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  1. DATE: May 26, 2026 at 06:00AM
    SOURCE: PSYPOST.ORG

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    TITLE: More choices on dating apps actually increase commitment, new study suggests

    URL: psypost.org/more-choices-on-da

    A recent study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships provides evidence that having a larger number of online dating options tends to increase a person’s desire to pursue a relationship with a chosen match. The research suggests that a larger pool of potential partners improves the chances of finding a compatible connection. Finding this better match then boosts dating motivation, challenging the popular idea that having too many options automatically makes online daters distracted.

    Today, a majority of people use the internet to find romantic partners, but many report feeling frustrated with the process. A dominant view among scientists has been that dating apps offer an overwhelming number of choices. This abundance is thought to trigger choice overload, a psychological phenomenon where having too many alternatives makes people overly picky and reluctant to settle down.

    Some earlier research supported this idea, suggesting that online daters treat potential partners like products on a grocery store shelf. Under this consumer mindset, constantly evaluating new profiles can make users fear they are missing out on a better match. This mindset often leads to lower satisfaction with the person they eventually select.

    The authors of the new paper sought to explore a different perspective borrowed from economics. Junwen Hu, a communication researcher at Michigan State University, authored the study alongside David Markowitz, an associate professor of communication at Michigan State University. They theorized that having more options might actually be beneficial for daters.

    The researchers noted that the tech industry often assumes users need fewer choices to succeed. “Dating apps tend to limit the number of dating candidates people have, claiming to prevent the paradox of choice (from having too many options to choose from),” the authors explained. “This is related to an old debate in the field: does limiting options (candidates to date) discourage participation? To address that, we conducted two experiments to compare different explanations that have emerged in the literature.”

    The scientists viewed online dating as a matching market, which is a system where people with very different traits, interests, and needs search for someone who fits their specific preferences. In this type of market, both parties evaluate each other. Success depends heavily on how well two people align in their goals and lifestyles.

    In economics, a concept called the thick market effect suggests that larger markets offer a better chance of finding a highly specific, compatible match. For example, a person looking for a highly specialized job is more likely to find it in a massive city than in a small rural town. The researchers theorized that this same mathematical logic applies to dating apps.

    To test these ideas, the researchers conducted two separate online experiments. In the first experiment, they recruited 193 single adults in the United States, aged 21 to 30, through an online survey platform. The sample included a relatively even mix of men and women of various racial backgrounds and sexual orientations.

    The participants were told they were testing a new dating website called Date Today. First, the participants answered questions about their demographics, dating preferences, hobbies, and the qualities they desired in a partner. They were then shown a series of realistic dating profiles that matched their preferred gender. All profiles were drawn from a pre-tested database to ensure they looked authentic.

    The scientists randomly assigned the participants to one of two conditions. The low-option group viewed a selection of six profiles, while the high-option group viewed a selection of thirty-one profiles. After browsing the options on a single page, each participant had to select one person they would like to go on a date with.

    The researchers then measured the participants’ immediate intention to pursue a relationship with their choice. They also measured the participants’ general readiness to commit to a relationship. To understand the psychological mechanisms at play, the scientists asked participants to rate how picky they felt, how compatible they thought they were with their chosen match, their perceived social status, and their fear of being single.

    The findings contradicted the idea that more options lead to less commitment. “Our results run contrary to the conventional wisdom that people should limit their options in online dating,” the researchers said. Participants who saw thirty-one profiles reported a greater intention to pursue a relationship with their selected match compared to those who saw only six profiles.

    The high-option group did not show a difference in general commitment readiness in this first study, but their immediate desire to date their chosen match was noticeably higher.

    The researchers analyzed the data to understand the psychological mechanisms behind this boost in motivation. They found that participants in the high-option group felt a stronger sense of compatibility with the person they chose. This sense of perceived compatibility directly predicted their desire to pursue a date.

