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  1. Wow, that was weird. I just had a long dream, and in it, I had an autistic meltdown. In the dream, I was forced to people a lot in a gathering-type environment, people IRL that I had no- contacted for good reason were forcing me to account for my upcoming schedule, and my phone which helps me remember things and stay functional kept crashing itself when I needed it most.

    I have no idea what triggered this dream, but oh am I glad to have my safe space at home with my kitty! It's interesting how this intensity is lying in wait just outside the door.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #Peopling #AutisticMeltdown #Dreams

  2. Dr Megan Anna Neff, in a recent newsletter blog on neurodivergentinsights.com, just did an interesting thought exercise about "Not Everything Needs an Upside: Neurodivergent Reflections on AuDHD and Mental Health".

    I can relate to it quite a bit. But not trying to look at the upsides all the time seem a bit defeatist (if realistic).

    I also related to bipolar often being stigmatized, based on when I was (mis-)diagnosed that way for decades.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAuDHD

  3. Being misunderstood is a huge trigger for me, perhaps tied to the fight against human injustice part of neurodivergence. Stimming isn't even re-regulating me right now.

    I asked my GP/PCP to complete a form so that I could have a preferred medical transportation provider. First, even though I use and *need* a cane, they said I did not on the form. And then they completed the form without specifying the preferred provider.

    I'm really triggered right now. Trying my best to calm down and not burn down the bridge of the relationship.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAuDHD #Misunderstood

  4. Being misunderstood is a huge trigger for me, perhaps tied to the fight against human injustice part of neurodivergence. Stimming isn't even re-regulating me right now.

    I asked my GP/PCP to complete a form so that I could have a preferred medical transportation provider. First, even though I use and *need* a cane, they said I did not on the form. And then they completed the form without specifying the preferred provider.

    I'm really triggered right now. Trying my best to calm down and not burn down the bridge of the relationship.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAuDHD #Misunderstood

  5. Being misunderstood is a huge trigger for me, perhaps tied to the fight against human injustice part of neurodivergence. Stimming isn't even re-regulating me right now.

    I asked my GP/PCP to complete a form so that I could have a preferred medical transportation provider. First, even though I use and *need* a cane, they said I did not on the form. And then they completed the form without specifying the preferred provider.

    I'm really triggered right now. Trying my best to calm down and not burn down the bridge of the relationship.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAuDHD #Misunderstood

  6. Being misunderstood is a huge trigger for me, perhaps tied to the fight against human injustice part of neurodivergence. Stimming isn't even re-regulating me right now.

    I asked my GP/PCP to complete a form so that I could have a preferred medical transportation provider. First, even though I use and *need* a cane, they said I did not on the form. And then they completed the form without specifying the preferred provider.

    I'm really triggered right now. Trying my best to calm down and not burn down the bridge of the relationship.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAuDHD #Misunderstood

  7. Being misunderstood is a huge trigger for me, perhaps tied to the fight against human injustice part of neurodivergence. Stimming isn't even re-regulating me right now.

    I asked my GP/PCP to complete a form so that I could have a preferred medical transportation provider. First, even though I use and *need* a cane, they said I did not on the form. And then they completed the form without specifying the preferred provider.

    I'm really triggered right now. Trying my best to calm down and not burn down the bridge of the relationship.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAuDHD #Misunderstood

  8. People pleasing is a big part of my personality, for better or for worse. This has recently gotten in the way of my health.

    With my spine surgeon, he wanted me to be using an external spine stimulator. He also wanted me to be doing regular physical therapy. For the former, I now have a gastric stimulator where it's no longer possible to use it. And for physical therapy, time and time again it has been proven it affects my ME/CFS post-exertional malaise as well as the whole-body-pain part of my Sjogren's for up to a week after one one-hour session.

    Anyway, I was supposed to be getting regular monitoring every 6-8 weeks from the surgeon for a year. But I was so concerned in disappointing him in the above that I pulled away. I think some changes have happened to my spine that need to be watched and possibly addressed.

