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DATE: July 21, 2026 at 04:00PM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Mentalizing ability appears to serve as a link between insecure attachment and hypersexual behavior
A study exploring links between affective attachment, mentalizing ability, and hypersexual behavior found that among people with a high sex drive, attachment anxiety and avoidance (i.e., attachment insecurity) were associated with hypersexual behavior. Individuals with higher mentalizing ability were less prone to hypersexual behavior. The paper was published in the Journal of Sex Research.
Mentalization is the ability to understand one’s own and other people’s behavior in terms of underlying thoughts, emotions, intentions, and desires. This capacity develops through early attachment relationships, in which caregivers help children recognize, label, and regulate their internal states.
However, sexual feelings tend to be more difficult to integrate into this developing sense of self because caregivers tend to respond to children’s early sexual expressions with discomfort, avoidance, or embarrassment. As a result, many people begin to understand and regulate their sexual states more fully only through later relationships and sexual experiences.
Study author Lynn Helen Christien Gaertner, a researcher at the University Medical Center Hamburg-Eppendorf, and colleagues conducted a study in which they explored the links between affective attachment, mentalizing ability, and hypersexual behavior. They studied this in groups of people with a high sex drive and in those with a low sex drive. Hypersexual behavior refers to persistent, intense, or difficult-to-control sexual thoughts, urges, or activities that cause significant distress or interfere with daily life, relationships, or responsibilities.
Study participants included 953 individuals with a high sex drive and 942 with a low sex drive, for a total of 1,895 participants. About 221 of the high sex drive participants and 680 of the low sex drive participants were women. Participants were recruited by a German online panel provider for a larger study on mentalizing and sexuality. The researchers focused exclusively on cisgender respondents because the number of transgender and non-binary respondents was too small for separate analyses.
Participants completed an online survey containing assessments of mentalizing ability and affective attachment. Low sex drive participants also completed an assessment of sexual desire (the Female Sexual Functioning Index or the Sexual Desire Inventory, depending on gender), while high sex drive participants completed an assessment of hypersexual behavior (the Hypersexual Behavior Inventory).
Affective attachment was described through two traits: attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. Attachment anxiety is a tendency to experience a strong fear of rejection or abandonment, accompanied by an excessive need for reassurance and closeness. Attachment avoidance involves discomfort with emotional dependence and intimacy, leading people to distance themselves or suppress attachment needs. People with low levels of both attachment anxiety and avoidance are considered to have a secure pattern of emotional attachment, while individuals with either high avoidance or high anxiety, or both, are considered to have insecure affective attachment patterns.
Results showed that, among high sex drive participants, more securely attached individuals tended to have better mentalizing abilities. In other words, individuals with higher levels of attachment anxiety or attachment avoidance tended to have worse mentalizing abilities. Individuals with higher attachment avoidance or anxiety were more prone to hypersexual behavior, and individuals with higher mentalizing abilities were less prone to hypersexual behaviors. This was the case in both men and women.
Among low sex drive women, more secure attachment was associated with better mentalizing ability, but mentalizing ability was not associated with sexual desire. Low sex drive men with higher attachment avoidance tended to display worse mentalizing ability, but attachment anxiety was not associated with mentalizing ability in this group.
In low sex drive men, higher attachment anxiety tended to relate to higher sexual desire, and better mentalizing ability was also associated with higher sexual desire. In both men and women with low sex drives, higher attachment avoidance was associated with lower sexual desire.
Further analyses revealed that, among high sex drive participants of both genders, mentalizing ability partially mediated the association between attachment insecurity and hypersexual behavior. Among participants with low sex drive, mentalizing ability was a partial mediator of the negative association between attachment avoidance and sexual desire, but only in men.
“Overall, mentalizing ability appears to be a mechanism linking insecure attachment to hypersexual behavior, while being less central to low sexual desire,” the study authors concluded.
The study contributes to the scientific understanding of the role mentalizing ability plays in people’s sexual behavior. However, it should be noted that the reported associations were mostly weak and that all data came from self-reports. This leaves open the possibility that reporting bias might have affected the findings. Due to the cross-sectional nature of the data, the researchers also could not determine causality.
The paper, “Attachment Anxiety and Avoidance in Dysregulated Sexuality and the Role of Mentalizing Ability,” was authored by Lynn Helen Christien Gaertner, Klaus Michael Reininger, and Peer Briken.
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DATE: July 21, 2026 at 04:00PM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Mentalizing ability appears to serve as a link between insecure attachment and hypersexual behavior
A study exploring links between affective attachment, mentalizing ability, and hypersexual behavior found that among people with a high sex drive, attachment anxiety and avoidance (i.e., attachment insecurity) were associated with hypersexual behavior. Individuals with higher mentalizing ability were less prone to hypersexual behavior. The paper was published in the Journal of Sex Research.
Mentalization is the ability to understand one’s own and other people’s behavior in terms of underlying thoughts, emotions, intentions, and desires. This capacity develops through early attachment relationships, in which caregivers help children recognize, label, and regulate their internal states.
However, sexual feelings tend to be more difficult to integrate into this developing sense of self because caregivers tend to respond to children’s early sexual expressions with discomfort, avoidance, or embarrassment. As a result, many people begin to understand and regulate their sexual states more fully only through later relationships and sexual experiences.
Study author Lynn Helen Christien Gaertner, a researcher at the University Medical Center Hamburg-Eppendorf, and colleagues conducted a study in which they explored the links between affective attachment, mentalizing ability, and hypersexual behavior. They studied this in groups of people with a high sex drive and in those with a low sex drive. Hypersexual behavior refers to persistent, intense, or difficult-to-control sexual thoughts, urges, or activities that cause significant distress or interfere with daily life, relationships, or responsibilities.
Study participants included 953 individuals with a high sex drive and 942 with a low sex drive, for a total of 1,895 participants. About 221 of the high sex drive participants and 680 of the low sex drive participants were women. Participants were recruited by a German online panel provider for a larger study on mentalizing and sexuality. The researchers focused exclusively on cisgender respondents because the number of transgender and non-binary respondents was too small for separate analyses.
Participants completed an online survey containing assessments of mentalizing ability and affective attachment. Low sex drive participants also completed an assessment of sexual desire (the Female Sexual Functioning Index or the Sexual Desire Inventory, depending on gender), while high sex drive participants completed an assessment of hypersexual behavior (the Hypersexual Behavior Inventory).
Affective attachment was described through two traits: attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. Attachment anxiety is a tendency to experience a strong fear of rejection or abandonment, accompanied by an excessive need for reassurance and closeness. Attachment avoidance involves discomfort with emotional dependence and intimacy, leading people to distance themselves or suppress attachment needs. People with low levels of both attachment anxiety and avoidance are considered to have a secure pattern of emotional attachment, while individuals with either high avoidance or high anxiety, or both, are considered to have insecure affective attachment patterns.
Results showed that, among high sex drive participants, more securely attached individuals tended to have better mentalizing abilities. In other words, individuals with higher levels of attachment anxiety or attachment avoidance tended to have worse mentalizing abilities. Individuals with higher attachment avoidance or anxiety were more prone to hypersexual behavior, and individuals with higher mentalizing abilities were less prone to hypersexual behaviors. This was the case in both men and women.
Among low sex drive women, more secure attachment was associated with better mentalizing ability, but mentalizing ability was not associated with sexual desire. Low sex drive men with higher attachment avoidance tended to display worse mentalizing ability, but attachment anxiety was not associated with mentalizing ability in this group.
In low sex drive men, higher attachment anxiety tended to relate to higher sexual desire, and better mentalizing ability was also associated with higher sexual desire. In both men and women with low sex drives, higher attachment avoidance was associated with lower sexual desire.
Further analyses revealed that, among high sex drive participants of both genders, mentalizing ability partially mediated the association between attachment insecurity and hypersexual behavior. Among participants with low sex drive, mentalizing ability was a partial mediator of the negative association between attachment avoidance and sexual desire, but only in men.
“Overall, mentalizing ability appears to be a mechanism linking insecure attachment to hypersexual behavior, while being less central to low sexual desire,” the study authors concluded.
The study contributes to the scientific understanding of the role mentalizing ability plays in people’s sexual behavior. However, it should be noted that the reported associations were mostly weak and that all data came from self-reports. This leaves open the possibility that reporting bias might have affected the findings. Due to the cross-sectional nature of the data, the researchers also could not determine causality.
The paper, “Attachment Anxiety and Avoidance in Dysregulated Sexuality and the Role of Mentalizing Ability,” was authored by Lynn Helen Christien Gaertner, Klaus Michael Reininger, and Peer Briken.
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DATE: July 14, 2026 at 08:00PM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Can learning to form healthy bonds reduce psychopathic behaviors?
Early childhood abuse and neglect are consistently linked to the manifestation of psychopathic traits in adulthood. The psychological pathways bridging early trauma and later antisocial personality features have remained somewhat ambiguous. A recent evaluation of incarcerated men suggests that an avoidant attachment style acts as a central dynamic in this relationship, separating those who develop cold, calculated traits from those who do not. The research was recently published in the International Journal of Offender Therapy and Comparative Criminology.
Psychopathy is a clinical construct characterized by two primary dimensions. The first dimension involves interpersonal and affective traits, such as a lack of empathy, grandiosity, and shallow emotions. The second dimension encompasses antisocial and impulsive behaviors, such as a failure to take responsibility, poor behavioral controls, and persistent rule-breaking. Incarcerated populations generally exhibit higher rates of these traits compared to the general public.
Some individuals exhibit high levels of psychopathic traits without ever engaging in criminal behavior. These people often display boldness, extreme self-confidence, and risk-taking tendencies that can even translate into professional success. Psychologists continually debate what variables dictate whether a psychopathic personality structure manifests in a socially adaptive manner or a destructive one.
Traumatic experiences before the age of fifteen are a known risk factor for the later manifestation of these psychopathic characteristics. People who endure physical abuse, sexual violence, or deep emotional neglect often struggle to form healthy bonds with others. Over time, these early breaches of trust shape what psychologists call attachment styles.
Attachment theory proposes that early relationships with caregivers provide a blueprint for how individuals navigate intimacy and emotional dependency in adulthood. When caregiving is consistent and supportive, children develop a secure attachment style. When caregiving is erratic, abusive, or absent, children often develop insecure attachment styles to cope with the unpredictability.
Insecure attachment generally falls into two distinct categories, anxious and avoidant. Attachment anxiety involves a heightened fear of abandonment, a high need for reassurance, and distress over unreciprocated affection. Attachment avoidance features a strong desire for strict autonomy, emotional distancing, and a fundamental discomfort with intimacy.
Maria Stella Mirarchi, a psychology researcher presently affiliated with the Technische Hochschule Mannheim in Germany, led the new investigation. Mirarchi and her colleagues hypothesized that specific insecure attachment styles might serve as a mediating variable. A mediating variable is a middle step that helps explain how an initial experience translates into a specific outcome.
The research team wanted to observe whether childhood trauma fosters an avoidant or anxious attachment style, which in turn feeds the development of psychopathic traits. They suspected that people who score high on psychopathy measures might shun emotional closeness as a defense mechanism rooted in early trauma. The diagnostic criteria for psychopathy already address severe intimacy deficits, including items assessing a history of short-term relationships and promiscuous behavior.
To test this model, the team evaluated 355 men serving sentences at a social-therapeutic correctional facility in Hamburg, Germany. The inmates were primarily incarcerated for varied violent and sexual offenses. Intake assessments occurred within the first few weeks of their arrival at the facility.
Trained clinical staff conducted exploratory interviews that spanned up to three hours. The staff also administered psychological tests and reviewed official case files. Using a standardized protocol, the clinicians documented reported instances of childhood sexual abuse, physical abuse, and emotional neglect.
The men completed a widely utilized self-report questionnaire assessing adult attachment styles in the context of close relationships. This survey captures a person’s tendencies toward both attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. To measure psychopathy, the clinical staff used the Psychopathy Checklist-Revised.
This checklist is the standard diagnostic tool for the condition in forensic settings. Clinicians rate an individual on twenty distinct items based on interview responses and historical records. The resulting scores capture the person’s overall psychopathy level, as well as their specific scores on the interpersonal and antisocial dimensions.
Baseline comparisons replicated established patterns in the psychological literature. Higher reported rates of childhood trauma correlated with higher overall psychopathy scores. Trauma was particularly linked to the antisocial and impulsive dimension of the clinical construct.
When the researchers ran their mediation analysis, they found that the overarching indirect effect through attachment styles was not statistically significant. Breaking the results down by the specific type of attachment style revealed a distinct contrast. The two styles operated in opposing ways.
Attachment avoidance exhibited a positive direct association with the overall psychopathy score. Men who coped with relationship stress by withdrawing emotionally and demanding independence tended to exhibit higher levels of total psychopathic traits. This pattern remained steady even when accounting for their personal trauma history.
Attachment anxiety produced a different outcome, particularly concerning the interpersonal and affective dimension of psychopathy. For this specific factor, which covers the callous, unemotional, and manipulative traits of the condition, attachment anxiety actually predicted lower scores.
