#toxic-people — Public Fediverse posts

Don’t be derailed by
toxic coworkers.

Haters keep hating
and bitches will bitch.

Just live your best life
and look towards the light.

Negative people
dislike nothing more

than joy and success
shining in others.

Photograph by iddea photo on Pexels

#poetry #innerpeace #riseabove #toxicpeople #poem #introvert #poetrycommunity #work

You can be friends with people for years, and it can take years for you to realize they were never your friend.

#FakeFriends #FriendshipTruth #ToxicPeople #Realization #FriendshipBreakup #TrustIssues #LettingGo #EmotionalReel #SadTruth #FriendshipQuotes #GrowthMindset #SelfWorth #Betrayal #HealingJourney #ViralReel #Quotes #ShareInspireQuotes

Mehr über den gefährlichen "#Populismus" bei heise.de.

#Hater #Emotionalisierung #toxicpeople

For sure, the videos on #youtube about a dog that takes an asshole's bag out of the bus are made using #AI.
As far as I know, the dog should be wearing a #muzzle.

Instant karma is not going to get toxic people. It is just a title of a song by John Lennon RIP.

#instantkarma #johnlennon #behavior #toxicpeople

Self-compassion is violence to toxic people.

Be brutal. Every day. 💙

#SelfCompassion #Boundaries #MentalHealth #ToxicPeople #SelfCare #RadicalSelfCare #ProtectYourPeace

https://www.mzmzmmz.com/1499406/ 🔥 5 Chilling Narcissist Behaviors That Prove They’re Monster | JORDAN PETERSON #2024Spring #AbuseRecovery #boundaries #EmotionalAbuse #EmotionalIntelligence #EmotionalManipulation #gaslighting #HealingJourney #JordanPeterson #LifeAdvice #MentalHealth #Mindset #motivation #narcissism #NarcissistBehavior #NarcissisticAbuse #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #PersonalGrowth #Psychology #Re:Monster #RelationshipAbuse #SelfHelp #ToxicBehavior #ToxicPeople

@staringatclouds She had resigned. Then secretly manipulated & soldiered up people, using lies. Then rejoined nonprofit only to hijack board meeting on Sunday - knowing my partner was working out of town & unable to attend. All of this toxic & unethical shit isn't how any decent nonprofit society operates. They literally gave control to a lying bully on a vengeful ego power trip; who is trying to punish my companion for enforcing his personal boundaries & refusing to let her keep attacking me out of jealousy. Never trust anyone who lacks humility, lies without blinking & uses manipulation to fool others.

Fucking disgusting person💩🗑
Fucking foolish folks who opted to side with & reward a toxic manipulator 🤮

#Nanaimo #Ladysmith #Yellowpoint #Liars #ToxicPeople #ManipulativePeople #ShipOfFools #Cowichan #VancouverIsland #Bullies #FuckThesePeople

It's pretty bittersweet how some white saviour women think they know better than the peoples in Indigenous marginalized communities that they lack lived & working experiences with, on rez & are supposed to be serving. It's foolish to ever think you'll get 100% community support on any native rez - never happened in all the years band councils were ever established. You can't be arrogant enough to think you know better than everyone else. You can't ever think you're irreplaceable too - all of us are replaceable in work arenas. You can't put your ego above bigger community needs. To do so is to put yourself & your inflated ego, over everyone else - that blocks genuine, purposeful & essential collaborative work. You choose to put greater good over your own inflated ego. That is part of true maturity.

#WhitePrivilege #ToxicPeople

Dealing with #ManipulativePeople.

#ToxicPeople #Diversion #AbusiveTactics #Manipulators #Narcissism

My long thread on #EmotionalAffairs & the damages they cause will be delayed until I return from Yellowpoint trip next week. Due to heavier than expected work week & the fact that me & my companion are still having to deal with more unnecessary BS from his toxic coworker who has inappropriate feelings for him. She's resorted to trying to drag more personal business into work business - which is very unethical & unprofessional. This is someone unable to deal with their own personal butthurt feelings, unable to face real life consequences for choosing to be abusive/manipulative/dishonest in the shadows & wanting to 'punish' both of us for confronting her directly, telling her to grow the fuck up, to stop trying to drag personal biz into work biz & to get herself some therapy to stop being so shady & manipulative.

We are now both facing fugly & shady #SmearCampaign from someone who demanded that we break up, angry that we are not doing that but are staying together & standing together. We aren't going to let one toxic person, who is seriously lacking humility, to stop us from doing a lot of necessary community work.

