#red-flags — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #red-flags, aggregated by home.social.
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Red Flags I Missed: The Quiet Control!
At the time, each thing looked separate. A rude comment.A double standard.A delayed reply.A plan I wasn’t told about.A small dig at what I believed in.A criticism about my appearance.A moment where I was made to feel unreasonable for asking a basic question. But when I put them all together, there was one big theme running through it. Control. Not the obvious kind where someone says, “You can’t do that.” This was more under the radar. 1. He decided when I fitted into his lifeHe […]https://roamingtowardsmyself.blog/2026/05/07/red-flags-i-missed-the-quiet-control/
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People who got out of toxic relationships share the red flag they wish they’d taken seriously from the start
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Heute am #2April ist der Internationale Tag des #Faktenchecks !
Aufgepasst - auf #SocialMedia werden besonders häufig irreführende Posts geteilt, die zur Verbreitung von #Desinformation beitragen. Achtet daher auf folgende #Redflags !
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📐La triangulación es esa jugada sucia que parece inocente… hasta que te das cuenta de que te han movido el suelo.
Funciona así: en vez de hablar contigo, la persona tóxica mete a un tercero en medio.
“Es que fulanita piensa que tú…”,
“me han dicho que estás raro”,
“yo no quiero problemas, pero…”.
Y ya está.
Semilla plantada.
Duda sembrada.
Confianza tocada.No te lo dice para aclarar nada.
Te lo dice para descolocarte.
Para que empieces a preguntarte quién habla de ti, quién está en tu contra, qué has hecho mal.
Y mientras tú te desgastas intentando arreglar algo que ni sabes si es real, esa persona gana control.La triangulación sirve para aislarte.
Para que dudes de tus apoyos.
Para que dependas más de quien “te informa”.
Es manipulación con cara de preocupación.¿La vacuna?
Comunicación directa.
Si alguien te dice “me han contado que…”, responde con calma: “Prefiero hablarlo directamente con esa persona”.
Sin drama.
Sin gritos.
Pero con límites.Las relaciones sanas no necesitan mensajeros secretos.
Necesitan claridad.
Y quien intenta dividir, normalmente teme perder poder.─── ⋆⋅☆⋅⋆ ───
#relacionestoxicas #triangulacion #manipulacion #psicologia #limites #autoestima #saludemocional #redflags
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Onscreen, the red flags of a toxic friendship can be dramatic and seem obvious. But in real life, they’re not always easy to spot.
https://www.teenvogue.com/story/is-my-friend-group-toxic-heres-how-to-tell-and-what-to-do-if-it-is
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Não do Facebook, não kkk!
Certeza que é redpill… Minha irmã do meio falando que meu problema é não verificar a bio antes de aceitar amizade 😂
Ela tá sempre de olho nas red flags e eu aqui só aceitando qualquer nome estranho que apareça!🔍👀 #LiçõesDaIrmã #VerificaABio #RedFlags #RindoMasAprendendo
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I blocked "pig butchering" accounts. The signs of these accounts include these template messages: "Hi." "How are you doing?" The accounts looked too successful and too pretty.
#scam #pigbutchering #crypto #scamalert #staysafe #onlinesafety #fraud #cybersecurity #block #redflags #awareness #security
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ICE Agents Speak About Shooting in Minneapolis – TIME
US Homeland Security Investigations (HSI) agents stand guard at the Bishop Henry Whipple Federal Building in Minneapolis, Minnesota, on January 8, 2026. Charly Triballeau — AFP via Getty Images.Jan 14, 2026 6:03 AM PT
‘I’m Embarrassed’: ICE Agents Speak About the Shooting in Minneapolis
By Philip Wang
In the aftermath of the fatal shooting of Renee Good in Minneapolis last week, Trump Administration officials jumped into a whole-hearted defense of the ICE agent responsible.
The Department of Homeland Security maintained that Agent Jonathan Ross “dutifully acted in self-defense,” and promised to send hundreds more agents into the city despite widespread protests against the agency’s operations.