This observation indicates that a fear of abandonment and a high need for emotional reassurance might buffer against the development of a truly callous personality. Men possessing high attachment anxiety still exhibited antisocial behaviors, but they lacked the cold emotional detachment that defines the core of primary psychopathy.
The research team noted that this divergence aligns with established theory. By definition, people exhibiting primary psychopathy rarely worry about rejection or unreciprocated affection. They are far more likely to avoid emotional attachments entirely, dismissing social bonds as an unnecessary vulnerability.
These distinct pathways offer new ideas for rehabilitation programs within the justice system. Traditional models sometimes view psychopathy as a permanent condition. Recent behavioral perspectives suggest that many personality traits associated with the condition are dynamic and capable of shifting in response to sustained treatment.
If attachment avoidance serves as a core mechanism sustaining these traits, therapy focusing on interpersonal skills could provide a new avenue for intervention. Helping individuals build secure relationships and dismantle their avoidant defense mechanisms might result in a gradual reduction of psychopathic behaviors.
The authors acknowledged several limitations in their analysis. The study utilized a cross-sectional design, meaning the assessments of trauma, attachment, and psychopathy all occurred at a single point in time. This type of observational data cannot establish a sequence of cause and effect.
Additionally, the research took place in a specialized social-therapeutic facility. In the German penal system, these facilities often house offenders who are court-referred for treatment or who demonstrate a high motivation to change. Consequently, the average psychopathy scores in this group were lower than those typically found in standard, maximum-security environments.
The reliance on a male-exclusive sample also restricts the broad application of the results. Men and women frequently experience qualitatively different forms of trauma during childhood. Basic socialization differences also heavily influence how men and women express emotional distress and attachment behaviors as adults.
Ongoing investigations will require longitudinal designs that track individuals from childhood into adulthood. Tracking psychological variables across varying stages of life would help clarify how early abuse gradually warps relational habits. A deeper understanding of these developmental cascades might eventually guide more ethical, targeted therapies for violent offenders.
The study, “The Role of Insecure Attachment Styles in the Relationship Between Childhood Trauma and Psychopathy in Adulthood,” was authored by Maria Stella Mirarchi, Theresa Kuban, Sonja Etzler, Peer Briken, and Martin Rettenberger.
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DATE: July 14, 2026 at 08:00PM
SOURCE: PSYPOST.ORG** Research quality varies widely from fantastic to small exploratory studies. Please check research methods when conclusions are very important to you. **
-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Can learning to form healthy bonds reduce psychopathic behaviors?
Early childhood abuse and neglect are consistently linked to the manifestation of psychopathic traits in adulthood. The psychological pathways bridging early trauma and later antisocial personality features have remained somewhat ambiguous. A recent evaluation of incarcerated men suggests that an avoidant attachment style acts as a central dynamic in this relationship, separating those who develop cold, calculated traits from those who do not. The research was recently published in the International Journal of Offender Therapy and Comparative Criminology.
Psychopathy is a clinical construct characterized by two primary dimensions. The first dimension involves interpersonal and affective traits, such as a lack of empathy, grandiosity, and shallow emotions. The second dimension encompasses antisocial and impulsive behaviors, such as a failure to take responsibility, poor behavioral controls, and persistent rule-breaking. Incarcerated populations generally exhibit higher rates of these traits compared to the general public.
Some individuals exhibit high levels of psychopathic traits without ever engaging in criminal behavior. These people often display boldness, extreme self-confidence, and risk-taking tendencies that can even translate into professional success. Psychologists continually debate what variables dictate whether a psychopathic personality structure manifests in a socially adaptive manner or a destructive one.
Traumatic experiences before the age of fifteen are a known risk factor for the later manifestation of these psychopathic characteristics. People who endure physical abuse, sexual violence, or deep emotional neglect often struggle to form healthy bonds with others. Over time, these early breaches of trust shape what psychologists call attachment styles.
Attachment theory proposes that early relationships with caregivers provide a blueprint for how individuals navigate intimacy and emotional dependency in adulthood. When caregiving is consistent and supportive, children develop a secure attachment style. When caregiving is erratic, abusive, or absent, children often develop insecure attachment styles to cope with the unpredictability.
Insecure attachment generally falls into two distinct categories, anxious and avoidant. Attachment anxiety involves a heightened fear of abandonment, a high need for reassurance, and distress over unreciprocated affection. Attachment avoidance features a strong desire for strict autonomy, emotional distancing, and a fundamental discomfort with intimacy.
Maria Stella Mirarchi, a psychology researcher presently affiliated with the Technische Hochschule Mannheim in Germany, led the new investigation. Mirarchi and her colleagues hypothesized that specific insecure attachment styles might serve as a mediating variable. A mediating variable is a middle step that helps explain how an initial experience translates into a specific outcome.
The research team wanted to observe whether childhood trauma fosters an avoidant or anxious attachment style, which in turn feeds the development of psychopathic traits. They suspected that people who score high on psychopathy measures might shun emotional closeness as a defense mechanism rooted in early trauma. The diagnostic criteria for psychopathy already address severe intimacy deficits, including items assessing a history of short-term relationships and promiscuous behavior.
To test this model, the team evaluated 355 men serving sentences at a social-therapeutic correctional facility in Hamburg, Germany. The inmates were primarily incarcerated for varied violent and sexual offenses. Intake assessments occurred within the first few weeks of their arrival at the facility.
Trained clinical staff conducted exploratory interviews that spanned up to three hours. The staff also administered psychological tests and reviewed official case files. Using a standardized protocol, the clinicians documented reported instances of childhood sexual abuse, physical abuse, and emotional neglect.
The men completed a widely utilized self-report questionnaire assessing adult attachment styles in the context of close relationships. This survey captures a person’s tendencies toward both attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. To measure psychopathy, the clinical staff used the Psychopathy Checklist-Revised.
This checklist is the standard diagnostic tool for the condition in forensic settings. Clinicians rate an individual on twenty distinct items based on interview responses and historical records. The resulting scores capture the person’s overall psychopathy level, as well as their specific scores on the interpersonal and antisocial dimensions.
Baseline comparisons replicated established patterns in the psychological literature. Higher reported rates of childhood trauma correlated with higher overall psychopathy scores. Trauma was particularly linked to the antisocial and impulsive dimension of the clinical construct.
When the researchers ran their mediation analysis, they found that the overarching indirect effect through attachment styles was not statistically significant. Breaking the results down by the specific type of attachment style revealed a distinct contrast. The two styles operated in opposing ways.
Attachment avoidance exhibited a positive direct association with the overall psychopathy score. Men who coped with relationship stress by withdrawing emotionally and demanding independence tended to exhibit higher levels of total psychopathic traits. This pattern remained steady even when accounting for their personal trauma history.
Attachment anxiety produced a different outcome, particularly concerning the interpersonal and affective dimension of psychopathy. For this specific factor, which covers the callous, unemotional, and manipulative traits of the condition, attachment anxiety actually predicted lower scores.
This observation indicates that a fear of abandonment and a high need for emotional reassurance might buffer against the development of a truly callous personality. Men possessing high attachment anxiety still exhibited antisocial behaviors, but they lacked the cold emotional detachment that defines the core of primary psychopathy.
The research team noted that this divergence aligns with established theory. By definition, people exhibiting primary psychopathy rarely worry about rejection or unreciprocated affection. They are far more likely to avoid emotional attachments entirely, dismissing social bonds as an unnecessary vulnerability.
These distinct pathways offer new ideas for rehabilitation programs within the justice system. Traditional models sometimes view psychopathy as a permanent condition. Recent behavioral perspectives suggest that many personality traits associated with the condition are dynamic and capable of shifting in response to sustained treatment.
If attachment avoidance serves as a core mechanism sustaining these traits, therapy focusing on interpersonal skills could provide a new avenue for intervention. Helping individuals build secure relationships and dismantle their avoidant defense mechanisms might result in a gradual reduction of psychopathic behaviors.
The authors acknowledged several limitations in their analysis. The study utilized a cross-sectional design, meaning the assessments of trauma, attachment, and psychopathy all occurred at a single point in time. This type of observational data cannot establish a sequence of cause and effect.
Additionally, the research took place in a specialized social-therapeutic facility. In the German penal system, these facilities often house offenders who are court-referred for treatment or who demonstrate a high motivation to change. Consequently, the average psychopathy scores in this group were lower than those typically found in standard, maximum-security environments.
The reliance on a male-exclusive sample also restricts the broad application of the results. Men and women frequently experience qualitatively different forms of trauma during childhood. Basic socialization differences also heavily influence how men and women express emotional distress and attachment behaviors as adults.
Ongoing investigations will require longitudinal designs that track individuals from childhood into adulthood. Tracking psychological variables across varying stages of life would help clarify how early abuse gradually warps relational habits. A deeper understanding of these developmental cascades might eventually guide more ethical, targeted therapies for violent offenders.
The study, “The Role of Insecure Attachment Styles in the Relationship Between Childhood Trauma and Psychopathy in Adulthood,” was authored by Maria Stella Mirarchi, Theresa Kuban, Sonja Etzler, Peer Briken, and Martin Rettenberger.
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DATE: July 8, 2026 at 08:00PM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Severe early deprivation leaves lasting mark on life skills 16 years later
URL: https://www.psypost.org/severe-early-deprivation-leaves-lasting-mark-on-life-skills-16-years-later/
An analysis of the Bucharest Early Intervention Project data found that children who were randomly assigned to foster care after severe early psychosocial deprivation showed better adaptive functioning 16 years later compared to those who were assigned to care as usual. Caregiving quality mediated the relationship between the assigned group and adaptive functioning. The paper was published in Developmental Psychology.
When parents die, abandon their children, lose custody, or are unable to provide safe and adequate care because of poverty, illness, disability, neglect, abuse, or family crisis, children may get assigned to institutional care. Institutional care places children in residential facilities, such as orphanages or group homes, where rotating staff care for many children instead of children being in one stable family.
Although these facilities usually provide food, shelter, supervision, and basic medical care, they may offer limited emotional warmth and individualized attention. Frequent staff changes and the fact that a small number of caregivers look after many children can prevent children from forming secure attachments and reduce opportunities for conversation, play, exploration, and responsive interaction. As a result, children may experience emotional, social, cognitive, and sensory deprivation that can interfere with their development.
Megan M. Hare, a researcher at Tulane University, and colleagues analyzed data from the Bucharest Early Intervention Project aiming to examine the potential influence of early exposure to psychosocially depriving institutional care on adaptive functioning during the transition to adulthood and compare it to the consequences of high-quality foster care. They also wanted to know whether caregiving quality in adolescence mediated the association between the type of care children were assigned to and adaptive functioning at 18 years of age.
The Bucharest Early Intervention Project was a landmark study examining how institutional care and foster placement affect the development of abandoned children in Romania. It began in 2000 and 2001 and included 136 children living in six institutions in Bucharest, whose average age at enrollment was about 22 months.
After baseline assessments, eligible children were randomly assigned either to receive care as usual, which generally involved longer placements in institutional care, or to enter a specially created, high-quality foster-care program. A third comparison group consisted of children from the local community who had never lived in institutions. The researchers assessed cognitive ability, language, attachment, emotional and behavioral problems, physical growth, brain activity, and several other developmental outcomes.
The analysis in this study included 93 of the original 136 children. Of these, 46 were in the care-as-usual group and 47 were from the group assigned to foster care. There were also 41 children from the control group that were never institutionalized. At the time of this analysis, participants’ average age was nearly 19 years old. About 61% identified as Romanian and 20% identified as Roma, while the ethnic identity of 19% was not specified.
Participants completed an assessment of adaptive functioning, meaning the practical skills individuals need for independent living, such as self-care, communication, and interpersonal skills. The researchers also collected staff ratings of the caregiving quality the children received at age 12 and 16. Two members of the study staff familiar with the child’s family independently provided these ratings.
Results showed that, 16 years after being assigned to foster care or care as usual, participants who grew up in foster care achieved significantly higher adaptive functioning scores, particularly in the areas of communication and socialization skills. These findings held when adaptive functioning was represented in age equivalences. For example, those in the care-as-usual group functioned, on average, at an age-equivalent level of 12.5 years, compared to 15.2 years for the foster care group. However, both groups lagged significantly behind the never-institutionalized group.
Further analyses revealed that caregiving quality significantly mediated the link between the type of care the children were assigned to and their adaptive functioning. Comparison with the group of children who were never institutionalized similarly revealed that caregiving quality mediated the link between the caregiving setup and adaptive functioning.
“These findings underscore the positive impact of nurturing environments on children’s adaptive functioning and indicate that early investment in family care as an alternative to institutional care leads to better adaptive functioning during the transition to adulthood,” the study authors concluded.
The study sheds light on the importance of caregiving arrangements for children’s psychosocial development. However, it should be noted that both institutional care and foster care can be provided with different levels of quality and may substantially differ in the opportunities they provide children to form secure attachments to caregivers. Findings of studies that examine different institutional care systems and foster care arrangements in different conditions may not be identical.
