#co-regulation — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #co-regulation, aggregated by home.social.
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I experienced parenthood as a gauntlet of having to choose between honoring my children's autonomy and needs, and people pleasing.
This interview with Supriya made me reflect back on the last decade of my parenting journey, and how terrifying those early years were. There's a period of time where people are kind if your baby cries, and then a long stretch where a child's every public meltdown is the parent's fault and shame comes strong and fast from all directions.
And then, you learn how to prevent meltdowns and co-regulate but they mostly require setting boundaries. And once you start setting boundaries, the judgement comes at you even more.
Not to mention what happens after--trying to build your own communities of people who trust kids, and all the mess and conflict of community building.
Supriya, like my previous interview with Sue, is "just a mom"--and has a lot to say about that framing.
https://untanglingourselves.com/episode/9bb1d62c/shifting-to-trust-with-supriya-narang
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Do you want more energy and stress reduction and energizing human connection, but you feel too introverted and drained to do anything about feeling exhausted all the time? I have a couple suggestions that might help!
1. Self-regulation:
There are many self-regulation methods (explore them!) but two quick simple options are splashing your face with cold water, or taking a quick breath in followed by a long exhale.Exhaling longer than you inhale calms your autonomic nervous system by switching your brain from sympathetic (stress response: fight, flight, fuck, freeze) to parasympathetic (rest and digest).
2. Co-Regulation:
Spend a couple minutes with another human you feel comfortable being around. Make eye contact (not necessarily continuously!), talk to each other in calm and soothing voices, and recognize and acknowledge both your and their emotional states through active listening. Physical presence and mutually comfortable consensual touch can elevate the connection.Co-regulation enables two people to mutually facilitate emotion regulation and help us feel grounded. Co-regulation also fosters secure attachment and builds feelings of trust and safety — but I want to focus here on the value that co-regulation can have for each individual regardless of the relationship.
#selfregulation #coregulation #HPAaxis #AmygdalaHijacking #ParasympatheticNervousSystem
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Co-regulation isn't just about emotions.
It's also about tuning into the other person and reacting in a way that invites the other person to respond. I cover this in my talk tomorrow.
Watch it for free by registering here: https://guidingexceptionalparents--behaviorrevolution.thrivecart.com/behavior-sos-2025-pass/
#EmotionalRegulation
#AutismAwareness
#Neurodivergent
#CoRegulation
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Something my friend Penny & I bonded over early on was that the way we thought we were supposed to parent wasn't working for our kids.
Together, we learned that what our kids need most is to feel safe and loved. If you want to learn a different way to parent your neurodivergent kids, Penny's upcoming summit will help you.
Register for free here: https://guidingexceptionalparents--behaviorrevolution.thrivecart.com/behavior-sos-2025-pass/
#EmotionalRegulation
#AutismAwareness
#Neurodivergent
#CoRegulation
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What is the link between #attachment, #socialconnection, #energy conservation & #coregulation / social #allostasis?
Check out the recording of my latest #keynote at #SNRAC2023:
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Two weeks left to submit your #abstracts for our #conference on "The #Social #Neuroscience of #Relationships, #Attachment & #Caregiving" (#SNRAC2023) in association with @SoNeAtLab: https://pvrticka.com/soneat-conference-2023/.
Venue: #University of #Essex in #Colchester (#UK)
Dates: August 14-15, 2023#brain #psychology #trauma, #adversity, #touch, #oxytocin, #genetics, #epigenetics, #allostasis, #coregulation, #psychopathology, #emotion, #pain
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New glossary entry: Co-regulation
“Co-regulation is when we complete the stress cycle with the support of a safe enough person.”
—Trauma Geekhttps://stimpunks.org/glossary/co-regulation/
#neurodiversity #neurodivergent #stress #trauma #co-regulation #coregulation #PolyvagalTheory