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  1. Dear #Fediverse,

    CONTENT WARNING, may be upsetting to some readers, contains descriptions of unfortunate dating situations.

    ---

    I've had the pleasure of meeting some good men through #Mastodon but as a female who grew up in the southeastern United States, I can also (sadly) verify the truths of this Substack post.

    I wish I could tell you a totally different story. I really do. But I carry a can of pepperspray on my keychain. It's covered with glitter so as to look unremarkable. I bought an armload of them last year, and passed them out to female relatives, friends, and #immigrant coworkers, plus a couple of #Trans coworkers.

    None of that would have protected women in their own private homes, from their own husbands.

    And this abuse is so common that I stopped even trying any form of #onlinedating due to the overwhelming number of men who made it clear straight away that my only valid purpose on this earth (in their opinions) was to satisfy their immediate need for sex. Even some of the men who seemed nice during online chats went there immediately after getting my phone number, or meeting in person. In one case, I narrowly escaped sexual violence. In most cases, I was sent unsolicited close-ups of the man's genitalia.

    I was forced to change my #dating rules again and again, tightening my restrictions on when and where I was willing to meet, refusing to give out personal info until I had run a formal background check. I even put that in writing on my dating profile, but one guy was still angry when I discovered his arrests for violence against prior girlfriends. Another guy was angry because I didn't want to date a man whose driver's license was suspended due to alcohol abuse (driving while intoxicated).

    After 10+ years of trying almost every free or paid online dating app or website, I can attest from firsthand experience that at least 80% of the men I encountered went directly or almost directly to describing in detail their specific sexual fantasies and then asking me to participate, either in online conversations, or by meeting at their homes, or meeting at a hotel.

    After 10+ years of online dating, I can also say I met a small number of genuinely nice, respectful men too. Most of them had large numbers of children, though, and were heavily in debt, due to child support. I felt bad for them, but that was a package deal I didn't want to take on.

    After 10+ years, I had only met one man that I regret letting get away, but that was at the end of that decade spent trying, and I guess I had a touch of PTSD. I do hope he found someone nice.

    open.substack.com/pub/historyo

  2. Dear #Fediverse,

    CONTENT WARNING, may be upsetting to some readers, contains descriptions of unfortunate dating situations.

    ---

    I've had the pleasure of meeting some good men through #Mastodon but as a female who grew up in the southeastern United States, I can also (sadly) verify the truths of this Substack post.

    I wish I could tell you a totally different story. I really do. But I carry a can of pepperspray on my keychain. It's covered with glitter so as to look unremarkable. I bought an armload of them last year, and passed them out to female relatives, friends, and #immigrant coworkers, plus a couple of #Trans coworkers.

    None of that would have protected women in their own private homes, from their own husbands.

    And this abuse is so common that I stopped even trying any form of #onlinedating due to the overwhelming number of men who made it clear straight away that my only valid purpose on this earth (in their opinions) was to satisfy their immediate need for sex. Even some of the men who seemed nice during online chats went there immediately after getting my phone number, or meeting in person. In one case, I narrowly escaped sexual violence. In most cases, I was sent unsolicited close-ups of the man's genitalia.

    I was forced to change my #dating rules again and again, tightening my restrictions on when and where I was willing to meet, refusing to give out personal info until I had run a formal background check. I even put that in writing on my dating profile, but one guy was still angry when I discovered his arrests for violence against prior girlfriends. Another guy was angry because I didn't want to date a man whose driver's license was suspended due to alcohol abuse (driving while intoxicated).

    After 10+ years of trying almost every free or paid online dating app or website, I can attest from firsthand experience that at least 80% of the men I encountered went directly or almost directly to describing in detail their specific sexual fantasies and then asking me to participate, either in online conversations, or by meeting at their homes, or meeting at a hotel.

    After 10+ years of online dating, I can also say I met a small number of genuinely nice, respectful men too. Most of them had large numbers of children, though, and were heavily in debt, due to child support. I felt bad for them, but that was a package deal I didn't want to take on.

    After 10+ years, I had only met one man that I regret letting get away, but that was at the end of that decade spent trying, and I guess I had a touch of PTSD. I do hope he found someone nice.

    open.substack.com/pub/historyo

  3. Dear #Fediverse,

    CONTENT WARNING, may be upsetting to some readers, contains descriptions of unfortunate dating situations.

    ---

    I've had the pleasure of meeting some good men through #Mastodon but as a female who grew up in the southeastern United States, I can also (sadly) verify the truths of this Substack post.