The paper, “Adaptive Functioning at Age 18 Years Following Severe Early Deprivation: Results of a Randomized Controlled Trial,” was authored by Megan M. Hare, Kathryn L. Humphreys, Ana Cosmoiu, Nathan A. Fox, Charles A. Nelson, and Charles H. Zeanah.
URL: https://www.psypost.org/severe-early-deprivation-leaves-lasting-mark-on-life-skills-16-years-later/
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DATE: July 8, 2026 at 08:00PM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Severe early deprivation leaves lasting mark on life skills 16 years later
URL: https://www.psypost.org/severe-early-deprivation-leaves-lasting-mark-on-life-skills-16-years-later/
An analysis of the Bucharest Early Intervention Project data found that children who were randomly assigned to foster care after severe early psychosocial deprivation showed better adaptive functioning 16 years later compared to those who were assigned to care as usual. Caregiving quality mediated the relationship between the assigned group and adaptive functioning. The paper was published in Developmental Psychology.
When parents die, abandon their children, lose custody, or are unable to provide safe and adequate care because of poverty, illness, disability, neglect, abuse, or family crisis, children may get assigned to institutional care. Institutional care places children in residential facilities, such as orphanages or group homes, where rotating staff care for many children instead of children being in one stable family.
Although these facilities usually provide food, shelter, supervision, and basic medical care, they may offer limited emotional warmth and individualized attention. Frequent staff changes and the fact that a small number of caregivers look after many children can prevent children from forming secure attachments and reduce opportunities for conversation, play, exploration, and responsive interaction. As a result, children may experience emotional, social, cognitive, and sensory deprivation that can interfere with their development.
Megan M. Hare, a researcher at Tulane University, and colleagues analyzed data from the Bucharest Early Intervention Project aiming to examine the potential influence of early exposure to psychosocially depriving institutional care on adaptive functioning during the transition to adulthood and compare it to the consequences of high-quality foster care. They also wanted to know whether caregiving quality in adolescence mediated the association between the type of care children were assigned to and adaptive functioning at 18 years of age.
The Bucharest Early Intervention Project was a landmark study examining how institutional care and foster placement affect the development of abandoned children in Romania. It began in 2000 and 2001 and included 136 children living in six institutions in Bucharest, whose average age at enrollment was about 22 months.
After baseline assessments, eligible children were randomly assigned either to receive care as usual, which generally involved longer placements in institutional care, or to enter a specially created, high-quality foster-care program. A third comparison group consisted of children from the local community who had never lived in institutions. The researchers assessed cognitive ability, language, attachment, emotional and behavioral problems, physical growth, brain activity, and several other developmental outcomes.
The analysis in this study included 93 of the original 136 children. Of these, 46 were in the care-as-usual group and 47 were from the group assigned to foster care. There were also 41 children from the control group that were never institutionalized. At the time of this analysis, participants’ average age was nearly 19 years old. About 61% identified as Romanian and 20% identified as Roma, while the ethnic identity of 19% was not specified.
Participants completed an assessment of adaptive functioning, meaning the practical skills individuals need for independent living, such as self-care, communication, and interpersonal skills. The researchers also collected staff ratings of the caregiving quality the children received at age 12 and 16. Two members of the study staff familiar with the child’s family independently provided these ratings.
Results showed that, 16 years after being assigned to foster care or care as usual, participants who grew up in foster care achieved significantly higher adaptive functioning scores, particularly in the areas of communication and socialization skills. These findings held when adaptive functioning was represented in age equivalences. For example, those in the care-as-usual group functioned, on average, at an age-equivalent level of 12.5 years, compared to 15.2 years for the foster care group. However, both groups lagged significantly behind the never-institutionalized group.
Further analyses revealed that caregiving quality significantly mediated the link between the type of care the children were assigned to and their adaptive functioning. Comparison with the group of children who were never institutionalized similarly revealed that caregiving quality mediated the link between the caregiving setup and adaptive functioning.
“These findings underscore the positive impact of nurturing environments on children’s adaptive functioning and indicate that early investment in family care as an alternative to institutional care leads to better adaptive functioning during the transition to adulthood,” the study authors concluded.
The study sheds light on the importance of caregiving arrangements for children’s psychosocial development. However, it should be noted that both institutional care and foster care can be provided with different levels of quality and may substantially differ in the opportunities they provide children to form secure attachments to caregivers. Findings of studies that examine different institutional care systems and foster care arrangements in different conditions may not be identical.
The paper, “Adaptive Functioning at Age 18 Years Following Severe Early Deprivation: Results of a Randomized Controlled Trial,” was authored by Megan M. Hare, Kathryn L. Humphreys, Ana Cosmoiu, Nathan A. Fox, Charles A. Nelson, and Charles H. Zeanah.
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DATE: July 5, 2026 at 07:00AM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Love addiction, emotional dependence, and manic love have distinct psychological profiles
Problematic patterns of romantic attachment are not all the same, according to a new systematic review published in Archives of Sexual Behavior. Researchers found that manic love, emotional dependence, and love addiction each have distinct psychological profiles, suggesting they should be studied and treated as separate conditions rather than being grouped together.
Most romantic relationships contribute positively to people’s well-being. However, for some individuals, romantic relationships become marked by obsession, excessive dependence, or compulsive attachment that interferes with daily life. Scientists have used different names for these behaviors—including manic love, emotional dependence, and love addiction—but there has been little agreement about whether they describe the same or different problems.
The researchers set out to clarify this by reviewing decades of research and comparing the psychological characteristics associated with each form of problematic love behavior. They also wanted to determine whether these patterns differed depending on the gender composition of study samples.
Led by Magdalena Sánchez-Fernández, a researcher at the University of Cádiz in Spain, the team searched four major scientific databases and identified 102 eligible studies. The final sample included 55 studies on manic love, 34 on emotional dependence, and 13 on love addiction. Across the studies, sample sizes ranged from 63 to 3,375 participants, with the proportion of women varying from 0% to 94.2%.
The team discovered that each type of problematic love behavior was associated with a different pattern of psychological characteristics. For example, relationship satisfaction exhibited opposite patterns of association across the domains. Higher relationship satisfaction was significantly associated with emotional dependence, but lower relationship satisfaction was significantly associated with manic love attitudes.
Additionally, anxious insecure attachment was significantly associated with love addiction but was not a significant meta-analytic correlate of emotional dependence. These findings provide empirical support for the hypothesis that these behaviors are distinct psychological entities that must be investigated independently.
Among the three types of problematic love behaviors, emotional dependence was linked to the widest range of psychological and relationship factors. Emotional dependence was tied to alcohol and substance use, behavioral addictions, violence (both received and perpetrated), and relationship satisfaction. Low self-esteem emerged as a common feature of both emotional dependence and manic love, while behavioral addictions were linked to both emotional dependence and love addiction.
The researchers also identified notable gender differences. The relationship between manic love and jealousy, as well as between manic love and lower relationship satisfaction, was stronger in studies involving higher proportions of women. By contrast, the association between love addiction and anxious attachment was stronger in studies with more men. These findings indicate that gender may influence how problematic relationship behaviors develop or are expressed.
Sánchez-Fernández and colleagues concluded, “The ultimate intention of this study is to move beyond the pathologization of problematic romantic behaviors. We align with authors who argue that problematic behaviors are not clinical pathologies or syndromes but rather stem from maladaptive cognitions, behaviors, and coping strategies that result in negative daily life consequences.”
The authors note several important limitations. For instance, nearly every study included in the review used a cross-sectional design, meaning it is impossible to determine whether the psychological factors caused problematic love behaviors or resulted from them. The research also heavily relied on studies from the United States, Spain, and Italy, and the findings may not translate across all cultures or non-monogamous relationship styles.
The study, “Problematic Love Behaviors and Correlated Factors: A Systematic Review with Subgroup Meta-Analysis Including Gender/Sex Moderation,” was authored by Magdalena Sánchez-Fernández, Nerea Almeda, and Mercedes Borda-Mas.
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DATE: July 5, 2026 at 07:00AM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Love addiction, emotional dependence, and manic love have distinct psychological profiles
Problematic patterns of romantic attachment are not all the same, according to a new systematic review published in Archives of Sexual Behavior. Researchers found that manic love, emotional dependence, and love addiction each have distinct psychological profiles, suggesting they should be studied and treated as separate conditions rather than being grouped together.
Most romantic relationships contribute positively to people’s well-being. However, for some individuals, romantic relationships become marked by obsession, excessive dependence, or compulsive attachment that interferes with daily life. Scientists have used different names for these behaviors—including manic love, emotional dependence, and love addiction—but there has been little agreement about whether they describe the same or different problems.
The researchers set out to clarify this by reviewing decades of research and comparing the psychological characteristics associated with each form of problematic love behavior. They also wanted to determine whether these patterns differed depending on the gender composition of study samples.
Led by Magdalena Sánchez-Fernández, a researcher at the University of Cádiz in Spain, the team searched four major scientific databases and identified 102 eligible studies. The final sample included 55 studies on manic love, 34 on emotional dependence, and 13 on love addiction. Across the studies, sample sizes ranged from 63 to 3,375 participants, with the proportion of women varying from 0% to 94.2%.
The team discovered that each type of problematic love behavior was associated with a different pattern of psychological characteristics. For example, relationship satisfaction exhibited opposite patterns of association across the domains. Higher relationship satisfaction was significantly associated with emotional dependence, but lower relationship satisfaction was significantly associated with manic love attitudes.
Additionally, anxious insecure attachment was significantly associated with love addiction but was not a significant meta-analytic correlate of emotional dependence. These findings provide empirical support for the hypothesis that these behaviors are distinct psychological entities that must be investigated independently.
Among the three types of problematic love behaviors, emotional dependence was linked to the widest range of psychological and relationship factors. Emotional dependence was tied to alcohol and substance use, behavioral addictions, violence (both received and perpetrated), and relationship satisfaction. Low self-esteem emerged as a common feature of both emotional dependence and manic love, while behavioral addictions were linked to both emotional dependence and love addiction.
The researchers also identified notable gender differences. The relationship between manic love and jealousy, as well as between manic love and lower relationship satisfaction, was stronger in studies involving higher proportions of women. By contrast, the association between love addiction and anxious attachment was stronger in studies with more men. These findings indicate that gender may influence how problematic relationship behaviors develop or are expressed.
Sánchez-Fernández and colleagues concluded, “The ultimate intention of this study is to move beyond the pathologization of problematic romantic behaviors. We align with authors who argue that problematic behaviors are not clinical pathologies or syndromes but rather stem from maladaptive cognitions, behaviors, and coping strategies that result in negative daily life consequences.”
The authors note several important limitations. For instance, nearly every study included in the review used a cross-sectional design, meaning it is impossible to determine whether the psychological factors caused problematic love behaviors or resulted from them. The research also heavily relied on studies from the United States, Spain, and Italy, and the findings may not translate across all cultures or non-monogamous relationship styles.
The study, “Problematic Love Behaviors and Correlated Factors: A Systematic Review with Subgroup Meta-Analysis Including Gender/Sex Moderation,” was authored by Magdalena Sánchez-Fernández, Nerea Almeda, and Mercedes Borda-Mas.
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DATE: July 4, 2026 at 06:00AM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: New psychology research reveals three distinct types of liars in romantic relationships
New research published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships and Personal Relationships suggests that people who mislead their romantic partners tend to fall into three specific behavioral categories. By examining the psychological reasons behind romantic deception, scientists provide evidence that lying in intimate relationships serves a variety of purposes. These purposes range from attempts to preserve relationship harmony to calculated strategies for emotional manipulation.
Tim Cole, an associate professor in the College of Communication at DePaul University and author of Broken Trust: Overcoming an Intimate Betrayal, conducted the research alongside Kellie Stonebrook. “This is one of my favorite studies, and it was honored with a Top Paper Award at the International Communication Association conference in Cape Town this year,” Cole said.
Deception in romantic relationships is a common occurrence, despite the high premium most couples place on honesty. People often mislead their partners for various reasons, making it difficult to understand the true impact of a lie. Cole and Stonebrook designed a pair of studies to identify the distinct motives behind these everyday falsehoods. They suspected that specific psychological frameworks might help explain why individuals choose to be dishonest with their significant others.
Attachment theory provides one such framework by describing how people manage intimacy and emotional dependence. Securely attached individuals generally feel comfortable with closeness and trust their romantic partners. Insecure attachment takes two primary forms, known as anxious attachment and avoidant attachment. Anxiously attached individuals crave deep connection but constantly fear abandonment, while avoidantly attached individuals prefer emotional distance and tend to pull away when relationships become too intimate.
To capture a wider range of psychological behaviors, the authors also examined antagonistic personality characteristics known as the Dark Tetrad. This grouping includes Machiavellianism, which involves a highly manipulative approach to social interactions. It also includes narcissism, characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, and psychopathy, which is marked by a lack of empathy and remorse. The final trait is everyday sadism, which describes people who experience intrinsic pleasure from causing others emotional or physical pain.
