#nocontact — Public Fediverse posts
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CW: CW: Child abuse, family trauma
One thing that has always irritated me is how often films, books, and television treat reconciliation with abusive parents as the inevitable "happy ending."
No matter what happened, the story bends toward forgiveness. The parent sheds a single tear, offers a half-hearted apology (or even none at all) and suddenly decades of cruelty dissolve because family is family. Biology is elevated into something almost sacred, as though sharing DNA creates a moral obligation that overrides violence, neglect, humiliation, or terror.
It doesn't.
For many survivors, that narrative isn't heartwarming. It's isolating. It whispers that if you haven't reconciled, you must be the one who failed. That enduring abuse is somehow nobler than walking away. That preserving "the family" matters more than preserving yourself.
What about the child locked in a dark room while they cried? The child physically assaulted as "discipline"? The child touched in ways no child should ever be touched? The child who grew up under constant humiliation, ridicule, and belittling until they learned to apologize simply for existing? Are they expected to erase all of that because the credits need a sentimental ending?
And what of those who never got the chance? Those whose abuse ended only because their lives did?
Stories that insist every broken family can (and should) be repaired don't just ignore reality. They erase millions of people whose healthiest, bravest decision was to leave.
Sometimes the healthiest family is the one you build yourself, from friends, partners, neighbours, and kindred spirits who choose you every single day.
Not every story deserves reconciliation. Some deserve survival.
Disclosure: I have no contact with my parents, and I don't want any. For reasons. No, thank you. I am not sorry.
#ChosenFamily #BreakTheCycle #ChildAbuse #TraumaRecovery #NoContact #YouOweAbusersNothing
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CW: CW: Child abuse, family trauma
One thing that has always irritated me is how often films, books, and television treat reconciliation with abusive parents as the inevitable "happy ending."
No matter what happened, the story bends toward forgiveness. The parent sheds a single tear, offers a half-hearted apology (or even none at all) and suddenly decades of cruelty dissolve because family is family. Biology is elevated into something almost sacred, as though sharing DNA creates a moral obligation that overrides violence, neglect, humiliation, or terror.
It doesn't.
For many survivors, that narrative isn't heartwarming. It's isolating. It whispers that if you haven't reconciled, you must be the one who failed. That enduring abuse is somehow nobler than walking away. That preserving "the family" matters more than preserving yourself.
What about the child locked in a dark room while they cried? The child physically assaulted as "discipline"? The child touched in ways no child should ever be touched? The child who grew up under constant humiliation, ridicule, and belittling until they learned to apologize simply for existing? Are they expected to erase all of that because the credits need a sentimental ending?
And what of those who never got the chance? Those whose abuse ended only because their lives did?
Stories that insist every broken family can (and should) be repaired don't just ignore reality. They erase millions of people whose healthiest, bravest decision was to leave.
Sometimes the healthiest family is the one you build yourself, from friends, partners, neighbours, and kindred spirits who choose you every single day.
Not every story deserves reconciliation. Some deserve survival.
Disclosure: I have no contact with my parents, and I don't want any. For reasons. No, thank you. I am not sorry.
#ChosenFamily #BreakTheCycle #ChildAbuse #TraumaRecovery #NoContact #YouOweAbusersNothing
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#Mozilla #Thunderbird lasted 5 minutes before I yeeted it off my system.
When did #Design hurt the people at Mozilla so badly, that they feel the need to #NoContact it?
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Nearly 40% of Americans went no-contact with a loved one last year. Here’s why we’re letting relationships go.
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Nearly 40% of Americans went no-contact with a loved one last year. Here’s why we’re letting relationships go.
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A little update about the law situation I posted about a few weeks ago.
It turns out my name is on the deed. I'm hopefully going to hear from an attorney this week! I'm so nervous and excited about this. I AM entitled to half of what my parents sell this property for. I will fight for this. I have a good attorney on my side who will fight for me.
I'll update y'all more after I get a call back from my attorney.
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A little update about the law situation I posted about a few weeks ago.
