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David Green is an autistic writer of the epic and urban, fantastical, cosy and mysterious. He's also a mega-mega-mega fan of Supernatural, which celebrates its 21st birthday this year. David will look at the Winchester's "family business" of hunting monsters, dealing with Heaven and Hell, and trying to figure out exactly what happened to their parents. 🧵⬇️

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David Green is an autistic writer of the epic and urban, fantastical, cosy and mysterious. He's also a mega-mega-mega fan of Supernatural, which celebrates its 21st birthday this year. David will look at the Winchester's "family business" of hunting monsters, dealing with Heaven and Hell, and trying to figure out exactly what happened to their parents. 🧵⬇️

#autisticwriters #autistic #fantasy #supernatural

David Green is an autistic writer of the epic and urban, fantastical, cosy and mysterious. He's also a mega-mega-mega fan of Supernatural, which celebrates its 21st birthday this year. David will look at the Winchester's "family business" of hunting monsters, dealing with Heaven and Hell, and trying to figure out exactly what happened to their parents. 🧵⬇️

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Taimi: The Unserious Dating App for Unserious Folks

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2026/03/18/taimi-the-unserious-dating-app-for-unserious-folks/

A surprise in every box.

“Is this the Department of Formal Complaints?”

“No, this is the Department of Informal Complaints.”

“Oh, but the sign on the door says…”

“I was joking. This, indeed, is the Department of Formal Complaints. There is no such thing as a Department of Informal Complaints. That would be bonkers.”

“Ah. Well, I’d like to submit a formal complaint. Hmm… no, I wouldn’t *like* to submit it. ‘Like’ is the wrong word. I would be displeased to submit… That does not sound quite right either.”

“You want to submit a formal complaint, right?”

“That’s it.”

“What is it about?”

“Your boxes of cereal claim that there is a surprise in every box.”

“Yes.”

“Well, I opened my box, looked for the surprise, and found a turd.”

“Go on.”

“And it wasn’t just a turd, it was a third of turd.”

“A turd of a turd? I find that hard to believe. Our turds do not produce other turds.”

“No, not a turd of a turd. A third of a turd. How shall I put it? One over three of a turd.”

“Oh, a third of a turd. Would you have liked a whole turd?”

“We’re going astray here. What kind of a surprise is a turd?”

“Well, were you surprised?”

“Sure. I expected something like a toy, or some knick-knack.”

“Okay, so the writing on the box is truthful. There was a surprise in your box.”

“That’s your stance?”

“Yes, I think you’re making a mountain out of a molehill.”

“I see.”

“This is the wrong department for such activity. You want the Department of Making Mountains Out of Molehills, next door.”

“[Picks up phone and dials.]”

“Who are you calling?”

“The Department of Farcical Situations.”

“Why?”

“To report this situation!”

#TheDailyIsotope #AutisticWriters #turd

A surprise in every box.

“Is this the Department of Formal Complaints?”

“No, this is the Department of Informal Complaints.”

“Oh, but the sign on the door says…”

“I was joking. This, indeed, is the Department of Formal Complaints. There is no such thing as a Department of Informal Complaints. That would be bonkers.”

“Ah. Well, I’d like to submit a formal complaint. Hmm… no, I wouldn’t *like* to submit it. ‘Like’ is the wrong word. I would be displeased to submit… That does not sound quite right either.”

“You want to submit a formal complaint, right?”

“That’s it.”

“What is it about?”

“Your boxes of cereal claim that there is a surprise in every box.”

“Yes.”

“Well, I opened my box, looked for the surprise, and found a turd.”

“Go on.”

“And it wasn’t just a turd, it was a third of turd.”

“A turd of a turd? I find that hard to believe. Our turds do not produce other turds.”

“No, not a turd of a turd. A third of a turd. How shall I put it? One over three of a turd.”

“Oh, a third of a turd. Would you have liked a whole turd?”

“We’re going astray here. What kind of a surprise is a turd?”

“Well, were you surprised?”

“Sure. I expected something like a toy, or some knick-knack.”

“Okay, so the writing on the box is truthful. There was a surprise in your box.”

“That’s your stance?”

“Yes, I think you’re making a mountain out of a molehill.”

“I see.”

“This is the wrong department for such activity. You want the Department of Making Mountains Out of Molehills, next door.”

“[Picks up phone and dials.]”

“Who are you calling?”

“The Department of Farcical Situations.”

“Why?”

“To report this situation!”

#TheDailyIsotope #AutisticWriters #turd

A surprise in every box.

“Is this the Department of Formal Complaints?”

“No, this is the Department of Informal Complaints.”

“Oh, but the sign on the door says…”

“I was joking. This, indeed, is the Department of Formal Complaints. There is no such thing as a Department of Informal Complaints. That would be bonkers.”

“Ah. Well, I’d like to submit a formal complaint. Hmm… no, I wouldn’t *like* to submit it. ‘Like’ is the wrong word. I would be displeased to submit… That does not sound quite right either.”

“You want to submit a formal complaint, right?”

“That’s it.”

“What is it about?”

“Your boxes of cereal claim that there is a surprise in every box.”

“Yes.”

“Well, I opened my box, looked for the surprise, and found a turd.”

“Go on.”

“And it wasn’t just a turd, it was a third of turd.”

“A turd of a turd? I find that hard to believe. Our turds do not produce other turds.”

“No, not a turd of a turd. A third of a turd. How shall I put it? One over three of a turd.”

“Oh, a third of a turd. Would you have liked a whole turd?”

“We’re going astray here. What kind of a surprise is a turd?”

“Well, were you surprised?”

“Sure. I expected something like a toy, or some knick-knack.”

“Okay, so the writing on the box is truthful. There was a surprise in your box.”

“That’s your stance?”

“Yes, I think you’re making a mountain out of a molehill.”

“I see.”

“This is the wrong department for such activity. You want the Department of Making Mountains Out of Molehills, next door.”

“[Picks up phone and dials.]”

“Who are you calling?”

“The Department of Farcical Situations.”

“Why?”

“To report this situation!”

#TheDailyIsotope #AutisticWriters #turd

Five Years In Remission

I entered remission five years ago on February 11th 2021.

It’s been a wild ride, to say the least.

Ultimately, everybody’s journey through cancer is their own. If you’re a cancer survivor too, your journey is not my journey, and my journey is not your journey, no matter how similar they may be. Some people never make it through. A sobering thought.

A cancer diagnosis is often a gut punch, but my diagnosis came as a relief to me. Prior to it, I had been slowly dying for months, but I did not know why or have a plan to deal with this slow death. My PCNS lymphoma diagnosis not only told me why I was dying, but it provided me with a plan: first chemo and then a stem cell transplant.

So I underwent treatment. After two rounds of chemo, the tumor was gone from my brain. After five rounds, I was declared to be in remission. Its now been five years since I entered remission, and my latest MRI, done in January of this year, indicates that my brain is still free from cancer. If I had gotten this disease 35 years ago, I would not have been so lucky. I would have died, pure and simple. Medicine has advanced.

After the chemo, I had a stem cell transplant. They extracted stem cells from my body, kept them in storage, destroyed my immune system, and finally they reinjected my stem cells so that I could rebuild my immune system. My entire treatment happened at the height of the COVID-19 pandemic, and yet, I never caught this disease.

It’s been a wild ride, I tell you!

My cancer was not the cause of my divorce, but it was a catalyst. My ex-wife and I had already been seeing a marriage counselor a good two years before my cancer showed up. After my treatment, I just did not see myself enduring through this marriage if nothing changed. I tried to change things, but it was in vain. So my ex-wife and I divorced. It is not what I would have wanted, but it was the way forward.

As we were discussing the divorce, I figured that there was no longer any reason for me to hide from the world the fact that I’m not straight, but pansexual. I knew since my teenage years that I wasn’t straight, and even told my wife before we got married that I was bisexual. That’s the only term that I knew at the time, but I prefer to call myself pansexual. Gender or its absence is just no obstacle when it comes to my desire to get intimate with someone else.

Besides being pansexual, I’m also polyamorous. Provided that I’m kept aware of my partners’ intimate encounters with other people, I don’t get jealous if they have those encounters. What gets to me is if I feel neglect. I suppose I might also get angry if a partner of mine hid their encounters with someone else, but this, to my knowledge, has not happened.

I also discovered BDSM, and that I am a Dom. I was always generous in bed, but BDSM allows me to optimize this generosity.

Then I realized that I’m autistic. The signs were present from infancy, but everybody treated me as neurotypical, so I thought that I was neurotypical. My ex-wife has ADHD, but we never discussed neurodivergence in our household. We both imagined that the other perceived the world in the same way we did. This is woefully incorrect, but we didn’t know any better.

I also realized that I’m nonbinary. The surest way to generate dysphoria in me is to insist that I should behave or not behave this or that way because I’m “a man.” At best, I’ll find the idea amusing. At worst, it will generate anger. At any rate, in retrospect, this is another element that caused friction between my ex-wife and me. She thought she had married “a man,” but she did not.

If my cancer had not happened, how much of this self-realization would have happened? I’m not sure. I was pretending to be a neurotypical man in a straight, monogamous, vanilla marriage. I think I could have gone on pretending for more years.

It’s been a wild ride, and I don’t think the ride is over just yet.

Socially mandated love

“Hi!”

“AAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaa… You scared me. I did not see you there, crouching behind the couch.”

“Oh, sorry! I just wanted to surprise you on this day of celebration.”

“You’ve surprised me, so mission accomplished!”

“But that’s not all. My coworkers managed to shame me into performing socially mandated gestures to demonstrate my love for you.”

“Okay.”

“Like giving you this set of dead plants.”

“Oh, flowers. You took upon yourself to go to the florist. How thoughtful!”

“Yes. Though, I think florist is a bad name. They should be called flower undertakers.”