In their first project, Cole and Stonebrook developed a measurement tool called the Motives for Romantic Deception Scale. They initially recruited 926 participants living in the United States to evaluate a long list of reasons for lying to a partner. Through statistical testing, they narrowed the list down to seven distinct motives. The first few motives included malicious intent, attention seeking, conflict avoidance, and emotional appeasement.
Malicious intent means wanting to see a partner suffer, while attention seeking involves lying to make oneself seem more interesting. Conflict avoidance is used to steer clear of arguments, and emotional appeasement involves lying to protect a partner’s feelings. The remaining three motives were mistake concealment, privacy protection, and sexual avoidance. These involve covering up an embarrassing act, withholding facts to maintain personal autonomy, and making up excuses to avoid physical intimacy, respectively.
The researchers validated this new scale with an additional sample of 740 individuals. Following this step, they recruited 549 adults in romantic relationships to explore how these seven motives connected to attachment insecurities. Avoidant attachment was associated with motives involving emotional distance, such as protecting privacy and avoiding physical intimacy. Anxious attachment was linked to motives reflecting a need for reassurance, like seeking attention and hiding mistakes to prevent rejection.
“In the first study, we identified seven common motives for romantic deception—avoiding conflict, protecting privacy, concealing mistakes, sparing a partner’s feelings, gaining attention, avoiding sex, and intentionally causing harm—and linked them to attachment insecurity,” Cole told PsyPost. “The second study asked a different question: Do people cluster into distinct patterns based on why they deceive their partners?”
For their second study, they recruited a new sample of 567 adults who were either married or in a committed romantic relationship. The average participant was 42 years old, and the average relationship length was slightly over 14 years. The sample was split almost evenly between men and women.
Participants completed the newly developed scale measuring their reasons for deception. They also answered questionnaires assessing their attachment security and their levels of the four dark personality traits. Finally, the respondents rated their overall relationship satisfaction and estimated how frequently they tended to deceive their partners in general.
The researchers analyzed the data using a statistical technique called Latent Profile Analysis. This method looks for hidden patterns in how people respond across multiple questions, grouping individuals who share similar behavioral tendencies.
“Three profiles emerged,” Cole explained. “Transparent Partners (38%) rarely rely on deception, are securely attached, and report the most satisfying relationships.” For these individuals, honesty appears to be the default strategy for managing intimacy. They exhibited high relationship satisfaction, secure attachment styles, and extremely low levels of all four dark personality traits.
“Strategic Soothers (48%) lie mainly to keep the peace: avoiding conflict, sparing feelings, concealing mistakes, and protecting privacy,” Cole said. These individuals indicated that they primarily deceive their partners to maintain relationship harmony. They scored exceptionally low on motives intended to cause harm or seek attention.
Strategic Soothers exhibited average levels of insecure attachment but scored very low on the dark personality traits. They also reported moderate relationship satisfaction, falling slightly below the scores of the Transparent Partners. The authors suggest that this group uses deception as a coping mechanism to manage their relationship anxieties and prevent arguments, functioning as a protective shield rather than a tool for exploitation.
“Antagonistic Strategists (14%) endorse the full range of motives, including causing harm, seeking attention, and avoiding sex, and report the lowest relationship satisfaction and the most frequent deception,” Cole added. They were uniquely willing to deceive their partners to seek attention, avoid sexual intimacy, and deliberately cause emotional distress.
Psychologically, this group displayed high levels of attachment insecurity paired with elevated scores in narcissism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism, and sadism. For these individuals, deception seems to function as a tool for relational control and self-interest.
“What surprised us most was how cleanly the profiles separated,” Cole noted. “We expected much blurrier boundaries, but the statistical indicators showed unusually clear separation between the three groups.”
“The differences were large by any standard,” Cole said. “On self-reported tendency to deceive, the gap between Antagonistic Strategists and Transparent Partners was more than two standard deviations (d = 2.18). In behavioral research, that’s enormous.” He emphasized that the satisfaction differences were also substantial, not just statistical fine print. “These were meaningfully different groups rather than subtle statistical distinctions.”
The researchers noted also an unexpected psychological pattern between the two groups of frequent liars. “The other surprise was that Strategic Soothers and Antagonistic Strategists showed nearly identical levels of attachment insecurity,” Cole said. “What distinguished them wasn’t insecurity itself: it was antagonistic personality traits such as narcissism, psychopathy, and sadism. Attachment insecurity alone doesn’t explain harmful deception.”
The findings provide a new lens for understanding romantic relationships. “One thing this research reminds us of is that deception isn’t one-size-fits-all,” Cole said. “Two people may tell the exact same lie for completely different reasons, and those motives tell us a great deal about the health of the relationship.”
Cole highlighted two main takeaways for the general public. “First, the largest group in our sample, nearly half, uses deception to maintain the relationship rather than exploit it,” he said. “Lying to keep the peace may be closer to the norm than the exception in romantic relationships.”
Secondly, the reasoning behind the behavior carries more weight than the act itself. “Second, why someone lies matters more than whether they lie,” Cole explained. “The same act of deception can reflect relationship maintenance in one person and manipulation in another, and those patterns are associated with very different relationship outcomes.”
These findings provide real-world applications for relationship counselors and therapists. If a client fits the profile of a Strategic Soother, a therapist might help them build the confidence needed to face disagreements honestly. The therapist could focus on reducing the client’s fear of conflict, showing them that honesty does not automatically lead to a breakup.
Working with Antagonistic Strategists requires a completely different professional approach. In these cases, standard couples therapy might present actual risks, as the deceptive partner might use therapy insights to further manipulate their significant other. Recognizing these patterns allows professionals to prioritize safety and boundary setting over traditional communication exercises.
Even though Strategic Soothers lie to protect their bonds, their behavior is not a foolproof solution. “One other point is worth emphasizing: Strategic Soothers shouldn’t be interpreted as evidence that ‘deception works,'” Cole warned. “Although they generally lied for relationship-maintenance reasons, they were still less satisfied than Transparent Partners. Their deception may help keep the peace, but it doesn’t eliminate the relationship costs associated with attachment insecurity.”
The authors also caution against labeling individuals too rigidly. “These are patterns, not fixed types; people can change, and a single lie doesn’t reveal someone’s profile,” Cole said. “The data are also cross-sectional, so we can describe associations between personality, attachment, and deception, but not causation.”
The participants were predominantly White and relatively affluent, which suggests the findings might not apply perfectly to more diverse populations. Another limitation is that the researchers only measured the psychological motives for lying, rather than the specific topics of the lies. A lie about financial debt might impact a relationship differently than a lie about enjoying a home-cooked meal.
Moving forward, the scientists plan to continue exploring these complex dynamics. “We’re working to replicate these profiles and expand the picture by examining characteristics such as trust, empathy, guilt, jealousy, and forgiveness,” Cole said. “We also want to collect dyadic data to better understand what happens when two Strategic Soothers are paired together versus a Strategic Soother and an Antagonistic Strategist.”
This next step involves tracking couples over extended periods of time and observing both partners simultaneously. “Ultimately, we hope this work will help us better understand how patterns of deception shape relationship functioning over time,” Cole concluded.
The study, “Deceptive Hearts: Insecure Attachment and Motives Underlying Deception in Romantic Relationships,” was authored by Tim Cole and Kellie Stonebrook.
The study, “Strategic Soothers, Transparent Partners, and Antagonistic Strategists: A Latent Profile Analysis of Romantic Deception,” was authored by Tim Cole and Kellie Stonebrook.
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DATE: July 4, 2026 at 06:00AM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: New psychology research reveals three distinct types of liars in romantic relationships
New research published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships and Personal Relationships suggests that people who mislead their romantic partners tend to fall into three specific behavioral categories. By examining the psychological reasons behind romantic deception, scientists provide evidence that lying in intimate relationships serves a variety of purposes. These purposes range from attempts to preserve relationship harmony to calculated strategies for emotional manipulation.
Tim Cole, an associate professor in the College of Communication at DePaul University and author of Broken Trust: Overcoming an Intimate Betrayal, conducted the research alongside Kellie Stonebrook. “This is one of my favorite studies, and it was honored with a Top Paper Award at the International Communication Association conference in Cape Town this year,” Cole said.
Deception in romantic relationships is a common occurrence, despite the high premium most couples place on honesty. People often mislead their partners for various reasons, making it difficult to understand the true impact of a lie. Cole and Stonebrook designed a pair of studies to identify the distinct motives behind these everyday falsehoods. They suspected that specific psychological frameworks might help explain why individuals choose to be dishonest with their significant others.
Attachment theory provides one such framework by describing how people manage intimacy and emotional dependence. Securely attached individuals generally feel comfortable with closeness and trust their romantic partners. Insecure attachment takes two primary forms, known as anxious attachment and avoidant attachment. Anxiously attached individuals crave deep connection but constantly fear abandonment, while avoidantly attached individuals prefer emotional distance and tend to pull away when relationships become too intimate.
To capture a wider range of psychological behaviors, the authors also examined antagonistic personality characteristics known as the Dark Tetrad. This grouping includes Machiavellianism, which involves a highly manipulative approach to social interactions. It also includes narcissism, characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, and psychopathy, which is marked by a lack of empathy and remorse. The final trait is everyday sadism, which describes people who experience intrinsic pleasure from causing others emotional or physical pain.
In their first project, Cole and Stonebrook developed a measurement tool called the Motives for Romantic Deception Scale. They initially recruited 926 participants living in the United States to evaluate a long list of reasons for lying to a partner. Through statistical testing, they narrowed the list down to seven distinct motives. The first few motives included malicious intent, attention seeking, conflict avoidance, and emotional appeasement.
Malicious intent means wanting to see a partner suffer, while attention seeking involves lying to make oneself seem more interesting. Conflict avoidance is used to steer clear of arguments, and emotional appeasement involves lying to protect a partner’s feelings. The remaining three motives were mistake concealment, privacy protection, and sexual avoidance. These involve covering up an embarrassing act, withholding facts to maintain personal autonomy, and making up excuses to avoid physical intimacy, respectively.
The researchers validated this new scale with an additional sample of 740 individuals. Following this step, they recruited 549 adults in romantic relationships to explore how these seven motives connected to attachment insecurities. Avoidant attachment was associated with motives involving emotional distance, such as protecting privacy and avoiding physical intimacy. Anxious attachment was linked to motives reflecting a need for reassurance, like seeking attention and hiding mistakes to prevent rejection.
“In the first study, we identified seven common motives for romantic deception—avoiding conflict, protecting privacy, concealing mistakes, sparing a partner’s feelings, gaining attention, avoiding sex, and intentionally causing harm—and linked them to attachment insecurity,” Cole told PsyPost. “The second study asked a different question: Do people cluster into distinct patterns based on why they deceive their partners?”
For their second study, they recruited a new sample of 567 adults who were either married or in a committed romantic relationship. The average participant was 42 years old, and the average relationship length was slightly over 14 years. The sample was split almost evenly between men and women.
Participants completed the newly developed scale measuring their reasons for deception. They also answered questionnaires assessing their attachment security and their levels of the four dark personality traits. Finally, the respondents rated their overall relationship satisfaction and estimated how frequently they tended to deceive their partners in general.
The researchers analyzed the data using a statistical technique called Latent Profile Analysis. This method looks for hidden patterns in how people respond across multiple questions, grouping individuals who share similar behavioral tendencies.
“Three profiles emerged,” Cole explained. “Transparent Partners (38%) rarely rely on deception, are securely attached, and report the most satisfying relationships.” For these individuals, honesty appears to be the default strategy for managing intimacy. They exhibited high relationship satisfaction, secure attachment styles, and extremely low levels of all four dark personality traits.
“Strategic Soothers (48%) lie mainly to keep the peace: avoiding conflict, sparing feelings, concealing mistakes, and protecting privacy,” Cole said. These individuals indicated that they primarily deceive their partners to maintain relationship harmony. They scored exceptionally low on motives intended to cause harm or seek attention.
Strategic Soothers exhibited average levels of insecure attachment but scored very low on the dark personality traits. They also reported moderate relationship satisfaction, falling slightly below the scores of the Transparent Partners. The authors suggest that this group uses deception as a coping mechanism to manage their relationship anxieties and prevent arguments, functioning as a protective shield rather than a tool for exploitation.
“Antagonistic Strategists (14%) endorse the full range of motives, including causing harm, seeking attention, and avoiding sex, and report the lowest relationship satisfaction and the most frequent deception,” Cole added. They were uniquely willing to deceive their partners to seek attention, avoid sexual intimacy, and deliberately cause emotional distress.
Psychologically, this group displayed high levels of attachment insecurity paired with elevated scores in narcissism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism, and sadism. For these individuals, deception seems to function as a tool for relational control and self-interest.
“What surprised us most was how cleanly the profiles separated,” Cole noted. “We expected much blurrier boundaries, but the statistical indicators showed unusually clear separation between the three groups.”
“The differences were large by any standard,” Cole said. “On self-reported tendency to deceive, the gap between Antagonistic Strategists and Transparent Partners was more than two standard deviations (d = 2.18). In behavioral research, that’s enormous.” He emphasized that the satisfaction differences were also substantial, not just statistical fine print. “These were meaningfully different groups rather than subtle statistical distinctions.”