It turns out my name is on the deed. I'm hopefully going to hear from an attorney this week! I'm so nervous and excited about this. I AM entitled to half of what my parents sell this property for. I will fight for this. I have a good attorney on my side who will fight for me.
I'll update y'all more after I get a call back from my attorney.
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I received a phone call from a law office yesterday. Apparently when my mother passed away she left me property that she owned with my dad. The law office contacted me to ask me to take my name off the deed. I've been #nocontact with my parents for over 5 years now. I honestly don't remember if I've been told about this property at all.
Would it be worth fighting them on this? Is it worth going to court to get my dad's name off the deed? It would be amazing to get some extra cash from the sale of this property. The property in question has been for sale since December, but my parents didn't contact me until now and even that contact was through a secretary...
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I received a phone call from a law office yesterday. Apparently when my mother passed away she left me property that she owned with my dad. The law office contacted me to ask me to take my name off the deed. I've been #nocontact with my parents for over 5 years now. I honestly don't remember if I've been told about this property at all.
Would it be worth fighting them on this? Is it worth going to court to get my dad's name off the deed? It would be amazing to get some extra cash from the sale of this property. The property in question has been for sale since December, but my parents didn't contact me until now and even that contact was through a secretary...
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🧵I am an adult child who has issues with both of my parents but is no contact with only one, and I'll tell you what the difference is.
#abuse #nocontact #cptsd #ptsd #trauma #family #relationships -
🧵I am an adult child who has issues with both of my parents but is no contact with only one, and I'll tell you what the difference is.
#abuse #nocontact #cptsd #ptsd #trauma #family #relationships -
#maga #nocontact #abolishice the nightmares persist
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Sometimes we reduce communication with the people we love, not because we hate them, but because they make us feel like we are nothing to them.
#RelationshipQuotes #EmotionalHealth #MentalHealthMatters #LettingGo #SelfWorth #Healing #LoveHurts #NoContact #InnerPeace #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfLoveJourney #Truth #LifeLessons #Quotes #ShareInspirQuotes
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Sometimes we reduce communication with the people we love, not because we hate them, but because they make us feel like we are nothing to them.
#RelationshipQuotes #EmotionalHealth #MentalHealthMatters #LettingGo #SelfWorth #Healing #LoveHurts #NoContact #InnerPeace #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfLoveJourney #Truth #LifeLessons #Quotes #ShareInspirQuotes
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Hey man, I don’t know if you need to hear this, but if you’ve gone #NoContact with toxic family members, I know that today can be especially difficult, bringing feelings of #guilt and #SelfDoubt, as well as pressure from others to re-expose yourself to #abuse because “we’re family, and it’s #Christmas.” I just want you to know that #holiday sentiments are only that, & don’t justify toxicity & abuse. Forgiveness may be divine but forgetting is for suckers. My heart goes out to you. You matter.
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CW: naughty words
Shout out to everyone who's alone on #Christmas day for good reasons instead of depressing ones. May you enjoy many more without the toxic cunts you finally cut out of your life. Cheers!
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CW: naughty words
Shout out to everyone who's alone on #Christmas day for good reasons instead of depressing ones. May you enjoy many more without the toxic cunts you finally cut out of your life. Cheers!
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New #PsyberSpace episode: Going No Contact - Why Adult Children Are Choosing Their Mental Health Over Family
Research findings:
-27% of adults are estranged from family
-68% feel significant stigma about it
-Adult children cite abuse and lack of acceptance
-Parents blame third parties 80% of the time -
New #PsyberSpace episode: Going No Contact - Why Adult Children Are Choosing Their Mental Health Over Family
Research findings:
-27% of adults are estranged from family
-68% feel significant stigma about it
-Adult children cite abuse and lack of acceptance
-Parents blame third parties 80% of the time -
Today is my #freedomday. 4 years ago I finally realised that my toxic parents were a major factor in my #CPTSD and I had no chance of healing while they were a part of my life. 4 years ago today I went #nocontact and it turned out to be the catalyst for all kinds of #mentalhealth discoveries and progress.