    I wish I could tell you a totally different story. I really do. But I carry a can of pepperspray on my keychain. It's covered with glitter so as to look unremarkable. I bought an armload of them last year, and passed them out to female relatives, friends, and #immigrant coworkers, plus a couple of #Trans coworkers.

    None of that would have protected women in their own private homes, from their own husbands.

    And this abuse is so common that I stopped even trying any form of #onlinedating due to the overwhelming number of men who made it clear straight away that my only valid purpose on this earth (in their opinions) was to satisfy their immediate need for sex. Even some of the men who seemed nice during online chats went there immediately after getting my phone number, or meeting in person. In one case, I narrowly escaped sexual violence. In most cases, I was sent unsolicited close-ups of the man's genitalia.

    I was forced to change my #dating rules again and again, tightening my restrictions on when and where I was willing to meet, refusing to give out personal info until I had run a formal background check. I even put that in writing on my dating profile, but one guy was still angry when I discovered his arrests for violence against prior girlfriends. Another guy was angry because I didn't want to date a man whose driver's license was suspended due to alcohol abuse (driving while intoxicated).

    After 10+ years of trying almost every free or paid online dating app or website, I can attest from firsthand experience that at least 80% of the men I encountered went directly or almost directly to describing in detail their specific sexual fantasies and then asking me to participate, either in online conversations, or by meeting at their homes, or meeting at a hotel.

    After 10+ years of online dating, I can also say I met a small number of genuinely nice, respectful men too. Most of them had large numbers of children, though, and were heavily in debt, due to child support. I felt bad for them, but that was a package deal I didn't want to take on.

    After 10+ years, I had only met one man that I regret letting get away, but that was at the end of that decade spent trying, and I guess I had a touch of PTSD. I do hope he found someone nice.

    open.substack.com/pub/historyo

  4. Dear #Fediverse,

    CONTENT WARNING, may be upsetting to some readers, contains descriptions of unfortunate dating situations.

    ---

    I've had the pleasure of meeting some good men through #Mastodon but as a female who grew up in the southeastern United States, I can also (sadly) verify the truths of this Substack post.

    I wish I could tell you a totally different story. I really do. But I carry a can of pepperspray on my keychain. It's covered with glitter so as to look unremarkable. I bought an armload of them last year, and passed them out to female relatives, friends, and #immigrant coworkers, plus a couple of #Trans coworkers.

    None of that would have protected women in their own private homes, from their own husbands.

    And this abuse is so common that I stopped even trying any form of #onlinedating due to the overwhelming number of men who made it clear straight away that my only valid purpose on this earth (in their opinions) was to satisfy their immediate need for sex. Even some of the men who seemed nice during online chats went there immediately after getting my phone number, or meeting in person. In one case, I narrowly escaped sexual violence. In most cases, I was sent unsolicited close-ups of the man's genitalia.

    I was forced to change my #dating rules again and again, tightening my restrictions on when and where I was willing to meet, refusing to give out personal info until I had run a formal background check. I even put that in writing on my dating profile, but one guy was still angry when I discovered his arrests for violence against prior girlfriends. Another guy was angry because I didn't want to date a man whose driver's license was suspended due to alcohol abuse (driving while intoxicated).

    After 10+ years of trying almost every free or paid online dating app or website, I can attest from firsthand experience that at least 80% of the men I encountered went directly or almost directly to describing in detail their specific sexual fantasies and then asking me to participate, either in online conversations, or by meeting at their homes, or meeting at a hotel.

    After 10+ years of online dating, I can also say I met a small number of genuinely nice, respectful men too. Most of them had large numbers of children, though, and were heavily in debt, due to child support. I felt bad for them, but that was a package deal I didn't want to take on.

    After 10+ years, I had only met one man that I regret letting get away, but that was at the end of that decade spent trying, and I guess I had a touch of PTSD. I do hope he found someone nice.

    open.substack.com/pub/historyo

  5. Dear #Fediverse,

    CONTENT WARNING, may be upsetting to some readers, contains descriptions of unfortunate dating situations.

    ---

    I've had the pleasure of meeting some good men through #Mastodon but as a female who grew up in the southeastern United States, I can also (sadly) verify the truths of this Substack post.

    I wish I could tell you a totally different story. I really do. But I carry a can of pepperspray on my keychain. It's covered with glitter so as to look unremarkable. I bought an armload of them last year, and passed them out to female relatives, friends, and #immigrant coworkers, plus a couple of #Trans coworkers.

    None of that would have protected women in their own private homes, from their own husbands.

