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  1. The Buddha’s teachings are like a chest full of medicines. When we gain an overall view ...

    #Buddhism #Dhamma #BuddhistPractice #Theravada #Dharma

  2. The Buddha’s teachings are like a chest full of medicines. When we gain an overall view ...

    #Buddhism #Dhamma #BuddhistPractice #Theravada #Dharma

  3. As soon as we’re born, we’re sentenced to death — just that we don’t know when our turn will come. So you can’t be complacent. Start right in and develop all your good qualities to the full while you still have the chance.
    ~Ajahn Fuang

    #Buddhism #Dhamma #BuddhistPractice #Theravada #Dharma

  4. As soon as we’re born, we’re sentenced to death — just that we don’t know when our turn will come. So you can’t be complacent. Start right in and develop all your good qualities to the full while you still have the chance.
    ~Ajahn Fuang

    #Buddhism #Dhamma #BuddhistPractice #Theravada #Dharma

  5. Psychophysics gains a new law of sensory perception that also sheds light on subjective perception

    First we have to understand Weber’s Law:

    Weber’s law, also called Weber-Fechner law, historically important psychological law quantifying the perception of change in a given stimulus. The law states that the change in a stimulus that will be just noticeable is a constant ratio of the original stimulus. It has been shown not to hold for extremes of stimulation. (Weber’s Law)

    Hang in with this, it’s interesting.

    About 200 years ago, the German physician Ernst Heinrich Weber made a seemingly innocuous observation which led to the birth of the discipline of Psychophysics – the science relating physical stimuli in the world and the sensations they evoke in the mind of a subject. Weber asked subjects to say which of two slightly different weights was heavier. From these experiments , he discovered that the probability that a subject will make the right choice only depends on the ratio between the weights.

    For instance, if a subject is correct 75% of the time when comparing a weight of 1 Kg and a weight of 1.1 Kg, then she will also be correct 75% of the time when comparing two weights of 2 and 2.2 Kg – or, in general, any pair of weights where one is 10% heavier than the other. This simple but precise rule opened the door to the quantification of behavior in terms of mathematical ‘laws’. (NEUROSCIENTISTS MAKE MAJOR BREAKTHROUGH IN 200-YEAR-OLD PUZZLE)

    What’s new today is Time–Intensity Equivalence in Discrimination (TIED):

    We investigated Weber’s law by training rats to discriminate the relative intensity of sounds at the two ears at various absolute levels. These experiments revealed the existence of a psychophysical regularity, which we term time–intensity equivalence in discrimination (TIED), describing how reaction times change as a function of absolute level. (The mechanistic foundation of Weber’s law)

    Simply stated TIED says that the intensity of the stimulus determines the time it takes to “just notice” a change in it and that that scales linearaly as intensity changes up or down. For example, changes in louder sounds are noticed quicker than proportionally equal changes in quieter sounds and this can be scaled mathematically.

    TIED is a new theory and needs more research, but whether it works out perfectly or not, I think it shows something very important about our individual and shared subjective perceptions of words, gestures, meanings, intentions, implications, and so on including all semiotics.

    At present, we do not have machines that can measure our subjective perceptions, but we can surely feel them. And with training, we can also decently calibrate them.

    Most of us can already vaguely talk about our subjective perceptions of each other, but few of us know how to do that with the precision of Weber’s Law or TIED. This is because we are all unique and we all react uniquely to each other. On top of that, few are able to employ language efficiently enough to capture significant detail when describing subjective responses or impressions.

    FIML provides a very useful method for isolating and calibrating individual, idiosyncratic subjective perceptions.

    Consistent, repeated use of FIML gradually recalibrates and reorganizes the entire psychologies of both partners.

    FIML has virtually no content.. FIML is a method, and as such it allows partners to gradually identify, isolate, measure, and reorganize their entire body of psychological data, however they construe it.