#ToxicPeople #ManipulativePeople #NarcissistAtWork

@Aurin_the_classtraitor Extra prayers to protect my companion from more vindictiveness from butthurt person🙏. All he did was establish very clear work boundaries, end the dysfunctional emotional affair that he didn't realize he was in until she flipped out upon finding out we're dating, tell me the truth about how she's trashed me & demanded that he dumps me & remove her from his small business coordinator role. He was doing his best to separate his own business & his personal life from her. She had agreed to keep working with him to complete tasks for nonprofit that they were partway through & in less than 24 hrs, did 180 flip, resigned & now trying to drag more people into the personal shitshow that she created without being fully honest. When the bully pretends to be the victim is what we're basically dealing with.

Toxic people who feel rejected & are unhappy with their own lives are some of the nastiest, vengeful people ever. No one needed this shit in the first place. It blows my mind what lengths some people will stoop to, only to avoid taking responsibility for their own manipulative actions.

#NightmarePeople #ToxicPeople #MentalHealth

If you're not very experienced with covert abusers, especially in work related atmospheres - this may help you to not enable them.

#PersonalSafety #ToxicPeople #ProtectYourself #DoNotEnable #CovertAbuse

The toxic person took her trashy abusive self out of our lives today. It happened shortly after she got pissed off about being called out on phone call where the chief was there. She tried to deflect things & wasn't open to transparency. Then tried to emotionally blackmail my partner again & failed again. Then attempted to hold password to his business & to nonprofit society files hostage until he brought in digital creation guy & got password back. He'll be changing passwords immediately too. Everything I predicted she'd try to do - she did. Textbook covert abusers are somewhat predictable because they use the same manipulative playbooks.

#AbusivePeople hate #transparency. If you're forced to deal with them - ensure you're never alone when communicating with them. Protect yourselves & always have at least one witness around.

#PersonalSafety #ToxicPeople

The only people who try to piss upon the joys, love & happiness of others, are people who are not really content with their own lives. Their energies would be better spent on making changes to their own lives instead of trying to meddle & destroy other people's lives, fueled by their own unhappiness & insecurities.

I pray for folks like that to learn how to heal themselves from their own darkness. I never want to stoop to their lower levels. I've forgiven folks like this - when they take ownership of their own actions, demonstrate humility & have worked hard to change their toxic & hurtful ways. I don't blindly forgive.

#EmotionalMaturity #EmotionalIntelligence #ToxicPeople #PrayForTheUnhealed

#Bullying is fugly. It has zero place in our work or personal lives. Learn how to spot #WorkplaceBullies so you are less harmed by them. They're very #TwoFaced & not to be trusted. Their tactics are dishonesty, manipulation, gaslighting, projection & psychological blackmail. They're dangerous snakes in the grass.

#PersonalSafety #PersonalEmpowerment #AntiBullying #ToxicPeople

ARE YOU SURROUNDED BY ATTITUDES AND IDIOTS? | LANCESCURV

Understanding the Nature of Idiots

You ever notice how some people just seem to exist to test your patience? Whether it’s a coworker with an overinflated ego, a driver who cuts you off only to blame you, or even a family member who drains your energy just by being in the room—idiots are everywhere. You’re not imagining things. The world is full of them, and they thrive in environments that reward ignorance, arrogance, and negativity.

For the Black community, dealing with these people takes on an extra layer of stress. We already face societal challenges, systemic oppression, and cultural struggles—so adding unnecessary fools to the mix only makes life harder. The question isn’t whether you’ll encounter them but how to keep their foolishness from stealing your peace. If you don’t manage them properly, their energy can wear you down, robbing you of your focus, success, and even your health.

The real danger of idiots isn’t just the frustration they cause in the moment. It’s the long-term damage they do to your mind and spirit. They can destroy your confidence, kill your productivity, and turn even the best environment into a battlefield of drama and negativity. Worse, their toxicity is contagious. Spend enough time around them, and you might find yourself thinking, speaking, and acting in ways you never intended.

So, how do you protect yourself? How do you keep them from infecting your mind, ruining your day, and stealing your joy? More importantly, how do you survive in a world that seems to be designed to test your limits at every turn? The solution isn’t just to complain about them—it’s to develop a strategy. You need the mental tools to recognize them, neutralize them, and keep them from having any real impact on your life.

This discussion/advice segment is about survival. Not just dealing with idiots, but thriving despite them. If you’ve ever walked away from an argument feeling drained, lost sleep replaying foolish conversations in your head, or felt your energy sucked away by a toxic person, then this is for you. It’s time to learn the tactics that will keep your peace intact, no matter who tries to shake it.