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Today is my #freedomday. 4 years ago I finally realised that my toxic parents were a major factor in my #CPTSD and I had no chance of healing while they were a part of my life. 4 years ago today I went #nocontact and it turned out to be the catalyst for all kinds of #mentalhealth discoveries and progress.
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It’s the first year in a long time where I wish I was teaching overseas again. Not because I miss teaching (I don’t) or any of the other things that drew me to overseas work… but it’s a lot easier to deal with a solo Christmas when your “family” are an ocean away and your friends are all in the same boat.
It’s going to be my first Christmas going #NoContact with my family, and it sucks. The main reason is because I didn’t even say “don’t talk to me again” but instead I said that they need to apologize for the awful things they said to me the last time we spoke. That was 5 weeks ago. My parents have decided they’d rather say nothing. 🤷🏻♀️
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"If saying the truth ends a relationship, I think it's probably a relationship that needed to end."
– Jeanette McCurdy
#abuse #survivor #childabuse #abusive #survivingabuse #nocontact
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"If saying the truth ends a relationship, I think it's probably a relationship that needed to end."
– Jeanette McCurdy
#abuse #survivor #childabuse #abusive #survivingabuse #nocontact
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With #MatthewMcconaughey talking about it on #HowardStern, and apparently #JennetteMcCurdy (#iCarly) weighing in again having written the book "I'm Glad My Mom Died", I see people once again talking about going #NoContact, #LowContact, or #GreyRock with #parents, as in, shutting them out of your life and avoiding ever speaking to them again.
If that doesn't sound like a thing you'd ever want to do, you probably had an actual relationship with both your parents beyond #abuse.
I'm glad you did, but we didn't.
For some, it's a long and painful process, which becomes liberating at the end, as we cut a source of lasting pain and ongoing harm out of our lives. For others, it's as easy as just not calling on the phone, because understand this: a lot of #AbusiveParents don't care.
And that's something to remember here too: if you think this is hurtful to the parent, maybe it is, and that returned-hurt can even be part of healing. But for the majority? It doesn't hurt them, because they don't actually care.
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With #MatthewMcconaughey talking about it on #HowardStern, and apparently #JennetteMcCurdy (#iCarly) weighing in again having written the book "I'm Glad My Mom Died", I see people once again talking about going #NoContact, #LowContact, or #GreyRock with #parents, as in, shutting them out of your life and avoiding ever speaking to them again.
If that doesn't sound like a thing you'd ever want to do, you probably had an actual relationship with both your parents beyond #abuse.
I'm glad you did, but we didn't.
For some, it's a long and painful process, which becomes liberating at the end, as we cut a source of lasting pain and ongoing harm out of our lives. For others, it's as easy as just not calling on the phone, because understand this: a lot of #AbusiveParents don't care.
And that's something to remember here too: if you think this is hurtful to the parent, maybe it is, and that returned-hurt can even be part of healing. But for the majority? It doesn't hurt them, because they don't actually care.
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With #MatthewMcconaughey talking about it on #HowardStern, and apparently #JennetteMcCurdy (#iCarly) weighing in again having written the book "I'm Glad My Mom Died", I see people once again talking about going #NoContact, #LowContact, or #GreyRock with #parents, as in, shutting them out of your life and avoiding ever speaking to them again.
If that doesn't sound like a thing you'd ever want to do, you probably had an actual relationship with both your parents beyond #abuse.
I'm glad you did, but we didn't.
For some, it's a long and painful process, which becomes liberating at the end, as we cut a source of lasting pain and ongoing harm out of our lives. For others, it's as easy as just not calling on the phone, because understand this: a lot of #AbusiveParents don't care.
And that's something to remember here too: if you think this is hurtful to the parent, maybe it is, and that returned-hurt can even be part of healing. But for the majority? It doesn't hurt them, because they don't actually care.
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With #MatthewMcconaughey talking about it on #HowardStern, and apparently #JennetteMcCurdy (#iCarly) weighing in again having written the book "I'm Glad My Mom Died", I see people once again talking about going #NoContact, #LowContact, or #GreyRock with #parents, as in, shutting them out of your life and avoiding ever speaking to them again.