    #analysis #BuddhistPractice #FunctionalInterpersonalMetaLinguisticsFIML #memory #psycholinguistics #psychology #semiotics #signals
  6. Psychophysics gains a new law of sensory perception that also sheds light on subjective perception

    First we have to understand Weber’s Law:

    Weber’s law, also called Weber-Fechner law, historically important psychological law quantifying the perception of change in a given stimulus. The law states that the change in a stimulus that will be just noticeable is a constant ratio of the original stimulus. It has been shown not to hold for extremes of stimulation. (Weber’s Law)

    Hang in with this, it’s interesting.

    About 200 years ago, the German physician Ernst Heinrich Weber made a seemingly innocuous observation which led to the birth of the discipline of Psychophysics – the science relating physical stimuli in the world and the sensations they evoke in the mind of a subject. Weber asked subjects to say which of two slightly different weights was heavier. From these experiments , he discovered that the probability that a subject will make the right choice only depends on the ratio between the weights.

    For instance, if a subject is correct 75% of the time when comparing a weight of 1 Kg and a weight of 1.1 Kg, then she will also be correct 75% of the time when comparing two weights of 2 and 2.2 Kg – or, in general, any pair of weights where one is 10% heavier than the other. This simple but precise rule opened the door to the quantification of behavior in terms of mathematical ‘laws’. (NEUROSCIENTISTS MAKE MAJOR BREAKTHROUGH IN 200-YEAR-OLD PUZZLE)

    What’s new today is Time–Intensity Equivalence in Discrimination (TIED):

    We investigated Weber’s law by training rats to discriminate the relative intensity of sounds at the two ears at various absolute levels. These experiments revealed the existence of a psychophysical regularity, which we term time–intensity equivalence in discrimination (TIED), describing how reaction times change as a function of absolute level. (The mechanistic foundation of Weber’s law)

    Simply stated TIED says that the intensity of the stimulus determines the time it takes to “just notice” a change in it and that that scales linearaly as intensity changes up or down. For example, changes in louder sounds are noticed quicker than proportionally equal changes in quieter sounds and this can be scaled mathematically.

    TIED is a new theory and needs more research, but whether it works out perfectly or not, I think it shows something very important about our individual and shared subjective perceptions of words, gestures, meanings, intentions, implications, and so on including all semiotics.

    At present, we do not have machines that can measure our subjective perceptions, but we can surely feel them. And with training, we can also decently calibrate them.

    Most of us can already vaguely talk about our subjective perceptions of each other, but few of us know how to do that with the precision of Weber’s Law or TIED. This is because we are all unique and we all react uniquely to each other. On top of that, few are able to employ language efficiently enough to capture significant detail when describing subjective responses or impressions.

    FIML provides a very useful method for isolating and calibrating individual, idiosyncratic subjective perceptions.

    Consistent, repeated use of FIML gradually recalibrates and reorganizes the entire psychologies of both partners.

    FIML has virtually no content.. FIML is a method, and as such it allows partners to gradually identify, isolate, measure, and reorganize their entire body of psychological data, however they construe it.

    #analysis #BuddhistPractice #FunctionalInterpersonalMetaLinguisticsFIML #memory #psycholinguistics #psychology #semiotics #signals
  7. Although mental impurities sometimes give you pleasurable feelings, they're still impermanent, suffering and not-self all the same.
    ~Ven. Ajahn Anan

    #Buddhism #Dhamma #BuddhistPractice #Theravada #BuddhistWisdom #Dharma

  8. Although mental impurities sometimes give you pleasurable feelings, they're still impermanent, suffering and not-self all the same.
    ~Ven. Ajahn Anan

    #Buddhism #Dhamma #BuddhistPractice #Theravada #BuddhistWisdom #Dharma

  9. We human beings are like trees. If a tree has an abundance of flowers and fruits, thick branches and leaves, and a firmly rooted trunk ...

    #Buddhism #Dhamma #BuddhistPractice #Theravada #Dharma

  10. We human beings are like trees. If a tree has an abundance of flowers and fruits, thick branches and leaves, and a firmly rooted trunk ...

