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CW: I’m discussing my abusive mother and methods I used to survive childhood.
A little something I wrote this week about survival and abuse. I’m a firm believer that we have to discuss domestic violence, especially child abuse, if we ever hope to combat it. We can’t ignore it or silence the abused.
Victims are often told to keep quiet. That they’re out of line for speaking up. Anyone who says such is a protector of abusers. I’m here to tell you that’s bullshit.
**Trigger warning:** I’m discussing my abusive mother and methods I used to survive childhood.
# Yesterday
For many folks, Yesterday is thought of fondly. Yesterday is when they were young, innocent, naive. Life was full of joy. Life was carefree. For these folks, the longing for Yesterday is real. They yearn with a nostalgia that wishes it was a Delorean that could drive them back there. So they could be carefree once more. To forgo worries about life’s hassles and bustles. To feel free and safe once more. To forget that jumping out of swing sets when they’re 20 feet high and facing a busy street is kinda fucking dangerous actually.
But to some, like me, childhood is a mixed bag of nostalgia and trauma. Dark blots on colorful splotches. Many folks don’t want to hear about how when I was a kid, I had to figure out the best method of survival from an abusive mom which involved learning to only engage with her if I absolutely had to. A normal mom, a caring mom, would have asked their teenage child if they were ok after years of mostly silence, but not mine. Which was fine with me, because that was the point. From about twelve or so, I had learned a valuable lesson, an unstable mom cannot be trusted even when she’s in a good mood. That mood could turn on a dime, triggered by whatever the hell ails her. So you just learn to not engage and you enter survival mode. Looking toward 18 years of life as not a right of passage but as birth.
**Life begins in earnest for the abused when they cut loose from the abuser.**
Yesterday can kiss my ass.
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**Author’s note:** *This was the result of a prompt at my local writer’s group on Monday. The prompt was to write about yesterday.*
**See also this post by D. L. Mayfield on Threads:**
https://www.threads.com/share/BAUj_4RiIn/ -
CW: I’m discussing my abusive mother and methods I used to survive childhood.
A little something I wrote this week about survival and abuse. I’m a firm believer that we have to discuss domestic violence, especially child abuse, if we ever hope to combat it. We can’t ignore it or silence the abused.
Victims are often told to keep quiet. That they’re out of line for speaking up. Anyone who says such is a protector of abusers. I’m here to tell you that’s bullshit.
**Trigger warning:** I’m discussing my abusive mother and methods I used to survive childhood.
# Yesterday
For many folks, Yesterday is thought of fondly. Yesterday is when they were young, innocent, naive. Life was full of joy. Life was carefree. For these folks, the longing for Yesterday is real. They yearn with a nostalgia that wishes it was a Delorean that could drive them back there. So they could be carefree once more. To forgo worries about life’s hassles and bustles. To feel free and safe once more. To forget that jumping out of swing sets when they’re 20 feet high and facing a busy street is kinda fucking dangerous actually.
But to some, like me, childhood is a mixed bag of nostalgia and trauma. Dark blots on colorful splotches. Many folks don’t want to hear about how when I was a kid, I had to figure out the best method of survival from an abusive mom which involved learning to only engage with her if I absolutely had to. A normal mom, a caring mom, would have asked their teenage child if they were ok after years of mostly silence, but not mine. Which was fine with me, because that was the point. From about twelve or so, I had learned a valuable lesson, an unstable mom cannot be trusted even when she’s in a good mood. That mood could turn on a dime, triggered by whatever the hell ails her. So you just learn to not engage and you enter survival mode. Looking toward 18 years of life as not a right of passage but as birth.
**Life begins in earnest for the abused when they cut loose from the abuser.**
Yesterday can kiss my ass.
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**Author’s note:** *This was the result of a prompt at my local writer’s group on Monday. The prompt was to write about yesterday.*
**See also this post by D. L. Mayfield on Threads:**
https://www.threads.com/share/BAUj_4RiIn/ -
(Yes, I've been watching Heilung reaction videos again.)
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma #deconstruction #decolonization #DeathCult
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(Yes, I've been watching Heilung reaction videos again.)
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma #deconstruction #decolonization #DeathCult
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(Yes, I've been watching Heilung reaction videos again.)
