#estrangement — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #estrangement, aggregated by home.social.
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Hayes Confesses Rift With Son
Actress Christie Hayes shares a difficult estrangement from her 11-year-old son. Find out what happened and who is affected.
#ChristieHayes, #FamilyStruggles, #Parenting, #Estrangement, #HomeAndAway
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Christie Hayes has revealed she is estranged from her 11-year-old son. This follows recent family discussions.
#ChristieHayes, #FamilyStruggles, #Parenting, #Estrangement, #HomeAndAway
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A dying father. A ten-year silence. A son returns to find nothing has changed. No forgiveness. No reconciliation. Just the quiet choice to walk away. A flash fiction about estrangement.
https://medium.com/microcosm/nothing-has-changed-6cbb5f879d51
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Nearly 40% of Americans went no-contact with a loved one last year. Here’s why we’re letting relationships go.
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Nearly 40% of Americans went no-contact with a loved one last year. Here’s why we’re letting relationships go.
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Nearly 40% of Americans went no-contact with a loved one last year. Here’s why we’re letting relationships go.
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Nearly 40% of Americans went no-contact with a loved one last year. Here’s why we’re letting relationships go.
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Wow. There's nothing quite like seeing one's own life situation captured so precisely in words. I'm only a chapter or so in, but wow.
(and a little encouraging, since I seem to be handling things in the recommended ways, for what it's worth🤞🏼💔)
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Wow. There's nothing quite like seeing one's own life situation captured so precisely in words. I'm only a chapter or so in, but wow.
(and a little encouraging, since I seem to be handling things in the recommended ways, for what it's worth🤞🏼💔)
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Is anyone here reading what might be called 'dhammic literature', meaning literary fiction that explores dhamma-related themes - the human condition, suffering, happiness, perception.
In particular I am interested in conversations about the New Weird and how it 'estranges' us from habituated perception. Also looking for reading recommendations.
#dhamma #literary #fiction #NewWeird #ostranenie #estrangement #reading #writing
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Is anyone here reading what might be called 'dhammic literature', meaning literary fiction that explores dhamma-related themes - the human condition, suffering, happiness, perception.
In particular I am interested in conversations about the New Weird and how it 'estranges' us from habituated perception. Also looking for reading recommendations.
#dhamma #literary #fiction #NewWeird #ostranenie #estrangement #reading #writing
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"All the parts about me that I hate the most, I got from you. All the parts I love the most, too. The romanticism, the love of history, a deep attunement to emotion, movies, and music. My teary-eyed, lachrymose nature. My love of journalism and photography." —J.Y. Lee for Off Assignment
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"All the parts about me that I hate the most, I got from you. All the parts I love the most, too. The romanticism, the love of history, a deep attunement to emotion, movies, and music. My teary-eyed, lachrymose nature. My love of journalism and photography." —J.Y. Lee for Off Assignment
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A flying visit: Palaver, by Bryan Washington, reviewed
I’ve never been to Tokyo, but sometimes I wonder: why bother with the plane ticket? The imagined Tokyo is more real than the actual city. For westerners, it is a place whose USP is its unreality: its irreducible strangeness, its intense Japaneseness. It’s a city where lonely…
#Japan #JP #Tokyo #estrangement #Fiction #homosexuality #news #tokyonews #東京 #東京都
https://www.alojapan.com/1445216/a-flying-visit-palaver-by-bryan-washington-reviewed/ -
https://www.alojapan.com/1445216/a-flying-visit-palaver-by-bryan-washington-reviewed/ A flying visit: Palaver, by Bryan Washington, reviewed #estrangement #Fiction #homosexuality #news #Tokyo #TokyoNews #東京 #東京都 I’ve never been to Tokyo, but sometimes I wonder: why bother with the plane ticket? The imagined Tokyo is more real than the actual city. For westerners, it is a place whose USP is its unreality: its irreducible strangeness, its intense Japaneseness. It’s a city where lonely souls go to bump against other lonely souls
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My mother will never meet this baby. Depending on how hard my father tries to belittle, guilt, insult, cajole, or bribe me, he may not either.
The idea of paraphrasing this quote (Andor season 2) is my husband's, for when I tell my father in my third trimester:
"You want Syril in your life, you will think before you speak...I will guarantee a level of engagement, but it will be inversely proportional to the volume of anxiety you generate in our lives.”
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My mother will never meet this baby. Depending on how hard my father tries to belittle, guilt, insult, cajole, or bribe me, he may not either.