    #Buddhism #Dhamma #BuddhistPractice #Theravada #Dharma

  11. Word and phrase valence as keys to understanding human psychology

    Since virtually everything we do, think, and feel has some linguistic component it follows that our perceived valences of words and phrases will be reliable indicators of our psychological makeup.

    This is especially true if our perceptions of these valences is “captured” in fraught contexts in real-world, real-time situations.

    To be even clearer and more precise, it is fair to say that it is only possible to capture actual real valences in real-world, real-time situations.

    When we do not work with real-world, real-time situations, we are capable only of working with the idea of them, a theory of them, a memory of them. And none of that can possibly capture the actual valence as it actually functions in real-life.

    The theory, memory, or idea of a psychological valence associated with words and phrases occurs at a different level of abstraction or cognition from the valence itself.

    Theories, memories, and ideas of psychological valences can be very interesting and are worth pursuing, but they are not the thing itself and as such have only a weak capacity to grasp the psychology exposed by actual valences in action in the real-world.

    In a previous post—Words and word groups mapped in the brain—I discussed the following video, which is well-worth viewing again if you missed it the first time.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k61nJkx5aDQ

    I said:

    From these maps we can see that word groups have idiosyncratic arrangements, associations, and emphases.

    And from this we can understand how analysis of interpersonal communication details can lead to beneficial changes in word group arrangements and thus also human psychology.

    The video is very helpful for visualizing how words and word groups are organized in the brain. And this illustrates how and why FIML works as well as it does.

    By “capturing” actual verbal psychological valences in real-time, real-world situations, partners gain immense insight into how their psychologies actually function in the real-world, how they actually deal with real life.

    Focusing on very brief real-life valences has another very large benefit: though the valences are as real as they come, they are also very small, comprising nothing more than part of the working memory load at the time.

    This is a bigger deal than it might seem. Virtually all of us have been trained by years of theorizing about our psychologies to see even very small incidents of real psychological valence as aspects of some theory or story about them.

    No, no, no. Don’t do that. Just see each one for what it is—a brief valences that appeared briefly in working memory; and that has been “frozen” by the FIML technique as a small snapshot to be identified and understood as it is.

    First get the evidence, get the data. Those valence snapshots are the data. Get plenty of them and you may find that you do not even need any theory about what they are or what caused them.

    They just are. Indeed, theorizing about them makes them different, bigger or worse, while simultaneously hiding their real nature.

    Most of us do not know how to think about real-world, real-time valences because we tend to always fit them into into an a priori format, a format we already believe in. That could be a theory of psychology or a take on what our personality is or what the other person’s personality is.

    In the maps shown in the video, that would constitute a whole brain response to a small valence that appeared only briefly.

    By using the FIML technique, you will find it is much easier and much more beneficial to reorganize small parts of the verbal map one piece at a time than to reorganize the entire map all at once based on some idea.

    In practice, FIML deals with more than just words and phrases, but the whole practice can be largely understood by seeing how it works with language. FIML treats gestures, tone of voice, expressions, and so on in the same way as language—by isolating brief incidents and analyzing them for what they really are.

    #brainScience #BuddhistPractice #CommunicationErrors #FunctionalInterpersonalMetaLinguisticsFIML #psycholinguistics #psychology
  12. Word and phrase valence as keys to understanding human psychology

    Since virtually everything we do, think, and feel has some linguistic component it follows that our perceived valences of words and phrases will be reliable indicators of our psychological makeup.

    This is especially true if our perceptions of these valences is “captured” in fraught contexts in real-world, real-time situations.

    To be even clearer and more precise, it is fair to say that it is only possible to capture actual real valences in real-world, real-time situations.

    When we do not work with real-world, real-time situations, we are capable only of working with the idea of them, a theory of them, a memory of them. And none of that can possibly capture the actual valence as it actually functions in real-life.