The researchers noted also an unexpected psychological pattern between the two groups of frequent liars. “The other surprise was that Strategic Soothers and Antagonistic Strategists showed nearly identical levels of attachment insecurity,” Cole said. “What distinguished them wasn’t insecurity itself: it was antagonistic personality traits such as narcissism, psychopathy, and sadism. Attachment insecurity alone doesn’t explain harmful deception.”
The findings provide a new lens for understanding romantic relationships. “One thing this research reminds us of is that deception isn’t one-size-fits-all,” Cole said. “Two people may tell the exact same lie for completely different reasons, and those motives tell us a great deal about the health of the relationship.”
Cole highlighted two main takeaways for the general public. “First, the largest group in our sample, nearly half, uses deception to maintain the relationship rather than exploit it,” he said. “Lying to keep the peace may be closer to the norm than the exception in romantic relationships.”
Secondly, the reasoning behind the behavior carries more weight than the act itself. “Second, why someone lies matters more than whether they lie,” Cole explained. “The same act of deception can reflect relationship maintenance in one person and manipulation in another, and those patterns are associated with very different relationship outcomes.”
These findings provide real-world applications for relationship counselors and therapists. If a client fits the profile of a Strategic Soother, a therapist might help them build the confidence needed to face disagreements honestly. The therapist could focus on reducing the client’s fear of conflict, showing them that honesty does not automatically lead to a breakup.
Working with Antagonistic Strategists requires a completely different professional approach. In these cases, standard couples therapy might present actual risks, as the deceptive partner might use therapy insights to further manipulate their significant other. Recognizing these patterns allows professionals to prioritize safety and boundary setting over traditional communication exercises.
Even though Strategic Soothers lie to protect their bonds, their behavior is not a foolproof solution. “One other point is worth emphasizing: Strategic Soothers shouldn’t be interpreted as evidence that ‘deception works,'” Cole warned. “Although they generally lied for relationship-maintenance reasons, they were still less satisfied than Transparent Partners. Their deception may help keep the peace, but it doesn’t eliminate the relationship costs associated with attachment insecurity.”
The authors also caution against labeling individuals too rigidly. “These are patterns, not fixed types; people can change, and a single lie doesn’t reveal someone’s profile,” Cole said. “The data are also cross-sectional, so we can describe associations between personality, attachment, and deception, but not causation.”
The participants were predominantly White and relatively affluent, which suggests the findings might not apply perfectly to more diverse populations. Another limitation is that the researchers only measured the psychological motives for lying, rather than the specific topics of the lies. A lie about financial debt might impact a relationship differently than a lie about enjoying a home-cooked meal.
Moving forward, the scientists plan to continue exploring these complex dynamics. “We’re working to replicate these profiles and expand the picture by examining characteristics such as trust, empathy, guilt, jealousy, and forgiveness,” Cole said. “We also want to collect dyadic data to better understand what happens when two Strategic Soothers are paired together versus a Strategic Soother and an Antagonistic Strategist.”
This next step involves tracking couples over extended periods of time and observing both partners simultaneously. “Ultimately, we hope this work will help us better understand how patterns of deception shape relationship functioning over time,” Cole concluded.
The study, “Deceptive Hearts: Insecure Attachment and Motives Underlying Deception in Romantic Relationships,” was authored by Tim Cole and Kellie Stonebrook.
The study, “Strategic Soothers, Transparent Partners, and Antagonistic Strategists: A Latent Profile Analysis of Romantic Deception,” was authored by Tim Cole and Kellie Stonebrook.
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DATE: July 3, 2026 at 08:00AM
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Anxious attachment is linked to populating future daydreams with other people, study finds
New research published in the Journal of Individual Differences provides evidence that a person’s relationship patterns actively shape how they imagine their own future. The findings suggest that people with high relationship anxiety tend to envision future scenarios filled with social interactions. In contrast, those who avoid closeness tend to imagine futures with fewer interpersonal connections.
Human beings spend a significant portion of their mental lives thinking about things that have not yet happened. Psychologists refer to this ability to mentally simulate personal future events as episodic future thinking. This mental process plays an important role in how people make decisions, regulate their emotions, and behave in everyday situations.
Episodic future thinking is generally recognized as a healthy cognitive habit. It contributes to overall well-being by allowing individuals to anticipate challenges, create effective plans, and manage their emotional responses before an event actually occurs. Because interpersonal relationships make up a massive part of daily life, the degree to which people include social interactions in these mental rehearsals can influence their behavior.
When imagining these future events, people draw heavily on their past social experiences. One major framework for understanding how past experiences shape human behavior is attachment theory. Attachment style refers to the individual differences in how people feel, think, and act within interpersonal relationships.
Scientists often measure attachment style along two specific dimensions known as attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. People with high attachment anxiety often fear abandonment and constantly seek closeness and reassurance from others. Individuals with high attachment avoidance tend to feel uncomfortable with intimacy and prefer to rely solely on themselves.
Most past research on attachment styles has focused on how these traits affect a person’s memory of the past or their experiences in the present moment. Very little attention has been given to how these deeply ingrained relationship habits influence expectations about the future. Fan Yang, an assistant professor at Waseda University, and Ze Zhang, a doctoral student at Okayama University, explained the underlying motivation for the study.
“We often think about attachment as something rooted in the past that affects our present relationships,” Yang and Zhang said. “But people also constantly imagine the future. These imagined possible futures matter because they can shape how people prepare, make decisions, and regulate their emotions.”
The researchers noted a gap in the scientific literature regarding interpersonal expectations. “What we wanted to know was whether those past relationship experiences also shape how people picture their future, especially whether they imagine future events as involving other people, support, closeness, or distance,” Yang and Zhang explained.
To test these ideas, the researchers conducted two separate studies. The first study involved 155 participants who were recruited through Chinese social networking platforms. The sample consisted of 129 females and 26 males, with an average age of about 22 years.
First, the participants completed a well-established questionnaire designed to measure their levels of attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. The scientists then asked each person to complete five distinct episodic future thinking tasks.
For each task, participants had to imagine a realistic and plausible future event that could happen in their personal lives. The instructions required them to picture highly specific details, such as the exact time and location of the event. The imagined scenario needed to last anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours, but no longer than a single day.
The researchers also instructed the participants to come up with completely new events rather than repeating daily routines or past experiences. They were given at least thirty seconds to mentally simulate each scenario. Afterward, the participants rated how strongly the imagined event related to interpersonal relationships on a seven-point scale.
The data revealed a distinct pattern based on attachment styles. As expected, attachment anxiety positively predicted the amount of interpersonal content in the imagined future scenarios. This means that as a person’s level of relationship anxiety increased, they tended to imagine more future events involving other people.
On the other hand, attachment avoidance negatively predicted this relevance. Participants with higher levels of avoidance tended to mentally simulate future events that had very little to do with interpersonal relationships. These findings provided initial evidence that attachment traits manifest when people daydream about the future.
Following these initial findings, the scientists designed a second study to see if stress would alter this dynamic. According to attachment theory, relationship behaviors are typically activated under conditions of threat or stress. The researchers wanted to observe how episodic future thinking might change when participants imagined stressful events compared to nonstressful ones.
The second study involved 67 Japanese university students, including 50 females, 14 males, and three individuals who identified as other. Their average age was about 20 years. Similar to the first study, participants filled out a questionnaire to measure their attachment styles before moving on to the imagination tasks.
In this phase, the researchers used a within-person design, meaning every participant completed both the nonstressful and stressful tasks. First, the participants were instructed to imagine five potential personal future events that were entirely nonstressful. They followed the same strict guidelines regarding specificity and realism used in the first study.
After completing the nonstressful simulations, the participants imagined five stressful future events. The scientists purposely had everyone complete the nonstressful tasks first to prevent the negative emotions of the stressful scenarios from lingering and affecting the neutral tasks.
Following each mental simulation, participants rated how much the event involved interpersonal relationships. They also rated the extent to which they felt positive or negative emotions about the imagined scenario. This emotional rating allowed the authors to verify that the stressful tasks actually elicited more negative feelings than the nonstressful tasks.
When the researchers analyzed the data, they found that attachment anxiety continued to predict more interpersonal content across both conditions. Anxiously attached individuals consistently included other people in their future simulations, whether they were imagining a relaxing day or a highly stressful situation.
For avoidantly attached individuals, the patterns shifted depending on the emotional tone of the imagined event. During the nonstressful tasks, higher attachment avoidance predicted less interpersonal content, matching the findings of the first study. However, during the stressful tasks, attachment avoidance had no significant effect on whether the scenario involved other people.
The authors suggest this shift occurs because avoidant individuals can easily suppress their need for social connection when they feel safe and relaxed. When imagining a stressful situation, keeping up that emotional defense requires more cognitive effort. Under the mental load of a stressful scenario, their natural inclination to avoid relying on others may become harder to maintain.
“Our findings suggest that how we imagine the future may reflect our relationship patterns,” Yang and Zhang told PsyPost. “People who worry more about relationships may picture the future as more interpersonal, whether the imagined event is stressful or not. In contrast, people who tend to avoid closeness may imagine fewer social elements in ordinary, nonstressful future events, but this tendency becomes weaker when they imagine stressful situations.”
This dynamic provides a new perspective on how relationship history impacts our daily lives. “In everyday life, this means our past relationship experiences may shape not only how we relate to others now, but also how we expect support, closeness, or distance in what probably comes next,” Yang and Zhang explained.
While these studies provide new insights into how we think about the future, the research does have some limitations. One notable issue is the demographic makeup of the samples. Both studies primarily relied on young, female university students from Eastern countries.
Because relationship dynamics and social expectations can vary widely across different cultures and age groups, these findings might not apply to the broader global population. Research suggests that gender identity can influence the emotional intensity of future-oriented thinking. This means a more balanced sample of men and women is needed to confirm these patterns.
The authors also cautioned against reading too deeply into the results without considering the context. “One important caveat is that our findings do not mean attachment style rigidly determines how people imagine the future,” Yang and Zhang noted. “Our studies were based mainly on university student samples, so future research should test whether the same patterns appear in more diverse populations.”
They also emphasized that there is no right or wrong way to imagine the future. “Our findings should not be interpreted as saying that relationship-focused future thinking is always good or that less interpersonal future thinking is always bad,” the researchers said. “Rather, they show that attachment patterns may influence which aspects of possible future events become more or less salient when people imagine what may happen to them.”
Another limitation involves the controlled experimental setting. Asking participants to generate future thoughts on command in a laboratory context might not perfectly capture how people spontaneously daydream in their everyday lives. To get a more accurate picture, future research could use mobile technology to survey people about their future-oriented thoughts as they naturally occur throughout the day.
The design of the tasks also introduces the possibility of a demand effect. In both studies, participants rated how much their imagined event related to relationships immediately after their first task. Doing this might have unintentionally prompted them to focus on social connections during the subsequent four tasks.
Additionally, the fixed order of the tasks in the second study presents a potential problem. Because all participants completed the nonstressful tasks before the stressful ones, the initial tasks might have influenced how they responded to the later ones. Future studies could address this by randomizing the order of the tasks or giving participants a break between conditions to reset their minds.
The authors also noted that the second study had a relatively small sample size and was not preregistered. This means the findings from the second study should be treated as preliminary. The researchers did not account for other psychological factors, such as general anxiety levels or personality traits, which could also influence how a person envisions their future.
Moving forward, the scientists plan to explore these concepts in more naturalistic settings. “Our next step is to look more closely at how people think about the future in everyday life,” Yang and Zhang said. “The future is not just something that happens later; the way we imagine it may already shape how we feel, make decisions, and relate to others now.”
They plan to investigate how mental time travel differs depending on whether a person is looking forward or backward. “One interesting question is that imagining the future often draws on past experiences, but the future also has a unique quality: it has not happened yet, but it might,” the authors explained.
This distinction could have important implications for psychological health. “We want to examine whether this ‘possible but not yet real’ quality makes imagining the future different from remembering the past in how it affects mental health and well-being,” Yang and Zhang said. “In other words, are remembering the past and imagining the future psychologically similar processes, or do they serve different functions?”
The authors have broad goals for this expanding area of study. “More broadly, we hope to understand why some people look ahead with confidence, while others feel worry, uncertainty, or anxiety,” they noted. “In particular, Ze Zhang will continue this line of work by focusing on topics such as future anxiety.”
The study, “The Influence of Attachment Style on the Extent to Which the Content of Episodic Future Thinking Relates to Interpersonal Relationships,” was authored by Fan Yang, Ze Zhang, Nanami Sawada, and Atsushi Oshio.
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-------------------------------------------------TITLE: Anxious attachment is linked to populating future daydreams with other people, study finds
New research published in the Journal of Individual Differences provides evidence that a person’s relationship patterns actively shape how they imagine their own future. The findings suggest that people with high relationship anxiety tend to envision future scenarios filled with social interactions. In contrast, those who avoid closeness tend to imagine futures with fewer interpersonal connections.