The idea of paraphrasing this quote (Andor season 2) is my husband's, for when I tell my father in my third trimester:
"You want Syril in your life, you will think before you speak...I will guarantee a level of engagement, but it will be inversely proportional to the volume of anxiety you generate in our lives.”
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Familial estrangement is not a new phenomenon. It just looked different with our own parents and their parents; In my own experience, it's very common for adults my mothers and fathers age (50's) to not see their parents except on holidays like Christmas, they don't call or message their parents every day, or even every week, they often live far from their parents as well. That is how their generation has decided to distance and deal with their own trauma...
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In which i sing and play piano ⬇️ cw: eye contact, parental estrangement
https://spectra.video/videos/watch/10443e48-bc9f-4d28-9921-0e81ff2687b7
Recorded months ago, posted today
#peertube #singer #fedimusic #coversong #spoonie #womensart #childhoodtrauma #traumahealing #trauma #Estrangement #scapegoat
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In which i sing and play piano ⬇️ cw: eye contact, parental estrangement
https://spectra.video/videos/watch/10443e48-bc9f-4d28-9921-0e81ff2687b7
Recorded months ago, posted today
#peertube #singer #fedimusic #coversong #spoonie #womensart #childhoodtrauma #traumahealing #trauma #Estrangement #scapegoat
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We use AI to think less. Cogitation is costly; so:
• the more we use AI,
• the more we offload processing,
• the less we ponder,
• the shallower our thinking becomes.References: http://data.yt/kit/how-ai-is-made.html#how-to-use-ai
#alienation #estrangement #criticalThinking #education #higherEd #AIRisks #GenAI #GenerativeAI #trust #beliefs #AIAgents #agenticAI
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We use AI to think less. Cogitation is costly; so:
• the more we use AI,
• the more we offload processing,
• the less we ponder,
• the shallower our thinking becomes.References: http://data.yt/kit/how-ai-is-made.html#how-to-use-ai
#alienation #estrangement #criticalThinking #education #higherEd #AIRisks #GenAI #GenerativeAI #trust #beliefs #AIAgents #agenticAI
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I worry that my friend’s inheritance is causing problems
Dear Eric: I have a friend who is in her mid-50s and is single with no kids. Both…
#NewsBeep #News #Personalfinance #adultchildren #advice #askingeric #avoidant #Business #CA #Canada #EricThomas #estrangement #expense #Finance #friend #grief #inaction #indecision #inequitable #inheritance #Money #Parent #PersonalFinance #relationship
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+ we read the exhibition / project are "based on the hypothesis that juxtaposing Confederate and related monuments with the right contemporary projects can produce a kind of productive" #estrangement
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"In 2024, immediately before the last presidential election, the American Psychiatric Association found that 1 in 5 people reported broken family relationships because of politics. Twenty percent of the population — which makes for tens of millions of people (roughly 50 million, counting only the population of American adults)."
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"In 2024, immediately before the last presidential election, the American Psychiatric Association found that 1 in 5 people reported broken family relationships because of politics. Twenty percent of the population — which makes for tens of millions of people (roughly 50 million, counting only the population of American adults)."
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"I am one of the many thousands with broken families because of Donald Trump. Sometimes, Trump’s supporters talk of 'Trump Derangement Syndrome.' Honestly, I’m more interested in 'Trump Estrangement Syndrome.'
I suspect it’s an epidemic."
~ Diana Butler Bass
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"I am one of the many thousands with broken families because of Donald Trump. Sometimes, Trump’s supporters talk of 'Trump Derangement Syndrome.' Honestly, I’m more interested in 'Trump Estrangement Syndrome.'
I suspect it’s an epidemic."
~ Diana Butler Bass
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#Trans #GenZers Are No Stranger to #Family #Estrangement. Here’s How Some Are #Coping
https://www.them.us/story/gen-z-family-estrangement-story-trans-kids
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#Trans #GenZers Are No Stranger to #Family #Estrangement. Here’s How Some Are #Coping
https://www.them.us/story/gen-z-family-estrangement-story-trans-kids
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#Trans #GenZers Are No Stranger to #Family #Estrangement. Here’s How Some Are #Coping
https://www.them.us/story/gen-z-family-estrangement-story-trans-kids
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#Trans #GenZers Are No Stranger to #Family #Estrangement. Here’s How Some Are #Coping
https://www.them.us/story/gen-z-family-estrangement-story-trans-kids
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#Trans #GenZers Are No Stranger to #Family #Estrangement. Here’s How Some Are #Coping
https://www.them.us/story/gen-z-family-estrangement-story-trans-kids
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📗 "Toxic Parents" by Susan Forward & Craig Buck
I've been low contact with my parents for years, but have been moving towards going no contact. It's been hard, so sometimes I read a book or two to keep strong and not get overwhelmed by the fog (fear, obligation, guilt). I come across many of these self help books that aren't that good, but I think this one is above average. It's relatable and useful.