    The theory, memory, or idea of a psychological valence associated with words and phrases occurs at a different level of abstraction or cognition from the valence itself.

    Theories, memories, and ideas of psychological valences can be very interesting and are worth pursuing, but they are not the thing itself and as such have only a weak capacity to grasp the psychology exposed by actual valences in action in the real-world.

    In a previous post—Words and word groups mapped in the brain—I discussed the following video, which is well-worth viewing again if you missed it the first time.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k61nJkx5aDQ

    I said:

    From these maps we can see that word groups have idiosyncratic arrangements, associations, and emphases.

    And from this we can understand how analysis of interpersonal communication details can lead to beneficial changes in word group arrangements and thus also human psychology.

    The video is very helpful for visualizing how words and word groups are organized in the brain. And this illustrates how and why FIML works as well as it does.

    By “capturing” actual verbal psychological valences in real-time, real-world situations, partners gain immense insight into how their psychologies actually function in the real-world, how they actually deal with real life.

    Focusing on very brief real-life valences has another very large benefit: though the valences are as real as they come, they are also very small, comprising nothing more than part of the working memory load at the time.

    This is a bigger deal than it might seem. Virtually all of us have been trained by years of theorizing about our psychologies to see even very small incidents of real psychological valence as aspects of some theory or story about them.

    No, no, no. Don’t do that. Just see each one for what it is—a brief valences that appeared briefly in working memory; and that has been “frozen” by the FIML technique as a small snapshot to be identified and understood as it is.

    First get the evidence, get the data. Those valence snapshots are the data. Get plenty of them and you may find that you do not even need any theory about what they are or what caused them.

    They just are. Indeed, theorizing about them makes them different, bigger or worse, while simultaneously hiding their real nature.

    Most of us do not know how to think about real-world, real-time valences because we tend to always fit them into into an a priori format, a format we already believe in. That could be a theory of psychology or a take on what our personality is or what the other person’s personality is.

    In the maps shown in the video, that would constitute a whole brain response to a small valence that appeared only briefly.

    By using the FIML technique, you will find it is much easier and much more beneficial to reorganize small parts of the verbal map one piece at a time than to reorganize the entire map all at once based on some idea.

    In practice, FIML deals with more than just words and phrases, but the whole practice can be largely understood by seeing how it works with language. FIML treats gestures, tone of voice, expressions, and so on in the same way as language—by isolating brief incidents and analyzing them for what they really are.

    #brainScience #BuddhistPractice #CommunicationErrors #FunctionalInterpersonalMetaLinguisticsFIML #psycholinguistics #psychology
  13. Robert Thurman dead at 84: Made history as the first Westerner to be ordained a Tibetan Buddhist monk by the Dalai Lama

    Uma Thurman‘s father Robert Thurman, an erstwhile monk and renowned scholar of Tibetan Buddhism, has died at the age of 84. 

    He made history as the first westerner to be ordained a Tibetan Buddhist monk by the Dalai Lama himself, according to his official website.

    For three decades until his retirement in 2019, he held the Je Tsongkhapa professorship of Indo-Tibetan Buddhist Studies at Columbia University.

    Uma’s upbringing was influenced by Robert’s religion, with two years of her childhood spent in Almora, a town that was then famed as a destination for visiting western Buddhists in a North Indian state bordering Tibet.

    His death was announced Tuesday by Tibet House US, the nonprofit he co-founded at the Dalai Lama’s urging with names including Richard Gere.

    link

    #BuddhistPractice #history
  14. Robert Thurman dead at 84: Made history as the first Westerner to be ordained a Tibetan Buddhist monk by the Dalai Lama

    Uma Thurman‘s father Robert Thurman, an erstwhile monk and renowned scholar of Tibetan Buddhism, has died at the age of 84. 

    He made history as the first westerner to be ordained a Tibetan Buddhist monk by the Dalai Lama himself, according to his official website.

