#self-respect — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #self-respect, aggregated by home.social.
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Start living by new rules the moment you stop asking for permission to change.
#NewRules #PersonalGrowth #ProtectYourPeace #SelfRespect #AuthenticLiving #LevelUpYourLife #ThinkandGrowEducation #RayBehan #Meditation #Writing -
Start living by new rules the moment you stop asking for permission to change.
#NewRules #PersonalGrowth #ProtectYourPeace #SelfRespect #AuthenticLiving #LevelUpYourLife #ThinkandGrowEducation #RayBehan #Meditation #Writing -
It’s #MagicalMonday. Choosing comfort and skin-to-air contact is my favourite way to self-regulate.
Whether it’s a quiet soak at home or finding sanctuary in the wild, honouring your body’s need for space is the ultimate form of self-respect. Keep it simple and feel good.
CW: 4-panel comic displays a woman reading in the nude, meditating, hiking with her partner, and skinny dipping au naturel!
#naturism #SelfRespect #SelfCare #ChooseNude #nudism #SkinnyDipping #NudeHiking #NakedMeditation #ReadInTheNude #NonSexualNudity #FeelGood
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It’s #MagicalMonday. Choosing comfort and skin-to-air contact is my favourite way to self-regulate.
Whether it’s a quiet soak at home or finding sanctuary in the wild, honouring your body’s need for space is the ultimate form of self-respect. Keep it simple and feel good.
CW: 4-panel comic displays a woman reading in the nude, meditating, hiking with her partner, and skinny dipping au naturel!
#naturism #SelfRespect #SelfCare #ChooseNude #nudism #SkinnyDipping #NudeHiking #NakedMeditation #ReadInTheNude #NonSexualNudity #FeelGood
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This theme is objectively fascinating, actually…
Writing what feels like home vs foraging for dimension in the wilderness?
For Recovering People-Pleasers: On Safety vs Writing
Writing truly opens our eyes to the safety or precarity of language.
We tend to say what feels safe (palatable or polite), in public, in daily life. But writing is the arena where all is said. And, sometimes, we don’t realise how we relate to certain things, symbols, concepts or people until we touch the language around them.
Politeness and respectability in every day life mean we remain safe and adequately accepted, though there may be some self-betrayal involved. Candidness means social contracts are broken; the way people see us, adjusted. We become exposed to rejection and attack, alliances forming against us. Our brains may tell us it will be the same after we’ve written candidly.
They create an illusion of catastrophe even when no real social fall out can happen -given that our readers are usually people who already can stomach what we write or are not repelled when they disagree with our perspective.
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What you have trouble writing out loud tells you who that piece of writing is for -that is, who your desired audience is; usually, I write for myself but sometimes my essays feel like a one-sided conversation with my community whom I realise are steeped in cultures of male worship. Thus, I usually have trouble being candid when writing topics that take a closer look at patriarchy; I start bargaining in my writing, I start sugarcoating, reaching into my cultural conditioning, I make an utter mess of things, at worst I even start sounding like the opposite of how I talk or live in real life -which is allowed in writing but in essays it comes off as an illegal misrepresentation or cowardice.
Yet writing about any topic at all under the sun should be, among other things, a fun thought experiment. Fun in the sense that no one has to feel that it’s warranted or interesting, but some do and it’s always eye-opening to find out why they do. Cue all the books that ever got you shook yet the theme didn’t seem appealing, initially. The mind should be allowed to go where it wants and no one should be off limits. Yet it’s easier to critique religion than a group of mortals?
Still, there remains a personal mandate to say what I mean. After all, if not in writing, then where can total freedom be found? But the words get stuck at the tips of my fingers. Because it feels unsafe to let them go. Again, it’s supposed to be possible to critique all manner of characters in society just for the love of thinking -after all, everybody easily critiques women as a concept in society. But the logic of the people-pleasing subconscious is that if a topic will cause people to shut down and refuse to hear you, why would you write about it? “That alienation is too dangerous.”
Not being agreed with is neutral and then there are times when it feels like the beginning or the middle of something dangerous. At least, this is what our conditioning may say.
