#coregulation — Public Fediverse posts

I experienced parenthood as a gauntlet of having to choose between honoring my children's autonomy and needs, and people pleasing.

This interview with Supriya made me reflect back on the last decade of my parenting journey, and how terrifying those early years were. There's a period of time where people are kind if your baby cries, and then a long stretch where a child's every public meltdown is the parent's fault and shame comes strong and fast from all directions.

And then, you learn how to prevent meltdowns and co-regulate but they mostly require setting boundaries. And once you start setting boundaries, the judgement comes at you even more.

Not to mention what happens after--trying to build your own communities of people who trust kids, and all the mess and conflict of community building.

Supriya, like my previous interview with Sue, is "just a mom"--and has a lot to say about that framing.

https://untanglingourselves.com/episode/9bb1d62c/shifting-to-trust-with-supriya-narang

#unschooling #coregulation #feminism

Do you want more energy and stress reduction and energizing human connection, but you feel too introverted and drained to do anything about feeling exhausted all the time? I have a couple suggestions that might help!

1. Self-regulation:
There are many self-regulation methods (explore them!) but two quick simple options are splashing your face with cold water, or taking a quick breath in followed by a long exhale.

Exhaling longer than you inhale calms your autonomic nervous system by switching your brain from sympathetic (stress response: fight, flight, fuck, freeze) to parasympathetic (rest and digest).

2. Co-Regulation:
Spend a couple minutes with another human you feel comfortable being around. Make eye contact (not necessarily continuously!), talk to each other in calm and soothing voices, and recognize and acknowledge both your and their emotional states through active listening. Physical presence and mutually comfortable consensual touch can elevate the connection.

Co-regulation enables two people to mutually facilitate emotion regulation and help us feel grounded. Co-regulation also fosters secure attachment and builds feelings of trust and safety — but I want to focus here on the value that co-regulation can have for each individual regardless of the relationship.

#selfregulation #coregulation #HPAaxis #AmygdalaHijacking #ParasympatheticNervousSystem

https://www.europesays.com/uk/605275/ A single 1-hour walk, stroll for 30-minutes, or two 15-minute walks in a day: Which works better? | Fitness News #CoRegulation #EmotionalSafety #FamilyConnection #FirstMeeting #Fitness #FourHours #Health #IndianFamilies #indianexpress.com #ParineetiChopra #RaghavChadha #resonance #UK #UnitedKingdom

《小小孩大情緒》：孩子「需要」崩潰才能成長為有韌性、善良，而且能夠自我調節的人

精選書摘 2025-10-12 20:00:00 CST

Co-regulation isn't just about emotions.

It's also about tuning into the other person and reacting in a way that invites the other person to respond. I cover this in my talk tomorrow.

Watch it for free by registering here: https://guidingexceptionalparents--behaviorrevolution.thrivecart.com/behavior-sos-2025-pass/

#EmotionalRegulation
#AutismAwareness
#Neurodivergent
#CoRegulation
#Parenting

Something my friend Penny & I bonded over early on was that the way we thought we were supposed to parent wasn't working for our kids.

Together, we learned that what our kids need most is to feel safe and loved. If you want to learn a different way to parent your neurodivergent kids, Penny's upcoming summit will help you.

Register for free here: https://guidingexceptionalparents--behaviorrevolution.thrivecart.com/behavior-sos-2025-pass/

#EmotionalRegulation
#AutismAwareness
#Neurodivergent
#CoRegulation
#Parenting

Punk Is Autistic

The culture of punk is, at its core, authenticity without apology—and that’s exactly what autistic people desire: spaces and cultures where they can be their true selves without the need to mask or conform.

Punk Is Autistic (Episode 89) – by Sami Harris

We love this episode on punk and autistic culture from The Autistic Culture Podcast. It touches on themes we cover in our glossary.

• DIY
• niche construction
• community
• neuroqueering
• very grand emotions
• belonging
• stim dancing
• co-regulation
• masking

On Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/7f78Ye0d4cYy2tWEZKiL1H?si=63d12fc955bd42f7

On Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-autistic-culture-podcast/id1653171456?i=1000680698511

At the end of the episode, they give a shout out to our “Chronic Neurodivergent Depressed Queer Punk: Punk Rock, the Social Model of Disability, and the Dream of the Accepting Community” playlist. There’s a lot to learn about neurodivergent life and culture in that playlist.