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma #deconstruction #decolonization #DeathCult
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(Yes, I've been watching Heilung reaction videos again.)
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma #deconstruction #decolonization #DeathCult
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Christianity teaches that pain is external and unnatural, something we must strive to avoid at all costs.
Worse, true relief from pain only comes as a reward for obedience in enduring mortal pain. Ongoing punishment for sin is the godly default, and only a righteous death will release you from it.
This often generates a veneration of suffering and motivates people to pursue it in themselves and others. These inherent contradictions only lead to additional trauma and confusion.
This is why I call it an abuse culture. It is THE root of abuse culture in the West. Secular culture is infected with these core values that run much deeper than rote doctrines, and we have only just begun to unpack it.
An alternate view is that pain is one of many aspects of nature. It's uncomfortable, and we instinctively do try to avoid it, but sometimes it can never be avoided and there is less suffering and even healing in accepting this fact. There is even balance and beauty in pain, as it warns us of damage, protects us from death, and is a necessary aspect of creation and newborn life.
Our ancestors knew this. It is one of the values we were colonized out of.
White unculture sucks at helping us cope with unavoidable pain.
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma #deconstruction #decolonization #DeathCult
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Christianity teaches that pain is external and unnatural, something we must strive to avoid at all costs.
Worse, true relief from pain only comes as a reward for obedience in enduring mortal pain. Ongoing punishment for sin is the godly default, and only a righteous death will release you from it.
This often generates a veneration of suffering and motivates people to pursue it in themselves and others. These inherent contradictions only lead to additional trauma and confusion.
This is why I call it an abuse culture. It is THE root of abuse culture in the West. Secular culture is infected with these core values that run much deeper than rote doctrines, and we have only just begun to unpack it.
An alternate view is that pain is one of many aspects of nature. It's uncomfortable, and we instinctively do try to avoid it, but sometimes it can never be avoided and there is less suffering and even healing in accepting this fact. There is even balance and beauty in pain, as it warns us of damage, protects us from death, and is a necessary aspect of creation and newborn life.
Our ancestors knew this. It is one of the values we were colonized out of.
White unculture sucks at helping us cope with unavoidable pain.
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma #deconstruction #decolonization #DeathCult
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Christianity teaches that pain is external and unnatural, something we must strive to avoid at all costs.
Worse, true relief from pain only comes as a reward for obedience in enduring mortal pain. Ongoing punishment for sin is the godly default, and only a righteous death will release you from it.
This often generates a veneration of suffering and motivates people to pursue it in themselves and others. These inherent contradictions only lead to additional trauma and confusion.
This is why I call it an abuse culture. It is THE root of abuse culture in the West. Secular culture is infected with these core values that run much deeper than rote doctrines, and we have only just begun to unpack it.
An alternate view is that pain is one of many aspects of nature. It's uncomfortable, and we instinctively do try to avoid it, but sometimes it can never be avoided and there is less suffering and even healing in accepting this fact. There is even balance and beauty in pain, as it warns us of damage, protects us from death, and is a necessary aspect of creation and newborn life.
Our ancestors knew this. It is one of the values we were colonized out of.
White unculture sucks at helping us cope with unavoidable pain.
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma #deconstruction #decolonization #DeathCult
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Christianity teaches that pain is external and unnatural, something we must strive to avoid at all costs.
Worse, true relief from pain only comes as a reward for obedience in enduring mortal pain. Ongoing punishment for sin is the godly default, and only a righteous death will release you from it.
This often generates a veneration of suffering and motivates people to pursue it in themselves and others. These inherent contradictions only lead to additional trauma and confusion.
This is why I call it an abuse culture. It is THE root of abuse culture in the West. Secular culture is infected with these core values that run much deeper than rote doctrines, and we have only just begun to unpack it.
An alternate view is that pain is one of many aspects of nature. It's uncomfortable, and we instinctively do try to avoid it, but sometimes it can never be avoided and there is less suffering and even healing in accepting this fact. There is even balance and beauty in pain, as it warns us of damage, protects us from death, and is a necessary aspect of creation and newborn life.
Our ancestors knew this. It is one of the values we were colonized out of.
White unculture sucks at helping us cope with unavoidable pain.