Learning the skill of showing up even when you cannot be safe/heard/agreed with: Apply the practice of NOT writing for an audience to all pieces and forms of writing, especially when there’s a group of people you’d like to ‘monologue with’ now or in future -if I may call this one-sided conversation that. You’ll be surprised who might decide to hear you -if that remains important after the exercise. These judgments are created despite what others are actually thinking. Social attitudes shift long before certain opinions become mainstream. Also, your own environment may be more stringent than others, leading you to project onto readers who wouldn’t have had the same hang ups as you. Forget the readers while writing, then give readers the benefit of the doubt afterwards. In fact, surrender the project. Maybe no one will read it. But you must tell the truth according to your genuine perspective, minus your conditioning.
Different writers are drawn to different topics and it is a tragedy to deprive your point of view of a theme it wants to examine. For instance, some writers may be intrigued by interrogating the rule of men and all it perpetuates in society -good, mild or bad. (Good in quotes for those in the West, good ol’ good for black African women; the former is ready to overhaul everything, the latter leans on the cultural perspective of duty, compromise and benevolent patriarchy. It’s a long story that I love to see examined because the assumed superiority of men has been the crux around which we’re all organised -not God- and it’s intriguing to see people wrap their minds around this and what it actually means, ignore it, attempt to consciously accept it, attempt to live otherwise or attempt to change it while living otherwise. It is simply interesting nomatter which way you go… especially if you distance yourself and think of it as if we were all characters in a novel.
If it wasn’t men and it was anything or anyone else it would still be interesting to dissect because imagine a world running on a core philosophy for thousands of years only for people to decide otherwise… imagine everything that could happen next.
I’m enthralled with this movie. I hope more people are starting to understand that there are more themes to explore concerning patriarchy than dating and marriage -even though that’s a major theme and will draw the most public interest. The pervasive nature of patriarchy means the mainstream has only scratched the surface.) All this to say, this is a topic like any other and should never be too hot to handle. It’s intriguing when it psychologically comes across that it is. The ‘why’ of this is worth examining and writing, whenever the conviction is there. Yes, patriarchy has real consequences; yes it fosters a culture of all forms of violence and domination from emotional to physical and yes, we all perpetuate it whether through indifference towards toxic norms or by being the -usually- man who violated somebody (girl, woman, boy, man, nonbinary). It’s crucial that some are writing about all those perspectives.
What fascinates me is how different cultures either come to terms with it or alter it and why. (I doubt it will be truly dismantled in our lifetime. And there won’t be matriarchies popping up everywhere in our lifetime, either; no, having a president who is a woman does not automatically mean matriarchy. I doubt the rule of women is wanted; rather, people seem to be leaning towards a third option…) The English-speaking Internet tends to make the modern world sound so philosophically uniform, yet it’s really not still.
For instance, it’s not really that any of the epiphanies on social media are a surprise to Africans. There’ve been feminist movements on the continent even in precolonial histories. And men and women are more obvious about their patriarchal conditioning on the continent than in the West. The intriguing thing is the brand of stoic that modern African women are about these patriarchal dynamics for various reasons and how it influences the way they’d live a movement when they do actively participate…
That said, write what you want to nomatter how personally daunting that particular topic may be to you for whatever reason, given that you’re not in any real physical danger. Challenge your psychological alarm bells because therein lies a story, or maybe a lesson on writing through resistance, or on writing without lying to yourself -which is a skill in itself.
I think some alarm bells mean that certain writers are still shy to be objective about particular topics. The key to unlocking that type of writer’s block is in finding out *why* this is even happening, why certain subjects of thought experiments are culturally supposed to be sided with -or cast aside. Suspend any assumptions you already have, and inspiration will come flooding in.
#African #BlackAfrican #Feminism #Patriarchy #PeoplePleasing #PsychologyOfWriting #SelfRespect #Writing #WritingPsychology #WritingWhileAfrican -
This theme is objectively fascinating, actually…
Writing what feels like home vs foraging for dimension in the wilderness?
For Recovering People-Pleasers: On Safety vs Writing
Writing truly opens our eyes to the safety or precarity of language.
We tend to say what feels safe (palatable or polite), in public, in daily life. But writing is the arena where all is said. And, sometimes, we don’t realise how we relate to certain things, symbols, concepts or people until we touch the language around them.