This book gives time to all kinds of abuse that can happen: physical, emotional, neglect, sexual, just sheer inadequacy. The first half describes these unhealthy hierarchies, the second half gives advice on how to cope with them as an adult. Its main focus is trying to break that dreadful feeling of responsibility for harmful parents that makes a person doubt themselves over and over.
Maybe if you've been no contact for a long time, it won't be that useful anymore. But if you still remain low contact or are actively trying to distance yourself, it might help.
Some things that were reinforced that have helped me and that I'm constantly reminding myself of:
- Toxic parents don't change, won't give approval and refuse to understand. To keep trying is to waste your own time. As long as you keep trying to make these things happen, you'll suffer and remain enmeshed.
- Toxic parents will try to force their warped reality upon you. Whether it's through confrontation or distancing yourself -you must remain in your own reality and not get sucked into theirs.
- You're not responsible for your parents' well-being and emotions. If they react badly to you setting healthy boundaries, that's their problem. It's not your fault nor something for you to 'solve'.
- Love is not just a feeling, also a behavior. You don't have to tolerate someone's bad behavior because they (claim to) feel love towards you.
I hope you won't need this book! But if you do, I'm sorry and I hope it helps.
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📗 "Toxic Parents" by Susan Forward & Craig Buck
I've been low contact with my parents for years, but have been moving towards going no contact. It's been hard, so sometimes I read a book or two to keep strong and not get overwhelmed by the fog (fear, obligation, guilt). I come across many of these self help books that aren't that good, but I think this one is above average. It's relatable and useful.
This book gives time to all kinds of abuse that can happen: physical, emotional, neglect, sexual, just sheer inadequacy. The first half describes these unhealthy hierarchies, the second half gives advice on how to cope with them as an adult. Its main focus is trying to break that dreadful feeling of responsibility for harmful parents that makes a person doubt themselves over and over.
Maybe if you've been no contact for a long time, it won't be that useful anymore. But if you still remain low contact or are actively trying to distance yourself, it might help.
Some things that were reinforced that have helped me and that I'm constantly reminding myself of:
- Toxic parents don't change, won't give approval and refuse to understand. To keep trying is to waste your own time. As long as you keep trying to make these things happen, you'll suffer and remain enmeshed.
- Toxic parents will try to force their warped reality upon you. Whether it's through confrontation or distancing yourself -you must remain in your own reality and not get sucked into theirs.
- You're not responsible for your parents' well-being and emotions. If they react badly to you setting healthy boundaries, that's their problem. It's not your fault nor something for you to 'solve'.
- Love is not just a feeling, also a behavior. You don't have to tolerate someone's bad behavior because they (claim to) feel love towards you.
I hope you won't need this book! But if you do, I'm sorry and I hope it helps.
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Today I turned 47. I spent time with my children, had amazing takeaway pasta, and got myself ready to begin studying again on Monday. There were moments of joy.
There is also grief.
Grief for the distance in certain relationships.
Grief for the loneliness that still lingers.
Grief for the feeling that I haven’t accomplished what I thought I would by now.Birthdays can hold many things at once. Joy. Sorrow. Love. Longing. Today holds all of it.
#Grief #Estrangement #CounsellingStudent #BirthdayReflections
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Today I turned 47. I spent time with my children, had amazing takeaway pasta, and got myself ready to begin studying again on Monday. There were moments of joy.
There is also grief.
Grief for the distance in certain relationships.
Grief for the loneliness that still lingers.
Grief for the feeling that I haven’t accomplished what I thought I would by now.Birthdays can hold many things at once. Joy. Sorrow. Love. Longing. Today holds all of it.