Human beings spend a significant portion of their mental lives thinking about things that have not yet happened. Psychologists refer to this ability to mentally simulate personal future events as episodic future thinking. This mental process plays an important role in how people make decisions, regulate their emotions, and behave in everyday situations.
Episodic future thinking is generally recognized as a healthy cognitive habit. It contributes to overall well-being by allowing individuals to anticipate challenges, create effective plans, and manage their emotional responses before an event actually occurs. Because interpersonal relationships make up a massive part of daily life, the degree to which people include social interactions in these mental rehearsals can influence their behavior.
When imagining these future events, people draw heavily on their past social experiences. One major framework for understanding how past experiences shape human behavior is attachment theory. Attachment style refers to the individual differences in how people feel, think, and act within interpersonal relationships.
Scientists often measure attachment style along two specific dimensions known as attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. People with high attachment anxiety often fear abandonment and constantly seek closeness and reassurance from others. Individuals with high attachment avoidance tend to feel uncomfortable with intimacy and prefer to rely solely on themselves.
Most past research on attachment styles has focused on how these traits affect a person’s memory of the past or their experiences in the present moment. Very little attention has been given to how these deeply ingrained relationship habits influence expectations about the future. Fan Yang, an assistant professor at Waseda University, and Ze Zhang, a doctoral student at Okayama University, explained the underlying motivation for the study.
“We often think about attachment as something rooted in the past that affects our present relationships,” Yang and Zhang said. “But people also constantly imagine the future. These imagined possible futures matter because they can shape how people prepare, make decisions, and regulate their emotions.”
The researchers noted a gap in the scientific literature regarding interpersonal expectations. “What we wanted to know was whether those past relationship experiences also shape how people picture their future, especially whether they imagine future events as involving other people, support, closeness, or distance,” Yang and Zhang explained.
To test these ideas, the researchers conducted two separate studies. The first study involved 155 participants who were recruited through Chinese social networking platforms. The sample consisted of 129 females and 26 males, with an average age of about 22 years.
First, the participants completed a well-established questionnaire designed to measure their levels of attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. The scientists then asked each person to complete five distinct episodic future thinking tasks.
For each task, participants had to imagine a realistic and plausible future event that could happen in their personal lives. The instructions required them to picture highly specific details, such as the exact time and location of the event. The imagined scenario needed to last anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours, but no longer than a single day.
The researchers also instructed the participants to come up with completely new events rather than repeating daily routines or past experiences. They were given at least thirty seconds to mentally simulate each scenario. Afterward, the participants rated how strongly the imagined event related to interpersonal relationships on a seven-point scale.
The data revealed a distinct pattern based on attachment styles. As expected, attachment anxiety positively predicted the amount of interpersonal content in the imagined future scenarios. This means that as a person’s level of relationship anxiety increased, they tended to imagine more future events involving other people.
On the other hand, attachment avoidance negatively predicted this relevance. Participants with higher levels of avoidance tended to mentally simulate future events that had very little to do with interpersonal relationships. These findings provided initial evidence that attachment traits manifest when people daydream about the future.
Following these initial findings, the scientists designed a second study to see if stress would alter this dynamic. According to attachment theory, relationship behaviors are typically activated under conditions of threat or stress. The researchers wanted to observe how episodic future thinking might change when participants imagined stressful events compared to nonstressful ones.
The second study involved 67 Japanese university students, including 50 females, 14 males, and three individuals who identified as other. Their average age was about 20 years. Similar to the first study, participants filled out a questionnaire to measure their attachment styles before moving on to the imagination tasks.
In this phase, the researchers used a within-person design, meaning every participant completed both the nonstressful and stressful tasks. First, the participants were instructed to imagine five potential personal future events that were entirely nonstressful. They followed the same strict guidelines regarding specificity and realism used in the first study.
After completing the nonstressful simulations, the participants imagined five stressful future events. The scientists purposely had everyone complete the nonstressful tasks first to prevent the negative emotions of the stressful scenarios from lingering and affecting the neutral tasks.
Following each mental simulation, participants rated how much the event involved interpersonal relationships. They also rated the extent to which they felt positive or negative emotions about the imagined scenario. This emotional rating allowed the authors to verify that the stressful tasks actually elicited more negative feelings than the nonstressful tasks.
When the researchers analyzed the data, they found that attachment anxiety continued to predict more interpersonal content across both conditions. Anxiously attached individuals consistently included other people in their future simulations, whether they were imagining a relaxing day or a highly stressful situation.
For avoidantly attached individuals, the patterns shifted depending on the emotional tone of the imagined event. During the nonstressful tasks, higher attachment avoidance predicted less interpersonal content, matching the findings of the first study. However, during the stressful tasks, attachment avoidance had no significant effect on whether the scenario involved other people.
The authors suggest this shift occurs because avoidant individuals can easily suppress their need for social connection when they feel safe and relaxed. When imagining a stressful situation, keeping up that emotional defense requires more cognitive effort. Under the mental load of a stressful scenario, their natural inclination to avoid relying on others may become harder to maintain.
“Our findings suggest that how we imagine the future may reflect our relationship patterns,” Yang and Zhang told PsyPost. “People who worry more about relationships may picture the future as more interpersonal, whether the imagined event is stressful or not. In contrast, people who tend to avoid closeness may imagine fewer social elements in ordinary, nonstressful future events, but this tendency becomes weaker when they imagine stressful situations.”
This dynamic provides a new perspective on how relationship history impacts our daily lives. “In everyday life, this means our past relationship experiences may shape not only how we relate to others now, but also how we expect support, closeness, or distance in what probably comes next,” Yang and Zhang explained.
While these studies provide new insights into how we think about the future, the research does have some limitations. One notable issue is the demographic makeup of the samples. Both studies primarily relied on young, female university students from Eastern countries.
Because relationship dynamics and social expectations can vary widely across different cultures and age groups, these findings might not apply to the broader global population. Research suggests that gender identity can influence the emotional intensity of future-oriented thinking. This means a more balanced sample of men and women is needed to confirm these patterns.
The authors also cautioned against reading too deeply into the results without considering the context. “One important caveat is that our findings do not mean attachment style rigidly determines how people imagine the future,” Yang and Zhang noted. “Our studies were based mainly on university student samples, so future research should test whether the same patterns appear in more diverse populations.”
They also emphasized that there is no right or wrong way to imagine the future. “Our findings should not be interpreted as saying that relationship-focused future thinking is always good or that less interpersonal future thinking is always bad,” the researchers said. “Rather, they show that attachment patterns may influence which aspects of possible future events become more or less salient when people imagine what may happen to them.”
Another limitation involves the controlled experimental setting. Asking participants to generate future thoughts on command in a laboratory context might not perfectly capture how people spontaneously daydream in their everyday lives. To get a more accurate picture, future research could use mobile technology to survey people about their future-oriented thoughts as they naturally occur throughout the day.
The design of the tasks also introduces the possibility of a demand effect. In both studies, participants rated how much their imagined event related to relationships immediately after their first task. Doing this might have unintentionally prompted them to focus on social connections during the subsequent four tasks.
Additionally, the fixed order of the tasks in the second study presents a potential problem. Because all participants completed the nonstressful tasks before the stressful ones, the initial tasks might have influenced how they responded to the later ones. Future studies could address this by randomizing the order of the tasks or giving participants a break between conditions to reset their minds.
The authors also noted that the second study had a relatively small sample size and was not preregistered. This means the findings from the second study should be treated as preliminary. The researchers did not account for other psychological factors, such as general anxiety levels or personality traits, which could also influence how a person envisions their future.
Moving forward, the scientists plan to explore these concepts in more naturalistic settings. “Our next step is to look more closely at how people think about the future in everyday life,” Yang and Zhang said. “The future is not just something that happens later; the way we imagine it may already shape how we feel, make decisions, and relate to others now.”
They plan to investigate how mental time travel differs depending on whether a person is looking forward or backward. “One interesting question is that imagining the future often draws on past experiences, but the future also has a unique quality: it has not happened yet, but it might,” the authors explained.
This distinction could have important implications for psychological health. “We want to examine whether this ‘possible but not yet real’ quality makes imagining the future different from remembering the past in how it affects mental health and well-being,” Yang and Zhang said. “In other words, are remembering the past and imagining the future psychologically similar processes, or do they serve different functions?”
The authors have broad goals for this expanding area of study. “More broadly, we hope to understand why some people look ahead with confidence, while others feel worry, uncertainty, or anxiety,” they noted. “In particular, Ze Zhang will continue this line of work by focusing on topics such as future anxiety.”
The study, “The Influence of Attachment Style on the Extent to Which the Content of Episodic Future Thinking Relates to Interpersonal Relationships,” was authored by Fan Yang, Ze Zhang, Nanami Sawada, and Atsushi Oshio.
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The Weather of Our First Reaching
In the luminous space between mother and child, attachment becomes the first language of love — a silent exchange shaping how we trust, connect, and heal. This reflection explores the invisible architecture of early bonds, where psychology meets poetry and the heart learns its first rhythm of belonging.https://thereflectivemind9.wordpress.com/2026/06/18/the-weather-of-our-first-reaching/
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The Weather of Our First Reaching
In the luminous space between mother and child, attachment becomes the first language of love — a silent exchange shaping how we trust, connect, and heal. This reflection explores the invisible architecture of early bonds, where psychology meets poetry and the heart learns its first rhythm of belonging.https://thereflectivemind9.wordpress.com/2026/06/18/the-weather-of-our-first-reaching/
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Attachment theory is useful, but the popular version treats Western individualist norms as universal. A cross-cultural meta-analysis found that insecure patterns vary by culture, yet variation within any culture was larger than variation between cultures. The concepts themselves are culturally situated.
Before reaching for labels in a cross-cultural relationship, ask whether "too distant" or "too intense" is actually a different cultural default for closeness.
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Emotional Immaturity Isn't What You Think It Is.
Most reactions are protection, not personality.
Read here: https://innermasteryhub.com/emotional-immaturity-in-adults/
#EmotionalImmaturity #EmotionalHealing #TraumaHealing #NervousSystemHealing #AttachmentTheory -
Hey people of the fedi with insecure attachment patterns:
Have any of you found a good way (that works for you) to deal with the fear of falling in love with someone while knowing that a friendship with that person would be really good for you?I'm willing to try anything that sounds like it could work for me.
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Hey people of the fedi with insecure attachment patterns:
Have any of you found a good way (that works for you) to deal with the fear of falling in love with someone while knowing that a friendship with that person would be really good for you?I'm willing to try anything that sounds like it could work for me.
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A viral monkey, his plushie, and a 70-year-old experiment: what Punch tells us about attachment theory
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Attachment theory: Childhood "safe/not safe" encoding creates deep distrust in doctors, therapists, hospitals. Trust rebuilds slowly through positive experiences #AttachmentTheory #MentalHealthMatters. Resonates? Boost or reply your story!
Comment your experience #OneMomentPodcast
Dive into the full: https://youtu.be/avP1-OgvGvg?si=lDtwKKsoDTKPREUl
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https://medium.com/storyangles/the-4-attachment-styles-explained-efd3b2b8051d
The 4 Attachment Styles Explained.
A breakdown of a complex model with plain examples.#attachmenttheory #attachment #MediumWriter #medium #life #relationships #relationship
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4 Ways Porn Use is Shaped by Relationship Fears
Originally Published on December 30th, 2025 at 11:58 amBeyond Addiction
When we talk about porn use, the conversation often gets stuck in simple, black-and-white narratives of morality or addiction. We tend to focus on how much someone is watching, rather than asking a more fundamental question: why? While these discussions are common, they often miss a deeper, more nuanced psychological story that’s playing out behind our screens.
What if our relationship with pornography isn’t just a habit, but a reflection of our most basic patterns of connecting with other people? This is the central idea behind attachment theory. It suggests that our earliest bonds with caregivers shape how we approach intimacy, trust, and emotional closeness throughout our lives. These deep-seated patterns are known as our “attachment style.”
A recent systematic review of 10 scientific studies has begun to connect these dots. It’s uncovered surprising links between our attachment styles and our pornography habits.
This article explores the four most impactful takeaways from that research.
It reveals how our fundamental needs for connection, and our fears of rejection, can shape what happens when we’re alone with a screen.
1. For some men, porn use is linked to better relationship satisfaction
Attachment styles are patterns in how we connect with others, stemming from our early life experiences. “Anxious attachment” style, for example, creates a deep desire for intimacy but lives with a persistent fear of rejection or abandonment.
Counterintuitively, one major study reviewed by the researchers (Maas et al., 2018) found that for men with this anxious attachment style, porn use was actually associated with higher relationship satisfaction.
This finding becomes even more striking when contrasted with the results for women in the same study.
For anxiously attached women, porn use was associated with lower relationship satisfaction.
This sharp gender difference underscores a crucial point: the effects of pornography are not one-size-fits-all.
They are deeply intertwined with our individual psychology, our gender, and our attachment style. This suggests that for anxious men, pornography might act as a low-stakes supplement that doesn’t trigger their core fear of abandonment. Whereas, for anxious women, it may directly activate it.