Politeness and respectability in every day life mean we remain safe and adequately accepted, though there may be some self-betrayal involved. Candidness means social contracts are broken; the way people see us, adjusted. We become exposed to rejection and attack, alliances forming against us. Our brains may tell us it will be the same after we’ve written candidly.
They create an illusion of catastrophe even when no real social fall out can happen -given that our readers are usually people who already can stomach what we write or are not repelled when they disagree with our perspective.
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What you have trouble writing out loud tells you who that piece of writing is for -that is, who your desired audience is; usually, I write for myself but sometimes my essays feel like a one-sided conversation with my community whom I realise are steeped in cultures of male worship. Thus, I usually have trouble being candid when writing topics that take a closer look at patriarchy; I start bargaining in my writing, I start sugarcoating, reaching into my cultural conditioning, I make an utter mess of things, at worst I even start sounding like the opposite of how I talk or live in real life -which is allowed in writing but in essays it comes off as an illegal misrepresentation or cowardice.
Yet writing about any topic at all under the sun should be, among other things, a fun thought experiment. Fun in the sense that no one has to feel that it’s warranted or interesting, but some do and it’s always eye-opening to find out why they do. Cue all the books that ever got you shook yet the theme didn’t seem appealing, initially. The mind should be allowed to go where it wants and no one should be off limits. Yet it’s easier to critique religion than a group of mortals?
Still, there remains a personal mandate to say what I mean. After all, if not in writing, then where can total freedom be found? But the words get stuck at the tips of my fingers. Because it feels unsafe to let them go. Again, it’s supposed to be possible to critique all manner of characters in society just for the love of thinking -after all, everybody easily critiques women as a concept in society. But the logic of the people-pleasing subconscious is that if a topic will cause people to shut down and refuse to hear you, why would you write about it? “That alienation is too dangerous.”
Not being agreed with is neutral and then there are times when it feels like the beginning or the middle of something dangerous. At least, this is what our conditioning may say.
Learning the skill of showing up even when you cannot be safe/heard/agreed with: Apply the practice of NOT writing for an audience to all pieces and forms of writing, especially when there’s a group of people you’d like to ‘monologue with’ now or in future -if I may call this one-sided conversation that. You’ll be surprised who might decide to hear you -if that remains important after the exercise. These judgments are created despite what others are actually thinking. Social attitudes shift long before certain opinions become mainstream. Also, your own environment may be more stringent than others, leading you to project onto readers who wouldn’t have had the same hang ups as you. Forget the readers while writing, then give readers the benefit of the doubt afterwards. In fact, surrender the project. Maybe no one will read it. But you must tell the truth according to your genuine perspective, minus your conditioning.
Different writers are drawn to different topics and it is a tragedy to deprive your point of view of a theme it wants to examine. For instance, some writers may be intrigued by interrogating the rule of men and all it perpetuates in society -good, mild or bad. (Good in quotes for those in the West, good ol’ good for black African women; the former is ready to overhaul everything, the latter leans on the cultural perspective of duty, compromise and benevolent patriarchy. It’s a long story that I love to see examined because the assumed superiority of men has been the crux around which we’re all organised -not God- and it’s intriguing to see people wrap their minds around this and what it actually means, ignore it, attempt to consciously accept it, attempt to live otherwise or attempt to change it while living otherwise. It is simply interesting nomatter which way you go… especially if you distance yourself and think of it as if we were all characters in a novel.
If it wasn’t men and it was anything or anyone else it would still be interesting to dissect because imagine a world running on a core philosophy for thousands of years only for people to decide otherwise… imagine everything that could happen next.
I’m enthralled with this movie. I hope more people are starting to understand that there are more themes to explore concerning patriarchy than dating and marriage -even though that’s a major theme and will draw the most public interest. The pervasive nature of patriarchy means the mainstream has only scratched the surface.) All this to say, this is a topic like any other and should never be too hot to handle. It’s intriguing when it psychologically comes across that it is. The ‘why’ of this is worth examining and writing, whenever the conviction is there. Yes, patriarchy has real consequences; yes it fosters a culture of all forms of violence and domination from emotional to physical and yes, we all perpetuate it whether through indifference towards toxic norms or by being the -usually- man who violated somebody (girl, woman, boy, man, nonbinary). It’s crucial that some are writing about all those perspectives.