    So I made peace that, although he's a fellow human with feelings, this is a professional relationship that is goal driven. I can't be concerned about disappointing him. Feels like some big personal growth here to understand boundaries better! 😀

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #PeoplePleasing #PersonalBoundaries

  9. People pleasing is a big part of my personality, for better or for worse. This has recently gotten in the way of my health.

    With my spine surgeon, he wanted me to be using an external spine stimulator. He also wanted me to be doing regular physical therapy. For the former, I now have a gastric stimulator where it's no longer possible to use it. And for physical therapy, time and time again it has been proven it affects my ME/CFS post-exertional malaise as well as the whole-body-pain part of my Sjogren's for up to a week after one one-hour session.

    Anyway, I was supposed to be getting regular monitoring every 6-8 weeks from the surgeon for a year. But I was so concerned in disappointing him in the above that I pulled away. I think some changes have happened to my spine that need to be watched and possibly addressed.

    So I made peace that, although he's a fellow human with feelings, this is a professional relationship that is goal driven. I can't be concerned about disappointing him. Feels like some big personal growth here to understand boundaries better! 😀

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #PeoplePleasing #PersonalBoundaries

  10. People pleasing is a big part of my personality, for better or for worse. This has recently gotten in the way of my health.

    With my spine surgeon, he wanted me to be using an external spine stimulator. He also wanted me to be doing regular physical therapy. For the former, I now have a gastric stimulator where it's no longer possible to use it. And for physical therapy, time and time again it has been proven it affects my ME/CFS post-exertional malaise as well as the whole-body-pain part of my Sjogren's for up to a week after one one-hour session.

    Anyway, I was supposed to be getting regular monitoring every 6-8 weeks from the surgeon for a year. But I was so concerned in disappointing him in the above that I pulled away. I think some changes have happened to my spine that need to be watched and possibly addressed.

    So I made peace that, although he's a fellow human with feelings, this is a professional relationship that is goal driven. I can't be concerned about disappointing him. Feels like some big personal growth here to understand boundaries better! 😀

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #PeoplePleasing #PersonalBoundaries

  11. People pleasing is a big part of my personality, for better or for worse. This has recently gotten in the way of my health.

    With my spine surgeon, he wanted me to be using an external spine stimulator. He also wanted me to be doing regular physical therapy. For the former, I now have a gastric stimulator where it's no longer possible to use it. And for physical therapy, time and time again it has been proven it affects my ME/CFS post-exertional malaise as well as the whole-body-pain part of my Sjogren's for up to a week after one one-hour session.

    Anyway, I was supposed to be getting regular monitoring every 6-8 weeks from the surgeon for a year. But I was so concerned in disappointing him in the above that I pulled away. I think some changes have happened to my spine that need to be watched and possibly addressed.

    So I made peace that, although he's a fellow human with feelings, this is a professional relationship that is goal driven. I can't be concerned about disappointing him. Feels like some big personal growth here to understand boundaries better! 😀

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #PeoplePleasing #PersonalBoundaries

  12. People pleasing is a big part of my personality, for better or for worse. This has recently gotten in the way of my health.

    With my spine surgeon, he wanted me to be using an external spine stimulator. He also wanted me to be doing regular physical therapy. For the former, I now have a gastric stimulator where it's no longer possible to use it. And for physical therapy, time and time again it has been proven it affects my ME/CFS post-exertional malaise as well as the whole-body-pain part of my Sjogren's for up to a week after one one-hour session.

    Anyway, I was supposed to be getting regular monitoring every 6-8 weeks from the surgeon for a year. But I was so concerned in disappointing him in the above that I pulled away. I think some changes have happened to my spine that need to be watched and possibly addressed.

    So I made peace that, although he's a fellow human with feelings, this is a professional relationship that is goal driven. I can't be concerned about disappointing him. Feels like some big personal growth here to understand boundaries better! 😀

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #PeoplePleasing #PersonalBoundaries

  13. Wow that was fun, enlightening, and reassuring. I just redid the standard autism online quizzes as part of preparing for a formal diagnosis of the autism in 6-12 months. I had first done these a couple years ago, when I was trying to decide if I might be neurodivergent.

