#notsafetobeme — Public Fediverse posts

So, just in case anyone doesn't already realise this about us, we're:

• highly-visibly trans fem, whilst also not being conventionally femme in many ways.
• usually obviously neurospicy AF, particularly with noise-cancelling headphones and sunglasses on.
• usually visibly anxious and worried, especially when using public transport of any kind.

We didn't attend any Pride events the year that we realised and accepted that were were trans (2021), as we were still in the very early stages of our transition, including coming out to some family members, some friends, and our workplace at the time, and hadn't made any connections with other trans+ folk yet.

SInce then, however, we've managed to push down the fears and attend at least London Trans+ Pride from 2022 to 2024. 2022 was still the best by far, but we still do feel a desire to go to the event, even if just to swell the numbers.

In previous years, despite all our anxieties and fears, we've managed to keep those managed and attend.

However, this year we are honestly torn, as whilst we really, really want to catch up and hang out with friends and others we know, and we believe that we'll feel safe within a large enough group, the issue of travelling there and back is honestly terrifying to us right now :PleadingFace:

We know we shouldn't and mustn't give in to fear, but honestly we cannot choose not to be afraid right now 😞 We live in a country:

• run by a transphobic and transmisic government, which listens only to anti-trans-rights voices.
• with a Supreme Court that decided to invalidate the legal identities of trans women and trans men, based on listening solely to those same anti-trans-rights voices.
• with an infiltrated and compromised Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) that has issued legally-flawed interim guidance to organisations to recommend denying trans+ people the right to use any public facilities if they so wish.
• with media that is almost-entirely transphobic and transmisic.
• where anti-trans hate speech and hate crimes are on the rise.

Attending events has never been easy for us. We get overstimulated and overwhelmed very easily. Even with meds, any events require weeks or even months of planning ahead of time. And even with the best of planning, we end up mentally and emotionally exhausted, even if we enjoyed the time spent with friends and others.

So yeah, we're conflicted AF right now, as we do NOT want to let the bigots win, but by the same token we don't want to get hurt, assaulted, or worse just for journeying whilst trans :Sighing_Face:

And it's not like we can avoid public transport to get into and around London 😞

Maybe we'll find some way, but as things stand right now, we can't see a world where we're going to feel safe or able to attend any events this year 😭

If you read this far into our vent, thank you :TransHeart: :NonBinaryHeart:

#trans #transgender #enby #NonBinary #TransFem #TransRights #TransRightsAreHumanRights #Pride #Pride2025 #LondonTransPride2025 #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #neurodivergent #neurospicy #anxiety #NotSafeToBeMe #transphobia #transmisia #FuckTheUK #FuckTheUKSupremeCourt #FuckTheEHRC

So, just in case anyone doesn't already realise this about us, we're:

• highly-visibly trans fem, whilst also not being conventionally femme in many ways.
• usually obviously neurospicy AF, particularly with noise-cancelling headphones and sunglasses on.
• usually visibly anxious and worried, especially when using public transport of any kind.

We didn't attend any Pride events the year that we realised and accepted that were were trans (2021), as we were still in the very early stages of our transition, including coming out to some family members, some friends, and our workplace at the time, and hadn't made any connections with other trans+ folk yet.

SInce then, however, we've managed to push down the fears and attend at least London Trans+ Pride from 2022 to 2024. 2022 was still the best by far, but we still do feel a desire to go to the event, even if just to swell the numbers.

In previous years, despite all our anxieties and fears, we've managed to keep those managed and attend.

However, this year we are honestly torn, as whilst we really, really want to catch up and hang out with friends and others we know, and we believe that we'll feel safe within a large enough group, the issue of travelling there and back is honestly terrifying to us right now :PleadingFace:

We know we shouldn't and mustn't give in to fear, but honestly we cannot choose not to be afraid right now 😞 We live in a country:

• run by a transphobic and transmisic government, which listens only to anti-trans-rights voices.
• with a Supreme Court that decided to invalidate the legal identities of trans women and trans men, based on listening solely to those same anti-trans-rights voices.
• with an infiltrated and compromised Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) that has issued legally-flawed interim guidance to organisations to recommend denying trans+ people the right to use any public facilities if they so wish.
• with media that is almost-entirely transphobic and transmisic.
• where anti-trans hate speech and hate crimes are on the rise.

Attending events has never been easy for us. We get overstimulated and overwhelmed very easily. Even with meds, any events require weeks or even months of planning ahead of time. And even with the best of planning, we end up mentally and emotionally exhausted, even if we enjoyed the time spent with friends and others.

