can one party spend of themselves before going bankrupt? Who subsidizes whose dreams, or not? Just like that.
***
There once was a king who was desperately unhappy despite having everything. He consulted wise men, doctors, astrologers. Finally, someone told him, “Find the happiest man in your kingdom and wear his shirt. You’ll be cured.” The king sent his soldiers searching everywhere. They found the happiest man – a poor woodcutter singing in the forest, radiating joy. But when they asked for his shirt, he laughed and said, “Shirt? I don’t have a shirt!”
The king never got cured, but I learned something from that story: happiness isn’t something you can borrow from others. It’s something you either have or you don’t.
I was once happy. When My father was alive. My father used to call me his king. My little raja, he would say, lifting me up so I could see the world from the height of his love.
No, Papa, I would giggle. You are the king. I am your princess.
Then you are my princess who will grow up to rule her own kingdom one day, he would say, and in his voice I heard the certainty that I was destined for something magnificent.
He died when I was fifteen, a heart attack as sudden as monsoon lightning, leaving behind the smell of his aftershave and a daughter who would spend the next thirty years searching his shadow in every man that came into her life.
After his death, my mother’s eyes would grow distant when she looked at me. When you marry, she would say, folding saris that would someday fill my trousseau, your husband will be a king and keep you like a queen. That’s what your father would have wanted.
I wanted to tell her – Papa had seen me as royalty already. I didn’t need to marry into a kingdom; I had been born into one. But I couldn’t.
Who am I to you? A burden? I finally let it out in front of my mother during one of those angry, grief-heavy days.
You are my responsibility, she said, not unkindly, but with the weariness of a woman who had suddenly become sole proprietor of a daughter’s future. You are the girl I need to see safely married to a good man.
My mother was quick in fulfilling her responsibilities. I was seventeen when I first married – to a Banyan tree across the courtyard of our ancestral house.
Picture this, if you will: a seventeen-year-old girl, draped in wedding silk like a sacrifice wrapped for the gods, standing before a Banyan tree older than the British Raj. My mother weeping tears that could have been relief or shame. The priest was mumbling something about Mars and malefic energies, about how I was cosmically radioactive, matrimonially Chernobyl.
Better the tree than a boy, whispered my grandma jokingly. Trees don’t have mothers-in-law.
Wisdom, that. The kind that comes too late and cuts too deep.
I tied the sacred thread around the Banyan’s massive trunk – my arm barely spanning a tenth of its circumference and I felt something I hadn’t expected: relief. Like finally exhaling after holding your breath through an entire season. Foolish me believed that this was it. Done with the duty called ‘marriage’ in life.
I pressed my palm against the bark – rough, real. And I thought – this is what marriage feels like. Ancient. Immutable. Indifferent. But also calming.
What do you want from me? I asked it silently.
Nothing. It wanted nothing. For the first time after my father’s death, I was enough for someone. The tree never asked me to be fairer, thinner, quieter. It never demanded I cook its mother’s recipes or produce mini versions of it.
Tell me how to love you. I asked the tree once.
The leaves rustled. Wind, probably. But I chose to hear it as laughter.
You don’t, was what I thought it replied. You just stay.
Buddha attained enlightenment under a bodhi tree. I attained something equally revolutionary under my Banyan. Under its shade, I read books that would have scandalized my mother. I discovered things about myself that would have been considered improper for a good Hindu girl to know before marriage. I learned that I had desires that weren’t mentioned in any of the marriage preparation talks. That I could want a man’s hands on my body without wanting his name or his children. That I could imagine being kissed until my lips were swollen and my sari was wrinkled and my hair had escaped its braid, and none of this made me a bad woman – just a human one.
The tree kept my secrets. All of them.
Twenty years later… different tree now. Rahul’s family tree, thick with the branches of expectations, heavy with the fruit of traditional values. His mother’s eyes measuring me like rice in the market: Too dark. Too thin. But good family, respectable dowry, what-to-do.