Everything that was normally supposed to be hidden was brought to the front.

Punk subculture – Wikipedia

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IowaWTF: We are living in a paradigm shift in the world of activism and advocacy, and the youth are here to change things up whether you like it or not.

Each year at the Conference to Restore Humanity, one of the keynotes is by a student group. IowaWTF is a…

You don’t want to make communication an elite thing.

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A Sound That Turns the Mountains Into Sand

When bigots have got me down and I need to scream and air guitar it out, I turn to Screaming…

#autism #belonging #bricolage #coRegulation #community #DIY #neuroqueer #nicheConstruction #punk #stimDancing #stimming #veryGrandEmotions

What is the link between #attachment, #socialconnection, #energy conservation & #coregulation / social #allostasis?

Check out the recording of my latest #keynote at #SNRAC2023:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=md5LPLkPvVg

@SoNeAtLab

What is the link between #attachment, #socialconnection, #energy conservation & #coregulation / social #allostasis?

Check out the recording of my latest #keynote at #SNRAC2023:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=md5LPLkPvVg

@SoNeAtLab

What is the link between #attachment, #socialconnection, #energy conservation & #coregulation / social #allostasis?

Check out the recording of my latest #keynote at #SNRAC2023:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=md5LPLkPvVg

@SoNeAtLab

What is the link between #attachment, #socialconnection, #energy conservation & #coregulation / social #allostasis?

Check out the recording of my latest #keynote at #SNRAC2023:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=md5LPLkPvVg

@SoNeAtLab

Two weeks left to submit your #abstracts for our #conference on "The #Social #Neuroscience of #Relationships, #Attachment & #Caregiving" (#SNRAC2023) in association with @SoNeAtLab: https://pvrticka.com/soneat-conference-2023/.

Venue: #University of #Essex in #Colchester (#UK)
Dates: August 14-15, 2023

#brain #psychology #trauma, #adversity, #touch, #oxytocin, #genetics, #epigenetics, #allostasis, #coregulation, #psychopathology, #emotion, #pain

Two weeks left to submit your #abstracts for our #conference on "The #Social #Neuroscience of #Relationships, #Attachment & #Caregiving" (#SNRAC2023) in association with @SoNeAtLab: https://pvrticka.com/soneat-conference-2023/.

Venue: #University of #Essex in #Colchester (#UK)
Dates: August 14-15, 2023

#brain #psychology #trauma, #adversity, #touch, #oxytocin, #genetics, #epigenetics, #allostasis, #coregulation, #psychopathology, #emotion, #pain

Two weeks left to submit your #abstracts for our #conference on "The #Social #Neuroscience of #Relationships, #Attachment & #Caregiving" (#SNRAC2023) in association with @SoNeAtLab: https://pvrticka.com/soneat-conference-2023/.

Venue: #University of #Essex in #Colchester (#UK)
Dates: August 14-15, 2023

#brain #psychology #trauma, #adversity, #touch, #oxytocin, #genetics, #epigenetics, #allostasis, #coregulation, #psychopathology, #emotion, #pain

Two weeks left to submit your #abstracts for our #conference on "The #Social #Neuroscience of #Relationships, #Attachment & #Caregiving" (#SNRAC2023) in association with @SoNeAtLab: https://pvrticka.com/soneat-conference-2023/.

Venue: #University of #Essex in #Colchester (#UK)
Dates: August 14-15, 2023

#brain #psychology #trauma, #adversity, #touch, #oxytocin, #genetics, #epigenetics, #allostasis, #coregulation, #psychopathology, #emotion, #pain

New glossary entry: Co-regulation

“Co-regulation is when we complete the stress cycle with the support of a safe enough person.”
—Trauma Geek

https://stimpunks.org/glossary/co-regulation/

#neurodiversity #neurodivergent #stress #trauma #co-regulation #coregulation #PolyvagalTheory