    For three decades until his retirement in 2019, he held the Je Tsongkhapa professorship of Indo-Tibetan Buddhist Studies at Columbia University.

    Uma’s upbringing was influenced by Robert’s religion, with two years of her childhood spent in Almora, a town that was then famed as a destination for visiting western Buddhists in a North Indian state bordering Tibet.

    His death was announced Tuesday by Tibet House US, the nonprofit he co-founded at the Dalai Lama’s urging with names including Richard Gere.

    link

    #BuddhistPractice #history
  15. Triggers and microaggression

    I greatly dislike the way these two words—trigger and microaggression—are currently being used.

    Trigger implies that something inevitable will follow while microaggression outright claims that the other person is at fault.

    I much prefer my own neutral term for those small stimuli that might cause emotional discomfort.

    My term is psychological morpheme, which is defined as:

    The smallest meaningful unit of a psychological response. It is the smallest unit of communication that can give rise to an emotional, psychological, or cognitive reaction.

    I strongly believe psychological morphemes exist and that they arise at distinct moments and that these moments can be perceived by the owner of them and that that owner of these moments can and must learn to control them, analyze them, learn from them.

    It is a huge mistake to automatically blame another person for our own psychological morphemes. From a FIML point of view, there is almost nothing worse.

    The reason this is a really bad thing to do is you are very likely wrong.

    Even if you are wrong only one out of twenty times, the consequences of your mistake can be very large. I guarantee you are wrong much more often than that.

    I say this after doing years of FIML practice during which I have discovered in myself and my partner hundreds of wrong psychological morphemes, most of which were connected to subjective networks that had grown large over many years.

    Most psychological morphemes arise due to habits of subjective interpretation.

    Rather than let these subjective interpretations have their way, a far more profitable and much wiser course of action is to stop that process at the initiating morpheme. Stop it before it gets going and fills your mind.

    If you can stop it at the psychological morpheme and analyze it with the help of your FIML partner, those morphemes will not become mindless triggers that you wrongly interpret as microaggression, but rather opportunities to see and understand how your brain is actually functioning in real-time.

    Psychological morphemes are also commonly misinterpreted as signs that reside in the other person of boredom, anger, contempt, arrogance, insecurity, optimism, happiness, pleasure, and so on including as many states as you can imagine.

    #BuddhistPractice #CommunicationErrors #FunctionalInterpersonalMetaLinguisticsFIML #psycholinguistics #psychology #semiotics
  16. Triggers and microaggression

    I greatly dislike the way these two words—trigger and microaggression—are currently being used.

    Trigger implies that something inevitable will follow while microaggression outright claims that the other person is at fault.

    I much prefer my own neutral term for those small stimuli that might cause emotional discomfort.

    My term is psychological morpheme, which is defined as:

    The smallest meaningful unit of a psychological response. It is the smallest unit of communication that can give rise to an emotional, psychological, or cognitive reaction.

    I strongly believe psychological morphemes exist and that they arise at distinct moments and that these moments can be perceived by the owner of them and that that owner of these moments can and must learn to control them, analyze them, learn from them.

    It is a huge mistake to automatically blame another person for our own psychological morphemes. From a FIML point of view, there is almost nothing worse.

    The reason this is a really bad thing to do is you are very likely wrong.

    Even if you are wrong only one out of twenty times, the consequences of your mistake can be very large. I guarantee you are wrong much more often than that.

    I say this after doing years of FIML practice during which I have discovered in myself and my partner hundreds of wrong psychological morphemes, most of which were connected to subjective networks that had grown large over many years.

    Most psychological morphemes arise due to habits of subjective interpretation.

    Rather than let these subjective interpretations have their way, a far more profitable and much wiser course of action is to stop that process at the initiating morpheme. Stop it before it gets going and fills your mind.

    If you can stop it at the psychological morpheme and analyze it with the help of your FIML partner, those morphemes will not become mindless triggers that you wrongly interpret as microaggression, but rather opportunities to see and understand how your brain is actually functioning in real-time.