Are you a professional looking to stay up-to-date with the latest information on, sex addiction, trauma, and mental health news and research? Or maybe you’re looking for continuing education courses?
Stay up-to-date with all of Dr. Jen’s work through her practice’s newsletter!
2. Problematic porn use can be a way to cope with a fear of real intimacy
The review highlights a powerful theme: for those with insecure attachment styles, pornography offers a sense of connection without the perceived risks of real-world emotional intimacy.
This is particularly true for individuals with an avoidant attachment style. They often fear being engulfed by a relationship and losing their independence. Research shows that for this group, addictive cybersex use can become a direct substitute for the emotional closeness they find threatening.
While both anxious and avoidant individuals may turn to pornography, their motivations often differ.
Someone with an avoidant style might use it to replace an intimacy they fear. However, someone with an anxious style might use it to soothe anxiety about a connection they crave.
In both cases, porn use can become a substitute for genuine connection when real relationships feel too overwhelming.
The review synthesizes this concept perfectly:
When people with insecure attachments use pornography to satisfy their relational needs of comfort, they engage in little or less emotional closeness and commitment, which allays their worries of abandonment and separation.
This reframes problematic use not merely as an addiction, but as a potentially maladaptive strategy for managing deep-seated relational fears of either being left alone or being consumed by another.
Licensed Professional Counselors, do you need continuing education hours?
Look no further!
If you find this article interesting, Dr. Weeks’ course Sexual Education and Porn Use in Women, and her other unique courses, will engage and educate!
3. For anxiously attached women, porn use is linked to body insecurity; specifically when they’re in a relationship
Another study in the review (Gerwitz-Meydan et al., 2021) uncovered a highly specific link for women with an anxious attachment style.
For these women, an association between their attachment style and porn use was found only if they were currently in a relationship. For single women with the same attachment style, there was no significant association.
The research identified a crucial factor driving this connection: body image self-consciousness. The study found that pornography use acted as a mediator between anxious attachment and body image issues.
In simple terms, this means that for anxiously attached women in a relationship, viewing pornography may trigger or intensify insecurities about their own bodies.
This, in turn, can activate their underlying attachment-related fears of being inadequate for their partner. Porn use directly threatens their sense of security and stoking their core fear of abandonment.
Do you believe you have an online pornography addiction? Take the free Cyber Pornography Addiction Test (CYPAT) and have the results to speak with your therapist.
4. There’s a psychological link between ADHD, both anxious and avoidant attachment, and compulsive porn use.
The review also sheds light on the intersection of attachment, neurodiversity, and pornography.
One study (Niazof et al., 2019) found that problematic pornography use in men with ADHD was linked to both anxious and avoidant attachment styles, but in different ways.
Higher levels of anxious attachment were linked to excessive pornography use, while avoidant attachment was associated with higher levels of problematic use.
The researchers point to a potential explanation for this link: the “incentive deficit” that is often a characteristic of ADHD.
This concept suggests that individuals with ADHD may be more drawn to highly stimulating, novel, and instantly gratifying behaviors. It helps ADHD porn users to compensate for a brain that may be under-stimulated by everyday rewards.
When combined with insecure attachment, this creates a potent mix.
For the anxiously attached man with ADHD, pornography might serve as an easily accessible tool to soothe relational anxiety.
For the avoidantly attached man with ADHD, it may be a compelling substitute for the real-world intimacy he fears. It fulfills a need for stimulation without triggering his fear of closeness.
Conclusion: Beyond How Much to Why
The research clearly shows that our relationship with pornography is more complex than self-control or moral standing.
It can be a powerful and often unconscious reflection of our deepest relational patterns. It reveals our unmet needs for connection, and our most profound fears of intimacy and rejection.
This perspective invites us to shift the conversation.
Instead of focusing solely on the behavior itself, perhaps the more important question to ask is: What deeper needs and fears is this behavior trying to meet?
Share how this post spoke to you, or about someone you love. Do you believe you use pornography to compensate for your attachment style? Why or why not?
Are you looking for more reputable data-backed information on sexual addiction? The Mitigation Aide Research Archive is an excellent source for executive summaries of research studies.
Have you found yourself in legal trouble due to your sexual behavior? Seek assistance before the court mandates it, with Sexual Addiction Treatment Services.
Do you feel your sexual behavior, or that of someone you love, is out of control? Consult with a professional.
#ADHDAndPornUse #anxiousAttachment #attachmentStyles #attachmentTheory #avoidantAttachment #bodyImageInsecurity #compulsivePornUse #couplesTherapy #cybersexAddiction #emotionalIntimacy #fearOfAbandonment #fearOfRejection #intimacyIssues #mentalHealth #pornUse #pornographyUse #problematicPornUse #relationalCoping #relationshipFears #relationshipSatisfaction #sexualHealth #shameAndSecrecy #trustAndConnection -
4 Ways Porn Use is Shaped by Relationship Fears
Originally Published on December 30th, 2025 at 11:58 amBeyond Addiction
When we talk about porn use, the conversation often gets stuck in simple, black-and-white narratives of morality or addiction. We tend to focus on how much someone is watching, rather than asking a more fundamental question: why? While these discussions are common, they often miss a deeper, more nuanced psychological story that’s playing out behind our screens.
What if our relationship with pornography isn’t just a habit, but a reflection of our most basic patterns of connecting with other people? This is the central idea behind attachment theory. It suggests that our earliest bonds with caregivers shape how we approach intimacy, trust, and emotional closeness throughout our lives. These deep-seated patterns are known as our “attachment style.”
A recent systematic review of 10 scientific studies has begun to connect these dots. It’s uncovered surprising links between our attachment styles and our pornography habits.
This article explores the four most impactful takeaways from that research.
It reveals how our fundamental needs for connection, and our fears of rejection, can shape what happens when we’re alone with a screen.
1. For some men, porn use is linked to better relationship satisfaction
Attachment styles are patterns in how we connect with others, stemming from our early life experiences. “Anxious attachment” style, for example, creates a deep desire for intimacy but lives with a persistent fear of rejection or abandonment.
Counterintuitively, one major study reviewed by the researchers (Maas et al., 2018) found that for men with this anxious attachment style, porn use was actually associated with higher relationship satisfaction.
This finding becomes even more striking when contrasted with the results for women in the same study.
For anxiously attached women, porn use was associated with lower relationship satisfaction.
This sharp gender difference underscores a crucial point: the effects of pornography are not one-size-fits-all.
They are deeply intertwined with our individual psychology, our gender, and our attachment style. This suggests that for anxious men, pornography might act as a low-stakes supplement that doesn’t trigger their core fear of abandonment. Whereas, for anxious women, it may directly activate it.
Are you a professional looking to stay up-to-date with the latest information on, sex addiction, trauma, and mental health news and research? Or maybe you’re looking for continuing education courses?
Stay up-to-date with all of Dr. Jen’s work through her practice’s newsletter!
2. Problematic porn use can be a way to cope with a fear of real intimacy
The review highlights a powerful theme: for those with insecure attachment styles, pornography offers a sense of connection without the perceived risks of real-world emotional intimacy.
This is particularly true for individuals with an avoidant attachment style. They often fear being engulfed by a relationship and losing their independence. Research shows that for this group, addictive cybersex use can become a direct substitute for the emotional closeness they find threatening.
While both anxious and avoidant individuals may turn to pornography, their motivations often differ.
Someone with an avoidant style might use it to replace an intimacy they fear. However, someone with an anxious style might use it to soothe anxiety about a connection they crave.
In both cases, porn use can become a substitute for genuine connection when real relationships feel too overwhelming.
The review synthesizes this concept perfectly:
When people with insecure attachments use pornography to satisfy their relational needs of comfort, they engage in little or less emotional closeness and commitment, which allays their worries of abandonment and separation.
This reframes problematic use not merely as an addiction, but as a potentially maladaptive strategy for managing deep-seated relational fears of either being left alone or being consumed by another.
Licensed Professional Counselors, do you need continuing education hours?
Look no further!
If you find this article interesting, Dr. Weeks’ course Sexual Education and Porn Use in Women, and her other unique courses, will engage and educate!
3. For anxiously attached women, porn use is linked to body insecurity; specifically when they’re in a relationship
Another study in the review (Gerwitz-Meydan et al., 2021) uncovered a highly specific link for women with an anxious attachment style.
For these women, an association between their attachment style and porn use was found only if they were currently in a relationship. For single women with the same attachment style, there was no significant association.
The research identified a crucial factor driving this connection: body image self-consciousness. The study found that pornography use acted as a mediator between anxious attachment and body image issues.
In simple terms, this means that for anxiously attached women in a relationship, viewing pornography may trigger or intensify insecurities about their own bodies.
This, in turn, can activate their underlying attachment-related fears of being inadequate for their partner. Porn use directly threatens their sense of security and stoking their core fear of abandonment.
Do you believe you have an online pornography addiction? Take the free Cyber Pornography Addiction Test (CYPAT) and have the results to speak with your therapist.
4. There’s a psychological link between ADHD, both anxious and avoidant attachment, and compulsive porn use.
The review also sheds light on the intersection of attachment, neurodiversity, and pornography.
One study (Niazof et al., 2019) found that problematic pornography use in men with ADHD was linked to both anxious and avoidant attachment styles, but in different ways.
Higher levels of anxious attachment were linked to excessive pornography use, while avoidant attachment was associated with higher levels of problematic use.
The researchers point to a potential explanation for this link: the “incentive deficit” that is often a characteristic of ADHD.
This concept suggests that individuals with ADHD may be more drawn to highly stimulating, novel, and instantly gratifying behaviors. It helps ADHD porn users to compensate for a brain that may be under-stimulated by everyday rewards.
When combined with insecure attachment, this creates a potent mix.
For the anxiously attached man with ADHD, pornography might serve as an easily accessible tool to soothe relational anxiety.
For the avoidantly attached man with ADHD, it may be a compelling substitute for the real-world intimacy he fears. It fulfills a need for stimulation without triggering his fear of closeness.
Conclusion: Beyond How Much to Why
The research clearly shows that our relationship with pornography is more complex than self-control or moral standing.
It can be a powerful and often unconscious reflection of our deepest relational patterns. It reveals our unmet needs for connection, and our most profound fears of intimacy and rejection.
This perspective invites us to shift the conversation.
Instead of focusing solely on the behavior itself, perhaps the more important question to ask is: What deeper needs and fears is this behavior trying to meet?
Share how this post spoke to you, or about someone you love. Do you believe you use pornography to compensate for your attachment style? Why or why not?
Are you looking for more reputable data-backed information on sexual addiction? The Mitigation Aide Research Archive is an excellent source for executive summaries of research studies.
Have you found yourself in legal trouble due to your sexual behavior? Seek assistance before the court mandates it, with Sexual Addiction Treatment Services.
Do you feel your sexual behavior, or that of someone you love, is out of control? Consult with a professional.
#ADHDAndPornUse #anxiousAttachment #attachmentStyles #attachmentTheory #avoidantAttachment #bodyImageInsecurity #compulsivePornUse #couplesTherapy #cybersexAddiction #emotionalIntimacy #fearOfAbandonment #fearOfRejection #intimacyIssues #mentalHealth #pornUse #pornographyUse #problematicPornUse #relationalCoping #relationshipFears #relationshipSatisfaction #sexualHealth #shameAndSecrecy #trustAndConnection -
https://medium.com/the-writers-reach/characters-sabotage-their-own-happiness-071aa8640fae
Characters Sabotage Their Own Happiness.
The Psychology Behind Every Bad Decision.
Attachment styles reveal the secret code to believable character behavior.#attachmenttheory #writing #writingtips #fiction #medium #psychology
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https://medium.com/the-writers-reach/characters-sabotage-their-own-happiness-071aa8640fae
Characters Sabotage Their Own Happiness.
The Psychology Behind Every Bad Decision.