    Very high likelihood of autism, *extremely high* alexithymia, high burnout, *extremely* high monotropism.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics

  14. I've been deep diving into this YouTube channel. It has great non-binary and neurodivergent (especially autistic) content.

    The one thing that keeps catching me off guard is that they are framing neurodivergence as a disability. Is that a cultural thing that I missed (they are in the UK)? Or is it the perception of this YouTuber? I've always framed it as a different type of brain and way of looking at the world.

    I'll still keep watching and supporting their content, but it's something that keeps niggling me.

    youtube.com/@AdelaideAlchemist

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #NonBinary #YouTube #Disability

  15. This is fascinating and I'm glad research continues to happen into autism.

    I just hope there wouldn't be unintended consequences where a less-enlightened parent would give up their newborn child if they thought they were different, should this prove to be viable research.

    youtube.com/watch?v=eclg9v29ILw

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics

  16. My browser favorites are a window into my current special interests or concerns, which can vary from day to day. I am constantly reorganizing them into relevant categories, and shunting some to a "More" subfolder per category that are important but less relevant.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #SpecialInterests #BrowserFavorites

  17. My browser favorites are a window into my current special interests or concerns, which can vary from day to day. I am constantly reorganizing them into relevant categories, and shunting some to a "More" subfolder per category that are important but less relevant.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #SpecialInterests #BrowserFavorites

  18. My browser favorites are a window into my current special interests or concerns, which can vary from day to day. I am constantly reorganizing them into relevant categories, and shunting some to a "More" subfolder per category that are important but less relevant.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #SpecialInterests #BrowserFavorites

  19. My browser favorites are a window into my current special interests or concerns, which can vary from day to day. I am constantly reorganizing them into relevant categories, and shunting some to a "More" subfolder per category that are important but less relevant.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #SpecialInterests #BrowserFavorites

  20. My browser favorites are a window into my current special interests or concerns, which can vary from day to day. I am constantly reorganizing them into relevant categories, and shunting some to a "More" subfolder per category that are important but less relevant.

    @autistics #ActuallyAutistics #SpecialInterests #BrowserFavorites

  21. Any fellow Autistics on here have a good recommendation for truly seamless socks?

    So far, everything I've found that is labeled "seamless" is straight up lying.

    #AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistics

  22. What do you like & hate related to senses?

    Mine:
    ❌ grease on my fingers
    ❌ ticking clocks; dripping water
    ✅ sweets
    ❌ bitter; sour
    ✅ lots of pillows

    @autistics @actuallyautistic @youronlyone @youronly.one


    #AskingAutistics #AutisticActually #ActuallyAutistics #Autism
  23. What do you like & hate related to senses?

    Mine:
    ❌ grease on my fingers
    ❌ ticking clocks; dripping water
    ✅ sweets
    ❌ bitter; sour
    ✅ lots of pillows

    @autistics @actuallyautistic @youronlyone @youronly.one


    #AskingAutistics #AutisticActually #ActuallyAutistics #Autism
  24. What do you like & hate related to senses?

    Mine:
    ❌ grease on my fingers
    ❌ ticking clocks; dripping water
    ✅ sweets
    ❌ bitter; sour
    ✅ lots of pillows

    @autistics @actuallyautistic @youronlyone @youronly.one


    #AskingAutistics #AutisticActually #ActuallyAutistics #Autism
  25. What do you like & hate related to senses?

    Mine:
    ❌ grease on my fingers
    ❌ ticking clocks; dripping water
    ✅ sweets
    ❌ bitter; sour
    ✅ lots of pillows

    @autistics @actuallyautistic @youronlyone @youronly.one


    #AskingAutistics #AutisticActually #ActuallyAutistics #Autism
  26. What do you like & hate related to senses?

    Mine:
    ❌ grease on my fingers
    ❌ ticking clocks; dripping water
    ✅ sweets
    ❌ bitter; sour
    ✅ lots of pillows

    @autistics @actuallyautistic @youronlyone @youronly.one


    #AskingAutistics #AutisticActually #ActuallyAutistics #Autism
  27. CW: A question for autistic writers

    Are there any writers here who are autistic? How do you handle something that you don't understand or can't relate to?

