#askingautistics — Public Fediverse posts

Is there a way you can help people who are going through the things you've already come through?

The hard stuff you've worked on, healed, and can now deal with someone else's hard thing without being triggered or overwhelmed yourself?

That might be a way to use your experiences for a purpose.
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Infrasound (along with the effects of liminal spaces) could explain why people feel spooked in big old empty buildings like theatres, schools, hospitals, grand churches.

But... I find these spaces pleasant. Is there a subset that reacts differently to infrasound? It would explain the mixed results of infrasound investigations.

What might be the Venn diagram of that subset and #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd folk? #askingautistics

Infrasound is my weighted blanket 😆

https://www.theguardian.com/science/2026/apr/27/spooky-feelings-in-old-houses-may-be-caused-by-boiler-sounds-study-suggests

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Have you ever wondered why you don't always succeed very well in human society?

The ‘48 laws of power’ could go some way to explaining it!

A thread 🧵

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(From the bestselling '48 Laws of Power’ by Robert Greene)

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If you’re #Autistic and you’re in a situation where you’re working with, living with, friends with someone who is regularly hurting you, and you can’t figure out why, but there’s clearly a bad situation: I’m wondering, what is it about them that is creating this situation? 1/2
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What does the world need to learn from you that you know precisely because of the things that you’ve been through? Because of the shit that you’ve had to go through, because of the crap that you’ve endured?

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How would you describe your ordinary daily level of anxiety (if any at all)?

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"If we all worked under the assumption that what is accepted as true is really true, there would be little hope of advance." - Orville Wright

True in science, as well as personal growth. What have you been told is true that you've found out (or suspect) isn't?

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I'm working to group and curate the massive collection of info I have on topics relevant to the later identified autistic journey, so it's easier to find and sort through. (Over 200 blog posts and 350 videos.)

Which topics are you interested in?

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What if you could talk to a version of yourself 20 years from now? What would they want you to know? What can they tell you that will help you right now?

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One of the current diagnostic criteria for autism is a lack of imagination.

Would you say you lack imagination?

Whatever way you answer, I'd love to hear more detail - if you've time & inclination.

Reposts also appreciated ☺️

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#AskingAutistics any of us actually like the physical act of kissing (with tongue involvement)? I rarely am in the mood for it and mostly don't really care for it. A peck on the forehead on the other hand... #ActuallyAutistic

In what ways do you find it difficult to function that neurotypicals often don't notice or think about?

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Anyone else with very sensitive feet that hate most shoe and sandal textures? For me it's because they feel sticky. What do you wear when it's too hot for socks?

I need to understand why masking is not sustainable in the long run.
The same way the french youtuber Za explains how the adhd meds work on the brain, I would like to really understand what makes masking exhausting, why it can't last.
I see it, I feel it, I don't understand it so I can't really heal from it.
Do you have any ressources on that topic ? French or english
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Je n'arrive pas à comprendre pourquoi, chimiquement, physiologiquement, le masking ne tient pas.
Je le sais je le vois je le vis mais je ne comprends pas ce qu'il se passe dans le corps ou dans le cerveau.
J'ai besoin de comprendre, comme quand Za explique le fonctionnement de la Ritaline versus les amphétamines dans le cerveau.
Avez-vous des ressources ? Fr ou en
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Do you get, or have you ever had, recurring nightmares?

If so, what were they about? What was the atmosphere like? And - if you remember - what were your feelings in them? Was there anything else notable about them, or making them different from other dreams?

Interested in your stories.

#Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic

What would your interactions with people be if you didn’t have the trauma responses, but you had the ability to attune?

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I’m also working on getting to a simple explanation. Yesterday I had another two chances to test out my explanation (yay Christmas…)
I know I’m taking liberty with many definitions, but I’ve found exactness gets in the way.

A little more structured than I could in the conversations:

My brain thinks more, my brain and body feel more than “normal” people do. Where feel is not only touch and the internal feelings of my body, but sight, sound, smell, taste, and emotions.

With think I mean not only cognitive analysis, but also remembering, planning, daydreaming, worrying, fantasising, etc.

And both thinking and feeling are not only more often, but also more intense.

This landed.

Then I explained that I lack the ability to “numb down” on most of the impulses I get.

I used the example of how I keep getting jump scares from fireworks explosions long after other people are just watching the show. Or how I can’t filter out the noise of vacuuming, or that irritating label in my T-shirt.