    The scientists did not find evidence that seeing more profiles made participants overly picky. Seeing many profiles also did not impact the participants’ perceived social status or their fear of being single. The positive effect of finding a compatible match seemed to outweigh any negative effects of choice overload.

    To confirm these findings, the authors conducted a second experiment with a larger group of 342 single adults aged 18 to 35. To ensure the results applied to real-world scenarios, the researchers only included participants who were actively using dating apps. The procedures mirrored the first experiment, but the scientists refined their questionnaires to include a measure for perceived similarity.

    The second experiment replicated the outcomes of the first. Participants who chose from thirty-one profiles showed greater relationship pursuit intention than those who chose from six. In this larger study, the high-option group also demonstrated higher general commitment readiness.

    Once again, the data pointed to compatibility as the driving force. Seeing more profiles allowed participants to find someone they perceived as highly compatible and highly similar to themselves. This strong sense of similarity provided the motivation to pursue a meaningful connection.

    “Online daters can be harmed by having overly limited options; they are more willing to date someone if they choose that person from more abundant options,” Hu and Markowitz told PsyPost. “This effect is found in our design where we ask users to clarify their preferences before the online dating session.”

    The authors suggest that these results carry practical weight for the tech industry and for users seeking romance. “Our findings have important implications for users and platforms,” the researchers noted. “Our findings suggest that online daters can be more engaged when seeking a date from where options are adequate rather than limiting.”

    As with all research, there are some caveats to consider. It might be easy to assume that limitless options are always better, but the researchers only measured immediate reactions right after a participant selected a profile. Real-world dating involves interacting over time, and a person’s satisfaction with their choice might change after a few days of chatting.

    The experimental setup also forced participants to choose one specific profile from a single, static page of options. Actual dating apps often involve continuously swiping through one profile at a time, which might trigger different psychological responses. Additionally, testing a pool of hundreds of profiles against a pool of thirty might reveal a breaking point where choice overload finally takes over.

    “Our finding should be interpreted in a very specific context: daters were instructed to choose one person to date, immediate response was asked (would they interact with a chosen match or not), preferences were clarified before the selection, and traits and preferences of candidates were randomly varied,” the authors explained.

    Moving forward, the scientists plan to continue exploring how digital environments shape romantic connections. They aim to incorporate economic principles into broader communication theories to understand modern matchmaking.

    “We hope that this work can lead to a working theory of mediated relationship search, one that reconsiders the role of insights from market economics,” the researchers said. “As communication scholars, we often examine how people make meaning out of social interactions at the micro level. However, we hope that structural forces (that are not altered by individual intentions, like market design) could be factored in this equation as well.”

    The authors also see opportunities to apply these insights outside the laboratory to help improve user experiences on actual dating applications. “We encourage digital platforms that are interested in improving the well-being of online daters to collaborate with us,” Hu and Markowitz added.

    The study, “Re-examining Relational Pursuit and Mate Selection in Online Dating,” was authored by Junwen M. Hu and David M. Markowitz.

    URL: psypost.org/more-choices-on-da

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  2. Parañaque City Scam Hub Busted By NBI, 17 Suspects Arrested

    Recently in the City of Parañaque, elements of the National Bureau of Investigation’s (NBI) Special Action Unit (SAU)  raided and dismantled an illegal operation that used artificial intelligence (AI) tools, cryptocurrency schemes and other means to victimize people online, according to a news report by GMA News.

    To put things in perspective, posted below is an excerpt from the news report of the GMA News. Some parts in boldface…

    Authorities have dismantled an alleged online scamming operation in Parañaque City that combined romance fraud, cryptocurrency schemes, and artificial intelligence tools to target foreign victims.

    In a statement, the National Bureau of Investigation (NBI) said operatives from its Special Action Unit (SAU) conducted a raid on May 15 at a residence after securing a warrant to search and seize computer data from a Parañaque City court.