So yeah, we're conflicted AF right now, as we do NOT want to let the bigots win, but by the same token we don't want to get hurt, assaulted, or worse just for journeying whilst trans :Sighing_Face:

And it's not like we can avoid public transport to get into and around London 😞

Maybe we'll find some way, but as things stand right now, we can't see a world where we're going to feel safe or able to attend any events this year 😭

If you read this far into our vent, thank you :TransHeart: :NonBinaryHeart:

#trans #transgender #enby #NonBinary #TransFem #TransRights #TransRightsAreHumanRights #Pride #Pride2025 #LondonTransPride2025 #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #neurodivergent #neurospicy #anxiety #NotSafeToBeMe #transphobia #transmisia #FuckTheUK #FuckTheUKSupremeCourt #FuckTheEHRC

So, just in case anyone doesn't already realise this about us, we're:

• highly-visibly trans fem, whilst also not being conventionally femme in many ways.
• usually obviously neurospicy AF, particularly with noise-cancelling headphones and sunglasses on.
• usually visibly anxious and worried, especially when using public transport of any kind.

We didn't attend any Pride events the year that we realised and accepted that were were trans (2021), as we were still in the very early stages of our transition, including coming out to some family members, some friends, and our workplace at the time, and hadn't made any connections with other trans+ folk yet.

SInce then, however, we've managed to push down the fears and attend at least London Trans+ Pride from 2022 to 2024. 2022 was still the best by far, but we still do feel a desire to go to the event, even if just to swell the numbers.

In previous years, despite all our anxieties and fears, we've managed to keep those managed and attend.

However, this year we are honestly torn, as whilst we really, really want to catch up and hang out with friends and others we know, and we believe that we'll feel safe within a large enough group, the issue of travelling there and back is honestly terrifying to us right now :PleadingFace:

We know we shouldn't and mustn't give in to fear, but honestly we cannot choose not to be afraid right now 😞 We live in a country:

• run by a transphobic and transmisic government, which listens only to anti-trans-rights voices.
• with a Supreme Court that decided to invalidate the legal identities of trans women and trans men, based on listening solely to those same anti-trans-rights voices.
• with an infiltrated and compromised Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) that has issued legally-flawed interim guidance to organisations to recommend denying trans+ people the right to use any public facilities if they so wish.
• with media that is almost-entirely transphobic and transmisic.
• where anti-trans hate speech and hate crimes are on the rise.

Attending events has never been easy for us. We get overstimulated and overwhelmed very easily. Even with meds, any events require weeks or even months of planning ahead of time. And even with the best of planning, we end up mentally and emotionally exhausted, even if we enjoyed the time spent with friends and others.

So yeah, we're conflicted AF right now, as we do NOT want to let the bigots win, but by the same token we don't want to get hurt, assaulted, or worse just for journeying whilst trans :Sighing_Face:

And it's not like we can avoid public transport to get into and around London 😞

Maybe we'll find some way, but as things stand right now, we can't see a world where we're going to feel safe or able to attend any events this year 😭

If you read this far into our vent, thank you :TransHeart: :NonBinaryHeart:

#trans #transgender #enby #NonBinary #TransFem #TransRights #TransRightsAreHumanRights #Pride #Pride2025 #LondonTransPride2025 #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #neurodivergent #neurospicy #anxiety #NotSafeToBeMe #transphobia #transmisia #FuckTheUK #FuckTheUKSupremeCourt #FuckTheEHRC

So, just in case anyone doesn't already realise this about us, we're:

• highly-visibly trans fem, whilst also not being conventionally femme in many ways.
• usually obviously neurospicy AF, particularly with noise-cancelling headphones and sunglasses on.
• usually visibly anxious and worried, especially when using public transport of any kind.

We didn't attend any Pride events the year that we realised and accepted that were were trans (2021), as we were still in the very early stages of our transition, including coming out to some family members, some friends, and our workplace at the time, and hadn't made any connections with other trans+ folk yet.

SInce then, however, we've managed to push down the fears and attend at least London Trans+ Pride from 2022 to 2024. 2022 was still the best by far, but we still do feel a desire to go to the event, even if just to swell the numbers.

In previous years, despite all our anxieties and fears, we've managed to keep those managed and attend.

However, this year we are honestly torn, as whilst we really, really want to catch up and hang out with friends and others we know, and we believe that we'll feel safe within a large enough group, the issue of travelling there and back is honestly terrifying to us right now :PleadingFace:

We know we shouldn't and mustn't give in to fear, but honestly we cannot choose not to be afraid right now 😞 We live in a country:

• run by a transphobic and transmisic government, which listens only to anti-trans-rights voices.
• with a Supreme Court that decided to invalidate the legal identities of trans women and trans men, based on listening solely to those same anti-trans-rights voices.
• with an infiltrated and compromised Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) that has issued legally-flawed interim guidance to organisations to recommend denying trans+ people the right to use any public facilities if they so wish.
• with media that is almost-entirely transphobic and transmisic.
• where anti-trans hate speech and hate crimes are on the rise.