But behind the scenes, current and former ICE agents have expressed concerns about the agent’s conduct, about the agency’s operations in Minneapolis, and about a broader push by the Trump administration to aggressively recruit more agents.
Read more: Fatal ICE Shooting Sparks Scrutiny of Killings in Trump’s Immigration Crackdown
“I’m embarrassed,” one former ICE agent with more than 25 years of experience told TIME. “The majority of my colleagues feel the same way. It’s an insult to us, because we did it the right way to see what they’re doing now.”
‘Problematic’
When asked about the deadly shooting that sparked mass protests in Minneapolis and across the country, both the current and the former ICE agent expressed their reservations about Agent Ross opening fire three times.
“If you fear for your life and you’re in imminent danger, policy says you could fire at that vehicle if there’s no other recourse,” said a current ICE agent with more than 20 years of experience in the agency.
“If someone is able to make the argument that she was trying to hit him, he feared for his life, and all he could do was shoot…then sure, he can justify it that way. But I think when you look at it a little bit more, it’s … very problematic for him,” the agent said.
The current and former agents spoke on condition of anonymity because they are not authorized to speak on the record on behalf of the agency.
The DHS told TIME that Good had “weaponized her vehicle, attempting to run over our law enforcement officers in an attempt to kill them—an act of domestic terrorism.”
But videos of the incident contradict that account. They appear to show Ross positioned to the side of Good’s vehicle when he fired three shots that killed her, with her wheels turned away from him.
Editor’s Note: The TIME video would not post; I am using the same item from ABC News, via YouTube. –DrWeb
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=frGrqOra8lM
Mayor of Minneapolis Demands ICE Leave the City After Agent Fatally Shoots Woman
Both the former agent and the current agent also questioned why Ross was assigned to this operation in the first place, given a previous injury involving a driver at the wheel of a vehicle just a few months before the confrontation with Good.
“That, to me, has red flags all over it,” the former ICE agent said.
“So when this person took off, I’m sure that prior incident came to mind, because he’s an experienced officer. And then he just reacted, in my opinion, not in the correct way,” the former agent added.
Last Monday, the Trump administration deployed roughly 2,000 agents from ICE to the Twin Cities area amid a growing fraud scandal at day care centers run by Somali residents. Homeland Security Secretary Kristi Noem said on social media that the agents are there to conduct “ a massive investigation on childcare and other rampant fraud.”
The current ICE agent pointed out that while the pretense of the immigration operation in Minneapolis is to investigate welfare fraud, neither border patrol officers nor ICE agents in charge of deportation, also known as Enforcement and Removal Operations (ERO) officers, are trained to investigate financial fraud.
“None of those skills were asked for when they sought out volunteers, or when they pulled people, it was just… we just need people to go out there and flood the area,” the current ICE agent said.
Editor’s Note: Read the rest of the story, at the below link.
Continue/Read Original Article Here: ICE Agents Speak About Shooting in Minneapolis | TIME
Tags: Current Agents, DHS, Enforcement and Removal Operations (ERO), EROs, Former Agents, ICE, ICE Agents, Masked Thugs, Minneapolis Shooting, Minnesota, No Investigation, Red Flags, Renee Nicole Good, Secret Police, Shooting, U.S. Department of Homeland Security
#CurrentAgents #DHS #EnforcementAndRemovalOperationsERO #EROs #FormerAgents #ICE #ICEAgents #MaskedThugs #MinneapolisShooting #Minnesota #NoInvestigation #RedFlags #ReneeNicoleGood #SecretPolice #Shooting #USDepartmentOfHomelandSecurity -
👶➡️🚫🔴 Apparently, seasoned devs possess magical powers to detect red flags invisible to mere mortals, but are too busy with their secret handshakes to enlighten the junior plebs. 🤷♂️ Meanwhile, #YourLead.dev is here to save the day by charging you for reviews, because nothing says "mentoring" like a paywall! 💸
https://yourlead.dev #seasoneddevs #redflags #mentoring #paywall #devcommunity #HackerNews #ngated -
Junior devs don't know the red flags we spot in seconds and we never tell them
#HackerNews #JuniorDevs #RedFlags #DeveloperCommunity #TechInsights #CareerAdvice
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CW: abuse and its justification
One of the ways in which abusers - and especially my abusive sibling - have hurt me was to teach me that abuse is not a choice. That's of cause how they justified it: The poor sobs just couldn't HELP it!
