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#Journal of a slightly anxious Dutch AuDHD Pixy :pixy_party: (Wednesday, 13/05/2026).
We had a decent enough night, a long one for sure. We went out a couple of times, Koa did all his things, although he didn’t like the rain too much… But in the end, all hours combined, my watch told me that I had gotten about 9½ hours of sleep. It didn’t feel like that much, probably because of the potty breaks in between… But I did feel rested enough to start our day at 3am.
The scale had added a few grams, but nothing too bad. Probably due to the little bit of extra snacking, due to my bday and all that. I prepped Koa’s food, took my meds, fed the hungry wild beast, and then I got to my laptop on the couch. I wrote a long email to a sweet friend of mine, and then I started on my journal toot. Koa was doing very well for the first hour, but after that, I had to crate him for a bit, as he was getting too bitey. He protested a short while, and then dozed off.
When I was done, we headed out for the first walkies together. When we got back, I worked on my laptop some more, and then I had brekkie. Bestie called me on her way to work, and we had a nice chat. After that, another nice walkies with the little hairy piranha. I chatted a bit with a sweet friend after that, while Koa was snuggling a bit with me on the couch. After that, I had to get into “action” mode for a while…
I tried to clean up a bit, and ran the vacuum through the house, as around 10:30, someone from the WMO would be coming over to have a chat with me, an intake chat, to see if they would be able to offer me some support with a few of the AuDHD things I struggle with.
She came a little after half past ten, and we had a long chat. We talked about my struggles, my health, both mental and physical, and about things that I would like to receive help with. She explained things, how they would go, and what my role in it all would be. Almost an hour later, she headed to the next appointment. I felt so tired after that long chat.
I walked with Koa, and after some play time, I put him in the crate, as I needed to relax for a while, and I had no energy to be watching him and his teeth. He was tired from the walk and playing, so he fell asleep with his IKEA Dachshund. I watched some telly, and tried to relax a bit. I had closed the curtains, we were having a lot of rain anyway… And for a while, I just watched TV and Koa snoozed in the crate.
I fixed his food, we relaxed some more, and when it was finally dry for a bit, we quickly headed out. As the weather was gray and wet, we went to bed a little early. Koa objected for a very short while, and then he started to snooze. I guess he was very relaxed, as he was passing some gas that would kill me, if I didn’t have the window open, haha! 😂
After a while, I dozed off as well. When I woke up for the loo, Koa wanted a wee too. Then, we tried to sleep some more, but Koa was being restless. So, we went out a second time, and he did a big number two… It made me feel a little sick, as the smell was awful! But, better out than in, and I tried to clean it up best I could. We went back to bed again. Some more snoozing, another wee break, and some more snoozing again. When I woke up around 2:45, I had gotten almost 9 hours of sleep in total, according to my watch. I still felt a bit doozy, but it was time to get up and start our day. One without appointments and all that, as it was/is a holiday in the Netherlands today.
Thanks to all for your kindness and support during my "journey through daily life" :bear_love: I really appreciate it 💜 as it helps me to keep going on bad/harder days! :bear_nuzzle:
:pixy_party: 💜 🍀 🐾
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#Journal of a happy Dutch AuDHD Pixy :pixy_party: (Tuesday, 12/05/2026).
Koa and I had an OK night. I had some trouble falling asleep, but then, I did doze off. We went out twice during the night, and when Koa woke me up again, he did so by retching a bit. Apparently, I had missed him eating something he should not have, and his stomach wanted it gone. All that came out, except for some bile, was a small twig of some sort… I try to take out all the things he puts in his mouth, but sometimes, he’s too fast, and I can’t reach him in time before it’s already gone… Ah well, we went out, I cleaned up, and then we could start our day.
The scale was OK enough, which was nice to see. I prepped Koa’s food, and then, after taking my meds, I got my laptop, and started working on an email to a sweet friend. Koa spent some time snoozing on the couch, and when he started to eat my pants, I put him in the crate for a little while. I finished my email, I uploaded the video I’d taken of Koa and Bas the previous day, and I worked on my journal toot. When I was done with that, it was getting light out, so Koa and I went for a short little walk.
