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Today is the #Dudeist holiday of Pal-o-mine.
From the #Dudeism Website:
Valentine's day can put a lot of pressure on couples and be a real drag for those who are single. Instead of celebrating romantic love, the Dudeist Pal-o-mine's day celebrates pals, friendships and good buddies. Occurs one day before Valentine's Day, so those in romantic relationships can celebrate it as well. -
There’s a lot of absolute thinking out there, man. A lot of people seem to think they know what’s best for the rest of us. They figure their world, as seen through their own eyes, will be made better with more people seeing things their way.
They look at every problem with an absolute mentality. “This side is right. That side is wrong. Let’s get those wrong people.”
“…those wrong people.” Got it. “We got ’em labeled man. They’re the bad ones. They’re going to hurt us if we don’t hurt them first. All of them. They’re all the same.”
You know what’s easy? Slapping a label on something. “Good.” “Bad.” “Delicious.” “Gross.” Something good can’t have something bad in it, right? Surely something delicious can’t also be gross. These labels make things easy. It gets labeled and I don’t have to go any farther. Hell, I don’t need to think. I can just simply go through life, check the label, and move on. If it doesn’t have a label, whatever it looks closest to is probably right so just slap a label on it for what it looks like.
Now, if everyone experienced the world the way I do, my labels would make sense. Hell, they might even be genius. I might be an asshole, but I’d always be right.
I’ll let you in on a little secret. You might be surprised to hear this, and it might not even make sense to you but before you slap a label on it, check it out man. This is a big secret and I’m gonna tell you about it.
Most people don’t see everything the way you do. In fact, pretty much nobody sees everything the way you do. So we are not right, and we’re certainly still assholes, which by many measures is probably the worst combination of labels to have. Wrong Asshole.
“Well dude, thanks a lot. Thanks a lot for making things more difficult. You mean I gotta look into everything? I have to look past a label to make sure it’s correct? That seems like a lot of fucking work.”
Yep. It is. It’s constant work. In fact, it’s damn hard to do. It goes against our nature to look past labels. That organ between our ears is a labeling machine. The longer it runs, the more labels it’s got stockpiled up. It’s fast too, man it can label something before you even know what’s happening, and it only gets faster with time.
There’s another problem with labels, both the ones you find and the ones you apply. They lie. The healthiest cigarette is still a cigarette. The healthiest candy bar is still a candy bar. But you might say; “It says healthiest, natural, or no additives; that means healthy, so I’m good.
Now I’m not telling you anything here right? You gotta read the label. Pick it up, read the label, find the truth.
OK, now if you’re keeping up, you know where I’m going next. You’ve already hot-wired that labeling machine. You’re already being skeptical and investigating. You’re already learning the truth on your own, and not taking someone else’s label as fact. You might even be into the next level and starting to hot-wire the machine to investigate before accepting a label.
This complex world isn’t getting any simpler, despite how much we wish it would. There’s people who say it is simple. Just listen to them, use their labels, drink the kool aid, then relax because everything is easy.
Well dude, they’re just Wrong Assholes and the sooner we all realize that the better off we’re going to be.
Take it easy man.
https://www.adudeistblog.com/2024/09/28/everything-is-a-tragedy/
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So the Dude… Or the guy that plays the Dude (or El Duderino) got in front of a camera and apparently got some other Dudes a bit… well let’s say less than calm. I’d say more than a few went full Walter. If they were on a lane, you’d think they’d pulled a piece out. Yelling and carrying on. Definitely making a scene, and one that few could miss.
What was that about? Well, Jeff Leb… I mean Bridges said that he was making a public show of support, as a “white dude” for a particular candidate.
Why the ruckus? I guess some people want other people to just stick to the script. Some people want a dude to carry on with some persona. A persona that some folks might assume a lot about.
This was no Port Huron statement, man. This is just an opinion. It’s not a statement of fact, unless of course we’re talking about the fact a dude said a thing, what we’re talking about here is an opinion. Much like assholes, I’m pretty sure that we all have ‘em.
I gotta say that people sure do spend a lot more time and energy expecting the world to conform to some standard they they imagine. They complain and intimidate others who don’t conform to some expectation they have, rather than appreciate those individuals’ unique qualities.
Now here I go, on my own soapbox; I suppose I’m expecting a bit too much from some people. My mom once told me there’s 360 degrees of people to make the world turn. I guess I can’t expect to get along with all of them. Out of the last 360 people I’ve met, I am quite sure there’s more than a few I regret spending the time with.
But like my mom was trying to say, its even those folks, the other 45, 90, 180 or 270 (depending on your particular brand of uniqueness) that we do not enjoy the company of, that do, in some way, get behind this big blue marble and keep pushing it around. Metaphorically speaking of course.
Yep, so to those dudes who think the Dude should have stayed in his lane, kept his yap shut, or otherwise be someone he’s not; to those dudes I say; bummer man. Sometimes you eat the bear and well, sometimes he eats you. Maybe stay out of the woods; because there’s bears and I can’t tell you how they’re gonna react.