    Seventeen individuals were arrested during the operation – including 14 Filipinos and three foreign nationals – who were allegedly caught in the act of operating computer systems and communication devices linked to the scheme.

    Investigators said the suspects were running a call center-like setup on the third floor of the property, equipped with multiple computers, mobile phones, and internet routers believed to be used in online fraud activities.

    Authorities also discovered a separate room allegedly used for “models,” where a computer installed with an application capable of AI-based face swapping or deepfake technology was found.

    Initial forensic findings by the NBI’s Digital Forensic Laboratory showed that the group allegedly targeted victims abroad, particularly in the United States, Bangkok, and parts of Europe.

    The group used dating apps and messaging platforms such as WhatsApp, Telegram, and Grindr.

    The scheme reportedly involved creating fake identities, initiating romantic relationships, and using scripted conversations to build trust before convincing victims to send money.

    Investigators said victims were later directed to transfer funds through cryptocurrency wallets linked to a suspected fraudulent investment platform identified as “cexonline.uk,” a method believed to help obscure financial trails.

    The arrested individuals were brought to the NBI-SAU office for documentation and were presented for inquest proceedings on May 16 before prosecutors from the Department of Justice.

    They may face charges for violation of Republic Act 10175 or the Cybercrime Prevention Act of 2012.

    Let me end this post by asking you readers: What do you think about this recent development? If you are a resident of Parañaque, do you believe that there could be more scam hubs operating secretly within the city? What do you think makes Parañaque an ideal city for criminals and scammers to set up illegal operations targeting people online? Who do you think is the mastermind of these scam hubs in Parañaque?

    You may answer in the comments below. If you prefer to answer privately, you may do so by sending me a direct message online.

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  3. ABC 7: Dating app Bumble is ending swipe feature, introduces AI assistant for matchmaking. ‘The company said it is introducing an AI assistant called Bee as part of its matchmaking process. Bumble said the feature aims to give users a more personal way to connect on the platform. The company has also announced it will remove the swipe — a key feature of the app for users to express interest in […]

    https://rbfirehose.com/2026/05/16/abc-7-dating-app-bumble-is-ending-swipe-feature-introduces-ai-assistant-for-matchmaking/
  4. Bumble launches AI assistant to improve matchmaking and foster authentic connections on its platform as part of Bumble 2.0 update. #OnlineDating #AI

  5. Found a useful AI dating assistant for anyone who gets stuck replying on dating apps: rizzai.ai/

    RizzAI helps generate better replies, openers, rizz lines, and dating bio ideas. It’s best used as inspiration, then edited in your own voice.

    #AI #DatingApps #RizzAI #OnlineDating

  6. Found a useful AI dating assistant for anyone who gets stuck replying on dating apps: rizzai.ai/

    RizzAI helps generate better replies, openers, rizz lines, and dating bio ideas. It’s best used as inspiration, then edited in your own voice.

    #AI #DatingApps #RizzAI #OnlineDating

  7. Found a useful AI dating assistant for anyone who gets stuck replying on dating apps: rizzai.ai/

    RizzAI helps generate better replies, openers, rizz lines, and dating bio ideas. It’s best used as inspiration, then edited in your own voice.

    #AI #DatingApps #RizzAI #OnlineDating

  8. Found a useful AI dating assistant for anyone who gets stuck replying on dating apps: rizzai.ai/

    RizzAI helps generate better replies, openers, rizz lines, and dating bio ideas. It’s best used as inspiration, then edited in your own voice.

    #AI #DatingApps #RizzAI #OnlineDating

  9. Found a useful AI dating assistant for anyone who gets stuck replying on dating apps: rizzai.ai/

    RizzAI helps generate better replies, openers, rizz lines, and dating bio ideas. It’s best used as inspiration, then edited in your own voice.

    #AI #DatingApps #RizzAI #OnlineDating

  10. New Dating.com data suggests intelligence, emotional stability, and authenticity are reshaping modern dating preferences. hackernoon.com/nerdy-men-are-h #onlinedating

  11. Sexualized Dating Profiles: A Double-Edged Sword in the Search for Connection

    New research shows sexualized dating profiles might get attention but can make people seem less ready for serious relationships. Find out why.