So, everything, all the time, at the highest input they can imagine, without a knob to turn it down.

What I didn’t say in either conversation yesterday:

This is why I like my quiet time, this is why I don’t like crowds, this is why I have a hard time falling asleep, this is why I either can’t focus/ get lost in thought, this is why I like predictable things, this is why I “just think too much”, this is why I like the numbing drugs, this is why I don’t have many friends.

It helped me, hope it helps someone else too.

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What can someone do about all the times when one was bad, and/or inadequate, and someone else was hurt ?

It was autisme, partially. But still...

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What if a meltdown wasn't a "bad" thing, but a signal that you're having trouble coping with something? Or that you need something you're not getting?

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #BurnoutRecovery #Sensory #Interoception

Can you read while there is audible language around you? Talking, shows, music, etc.

As for me, that’s a strong no.

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I struggle to rest and recharge as an #AuDHD because I need mental stimulation and I get bored easily with classic rest (watching a show doing nothing elese ? NOPE)... But maybe there is a form of active rest ? Activities with low sensory input ? What do you think ?
#actuallyautistic #askingautistics #actuallyadhd #askingadhders #askingadhd #askingaudhd #askingaudhdists

(Edit to replace "Netflix and chill"... Seems used to say something else 😬)

I struggle to rest and recharge as an #AuDHD because I need mental stimulation and I get bored easily with classic rest (watching a show doing nothing elese ? NOPE)... But maybe there is a form of active rest ? Activities with low sensory input ? What do you think ?
#actuallyautistic #askingautistics #actuallyadhd #askingadhders #askingadhd #askingaudhd #askingaudhdists

(Edit to replace "Netflix and chill"... Seems used to say something else 😬)

I struggle to rest and recharge as an #AuDHD because I need mental stimulation and I get bored easily with classic rest (watching a show doing nothing elese ? NOPE)... But maybe there is a form of active rest ? Activities with low sensory input ? What do you think ?
#actuallyautistic #askingautistics #actuallyadhd #askingadhders #askingadhd #askingaudhd #askingaudhdists

(Edit to replace "Netflix and chill"... Seems used to say something else 😬)

I struggle to rest and recharge as an #AuDHD because I need mental stimulation and I get bored easily with classic rest (watching a show doing nothing elese ? NOPE)... But maybe there is a form of active rest ? Activities with low sensory input ? What do you think ?
#actuallyautistic #askingautistics #actuallyadhd #askingadhders #askingadhd #askingaudhd #askingaudhdists

(Edit to replace "Netflix and chill"... Seems used to say something else 😬)

I struggle to rest and recharge as an #AuDHD because I need mental stimulation and I get bored easily with classic rest (watching a show doing nothing elese ? NOPE)... But maybe there is a form of active rest ? Activities with low sensory input ? What do you think ?
#actuallyautistic #askingautistics #actuallyadhd #askingadhders #askingadhd #askingaudhd #askingaudhdists

(Edit to replace "Netflix and chill"... Seems used to say something else 😬)

#askingAutistics - It has never come to mind that it could be a hypersensitivity connected to being autistic, but my scalp has always been super sensitive to pulling on my hair (e.g. while brushing, which is why I have perfected my technique!). How are you fellow #ActuallyAutistic peeps experiencing your scalp?

What's the autistic version of the ADHD tax? How does it cost you more to go through life because you're autistic?

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity

Does anyone have advice, or know of any networks or organisations in Belfast for neurodivergent folk - where a young adult could make friends, or meet people, or so?

Any and all ideas welcome 💟😊

#AskingAutistics #Neurodiversity #Neurodivergent #belfast #Ireland

#AskingAutistics What's one thing you would make everyone on the planet understand, if you had the power to do so?

Is there any #AuDHD who have found a good life balance ? Enough stability, novelty, no crash / burnout ?
How does it look like ?
I need examples to try to build mine...
#askingautistics #askingadhd
Feel free to share, with or without more accurate hashtags 🥰

Instead of, “I can’t take the plunge without absolute certainty it will work out,” what if it’s “I must take the plunge?” What if accepting uncertainty is why I must do it, because I need that personal growth?

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Do you think you've suffered any trauma simply due to being autistic?

(trauma being pain that stays with you)

If so, what are the experiences you've suffered most trauma from? Are they sensory ones? Social ones? Or something else?