If that doesn't sound like a thing you'd ever want to do, you probably had an actual relationship with both your parents beyond #abuse.
I'm glad you did, but we didn't.
For some, it's a long and painful process, which becomes liberating at the end, as we cut a source of lasting pain and ongoing harm out of our lives. For others, it's as easy as just not calling on the phone, because understand this: a lot of #AbusiveParents don't care.
And that's something to remember here too: if you think this is hurtful to the parent, maybe it is, and that returned-hurt can even be part of healing. But for the majority? It doesn't hurt them, because they don't actually care.
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With #MatthewMcconaughey talking about it on #HowardStern, and apparently #JennetteMcCurdy (#iCarly) weighing in again having written the book "I'm Glad My Mom Died", I see people once again talking about going #NoContact, #LowContact, or #GreyRock with #parents, as in, shutting them out of your life and avoiding ever speaking to them again.
If that doesn't sound like a thing you'd ever want to do, you probably had an actual relationship with both your parents beyond #abuse.
I'm glad you did, but we didn't.
For some, it's a long and painful process, which becomes liberating at the end, as we cut a source of lasting pain and ongoing harm out of our lives. For others, it's as easy as just not calling on the phone, because understand this: a lot of #AbusiveParents don't care.
And that's something to remember here too: if you think this is hurtful to the parent, maybe it is, and that returned-hurt can even be part of healing. But for the majority? It doesn't hurt them, because they don't actually care.
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Do These 3 Things Immediately After Going #NoContact
It’s the #safest way to #survive being #discarded — or to protect yourself after discarding a #narcissist.
https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/do-these-3-things-immediately-after-going-no-contact/
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Do These 3 Things Immediately After Going #NoContact
It’s the #safest way to #survive being #discarded — or to protect yourself after discarding a #narcissist.
https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/do-these-3-things-immediately-after-going-no-contact/
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Do These 3 Things Immediately After Going #NoContact
It’s the #safest way to #survive being #discarded — or to protect yourself after discarding a #narcissist.
https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/do-these-3-things-immediately-after-going-no-contact/
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Do These 3 Things Immediately After Going #NoContact
It’s the #safest way to #survive being #discarded — or to protect yourself after discarding a #narcissist.
https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/do-these-3-things-immediately-after-going-no-contact/
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Do These 3 Things Immediately After Going #NoContact
It’s the #safest way to #survive being #discarded — or to protect yourself after discarding a #narcissist.
https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/do-these-3-things-immediately-after-going-no-contact/
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CW: USpol; liberals going low- or no-contact w/MAGA family
This article makes a great jumping-off point for a few things I hope will help someone out there...
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CW: USpol; liberals going low- or no-contact w/MAGA family
This article makes a great jumping-off point for a few things I hope will help someone out there...
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Why So Many People Are Going “No Contact” with Their Parents:
"A growing movement wants to destigmatize severing ties. Is it a much-needed corrective, or a worrisome change in family relations?" - The New Yorker
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Why So Many People Are Going “No Contact” with Their Parents:
"A growing movement wants to destigmatize severing ties. Is it a much-needed corrective, or a worrisome change in family relations?" - The New Yorker
https://archive.ph/aQVsm -
@melissabeartrix some people are just really shy 😆 🙈 #contact #phone #nocontact
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@melissabeartrix some people are just really shy 😆 🙈 #contact #phone #nocontact
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The #magistrate also ruled that as a special #condition of the #bond, #Trump should have #NoContact w/ #witnesses about the facts of the case except through their counsel. The govt will generate a list of such witnesses at a later date.
Doubt TFG will adhere to either conditions.
#ClassifiedDocuments #Obstruction #Espionage #NationalSecurity #DOJ #Legal #Justice
https://www.nytimes.com/live/2023/06/13/us/trump-indictment-arraignment-court/72030d43-d9ec-5952-8b3f-f40e1335e89c?smid=url-share