    #DatingApps, #RelationshipAdvice, #OnlineDating, #DatingTips, #LoveLife

    newsletter.tf/sexual-dating-pr

  12. Research shows that overtly sexualized dating profiles might get more initial views, but they can make people seem less likely to be good partners for long-term relationships, according to recent studies.

    #DatingApps, #RelationshipAdvice, #OnlineDating, #DatingTips, #LoveLife
    newsletter.tf/sexual-dating-pr

  13. Three days of matches on Hinge, then: 'can I get your number?'

    Hinge had your first name and neighborhood. Your number is what you can never take back. They can call you in two years. They can hand it to a friend who hands it to a friend.

    While they have it, a free caller-ID app can quickly turn it into your last name. From there: years of address history, your parents' and siblings' names, public records.

    A dedicated dating number sits apart from all of it. Retire it when you want.

    wiggwigg.ca/en/use-cases/datin

    #OnlineDating #Privacy #DigitalIdentity

  14. Three days of matches on Hinge, then: 'can I get your number?'

    Hinge had your first name and neighborhood. Your number is what you can never take back. They can call you in two years. They can hand it to a friend who hands it to a friend.

    While they have it, a free caller-ID app can quickly turn it into your last name. From there: years of address history, your parents' and siblings' names, public records.

    A dedicated dating number sits apart from all of it. Retire it when you want.

    wiggwigg.ca/en/use-cases/datin

    #OnlineDating #Privacy #DigitalIdentity

  15. Dear #Fediverse,

    CONTENT WARNING, may be upsetting to some readers, contains descriptions of unfortunate dating situations.

    ---

    I've had the pleasure of meeting some good men through #Mastodon but as a female who grew up in the southeastern United States, I can also (sadly) verify the truths of this Substack post.

    I wish I could tell you a totally different story. I really do. But I carry a can of pepperspray on my keychain. It's covered with glitter so as to look unremarkable. I bought an armload of them last year, and passed them out to female relatives, friends, and #immigrant coworkers, plus a couple of #Trans coworkers.

    None of that would have protected women in their own private homes, from their own husbands.

    And this abuse is so common that I stopped even trying any form of #onlinedating due to the overwhelming number of men who made it clear straight away that my only valid purpose on this earth (in their opinions) was to satisfy their immediate need for sex. Even some of the men who seemed nice during online chats went there immediately after getting my phone number, or meeting in person. In one case, I narrowly escaped sexual violence. In most cases, I was sent unsolicited close-ups of the man's genitalia.

    I was forced to change my #dating rules again and again, tightening my restrictions on when and where I was willing to meet, refusing to give out personal info until I had run a formal background check. I even put that in writing on my dating profile, but one guy was still angry when I discovered his arrests for violence against prior girlfriends. Another guy was angry because I didn't want to date a man whose driver's license was suspended due to alcohol abuse (driving while intoxicated).

    After 10+ years of trying almost every free or paid online dating app or website, I can attest from firsthand experience that at least 80% of the men I encountered went directly or almost directly to describing in detail their specific sexual fantasies and then asking me to participate, either in online conversations, or by meeting at their homes, or meeting at a hotel.

    After 10+ years of online dating, I can also say I met a small number of genuinely nice, respectful men too. Most of them had large numbers of children, though, and were heavily in debt, due to child support. I felt bad for them, but that was a package deal I didn't want to take on.

    After 10+ years, I had only met one man that I regret letting get away, but that was at the end of that decade spent trying, and I guess I had a touch of PTSD. I do hope he found someone nice.

    open.substack.com/pub/historyo

  16. Dear #Fediverse,

    CONTENT WARNING, may be upsetting to some readers, contains descriptions of unfortunate dating situations.