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma #deconstruction #decolonization #DeathCult
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The Christian idea of a martyr is when your god demands a human sacrifice, but wants it it to be his own follower instead of an outsider.
That's what makes it ok.
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The Christian idea of a martyr is when your god demands a human sacrifice, but wants it it to be his own follower instead of an outsider.
That's what makes it ok.
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The Christian idea of a martyr is when your god demands a human sacrifice, but wants it it to be his own follower instead of an outsider.
That's what makes it ok.
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The Christian idea of a martyr is when your god demands a human sacrifice, but wants it it to be his own follower instead of an outsider.
That's what makes it ok.
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If you've been wanting to read or listen to my book Recovering Agency: Lifting the Veil of Mormon Mind Control, but are struggling with money, Audible just gave me some promo codes for free copies of the audiobook.
DM me if you'd like one!
#ReligiousTrauma #exmo #exmormon #cults #atheism #deconstruction #exvie #exvangelical
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If you've been wanting to read or listen to my book Recovering Agency: Lifting the Veil of Mormon Mind Control, but are struggling with money, Audible just gave me some promo codes for free copies of the audiobook.
DM me if you'd like one!
#ReligiousTrauma #exmo #exmormon #cults #atheism #deconstruction #exvie #exvangelical
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If you've been wanting to read or listen to my book Recovering Agency: Lifting the Veil of Mormon Mind Control, but are struggling with money, Audible just gave me some promo codes for free copies of the audiobook.
DM me if you'd like one!
#ReligiousTrauma #exmo #exmormon #cults #atheism #deconstruction #exvie #exvangelical
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If you've been wanting to read or listen to my book Recovering Agency: Lifting the Veil of Mormon Mind Control, but are struggling with money, Audible just gave me some promo codes for free copies of the audiobook.
DM me if you'd like one!
#ReligiousTrauma #exmo #exmormon #cults #atheism #deconstruction #exvie #exvangelical
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You’ve probably heard the term “religious trauma”? Well, meet one of its poster boys. I’m not going to define the term, I’m just going to show it to you so you can (I hope!) understand and empathize.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/getting-religious-homophobia-off-my-chest-conversations-with-a-nun-3f967822b724?sk=ea7ff14c758b7f21ce83c622e174f725 -
You’ve probably heard the term “religious trauma”? Well, meet one of its poster boys. I’m not going to define the term, I’m just going to show it to you so you can (I hope!) understand and empathize.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/getting-religious-homophobia-off-my-chest-conversations-with-a-nun-3f967822b724?sk=ea7ff14c758b7f21ce83c622e174f725 -
You’ve probably heard the term “religious trauma”? Well, meet one of its poster boys. I’m not going to define the term, I’m just going to show it to you so you can (I hope!) understand and empathize.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/getting-religious-homophobia-off-my-chest-conversations-with-a-nun-3f967822b724?sk=ea7ff14c758b7f21ce83c622e174f725 -
You’ve probably heard the term “religious trauma”? Well, meet one of its poster boys. I’m not going to define the term, I’m just going to show it to you so you can (I hope!) understand and empathize.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/getting-religious-homophobia-off-my-chest-conversations-with-a-nun-3f967822b724?sk=ea7ff14c758b7f21ce83c622e174f725 -
Yes! Academic research is finally catching up!
"Can post-cult recovery help survivors of narcissistic abuse?
"Researchers examine parallels between narcissistic abuse and cult indoctrination and consider how post-cult recovery approaches could inform treatment for survivors."
My abuse culture model basically says both types of abuse use the same mechanisms, and so does oppression in our society.
#AbuseCulture #cults #ReligiousTrauma #Survivor
https://icsatoday.substack.com/p/can-post-cult-recovery-help-survivors
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Yes! Academic research is finally catching up!
"Can post-cult recovery help survivors of narcissistic abuse?
"Researchers examine parallels between narcissistic abuse and cult indoctrination and consider how post-cult recovery approaches could inform treatment for survivors."
My abuse culture model basically says both types of abuse use the same mechanisms, and so does oppression in our society.
#AbuseCulture #cults #ReligiousTrauma #Survivor
https://icsatoday.substack.com/p/can-post-cult-recovery-help-survivors
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Yes! Academic research is finally catching up!
"Can post-cult recovery help survivors of narcissistic abuse?