“The socially mandated response is to thank you. So thank you!”

“You’re welcome. Here is a card for you. Open it.”

“Give me a second.”

“None of the cards at the store conveyed the exact message I had in mind. So I edited the message.”

“I see that. How thoughtful! Crossing out the word ‘forever’ is quite sensible.”

“Yes. At best, once I’m dead, I won’t be able to love you. Why make promises I cannot possibly keep?”

“I also like how you scribbled in the words ‘froggy-style’.”

“What? Froggy-style? Er… no… it is ‘doggy-style’.”

“Oh… right. Your handwriting is terrible.”

“Yes. It is. I also have this gift for you.”

“Wow! That’s a big box.”

“Open it.”

“Give me a week! Haha!”

[Five minutes later.]

“Did you find it?”

“I think I did. It is a wad of $20 bills, like I’m a pole dancer or some such.”

“This way you can get whatever you want. However, my coworkers chided me, saying money is not a thoughtful gift.”

“This is surely more thoughtful than the coffee machine my parents gave me.”

“Oh… yeah…. with your difficulty processing caffeine.”

“It gives me hives. Not only that, but they keep forgetting that they gave me a coffee machine already, and they give me that gift every year.”

“At least money never becomes useless, even if you get it repeatedly.”

“I’m sorry, but I have nothing for you. I do love you too, but I am aromantic.”

“Oh, the enjoyment of your presence is quite enough gift for me. Come to think of it… I think I might be aromantic too. The whole thing felt rather unnatural to me.”

#TheDailyIsotope #AutisticWriters #ActuallyAutistic #aromantic #GiftGiving #society

Taimi: An LGBTQ+ Dating and Chat App

Taimi became my go-to dating app, but it did not last.

All dating apps suck. All of them. Without exception. So, yes, Taimi sucks too. However, they don’t all suck to the same extent, and thus Taimi, for a brief period of time, became my preferred dating app, dethroning Feeld. Alas, this was not to last.

Let’s go over my demographics. They are relevant as they color my experience on the dating apps. I’m nonbinary, pansexual, polyamorous, autistic. I’m also into BDSM. Please do not make the mistake of thinking that any of these identities implies another. There are plenty of pansexual folks who are not also polyamorous, to take just one example.

In the Google Play Store, Taimi is labeled as a LGBTQ+ Dating and Chat app. True to this label, most of the people on the app are indeed queer. However, you can also find a few cishet folks on the app too. Contrarily to Feeld, Taimi is not specifically geared towards kinky folks. At the end of the day, the difference does not matter much. There are kinky people on Taimi, just not wall-to-wall like on Feeld.

Now, let’s get into the mess of an app that Taimi is.

How It Works… Haha! As If…

I’d like to explain how it works, but any explanation on my part would be pointless. See, the Taimi developers like to use their users as lab rats. Every week, some old features disappear, and some new features appear. Or perhaps I should call these features anti-features, because a lot of them stink badly.

Here’s an example of such an anti-feature. The app presents you with a set of potential connections. You decide which parameters the candidates for connection must have: gender, age, distance, etc. For months, when you ran out of new candidates in your set, the GUI would explicitly suggest that you alter your search parameters to get more matches.

Now, it “helpfully” changes those parameters for you. You don’t do long-distance relationships? Screw that. Now you do. You don’t want to date anyone older than a certain age, or younger than a certain age? Screw that. Now you do.

At first, the app would tell you that it changed the parameters. I complained about this, and now the app changes these parameters without telling you. This is proof positive that Taimi listens to their clients. (This last line was said sarcastically.)

Another anti-feature is that the app now, from time to time, presents you with a slate of people to act on. You can pass on them, or you can all like them at once. However, you cannot look at their profile. Do they live nearby? Are they kinky? Are they compatible with you? Screw you! You cannot know.

There are more anti-features I could talk about, but I do not wish to talk about more of these. I think the anti-features I listed above give you a taste.

Annoyances and Bugs

The bio

Taimi restricts your biography to 500 characters. That’s rather pitiful. Feeld allows 1500 characters, and I find Feeld’s limit rather restrictive. I am of the opinion that such length restrictions smack of ageism. Young folks don’t have much of a life history, but us older folks do. These restrictions stink. If someone wants to infodump about their own life, let them. Maybe someone else will like it.

In addition to the restricted bio size, Taimi deleted my bio twice without warning. This is quite annoying. I regularly run into people who have no bio, but if the app is the one deleting it, I cannot blame them.

Travel

Taimi updates your location when you travel, and does not have the notion of a “home base.” Therefore, it presents the same problem as Feeld. If someone is traveling, and there is no note in their profile about this, you can waste your time with them if one of you is not into long-distance relationships.

I’ve had this problem happen at least twice. One of the person with whom I had started an Instant Chat came back saying that they were just passing through. In another case, I had initiated an Instant Chat with someone. They looked at my message but did not reply, disconnect, or block me. I checked their profile back and found that they were now several states away from me.

Just like with the case of Feeld, from the perspective of the developer, there is no reason to fix this.

Admirers

Their “Admirers” tab is laughable. I found in there someone who had admired me four times, and yet had this in their profile:

I’m fun easy going […] No poly situation. No hookups. CIS gendered men and women only please. Straight men only.

Yeah, I bet that you are “fun” and “easy going.” This person is a good example of the problem with the “bisexual” label. They identified as bisexual, which for them excludes trans folks. I don’t want to keep explaining that my definition does not exclude any gender, so I call myself pansexual.

So, this person, who had admired me four times, would, according to their own profile, not want to be with me because:

• I’m polyamorous.
• I am trans because I transitioned from male to nonbinary.
• I’m not straight.

Then there was this woman around my age who had admired me three times. I read her profile, only to find that she’s not into kink or polyamory.

Similarly, a lesbian had looked at my profile four times, according to Taimi. I’m a male-presenting enby and thus am generally incompatible with lesbians. Finally, I did start an Instant Chat with someone who I might have been compatible with, and which Taimi claimed hat look at my profile three times. They rejected me as soon as they saw my message.

In conclusion, the “Admirers” tab is mostly useless. I’m not going to hazard a guess as to why exactly.

The Ability to Instant Chat

As I mentioned above, Taimi allows you to instantly chat with someone. They do not have to like you back to initiate the possibility of chatting. As soon as you send them a message with instant chat, they can reply.

Now, the ability to instant chat is a limited resource. When I started my trial, I did not pay for a while, but I still was getting once instant chat per week. Then I paid, and I was getting three instant chats per week, but I let my subscription lapse, and now I no longer have any instant chat.

As great as this ability would seem, I’ve had no response whatsoever to the instant chats I’ve sent. By this, I mean that my message was not even read. In one case, I got an instant block, but this is it. So the instant chat feature only seems to be designed to generate revenue for the dating app.

Conclusion

Taimi is a mess of a dating app. They keep changing the features of the app, no doubt in an attempt to maximize their revenue. However, I find this approach off-putting, and it does not make me want to spend any more money on the app.

#AutisticWriters #Dating #DatingApp #lgbtq #OnlineDating #queer #Taimi #YourAutisticLife

The Adventures of Gobble Gobble!

Narration: On Thanksgiving eve, Gobble Gobble the turkey was headed for slaughter… when… unexpectedly… he was saved by the Johnsons whey they adopted him has their pet. Follow the adventures of Gobble Gobble the turkey in…

The Adventures of Gobble Gobble!

Son: Mooooom, Gobble Gobble did it again!

Mom: He did what, honey?

Son: He shat on my bed!

Laugh track: Ha ha ha ha ha ha….

Mother: Good god! Let me go get my pearls, so that I can grab them dramatically.

Laugh track: Ha ha ha ha ha ha….

Dad: Son, come over here.

Son: What is it, dad?

Dad: Let me first stuff my pipe of seriousness into my mouth so that you know that what I’m saying is serious. Nwww. Awaw flprt..

Son: Dad, I cannot make out what you are saying with that pipe in your mouth.

Laugh track: Ha ha ha ha ha ha….

Dad: [Takes the pipe out:] Alright, I’ll merely gesticulate with it then. So, as I was saying, Gobble Gob…

Son: Ouch! Why did you shove your pipe in my eye?

Dad: I was gesticulating, and your face was in the way. You know better than leaving your face in the way of my gesticulations, don’t you?

Laugh track: Ha ha ha ha ha ha….

Mom: Son, I think what your father was trying to say when you rudely interrupted him with your face is that Gobble Gobble has expressed with his excrement what we all think of you.

Son: I’m shit?

Mom and Dad, together: Yes. Ha ha ha ha ha…

Laugh track: Ha ha ha ha ha ha….

#TheDailyIsotope #AutisticWriters #thanksgiving #Thanksgiving2025 #turkey #PipeOfSeriousness #PearlClutching

#autisticwriters #pearlclutching #pipeofseriousness #thanksgiving #thanksgiving2025 #thedailyisotope #turkey

Gestapo Soup

“Here’s your soup, sir.”

“Hmm… wait a second. That’s not what I ordered.”

“Oh?”

“Why is there Third Reich regalia decorating the bowl and a swastika in the middle.”

“What did you order?”

“The Gestapo soup.”

“This *is* the Gestapo soup, sir.”

“I see steam rising from it. Isn’t it supposed to be served cold?”

“Sir is mistaken. *Gazpacho* soup is served cold. Gestapo soup is served hot.”

“Ah, yeah. That’s what I meant to order. Gazpacho soup! Please take this back to the kitchen and give me some Gazpacho soup!”

“I cannot do this, sir.”

“Why?”

“Once ordered, the Gestapo soup must be consumed by the person who ordered it.”

“But… I’m smelling it now, and this soup stinks! It probably tastes awful, too.”

“That’s Gestapo soup for you.”

“I won’t eat it.”