    My challenge is, there are so many things I can't grasp because of the way my brain works. For example, I see in novels and TV series/drama that a person loses focus when they hear a very bad news (like their health).

    However, in my case, at least from my experiences of hearing bad news, I never once lost focus; instead, I am more focus on listening to the expert (like a doctor). I'm more attentive because in my mind, that's the only way forward.

    So, if I want to write a character, I end up with something monotone or too generic. It is not realistic for most people, but it is for me.

    Or say, a character who obviously shouldn't do something but they still do it anyway. I'm trying to understand why so I can develop the character, but I'm failing in it.

    How do you handle it? Do you have a collection of examples, or watch something and put what you've watched into words?

    Thank you!

    @autistics @actuallyautistic

    #Autistics #ActuallyAutistics #AskingAutistics

  28. ‘Neural noise’ could be a hidden advantage of the autistic mind

    But some research, including our own study, has explored specific advantages in autism. Studies have shown that in some cognitive tasks, autistic people perform better than allistic people.

    Autistic people face ignorance, prejudice and discrimination that can harm wellbeing. Poor mental and physical health, reduced social connections and increased “camouflaging” of autistic traits are some of the negative impacts that autistic people face.

    So, research underlining and investigating the strengths inherent in autism can help reduce stigma, allow autistic people to be themselves and acknowledge autistic people do not require “fixing”.

    The autistic brain is different. It comes with limitations, but it also has its strengths.

    psypost.org/neural-noise-could

    #AutismAcceptance #Autism #AutismSpectrum #Autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodivergent @autistics @actuallyautistic

  29. How do you define the term, “Openly Autistic”?

    • Is it an autistic person who rarely masks?
    • Or, an autistic who isn’t afraid and/or shy to share that they are actually autistic?
    • Or, an autistic person who is active in the autism acceptance “movement” (if we can call it that)?
    • Or, perhaps, an autistic who were interviewed and disclosed they’re autistic?

    Maybe you have other considerations or criteria that defines “openly autistic” for you?

    NOTE: Being openly autistic is a choice and is not for everyone. I think it is safe to say that we all face discrimination, stereotyping, and prejudice for being actually autistics, thus, most choose not to be open about it.

    However, recently, there has been a slow growth in numbers of openly autistics, and like with most things in life, we have different criteria, definitions, and cultural considerations.

    Thus, I am curious what you think, personally or maybe your immediate environment or organisation, is an openly autistic person. Or, when do you consider one as openly autistic.

    Again, this is not about if an autistic person should be openly autistic or not. ^_^

    Thank you for your interesting insights!

    https://youronlyoneofcl.wordpress.com/2024/04/09/how-do-you-define-openly-autistic/

    #ActuallyAutistics #AutismSpectrum

  30. How do you define the term, “Openly Autistic”?

    * Is it an autistic person who rarely masks?
    * Or, an autistic who isn't afraid and/or shy to share that they are actually autistic?
    * Or, an autistic person who is active in the autism acceptance “movement” (if we can call it that)?
    * Or, perhaps, an autistic who were interviewed and disclosed they're autistic?

    Maybe you have other considerations or criteria that defines “openly autistic” for you?

    ---

    NOTE: Being openly autistic is a choice and is _not_ for everyone. I think it is safe to say that we all face discrimination, stereotyping, and prejudice for being actually autistics, thus, most choose not to be open about it.

    However, recently, there has been a slow growth in numbers of openly autistics, and like with most things in life, we have different criteria, definitions, and cultural considerations.

    Thus, I am curious what _you_ think, personally or maybe your immediate environment or organisation, is an openly autistic person. Or, when do you consider one as openly autistic.

    Again, this is not about if an autistic person should be openly autistic or not. ^_^

    Thank you for your interesting insights!

