Forgiveness Isn’t Weakness — Silvio José Báez, ocd
This Sunday’s Gospel reminds us of the importance of forgiveness. One day, Peter asked Jesus, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him?” In other words, is there a limit to forgiveness? Does a time come when enough is enough and we should stop forgiving? Peter suggests an answer: “As many as seven times?” (Mt 18:21). Jesus surprises him by replying, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven” (Mt 18:22). For Jesus, the only limit to forgiveness is that it has no limits.
Jesus doesn’t give this answer on a whim or out of idealism. He gives it because that is what God is like: he always forgives us. Today’s psalm describes him with astonishing tenderness: “The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always chide, nor will he keep his anger for ever. He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor requite us according to our iniquities” (Ps 103:8–10). God always goes beyond strict justice. His justice is mercy. And therein lies the key to everything: we don’t forgive because we’re generous, but because we ourselves have first been forgiven.
To explain this, Jesus tells a parable. Moved with compassion, a king forgives a servant an enormous debt that he could never repay (Mt 18:27). But as soon as that same servant leaves, he finds a fellow servant who owes him a much smaller amount and shows him no compassion. He grabs him, tries to strangle him, and has him thrown into prison (Mt 18:28, 30). That man wasn’t acting unjustly in a strictly legal sense: he had the right to demand payment of the debt. But he was heartless. He wasn’t dishonest, but he was cruel. We can be legally in the right and, at the same time, merciless. We can even think of ourselves as good Christians while carrying within us a heart closed to mercy.
When someone wrongs us, we almost instinctively think that one evil can be repaired by another: by hurting the person who hurt us, excluding the person who offended us, or harboring resentment against the person who mistreated us. But this doesn’t heal the wound we have suffered. It doesn’t restore the dignity we have lost or give us the strength to begin again. Instead, it only increases the pain and violence. We don’t heal one wound by inflicting another. Cruelty, hatred, resentment, and the desire for revenge deeply damage our lives and cause serious emotional turmoil. Only forgiveness can break the spiral of evil at its roots.
To “forgive seventy times seven” is a path of maturity and humanity. Forgiveness ennobles and heals the person who offers it. At the same time, it confronts the guilty person with the truth and gives that person an opportunity to repair the harm that was done. Forgiveness is bewildering: the first person called to conversion is not so much the one who caused the harm, but the victim, who is asked to give something no one deserves. True forgiveness is always undeserved: we forgive the unforgivable, just as God has forgiven what is unforgivable in us.
Forgiveness isn’t weakness. It demands tremendous spiritual strength and moral courage. In forgiving, we don’t demean ourselves. We draw nearer to the fullness of our humanity and reflect something of God’s merciful splendor. In fact, forgiveness liberates the person who forgives even before it liberates the person who is forgiven. It releases us from a past that, unless we let it go, will continue eating away at our lives and filling them with bitterness. Forgiveness allows us to look toward the future with new eyes, with serenity and even with joy.
The indignation aroused by evil, injustice, and violence that destroy our life together is understandable. Yet even then, we cannot give up on forgiveness or surrender to the logic of retaliation and hatred. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. It means remembering differently, without resentment or a desire for revenge. Nor does forgiving mean ignoring evil, silencing the truth, or standing idly by when harm has been done. Forgiving means refusing to accept that sin and evil will have the last word.
Let’s be clear, because this is where confusion often arises. To speak of forgiveness isn’t to deny justice, call for impunity, or suggest that victims should forget and simply turn the page. An injustice left without redress undermines life in society. Forgiveness granted at the expense of justice doesn’t close wounds; it deepens them even further. Anyone who has committed a crime must answer before independent courts, with due process and the right to a defense. Corrupt and unjust people, torturers, and criminals must face the consequences of their actions and be held accountable under the law. God’s mercy is no excuse for allowing criminals to act with impunity.
We must, however, go beyond justice, while never confusing justice with vengeance. In demanding justice, we cannot become as cruel as the servant in the parable or resort to the same lawless and heartless methods used by those who committed these crimes. As Saint John Paul II taught, human justice “must include and, as it were, be completed by the forgiveness which heals and rebuilds troubled human relations from their foundations,” for “forgiveness is the opposite of resentment and revenge, not of justice” (Message for the 2002 World Day of Peace).
Speaking of the legal administration of retributive justice, Pope Francis said: “This path however does not lead to true justice because in reality it does not conquer evil, it merely checks it. Only by responding to it with good can evil be truly overcome” (General Audience, February 3, 2016). Without the mercy that God freely gives us and that moves us to forgive generously, neither individuals nor peoples can ever be truly reconciled. Justice alone, without forgiveness, always leaves an open wound that sooner or later begins to bleed again. Forgiveness without justice becomes an empty word that humiliates the victim all over again. Only a heart touched by God’s mercy can hold together the demands of truth and the capacity to forgive.
Ultimately, forgiveness is a gift from God for which we must humbly plead in prayer. No one can forgive by their own strength alone. Those who forgive come to have a heart like God’s, with room for everyone, always and without conditions. They also come to have a gaze like God’s, beneath which we feel safe and unafraid, knowing that God always looks upon us with kindness, compassion, and tenderness.
May the Virgin Mary, Mother of Mercy, obtain for us a heart capable of forgiving tirelessly and of demanding, without hatred, the justice our world so desperately needs.
Bishop Silvio Jose Baez, o.c.d.
Auxiliary Bishop of Managua
Homily for the Twenty-Fourth Sunday in Ordinary Time
Miami, September 13, 2026
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