“Eating it *is* mandatory, and you must eat it with a smile because your enjoyment of it is also mandatory.”

“Wait a second! What’s this?”

“What’s what?”

“This, here!”

“Oh… hmm… it looks like an antifascist fell into your soup.”

“Well, well. Take it back to the kitchen, and bring me my soup!”

“As you wish, sir”

[A little later.]

“Here’s your soup, sir, with apologies from the kitchen staff.”

“That’s not my soup.”

“Yes, Gestapo soup, as you ordered.”

“But I wanted Gazpacho.”

“As I said, earlier, sir, once ordered, Gestapo soup must be consumed by the person who ordered it.”

“I won’t eat it!”

“Well… we’ll have to force-feed it to you. Bob! We have a recalcitrant customer here! Now, please smile! Remember that enjoyment of the Gestapo soup is mandatory.”

“Please hold on!”

“Once you’re done with the soup, you can have your dessert. I see you ordered pain au chocolat. Judging by the screams coming out of the kitchen, your chocolate pain is being prepared right now.”

“Now…”

“Ah, Bob! Let’s get down to business…”

#TheDailyIsotope #AutisticWriters #microfiction #Gestapo #gazpacho

#autisticwriters #gazpacho #gestapo #microfiction #thedailyisotope

The Colonoscopy

“We have a few questions to make sure that you are ready for your colonoscopy.”

“Okay.”

“Did you finish drinking your prep?”

“Yes. It was disgusting.”

“Now, now. It *was* lemon-flavored.”

“Yes. If your idea of lemons is suicidal lemons.”

“How was your last bowel movement.”

“Squirty.”

“Squirty?”

“Yes, squirty.”

“Did you reach the peeing through my arsehole stage of the prep?”

“Yes. I was peeing through my arsehole.”

“Let’s break into a song. If you pee through your butthole…”

“If you pee through your butthole…”

“… your doctor will love you.”

“… your doctor will l… Say. What’s the monstrosity that the nurse just rolled in?”

“Oh, that? That’s the colonoscope. That’s what we use to perform the colonoscopy.”

“You’re not putting that hideous contraption up my butt!”

“Yes, we are. Okay, now, count from ten backwards.”

“Net, enin, thgie…”

“We’ve got a joker on our hands. Anesthetist! Use your anesthetic mallet to knock the patient unconscious.”

[BONK!]

“I feel sleepy. ZZZZZZzzzzzzz…”

“Good. Now that the patient is out, let’s paaarrr-TAAAYYY!”

[In dreamland…]

“Congratulations! You are now the proud parent of a… turd!”

“Can I see my baby turd?”

“Of course not! We’ve flushed it down the toilet.”

“Murderer!”

“Now, now. It is now in a septic field, living a life of fulfillment.”

[Back to reality.]

“Anesthetist, please bring the patient back to consciousness.”

[BONK!]

“Ouch! What was that for?”

“The anesthetist just undid the anesthesia.”

“I’d like to marry you.”

“Good god! The patient is still under the effects of the anesthesia. Anesthetist!”

[SLAP SLAP]

“Ouch! And what was that for?”

“You said you’d like to marry me. This was to stop the anesthesia’s lingering effects on you.”

“Did I? I don’t remember it.”

“Yes, you suffer from marital amnesia.”

“What about my colon?”

“Good news! You indeed have a colon!”

“Thank god! What more can you tell me?”

“Bad news! You have a rock band colonizing your colon, The Colonists.”

“Hmm… that explains the tinnitus.”

“Nurse, take this patient to the dump.”

“The dump? What for?”

“We’re discharging you, but first we have to charge you.”

“How much?”

“An arm and a leg. Nurse, make sure to amputate this patient prior to the discharge.”

#TheDailyIsotope #AutisticWriters #colonoscopy #microfiction

#AutisticWriters #colonoscopy #microfiction #TheDailyIsotope

Snug Like A Bug In A… Hole

A short story in honor of those who cannot help digging.

Hello!

I can see by the look on your face that you’re confused. Look down.

Further down.

Hi! Yes, I’m the head that is protruding from a hole in the ground. As you can see by my waiving, I also have arms. I also have a body and legs, but a lot of it is not visible to you because, well, I’m in a hole.

Oh, don’t worry about me. In fact, this hole is exactly where I wanted to be. I ended up here while engaging in an argument with a friend. I was trying to score some points, but lo and behold, the ground started to cave, and slowly, but surely I ended up in this hole.

You know what? I feel rather comfortable in my hole. In fact, I’d like to enlarge it so that I can sink even deeper into it. Do you happen to have a shovel I could use for this task?

Oh, wow, what a stroke of luck! Thank you for the shovel. Now, if you don’t mind, I need to get on digging. Have a nice day!

I regularly run into people who like to dig themselves into a hole.

The latest one was someone who approached me for dating. I sensed drama in their profile. I said, “no, thanks,” and they immediately proceeded to prove me right by tossing drama at my head with their response.

#arguments #AutisticWriters #DiggingOneselfIntoAHole #holes #YourAutisticLife

I Still Cannot Recommend Feeld

Feeld used to be my go-to dating app, but no more. How the mighty have fallen!

I let my subscription to Feeld lapse in mid-July. In the year prior, I spent about $270 on this app, in subscription fees and individual pings. However, they raised their prices at the end of Spring or the start of Summer 2025. If I had the same usage for the coming year, my cost would be about $410!

I’ve written an article already about the problems I had with Feeld:

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/05/13/i-no-longer-recommend-feeld/

True to my own advice in that article, I returned to OkCupid. However, this app sucks too. I just had forgotten how much it sucks. I can say that, by and large, there hasn’t been a migration of kinky people to OkCupid. I did find my boyfriend on OkCupid. However, OkCupid was just too irritating for me, and I deleted my account there.

In the article above, I mention how Feeld had a problem with pings not getting through. This was a very serious problem. I’d get a notification that someone pinged me, and I’d tap the notification, but they did now show up among the people who pinged me. This problem has now been fixed.

However, the distance problem I mentioned in the article above remains. This, coupled with the price increase, and a new round of bugs, still keeps me from recommending it. What bugs? Read on.

It has happened twice now that Feeld matched me with people I had not liked. Normally, for a match to occur, both parties have to like each other. It is not possible for someone to just show up as a match if you haven’t liked them.

This first time this happened… I was confused and thought that maybe I had made a mistake somewhere. However, the second time this happened, the individual that showed up was so incompatible with me that I’m 100% sure I did not make a mistake.

What happened?

Did Feeld misdirect one of our likes? Was I supposed to match with someone else and Feeld misdirect the match?

Was Feeld’s display when I was going through the stack of dating prospects messed up and showed me the profile of person A when it meant to show person B? And then when I liked person A, person B got the like?

Did something else happen?

I don’t know. I’ve complained to customer service, but I had no reply.

Then, one recent morning, I got a notification that I had a new connection. I tap the notification, Feeld loaded, and I got a message that it couldn’t load my conversation. When I was able to load my conversations, it told me that the person had left the chat.

Wow… that was fast. Could the person have changed their mind this fast? Yes, they could. However, this is the first time I saw the error message that Feeld gave me. Coincidence? Maybe, but maybe not. I’m betting on maybe not.

“Why are you assuming, without absolute proof, that it is Feeld’s fault?”

Because of my history with Feeld. If you go read my previous article, you’ll see there was a bug so fucking serious that it demonstratably made me miss some matches. Let me repeat this, some matches that should have happened did not happen because of that bug! This was a major problem, that plagued Feeld for months.

So yes, I am assuming that it is Feeld’s fault, even if I don’t have absolute proof. If my history with a platform shows that it operates erratically, then my future inferences are going to point to its behavior still being erratic.

Finally, they tried to entice me to resubscribe with a 15% off offer. I did not want to resubscribe, but I checked it out nonetheless. Well, I went up to the Google Play screen for renewing my subscription and found that 15% off to be absent. Way to go, Feeld!

Moreover, after my subscription ended, I’m getting a suspiciously high number of people who like me without a ping. Since I no longer pay, I cannot see their likes. Yes, I used to get likes from deadbeats who didn’t read my profile even when I was paying, but the quantity and frequency of these makes me wonder whether Feeld is paying for some dunces to like people who don’t pay so that these people will subscribe to see who liked them. This hypothetical stratagem won’t work on me.

I’d like to be able to recommend Feeld. I used to say that it was the least terrible app of a terrible bunch, because, yes, all the dating apps are terrible. However, I cannot in good conscience recommend it, to anyone, in any demographics.

What are the alternatives? I’m only going to talk about those platforms that I consider could be alternatives to Feeld. If I do not talk about some platform in this article, then I do not consider it to be a viable alternative.

Taimi

Taimi is a platform for LGBTQ+ dating. I plan to publish a more extensive review of it in the future. For now, suffice to say that Taimi has become my go-to dating app. It is not perfect, all the dating apps are terrible, but it is decent, and definitely better than Feeld. I’ve made some nice matches on this app.

Masked Kink

Masked Kink is a platform for people into kink or BDSM. It definitely is not great. The geographic search leaves me with no matches within 1000 miles of where I live. However, this app has several bugs, so I wouldn’t be surprised if the geographical search is buggy too. As a matter of fact, I’d be surprised if it weren’t buggy.

One of its bugs is extremely vexing. I managed to be liked by a scammer. I did a reverse image search on their dating profile picture, and found a hit on Threads. Then, I quickly discovered their YouTube channel and their OnlyFans page. I wanted to report this scammer, but try as I may, the UI would not let me submit my report. Tapping on the submit button did nothing.

I plan to let my subscription to Masked Kink lapse when it ends.

KinkD

KinkD was already rather inactive when I left it about a year ago. I came back to it for two or three weeks recently. It is now completely dead. I sent messages to easily eight people. Nothing whatsoever happened. They did not even log into the system to check their messages. KinkD was not worth my money when I first went there, now it is not worth my money and my time. I uninstalled.