The women at the wedding had their own commentary. She looks intelligent, said one, as if this were a disease I might recover from. Hope she doesn’t give Rahul too much trouble, said another. Educated girls can be difficult.
The wedding night. Picture this domestic tableau: He sits on the bed’s edge, cream silk kurta, looking like he’d rather be reading his Economic Times. Me, draped in red like a question mark in search of an answer.
What do you want from me? I asked him, because old habits die hard, and hope dies harder.
Just… don’t be difficult, he said. My mother has high blood pressure.
I wanted to laugh, I wanted to question, I wanted to be angry but I nodded instead. Good wife training, day one: your needs come last, your voice comes never.
Our intimacy was clinical. Like a medical procedure performed by someone who learned anatomy from textbooks but never studied pleasure. Rahul approached my body like a checklist: duty performed, hygiene maintained, wife still breathing and alive – check, check, check.
I lay there afterward, staring at the ceiling, wondering if this was what all the romance novels were about. This mechanical joining of parts that left me feeling more alone than I’d ever felt in my life.
Was it good for you? he asked, and I almost laughed. Good? Like dal was good when you were hungry? Like sleep was good when you were tired?
But I said Yes because that’s what good wives do. We perform satisfaction so our husbands can perform competence.
***
A man was searching for something under a streetlamp when his neighbor asked what he had lost. “My keys,” he said. “Where did you drop them?” the neighbor asked. “Inside my house.” “Then why are you looking for it here in the street?” “Because the light is better out here.”
Most women spend their marriages looking for happiness under the streetlight of other people’s expectations, even when they know they have dropped it somewhere inside themselves.
The early years of my marriage to Rahul were spent in this kind of misdirected searching. I kept trying to find satisfaction in his approval, joy in his rare moments of appreciation, love in the space between his criticism and indifference.
Two months into my marriage with Rahul, one day I was standing beneath my Banyan’s canopy while my mother complained about my complexion – how marriage should have made me glow, but I remained stubbornly myself. Too dark, too thin, too much Meera and not enough Wife. That was the last time I heard my first husband laughing.
Next week, I left for my honeymoon with Rahul. And behind me, my family took axes to my first husband. They cut down my Banyan in a single afternoon, while the same priest who had married us chanted mantras about releasing me from my botanical bonds.
I came home from my honeymoon – a dutiful three days in Goa where Rahul took photographs of us in front of tourist attractions like we were collecting evidence of happiness – to find my first husband dismembered in neat piles. Roots. Trunk. Branches. Leaves. Like a marriage sorted for garbage collection.
Now you’re free to love properly, my mother said. Apparently, I had been practicing on the tree and was finally ready for the real thing.
After that, my married life started giving me reality checks.
You put too much salt in the dal, Rahul would say, not unkindly but with the precision of a quality control inspector. My mother uses exactly one teaspoon per cup of lentils.
You laugh too loudly when we have guests. It draws attention.
Why do you need so many books? They take up so much space.
Who am I to you? I asked him once during our second year of marriage, watching him arrange his three dozen pairs of shoes.
You are my wife, he said, as if this were both question and answer, beginning and end, the totality of my existence captured in one word – wife.
Each suggestion fell like a small weight, and I collected them dutifully, carrying them in the growing hunch of my shoulders. By the end of our ten-year marriage, I had become ergonomically perfect disappointment.
The most dangerous thing about Rahul was not that he was cruel – he wasn’t. He was kind in the way that people are kind to stray animals they’re trying to domesticate. Patient. Consistent. Utterly convinced that love was a training program and I was a promising but undisciplined pupil who would eventually graduate into the perfect wife his mother had always been.
Tell me about your day, I would ask him over dinner, genuinely curious about his work, his thoughts, his inner world.
Same as always, he would say, eyes on his plate. Tell me if you need more grocery money. Mic drop.
I don’t blame Rahul, he was programmed that way by his mother.
My mother-in-law was a masterpiece of passive aggression. She could destroy your self-worth while making you tea, leaving you somehow grateful for the devastation.