    ---

    * Autism symbol by: MissLunaRose12
    * License: CC By-SA 4.0 International
    * Source: commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Fil

    ---

    Tags: #OpenlyAutistic #OpenlyAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyAutistics #AskingAutistics #Autistic #Autistics #Autism #AutismSpectrum #AutismAwareness #AutismAcceptance

    Groups: @autistics @actuallyautistic

  31. How do you define the term, “Openly Autistic”?

    * Is it an autistic person who rarely masks?
    * Or, an autistic who isn't afraid and/or shy to share that they are actually autistic?
    * Or, an autistic person who is active in the autism acceptance “movement” (if we can call it that)?
    * Or, perhaps, an autistic who were interviewed and disclosed they're autistic?

    Maybe you have other considerations or criteria that defines “openly autistic” for you?

    ---

    NOTE: Being openly autistic is a choice and is _not_ for everyone. I think it is safe to say that we all face discrimination, stereotyping, and prejudice for being actually autistics, thus, most choose not to be open about it.

    However, recently, there has been a slow growth in numbers of openly autistics, and like with most things in life, we have different criteria, definitions, and cultural considerations.

    Thus, I am curious what _you_ think, personally or maybe your immediate environment or organisation, is an openly autistic person. Or, when do you consider one as openly autistic.

    Again, this is not about if an autistic person should be openly autistic or not. ^_^

    Thank you for your interesting insights!

    ---

    * Autism symbol by: MissLunaRose12
    * License: CC By-SA 4.0 International
    * Source: commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Fil

    ---

    Tags: #OpenlyAutistic #OpenlyAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyAutistics #AskingAutistics #Autistic #Autistics #Autism #AutismSpectrum #AutismAwareness #AutismAcceptance

    Groups: @autistics @actuallyautistic

  32. How do you define the term, “Openly Autistic”?

    * Is it an autistic person who rarely masks?
    * Or, an autistic who isn't afraid and/or shy to share that they are actually autistic?
    * Or, an autistic person who is active in the autism acceptance “movement” (if we can call it that)?
    * Or, perhaps, an autistic who were interviewed and disclosed they're autistic?

    Maybe you have other considerations or criteria that defines “openly autistic” for you?

    ---

    NOTE: Being openly autistic is a choice and is _not_ for everyone. I think it is safe to say that we all face discrimination, stereotyping, and prejudice for being actually autistics, thus, most choose not to be open about it.

    However, recently, there has been a slow growth in numbers of openly autistics, and like with most things in life, we have different criteria, definitions, and cultural considerations.

    Thus, I am curious what _you_ think, personally or maybe your immediate environment or organisation, is an openly autistic person. Or, when do you consider one as openly autistic.

    Again, this is not about if an autistic person should be openly autistic or not. ^_^

    Thank you for your interesting insights!

    ---

    * Autism symbol by: MissLunaRose12
    * License: CC By-SA 4.0 International
    * Source: commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Fil

    ---

    Tags: #OpenlyAutistic #OpenlyAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyAutistics #AskingAutistics #Autistic #Autistics #Autism #AutismSpectrum #AutismAwareness #AutismAcceptance

    Groups: @autistics @actuallyautistic

  33. How do you define the term, “Openly Autistic”?

    * Is it an autistic person who rarely masks?
    * Or, an autistic who isn't afraid and/or shy to share that they are actually autistic?
    * Or, an autistic person who is active in the autism acceptance “movement” (if we can call it that)?
    * Or, perhaps, an autistic who were interviewed and disclosed they're autistic?

    Maybe you have other considerations or criteria that defines “openly autistic” for you?

    ---

    NOTE: Being openly autistic is a choice and is _not_ for everyone. I think it is safe to say that we all face discrimination, stereotyping, and prejudice for being actually autistics, thus, most choose not to be open about it.

    However, recently, there has been a slow growth in numbers of openly autistics, and like with most things in life, we have different criteria, definitions, and cultural considerations.

    Thus, I am curious what _you_ think, personally or maybe your immediate environment or organisation, is an openly autistic person. Or, when do you consider one as openly autistic.

    Again, this is not about if an autistic person should be openly autistic or not. ^_^

    Thank you for your interesting insights!