KinkD is also a great example of how Google reviews are largely worthless on their face. It has a rating of 4.4 as we speak, and keeps getting glowing reviews. I’d bet a leg and an arm that these are fake.

#AutisticWriters #Dating #Feeld #KinkD #MaskedKink #OnlineDating #Taimi #YourAutisticLife

Yvonne Rorrer Declares Herself Ethically Non-Monogamous

Good for her, and for those of us who are also into ethical non-monogamy.

I have never heard of Yvonne Rorrer until Stephen Colbert talked about her on The Late Show last night. I know she is a Democrat, but I don’t know more about her political positions. At any rate, it is a good thing that she declared herself ethically non-monogamous in a statement. I’m not saying that she came out because I got from a Huffington Post article that she was already out.

Colbert talked about her as a swinger. Mainstream media often does such a piss-poor job at reporting about things they do not understand that I was wondering whether swinger was her expression, or whether the journalists jumped the gun, and assumed. The Huffington Post article I link to above confirms it is her expression.

Ethical non-monogamy is a large umbrella term. Swinging falls under this umbrella, and so does polyamory. (I am polyamorous.) In all cases, of ethical non-monogamy, the assumption is that everyone involved knows what is going on. Ethically non-monogamous people do not hide one relationship from another.

One thing irritated me in Colbert’s talk about Rorrer. It came across to me as mononormative. Colbert said,

She might be one of those people who thinks everybody wants to hear about their thing.

😩 Why did he need to go there? Why?

Colbert, like the majority of our population, monogamous, and straight. People will assume, correctly, those two characteristics about him. When people run into someone like me, or like Rorrer, they make the same assumptions, and they are wrong. We are both ethically non-monogamous. I am because I’m polyamorous. Rorrer is because she is a swinger. I’m moreover not straight, because I’m pansexual. I don’t know about Rorrer’s sexual orientation.

We do not talk about our ethical non-monogamy because we think that everybody wants to hear about it. We talk about it to normalize it, and because some people will benefit from it. In a world where monogamous people are in the majority, we who are ethically non-monogamous are assumed to be monogamous too. That is, until we tell people otherwise.

I’m open, too, about all kinds of things. I cannot count the number of times when, after being open about being pansexual, polyamorous, or autistic, I had a nice chat with someone else who was in a similar situation. This discussion would not have happened if I had not been open about my identity.

Please do not assume that when someone is in a minority group that, when they are being open about their identity, their intent is to shove their business into your face.

#AutisticWriters #EthicalNonMonogamy #polyamory #SexualMinorities #StephenColbert #swinging #TheLateShow #YourAutisticLife #YvonneRorrer

Gift Giving: A Minefield

I’m both a bad giver and a bad receiver of gifts, according to society, at any rate.

Gift giving is a minefield for most autistic folks. It definitely is one for me. Since Valentine’s Day is upon us, here’s a reflection on why most options are terrible. In no specific order,

1. Money? I was taught that giving money is rather gauche. I have to agree. You can discharge yourself of a gift obligation by giving money to anyone. It does not show much thought about the recipient of the gift. I’d rather not give money.
2. Greeting cards? A lot of them talk about forever love, and I have trouble with the word forever. This was true even when I was with my ex-wife. I sometimes bought cards containing the word. I had to editorialize when I gave my card. However, I prefer to skip cards altogether.

   As you probably guessed, the cards’ declarations of forever love to my ex-wife did not pan out. We’re now divorced. *Cough*

3. Flowers? Yay, let’s kill plants for our pleasure!
4. Fashion (like jewelry, clothing, accessories, etc.)? I need to know what size the gift recipient wears, for one thing. Moreover, my sense of style isn’t great. So, no.
5. Gadgets? Oof! Welcome to landmine central. If you get me a gadget, chances are that you are going to miss. I am likely to know more than you about those gadgets that I’d like to own. Moreover, if you get me a gadget, I’m going to compare it to similar gadgets I already have, and to similar gadgets I might want to own. I’ll most likely find the gadget you got me to be lacking. This is a losing proposition for you.

   Conversely, imagine people I’d give a gadget to doing the same thing as I described above. They’ll find the gadget I got them to be lacking in some way. Note that it does not matter if they actually do this or not. I become an anxious mess. Did I pick up the optimal gift? Most likely not. This is a losing proposition for me.

   Of course, it is considered gauche to tell the person who wishes to give you a gift what exactly they should get. However, I’ve sometimes resorted to this stratagem.

6. Food? This is the best option of the bunch. Food is ephemeral. If the gift is lacking, the recipient at least won’t be stuck with it for long.

A great part of the problem with gift giving are all the societal expectations that shape the practice. If you do not conform to those societal expectations, well, good luck not getting flack.

My boyfriend and I are keeping it simple this year. I got him some chocolate. We’re going to a restaurant. I know he has something for me, but he does not have it in hand yet. No biggie. I know society would look disapprovingly upon his tardiness, but society can take a hike.

#ActuallyAutistic #autism #autistic #AutisticWriters #GiftGiving #gifts #YourAutisticLife

The first coin minted by the US was actually a cookie

Today, The Daily Isotope learned that the first coin that was minted by the US government was actually a cookie made of chocolate-flavored dough with a creamy center. It was designed by a baker named Oreo John Hydrox. It was designed this way to allow people to separate the cookie into two halves. Thus, if needed, they could pay in a faction of a coin.

As you may have guessed, the Hydrox cookie was later an evolution of this design. The company and the cookie were named to honor the original designer of the coin. A few years later, a competitor emerged, Oreo. They used the Hydrox cookie as their basis, and they also named their company to honor the original designer. A third company, named John, was also launched later, but it quickly ceased operation, mainly due to its nondescript name.

Contemporaneous sources tell us this coin tasted “like ass.” The editorial room at The Daily Isotope is divided whether this is a good, or a bad thing. At any rate, the design of the coin was a tad messy as it would attract bugs, and it ended up being scrapped in favor of coins make of solid milk chocolate. This design was quickly scrapped, too, when people realized that the coins would melt in their pockets.

#AutisticWriters #chocolate #coin #cookie #Hydrox #Oreo #satire #TheDailyIsotope #USMint

The first coin minted by the US was actually a cookie

Today, The Daily Isotope learned that the first coin that was minted by the US government was actually a cookie made of chocolate-flavored dough with a creamy center. It was designed by a baker named Oreo John Hydrox. It was designed this way to allow people to separate the cookie into two halves. Thus, if needed, they could pay in a faction of a coin.

As you may have guessed, the Hydrox cookie was later an evolution of this design. The company and the cookie were named to honor the original designer of the coin. A few years later, a competitor emerged, Oreo. They used the Hydrox cookie as their basis, and they also named their company to honor the original designer. A third company, named John, was also launched later, but it quickly ceased operation, mainly due to its nondescript name.

Contemporaneous sources tell us this coin tasted “like ass.” The editorial room at The Daily Isotope is divided whether this is a good, or a bad thing. At any rate, the design of the coin was a tad messy as it would attract bugs, and it ended up being scrapped in favor of coins make of solid milk chocolate. This design was quickly scrapped, too, when people realized that the coins would melt in their pockets.

#AutisticWriters #chocolate #coin #cookie #Hydrox #Oreo #satire #TheDailyIsotope #USMint

The first coin minted by the US was actually a cookie

Today, The Daily Isotope learned that the first coin that was minted by the US government was actually a cookie made of chocolate-flavored dough with a creamy center. It was designed by a baker named Oreo John Hydrox. It was designed this way to allow people to separate the cookie into two halves. Thus, if needed, they could pay in a faction of a coin.

As you may have guessed, the Hydrox cookie was later an evolution of this design. The company and the cookie were named to honor the original designer of the coin. A few years later, a competitor emerged, Oreo. They used the Hydrox cookie as their basis, and they also named their company to honor the original designer. A third company, named John, was also launched later, but it quickly ceased operation, mainly due to its nondescript name.

Contemporaneous sources tell us this coin tasted “like ass.” The editorial room at The Daily Isotope is divided whether this is a good, or a bad thing. At any rate, the design of the coin was a tad messy as it would attract bugs, and it ended up being scrapped in favor of coins make of solid milk chocolate. This design was quickly scrapped, too, when people realized that the coins would melt in their pockets.

#AutisticWriters #chocolate #coin #cookie #Hydrox #Oreo #satire #TheDailyIsotope #USMint

The first coin minted by the US was actually a cookie

Today, The Daily Isotope learned that the first coin that was minted by the US government was actually a cookie made of chocolate-flavored dough with a creamy center. It was designed by a baker named Oreo John Hydrox. It was designed this way to allow people to separate the cookie into two halves. Thus, if needed, they could pay in a faction of a coin.

As you may have guessed, the Hydrox cookie was later an evolution of this design. The company and the cookie were named to honor the original designer of the coin. A few years later, a competitor emerged, Oreo. They used the Hydrox cookie as their basis, and they also named their company to honor the original designer. A third company, named John, was also launched later, but it quickly ceased operation, mainly due to its nondescript name.

Contemporaneous sources tell us this coin tasted “like ass.” The editorial room at The Daily Isotope is divided whether this is a good, or a bad thing. At any rate, the design of the coin was a tad messy as it would attract bugs, and it ended up being scrapped in favor of coins make of solid milk chocolate. This design was quickly scrapped, too, when people realized that the coins would melt in their pockets.

#AutisticWriters #chocolate #coin #cookie #Hydrox #Oreo #satire #TheDailyIsotope #USMint

The first coin minted by the US was actually a cookie

Today, The Daily Isotope learned that the first coin that was minted by the US government was actually a cookie made of chocolate-flavored dough with a creamy center. It was designed by a baker named Oreo John Hydrox. It was designed this way to allow people to separate the cookie into two halves. Thus, if needed, they could pay in a faction of a coin.