#Grief #Estrangement #CounsellingStudent #BirthdayReflections
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Narcissism tears families apart: San Francisco therapist reveals how toxic behaviors create deep emotional wounds and lead to devastating estrangements. Healing begins with understanding and setting boundaries. #Estrangement #Psychology
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Estrangement grief is strange—it doesn’t always hit in the ways you expect. Today, it showed up as decision paralysis over something as small as picking clothes. Beneath that was something deeper: the weight of making choices alone, without the invisible guide rails of family influence.
Growing up, decisions were made for me. Even as an adult, I sought their approval, even when I didn’t want to. Now that they’re gone, every decision feels final—fully mine. That freedom should feel empowering, but instead, it stirs fear. What if I get it wrong? What if I make a stupid mistake?
The waiting, the uncertainty, the lingering belief that I should know how to handle this by now—it all pulls at old survival responses. Fear. Anxiety. Shame. A younger part of me still craves external validation, but I don’t yet know what self-approval looks like.
I do know I’m in transition. Learning to trust myself. Learning to let go of the shame of old responses. I’ve already taken steps forward. Now, the real work is defining what self-approval means—and making peace with the parts of me that still reach for something that no longer exists.
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📗 "Letter to the Father" by Franz Kafka, translated from German into English by Ernst Kaiser and Eithne Wilkins
Some things truly never change, and human bullshittery certainly is one of those. If you have a bad relationship with a parent too, reading this 50 page letter from 1919 is probably going to be a recognizable experience.
"From your armchair you ruled the world. Your opinion was correct, every other was mad, wild, meshugge, not normal. Your self-confidence indeed was so great that you had no need to be consistent at all and yet never ceased to be in the right. It did sometimes happen that you had no opinion whatsoever about a matter and as a result all opinions that were at all possible with respect to the matter were necessarily wrong, without exception. You were capable, for instance, of running down the Czechs, and then the Germans, and then the Jews, and what is more, not only selectively but in every respect, and finally nobody was left except yourself."
I didn't like some of the things Kafka wrote about love and marriage, but I could still appreciate his clarity on the relationship with his father. He has thought and thought and thought about it, analyzed it to pieces, and still isn't done with it, although he is very much done with the man himself it seems.
There's this great sadness in realizing your parents don't love you, at least not in a way that you'd ever be able to call love. And with realizing that, there's this wish to at least be understood by them. But sooner or later, with a fresh wave of grief, the knowledge will develop that even that simple wish will never be granted. What then is left? Trying to make peace with it and distancing yourself? I think Kafka came to that conclusion.
I wish the letter I wrote my parents was as eloquent as this one was, but I don't think it would've mattered. It would've still been called derogatory anyway.
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Powerful piece on #estrangement, the profound losses and the essential gains: "I had to choose between my mother and myself. For most of my life, I chose her. Until I didn’t. I do not regret this, but I do yearn — with a hurricane force that can bring me to my knees — for that which I will never have: a life in which I didn’t have to make this choice at all."
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Powerful piece on #estrangement, the profound losses and the essential gains: "I had to choose between my mother and myself. For most of my life, I chose her. Until I didn’t. I do not regret this, but I do yearn — with a hurricane force that can bring me to my knees — for that which I will never have: a life in which I didn’t have to make this choice at all."
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Powerful piece on #estrangement, the profound losses and the essential gains: "I had to choose between my mother and myself. For most of my life, I chose her. Until I didn’t. I do not regret this, but I do yearn — with a hurricane force that can bring me to my knees — for that which I will never have: a life in which I didn’t have to make this choice at all."
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Thoughtful, well-researched article by @AmandaMarcotte on #Estrangement, #Politics, particularly #MAGA, and #Authoritarianism in the #Home:
"Authoritarian values, [political scientist, Matthew McWilliams] said, are the 'poison root' from which far-right politics and regressive attitudes on child-rearing both flow. "
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Thoughtful, well-researched article by @AmandaMarcotte on #Estrangement, #Politics, particularly #MAGA, and #Authoritarianism in the #Home:
"Authoritarian values, [political scientist, Matthew McWilliams] said, are the 'poison root' from which far-right politics and regressive attitudes on child-rearing both flow. "
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Thoughtful, well-researched article by @AmandaMarcotte on #Estrangement, #Politics, particularly #MAGA, and #Authoritarianism in the #Home:
"Authoritarian values, [political scientist, Matthew McWilliams] said, are the 'poison root' from which far-right politics and regressive attitudes on child-rearing both flow. "
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"But there's a question buried in the story as well: Is it even possible? If we make ourselves into a boat and sail away, will our family turn out to be the wind?"