Attachment styles reveal the secret code to believable character behavior.#attachmenttheory #writing #writingtips #fiction #medium #psychology
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Mentalizing and Empathy: Connecting Minds for Better Relationships
#Resilience #MentalHealth #BrainScience #Mentalizing #EmotionRegulation #AttachmentTheory #Neurobiology #StressManagement #SelfControl #PsychologyInsights
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Resilience in Action: How Your Brain Overcomes Stress and Challenges
#Neuroscience #Resilience #MentalHealth #Mindfulness #EmotionalIntelligence #BrainPower #Mentalizing #AttachmentTheory #SelfAwareness #StressManagement #Neuropsychology #PersonalGrowth #SocialCognition #SelfReflection #Neurobiology
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CW: spoiler alert / psych notes on horror film
re-watching 500 Days of Summer, which is a horror story, not a romantic film
it’s an anxious dating an avoidant:
he projects, she distances
he idealizes her, she keeps him arms length1st watched this when i was married to (someone i now realize as) fearful avoidant: he absolutely loved this film while I thought it was cringe
I now watch it as a single woman survivor of a dismissive avoidant 😬
Tell me what u think of the ending
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Unlocking the Mind: A Journey Through Hallucinations, Memory, and Consciousness
#MindJourney #AuditoryHallucinations #Memory #Consciousness #Neuroscience #Thalamus #PinealGland #Magnetoreceptors #Microgenesis #CognitiveModels #CompassionFocusedTherapy #MemorySpecificity #AttachmentTheory #Hypnagogic #Hypnopompic #BrainWonders #ExploreTheMind #MentalHealth #SelfAwareness #CreativeThinking
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Playfulness predicts attachment and jealousy in romantic relationships https://www.psypost.org/playfulness-predicts-attachment-and-jealousy-in-romantic-relationships/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon #RelationshipGoals #EmotionalIntelligence #Playfulness #AttachmentTheory #Jealousy
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Parenting stress alters the link between attachment avoidance and sexual satisfaction in couples with children https://www.psypost.org/parenting-stress-alters-the-link-between-attachment-avoidance-and-sexual-satisfaction-in-couples-with-children/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon #Parenting #AttachmentTheory #RelationshipGoals #MentalHealth #SexualSatisfaction
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Locked Up Living Mark Stibbe (Video) •Understanding Shame and Attachment in Childhood: In this conversation the author, Mark Stibbe shares his profound journey from a challenging early life marked by adoption and separation to his experiences in boarding school, where he faced emotional and physical challenges. He discusses the impact of shame and attachment issues stemming from his… https://lockedupliving.podbean.com/e/mark-stibbe-video-%e2%80%a2understanding-shame-and-attachment-in-childhood/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon @lockedupliving #ChildhoodTrauma #Shame #AttachmentTheory #MentalHealth #Resilience
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CW: Parents as dictators / authority / educators / benevolent dictator attachments to children
@punishmenthurts Kind of a hard balance #authoritarianism when the roles of #parent is multiple and has sub-types that are required to use elements of authoritarianism like acting as:
- a #guardian (authority),
- a #trainer (authority),
- experienced #adult (authority as knowledge),
- etc...so while there's definite #dictator as bad, the lines become blurred or hard to see for what #level or #goal each sub-type is carrying out. As long as it's not the the clearer "I don't #care / don't have time for this" type then it can be tricky / all in the mind.
#AttachmentTheory is there either way also:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theorySomehow I like the term #benevolent #dictator and some of that seems to work with #parenting and part of giving a lot while knowing best somewhat at the same time as #learning / #teaching / and allowing more #options.
I realise that when teacher don't learn or re-learn with their students (and also allow them to re-create) then that can be authoritarianism in the worse kind - perhaps like today where we cannot create much, change it willingly together or even allow to love things from all these rules or boxes, preventing love or cross-pollination (which could allow expression, feelings, decisions about love rather than pretend to standardise / box in all people instead as cold 'authority' or as 'system'.
Could instead act as guidelines or even guiding lights instead of blocking that warmth !.
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Are we able to heal our old wounds alone? Or are we trapped by the way we view relationships? Kyleigh Weathers explains #AttachmentTheory and her #Mormon upbringing in this vulnerable episode.
https://genderidentitytoday.com/the-adult-youre-looking-for-is-you/
#GenderIdentityWeekly #QueerlyAttached
#trans #transgender #lgbtq #mtf #TransgenderWoman #TransWoman #GenderIdentity #SupportWithAmi #GenderIdentitySupport #AskAmethysta #ScienceOfIdentity
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Watch Trailer For ‘Attachment Theory,’ First Short Film Directed By Katherine Jackson; Daughter Of Peter Jackson & Fran Walsh Prowls AI For Scares
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Watch Trailer For ‘Attachment Theory,’ First Short Film Directed By Katherine Jackson; Daughter Of Peter Jackson & Fran Walsh Prowls AI For Scares
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DATE: June 21, 2024 at 04:00PM
SOURCE: PSYPOST.ORGTITLE: Would you be happy as a long-term single? The answer may depend on your attachment style
Are all single people insecure? When we think about people who have been single for a long time, we may assume it’s because single people have insecurities that make it difficult for them to find a partner or maintain a relationship.
But is this true? Or can long-term single people also be secure and thriving?
Our latest research published in the Journal of Personality suggests they can. However, perhaps unsurprisingly, not everybody tends to thrive in singlehood. Our study shows a crucial factor may be a person’s attachment style.
Singlehood is on the rise
Singlehood is on the rise around the world. In Canada, single status among young adults aged 25 to 29 has increased from 32% in 1981 to 61% in 2021. The number of people living solo has increased from 1.7 million people in 1981 to 4.4 million in 2021.
People are single for many reasons: some choose to remain single, some are focusing on personal goals and aspirations, some report dating has become harder, and some become single again due to a relationship breakdown.
People may also remain single due to their attachment style. Attachment theory is a popular and well-researched model of how we form relationships with other people. An Amazon search for attachment theory returns thousands of titles. The hashtag #attachmenttheory has been viewed over 140 million times on TikTok alone.
What does attachment theory say about relationships?
Attachment theory suggests our relationships with others are shaped by our degree of “anxiety” and “avoidance”.
Attachment anxiety is a type of insecurity that leads people to feel anxious about relationships and worry about abandonment. Attachment avoidance leads people to feel uncomfortable with intimacy and closeness.
People who are lower in attachment anxiety and avoidance are considered “securely attached”, and are comfortable depending on others, and giving and receiving intimacy.
Single people are often stereotyped as being too clingy or non-committal. Research comparing single and coupled people also suggests single people have higher levels of attachment insecurities compared to people in relationships.
At the same time, evidence suggests many single people are choosing to remain single and living happy lives.
Single people represent a diverse group of secure and insecure people
In our latest research, our team of social and clinical psychologists examined single people’s attachment styles and how they related to their happiness and wellbeing.
We carried out two studies, one of 482 younger single people and the other of 400 older long-term singles. We found overall 78% were categorised as insecure, with the other 22% being secure.
Looking at our results more closely, we found four distinct subgroups of singles:
•secure singles are relatively comfortable with intimacy and closeness in relationships (22%)
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•anxious singles question whether they are loved by others and worry about being rejected (37%)
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•avoidant singles are uncomfortable getting close to others and prioritise their independence (23% of younger singles and 11% of older long-term singles)
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•fearful singles have heightened anxiety about abandonment, but are simultaneously uncomfortable with intimacy and closeness (16% of younger singles and 28% of older long-term singles).
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Insecure singles find singlehood challenging, but secure singles are thriving
Our findings also revealed these distinct subgroups of singles have distinct experiences and outcomes.
Secure singles are happy being single, have a greater number of non-romantic relationships, and better relationships with family and friends. They meet their sexual needs outside romantic relationships and feel happier with their life overall. Interestingly, this group maintains moderate interest in being in a romantic relationship in the future.
Anxious singles tend to be the most worried about being single, have lower self-esteem, feel less supported by close others and have some of the lowest levels of life satisfaction across all sub-groups.
Avoidant singles show the least interest in being in a romantic relationship and in many ways appear satisfied with singlehood. However, they also have fewer friends and close relationships, and are generally less satisfied with these relationships than secure singles. Avoidant singles also report less meaning in life and tend to be less happy compared to secure singles.
Fearful singles reported more difficulties navigating close relationships than secure singles. For instance, they were less able to regulate their emotions, and were less satisfied with the quality of their close relationships relative to secure singles. They also reported some of the lowest levels of life satisfaction across all sub-groups.
It’s not all doom and gloom
These findings should be considered alongside several relevant points. First, although most singles in our samples were insecure (78%), a sizeable number were secure and thriving (22%).
Further, simply being in a romantic relationship is not a panacea. Being in an unhappy relationship is linked to poorer life outcomes than being single.
It is also important to remember that attachment orientations are not necessarily fixed. They are open to change in response to life events.
Similarly, sensitive and responsive behaviours from close others and feeling loved and cared about by close others can soothe underlying attachment concerns and foster attachment security over time.
Our studies are some of the first to examine the diversity in attachment styles among single adults. Our findings highlight that many single people are secure and thriving, but also that more work can be done to help insecure single people feel more secure in order to foster happiness.
Christopher Pepping, Associate Professor in Clinical Psychology, Griffith University; Geoff Macdonald, Professor of Psychology, University of Toronto; Tim Cronin, Lecturer in Clinical Psychology, La Trobe University, and Yuthika Girme, Associate Professor, Department of Psychology, Simon Fraser University
This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.
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#WarrenBrown - What Are #Persons?
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#Philosophy #PhilosophyOfMind #Mind #PhilosophyOfConsciousness #Consciousness #Personhood #Neurophysiology #Neuroscience #Autism #Self #TheSelf #Relationships #Personality #God #Religion #Attachment #AttachmentTheory #CloserToTruth #RobertKuhn
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#WarrenBrown - What Are #Persons?
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#Philosophy #PhilosophyOfMind #Mind #PhilosophyOfConsciousness #Consciousness #Personhood #Neurophysiology #Neuroscience #Autism #Self #TheSelf #Relationships #Personality #God #Religion #Attachment #AttachmentTheory #CloserToTruth #RobertKuhn
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I’ve watched a few videos this morning in prep for my therapy appointment. I'm trying to learn what I can to help myself become a good parent so I can teach my kids to have healthy relationships later in life.
The first (1/3) is on #AttachmentTheory:
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#AtatchmentQandA is still live!
Do you have a question ⁉️ about #attachmenttheory or #research? There unfortunately is lots of confusion 🤔 and misinformation ⚠️ circulating online.
Join the dialogue 🗣️ and help spreading evidence-based attachment science!
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#AtatchmentQandA is still live!
Do you have a question ⁉️ about #attachmenttheory or #research? There unfortunately is lots of confusion 🤔 and misinformation ⚠️ circulating online.
Join the dialogue 🗣️ and help spreading evidence-based attachment science!
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The cat-lesbian association has spanned centuries. According to The Cut, Ancient Egypt, Wicca and witchcraft featured felines as companions in spiritual matters for hundreds of years. These practices appealed to women generally disgusted by the demands of marriage, gender roles, or mainstream femininity. In the 1970s, few women were more disgusted with the sexist status quo than #lesbian feminists.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/whiskers-of-wisdom-lessons-on-attachment-healing-from-two-beloved-feline-friends-998a8f8711df?sk=8947c3f8702263ed2b7e099a8573916d -
The cat-lesbian association has spanned centuries. According to The Cut, Ancient Egypt, Wicca and witchcraft featured felines as companions in spiritual matters for hundreds of years. These practices appealed to women generally disgusted by the demands of marriage, gender roles, or mainstream femininity. In the 1970s, few women were more disgusted with the sexist status quo than #lesbian feminists.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/whiskers-of-wisdom-lessons-on-attachment-healing-from-two-beloved-feline-friends-998a8f8711df?sk=8947c3f8702263ed2b7e099a8573916d -
#AttachmentQandA (10): #Child-#Father #Attachment
ANSWER SUMMARY
▶️#Attachmenttheory and research nowadays more strongly considers #dads as #caregivers & attachment figures than ever, but much remains to be learned.COMPLETE ANSWER & FURTHER READING
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#AttachmentQandA (10): #Child-#Father #Attachment
ANSWER SUMMARY
▶️#Attachmenttheory and research nowadays more strongly considers #dads as #caregivers & attachment figures than ever, but much remains to be learned.COMPLETE ANSWER & FURTHER READING
➡️https://pvrticka.com/attachment-qanda/ -
#AttachmentQandA (9): #Attachmentparenting
SHORT ANSWER SUMMARY
1⃣ #AttachmentTheory and #AttachmentParenting are two different constructs
2⃣ There is quite some confusion due to the use of similar language for unrelated issuesCOMPLETE ANSWER
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I was interviewed by #VICE about #attachmenttheory and particularly #attachment #anxiety and how it is (sometimes mis-)represented as a pop-psych concept. Many thanks 😊!
https://www.vice.com/en/article/pka357/anxious-attachment-style-meaning-neuroscientist-interview
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As for #introductions
I am a new #mom working for a #tech company in a #data role.
I read about #geopolitics, #HumanRights, #programming, #infosec, and #defense but am writing narrowly about my experience as a #mom.
My challenge for this account is I write and hit Publish mostly real time, so it's likely far from perfect.
#MomsOfMastodon #WorkingMom #attachment #AttachmentTheory #parenting #authenticity #poetry #writing #LGBTQIAally #BLM
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I was just hit by this:
SHAME DESERVES STUDY AS HIERARCHY'S ENFORCER.
Paper: Attaching #shame to hierarchy and #hierarchy to some versions of #attachment
Abstract: #AttachmentTheory sees individual autonomy as childrearing practices’ appropriate goal. But many people in the world do not share attachment theorists’ validation of autonomy. They instead believe that they should train their children into behavior appropriate to hierarchical ... "
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As for #introductions
I am a new #mom working for a #tech company in a #data role.
I read about #geopolitics, #HumanRights, #programming, #infosec, and #defense but am writing narrowly about my experience as a #mom.
My challenge for this account is I write and hit Publish mostly real time, so it's likely far from perfect.
#MomsOfMastodon #WorkingMom #attachment #AttachmentTheory #parenting #authenticity #poetry #writing #LGBTQIAally #BLM