    ---

    I've had the pleasure of meeting some good men through #Mastodon but as a female who grew up in the southeastern United States, I can also (sadly) verify the truths of this Substack post.

    I wish I could tell you a totally different story. I really do. But I carry a can of pepperspray on my keychain. It's covered with glitter so as to look unremarkable. I bought an armload of them last year, and passed them out to female relatives, friends, and #immigrant coworkers, plus a couple of #Trans coworkers.

    None of that would have protected women in their own private homes, from their own husbands.

    And this abuse is so common that I stopped even trying any form of #onlinedating due to the overwhelming number of men who made it clear straight away that my only valid purpose on this earth (in their opinions) was to satisfy their immediate need for sex. Even some of the men who seemed nice during online chats went there immediately after getting my phone number, or meeting in person. In one case, I narrowly escaped sexual violence. In most cases, I was sent unsolicited close-ups of the man's genitalia.

    I was forced to change my #dating rules again and again, tightening my restrictions on when and where I was willing to meet, refusing to give out personal info until I had run a formal background check. I even put that in writing on my dating profile, but one guy was still angry when I discovered his arrests for violence against prior girlfriends. Another guy was angry because I didn't want to date a man whose driver's license was suspended due to alcohol abuse (driving while intoxicated).

    After 10+ years of trying almost every free or paid online dating app or website, I can attest from firsthand experience that at least 80% of the men I encountered went directly or almost directly to describing in detail their specific sexual fantasies and then asking me to participate, either in online conversations, or by meeting at their homes, or meeting at a hotel.

    After 10+ years of online dating, I can also say I met a small number of genuinely nice, respectful men too. Most of them had large numbers of children, though, and were heavily in debt, due to child support. I felt bad for them, but that was a package deal I didn't want to take on.

    After 10+ years, I had only met one man that I regret letting get away, but that was at the end of that decade spent trying, and I guess I had a touch of PTSD. I do hope he found someone nice.

    open.substack.com/pub/historyo

  17. Dear #Fediverse,

    CONTENT WARNING, may be upsetting to some readers, contains descriptions of unfortunate dating situations.

    ---

    I've had the pleasure of meeting some good men through #Mastodon but as a female who grew up in the southeastern United States, I can also (sadly) verify the truths of this Substack post.

    I wish I could tell you a totally different story. I really do. But I carry a can of pepperspray on my keychain. It's covered with glitter so as to look unremarkable. I bought an armload of them last year, and passed them out to female relatives, friends, and #immigrant coworkers, plus a couple of #Trans coworkers.

    None of that would have protected women in their own private homes, from their own husbands.

    And this abuse is so common that I stopped even trying any form of #onlinedating due to the overwhelming number of men who made it clear straight away that my only valid purpose on this earth (in their opinions) was to satisfy their immediate need for sex. Even some of the men who seemed nice during online chats went there immediately after getting my phone number, or meeting in person. In one case, I narrowly escaped sexual violence. In most cases, I was sent unsolicited close-ups of the man's genitalia.

    I was forced to change my #dating rules again and again, tightening my restrictions on when and where I was willing to meet, refusing to give out personal info until I had run a formal background check. I even put that in writing on my dating profile, but one guy was still angry when I discovered his arrests for violence against prior girlfriends. Another guy was angry because I didn't want to date a man whose driver's license was suspended due to alcohol abuse (driving while intoxicated).

    After 10+ years of trying almost every free or paid online dating app or website, I can attest from firsthand experience that at least 80% of the men I encountered went directly or almost directly to describing in detail their specific sexual fantasies and then asking me to participate, either in online conversations, or by meeting at their homes, or meeting at a hotel.

    After 10+ years of online dating, I can also say I met a small number of genuinely nice, respectful men too. Most of them had large numbers of children, though, and were heavily in debt, due to child support. I felt bad for them, but that was a package deal I didn't want to take on.