By the way, let me buy ya an oat soda and let’s talk about bowling instead?
https://www.adudeistblog.com/2024/08/31/well-thats-just-my-opinion-man/
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“Far out. Far fuckin’ out.” Then mayhem.
I gotta tell ya man, had a few years of things always going sideways and bad damn luck.
They say trauma takes many forms, and can have severe impacts on your life. You’ve got your acute trauma, like assault, serious illness or injury, losing a loved one, that sort of thing. Chronic trauma which is repeated events over time like abuse, domestic violence, neglect, and even religious trauma. Then there’s what they call complex trauma which is a combination of the above, swirling around into a nasty trauma soup which nobody wants.
I’m writing this in… what day is it? Midway through 2024. Well we had some shared trauma there didn’t we? Seems like a certain pandemic did a number on us all. Whatever trauma can be had from elections (and their aftermath) is another shared bit if it hit ya that hard.
Then we have some economic fallout – our lives have been changed. So there’s some ingredients we all have in that pot.
This old duder can throw into that pot a fairly abrupt change in relationship status. Loss of job. Moving. And… well I can go on but honestly I’m skirting around the point here, suffice it to say, we all are packing some amount of trauma. Well all got our own complex trauma soup.
I don’t know about your coping mechanisms, but I’ve adapted by always questioning good news, always trying to guess how someone or something is going to screw me over, and fearing the worst result. If I have low enough expectations, I’m rarely disappointed.
I didn’t really realize how cynically and negatively that strategy has impacted me. Sure, a bit depressed, man. A bit suspicious of others’ motives and keeping new people at arm’s length.
Despite my coping mechanisms, I did manage to land a pretty sweet gig. Not as strenuous as being a roadie for Metallica on the Speed of Sound tour, but it sure pays better than being an author of the Port Huron Statement (first draft, of course).
Well, this new job has given me the opposite; at nearly every turn the reasonable or best result has happened despite my cynicism and fear. I’m treated well, and in return I’ve worked hard.
We really gotta take all that to heart and let go a little bit and stop expecting the worst. So much of a joyful moment is lost when one questions that moment.
That’s all I have for now. Hope it helps ya work through something, get out of a rut, or maybe just give ya a chuckle. I think writing it helped me out a bit.
Take ‘er easy dude.
https://www.adudeistblog.com/2024/07/27/weve-recovered-your-automobile/
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Dear Friends of region... oops religion, 🦞
As some of you may know X-tianity, X-potus and X-men are not the only gods, #Allah type beings and Abrahamic #regionalism are not the only witch #craft. :ablobcatcoffee:
There are also #atheistic #religions such as #Jainism. Religiously fanatical followers of parody religions. I myself am a #Dudeist priest. I have my own heretical fifth or #Sith turning of the #Buddhist #Wheel. 🕊️
I have just been watching Olympic warfare (Judo). Those gals can fight.
Good thing they are #friendlies.
I also like friendly #fire, earthed #spirits, #water spouts and #air #heads. To mention the four #elements. (I am an #alchemist). Gold available on request (not to me of course).
Have a #wonder filled day. Be #Kind. The Goods. And do not take YES! for an #answer or #know come to that... :ablobcatmaracasevil:
#religion #islam #buddhism #heresy -
There’s this area of shit you can do stuff about and there’s a whole bigger area of shit you can’t do anything about. This is about coming to terms with the latter.
Dude got his house broke into how many times? Too fucking much for my calm, I’ll tell you. At some point you try and nail a board to the floor to just slow them down a little bit and of course that doesn’t work (especially when the door opens the wrong way). So, like when to you say “well dude, that’s out of my control so I’m not going to worry about it.”
I think we run into this shit in life on a pretty regular basis. It’s easy to not worry about an asteroid taking you out, getting hit by a bus, or Jackie Treehorn slipping you a roofie.
Where shit gets weird is when we can do something about it, or at least it makes sense that it is something we can control to some degree, but the shit keeps happening.
Sometimes it’s just a new reality we need to come to terms with, and that’s fucking hard man. This aggression will just have to fucking stand. It is here now and we can lose our calm to fight against it, or we can just say “fuck it.”
This fuzzy area between control and not control is where we probably spend too much time. Usually there’s other people involved which make it this way. You can’t control other people’s reactions, but at the same time we have to rely on people (especially those close to us) to behave in a somewhat predictable way.
I don’t have the answers here man, but it seems to me that we have to say “fuck it”, and I don’t mean in a completely give-up-on-this-forever kind of way, but rather in a way that says: Dude, man, I can’t with this right now. I may need to come back to this but right now I’m recognizing that I can’t worry about this right now because it’s just out of my control.
It’s got to be ok to say “fuck it”, and not be a bad thing. It’s a means of self-preservation, self-care, and what have you.
So with that said dude, let’s go bowling.
https://www.adudeistblog.com/2024/02/24/i-cant-be-worried-about-that-shit/