    ---

    * Autism symbol by: MissLunaRose12
    * License: CC By-SA 4.0 International
    * Source: commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Fil

    ---

    Tags: #OpenlyAutistic #OpenlyAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyAutistics #AskingAutistics #Autistic #Autistics #Autism #AutismSpectrum #AutismAwareness #AutismAcceptance

    Groups: @autistics @actuallyautistic

  34. How do you define the term, “Openly Autistic”?

    * Is it an autistic person who rarely masks?
    * Or, an autistic who isn't afraid and/or shy to share that they are actually autistic?
    * Or, an autistic person who is active in the autism acceptance “movement” (if we can call it that)?
    * Or, perhaps, an autistic who were interviewed and disclosed they're autistic?

    Maybe you have other considerations or criteria that defines “openly autistic” for you?

    ---

    NOTE: Being openly autistic is a choice and is _not_ for everyone. I think it is safe to say that we all face discrimination, stereotyping, and prejudice for being actually autistics, thus, most choose not to be open about it.

    However, recently, there has been a slow growth in numbers of openly autistics, and like with most things in life, we have different criteria, definitions, and cultural considerations.

    Thus, I am curious what _you_ think, personally or maybe your immediate environment or organisation, is an openly autistic person. Or, when do you consider one as openly autistic.

    Again, this is not about if an autistic person should be openly autistic or not. ^_^

    Thank you for your interesting insights!

    ---

    * Autism symbol by: MissLunaRose12
    * License: CC By-SA 4.0 International
    * Source: commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Fil

    ---

    Tags: #OpenlyAutistic #OpenlyAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyAutistics #AskingAutistics #Autistic #Autistics #Autism #AutismSpectrum #AutismAwareness #AutismAcceptance

    Groups: @autistics @actuallyautistic

  35. CW: Don't be overprotective, instead encourage and guide.

    Do you have an #autistic child?

    As an autistic myself, there are some things I should have tried but did not have the courage to do so.

    Thus, my personal advice, is to _encourage_ your autistic (and NT) children to give it a try. Don't shield them because you “love them a lot”. Once they grow up, like in my experience, they will secretly always think, “I should've done this and that and see what happened, and maybe my life would be better”.

    Here are some in my case:
    * Voice acting. Our teachers, my classmates, and later work colleagues, have always said I can do well in reading. They feel the emotions and get immersed in the story.

    That's how far I did it. Today, I'm thinking, I should've taken a voice acting lesson, and maybe work as a voice actor.

    * Physical labour. I'm not choosy when it comes to job, especially at my current age, a job is a job. (As long as it isn't a crime and immoral, of course.) Sadly, I was shielded from it because they “love me so much and don't want me to go through what they went through in life”.

    The result of that wasn't good at all. I got stuck in office and BPO for a long time, and now it is so hard to move careers. My heart is in service and “people watching”, and to this day, it is so hard to get into a hotel-type of work. They either want you to have graduated in Business Administration or Hotel & Restaurant Management courses; or can carry a 30 kg baggage. Both of which I don't have.

    I had to take B.S. Mathematics and Computer Science because, well, that's what they told me… office work.

    You see, your “love” and not wanting your children to go through what you went through, can be detrimental for your children. It's fine to shield them, but it is also very easy for that shielding to limit your children's future.

    This is especially important for us autistics who are already experiencing discrimination at work, and prejudice against hiring an autistic.

    Instead of overprotecting your children, work with them. Identify what they want and see what can be done with it. If what they want would lead to “disaster” then nudge them gently to better options. Options, plural, not “what you want”.

    There are autistics who can join the workforce, and in various capacities. Encourage us and guide us, but don't be overprotective and showing only one path. It might look good at that point in time, but how about the future?

    #Autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #OpenlyAutistic #Autism #AutismSpectrum #AutismAcceptanceMonth #WorldAutismAcceptance #AutismAcceptance

    @autistics @actuallyautistic

  36. CW: Don't be overprotective, instead encourage and guide.

    Do you have an #autistic child?

    As an autistic myself, there are some things I should have tried but did not have the courage to do so.

    Thus, my personal advice, is to _encourage_ your autistic (and NT) children to give it a try. Don't shield them because you “love them a lot”. Once they grow up, like in my experience, they will secretly always think, “I should've done this and that and see what happened, and maybe my life would be better”.