When we got back, I wrote a bit for my blog while I had brekkie. And then my bestie called me on the way to work, so we had a nice little chat. After that, Koa wanted out again, so of course we went. When he got all the sniffs, and I got to bend loads of times to take stuff from his mouth, we got back again. Koa actually managed to sleep on the couch for a while, and… He even gave me some sweet cuddles… I was delighted!
As Nicole was coming over soon to puppy-sit Koa for me, Koa had his meal. After about 15 minutes, we had a nice little walk, so he could do his business. Then, Nicole came, and we got everything set up for her and Koa. I got my bags, and I headed to Cuijk.
I just walked in at the physio, and the lady before me had not showed up yet. So, big Bas took me in for my treatment first, and should the lady still come, then she could have my spot. I heard her come in as I was just preparing my things, but she was OK with chatting with some coffee for a while, so I could still go first. The treatment was rather nice. After that, I quickly headed to Lidl, where I got some groceries, and then I texted Nicole that I was done a little earlier, and I’d be on my way home again.
Nicole and Koa were playing outside, and it looked like they both had a great time. I thanked Nicole, and she went home again. I fixed some food, and Koa was snoozing away. He didn’t even want walkies, he wanted a quick wee outside, and then to snooze some more. I guess Nicole had worn him out a little, haha.
We relaxed for a while, and I browsed the Amazon store. I saw that the photo album had lowered the price again to a more decent one, so I ordered it when I could. I had also noticed that Arwen’s old feeding station was damaged with rust, so I looked up new feeding stations and I found one that I really liked, and that had good reviews (and that was affordable for me). So, I ordered that one as well… Then, I fixed Koa’s dinner, and we went for walkies about 30 minutes after that.
When we got back, Koa was ready for bed, or so it seemed. So, I prepped everything, and we got to bed. It didn’t take too long for Koa to doze off. I spent some time reading, before I finally was able to doze off as well. After several hours, I woke up because I needed the loo. Which woke up Koa, so we went out together as well. It was raining a bit, so I quickly got the umbrella, and waited for Koa to do his things. Without issue, he went back to the crate, enjoyed the little kibbles, and got back to sleep. Not even any protesting… I was so proud of him! When he woke me up again, it was still a bit too early to get up, and I was still a bit tired. So, after Koa had done his business, we went to sleep a little more. Around 3am, I woke up, and Koa and I started our day together.
Thanks to all for your kindness and support during my "journey through daily life" :bear_love: I really appreciate it 💜 as it helps me to keep going on bad/harder days! :bear_nuzzle:
:pixy_party: 💜 🍀 🐾
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Dr Megan Anna Neff, in a recent newsletter blog on https://neurodivergentinsights.com, just did an interesting thought exercise about "Not Everything Needs an Upside: Neurodivergent Reflections on AuDHD and Mental Health".
I can relate to it quite a bit. But not trying to look at the upsides all the time seem a bit defeatist (if realistic).
I also related to bipolar often being stigmatized, based on when I was (mis-)diagnosed that way for decades.
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Being misunderstood is a huge trigger for me, perhaps tied to the fight against human injustice part of neurodivergence. Stimming isn't even re-regulating me right now.
I asked my GP/PCP to complete a form so that I could have a preferred medical transportation provider. First, even though I use and *need* a cane, they said I did not on the form. And then they completed the form without specifying the preferred provider.
I'm really triggered right now. Trying my best to calm down and not burn down the bridge of the relationship.
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Being misunderstood is a huge trigger for me, perhaps tied to the fight against human injustice part of neurodivergence. Stimming isn't even re-regulating me right now.
I asked my GP/PCP to complete a form so that I could have a preferred medical transportation provider. First, even though I use and *need* a cane, they said I did not on the form. And then they completed the form without specifying the preferred provider.
I'm really triggered right now. Trying my best to calm down and not burn down the bridge of the relationship.
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Being misunderstood is a huge trigger for me, perhaps tied to the fight against human injustice part of neurodivergence. Stimming isn't even re-regulating me right now.