    And this abuse is so common that I stopped even trying any form of #onlinedating due to the overwhelming number of men who made it clear straight away that my only valid purpose on this earth (in their opinions) was to satisfy their immediate need for sex. Even some of the men who seemed nice during online chats went there immediately after getting my phone number, or meeting in person. In one case, I narrowly escaped sexual violence. In most cases, I was sent unsolicited close-ups of the man's genitalia.

    I was forced to change my #dating rules again and again, tightening my restrictions on when and where I was willing to meet, refusing to give out personal info until I had run a formal background check. I even put that in writing on my dating profile, but one guy was still angry when I discovered his arrests for violence against prior girlfriends. Another guy was angry because I didn't want to date a man whose driver's license was suspended due to alcohol abuse (driving while intoxicated).

    After 10+ years of trying almost every free or paid online dating app or website, I can attest from firsthand experience that at least 80% of the men I encountered went directly or almost directly to describing in detail their specific sexual fantasies and then asking me to participate, either in online conversations, or by meeting at their homes, or meeting at a hotel.

    After 10+ years of online dating, I can also say I met a small number of genuinely nice, respectful men too. Most of them had large numbers of children, though, and were heavily in debt, due to child support. I felt bad for them, but that was a package deal I didn't want to take on.

    After 10+ years, I had only met one man that I regret letting get away, but that was at the end of that decade spent trying, and I guess I had a touch of PTSD. I do hope he found someone nice.

    open.substack.com/pub/historyo

  6. On traverse la frontière avec des exilés qui entrent en France

    Originaire du #Soudan afriquexxi.info/Au-Soudan-du-S Abdelhameed tente de traverser la frontière entre l' #Italie et la #France. StreetPress l'a suivi dans un périple de 11 heures à travers la montagne enneigée, entre patrouilles de police, fatigue extrême et espoir d'une nouvelle vie. Vidéo streetpress.com/1778684741-tra

    #migrants #immigration #actu #actualite #info #information

  7. On traverse la frontière avec des exilés qui entrent en France

    Originaire du #Soudan afriquexxi.info/Au-Soudan-du-S Abdelhameed tente de traverser la frontière entre l' #Italie et la #France. StreetPress l'a suivi dans un périple de 11 heures à travers la montagne enneigée, entre patrouilles de police, fatigue extrême et espoir d'une nouvelle vie. Vidéo streetpress.com/1778684741-tra

    #migrants #immigration #actu #actualite #info #information

  8. On traverse la frontière avec des exilés qui entrent en France

    Originaire du #Soudan afriquexxi.info/Au-Soudan-du-S Abdelhameed tente de traverser la frontière entre l' #Italie et la #France. StreetPress l'a suivi dans un périple de 11 heures à travers la montagne enneigée, entre patrouilles de police, fatigue extrême et espoir d'une nouvelle vie. Vidéo streetpress.com/1778684741-tra

    #migrants #immigration #actu #actualite #info #information

  9. On traverse la frontière avec des exilés qui entrent en France

    Originaire du #Soudan afriquexxi.info/Au-Soudan-du-S Abdelhameed tente de traverser la frontière entre l' #Italie et la #France. StreetPress l'a suivi dans un périple de 11 heures à travers la montagne enneigée, entre patrouilles de police, fatigue extrême et espoir d'une nouvelle vie. Vidéo streetpress.com/1778684741-tra

    #migrants #immigration #actu #actualite #info #information

  10. Les Palestiniens, les travailleurs étrangers : comment #Israël refait sa main-d’œuvre

    Longtemps pierre angulaire de l’économie à bas salaires d’Israël, les #Palestiniens de #Cisjordanie et de #Gaza ont été gelés depuis le 7 octobre, remplacés par un afflux de travailleurs #migrants dans des conditions très précaires. 972mag.com/israel-palestinians

    #genocide #palestine #freepalestine #stopgenocide #actu #actualite #info #information

  11. Kahnawà:ke dit « non » à la vente de cannabis sur son territoire

    La population craint pour ses enfants et pense à d’autres communautés où la situation a dégénéré.

    ici.radio-canada.ca/info/long-

    #ActuQC #Montreal

  12. Kahnawà:ke dit « non » à la vente de cannabis sur son territoire

    La population craint pour ses enfants et pense à d’autres communautés où la situation a dégénéré.

    ici.radio-canada.ca/info/long-

    #ActuQC #Montreal

  13. Kahnawà:ke dit « non » à la vente de cannabis sur son territoire

    La population craint pour ses enfants et pense à d’autres communautés où la situation a dégénéré.

    ici.radio-canada.ca/info/long-

    #ActuQC #Montreal

  14. Make Friends with Your Mind
    Your mind can be your best friend or your worst nightmare. This session will introduce simple meditation practices that allow us to glimpse the pure mind that underlies all our emotions so that we can find lasting peace and sanity.
    Spend time with your best self on a journey from sadness and anger to peace and joy. The timeless wisdom and meditative insights of the Tibetan Buddhist tradition offer many practical methods to help us heal and thrive as we face the everyday challenges of anxiety, depression, anger, physical pain, loneliness, and burnout.