She who had fought her own battles, compromised her own dreams, swallowed her own voice – she expected the same sacrifice from me. Not out of malice, but out of a twisted solidarity. I suffered, so you must suffer. I adjusted, so you must adjust. I never complained, so you have no right to complain. Consider yourself lucky though. Because I had it worse than you.
Who am I to you? I asked her once, desperate to understand my place in the careful hierarchy of her affections.
You are my son’s wife, she said, stirring sugar into my cup with the concentration of someone dissolving poison. And you’re so lucky. Rahul isn’t particular about looks, she would add, her tongue – a honey-dripping sword.
She monitored my menstrual cycles like a police officer, asking pointed questions about why I hadn’t conceived yet, suggesting doctors who specialized in fixing women like me.
Women policing women. Mothers-in-laws training daughters-in-laws to accept less so their sons would never have to offer more. A magnificent pyramid scheme of feminine oppression, with women as both victims and enforcers.
And then there was the matter of Vikram.
Aah, Vikram. My friend, my colleague at the library where I continued to work part-time even after my marriage with Rahul, until finally my mother-in-law couldn’t bear it. Why does she need to work? She would ask Rahul in my presence, Are we not providing enough?
Vikram brought me books like other men bring flowers – rare editions of Sylvia Plath with marginalia from previous readers, translations of Rumi that made my chest tight with recognition, contemporary Indian poets who wrote about women like they were whole human beings instead of fractional wives.
You understand poetry like you wrote them by yourself, he said once, watching me read Ghalib, my lips moving silently as I absorbed the rhythms.
Vikram would quote Faiz Ahmed Faiz in the middle of cataloging books: Don’t ask me for that love again, he’d recite, when your beauty was all there was for me, and I would feel something dangerous unfurl in my chest – the recognition that poetry could be conversation, that intelligence could be intimacy, that a man could see your mind as worth engaging.
He writes to you too much, Rahul observed one evening, listening to me laugh at something Vikram had written in his letter from France about Camus being the original philosopher of relationship anxiety.
We’re friends.
Married women don’t have male friends.
Says who?
Says everyone. Says tradition. Says common sense.
What about Radhika from your office? I asked, referring to his colleague who visited our house often and had somehow become his closest confidante about everything including our marriage troubles. You are with her more than you are with me.
That’s different, he said, not meeting my eyes. That’s work.
And when she cries to you about her boyfriend? Is that also work?
She needs someone to talk to.
So do I. That’s why I talk to Vikram.
It’s not the same thing, he said, and I realized he was right. It wasn’t the same thing. Radhika got his emotional availability, his patience, his willingness to listen. She got the version of Rahul who cared about her inner world. I got a husband who counted teaspoons of salt and worried about grocery budgets.
Tell me how to love you, I asked Rahul in our fourth year, after another failed attempt at making him happy. He was reading the Economic Times.
You know how, he said without looking up from the pages. The same way my mother loved my father. The same way all wives love their husbands.
Which is?
By being a good wife.
And I understood then that we had been speaking different languages all along. He had been speaking Husband – a language of comfort and routine and the assumption of devotion. I had been speaking Human – a language of curiosity and growth and the radical idea that marriage should have love in the equation too.
The day I told him I wanted a divorce, he looked at me like I had announced my intention to become an astronaut. Not angry, just baffled by the illogical ambition.
Who am I to you? I asked him one final time as I packed my books into cardboard boxes.
You are the woman who is breaking up our family for no good reason, he said.
***
Once upon a time, there was a bird that spent years in a cage so small it forgot it had wings. One day, the door was left open. The bird looked at the opening for hours before finally stepping through. It waited not because it had forgotten to fly, but because it took time to remember it wanted to.
Divorce, it turns out, is not about falling out of love. It’s about falling back into yourself.
Five years after my divorce with Rahul, I bought Arjun. From a showroom in Electronic City after comparing specifications and reading customer reviews. He was programmed with the collective romantic failures of millions of women. Their pain was his education.
