#abusiverelationships — Public Fediverse posts

Climbing out of an abusive relationship is eye-opening. I feel like every day I'm seeing something new that I had been oppressing for the past few years.

I just splurged and bought myself a few self-care items, and I was fucking feeling guilty about it. A new shower head and teak bath shelves and shower bench. Now I'm having trouble thinking back over the past few years -- "when have I spent over $100 on something that wasn't for 'us' or 'them' -- just something for 'me'?" and I'm having trouble thinking of anything. I'm not going to feel guilty about a little self-pampering -- I'm not taking necessities away from my children, or taking food out of their mouths (which my former partner did recently, but that's another story altogether).

#abusiverelationships #traumaResponse #therapy #selfcare #abuse #healing #HealingJourney #healingTrauma #mentalhealth