    Here are some in my case:
    * Voice acting. Our teachers, my classmates, and later work colleagues, have always said I can do well in reading. They feel the emotions and get immersed in the story.

    That's how far I did it. Today, I'm thinking, I should've taken a voice acting lesson, and maybe work as a voice actor.

    * Physical labour. I'm not choosy when it comes to job, especially at my current age, a job is a job. (As long as it isn't a crime and immoral, of course.) Sadly, I was shielded from it because they “love me so much and don't want me to go through what they went through in life”.

    The result of that wasn't good at all. I got stuck in office and BPO for a long time, and now it is so hard to move careers. My heart is in service and “people watching”, and to this day, it is so hard to get into a hotel-type of work. They either want you to have graduated in Business Administration or Hotel & Restaurant Management courses; or can carry a 30 kg baggage. Both of which I don't have.

    I had to take B.S. Mathematics and Computer Science because, well, that's what they told me… office work.

    You see, your “love” and not wanting your children to go through what you went through, can be detrimental for your children. It's fine to shield them, but it is also very easy for that shielding to limit your children's future.

    This is especially important for us autistics who are already experiencing discrimination at work, and prejudice against hiring an autistic.

    Instead of overprotecting your children, work with them. Identify what they want and see what can be done with it. If what they want would lead to “disaster” then nudge them gently to better options. Options, plural, not “what you want”.

    There are autistics who can join the workforce, and in various capacities. Encourage us and guide us, but don't be overprotective and showing only one path. It might look good at that point in time, but how about the future?

    #Autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #OpenlyAutistic #Autism #AutismSpectrum #AutismAcceptanceMonth #WorldAutismAcceptance #AutismAcceptance

    @autistics @actuallyautistic

  37. CW: Don't be overprotective, instead encourage and guide.

    Do you have an #autistic child?

    As an autistic myself, there are some things I should have tried but did not have the courage to do so.

    Thus, my personal advice, is to _encourage_ your autistic (and NT) children to give it a try. Don't shield them because you “love them a lot”. Once they grow up, like in my experience, they will secretly always think, “I should've done this and that and see what happened, and maybe my life would be better”.

    Here are some in my case:
    * Voice acting. Our teachers, my classmates, and later work colleagues, have always said I can do well in reading. They feel the emotions and get immersed in the story.

    That's how far I did it. Today, I'm thinking, I should've taken a voice acting lesson, and maybe work as a voice actor.

    * Physical labour. I'm not choosy when it comes to job, especially at my current age, a job is a job. (As long as it isn't a crime and immoral, of course.) Sadly, I was shielded from it because they “love me so much and don't want me to go through what they went through in life”.

    The result of that wasn't good at all. I got stuck in office and BPO for a long time, and now it is so hard to move careers. My heart is in service and “people watching”, and to this day, it is so hard to get into a hotel-type of work. They either want you to have graduated in Business Administration or Hotel & Restaurant Management courses; or can carry a 30 kg baggage. Both of which I don't have.

    I had to take B.S. Mathematics and Computer Science because, well, that's what they told me… office work.

    You see, your “love” and not wanting your children to go through what you went through, can be detrimental for your children. It's fine to shield them, but it is also very easy for that shielding to limit your children's future.

    This is especially important for us autistics who are already experiencing discrimination at work, and prejudice against hiring an autistic.

    Instead of overprotecting your children, work with them. Identify what they want and see what can be done with it. If what they want would lead to “disaster” then nudge them gently to better options. Options, plural, not “what you want”.

    There are autistics who can join the workforce, and in various capacities. Encourage us and guide us, but don't be overprotective and showing only one path. It might look good at that point in time, but how about the future?

    #Autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #OpenlyAutistic #Autism #AutismSpectrum #AutismAcceptanceMonth #WorldAutismAcceptance #AutismAcceptance

    @autistics @actuallyautistic

  38. CW: Don't be overprotective, instead encourage and guide.

    Do you have an #autistic child?

    As an autistic myself, there are some things I should have tried but did not have the courage to do so.