More info truly welcome - comment below :NeonHearts:

I've put my own response in the first post below ⬇️

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Any fellow Autistics on here have a good recommendation for truly seamless socks?

So far, everything I've found that is labeled "seamless" is straight up lying.

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What are ways that the people you care about know that you care about them? How do you let them know?

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #healthycommunication #healthyrelationships

@hosford42 If it was in any way true that the “feedback” was transformative, it wouldn’t have taken them this many years to do something about it. They’ve continued to operate as a hate group for all this time. The criticism has remained the same because their hateful actions have stayed consistent over time.

The only thing they can do to redeem themselves is to spend every last dime they have correcting every hateful thing they did until they are out of money and then shut their organization down permanently.

The question I have is what motivation #Forbes has for laundering their reputation.

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#AutismSpeaks

@hosford42 If it was in any way true that the “feedback” was transformative, it wouldn’t have taken them this many years to do something about it. They’ve continued to operate as a hate group for all this time. The criticism has remained the same because their hateful actions have stayed consistent over time.

The only thing they can do to redeem themselves is to spend every last dime they have correcting every hateful thing they did until they are out of money and then shut their organization down permanently.

The question I have is what motivation #Forbes has for laundering their reputation.

@actuallyautistic
#ActuallyAutistic
#AskingAutistics
#AutismSpeaks

@hosford42 If it was in any way true that the “feedback” was transformative, it wouldn’t have taken them this many years to do something about it. They’ve continued to operate as a hate group for all this time. The criticism has remained the same because their hateful actions have stayed consistent over time.

The only thing they can do to redeem themselves is to spend every last dime they have correcting every hateful thing they did until they are out of money and then shut their organization down permanently.

The question I have is what motivation #Forbes has for laundering their reputation.

@actuallyautistic
#ActuallyAutistic
#AskingAutistics
#AutismSpeaks

@hosford42 If it was in any way true that the “feedback” was transformative, it wouldn’t have taken them this many years to do something about it. They’ve continued to operate as a hate group for all this time. The criticism has remained the same because their hateful actions have stayed consistent over time.

The only thing they can do to redeem themselves is to spend every last dime they have correcting every hateful thing they did until they are out of money and then shut their organization down permanently.

The question I have is what motivation #Forbes has for laundering their reputation.

@actuallyautistic
#ActuallyAutistic
#AskingAutistics
#AutismSpeaks

@hosford42 If it was in any way true that the “feedback” was transformative, it wouldn’t have taken them this many years to do something about it. They’ve continued to operate as a hate group for all this time. The criticism has remained the same because their hateful actions have stayed consistent over time.

The only thing they can do to redeem themselves is to spend every last dime they have correcting every hateful thing they did until they are out of money and then shut their organization down permanently.

The question I have is what motivation #Forbes has for laundering their reputation.

@actuallyautistic
#ActuallyAutistic
#AskingAutistics
#AutismSpeaks

Anyone know how's Might Be Autistic? They deleted their accounts everywhere. #AutisticActually #AskingAutistics

Anyone know how's Might Be Autistic? They deleted their accounts everywhere. #AutisticActually #AskingAutistics

Anyone know how's Might Be Autistic? They deleted their accounts everywhere. #AutisticActually #AskingAutistics

Anyone know how's Might Be Autistic? They deleted their accounts everywhere. #AutisticActually #AskingAutistics

Anyone know how's Might Be Autistic? They deleted their accounts everywhere. #AutisticActually #AskingAutistics

Do any #autists out there have experience of living with & caring for a relative with end-stage #dementia?

I'm finding it very difficult. Any tips or advice, please? 🙏

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#ADHD
#AuDHD
#dementia
#carer

Does anyone know of any formal medical descriptions of how autists use language, & how we differ from NTs in this way? I have searched everywhere, & can't find anything.

We think and speak differently, but no formal recognition.

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#ADHD
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I use 3 guidleines in my communication (mainly with NTs, but with sane people too),

#Honesty, #Courtesy, and #Clarity.

Do you have guidelines that you use/prefer?

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#ADHD
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#AuDHD

#Autists (and others too ) might find this consideration of #honesty interesting...

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#ADHD #AuDHD

https://mas.to/@PatternChaser/114234417230736799

What do you like & hate related to senses?

Mine:
❌ grease on my fingers
❌ ticking clocks; dripping water
✅ sweets
❌ bitter; sour
✅ lots of pillows

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