"Researchers examine parallels between narcissistic abuse and cult indoctrination and consider how post-cult recovery approaches could inform treatment for survivors."
My abuse culture model basically says both types of abuse use the same mechanisms, and so does oppression in our society.
#AbuseCulture #cults #ReligiousTrauma #Survivor
https://icsatoday.substack.com/p/can-post-cult-recovery-help-survivors
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Yes! Academic research is finally catching up!
"Can post-cult recovery help survivors of narcissistic abuse?
"Researchers examine parallels between narcissistic abuse and cult indoctrination and consider how post-cult recovery approaches could inform treatment for survivors."
My abuse culture model basically says both types of abuse use the same mechanisms, and so does oppression in our society.
#AbuseCulture #cults #ReligiousTrauma #Survivor
https://icsatoday.substack.com/p/can-post-cult-recovery-help-survivors
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I saw the Ken Jennings (Jeopardy host) clip of him defending trans people.
Good for him. I used to follow him on Twitter. He's one of the good ones. (Mormons. Good Mormons.)
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I saw the Ken Jennings (Jeopardy host) clip of him defending trans people.
Good for him. I used to follow him on Twitter. He's one of the good ones. (Mormons. Good Mormons.)
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I saw the Ken Jennings (Jeopardy host) clip of him defending trans people.
Good for him. I used to follow him on Twitter. He's one of the good ones. (Mormons. Good Mormons.)
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I saw the Ken Jennings (Jeopardy host) clip of him defending trans people.
Good for him. I used to follow him on Twitter. He's one of the good ones. (Mormons. Good Mormons.)
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Reckless Ben is listed under Provo Canyon School Wikipedia page under "Notable Alumni."
I recently saw it claimed something like heroes are only needed when the system has surpassed stability.
But these abusive schools and programs have existed throughout all western history for at least 1,000 years, designed to reform or totally destroy children who sufficiently fail to comply to authoritarian society.
Including genocidal indigenous residential schools, mental institutions, Irish-Catholic laundries, desert camps, and even boarding schools for the rich.
Reckless Ben is only one such hero in a long chain of whistleblowers against these programs. Most of whom have not been believed.
Including Sinéad O'Connor tearing up a picture of the Pope on Saturday Night Live in the 1980s. (Yes, this is what she was protesting!)
The testimonies of all these victims wasn't enough. It took CAMERA evidence recorded by TWO 30+ year old men for the system to take action.
But there's a giant network of these connected to the Mormon and evangelical world in the US. Like other programs shut down in the past, this one will just start up again someplace else, unless we stay on it.
It's not just about the money. It's about the cruelty. About the powertrip of getting away with initialized torture of minors in a supposedly free country.
#TroubledTeenIndustry #cults #Exmo #exmormon #ReligiousTrauma
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Reckless Ben is listed under Provo Canyon School Wikipedia page under "Notable Alumni."
I recently saw it claimed something like heroes are only needed when the system has surpassed stability.
But these abusive schools and programs have existed throughout all western history for at least 1,000 years, designed to reform or totally destroy children who sufficiently fail to comply to authoritarian society.
Including genocidal indigenous residential schools, mental institutions, Irish-Catholic laundries, desert camps, and even boarding schools for the rich.
Reckless Ben is only one such hero in a long chain of whistleblowers against these programs. Most of whom have not been believed.
Including Sinéad O'Connor tearing up a picture of the Pope on Saturday Night Live in the 1980s. (Yes, this is what she was protesting!)
The testimonies of all these victims wasn't enough. It took CAMERA evidence recorded by TWO 30+ year old men for the system to take action.
But there's a giant network of these connected to the Mormon and evangelical world in the US. Like other programs shut down in the past, this one will just start up again someplace else, unless we stay on it.
It's not just about the money. It's about the cruelty. About the powertrip of getting away with initialized torture of minors in a supposedly free country.
#TroubledTeenIndustry #cults #Exmo #exmormon #ReligiousTrauma
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Reckless Ben is listed under Provo Canyon School Wikipedia page under "Notable Alumni."
I recently saw it claimed something like heroes are only needed when the system has surpassed stability.
But these abusive schools and programs have existed throughout all western history for at least 1,000 years, designed to reform or totally destroy children who sufficiently fail to comply to authoritarian society.