    🗓️ Saturday 21 March
    ⏰2:00-4:30pm
    📍Rigpa Melcourne, 803 Nicholson St, Carlton North

    registration.rigpa.org.au/civi

    #Meditate #mindfulness #Melbourne #MeditateInMelbourne

  15. Make Friends with Your Mind
    Your mind can be your best friend or your worst nightmare. This session will introduce simple meditation practices that allow us to glimpse the pure mind that underlies all our emotions so that we can find lasting peace and sanity.
    Spend time with your best self on a journey from sadness and anger to peace and joy. The timeless wisdom and meditative insights of the Tibetan Buddhist tradition offer many practical methods to help us heal and thrive as we face the everyday challenges of anxiety, depression, anger, physical pain, loneliness, and burnout.

    🗓️ Saturday 21 March
    ⏰2:00-4:30pm
    📍Rigpa Melcourne, 803 Nicholson St, Carlton North

    registration.rigpa.org.au/civi

    #Meditate #mindfulness #Melbourne #MeditateInMelbourne

  16. Make Friends with Your Mind
    Your mind can be your best friend or your worst nightmare. This session will introduce simple meditation practices that allow us to glimpse the pure mind that underlies all our emotions so that we can find lasting peace and sanity.
    Spend time with your best self on a journey from sadness and anger to peace and joy. The timeless wisdom and meditative insights of the Tibetan Buddhist tradition offer many practical methods to help us heal and thrive as we face the everyday challenges of anxiety, depression, anger, physical pain, loneliness, and burnout.

    🗓️ Saturday 21 March
    ⏰2:00-4:30pm
    📍Rigpa Melcourne, 803 Nicholson St, Carlton North

    registration.rigpa.org.au/civi

    #Meditate #mindfulness #Melbourne #MeditateInMelbourne

  17. Make Friends with Your Mind
    Your mind can be your best friend or your worst nightmare. This session will introduce simple meditation practices that allow us to glimpse the pure mind that underlies all our emotions so that we can find lasting peace and sanity.
    Spend time with your best self on a journey from sadness and anger to peace and joy. The timeless wisdom and meditative insights of the Tibetan Buddhist tradition offer many practical methods to help us heal and thrive as we face the everyday challenges of anxiety, depression, anger, physical pain, loneliness, and burnout.

    🗓️ Saturday 21 March
    ⏰2:00-4:30pm
    📍Rigpa Melcourne, 803 Nicholson St, Carlton North

    registration.rigpa.org.au/civi

    #Meditate #mindfulness #Melbourne #MeditateInMelbourne

  18. Make Friends with Your Mind
    Your mind can be your best friend or your worst nightmare. This session will introduce simple meditation practices that allow us to glimpse the pure mind that underlies all our emotions so that we can find lasting peace and sanity.
    Spend time with your best self on a journey from sadness and anger to peace and joy. The timeless wisdom and meditative insights of the Tibetan Buddhist tradition offer many practical methods to help us heal and thrive as we face the everyday challenges of anxiety, depression, anger, physical pain, loneliness, and burnout.

    🗓️ Saturday 21 March
    ⏰2:00-4:30pm
    📍Rigpa Melcourne, 803 Nicholson St, Carlton North

    registration.rigpa.org.au/civi

    #Meditate #mindfulness #Melbourne #MeditateInMelbourne

  19. Keine Strafe für Extinction Rebellion Unterstützer

    13. May 2026 Der Vorwurf lautete auf gemeinschaftliche Nötigung. Hintergrund war eine Sitzblockade vor einem Düsseldorfer Energiekonzern. WDR.de Hier den Artikel weiter lesen...

    lindweiler.de/keine-strafe-fue

  20. Book Review: The Complete Book of 1990s Broadway Musicals by Dan Dietz


    Author: Dan Dietz
    Title: The Complete Book of 1990s Broadway Musicals
    Other Books Read by the Same Author:

    Publication Info: Rowman & Littlefield (2016)
    Summary/Review:

    The 1990s feels like a transitional decade for Broadway. On the one hand, after a couple of decades of financial decline, the Broadway theater district felt thriving and viable again. On the other hand, many critics – including author Dan Dietz – saw the decade as the Disnification of Broadway.