Attending events has never been easy for us. We get overstimulated and overwhelmed very easily. Even with meds, any events require weeks or even months of planning ahead of time. And even with the best of planning, we end up mentally and emotionally exhausted, even if we enjoyed the time spent with friends and others.

So yeah, we're conflicted AF right now, as we do NOT want to let the bigots win, but by the same token we don't want to get hurt, assaulted, or worse just for journeying whilst trans :Sighing_Face:

And it's not like we can avoid public transport to get into and around London 😞

Maybe we'll find some way, but as things stand right now, we can't see a world where we're going to feel safe or able to attend any events this year 😭

If you read this far into our vent, thank you :TransHeart: :NonBinaryHeart:

#trans #transgender #enby #NonBinary #TransFem #TransRights #TransRightsAreHumanRights #Pride #Pride2025 #LondonTransPride2025 #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #neurodivergent #neurospicy #anxiety #NotSafeToBeMe #transphobia #transmisia #FuckTheUK #FuckTheUKSupremeCourt #FuckTheEHRC

So, just in case anyone doesn't already realise this about us, we're:

• highly-visibly trans fem, whilst also not being conventionally femme in many ways.
• usually obviously neurospicy AF, particularly with noise-cancelling headphones and sunglasses on.
• usually visibly anxious and worried, especially when using public transport of any kind.

We didn't attend any Pride events the year that we realised and accepted that were were trans (2021), as we were still in the very early stages of our transition, including coming out to some family members, some friends, and our workplace at the time, and hadn't made any connections with other trans+ folk yet.

SInce then, however, we've managed to push down the fears and attend at least London Trans+ Pride from 2022 to 2024. 2022 was still the best by far, but we still do feel a desire to go to the event, even if just to swell the numbers.

In previous years, despite all our anxieties and fears, we've managed to keep those managed and attend.

However, this year we are honestly torn, as whilst we really, really want to catch up and hang out with friends and others we know, and we believe that we'll feel safe within a large enough group, the issue of travelling there and back is honestly terrifying to us right now :PleadingFace:

We know we shouldn't and mustn't give in to fear, but honestly we cannot choose not to be afraid right now 😞 We live in a country:

• run by a transphobic and transmisic government, which listens only to anti-trans-rights voices.
• with a Supreme Court that decided to invalidate the legal identities of trans women and trans men, based on listening solely to those same anti-trans-rights voices.
• with an infiltrated and compromised Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) that has issued legally-flawed interim guidance to organisations to recommend denying trans+ people the right to use any public facilities if they so wish.
• with media that is almost-entirely transphobic and transmisic.
• where anti-trans hate speech and hate crimes are on the rise.

Attending events has never been easy for us. We get overstimulated and overwhelmed very easily. Even with meds, any events require weeks or even months of planning ahead of time. And even with the best of planning, we end up mentally and emotionally exhausted, even if we enjoyed the time spent with friends and others.

So yeah, we're conflicted AF right now, as we do NOT want to let the bigots win, but by the same token we don't want to get hurt, assaulted, or worse just for journeying whilst trans :Sighing_Face:

And it's not like we can avoid public transport to get into and around London 😞

Maybe we'll find some way, but as things stand right now, we can't see a world where we're going to feel safe or able to attend any events this year 😭

If you read this far into our vent, thank you :TransHeart: :NonBinaryHeart:

#trans #transgender #enby #NonBinary #TransFem #TransRights #TransRightsAreHumanRights #Pride #Pride2025 #LondonTransPride2025 #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #neurodivergent #neurospicy #anxiety #NotSafeToBeMe #transphobia #transmisia #FuckTheUK #FuckTheUKSupremeCourt #FuckTheEHRC

We'd recently been feeling like we wouldn't feel save going to any Pride events in the UK this year, due to all the anti-trans stuff that's battered our mental health 🥺

However, we're increasingly thinking that it's more important than ever that, if possible, we at least attend London Trans+ Pride this year :TransHeart:

It's not that we think we'll feel especially safe doing so, or that we'll even really enjoy the event. We'll enjoy seeing friends, if we can catch up with them, and we know we'll find it too loud and overstimulating, so we'll need to prepare massively.

The reason we think that we need to attend is to add to the numbers and to show solidarity and support, especially to those who cannot attend for any number of valid reasons.

We don't really want to do Trans Pride Brighton again, as it's a bit of a trek and not a pleasant route, and no others are really within a reasonable travel distance / time for us to go and come back same day.