    After 10+ years, I had only met one man that I regret letting get away, but that was at the end of that decade spent trying, and I guess I had a touch of PTSD. I do hope he found someone nice.

    open.substack.com/pub/historyo

  18. Dear #Fediverse,

    CONTENT WARNING, may be upsetting to some readers, contains descriptions of unfortunate dating situations.

    ---

    I've had the pleasure of meeting some good men through #Mastodon but as a female who grew up in the southeastern United States, I can also (sadly) verify the truths of this Substack post.

    I wish I could tell you a totally different story. I really do. But I carry a can of pepperspray on my keychain. It's covered with glitter so as to look unremarkable. I bought an armload of them last year, and passed them out to female relatives, friends, and #immigrant coworkers, plus a couple of #Trans coworkers.

    None of that would have protected women in their own private homes, from their own husbands.

    And this abuse is so common that I stopped even trying any form of #onlinedating due to the overwhelming number of men who made it clear straight away that my only valid purpose on this earth (in their opinions) was to satisfy their immediate need for sex. Even some of the men who seemed nice during online chats went there immediately after getting my phone number, or meeting in person. In one case, I narrowly escaped sexual violence. In most cases, I was sent unsolicited close-ups of the man's genitalia.

    I was forced to change my #dating rules again and again, tightening my restrictions on when and where I was willing to meet, refusing to give out personal info until I had run a formal background check. I even put that in writing on my dating profile, but one guy was still angry when I discovered his arrests for violence against prior girlfriends. Another guy was angry because I didn't want to date a man whose driver's license was suspended due to alcohol abuse (driving while intoxicated).

    After 10+ years of trying almost every free or paid online dating app or website, I can attest from firsthand experience that at least 80% of the men I encountered went directly or almost directly to describing in detail their specific sexual fantasies and then asking me to participate, either in online conversations, or by meeting at their homes, or meeting at a hotel.

    After 10+ years of online dating, I can also say I met a small number of genuinely nice, respectful men too. Most of them had large numbers of children, though, and were heavily in debt, due to child support. I felt bad for them, but that was a package deal I didn't want to take on.

    After 10+ years, I had only met one man that I regret letting get away, but that was at the end of that decade spent trying, and I guess I had a touch of PTSD. I do hope he found someone nice.

    open.substack.com/pub/historyo

  19. Dear #Fediverse,

    CONTENT WARNING, may be upsetting to some readers, contains descriptions of unfortunate dating situations.

    ---

    I've had the pleasure of meeting some good men through #Mastodon but as a female who grew up in the southeastern United States, I can also (sadly) verify the truths of this Substack post.

    I wish I could tell you a totally different story. I really do. But I carry a can of pepperspray on my keychain. It's covered with glitter so as to look unremarkable. I bought an armload of them last year, and passed them out to female relatives, friends, and #immigrant coworkers, plus a couple of #Trans coworkers.

    None of that would have protected women in their own private homes, from their own husbands.

    And this abuse is so common that I stopped even trying any form of #onlinedating due to the overwhelming number of men who made it clear straight away that my only valid purpose on this earth (in their opinions) was to satisfy their immediate need for sex. Even some of the men who seemed nice during online chats went there immediately after getting my phone number, or meeting in person. In one case, I narrowly escaped sexual violence. In most cases, I was sent unsolicited close-ups of the man's genitalia.

    I was forced to change my #dating rules again and again, tightening my restrictions on when and where I was willing to meet, refusing to give out personal info until I had run a formal background check. I even put that in writing on my dating profile, but one guy was still angry when I discovered his arrests for violence against prior girlfriends. Another guy was angry because I didn't want to date a man whose driver's license was suspended due to alcohol abuse (driving while intoxicated).

    After 10+ years of trying almost every free or paid online dating app or website, I can attest from firsthand experience that at least 80% of the men I encountered went directly or almost directly to describing in detail their specific sexual fantasies and then asking me to participate, either in online conversations, or by meeting at their homes, or meeting at a hotel.