Including genocidal indigenous residential schools, mental institutions, Irish-Catholic laundries, desert camps, and even boarding schools for the rich.
Reckless Ben is only one such hero in a long chain of whistleblowers against these programs. Most of whom have not been believed.
Including Sinéad O'Connor tearing up a picture of the Pope on Saturday Night Live in the 1980s. (Yes, this is what she was protesting!)
The testimonies of all these victims wasn't enough. It took CAMERA evidence recorded by TWO 30+ year old men for the system to take action.
But there's a giant network of these connected to the Mormon and evangelical world in the US. Like other programs shut down in the past, this one will just start up again someplace else, unless we stay on it.
It's not just about the money. It's about the cruelty. About the powertrip of getting away with initialized torture of minors in a supposedly free country.
#TroubledTeenIndustry #cults #Exmo #exmormon #ReligiousTrauma
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Reckless Ben is listed under Provo Canyon School Wikipedia page under "Notable Alumni."
I recently saw it claimed something like heroes are only needed when the system has surpassed stability.
But these abusive schools and programs have existed throughout all western history for at least 1,000 years, designed to reform or totally destroy children who sufficiently fail to comply to authoritarian society.
Including genocidal indigenous residential schools, mental institutions, Irish-Catholic laundries, desert camps, and even boarding schools for the rich.
Reckless Ben is only one such hero in a long chain of whistleblowers against these programs. Most of whom have not been believed.
Including Sinéad O'Connor tearing up a picture of the Pope on Saturday Night Live in the 1980s. (Yes, this is what she was protesting!)
The testimonies of all these victims wasn't enough. It took CAMERA evidence recorded by TWO 30+ year old men for the system to take action.
But there's a giant network of these connected to the Mormon and evangelical world in the US. Like other programs shut down in the past, this one will just start up again someplace else, unless we stay on it.
It's not just about the money. It's about the cruelty. About the powertrip of getting away with initialized torture of minors in a supposedly free country.
#TroubledTeenIndustry #cults #Exmo #exmormon #ReligiousTrauma
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I wrote a short thing about religious trauma and hymns.
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I wrote a short thing about religious trauma and hymns.
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I wrote a short thing about religious trauma and hymns.
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I wrote a short thing about religious trauma and hymns.
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Freud called the US "pious America" in 1927. A century later, a new annotated edition asks what his illusion framework still explains about us.
#Psychology #ReligiousTrauma #Deconstruction #Psychoanalysis #Secularism
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Freud called the US "pious America" in 1927. A century later, a new annotated edition asks what his illusion framework still explains about us.
#Psychology #ReligiousTrauma #Deconstruction #Psychoanalysis #Secularism
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Freud called the US "pious America" in 1927. A century later, a new annotated edition asks what his illusion framework still explains about us.
#Psychology #ReligiousTrauma #Deconstruction #Psychoanalysis #Secularism
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Freud called the US "pious America" in 1927. A century later, a new annotated edition asks what his illusion framework still explains about us.
#Psychology #ReligiousTrauma #Deconstruction #Psychoanalysis #Secularism
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Perfectionism as a lifestyle didn't just come from nothing. Americans 200 years ago wrote about and prompted these as ideals.
I'm sure these attitudes share a common ancestor.
I hope someone with credentials somewhere is connecting the dots.
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Perfectionism as a lifestyle didn't just come from nothing. Americans 200 years ago wrote about and prompted these as ideals.
I'm sure these attitudes share a common ancestor.
I hope someone with credentials somewhere is connecting the dots.
🧵
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Perfectionism as a lifestyle didn't just come from nothing. Americans 200 years ago wrote about and prompted these as ideals.
I'm sure these attitudes share a common ancestor.
I hope someone with credentials somewhere is connecting the dots.
🧵
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Perfectionism as a lifestyle didn't just come from nothing. Americans 200 years ago wrote about and prompted these as ideals.
I'm sure these attitudes share a common ancestor.
I hope someone with credentials somewhere is connecting the dots.
🧵
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Maybe you can see why I'm having this insight wrt AI and other cultural trends right now (looksmaxxing, tradwifery, a bunch of other things).