We feel we've gotta do something though as long as we've physically able to, even if it's a mental struggle.

#LondonTransPride2025 #TransPride #Pride #PrideSeason #trans #transgender #TransgenderUK #NotSafeToBeMe #ExistenceIsResistance #FuckTransphobia #UnitedWeStandDividedWeFall

We'd recently been feeling like we wouldn't feel save going to any Pride events in the UK this year, due to all the anti-trans stuff that's battered our mental health 🥺

However, we're increasingly thinking that it's more important than ever that, if possible, we at least attend London Trans+ Pride this year :TransHeart:

It's not that we think we'll feel especially safe doing so, or that we'll even really enjoy the event. We'll enjoy seeing friends, if we can catch up with them, and we know we'll find it too loud and overstimulating, so we'll need to prepare massively.

The reason we think that we need to attend is to add to the numbers and to show solidarity and support, especially to those who cannot attend for any number of valid reasons.

We don't really want to do Trans Pride Brighton again, as it's a bit of a trek and not a pleasant route, and no others are really within a reasonable travel distance / time for us to go and come back same day.

We feel we've gotta do something though as long as we've physically able to, even if it's a mental struggle.

#LondonTransPride2025 #TransPride #Pride #PrideSeason #trans #transgender #TransgenderUK #NotSafeToBeMe #ExistenceIsResistance #FuckTransphobia #UnitedWeStandDividedWeFall

We'd recently been feeling like we wouldn't feel save going to any Pride events in the UK this year, due to all the anti-trans stuff that's battered our mental health 🥺

However, we're increasingly thinking that it's more important than ever that, if possible, we at least attend London Trans+ Pride this year :TransHeart:

It's not that we think we'll feel especially safe doing so, or that we'll even really enjoy the event. We'll enjoy seeing friends, if we can catch up with them, and we know we'll find it too loud and overstimulating, so we'll need to prepare massively.

The reason we think that we need to attend is to add to the numbers and to show solidarity and support, especially to those who cannot attend for any number of valid reasons.

We don't really want to do Trans Pride Brighton again, as it's a bit of a trek and not a pleasant route, and no others are really within a reasonable travel distance / time for us to go and come back same day.

We feel we've gotta do something though as long as we've physically able to, even if it's a mental struggle.

#LondonTransPride2025 #TransPride #Pride #PrideSeason #trans #transgender #TransgenderUK #NotSafeToBeMe #ExistenceIsResistance #FuckTransphobia #UnitedWeStandDividedWeFall

We'd recently been feeling like we wouldn't feel save going to any Pride events in the UK this year, due to all the anti-trans stuff that's battered our mental health 🥺

However, we're increasingly thinking that it's more important than ever that, if possible, we at least attend London Trans+ Pride this year :TransHeart:

It's not that we think we'll feel especially safe doing so, or that we'll even really enjoy the event. We'll enjoy seeing friends, if we can catch up with them, and we know we'll find it too loud and overstimulating, so we'll need to prepare massively.

The reason we think that we need to attend is to add to the numbers and to show solidarity and support, especially to those who cannot attend for any number of valid reasons.

We don't really want to do Trans Pride Brighton again, as it's a bit of a trek and not a pleasant route, and no others are really within a reasonable travel distance / time for us to go and come back same day.

We feel we've gotta do something though as long as we've physically able to, even if it's a mental struggle.

#LondonTransPride2025 #TransPride #Pride #PrideSeason #trans #transgender #TransgenderUK #NotSafeToBeMe #ExistenceIsResistance #FuckTransphobia #UnitedWeStandDividedWeFall

We'd recently been feeling like we wouldn't feel save going to any Pride events in the UK this year, due to all the anti-trans stuff that's battered our mental health 🥺

However, we're increasingly thinking that it's more important than ever that, if possible, we at least attend London Trans+ Pride this year :TransHeart:

It's not that we think we'll feel especially safe doing so, or that we'll even really enjoy the event. We'll enjoy seeing friends, if we can catch up with them, and we know we'll find it too loud and overstimulating, so we'll need to prepare massively.

The reason we think that we need to attend is to add to the numbers and to show solidarity and support, especially to those who cannot attend for any number of valid reasons.

We don't really want to do Trans Pride Brighton again, as it's a bit of a trek and not a pleasant route, and no others are really within a reasonable travel distance / time for us to go and come back same day.

We feel we've gotta do something though as long as we've physically able to, even if it's a mental struggle.

#LondonTransPride2025 #TransPride #Pride #PrideSeason #trans #transgender #TransgenderUK #NotSafeToBeMe #ExistenceIsResistance #FuckTransphobia #UnitedWeStandDividedWeFall