Recognizing the Idiots in Your Life

The first step to protecting yourself is identifying the idiots around you. They come in many forms—the loudmouth who always has an opinion but never any wisdom, the manipulator who twists words to make themselves look good, the drama magnet who thrives on chaos, or the subtle energy drainer who leaves you feeling exhausted after every conversation.

A good rule of thumb: If someone consistently makes you feel small, drained, or anxious, they might be an idiot. Pay attention to how you feel after dealing with them. Are you questioning yourself? Feeling irritated for no reason? If their presence changes your mood in a negative way, they’re likely a problem.

Idiots can be dangerous to your mental health. Studies show that constant exposure to toxic environments raises stress levels, increases blood pressure, and can even shorten life expectancy. These people aren’t just annoying—they’re harmful. Their negativity isn’t harmless background noise; it’s a slow poison.

Another problem with idiots is their ability to manipulate situations. They make themselves seem like the victim, twist conversations to suit their narrative, and make you question your own perception of reality. The more you entertain their nonsense, the more they gain control over your emotions and thoughts.

Worse, they spread their foolishness like a virus. When you’re constantly around people who are negative, dramatic, or combative, you start adopting their energy without realizing it. You might find yourself becoming more defensive, irritated, or emotionally exhausted. That’s why identifying them early is key—it allows you to cut them off before they take up too much space in your life.

Survival Tactics: Protecting Your Peace

The most powerful weapon against an idiot is calculated indifference. They thrive on reactions—anger, frustration, engagement. The moment you stop feeding them, they lose power over you. Not every battle is worth fighting. Ask yourself, Does this person deserve my energy? Most of the time, the answer is no.

Another key strategy is emotional control. Idiots want to provoke you into reacting emotionally. But when you stay calm and composed, they don’t know how to handle it. Instead of engaging, take a deep breath, respond only if necessary, and do so in a way that’s calm and direct. Nothing disarms an idiot more than realizing they failed to shake you.

When you can’t avoid a toxic person, build a psychological shield. Think of them as a predictable character in a bad TV show—same drama, same behavior, different day. This mental trick helps you detach emotionally so their words and actions don’t have the same sting. Instead of thinking, They’re attacking me, shift to Here they go again with the same nonsense.

In cases where avoidance isn’t possible, set clear boundaries. Be direct and leave no room for misinterpretation. Say things like, I don’t entertain these kinds of conversations, or If you continue, I won’t engage. Never get sucked into debates—idiots twist words to keep you trapped in their foolishness.

And sometimes, the best move is simply walking away. No salary, friendship, or obligation is worth sacrificing your mental and emotional well-being. If a situation is consistently toxic, remove yourself from it. There is no shame in protecting your peace.

Sealing the Deal: Keeping Idiots Out of Your Life

Now that you know how to deal with idiots, the final step is ensuring they don’t keep creeping back into your life. Protecting your peace isn’t just about avoiding negativity—it’s about creating an environment where negativity has no space to exist.

Start by being mindful of who you allow in your circle. Surround yourself with people who uplift you, support you, and encourage your growth. When your life is filled with positivity, the presence of an idiot becomes obvious and unacceptable.

Next, learn to let things go. Some arguments aren’t worth winning. Some people will never change. You don’t need to prove yourself to fools. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is walk away and let them drown in their own stupidity.

Also, reclaim your mental energy. How much time have you wasted replaying conversations with toxic people? How many nights have you spent thinking about things you should’ve said? Take back that energy. Focus on your goals, your growth, and your well-being. The less attention you give idiots, the less power they have.

Finally, make peace a non-negotiable priority. Set boundaries, choose your battles, and refuse to let toxic people have any say in your happiness. True power isn’t about winning arguments—it’s about controlling where you invest your energy.

So, ask yourself: Who in your life is draining your energy? And more importantly, how can you start taking that power back today?

#AREYOUSURROUNDEDBYATTITUDESANDIDIOTSLANCESCURV #avoidDrama #BlackEmpowerment #dealingWithNegativity #emotionalControl #emotionalIntelligence #handlingDifficultPeople #idiotsAtWork #keepingYourSanity #LanceScurvin #LanceScurv #MentalHealth #PersonalDevelopment #PersonalGrowth #personalPower #Positivity #protectYourEnergy #protectYourPeace #reclaimingYourPeace #Scurv #selfCare #SelfRespect #settingBoundaries #stayAwayFromNegativity #stressManagement #stressFreeLife #TheLanceScurvShow #theLancescurvShowPodcast #ThenLanceScurvPodcast #ToxicPeople #ToxicRelationships #workplaceToxicity

#ToxicPeople in #BritishColumbia preying on multiple Indigenous communities in Canada thread. Feel free to add your own, similar toxic shitbuckets of Canada to my list - which will be updated with other pathological liars running their shitgames all over BC.