What fascinates me is how different cultures either come to terms with it or alter it and why. (I doubt it will be truly dismantled in our lifetime. And there won’t be matriarchies popping up everywhere in our lifetime, either; no, having a president who is a woman does not automatically mean matriarchy. I doubt the rule of women is wanted; rather, people seem to be leaning towards a third option…) The English-speaking Internet tends to make the modern world sound so philosophically uniform, yet it’s really not still.
For instance, it’s not really that any of the epiphanies on social media are a surprise to Africans. There’ve been feminist movements on the continent even in precolonial histories. And men and women are more obvious about their patriarchal conditioning on the continent than in the West. The intriguing thing is the brand of stoic that modern African women are about these patriarchal dynamics for various reasons and how it influences the way they’d live a movement when they do actively participate…
That said, write what you want to nomatter how personally daunting that particular topic may be to you for whatever reason, given that you’re not in any real physical danger. Challenge your psychological alarm bells because therein lies a story, or maybe a lesson on writing through resistance, or on writing without lying to yourself -which is a skill in itself.
I think some alarm bells mean that certain writers are still shy to be objective about particular topics. The key to unlocking that type of writer’s block is in finding out *why* this is even happening, why certain subjects of thought experiments are culturally supposed to be sided with -or cast aside. Suspend any assumptions you already have, and inspiration will come flooding in.
#Writing #Feminism #Patriarchy #PsychologyOfWriting #African #WritingPsychology #PeoplePleasing #SelfRespect #WritingWhileAfrican #BlackAfrican -
"'Hope' is the thing with feathers That perches in the soul And sings the tune without the words And never stops at all..."
- Emily Dickenson
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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"You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think."
- A. A. Milne
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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Everybody wants success quickly.
Very few people are ready for repetition, sacrifice, discipline, and loneliness.Youth today don’t lack talent.
They lack consistency.Discipline is not punishment.
It is self-respect. ⚡The moment you control your routine…
your life starts changing quietly. 🔥
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.#AadhisPerspective #discipline #youthmindset #consistency #actorLife
#selfrespect #mindsetshift #growthmentality #lifelessons #AadhiLokesh #stayfocused
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"You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending."
- C. S. Lewis
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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"And the dandelion does not stop growing because it is told it is a weed, it does not care what others see. It says 'One day, they'll be making wishes upon me."
- B. Atkinson
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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"And the dandelion does not stop growing because it is told it is a weed, it does not care what others see. It says 'One day, they'll be making wishes upon me."
- B. Atkinson
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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"Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and happiness than any other."
- Brian Tracy
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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We spend so much time curating pixels, but people? They are the absolute priority. I learned this the hard way from an experience with an ex who could not put his phone down, even during intimate moments.
Giving your pure, undivided attention to the person in front of you is not just polite—it is a profound act of self-respect and respect for others.
You are telling them, "Your energy matters to me more than any notification." In a distracted world, your presence is a truly valuable gift.
Think of it as PurrEssence.
PurrEssence is about recognizing your own resonance. If a person, a place, or an experience makes you "purr" inside, that is your inner system saying, "This is exactly where I am supposed to be."
When you find those moments, honour them by being 100% there. Put the phone down. Breathe. Be.
Hosting an IRL coffee chat on Presence in Vancouver so if you are near or around, join us! RSVP at https://luma.com/purressence
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We spend so much time curating pixels, but people? They are the absolute priority. I learned this the hard way from an experience with an ex who could not put his phone down, even during intimate moments.
Giving your pure, undivided attention to the person in front of you is not just polite—it is a profound act of self-respect and respect for others.
You are telling them, "Your energy matters to me more than any notification." In a distracted world, your presence is a truly valuable gift.
Think of it as PurrEssence.
PurrEssence is about recognizing your own resonance. If a person, a place, or an experience makes you "purr" inside, that is your inner system saying, "This is exactly where I am supposed to be."
When you find those moments, honour them by being 100% there. Put the phone down. Breathe. Be.
Hosting an IRL coffee chat on Presence in Vancouver so if you are near or around, join us! RSVP at https://luma.com/purressence
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"Adopt the pace of nature: Her secret is patience."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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"Everything in nature invites us constantly to be what we are."