As you may have guessed, the Hydrox cookie was later an evolution of this design. The company and the cookie were named to honor the original designer of the coin. A few years later, a competitor emerged, Oreo. They used the Hydrox cookie as their basis, and they also named their company to honor the original designer. A third company, named John, was also launched later, but it quickly ceased operation, mainly due to its nondescript name.

Contemporaneous sources tell us this coin tasted “like ass.” The editorial room at The Daily Isotope is divided whether this is a good, or a bad thing. At any rate, the design of the coin was a tad messy as it would attract bugs, and it ended up being scrapped in favor of coins make of solid milk chocolate. This design was quickly scrapped, too, when people realized that the coins would melt in their pockets.

#AutisticWriters #chocolate #coin #cookie #Hydrox #Oreo #satire #TheDailyIsotope #USMint

An interview with Ima Cardholder, the first citizen who got Real ID

The various states are finally getting their ass into gear regarding the Real ID requirement. To honor this new development, we’ve tracked down the first citizen who managed to get their Real ID, a woman going by the name Ima Cardholder.

Finding her was not easy, seeing as she lives in Anytown, CA. We combed through the 39483 towns named Anytown in California to find her. Subsequently, we realized that using the zip code would have saved us a lot of work.

However, our work was made a bit easier due to the fact that she has no restaurant attached to her name, as evidenced by the notation “RSTR NONE” on her license. We also knew that we were looking for a woman with burnt hair and eyes (“HAIR BRN, EYES BRN”). So we went around asking women with burnt hair and eyes whether they had a restaurant.

When we finally tracked her down, we asked how she felt about Real ID. In response, she barked and ran into a lake, presumably elated at the news that Real ID is a reality.

#AutisticWriters #DriversLicense #ImaCardholder #RealID #satire #TheDailyIsotope

Conditional gift giving, is it for you?

A new craze is sweeping the nation, conditional gift giving. We caught up with conditional gift giving guru, Maxine Vance, to learn about this new phenomenon. She explains, “Conditional gift giving is the practice of giving a gift, but you give it only if some conditions are fulfilled.”

She continues, “The people receiving the gift are at first elated, but then when you specify your conditions, their reactions ranges from amused to downright enraged. It really depends on the condition you attach to it. Requiring a kiss might generate amusement, but requiring that the receiver purchases more than eight gallons of gasoline to get the gift might generate rage.”

Some people hold that conditional gifting is not gifting at all. We reached out to Vaxine Mance, a spokesperson for those critical of conditional giving. They told us, “A gift is not a gift if it is not given without strings attached. Conditional gifting attaches so many strings that what you have in the end is a spider web ready to trap the receiver of the gift.”

They added, “Especially annoying are those time limits that some people tack on. Not only do you have to decide to accept the conditions or not, but you have to do it within a specific span of time. You need to make a decision by such and such date, or you forfeit the gift, and possibly a friendship/”

Given the range of reactions that this practice elicits, we suggest that you think carefully prior to engaging in it. A better practice, in some cases, might be to falsely claim to have made a donation in the name of the receiver.

This story was inspired by an email from Exxon promising a “gift offer.” You guessed it. It came with strings attached. They wanted me to buy at least eight gallons of gasoline.

#AutisticWriters #conditions #gift #GiftGiving #satire #TheDailyIsotope

Did you know how much money disabled people get, after many strict appointments and justifying their needs to uninformed ableist people? https://www.gov.uk/pip/how-much-youll-get

This is AT MOST. It takes a lot of appointments, waiting, explaining, asking, Mandatory Reconsideration, Appeal Tribunal, and luck that they believe you this time because you legalesed your way into the right side of respectability politics.
But ONLY SO FAR and no further, because, clearly, then you’re just “trying it on” to avoid work, and not for any other possible reasons, right? Like. Idk. Being unable, or perhaps, dis-abled from doing so.

Sorry if I didn’t get your condition, health status, disability, injury, illness, or infection in the hashtags.
IDK if there’s a limit, but your experience is real, regardless.

(Also my brain is like a strange car that is very fast but only at random times and sometimes on certain roads, but not the same road and times because idk. Vibes I guess??)

#MoneyMonday #PIP #Disability #Disabled #DisabledSocial #Autistic #AutisticAdults #AutisticElder #AutisticWriters #Autism #AutismSpectrumDisorder #AutismAwareness #Dyslexia #MECFS #ChronicIllness #ChronicIllnesses #Spoonie #SickPay #Ableism #Ableist

Did you know how much money disabled people get, after many strict appointments and justifying their needs to uninformed ableist people? https://www.gov.uk/pip/how-much-youll-get

This is AT MOST. It takes a lot of appointments, waiting, explaining, asking, Mandatory Reconsideration, Appeal Tribunal, and luck that they believe you this time because you legalesed your way into the right side of respectability politics.
But ONLY SO FAR and no further, because, clearly, then you’re just “trying it on” to avoid work, and not for any other possible reasons, right? Like. Idk. Being unable, or perhaps, dis-abled from doing so.

Sorry if I didn’t get your condition, health status, disability, injury, illness, or infection in the hashtags.
IDK if there’s a limit, but your experience is real, regardless.

(Also my brain is like a strange car that is very fast but only at random times and sometimes on certain roads, but not the same road and times because idk. Vibes I guess??)

#MoneyMonday #PIP #Disability #Disabled #DisabledSocial #Autistic #AutisticAdults #AutisticElder #AutisticWriters #Autism #AutismSpectrumDisorder #AutismAwareness #Dyslexia #MECFS #ChronicIllness #ChronicIllnesses #Spoonie #SickPay #Ableism #Ableist

Did you know how much money disabled people get, after many strict appointments and justifying their needs to uninformed ableist people? https://www.gov.uk/pip/how-much-youll-get

This is AT MOST. It takes a lot of appointments, waiting, explaining, asking, Mandatory Reconsideration, Appeal Tribunal, and luck that they believe you this time because you legalesed your way into the right side of respectability politics.
But ONLY SO FAR and no further, because, clearly, then you’re just “trying it on” to avoid work, and not for any other possible reasons, right? Like. Idk. Being unable, or perhaps, dis-abled from doing so.

Sorry if I didn’t get your condition, health status, disability, injury, illness, or infection in the hashtags.
IDK if there’s a limit, but your experience is real, regardless.

(Also my brain is like a strange car that is very fast but only at random times and sometimes on certain roads, but not the same road and times because idk. Vibes I guess??)

#MoneyMonday #PIP #Disability #Disabled #DisabledSocial #Autistic #AutisticAdults #AutisticElder #AutisticWriters #Autism #AutismSpectrumDisorder #AutismAwareness #Dyslexia #MECFS #ChronicIllness #ChronicIllnesses #Spoonie #SickPay #Ableism #Ableist

Did you know how much money disabled people get, after many strict appointments and justifying their needs to uninformed ableist people? https://www.gov.uk/pip/how-much-youll-get

This is AT MOST. It takes a lot of appointments, waiting, explaining, asking, Mandatory Reconsideration, Appeal Tribunal, and luck that they believe you this time because you legalesed your way into the right side of respectability politics.
But ONLY SO FAR and no further, because, clearly, then you’re just “trying it on” to avoid work, and not for any other possible reasons, right? Like. Idk. Being unable, or perhaps, dis-abled from doing so.

Sorry if I didn’t get your condition, health status, disability, injury, illness, or infection in the hashtags.
IDK if there’s a limit, but your experience is real, regardless.

(Also my brain is like a strange car that is very fast but only at random times and sometimes on certain roads, but not the same road and times because idk. Vibes I guess??)

#MoneyMonday #PIP #Disability #Disabled #DisabledSocial #Autistic #AutisticAdults #AutisticElder #AutisticWriters #Autism #AutismSpectrumDisorder #AutismAwareness #Dyslexia #MECFS #ChronicIllness #ChronicIllnesses #Spoonie #SickPay #Ableism #Ableist

Did you know how much money disabled people get, after many strict appointments and justifying their needs to uninformed ableist people? https://www.gov.uk/pip/how-much-youll-get

This is AT MOST. It takes a lot of appointments, waiting, explaining, asking, Mandatory Reconsideration, Appeal Tribunal, and luck that they believe you this time because you legalesed your way into the right side of respectability politics.
But ONLY SO FAR and no further, because, clearly, then you’re just “trying it on” to avoid work, and not for any other possible reasons, right? Like. Idk. Being unable, or perhaps, dis-abled from doing so.

Sorry if I didn’t get your condition, health status, disability, injury, illness, or infection in the hashtags.
IDK if there’s a limit, but your experience is real, regardless.

(Also my brain is like a strange car that is very fast but only at random times and sometimes on certain roads, but not the same road and times because idk. Vibes I guess??)

#MoneyMonday #PIP #Disability #Disabled #DisabledSocial #Autistic #AutisticAdults #AutisticElder #AutisticWriters #Autism #AutismSpectrumDisorder #AutismAwareness #Dyslexia #MECFS #ChronicIllness #ChronicIllnesses #Spoonie #SickPay #Ableism #Ableist

"I"m a gastrotheologist."

"Oh? What do you believe in?"

"I believe in the Stomach, the Liver, and the Holy Gallbladder."

#gastrotheologist #stomach #liver #gallbladder #nonsense #AutisticWriters

Scientist makes shocking discovery about the US healthcare system

The Daily Isotope talked to Jill Stein, a renowned physicist at Georgetown University, about a shocking discovery she made regarding the US healthcare system. She explains, “Let me put it in layman’s terms: the US healthcare system is akin to explosive diarrhea.”