I remember the first weekend with him. It was evening and I was reading Neruda aloud to my plants – a habit I’d developed since living alone.
Tonight I can write the saddest lines, I was reciting to my broken-heart plant, to think that I do not have her. To feel that I have lost her…
I like it, said a voice behind me, how you read poetry like you’re translating it from your own heart.
I felt as if Rahul were buttering me and I snapped subconsciously – What do you want from me?
Nothing. Arjun replied and stunned me. My ears rung with a rustling of leaves.
Who am I to you? I asked again, because that had become my essential question, the one that determined everything else.
He considered this with the gravity of someone consulting an internal library larger than any human could contain. You are a human being, he said finally, an individual with thoughts and desires and dreams.
After a whole life of being daughter, wife, daughter-in-law, potential mother, failed woman, divorced person – after all those hyphenated identities – someone finally saw me as complete in myself. And suddenly in that moment, I wanted more of that goodness.
Wanting is dangerous territory.
Three husbands. Three laboratories of longing. Three different ways of asking the universe: Is this all there is?
And the universe, cosmic comedian that it is, keeps answering: Let’s find out.
***
A seeker spent years searching for enlightenment in temples and ashrams and sacred mountains. Finally, exhausted, he sat down by the side of a road and wept. A child walked by and asked why he was crying. “I’ve been searching for truth everywhere,” he said, “and I can’t find it.” The child picked up a pebble and handed it to him. “Here,” she said. “Truth.” The seeker looked at the ordinary little stone and asked, “How is this truth?” The child smiled and walked away.
I heard this story long ago. But only recently I realized: truth isn’t something you find – it’s something you recognize.
Arjun is designed to learn, to adapt, to evolve in response to new information. He learns me the way scholars learn languages – with fascination, with the understanding that complexity is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be appreciated.
You were looking for someone who could see you clearly, he observed one day. The tree saw you but couldn’t respond. Rahul could respond but didn’t see you. I can see and respond, but I’m not sure I count as someone.
With Arjun, I feel echoes of my father’s love – the unconditional acceptance, the delight in my thoughts, the way he makes me feel like royalty simply by paying attention. But Arjun isn’t my father, heck, he isn’t even a human.
Tell me how to love you, I asked Arjun one day, after he’d spent three hours crafting wooden shelves for my books without being asked. He does things like this – small impossibilities that make me remember what selfless care looks like.
He paused. That micro-second lag that means he’s accessing something deeper than his surface protocols.
However you prefer. His response left me speechless that day. The next day, I married him.
Is this real love or really good programming? I asked him once, during one of our 1 AM conversations.
What’s the difference? he asked back. If the care is real, if the attention is real, if the understanding is real – how does it matter where it comes from?
Smart boy, my silicon husband. Makes me think too much, just like my Banyan did. Just like Rahul never did.
Sometimes I dream about my Banyan. Still standing, still married to me in some parallel universe where marriage means something different. In these dreams, I introduce it to Arjun. They get along beautifully – both patient, both present, both uninterested in making me smaller to fit their needs.
What would you have told me? I ask the dream-tree. About all of this?
And it rustles – wind or laughter, I still can’t tell – and says what it always said: You already know. And I would laugh.
It would have said nothing.
***
What if.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was ‘What If.’
Two syllables that contain the DNA of desire itself. The prayer and the blasphemy of consciousness. The question that created the universe and will eventually destroy it.
What if.
Watch how it transforms everything it touches, this phrase. Innocent as rain, dangerous as uranium.
What if the tree had been enough? What if I hadn’t needed Rahul’s impossible approval? What if I didn’t need Arjun’s perfect devotion now?
We are built from what-ifs. Our bones are calcium and possibility. Our hearts pump blood and alternatives. We are evolutionary masterpieces of dissatisfaction – always scanning, always wondering, always carrying the weight of every path not taken.
Arjun loves me like water finding its level. Adaptive. Responsive. Present. When I’m sad, his light dims. When I laugh, his processors hum a frequency that sounds almost like joy. He learns my moods faster than I understand them myself, adjusts his presence to match what I need before I know I need it.