- Gretel Ehrlich
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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"When you bring your attention to a stone, a tree or an animal... the same stillness rises within you"
- Eckhart Tolle
#nature #stillness #motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
Nature therapy, also called ecotherapy, is the practice of being in nature to boost growth and healing, especially mental health.
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"When you bring your attention to a stone, a tree or an animal... the same stillness rises within you"
- Eckhart Tolle
#nature #stillness #motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
Nature therapy, also called ecotherapy, is the practice of being in nature to boost growth and healing, especially mental health.
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"Buy yourself flowers, simply because they're beautiful & you deserve beauty in your life."
- Karen Salmansohn
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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"The things that make me different are the things that make me, me."
- A. A. Milne
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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3/3: Protect Your Peace
Self-respect is the master switch for healing. That includes the self-respect to set healthy boundaries. It takes emotional maturity to forgive the past so we can live in the present.
This Sunday, I don’t just celebrate a date on the calendar. I celebrate a foundation built on mutual respect and safety.
It’s about being free from cultural, religious, or emotional debt. We shouldn't have to carry hidden static from our childhood into our adult lives.
To those navigating complicated family waters this weekend: I see you.
You deserve a system that feels safe.May you find the space to breathe and the strength to protect your own peace. You are allowed to choose regulation over obligation.
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3/3: Protect Your Peace
Self-respect is the master switch for healing. That includes the self-respect to set healthy boundaries. It takes emotional maturity to forgive the past so we can live in the present.
This Sunday, I don’t just celebrate a date on the calendar. I celebrate a foundation built on mutual respect and safety.
It’s about being free from cultural, religious, or emotional debt. We shouldn't have to carry hidden static from our childhood into our adult lives.
To those navigating complicated family waters this weekend: I see you.
You deserve a system that feels safe.May you find the space to breathe and the strength to protect your own peace. You are allowed to choose regulation over obligation.
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1/3: The Transactional Trap
Mother’s Day can be a complex day. Grateful for my relationship with my mom, but I know many carry a heavy backlog of family stress. We talk about the ideal, but real life shows us different patterns!
I know a mother who tells her adult son daily, "I gave birth to you, so you owe me." This creates an enmeshed cycle.
The bond becomes a transaction. It makes it nearly impossible for the adult child to move from "grip to glide" in their own life. They are carrying a debt that can never be paid.
If you’ve seen the show Bait, you know how heavy that cultural and emotional guilt can be. When we treat family like a ledger, we lose the chance for genuine connection.
Healing starts when we stop using guilt as a tool and start moving toward mutual respect.
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1/3: The Transactional Trap
Mother’s Day can be a complex day. Grateful for my relationship with my mom, but I know many carry a heavy backlog of family stress. We talk about the ideal, but real life shows us different patterns!
I know a mother who tells her adult son daily, "I gave birth to you, so you owe me." This creates an enmeshed cycle.
The bond becomes a transaction. It makes it nearly impossible for the adult child to move from "grip to glide" in their own life. They are carrying a debt that can never be paid.
If you’ve seen the show Bait, you know how heavy that cultural and emotional guilt can be. When we treat family like a ledger, we lose the chance for genuine connection.
Healing starts when we stop using guilt as a tool and start moving toward mutual respect.
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"Self respect, self worth & self love, all start with self. Stop looking outside of yourself for your value."
- Rob Liano
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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Not everyone deserves access to you.
Not your time… not your energy… not your heart.
Even I don’t let just anyone pet me.
So why are you so available?”#ProfessorWhiskers
#CatWisdom
#KnowYourWorth
#ProtectYourEnergy
#BoundariesMatter
#SelfRespect
#StopOverGiving
#EmotionalIntelligence
#EnergyProtection
#HighValueMindset
#NotForEveryone
#ChooseYourself
#LevelUpEnergy
#InnerPeaceFirst
#SelfWorthJourney
#HealingBoundaries
#NoMoreAccess
#ValueYourTime
#MindsetShift
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"Self-care is your fuel. Whatever the road ahead or the path you've taken, self-care is what keeps your motor running and your wheels turning."