She argues, “First, the system completely stinks. This is already a clue as to its nature. Explosive diarrhea also stinks. Second, the healthcare system also operates in surprising ways, much like explosive diarrhea. You are surprised when you are hospitalized, and they send you reams of EOBs through the mail, in pretty much the same way you are surprised when your rear end starts gushing uncontrollably.”

When we asked for more details, she added, “Also, just as explosive diarrhea can ruin your life, so can the US healthcare system do the same. In the case of explosive diarrhea, the effect is temporary, however.”

While researching this article, we found people arguing that the US healthcare system is akin to a turd. We put it to Stein, who told us, “No, a turd is a poor model. You need to account for Schrödinger’s turdity wave. Much too complex a model.”

Schrödinger’s toilet experiments and the turdity wave are detailed here:

https://youtu.be/4FtCVAMcQ-0?si=nIZpOLU2dTBd9SNG

#AutisticWriters #ExplosiveDiarrhea #satire #science #TheDailyIsotope #turd #USHealthcare

Getting Rid of Old Shit

I’m lightening the load.

Don’t think for one second that getting rid of old shit is easy for me. I do find all kinds of reasons to keep stuff around, but life events sometimes insist on your making the decision to get rid of shit.

My divorce was such an event. I had to part with a lot of things I had accumulated over the years. It made no sense to try to stuff them into an apartment. That huge rolling toolbox that I had bought and was sitting in my garage? Gone. That hydraulic jack I used to jack our vehicles and was also sitting in my garage. Gone, too. I just did not have the space for this stuff.

“You could have put them into storage!”

Let me tell you about storage. I have put things in storage for a limited time when I lived with my ex-wife, and a few times before that. However, this is not a long term solution.

Why?

You pay for the space that you use, even if the items you put there are not being used. This cost can accumulate to a point where you’re paying more in storage fees than what the items are worth.

You also need to think about depreciation and deterioration of the items you put in storage. Not all storage spaces are climate-controlled. A storage facility can suffer damage from the weather, just as a home can. At any rate, even if no environmental disaster happens, the things that are in storage are likely to depreciate over time.

Finally, if you need to move around, the items you have in storage also need to be moved. I’ve moved twice since my divorce. I’m likely to move again. How many times do you want to pay for movers to move that antique chair that you are not using before you decide that you’ve paid enough?

Let’s go over the other options.

Keep It Or Toss It

You can decide to keep things. I’m probably still keeping more than I should, but I’m doing much better than I used to about getting rid of things.

I have two computers that came with me in the divorce. At the time, I was not in a mindset to evaluate whether to take them with me or not, so with me, they came. However, they were built by myself in 2015. That’s rather old, and they no longer serve any real purpose. One was a home server. It has been replaced by smaller computers. The other one was a gaming desktop, and I no longer game. Out they go.

This is a good illustration that changing circumstances can render desirable belongings, undesirable. Getting those computers made eminent sense at the time. Now, they just use up space, and they would use up effort or money when I move again. Better get rid of them.

As I’m going through my stuff, I find things that are technically still functional. I used to be of the opinion that I should keep all things that are still functional, but my opinion has evolved. I know have a test: if I ever need this item, am I going to know where to look to retrieve it? For instance, a pencil. I rarely use pencils these days, but if I do need one, will I remember to go look into this specific box to find it? If the answer is no, then I get rid of it.

I’m getting rid of a lot of things with this simple test. There’s no point to keep something just in case if I’m not going to remember where it is when I need it.

Sell Or Give It

There are things that I have that I am going to try to sell, but, truth be told, I’m not really fond of being a seller. I don’t like haggling. In some cases, I’d be at a loss to figure out shipping. I reserve selling for big ticket items. I do have a few.

The other option is to give items away to someone who wants them. I have a few items I’m offering for free.

Recycle It Or Trash it

If I want to get rid of it, but all other options fail, then I am left with recycling it, or trashing it. I have a few items lined up for recycling. Unfortunately, I also have some items that are going to be trashed. There are some items I’ve been advertising some items for months with no takers. I am patient, but my patience is not infinite.

So there you have it. That’s how I get rid of old shit.

#AutisticWriters #items #moving #objects #OldStuff #YourAutisticLife

In a world where The Onion buys InfoWars, anything is possible!

The Daily Isotope traveled by bicycle to the city of Stonk to ask Francine Strong, professor of Conductive Philosophy at The University of Stonk, for her reaction to the news that The Onion had bought InfoWars.

She told us, “Wow! What a move on the part of The Onion. You know what? If The Onion can buy InfoWars, then absolutely anything is possible.” We were surprised at her declaration that absolutely anything would be possible, so we asked her for specific cases.

If anything is possible, would it be possible for The Daily Isotope to win a Pulitzer Prize? She replied, “Yes, that’s possible.” We found this thought comforting.

If anything is possible, could she grow wings to fly to the moon? She replied, “Yes, growing wings is not an easy feat, and I’d need to also grow a jet engine for space, but it would be possible.” When we asked her to demonstrate, she refused and replied, “I said it would be possible, not probable!”

She was interrupted by a phone call during our interview. After hanging up, she turned to us and announce, “This was an interesting call. Apparently, there are a bunch of monkeys who are on the verge of having reproduced the complete works of Shakespeare.”

#AnythingIsPossible #AutisticWriters #philosophy #satire #TheDailyIsotope

Toilets in the Southern Hemisphere flush unexpectedly

Everybody knows that toilets in the Northern Hemisphere flush normally. This is due to the Don Corleone effect, which pushes the water the normal way. Now, in the Southern Hemisphere, the Don Corleone effect also exists but works in reverse. This fact makes the toilets there work in an unexpected fashion.

We asked Carlos Morales for a demonstration of the effect. He asked us to stand back, for safety. Then, he pulled the toilet’s handle down, sending a stream of water to the ceiling. We had witnessed, with our very own eyes, the Don Corleone effect in action.

Morales told us, “As you can imagine, this effect creates a steady stream (pun intended) of work for us janitors. Nobody likes to go into a bathroom whose ceiling is covered with a jet of feces, or just piss.”

We flew to the equator with Morales to hold another demonstration there. When he pulled the handle at the equator, nothing whatsoever happened. He explained, “That’s because, here, the Don Corleone effect cannot act. Consequently, all the toilets have to be manually emptied.”

Next time you flush your toilet, and it works normally, thank the Don Corleone effect for this, and thank us for having educated you.

#AutisticWriters #flush #satire #TheDailyIsotope #toilets

Should You Spit Or Swallow Mucus? Here’s What An Expert Says

The Daily Isotope researched whether one should spit mucus or swallow it. In our research, we’ve reached out to Pustile Mince, a renowned mucologist and Ig Nobel Prize recipient, who works for The Mucus Clinic of America and Luxembourg.

When we’ve put the question to Mince, she explained “It is better to spit the mucus. Spit mucus finds itself in a hostile environment. I mean, unless you happen to be a champion spitter, and spit it right into the mouth or nose of a loved one, or a pet, or onto a Petri dish.”

She continued, “If you swallow the mucus, well, first of all, ew… What the fuck do you think you’re doing swallowing mucus??? Secondly, the swallowed mucus can organize itself in a colony in your gut, and foment revolution. Nobody wants communist mucus to revolutionize them, do they?”

She ended our interview by spitting mucus on us, as if to prove a point. Our research assistant, an immigrant, grunted while wiping himself, and mumbled something about “first-world problems.”

The article that inspired this satire:

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/should-you-spit-out-mucus-a-gp-has-the-answer_uk_6728bd80e4b0f3d946e0419c

#AutisticWriters #mucus #satire #spit #swallow #TheDailyIsotope

https://www.thedailyisotope.com/2024/11/04/should-you-spit-or-swallow-mucus-heres-what-an-expert-says/

Enby reloads reality: the horror!

Marcel Smith did not realize what would happen when they called upon their home automation device. They explain, “I jokingly went ‘Hello home! Reload reality.’ I thought it would reply that it did not understand what I was asking. I was mighty surprised when it replied, ‘Are you sure?’ I answered affirmatively. It replied, ‘Alright. Your funeral.’ That’s when I should have known things were about to go bad.”

The home automation software in Smith’s apartment, Home Assistant, obligingly reloaded reality. Smith told us, “Everything went blank for a second, and then I saw a bunch of wires. My cat looked like it had been skinned. I looked down at myself, and I could see my organs. I screamed my ass off.”

We reached out to Anna Milton, a realtor (a specialist about reality), for comments. When we explained what had happened to Smith, she laughed and replied, “Yeah, what Smith was experiencing is slow texture loading. The wireframe structuring reality came up first, but the texture of the walls, the carpet, and even his skin took a while to load. This is easily fixable by upgrading Smith’s brain.”

We reported Milton’s comments to Smith. They commented, “Yeah, well, I did not know it would work. Lessons learned.” We noticed some fins coming out of their head. We asked what they were and they replied, “Oh! These? I can’t upgrade my brain, so I’m overclocking it. These are part of the heatsink installed to dissipate the extra heat.”

#AutisticWriters #HomeAssistant #HomeAutomation #reality #reloading #satire #TextureLoading #TheDailyIsotope

https://www.thedailyisotope.com/2024/11/01/enby-reloads-reality-the-horror/

I tried Apple’s Hearing Test and the results shocked me

I tried Apple’s Hearing Test, and I couldn’t believe the results I got. Who would have thought that I was experiencing the type of hearing loss average for people my age? Definitely not me.

The first thing the test did was to prove to me that I could indeed hear. Wow! I would have never known this without taking Apple’s test. I guess the incessant yammering of friends should have clued me in, but I couldn’t know for sure until I took the test. Amazing!

Then the test demonstrated by A + B that I’m suffering from hearing loss. I would have never guessed it. My wife and kids would probably have guessed it, however, seeing as they keep saying that I put the TV volume too high. At any rate, now I have an excuse for mishearing song lyrics all the time.