    Psychological morphemes are also commonly misinterpreted as signs that reside in the other person of boredom, anger, contempt, arrogance, insecurity, optimism, happiness, pleasure, and so on including as many states as you can imagine.

    #BuddhistPractice #CommunicationErrors #FunctionalInterpersonalMetaLinguisticsFIML #psycholinguistics #psychology #semiotics
  17. Hierarchies evolve to reduce connections (and confusion)

    Large social systems, especially those with many members who do not know each other, tend to evolve into hierarchies because this reduces the number of connections required to establish communication.

    When the number of connections which hold a group together is reduced, it is less costly to maintain the group and thus such groups are more likely to survive.

    Military organizations, companies, religious organizations and schools are usually organized into hierarchical structures. Creative, independent modules can relieve some of the formalism of hierarchy but these modules will still fit into the hierarchical structure somewhere.

    Hierarchies are (always?) organized around a purpose—money for corporations, winning for militaries, belief and organizational systems for religions, food for animals and so on.

    A research project on this topic as it applies to artificial intelligence demonstrates that biological networks evolve into hierarchies:

    …because hierarchically wired networks have fewer connections. (Research showing why hierarchy exists will aid the development of artificial intelligence)

    If we accept this principle behind the development of hierarchies, I would submit that we can also apply it to how language has developed as a hierarchy in and of itself and also as a support system for the social hierarchy within which it is used.

    Language and culture are held together by a system of hierarchical categories.

    These categories are what we think of as beliefs, values, codes, stories, political systems, who’s who in the group, and so on.

    Hierarchical systems based on general categories typically also exist between individuals within any society. Indeed, we can find the same sort of hierarchical system within the individual.

    This is an efficient and very reasonable way to maintain a society and a language.

    Problems arise in this system, however, when the individuals do not know any other way of organizing themselves or of communicating with others.

    Individual who exist and communicates only within a hierarchical structure will be alienated from the great mass of idiosyncratic perceptions, responses, thoughts, and emotions which exist within them and others. I think this causes a great deal of psychological suffering and is a major part of what the Buddha meant by delusion.

    FIML fixes this problem between individuals.

    #AI #BuddhistPractice #CommunicationErrors #culturalNorms #psycholinguistics #psychology #technology #thought
  18. Hierarchies evolve to reduce connections (and confusion)

    Large social systems, especially those with many members who do not know each other, tend to evolve into hierarchies because this reduces the number of connections required to establish communication.

    When the number of connections which hold a group together is reduced, it is less costly to maintain the group and thus such groups are more likely to survive.

    Military organizations, companies, religious organizations and schools are usually organized into hierarchical structures. Creative, independent modules can relieve some of the formalism of hierarchy but these modules will still fit into the hierarchical structure somewhere.

    Hierarchies are (always?) organized around a purpose—money for corporations, winning for militaries, belief and organizational systems for religions, food for animals and so on.

    A research project on this topic as it applies to artificial intelligence demonstrates that biological networks evolve into hierarchies:

    …because hierarchically wired networks have fewer connections. (Research showing why hierarchy exists will aid the development of artificial intelligence)

    If we accept this principle behind the development of hierarchies, I would submit that we can also apply it to how language has developed as a hierarchy in and of itself and also as a support system for the social hierarchy within which it is used.

    Language and culture are held together by a system of hierarchical categories.

    These categories are what we think of as beliefs, values, codes, stories, political systems, who’s who in the group, and so on.

    Hierarchical systems based on general categories typically also exist between individuals within any society. Indeed, we can find the same sort of hierarchical system within the individual.

    This is an efficient and very reasonable way to maintain a society and a language.

    Problems arise in this system, however, when the individuals do not know any other way of organizing themselves or of communicating with others.

    Individual who exist and communicates only within a hierarchical structure will be alienated from the great mass of idiosyncratic perceptions, responses, thoughts, and emotions which exist within them and others. I think this causes a great deal of psychological suffering and is a major part of what the Buddha meant by delusion.