Those who think AI output is wonderful, they're perfectionists (as a worldview) who confuse appearances for quality. The output FEELS GOOD so it IS good. The music SOUNDS FLAWLESS so it is ART. Your jawline LOOKS GOOD so it is DESIRABLE.
This is the environment I was raised in, without (necessarily) the religious overtones.
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Maybe you can see why I'm having this insight wrt AI and other cultural trends right now (looksmaxxing, tradwifery, a bunch of other things).
Those who think AI output is wonderful, they're perfectionists (as a worldview) who confuse appearances for quality. The output FEELS GOOD so it IS good. The music SOUNDS FLAWLESS so it is ART. Your jawline LOOKS GOOD so it is DESIRABLE.
This is the environment I was raised in, without (necessarily) the religious overtones.
🧵
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Maybe you can see why I'm having this insight wrt AI and other cultural trends right now (looksmaxxing, tradwifery, a bunch of other things).
Those who think AI output is wonderful, they're perfectionists (as a worldview) who confuse appearances for quality. The output FEELS GOOD so it IS good. The music SOUNDS FLAWLESS so it is ART. Your jawline LOOKS GOOD so it is DESIRABLE.
This is the environment I was raised in, without (necessarily) the religious overtones.
🧵
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Maybe you can see why I'm having this insight wrt AI and other cultural trends right now (looksmaxxing, tradwifery, a bunch of other things).
Those who think AI output is wonderful, they're perfectionists (as a worldview) who confuse appearances for quality. The output FEELS GOOD so it IS good. The music SOUNDS FLAWLESS so it is ART. Your jawline LOOKS GOOD so it is DESIRABLE.
This is the environment I was raised in, without (necessarily) the religious overtones.
🧵
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Now, what happens in this situation is that a lot of people figure out that appearances will get you ahead just as well as actual accomplishment. They may still internally feel the effects of inadequacy, but everyone around them will think they're perfect.
Certain personalities thrive better in this circumstance. Those who easily equate appearances to reality feel no discomfort (dissonance) at everyone thinking they're perfect. That IS the reality. Narcissistic personality types can thrive in this, especially if male. They'll quickly rise to the top.
But those who value integrity for whatever reason (most autists, for example, and whoever else) will never feel ok replacing appearances for reality. Even though the culture is driving you to it.
The situation is ripe for abusers, because those with the most leanings towards integrity are always going to be wrapped up in this inner conflict, battling guilt and shame, and sitting uncomfortably with any pretending they have to do.
While abusers, well appearances of perfection IS perfection! Which makes them more godly than anyone! They make being perfect look easy! So they're justified in taking advantage of the most honest in the group.
🧵
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Now, what happens in this situation is that a lot of people figure out that appearances will get you ahead just as well as actual accomplishment. They may still internally feel the effects of inadequacy, but everyone around them will think they're perfect.
Certain personalities thrive better in this circumstance. Those who easily equate appearances to reality feel no discomfort (dissonance) at everyone thinking they're perfect. That IS the reality. Narcissistic personality types can thrive in this, especially if male. They'll quickly rise to the top.
But those who value integrity for whatever reason (most autists, for example, and whoever else) will never feel ok replacing appearances for reality. Even though the culture is driving you to it.
The situation is ripe for abusers, because those with the most leanings towards integrity are always going to be wrapped up in this inner conflict, battling guilt and shame, and sitting uncomfortably with any pretending they have to do.
While abusers, well appearances of perfection IS perfection! Which makes them more godly than anyone! They make being perfect look easy! So they're justified in taking advantage of the most honest in the group.
🧵
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Now, what happens in this situation is that a lot of people figure out that appearances will get you ahead just as well as actual accomplishment. They may still internally feel the effects of inadequacy, but everyone around them will think they're perfect.
Certain personalities thrive better in this circumstance. Those who easily equate appearances to reality feel no discomfort (dissonance) at everyone thinking they're perfect. That IS the reality. Narcissistic personality types can thrive in this, especially if male. They'll quickly rise to the top.
But those who value integrity for whatever reason (most autists, for example, and whoever else) will never feel ok replacing appearances for reality. Even though the culture is driving you to it.
The situation is ripe for abusers, because those with the most leanings towards integrity are always going to be wrapped up in this inner conflict, battling guilt and shame, and sitting uncomfortably with any pretending they have to do.