I plan to use my earbuds to hide my hearing loss. To the rest of the world, I’ll just look like someone who likes to bob his head and tap his foot to the music. This is going to come in extremely handy during work meetings, or when I’m having a discussion with my loved ones.

The article that inspired this satire:

https://www.techradar.com/audio/i-tried-apples-hearing-test-and-the-results-shocked-me

#Apple #AppleHearingTest #AutisticWriters #deaf #HearingLoss #HearingTest #satire #TheDailyIsotope

https://www.thedailyisotope.com/2024/10/31/i-tried-apples-hearing-test-and-the-results-shocked-me/

Why Are Autistic Folks Generally Tolerant?

I do have a simple theory.

My theory is that it is because we don’t generally believe in arbitrary social conventions. Those very same conventions usually do not serve us, autistic folks, well. Once the social conventions that oppress us daily are seen as arbitrary, it does not take much to realize that most other social conventions are arbitrary too.

Here are some of the quirks that cause friction between me and society. On any ordinary day, I need two naps per day to function. Their timing is not stable. I do not know of any office that would tolerate this.

How about my dislike of phone calls? It is not that I cannot make a phone call, but I will do everything to avoid making a call. I’ll send emails. I’ll text, but I won’t call if I can help it.

How about stimming? I’m lucky that most of my stims can be explained away. However, some of us are more effusive with our stims. Neurotypicals tend to find these more effusive stims annoying.

How about the verbal shutdowns, the meltdowns, the burnouts that we experience? “Why don’t you answer me when I talk to you!” That’s because I cannot!

There are tons of social conventions that do not serve us, autistic folks, well. To us, these conventions seem to be completely arbitrary. Why should I not be able to take a nap? Or email? Or stim? Or experience a verbal shutdown? Why? We don’t choose our limitations, but society berates us for them.

An autistic individual will soon see that those social conventions are arbitrary. If these conventions are arbitrary, then what about that convention held by some folks that a couple has to be heterosexual, or that monogamy is the only model, or that a woman’s place is in the kitchen, or that there are only two genders, fixed at birth, and so on.

These will also look arbitrary. In addition to the characteristics I mentioned above about myself, I’m also queer, polyamorous, nonbinary, etc. I don’t generally get into trouble with autistic folks about these differences from the norm.

Thus, autistic people tend to be welcoming of difference. They do not give grief to queer folks, polyamorous folks, people who don’t follow the gender norms that others want to impose, and so on. Society called you a girl when you were born, but you feel like a man? Who are we to tell you that you are wrong?

I’ll note here that some of us are capable of falling prey to those social conventions that the majority of autistic folks see as arbitrary. These individuals will espouse some social conventions extremely, most likely to be able to fit with the group that promotes those conventions. They want to impose the conventions they’ve adopted for themselves on everyone. This does happen, but it is not the majority.

The majority of autistic folks are tolerant. Even when they do adopt some social conventions for themselves, they do not impose those conventions on others. This is the crucial distinction.

#ActuallyAutistic #autism #autistic #AutisticWriters #SocialConventions #society #tolerance #YourAutisticLife

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/10/31/why-are-autistic-folks-generally-tolerant/

YouTube creator criticizes himself for harsh working conditions

In the wake of the Mr. Beast controversy about harsh working conditions, a whistleblower came forth with revelations that the YouTube creator called Your Autistic Life has created a toxic work environment for his worker. He explains, “My boss keeps pushing me to work work work all the time. It is insane. He also makes homophobic statements.”

We reached to Your Autistic Life for comments. Here is what he had to say, “I have only one employee working on my videos. So I know who this whistleblower is. It is true that I push myself to work like a madman, but what else can I do when I’m my only employee. Also, those accusations of homophobia are categorically false, however. I’m queer myself!”

Your Autistic Life is considering all options, including suing himself for workplace violations, and countersuing for defamation. We’ll keep you posted with the details as they emerge.

#AutisticWriters #MrBeast #satire #TheDailyIsotope #toxic #work #WorkingConditions #YouTube

https://www.thedailyisotope.com/2024/10/21/youtube-creator-criticizes-himself-for-harsh-working-conditions/

911: man using ‘literally’ figuratively causes commotion

Jim Strong caused quite a commotion when he called 911 last Saturday. Strong claims he was just trying to help his friend. “I was fearing for his life. What he was telling me made literally no sense, and I mean ‘literally’ literally,” Strong explains.

Strong’s friend, Mike Johnson, apparently told Strong that his wife was leaving him. He explained, “Then, I told Jim, that I literally hit the ceiling at the news.” Strong was immediately alarmed at the news that his friend was not only divorcing, but that he had literally hit the ceiling.

“As far as I could tell, Mike could have been sitting in the cup of a catapult that went off, sending him splatting into the ceiling. I had no way to tell,” Strong explains.

When he was asked whether he sought confirmation from Johnson that he needed help, Strong said, “I asked Mike whether he was alright. He said that he was, but, you know, that’s exactly what a confused individual with a concussion would say. I couldn’t trust what he was telling me.”

Strong decided to call 911, and send them to Johnson’s location. The emergency staff quickly established that when Johnson told Strong that he had literally hit the ceiling, he was speaking figuratively.

When asked for comment, the EMS Chief told us, “It is important that folks know the distinction between ‘literally’ and ‘figuratively’ don’t use the former when you want to use the latter!”

#AutisticWriters #emergency #EMS #figuratively #literally #TheDailyIsotope

https://www.thedailyisotope.com/2024/10/14/911-man-using-literally-figuratively-causes-commotion/

Difficulty losing weight? “Use this one weird trick” says nutritionist

“I recommend that everyone use this trick,” says Susanne Smith, CNO, that’s Chief Nutrition Officer, at Smith Nutrition. Together with her husband and her newborn, she has 293 years of experience in nutrition.

“I have people coming into my office in tears, quite unable to lose weight,” she continues. “I feel for them, and this compels me to tell them about this one weird trick. Their minds are blown away after I tell them.”

Smith told us about how people spend hours exercising and dieting, without seeing any results. “Few people know about my trick,” she explains.

What’s her trick? She continues, “It is extremely easy to implement. My trick is this: take a dump before weighing yourself.” Smith reports that she can easily shave off the pounds if she takes a shit just before weighing herself.

Smith hopes that more people will drop a deuce prior to weighing themselves. “They can take a load off their mind by simply dropping a load into the toilet.”

#AutisticWriters #BodyWeight #nutrition #OneWeirdTrick #satire #shit #TheDailyIsotope #WeightLoss

https://www.thedailyisotope.com/2024/10/10/difficulty-losing-weight-use-this-one-weird-trick-says-nutritionist/

Walmart Is Ableist

If you are neurodivergent and prefer to use self-checkout, well, screw you!

See, Walmart has been implementing policies about the use of self-checkout. These policies have come to the Walmart where I shop. The self-checkout lanes are now 15 items or less, or they are Scan & Go.

Judging from the articles I’ve found by searching the Internet, I know they are pissing off a lot of people. Do you know who they will piss off the most with this policy change? Neurodivergent people. As such, this change is ableist bullshit peddled by Walmart. Checkout lanes is something that we, neurodivergent folks, discuss amongst ourselves from time to time. Overwhelmingly, neurodivergent folks prefer the self-checkout lanes because it helps us avoid being in a social relation (writ small) with some random cashier.

It is true that some of us do prefer the staffed checkout lanes, but this is a minority of neurodivergent folks. This minority is not directly impacted by the changes I’m detailing here. It may be indirectly impacted by longer waits at the staffed checkout lanes, however.

I discovered the new policy when I went to my local Walmart two weekends ago. I was scanning and bagging my items when I heard an clerk tell another customer that they needed 15 items or less to be able to use the self-checkout line. I was lucky. I think I may have had 14 items in my cart. I looked around and, sure enough, there were signs saying “Scan & Go” and “15 items or less.”

I had used Scan & Go before, but I did not like it. I did not remember why exactly, but this lapse in memory would soon be fixed. The next weekend, I did use the Scan & Go, and I remembered immediately the issues I had with it.

Here is the way I use the Walmart app to shop at Walmart:

1. I fill my electronic cart at home. I’m going to call this cart the regular cart, by opposition to the Scan & Go cart that I’m going to discuss below.
2. When I’m at the store, I remove the items from my regular cart as I walk down the aisles.

Scan & Go messes this up completely. To use Scan & Go, you need to open up the app and then select Scan & Go mode. When you are in this mode, the items you scan go into a Scan & Go cart that is separate from the regular cart that you can access at home. The items that you put in this cart are not automatically removed from the regular cart, either. You can fix this by manually flipping between the Scan & Go cart and the regular cart, but the app does not make this a seamless operation. You have to go through a bunch of screens to do it.

During my last shopping trip, I had to buy bananas. These need to be weighed. There was a scale near the bananas that, in theory, I could have used, but it did not seem to work. Truth be told, I’m not sure that I wasn’t the problem here. At any rate, I told the app that I’d weigh the bananas later.

I got to the self-checkout and tried weighing my bananas. When prompted, I scanned the self-checkout QR code with my phone, but my phone kept rejecting it. I asked for help, but the clerk was as puzzled as I was. I said that I would just pay for what I had in the Scan & Go cart, and then start a different order for the bananas. Just before trying this, however, I tried one last thing: I told the app that I was ready to pay. It then said that I’d have to weigh my bananas. It presented me with the option to do it at checkout. From this point on, everything worked as expected, but getting there was highly unintuitive.

From what I can tell, the app was confused earlier. It was expecting the QR code of a scale, but I gave it the QR code of a self-checkout machine. It is only after I told it that I wanted to pay now that it gave me the option to weigh at checkout, and that I was finally able to scan the QR code of the self-checkout machine.

