#familyabolition — Public Fediverse posts

Hey what's up everyone my name's skuppr and here's my #intro post

A scupper is a hole you put in the deck of a ship to let water drain off it rather than pool up. In British English slang to scupper something is to fuck it up such that it no longer works.

I'm yet another x230 using, f91w wearing trans dyke!

To be honest I'm pretty out of practice at this whole public sharing thing, I left all social media years ago and don't really interact with people online outside Signal. I found social media extremely bad for my mental health and habits; I think I am very susceptible to what sometimes gets called "dark design/patterns" but that if we're not being antiblack we might call "malicious design" or "maladaptive habit forming design" or something. My mental health improved practically overnight when I left twitter and I am very loath to endanger my recovery. THAT SAID it is also pretty hard to form new connections without any kind of public presence so I am here to try out some slow, cautious ways of meeting people and maybe putting some of my thoughts and ideas out into the world. I'll do my best to honour kolektiva's social conventions where I'm able but I guess this is just my disclaimer to say I am aware I am not gonna behave how most people on here do/expect.

That said, here is a list of my positions and interests such that I might find my people:

I'm a liveaboard continuous cruising #boater , I move around the inland waterways of Britain on my #boat with no fixed abode. My boat isn't equipped for seafaring so I am regrettably stuck on this cursed island for now. I maintain my own onboard systems including #solar, a fossil-free #solidFuelStove and my BMC #dieselEngine. I live this way right now while I am developing the social bonds necessary for land-based radical organisation like a #commune or #co-op . I am invested in #familyAbolition and as such I think a lot about relationships and social bonds in the context of #survivorship, #trauma, #disability and #childAbuse, which makes forming the social bonds necessary for co-living a big challenge.

I'm a #rightToRepair activist, an #IWW organiser, and I organise with Anarchist bookstores/infoshops when I'm moored within commuting distance of them. I've never committed a crime and neither have you and let's not talk about that online ok? I know like, a lot about computers, #linux, and #infosec compared to your average human, but probably about average for a trans woman. I use #debian as my daily driver but I'm currently playing around with #ArchBTW to teach myself some extra skills. I'm between WMs because I'm migrating off X to Wayland, most recently I used #awesomeWM. I'll probably try river or sway. I have a #pinePhone but it's sitting in a drawer at the moment because the capacitive touch failed and I can't afford a new screen. Will run #grapheneOS on new phone soon.

I'm a #dyke in the sense that I don't date men, and I have a life which is built around prioritising other dykes. I'm a woman in the "fuck you" kind of way of like, I'm a woman because TME people try to stop me being one, but honestly I don't really think about my gender much beyond "am dyke".

I practice #relationshipAnarchy and understand this as part of a broader politic of #anarchism which critiques heirarchy, power, hoarding and family. It does not fit my threat model to speak about my relationships here beyond that I have them, they're with dykes, they're not hierarchical and they're awesome. If I hit it off with someone here I would share that info off platform. I am absolutely here to find people to date, and potentially to fuck in the fullness of time, though I am very into slowly building up to fucking through developing good communication and consent practices. I don't date people in their mid-twenties or lower, I am in my early thirties at time of writing. I try to prioritise connections with other #transfeminine people.

I'm ~politically disabled~ in the social model, #disability activism sense, but I find a lot of rights/equality law based activism in the #disabled community really nauseatingly liberal in its scope, goals and ideology. Similarly I'm #actuallyAutistic inasmuch as I think #autistic is a meaningful term, and mentally ill/traumatised inasmuch as I think these labels are meaningful, but most #neurodiversity discourse is too liberal, identity-based, clinical, and/or abuse-apologist for my liking. I'm #antiPsych, I guess #antiPsychiatry pro #recovery might cover it, and I think sometimes a really good queer anarchist therapist could gap-fill for the skills support and wisdom people struggle to access in an atomised society which constantly discards elders. Realistically most therapists extremely do not fill those gaps tho.