    Thus, my personal advice, is to _encourage_ your autistic (and NT) children to give it a try. Don't shield them because you “love them a lot”. Once they grow up, like in my experience, they will secretly always think, “I should've done this and that and see what happened, and maybe my life would be better”.

    Here are some in my case:
    * Voice acting. Our teachers, my classmates, and later work colleagues, have always said I can do well in reading. They feel the emotions and get immersed in the story.

    That's how far I did it. Today, I'm thinking, I should've taken a voice acting lesson, and maybe work as a voice actor.

    * Physical labour. I'm not choosy when it comes to job, especially at my current age, a job is a job. (As long as it isn't a crime and immoral, of course.) Sadly, I was shielded from it because they “love me so much and don't want me to go through what they went through in life”.

    The result of that wasn't good at all. I got stuck in office and BPO for a long time, and now it is so hard to move careers. My heart is in service and “people watching”, and to this day, it is so hard to get into a hotel-type of work. They either want you to have graduated in Business Administration or Hotel & Restaurant Management courses; or can carry a 30 kg baggage. Both of which I don't have.

    I had to take B.S. Mathematics and Computer Science because, well, that's what they told me… office work.

    You see, your “love” and not wanting your children to go through what you went through, can be detrimental for your children. It's fine to shield them, but it is also very easy for that shielding to limit your children's future.

    This is especially important for us autistics who are already experiencing discrimination at work, and prejudice against hiring an autistic.

    Instead of overprotecting your children, work with them. Identify what they want and see what can be done with it. If what they want would lead to “disaster” then nudge them gently to better options. Options, plural, not “what you want”.

    There are autistics who can join the workforce, and in various capacities. Encourage us and guide us, but don't be overprotective and showing only one path. It might look good at that point in time, but how about the future?

    #Autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #OpenlyAutistic #Autism #AutismSpectrum #AutismAcceptanceMonth #WorldAutismAcceptance #AutismAcceptance

    @autistics @actuallyautistic

  39. CW: Don't be overprotective, instead encourage and guide.

    Do you have an #autistic child?

    As an autistic myself, there are some things I should have tried but did not have the courage to do so.

    Thus, my personal advice, is to _encourage_ your autistic (and NT) children to give it a try. Don't shield them because you “love them a lot”. Once they grow up, like in my experience, they will secretly always think, “I should've done this and that and see what happened, and maybe my life would be better”.

    Here are some in my case:
    * Voice acting. Our teachers, my classmates, and later work colleagues, have always said I can do well in reading. They feel the emotions and get immersed in the story.

    That's how far I did it. Today, I'm thinking, I should've taken a voice acting lesson, and maybe work as a voice actor.

    * Physical labour. I'm not choosy when it comes to job, especially at my current age, a job is a job. (As long as it isn't a crime and immoral, of course.) Sadly, I was shielded from it because they “love me so much and don't want me to go through what they went through in life”.

    The result of that wasn't good at all. I got stuck in office and BPO for a long time, and now it is so hard to move careers. My heart is in service and “people watching”, and to this day, it is so hard to get into a hotel-type of work. They either want you to have graduated in Business Administration or Hotel & Restaurant Management courses; or can carry a 30 kg baggage. Both of which I don't have.

    I had to take B.S. Mathematics and Computer Science because, well, that's what they told me… office work.

    You see, your “love” and not wanting your children to go through what you went through, can be detrimental for your children. It's fine to shield them, but it is also very easy for that shielding to limit your children's future.

    This is especially important for us autistics who are already experiencing discrimination at work, and prejudice against hiring an autistic.

    Instead of overprotecting your children, work with them. Identify what they want and see what can be done with it. If what they want would lead to “disaster” then nudge them gently to better options. Options, plural, not “what you want”.

    There are autistics who can join the workforce, and in various capacities. Encourage us and guide us, but don't be overprotective and showing only one path. It might look good at that point in time, but how about the future?

    #Autistics #ActuallyAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #OpenlyAutistic #Autism #AutismSpectrum #AutismAcceptanceMonth #WorldAutismAcceptance #AutismAcceptance

    @autistics @actuallyautistic