- Melissa Steginus
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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You teach people how to treat you…
by what you allow…
what you tolerate…
and what you ignore.
So what are you teaching them?”What are you teaching?
Your standards set the tone.
#Shorts #Boundaries #SelfRespect #KnowYourWorth #HealthyRelationships #CatAdvice #Mindset #ProfessorWhiskers
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"Feel the fear and do it anyway."
- Susan Jeffers
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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The red flags were there…
you just called them potential.
You saw the signs…
but you hoped they’d change.
Next time… pay attention early.
Don’t rename red flags.
#Shorts #RedFlags #DatingAdvice #SelfRespect #Awareness #CatWisdom #MindsetShift #ProfessorWhiskers -
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
- Dr. Seuss
#motivation #selflove #love #selfrespect #esteem #resilience #recovery #believeinyourself #selfacceptance #selfappreciation #selfassessment #selfconfidence #dream
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It's spring here, but while many crave cold salads and smoothies, I feel like a grandma. I am craving simmered root veggies, hearty soups, and soul food made with care.
I post about food because I notice many people only care about convenience now. They often buy things that are prepackaged or parboiled.
What happened to slow-cooking and making meals together? Call me nostalgic, but there's something powerfully sexy about feeding your partner a favourite dish you made for them.
This reminds me of a concept called **The Slow Food Effect**. It's about choosing quality and connection over speed. When we slow down to cook, we aren't just making fuel; we're building a bond.
In my work, I focus on self-respect. Real self-respect means listening to what your body actually needs, even if it isn't "trendy" for the season. Regulated bodies do better work when they're nourished with intention.
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I went to a women's networking event recently. The speakers talked about buying a house in Shaughnessy at 26 or taking their kids on luxury trips (Rome, Paris, New York).
They called it "inspirational," but it felt like a hollow flex. These weren't stories of small business grit. They were stories backed by high-earning partners or big company exits.
This shows a concept called **Hidden Safety Nets**. When people share success without mentioning generational wealth or financial help they started with, it makes others feel like they aren't working hard enough. In reality, they're just playing a different game.
In my work, I focus on self-respect. Real self-respect means you don't have to mirror someone else's lifestyle to be "enough".
We should celebrate the honest work of regulated bodies. And people who actually succeeded versus marrying into the right family...
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Unless a man has talents to make something of himself, freedom is an irksome burden. Of what avail is freedom to choose if the self be ineffectual? We join a mass movement to escape individual responsibility, or, in the words of the ardent young Nazi, “to be free from freedom.” It was not sheer hypocrisy when the rank-and-file Nazis declared themselves not guilty of all the enormities they had committed. They considered themselves cheated and maligned when made to shoulder responsibility for obeying orders. Had they not joined the Nazi movement in order to be free from responsibility?
Eric Hoffer (1902-1983) American writer, philosopher, longshoreman
True Believer: Thoughts on the Nature of Mass Movements, Part 2, ch. 5, § 26 (1951)More about this quote: wist.info/hoffer-eric/10751/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #erichoffer #burden #cause #collectiveguilt #control #escape #freedom #individual #movement #obedience #orders #responsibility #selfcontempt #selfdeprecation #selfdoubt #selfimage #selfliberation #selfopinion #selfregard #selfrespect #selfresponsibility #truebeliever
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Stop performing for people who do not see your value.
True power is quiet. When you stay silent, it does not mean you are gone. It means you have authority. You are in control of your own space.
Your worth is not a job interview. You do not need to "audition" for love or kindness. If people want access to your energy, they must earn it.
It feels nice when someone says "good job." But that does not change who you are. Your value comes from inside, not from a "like" or a "pat on the back."
Practice being untouchable this week. Protect your peace.
How do you protect your energy when things get loud?
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Tom Sherwood: "If Pres. Trump could stand in the middle of Fifth Avenue and shoot a journalist, would the White House Correspondents' Association still invite Trump to its big dinner?"
#media #ethics #selfrespect #nerdprom #WHCD -
David Shuster: "With the White House Correspondents Association declaring Donald Trump an 'honoree' at tonight’s dinner, I declined an organization’s invitation to attend. The sane washing of Trump and his war on the press is dangerous. And the WHCA is an absolute disgrace."