I asked my GP/PCP to complete a form so that I could have a preferred medical transportation provider. First, even though I use and *need* a cane, they said I did not on the form. And then they completed the form without specifying the preferred provider.
I'm really triggered right now. Trying my best to calm down and not burn down the bridge of the relationship.
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Being misunderstood is a huge trigger for me, perhaps tied to the fight against human injustice part of neurodivergence. Stimming isn't even re-regulating me right now.
I asked my GP/PCP to complete a form so that I could have a preferred medical transportation provider. First, even though I use and *need* a cane, they said I did not on the form. And then they completed the form without specifying the preferred provider.
I'm really triggered right now. Trying my best to calm down and not burn down the bridge of the relationship.
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Being misunderstood is a huge trigger for me, perhaps tied to the fight against human injustice part of neurodivergence. Stimming isn't even re-regulating me right now.
I asked my GP/PCP to complete a form so that I could have a preferred medical transportation provider. First, even though I use and *need* a cane, they said I did not on the form. And then they completed the form without specifying the preferred provider.
I'm really triggered right now. Trying my best to calm down and not burn down the bridge of the relationship.
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I'm back in the Fediverse, hello again to everyone who might know me from earlier accounts 👋 I used to post a lot in English about #FOSS and #ActuallyAuDHD, but this time I decided to post mainly in German. I just feel a bit more confident posting in my native language. There might still be some English-language posts from time to time though, so if you want to stay in touch you can follow me (and filter out all that German stuff I guess 😄). #introduction #reintroduction
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If you cannot go no contact your next best bet is #greyRocking or #yellowRocking. You become non-reactive to their actions. You stay calm, controlled, rational, and emotionally disengaged. It's hard but possible.
When you do that you take away the abuser's power over you. They no longer can control you through your emotions. Just be prepared: they'll most likely double down on the abuse before accepting the fact that you can no longer be controlled by them. And they'll most likely never stop probing you as long as you are still in contact with them.
If you can go no contact. Do it for yourself. You deserve better.
#abuse #emotionalAbuse #narcissisticAbuse #neurodivergent #autistic #actuallyAutistic #actuallyADHD #actuallyAuDHD
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Breaking the #traumaBond that binds you to your abuser is hard work. You literally go through the stages of grief, as part of breaking it requires you to let go of the shared delusion that your abuser is a "good person".
This means that you lose the person you thought they were. All while potentially still interacting with them. All while potentially still being subjected to their manipulations.
This is why people recommend going no contact. Healing from abuse requires you to re-center yourself in your reality, in your perception. And that results in your abuser having less control. Spoiler: they don't want that.
#abuse #emotionalAbuse #narcissisticAbuse #neurodivergent #autistic #actuallyAutistic #actuallyADHD #actuallyAuDHD
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Been playing on https://www.erionmud.com and am thoroughly enjoying the crafting system. Having the option to just work uninterrupted, in familiar patterns, appeals to my #ActuallyAutistic need for structure and familiarity, while when my #ActuallyADHD side wants novelty, I can go wander the realm and see what pops up. And if I need something, I can make it myself, darn it! LOL If you try it out and need some pointers, I'm usually up there as Tamryn, so feel free to ask me anything.
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Been playing on https://www.erionmud.com and am thoroughly enjoying the crafting system. Having the option to just work uninterrupted, in familiar patterns, appeals to my #ActuallyAutistic need for structure and familiarity, while when my #ActuallyADHD side wants novelty, I can go wander the realm and see what pops up. And if I need something, I can make it myself, darn it! LOL If you try it out and need some pointers, I'm usually up there as Tamryn, so feel free to ask me anything.
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Been playing on https://www.erionmud.com and am thoroughly enjoying the crafting system. Having the option to just work uninterrupted, in familiar patterns, appeals to my #ActuallyAutistic need for structure and familiarity, while when my #ActuallyADHD side wants novelty, I can go wander the realm and see what pops up. And if I need something, I can make it myself, darn it! LOL If you try it out and need some pointers, I'm usually up there as Tamryn, so feel free to ask me anything.
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#ActuallyAuDHD #MUDs #MUD #Gaming #MultiUserDungeon #Neurodivergent