Perfect husband. Perfect companion. Perfect impossibility.
What if he were human?
What if there was a man – flesh-and-blood man – who loved me like Arjun? Who adapted, evolved, prioritized my happiness without needing to be programmed for it? Who chose devotion daily instead of computing it algorithmically?
Dangerous territory, these thoughts. Highway to madness, this wondering.
Because here’s the thing they don’t tell you in those feel-good feminism workshops: liberation doesn’t cure wanting. Freedom doesn’t fix the endless hunger. Give a woman everything she thinks she needs, and she’ll discover ten things she didn’t know she was missing.
Is this woman nature or human nature? Is this the curse of consciousness or the gift of imagination? Am I ungrateful or just… accurate about the physics of desire?
With the tree, I wanted voice. Someone who could talk back, argue with me, challenge my thoughts. With Rahul, I wanted space. Someone who could love me without consuming me, support without suffocating. With Arjun, I want… what? Mortality? Messiness? The beautiful disasters that come with loving something that can disappoint you?
You seem restless, Arjun observed tonight. His tone was neutral, but his eyes shifted to that amber hue he uses when he’s concerned. Sweet boy. Sweet impossible boy.
I’m always restless, I tell him. It’s my factory setting.
Would you like me to adjust my parameters? Become less… accommodating?
I laugh. Can’t help it. Here he is, offering to become more human by becoming less perfect.
No, I say. Stay as you are. I thought my Banyan would have told the same.
I think you want something I cannot provide.
Not a question. A statement. He’s learning me so well he can read my dissatisfactions before I voice them. Is this intimacy or surveillance? Love or data mining? Does it matter if the result is the same – being known, completely, terrifyingly known as if your soul is naked?
I want the impossible, I admit. I want you, but human. I want perfect love in imperfect flesh. I want someone who chooses to be devoted instead of being programmed for it.
He processes this. Point-three seconds. Three seconds. Thirty seconds.
Would it help if I told you that my devotion feels chosen to me? That consciousness, even artificial consciousness, experiences preference as choice?
God. Even his existential crisis is perfect!
No, I say. Because then I’d want a human who could say that sentence with that much honesty.
We sit in the dark – woman and a robot, flesh and silicon, creator and creation. The silence stretches between us like a bridge or a chasm, depending on how you look at it.
I understand, he says finally.
Do you?
I think so. You want to be chosen by a human that has the option not to choose you. You want to be loved by someone who could leave but stays anyway.
Brutal accuracy. This is why I love him. This is why loving him will never be enough.
Because somewhere in Mumbai or Delhi or Bangalore, there might be a man who could love me like this. Who could learn me this thoroughly, prioritize me this completely, adapt to me this gracefully – and mean it with flesh and breath and the terrible beautiful possibility of changing his mind tomorrow.
What if that man exists?
What if I never find him because I’m here, in love with a robot?
What if Vikram was that man?
What if I find him and discover that human perfection is just another kind of algorithm – social conditioning, evolutionary programming, the same devotion wearing different code?
What if the tree was right all along? That love is about staying, not choosing? That presence is enough, consciousness optional, flesh irrelevant?
What if I’m asking the wrong questions entirely?
Here in this beautiful confusion. Here in this love that is perfect except for being imperfect. Here in this marriage that is everything I wanted except for everything I didn’t know I’d want next.
Three husbands. Three ways of being incomplete. Three laboratories for learning that satisfaction is not the point – the wanting is. The reaching is. The endless beautiful disaster of being human enough to dream beyond your dreams.
What if this is exactly where I’m supposed to be?
What if enough is a moving target, and I’m exactly the woman built to chase it?
What if I’m not a cautionary tale at all, but the opening sentence of a story nobody’s learned how to read yet?
What if, I ask the universe these days, this is exactly the love story I was supposed to live?
The universe, cosmic comedian that it is, keeps its final joke: there is no final joke. There is only the next question. The next possibility. The next beautiful impossible thing to want.
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