In the interest of destigmatising talking about this, and of breaking the silence around trans women's bottom surgeries, I have a noninversion neovulva. I'm well over whatever kind of recovery timeline (6 months, 2yrs, 5yrs) you understand "full recovery" to take, and I'm well settled into the realities and compromises of living with (the consequences from neglecting) dilation, surgical outcome lottery, surgical trauma etc etc. I don't regret it but yknow, I do have sadnesses and regrets about aspects of the whole process... but also I really enjoy sex involving my cunt so it's all swings and roundabouts really innit! Here to talk to other transfeminine ppl who're navigating life with a neovulva, as well as transfeminine ppl who are considering or in the process of accessing bottom surgery. I suppose I would also talk to people who fuck transfeminine people if they wanted advice about how to do that respectfully/safely/successfully if their partner has a neovulva but you'd have to be on your best fucking behaviour if TME.

I care a lot about the liberation of #travellers, #bargee, Romanichal, #squatters, houseless ppl and other no fixed abode ppl, and am tryna get more involved in organising with fellow #NFA ppl.

I'm white and have British citizenship and am committed to betraying whiteness and the so-called United Kingdom incl at some cost/risk to my safety and happiness. Committed to self reflection and hearing critique regarding my place in white supremacist colonial society and obligations to dismantling it.

I'm into #anticiv #greenAnarchism #technopessimism because I've seen and understood enough of technology to know our liberation is incompatible with conflict mineral mining, sucking all the rare and fossil resources out of the planet, coerced labour, slavery and industrialisation. I understand we are all part of a delicate ecosystem which cannot support states, "civilisation" or capitalism without untold unjust suffering. I feel like economically speaking I am a whatever-worksist more than a communist or syndicalist per se, but I do quite like syndicalism as an ideal of what a just stateless economy might look like. I fucking hate tankies and all other authoritarians, and I fucking hate so-called "libertarian capitalists" and other doublespeaking power hungry capital worshippers. Cryptocurrency is a geocidal ponzi scheme.

Almost exclusively posting in English; I do speak a little #Mandarin /#zhongwen but I'm extremely out of practice. I'd love to have ppl to practice with but pls feel no obligation to be patient with/humour me. Same deal with Welsh/#Cymraeg but I'm not out of practice I just only recently started learning. I speak a little of most Western continental European languages (fr de sp it) but again, really out of practice and tbh not really looking to improve atm.

I am trying to be extremely intentional about what I post because I think microblogging (which I'd define as posting short things as soon as they enter my head without letting them percolate and preparing for the mortifying prospect of someone responding to them) is really bad for me (and maybe you? will prosletyse to those open to being convinced), which I mostly say for self-accountability purposes. Maybe give me a nudge if you see me posting a torrent of short posts. I also don't really like the idea of public conversation because of how being observed changes how ppl interact (imo for the worse, it certainly seems to bring out the worst in me). I'm not ruling it out but I want to manage expectations regarding how likely I am to respond publically to people.

As it says in my bio, I access this account in such a way that preserves my anonymity given this island's present descent into fascism and how it's hard to talk about my politics without painting a target on my back. I use TOR and Tails and a bunch of other things you don't need to know about, but which make logging into this account inconvenient and time consuming. I also have really limited electricity, especially in winter, so all in all I won't be on here much. Please be patient with me if you're waiting for a response! If I follow you with this account, it's reasonably likely I also subscribe to your account through my #RSS reader which is pushed to my main devices, so if you tag me I will probably see it even if I can't reply right now, and I am probably seeing your posts even when I'm not logged in. I don't put people on my RSS feed who microblog poor mental health stuff though, because having that stuff pushed to my phone fucks with my brain, no judgement. I would hope any meaningful connections I make here could be migrated to Signal so we can chat a bit easier and I can respond faster :) drop me your signal number or your pubkey (will not send my signal number in clear sorry) if you wanna chat there :) my PGP fingerprint is 3601 0E0B A4C6 49C7 and my full pubkey can be found in my bio.

I think that's everything, pls boost this is you think your followers are cool and safe and might get on with me, I'm def not going to be posting often enough to have any "reach" on my own haha.