    After 10+ years of online dating, I can also say I met a small number of genuinely nice, respectful men too. Most of them had large numbers of children, though, and were heavily in debt, due to child support. I felt bad for them, but that was a package deal I didn't want to take on.

    After 10+ years, I had only met one man that I regret letting get away, but that was at the end of that decade spent trying, and I guess I had a touch of PTSD. I do hope he found someone nice.

    open.substack.com/pub/historyo

  20. If BGP Peering was like modern Dating:

    "you have 5 missed peering requests. Subscribe now to Peeringdb Pro Gold to see all peering requests"

    #bgp #peering #onlinedating

  21. If BGP Peering was like modern Dating:

    "you have 5 missed peering requests. Subscribe now to Peeringdb Pro Gold to see all peering requests"

    #bgp #peering #onlinedating

  22. If BGP Peering was like modern Dating:

    "you have 5 missed peering requests. Subscribe now to Peeringdb Pro Gold to see all peering requests"

    #bgp #peering #onlinedating

  23. If BGP Peering was like modern Dating:

    "you have 5 missed peering requests. Subscribe now to Peeringdb Pro Gold to see all peering requests"

    #bgp #peering #onlinedating

  24. If BGP Peering was like modern Dating:

    "you have 5 missed peering requests. Subscribe now to Peeringdb Pro Gold to see all peering requests"

    #bgp #peering #onlinedating

  25. I've been sitting on this for a bit... and maybe an article is going to come out of this.

    Feeld used to be the app I recommend for online dating.

    Then it became a dating application that I could no longer recommend, even if I tolerated it.

    It has become complete and utter crap. Tolerating it is becoming hard as fuck.

    I've been... 4 years on that app, continually. During this time I've seen it go from an application that wasn't ever great, but was at least useful, to a complete pile of SHIT.

    Either their developers are complete idiots, or the executives drank the LLM Kool-Aid, and it is now made with vibe coding. I have no evidence for which, but at the end of the day the results are the same.

    The GUI now operates as if you're giving instructions to a drunken baboon.

    "Oh, you meant to reject THIS person? Well, I understood that you wanted to reject THAT person. Yeah, I know that when you pressed the button, THIS person was on the screen, but whatever.... No backsies now... [burp]."

    And there's more shit to report.

    #Feeld #dating #OnlineDating #DrunkenBaboons #VibeCoding

  26. I've been sitting on this for a bit... and maybe an article is going to come out of this.

    Feeld used to be the app I recommend for online dating.

    Then it became a dating application that I could no longer recommend, even if I tolerated it.

    It has become complete and utter crap. Tolerating it is becoming hard as fuck.

    I've been... 4 years on that app, continually. During this time I've seen it go from an application that wasn't ever great, but was at least useful, to a complete pile of SHIT.

    Either their developers are complete idiots, or the executives drank the LLM Kool-Aid, and it is now made with vibe coding. I have no evidence for which, but at the end of the day the results are the same.

    The GUI now operates as if you're giving instructions to a drunken baboon.

    "Oh, you meant to reject THIS person? Well, I understood that you wanted to reject THAT person. Yeah, I know that when you pressed the button, THIS person was on the screen, but whatever.... No backsies now... [burp]."

    And there's more shit to report.

    #Feeld #dating #OnlineDating #DrunkenBaboons #VibeCoding

  27. I've been sitting on this for a bit... and maybe an article is going to come out of this.

    Feeld used to be the app I recommend for online dating.

    Then it became a dating application that I could no longer recommend, even if I tolerated it.

    It has become complete and utter crap. Tolerating it is becoming hard as fuck.

    I've been... 4 years on that app, continually. During this time I've seen it go from an application that wasn't ever great, but was at least useful, to a complete pile of SHIT.

    Either their developers are complete idiots, or the executives drank the LLM Kool-Aid, and it is now made with vibe coding. I have no evidence for which, but at the end of the day the results are the same.