I've known for a long time that lasting patterns of abuse, as well as extreme abusive behaviours (even if they're one-off), are choices or follow a person's chosen moral convictions. Neither genes nor mental illness nor drugs nor mind control nor torture can cause someone to act against their deep moral convictions, like for example murder a loved one. And even in less extreme cases, it's up to the abuser's responsibility to make significant changes in their life to stop destructive patterns like guilt tripping.
But intellectually knowing something and really knowing it are two different things. I keep getting triggered into "questioning" whether I'm actually evil (abusive, oppressive, ableist etc) because if abuse is not a choice, then I might be abusive despite not WANTING to be!
It occurs to me as I'm writing this, how much this has to do with deep distortions based on confusing outer perception with truth. What *I* care about is truth. I care about whether or not my actions hurt innocent people. Abusers on the other hand only care about perceptions, to the point where they stop distinguishing between perception and reality. They don't care that they're causing harm, but they care obsessively and intensely and violently about not being PERCEIVED as an abuser!
Yeah no, that part is not a choice, that's true, it is outside someone's control how others perceive or label or judge them (to some extent/depending on circumstances).
But I'd rather be seen as an abuser than actually causing that kind of harm. Whereas my sibling and other abusers act as though the fear of potentially maybe getting criticised for abusive actions gives them the right to retaliate violently. (emotional violence counts as violet in this context)
They see this as self defense! 🤯
Because in their worldview, how others perceive them is where their "personal" boundary needs to be protected, because there's no difference between perception and truth?? idek, it makes no sense to me but this is how they act. And the flip side is true too: If they perceive me as a threat or as pathetic or as dangerous or as lazy or as having it too easy or as incompetent or whatever it is today - then I must accept it as truth and repent and do better and suffer the consequences. (me feeling bad is what's important, not fixing anything in the real world, which is how abusers differ from non-abusers)
Of course the double standards: If they are perceived as anything less than pristine, they get to attack me. If I am perceived as lacking, they also get to attack me. They need to be protected from feeling bad at all costs! After all, they're poor suffering victims of abuse and oppression! But despite being just as much (actually more) of a victim, I need to swallow any and all bad feelings they sling at me without ever complaining, let alone defending myself.
#AbuseCulture #abuse #AbuseSurvivor #AbuseRecovery #AbusiveSibling #RedFlags
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Wife has a mic-drop comeback after husband introduces her to coworkers as 'The Housewife'
https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.upworthy.com/wife-responds-to-husbands-put-down-ex1
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12 subtle phrases that are dead giveaways of an insincere apology and how to respond to them
https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.upworthy.com/signs-of-non-apology
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“A smear campaign is what a narcissist does to damage your reputation credibility because they perceive you as a threat or someone who rejected them.” #selfcare #darktriad #personalitydisorders #mentalhealth #meangirls #narcissist #smearcampaign #flyingmonkeys #redflags
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Analysis of US voting results from 2024 contain red flags of election manipulation.
Samples from Florida exhibit same type of non-probabilistic shift for Trump as Russian elections did for Putin.
Mail-in voting does NOT exhibit the suspicious patterns.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=uh-5P8FN8a0
#uselection2024 #votes #audit #redflags #manipulation #florida -
This isn't directly about this topics, but these vids are about 🚩🚩🚩#redflags and relationships with toxic ppl.
They were posted a couple of years ago when this guy, friend of mine, was dating this REALLY toxic dude 👿!!!
The hashtag is #DumpThePutz
Any1 who needs the info, please take a look. ☮️