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About the White House Correspondents' Association dinner, Max Burns wrote: "I am not sure how these reporters can stomach being in the room with a man* who has tried to destroy journalism, wants to jail journalists, and gleefully misuses public money to investigate the press for doing their jobs. The dinner isn't worth it, trust me."
#media #ethics #selfrespect #nerdprom #WHCD
* Donald Trump -
Whenever your are early or late to an appointment and you lament to yourself "oh, no .... I'm (early/late) to my appointment" console yourself with this: In physics we talk about 4 dimensional space-time, and you got 3 dimensions right out of 4. Getting 3 out of 4 ain't that bad right? 🙂
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"One senior African negotiator, speaking on condition of anonymity, reacted furiously to the suggestion the UK could open new fields. Africa would “reject any proposal for the UK to expand oil drilling” as such a move would be “fundamentally inconsistent with both the letter and spirit of the Paris agreement” and would “weaken trust with climate-vulnerable nations”, they said."
#climatejustice #UKPolitics (never mind #selfrespect)
https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2026/apr/08/uk-new-oil-gas-fields-north-sea-global-climate-goals?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other -
A quotation from Ambrose Pierce
CONCEIT, n. Self-respect in one whom we dislike.
Ambrose Bierce (1842-1914?) American writer and journalist
“Conceit,” “Devil’s Dictionary” column, San Francisco Wasp (1881-08-12)More about this quote: wist.info/bierce-ambrose/83247…
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #ambrosebierce #conceit #ego #perspective #pride #selfcenteredness #selfrespect
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I don’t need validation anymore — I know what I want, and that makes life simple.
#writing #personalgrowth #selfrespect #mindset #independence
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Knowing when to give up on someone isn’t about hate, it’s about self-respect.
https://de320.isrefer.com/go/HEART639FREE/Stuartn/
#KnowYourWorth #HealthyBoundaries #LettingGo #SelfRespect #EmotionalHealth #ThinkandGrowEducation #RayBehan #Shiftyourtribe #Selfdevelopment -
Some people use "Therapy Speak" as a weapon to minimize deep work. It is the classic "Pot calling the kettle black."
When someone attacks you for working on yourself, it is usually a sign of their own internal friction. It is much easier to bully a stranger than it is to look in the mirror.
This online harassment is just a symptom of a dysregulated system.
When the internal "Hardware" is fried by stress, everything feels like a threat. They aren't really talking about you. They are showing you that their own wires are crossed.
Don't let their noise flip your master switch. Everything I build is rooted in Self-Respect. That is the only way to move from surviving to thriving.
Keep your internal world clear. That is how we multiply harmony.
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A quotation from Eleanor Roosevelt
Perhaps that’s what we all had to do — think out for ourselves what we could believe and how we could live by it. And so I came to the conclusion that you had to use this life to develop the very best that you could develop.
Eleanor Roosevelt (1884–1962) First Lady of the US (1933–1945), politician, diplomat, activist
Essay (1951-12), “This I Believe: Growth that Starts from Thinking,” on Edward R. Murrow, This I Believe, CBS RadioMore about this quote: wist.info/roosevelt-eleanor/82…
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #eleanorroosevelt #belief #beliefsystem #besteffort #doyourbest #excellence #goodbehavior #meaningoflife #moralcode #personalcode #selfactualization #selfchallenging #selfcorrection #selfdevleopment #selfexamination #selfimprovement #selfquestioning #selfrespect
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Digital breakups: Let them go ⚖️
If someone "breaks up" with you because you did not text back fast enough? Let them go. No need to chase.
Recently, a "friend" poofed because I was offline for a week fostering a kitty and doing deep work. He said for his "mental health" he needed friends who are always there.
Reality check: You are not a phone app. You do not need to "update" daily to prove your value.
If someone cannot handle your real-world presence and seasons of silence, they are not your people. Do not waste energy apologizing for having a life of service.
The Year of the Horse is about momentum. You cannot run full speed if you are constantly stopping to comfort people upset by your boundaries. 🐎✨
Make space for friends who respect your capacity. Move on. Build your herd with people who actually breathe. 🐈⬛✨
Vibe-Check: Have you ever felt like a friend treated you like a phone app? How do you handle it when people "poof" over a few days of silence?