    FIML fixes this problem between individuals.

    #AI #BuddhistPractice #CommunicationErrors #culturalNorms #psycholinguistics #psychology #technology #thought
  19. Memory is not reliable but changes to fit present circumstances

    “Our memory is not like a video camera,” Bridge said. “Your memory reframes and edits events to create a story to fit your current world. It’s built to be current.” (source)

    The unreliability of human memory is not a new topic, but this study fairly convincingly shows how our memories conform to what we are doing and/or how we have been using them.

    One can plausibly extrapolate from this that humans change how they remember and understand themselves and others based on the data of now. A moment of extraneous frustration, for example, may cause us to see someone nearby us in a different light, through no fault of theirs.

    If our frustration is with how we are being (mis)understood or with our difficulty in expressing our thoughts, the implications for how we understand the person we are speaking with may be even more serious.

    Experienced FIML partners will surely have realized that even minor misunderstandings can lead to large acts of “reframing” events in an emotional way that can be seriously distorted.

    Beyond innocent misunderstandings (which, unfortunately, can have tragic consequences), this area of shifting memories is where a good deal of interpersonal abuse occurs. In the worst cases, one (or both) partners abuse normal human malleability to lie. In less bad cases, one (or both) partners is easily excited by their own distortions and quickly comes to believe them, effectively lying to themselves as well as their partner.

    In other cases, individuals or entire groups of people may decide to tell a significant lie (slanted history, for example) and then hurl their lie passionately at others. This frequently causes the person being lied to to react with shame or concern based on the liars’ emotional display and not on the facts of the matter. A person being subjected to such verbal abuse will often conclude that if the other person is so passionate, they must have a serious point that should be considered; and this can cause large distortions of well-known facts in the victim’s mind.

    All of this is a major reason the Human Realm is characterized by delusion and a large part of Buddhist practice is geared toward removing delusion.

    #brainScience #BuddhistPractice #CommunicationErrors #FunctionalInterpersonalMetaLinguisticsFIML #psychology
  20. Memory is not reliable but changes to fit present circumstances

    “Our memory is not like a video camera,” Bridge said. “Your memory reframes and edits events to create a story to fit your current world. It’s built to be current.” (source)

    The unreliability of human memory is not a new topic, but this study fairly convincingly shows how our memories conform to what we are doing and/or how we have been using them.

    One can plausibly extrapolate from this that humans change how they remember and understand themselves and others based on the data of now. A moment of extraneous frustration, for example, may cause us to see someone nearby us in a different light, through no fault of theirs.

    If our frustration is with how we are being (mis)understood or with our difficulty in expressing our thoughts, the implications for how we understand the person we are speaking with may be even more serious.

    Experienced FIML partners will surely have realized that even minor misunderstandings can lead to large acts of “reframing” events in an emotional way that can be seriously distorted.

    Beyond innocent misunderstandings (which, unfortunately, can have tragic consequences), this area of shifting memories is where a good deal of interpersonal abuse occurs. In the worst cases, one (or both) partners abuse normal human malleability to lie. In less bad cases, one (or both) partners is easily excited by their own distortions and quickly comes to believe them, effectively lying to themselves as well as their partner.

    In other cases, individuals or entire groups of people may decide to tell a significant lie (slanted history, for example) and then hurl their lie passionately at others. This frequently causes the person being lied to to react with shame or concern based on the liars’ emotional display and not on the facts of the matter. A person being subjected to such verbal abuse will often conclude that if the other person is so passionate, they must have a serious point that should be considered; and this can cause large distortions of well-known facts in the victim’s mind.

    All of this is a major reason the Human Realm is characterized by delusion and a large part of Buddhist practice is geared toward removing delusion.

    #brainScience #BuddhistPractice #CommunicationErrors #FunctionalInterpersonalMetaLinguisticsFIML #psychology