    The GUI now operates as if you're giving instructions to a drunken baboon.

    "Oh, you meant to reject THIS person? Well, I understood that you wanted to reject THAT person. Yeah, I know that when you pressed the button, THIS person was on the screen, but whatever.... No backsies now... [burp]."

    And there's more shit to report.

    #Feeld #dating #OnlineDating #DrunkenBaboons #VibeCoding

  28. I've been sitting on this for a bit... and maybe an article is going to come out of this.

    Feeld used to be the app I recommend for online dating.

    Then it became a dating application that I could no longer recommend, even if I tolerated it.

    It has become complete and utter crap. Tolerating it is becoming hard as fuck.

    I've been... 4 years on that app, continually. During this time I've seen it go from an application that wasn't ever great, but was at least useful, to a complete pile of SHIT.

    Either their developers are complete idiots, or the executives drank the LLM Kool-Aid, and it is now made with vibe coding. I have no evidence for which, but at the end of the day the results are the same.

    The GUI now operates as if you're giving instructions to a drunken baboon.

    "Oh, you meant to reject THIS person? Well, I understood that you wanted to reject THAT person. Yeah, I know that when you pressed the button, THIS person was on the screen, but whatever.... No backsies now... [burp]."

    And there's more shit to report.

    #Feeld #dating #OnlineDating #DrunkenBaboons #VibeCoding

  29. CW: Online dating ridiculousness

    ...and now I've been banned from R4R.

    Why? They didn't tell me at first. So I asked. They told me I'd violated Rule #3, "no exchanges for money or goods."

    Here is what they apparently interpreted as me asking for money or goods:

    "This is addressed to the many scammers and pig butchers on Reddit: I will not send anyone money, gift cards, or cryptocurrency. I will not invest in your investment schemes. I won't install your scam software. If you ask me for any of these things I will report you and block you immediately."

    I appealed, of course, because what I wrote was the OPPOSITE of violating Rule 3; it was upholding it! No response yet, but I have to assume that I was the victim of a particularly stupid bot. Whether or not I'll be unbanned is anybody's guess.

    You know, this is why we really need some sort of Fediverse-based dating platform.

    #Dating #Reddit #Authoritarianism #Fedidate #OnlineDating

  30. CW: Online dating reflections

    It seems that there's a whole category of women (when it comes to online dating), who feel that the way to establish a love relationship is by proving to a man that they have breasts. Not necessarily NSFW, but they do tend to send photos which basically focus on that part of the body. And then they seem to expect a man to be utterly captivated and ecstatic.

    Maybe that works for neurotypical men? I know some men that it would certainly affect strongly. But as a demisexual and sapiosexual male, that approach has always bewildered me.

    I mean, I pretty much •assumed• you had breasts! I know not every woman does, but the vast majority do. And there's nothing wrong with that; I like them as much as any straight man. But shouldn't it matter who the breasts are ATTACHED to? What kind of person they are? What kind of connection there is between a man and a woman on an emotional and intellectual basis?

    I honestly don't understand the idea of a relationship based purely on physical compatibility and nothing more. Okay, maybe I'm being a little too harsh. I know personality matters for everyone, not just demis. But...it's SO confusing! It's like living in a world where maybe 50 to 75% of potential mates are actually incredibly alien from a mental and emotional point of view. And they don't seem to be able to understand demisexuals, demisexual males in particular. I guess we pretty much violate the cliches of what a male is and wants.

    Hope that wasn't too inappropriate.

    #demisexual #sapiosexual #dating #OnlineDating

  31. For the love of everything sacred, when you put up your dating profile pics, make sure you don't look like you're smelling a fart in *all* of them.

    Ask a friend if needed.

    "Maybe they did ask a friend, and that friend turned out to be an enemy. Have you ever thought about that???"

    No. 😭

    #dating #OnlineDating #DatingPictures #SmellTheFartDating #farts