This one is a mentally unstable, unmedicated bipolar nutjob who abandoned her only child & has lived out of motels/car for several years. Sex work is how she gets money. I have nothing against sex workers except for ones like her who try to traffick vulnerable young native girls & desperate older native women to get into sex work too - when they don't want to. I have a lot against ANYONE who tries to buy people with money & gifts as well - this is her way to get in with multiple naive ppl.

This #pretendian claims to be Cree. She is not #Indigenous whatsoever.

Her IG:
https://www.instagram.com/gypsy_canadian/

Tired of toxic relationships draining you? 💔🔒 Discover the 9 most toxic personality types that poison connections and learn how to protect your peace. Take control of your relationships today! #ToxicPeople #HealthyRelationships #SelfCare

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Matt Mullenweg has gone too far

In case anyone missed it, Matt Mullenweg decided to drag WordPress.org into his temper truntum over WP Engine. This is what it looks like if you want to log into WordPress.org these days:

You now have to tick a box saying “I am not affiliated with WP Engine in any way, financially or otherwise.”

Then, because was not done turning the WordPress ecosystem into a toxic hell hole, he forcibly forked the plugin ACF and renamed it SCF.

But whatever my feelings about private equity in general or Silver Lake’s management of WP Engine in particular, I care far more about the integrity of open source licenses, and that integrity is under direct assault by Automattic’s grotesque claim for WP Engine’s revenues.

Automattic is doing open source dirty

Mullenweg’s ego is only negative for the Open Source community in general and devastating for the WordPress community. None of us asked for this unprofessional power trip. This benefits no one but Mullenweg. And that’s just fine for him. After all, as far as Mullenweg is concerned, WordPress is his and his alone.

“WordPress.org just belongs to me personally,” Mullenweg said during an interview with The Verge.

Matt Mullenweg: ‘WordPress.org just belongs to me’, The Verge

That’s just fine. WordPress is Open Source code. Just like WordPress was a fork of b2 FreePress or whatever comes next can as easily be a fork of WordPress and there’s not a damn thing Mullenweg can do other than scream and throw his toys out of the pram.

I suspect that he wants to go on calling WordPress open source while also ripping up what that means to demand money from the people who enjoy using WordPress for fun and profit.

But I suspect Automattic wants to have their cake and eat it too. They want to retain WordPress’ shine of open source, but also be able to extract their pound of flesh from any competitor that might appear, whenever they see fit. Screw that.

Automattic is doing open source dirty

Perhaps it is time for a change of name so we can get rid of Mullenweg’s ego and get back to creating CMS and blogging software for the community.

If there are any serious proposals to fork WordPress, I want in.

#Automattic #forkWordPress #MattMullenweg #OpenSource #toxicPeople #WordPress

Signs You're Encountering Toxic People and How to Handle Them #Stoicism #ToxicPeople #SetBoundaries #PersonalGrowth #StoicMindset #EmotionalWellness ⏩ https://tinyurl.com/342yrnpp

Stoicism: How to Handle Toxic People (MUST WATCH) #Stoicism #ToxicPeople #SelfImprovement #Mindfulness #MentalHealth #StoicWisdom ⏩ https://youtu.be/Q7kYOoYWTns

@D72cat

You are very welcome.

I had not known the term until The Atlantic article last year.

When you search for "Dark Triad" and "narcissist," you will find several publications.

If really 7% of the population (1 in14) belong to this kind of irredeemably #ToxicPeople, we'd all better learn how to deal with them.

A business contact of mine who deals with their victims professionally, says that they cannot be "cured." It's either avoidance or detailed counter strategies.

@Snowshadow

Identifying Toxic People: A Stoic Perspective #toxicpeople #stoicmindset #rationalthinking #boundaries #selfpreservation #innercitadel #stoicism ⏩ Full Article: https://tinyurl.com/bdhvpp5s

How to Deal with Toxic People using Stoicism #Stoicism #ToxicPeople #Boundaries #InnerPeace #EmotionalWellBeing #stoicphilosophy ⏩ Full Video: https://youtu.be/Juqe2OSmGoM

How To Deal With Toxic People: Stoic Strategies #Stoicism #ToxicPeople #HealthyBoundaries #Resilience #InnerPeace ⏩ https://bit.ly/stoicmindschannel

Psst.. That newbie, that's all of sudden your bestie, cloak and dagger, with a side of devious. #toxicpeople

Jamie