While abusers, well appearances of perfection IS perfection! Which makes them more godly than anyone! They make being perfect look easy! So they're justified in taking advantage of the most honest in the group.
🧵
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Now, what happens in this situation is that a lot of people figure out that appearances will get you ahead just as well as actual accomplishment. They may still internally feel the effects of inadequacy, but everyone around them will think they're perfect.
Certain personalities thrive better in this circumstance. Those who easily equate appearances to reality feel no discomfort (dissonance) at everyone thinking they're perfect. That IS the reality. Narcissistic personality types can thrive in this, especially if male. They'll quickly rise to the top.
But those who value integrity for whatever reason (most autists, for example, and whoever else) will never feel ok replacing appearances for reality. Even though the culture is driving you to it.
The situation is ripe for abusers, because those with the most leanings towards integrity are always going to be wrapped up in this inner conflict, battling guilt and shame, and sitting uncomfortably with any pretending they have to do.
While abusers, well appearances of perfection IS perfection! Which makes them more godly than anyone! They make being perfect look easy! So they're justified in taking advantage of the most honest in the group.
🧵
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There's a concept in cult research normally called Demand for Perfection, but I renamed it Perpetual Inadequacy, after the effect not the cause.
A standard of perfection for life is established. Cult members are expected to reach it. But the goalposts are always moving out of reach. The cult member is constantly reaching for it and never meeting the standard. It causes the member to blame themselves, not the standard, for failure. It makes them feel perpetually inadequate.
Nobody does this better than Mormonism, where the whole goal is to become as perfect as God.
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma
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There's a concept in cult research normally called Demand for Perfection, but I renamed it Perpetual Inadequacy, after the effect not the cause.
A standard of perfection for life is established. Cult members are expected to reach it. But the goalposts are always moving out of reach. The cult member is constantly reaching for it and never meeting the standard. It causes the member to blame themselves, not the standard, for failure. It makes them feel perpetually inadequate.
Nobody does this better than Mormonism, where the whole goal is to become as perfect as God.
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma
🧵
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There's a concept in cult research normally called Demand for Perfection, but I renamed it Perpetual Inadequacy, after the effect not the cause.
A standard of perfection for life is established. Cult members are expected to reach it. But the goalposts are always moving out of reach. The cult member is constantly reaching for it and never meeting the standard. It causes the member to blame themselves, not the standard, for failure. It makes them feel perpetually inadequate.
Nobody does this better than Mormonism, where the whole goal is to become as perfect as God.
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma
🧵
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There's a concept in cult research normally called Demand for Perfection, but I renamed it Perpetual Inadequacy, after the effect not the cause.
A standard of perfection for life is established. Cult members are expected to reach it. But the goalposts are always moving out of reach. The cult member is constantly reaching for it and never meeting the standard. It causes the member to blame themselves, not the standard, for failure. It makes them feel perpetually inadequate.
Nobody does this better than Mormonism, where the whole goal is to become as perfect as God.
#AbuseCulture #ReligiousTrauma
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Study shows similarities between cult and trafficking survivors.
"While high-control groups and sex trafficking are usually treated as distinct social and legal problems, this comparative framework establishes that their underlying mechanisms of coercive control are functionally equivalent. Identifying these deep structural similarities addresses a historical gap in academic literature, providing a foundation for cross-disciplinary intervention models, updated legal definitions of psychological captivity, and unified trauma treatment strategies for survivors of both settings."
Via the ICSA.
#AbuseCulture #CoerciveControl #ReligiousTrauma #exmo #exmormon #exvie #exvangelical #ICSA
https://icsatoday.substack.com/p/study-shows-psychological-similarities
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Study shows similarities between cult and trafficking survivors.
"While high-control groups and sex trafficking are usually treated as distinct social and legal problems, this comparative framework establishes that their underlying mechanisms of coercive control are functionally equivalent. Identifying these deep structural similarities addresses a historical gap in academic literature, providing a foundation for cross-disciplinary intervention models, updated legal definitions of psychological captivity, and unified trauma treatment strategies for survivors of both settings."
Via the ICSA.
#AbuseCulture #CoerciveControl #ReligiousTrauma #exmo #exmormon #exvie #exvangelical #ICSA
https://icsatoday.substack.com/p/study-shows-psychological-similarities