    Disney introduced only two musicals during the decade – adaptations of Beauty and the Beast and The Lion King – but the overall effect is that family-friendly megamusicals that attracted tourists edged out shows intended for grown-up audiences and local theater buffs. Revivals of books musicals continued to outnumber new productions, including Chicago, which became more successful than its original run and still plays to this day.  Speaking of long running shows, any new production on Broadway had to compete with hits like Cats, Les Miserables, and Phantom of the Opera which occupied theaters throughout the decade.

    The decade also saw an increase in adapting relatively recent movies as musicals including My Favorite Year, The Goodbye Girl, Big, Victor/Victoria, and Footloose.  There were also a number of revues of songs by Rodgers & Hammerstein, Stephen Sondhem, Johnny Burke, Johnny Mercer, George and Ira Gershwin and blues and swing by Black artists.  This trend presaged the 2000s when movie adaptations and/or jukebox musical rely on reiterating the familiar and nostalgic at the expense of the new.  Nevertheless, several memorable musicals made their debut in the 1990s including: Once on This Island, The Secret Garden, The Will Rogers Follies, Crazy for You, Falsettos, Jelly’s Last Jam, Kiss of the Spider WomanPassion, Smokey Joe’s Cafe, Sunset Boulevard, Bring in ‘da Noise, Bring in ‘da Funk, TitanicRagtime, Fosse, and Parade.  Dan Dietz, who grows crankier with each volume of this series, disliked most of these shows, and trashed Rent and Ragtime (two shows I love).  Dietz’s obvious prejudices which manifest themselves in his rents against “political correctness” make this unpleasant read. But I do still enjoy that he’s gathered together so many facts about each show in one place that are hard to find anywhere else.

    Rating: ***

    #BookReviews #Books #Broadway #Criticism #MusicalTheater #Reference
  21. Book Review: The Complete Book of 1990s Broadway Musicals by Dan Dietz


    Author: Dan Dietz
    Title: The Complete Book of 1990s Broadway Musicals
    Other Books Read by the Same Author:

    Publication Info: Rowman & Littlefield (2016)
    Summary/Review:

    The 1990s feels like a transitional decade for Broadway. On the one hand, after a couple of decades of financial decline, the Broadway theater district felt thriving and viable again. On the other hand, many critics – including author Dan Dietz – saw the decade as the Disnification of Broadway.

    Disney introduced only two musicals during the decade – adaptations of Beauty and the Beast and The Lion King – but the overall effect is that family-friendly megamusicals that attracted tourists edged out shows intended for grown-up audiences and local theater buffs. Revivals of books musicals continued to outnumber new productions, including Chicago, which became more successful than its original run and still plays to this day.  Speaking of long running shows, any new production on Broadway had to compete with hits like Cats, Les Miserables, and Phantom of the Opera which occupied theaters throughout the decade.

    The decade also saw an increase in adapting relatively recent movies as musicals including My Favorite Year, The Goodbye Girl, Big, Victor/Victoria, and Footloose.  There were also a number of revues of songs by Rodgers & Hammerstein, Stephen Sondhem, Johnny Burke, Johnny Mercer, George and Ira Gershwin and blues and swing by Black artists.  This trend presaged the 2000s when movie adaptations and/or jukebox musical rely on reiterating the familiar and nostalgic at the expense of the new.  Nevertheless, several memorable musicals made their debut in the 1990s including: Once on This Island, The Secret Garden, The Will Rogers Follies, Crazy for You, Falsettos, Jelly’s Last Jam, Kiss of the Spider WomanPassion, Smokey Joe’s Cafe, Sunset Boulevard, Bring in ‘da Noise, Bring in ‘da Funk, TitanicRagtime, Fosse, and Parade.  Dan Dietz, who grows crankier with each volume of this series, disliked most of these shows, and trashed Rent and Ragtime (two shows I love).  Dietz’s obvious prejudices which manifest themselves in his rents against “political correctness” make this unpleasant read. But I do still enjoy that he’s gathered together so many facts about each show in one place that are hard to find anywhere else.

    Rating: ***

    #BookReviews #Books #Broadway #Criticism #MusicalTheater #Reference