Okay, so Scan & Go sucks, but it allowed me to avoid the restriction that Walmart imposed on the self-checkout lanes. It is not ableist, then, right? As if. It is still ableist. You can use Scan & Go only if you pay extra for Walmart+. I pay for it for reasons that I shall not detail in this article. Do you know who has a hard time making ends meet? Neurodivergent people.

I’ve heard about Walmart setting up sensory friendly hours in their stores. I’ve personally never experienced these hours. Still, at the end of the day, these hours mean little if they also force neurodivergent folks to use the staffed checkout lanes.

This is bullshit! Ableist bullshit.

Do note that comments merely telling me to not shop at Walmart will be flagged as spam. Read this piece if needed.

#ableism #AutisticWriters #bullshit #checkout #SelfCheckout #Walmart #YourAutisticLife

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/08/14/walmart-is-ableist/

Why Do Autistic People “Make A Scene?”

Because you don’t bloody listen.

Going to events can be challenging when you are autistic. It is definitely challenging for me. I have noise sensitivity and social anxiety. I’ve recently learned that I’m liable to crash if I’m overstimulated during a social event. Fun!

I’m going to talk about a specific event here. It is a brunch that happens monthly and is for bisexual people. They actually don’t card for sexual orientation, but if you’re not an ally, you’re not going to enjoy yourself. This event used to happen in a locale that I would be able to tolerate. I’ll note that there is no social situation that is absolutely without risk for me, but some places are definitely worse than other places.

I’ve actually talked about this event in a prior article:

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/06/09/when-being-social-destroys-you

After I wrote that article, I went into the Discord server to tell folks about what happened to me the day before, and I referred to the article I linked to above.

Even before that event happened, I had suggested another location to the people in the Discord server. I was told that my suggestion would be forwarded to the person responsible, but this did not happen. Generally, speaking, I think it is fallacious to insist that unless you can come up with a solution, then you mustn’t complain. However, I do prefer to present a solution when I can, and this time I could. I had been to this other place before and did not recall much trouble there.

Note that I’m not the only member of the group who is not fond of the new location for the brunches. Other members have perhaps not crashed like I did, but they have complained about the noise, or the subpar food offerings. Some of them complained before in the event chat on Meetup, but they weren’t heard either.

So, today, I went into the chat for the Meetup event and copied and pasted what I had put into the Discord server, minus the references to my article. It was a relatively restrained message. I laid the facts, and said that I had suggested another location, and that as far as I could tell nothing happened with my suggestion.

As far as I am concerned, I did not make a scene, but I’m half-expecting some ableist idiot to come over and accuse me of such a thing. I really thought about making a scene, however.

Why would I make a scene?

Because, so far, nobody who can make a change has listened to my complaints and the complaints of other members. This is why. We autistic people are always in the minority, and we end up being overlooked. Our needs are ignored, until, one day, we figure that we’re only going to be heard if we make a scene.

I thought about it, but I did not. I don’t know about next time.

#autism #autistic #AutisticWriters #MakingAScene #overstimulation #socialization #YourAutisticLife

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/07/12/why-do-autistic-people-make-a-scene/

La colère, cet indésirable et inutile invité.

Je ne sais pas si la colère est parfois utile, mais elle est définitivement inutile à ce moment-ci.

Cet article est une traduction d’un article originellement publié en anglais en avril 2024.

Je suis coincé. J’ai eu une rencontre d’un soir qui a été merveilleuse avec une fille il y a presque un mois. Notre rencontre fut fabuleuse. Néanmoins, elle ne m’a pas recontacté depuis notre rencontre. Ceci me rend très triste. Une de mes options serait de me mettre en colère. Devrais-je faire ceci? Non, je ne le crois pas. Je vais vous expliquer pourquoi.

J’ai écrit à propos de cette fille ici. Cet article est dans ma publication anglaise et est à accès restreint. Abonnez-vous si vous voulez le lire.

Je l’ai déjà dit, et je vais le redire. Toutes les relations intimes que j’ai eues après mon divorce ont été difficiles, mais elles ont aussi été des opportunités de croissance. J’en ai parlé dans cet article:

https://www.votreviedautiste.com/2024/01/17/le-bon-cote-des-choses-et-le-cancer

Comme j’ai dit ci-haut, j’ai eu une rencontre merveilleuse avec une fille, et puis… rien. Voici ce que je sais. Elle ne m’a pas bloqué. Je le saurais. Certaines applications vous empêchent de savoir, mais dans ce cas-ci, je peux savoir. Elle n’a pas été active sur les applications de rencontre. Encore une fois, je saurais si elle l’avait été. Elle n’a seulement pas répondu à mes messages.

Cette fille est autiste. Elle a aussi d’autres troubles mentaux, autre que l’autisme. Elle a un passé troublé.

Que s’est-il passé?

À la fin de notre rencontre, il y a eu une crise dans sa famille. Notez que sa famille habite à plusieurs états de chez nous. Donc… que s’est-il passé?

La crise est-elle devenue une tragédie?

A-t-elle voyagé pour aller voir sa famille?

A-t-elle commencé à avoir des idées de suicide?

A-t-elle commencé à s’auto-mutiler?

A-t-elle commencé l’abus de substances?

Votre vie d’autiste existe grâce à votre support. Utilisez l’un des liens ci-bas pour me supporter. Merci!

Si vous me croyez dramatique avec mes derniers points ci-haut, je dois vous dévoiler que ces comportements se sont déjà produit chez mes partenaires. Ma méthode quand quelqu’un me rapporte ces chose-là n’est pas d’humilier, mais d’écouter patiemment. Malheureusement, cette fille ne sait rien de mon attitude en cette matière. Elle aurait facilement pu supposer que, comme la plupart des gens du monde, je me mettrais en colère, et la gronderais si elle m’annonçait avoir des idées de suicide ou quelque chose de similaire.

Notre relation ne faisait que commencer…

Quel est l’impact de ceci sur moi? Je suis définitivement triste, mais je ne crois pas que je devrais laisser la colère s’emparer de moi. Je suis convaincu que dans ce cas, la colère serait inutile, et probablement néfaste. Qu’est-ce que ça donnerait si je me mettais en colère? Ça ne la ferait pas revenir à moi. Même si, par un miracle quelconque, ça la ferait revenir à moi, je ne veux pas de quelqu’un qui est avec moi juste par peur.

Je vous mentirais si je disais que la colère n’est pas séductrice. Mais je ne succombe pas. Je vois clairement que ça ferait me sentir bien de succomber. « Après que je lui ai tout donné! Comment ose-t-elle? » Ça serait bien de me vautrer dans une attitude moralisatrice. La colère pourrait aussi faire du théâtre dans ma tête. Dans sa pièce, je serais le héros, elle serait la vilaine, et j’obtiendrais une douce revanche. Je me sentirais tellement bien!

La colère peut essayer de me séduire, mais je ne peux succomber. Il n’y a littéralement rien à gagner de ceci. Ça ne ramènera pas ma fille, et ne la ramènera pas plus vite. En fait, il y a très peu que je puisse faire qui la pousserait à revenir. Je ne peux même pas lui envoyer des fleurs, mais même si je le pouvais, il n’y a aucune garantie que ces fleurs seraient bien reçues.

Si elle me revient, nous devrons avoir une discussion cœur-à-cœur. Je suis patient. Je suis gentil. Par contre, je ne suis pas un saint. Il y a une limite à ce que je peux supporter.

J’infère du cas que j’ai ici que la colère est, généralement, une émotion inutile. La colère est une réaction qui se manifeste face à l’impuissance. Quelque chose s’est produit qu’on n’est pas capable de rectifier facilement. Donc la colère vient, et veut la revanche.

Est-ce que la colère peut parfois être utile? Ce n’est pas sûr. Peut-être existe-t-il une colère qui serve de signe? Par exemple, si quelqu’un ressent de la colère face à l’injustice sociale, cette colère peut être un signe que cette personne devrait être plus active pour contrer cette injustice.

Il se peut qu’elle puisse être utile, mais seulement comme un signe. Note ce signe, et laisse-le partir. S’accrocher à notre colère n’est pas fructueux.

#AutisticWriters #colère #crise #impuissance #rencontres #revanche #VotreVieDAutiste

https://www.votreviedautiste.com/2024/07/11/la-colere-cet-indesirable-et-inutile-invite/

I was dumped yesterday. I wish I had used Flushed, and used their predumping feature.

:holdthepain:

#AutisticWriters #dating #Flushed #dumped #predumping #comedy

https://youtu.be/_iYJId8ENjk

I was dumped yesterday. I wish I had used Flushed, and used their predumping feature.

:holdthepain:

#AutisticWriters #dating #Flushed #dumped #predumping #comedy

https://youtu.be/_iYJId8ENjk

I was dumped yesterday. I wish I had used Flushed, and used their predumping feature.

:holdthepain:

#AutisticWriters #dating #Flushed #dumped #predumping #comedy

https://youtu.be/_iYJId8ENjk

I was dumped yesterday. I wish I had used Flushed, and used their predumping feature.

:holdthepain:

#AutisticWriters #dating #Flushed #dumped #predumping #comedy

https://youtu.be/_iYJId8ENjk

I was dumped yesterday. I wish I had used Flushed, and used their predumping feature.

:holdthepain:

#AutisticWriters #dating #Flushed #dumped #predumping #comedy

https://youtu.be/_iYJId8ENjk

How Does One Feel One’s Gender?

I don’t know what it means to feel “masculine.”

Ever since I discovered that I’m nonbinary, I’ve been reflecting on what gender is supposed to be, and I’m just ending up confused. Some people talk about feeling “masculine” or “feminine” but I don’t really know what it means, other than acting in accordance with the way that society decides that “men” and “women” should act.

People are born with a certain set of genitals, on the basis of this, society says “male” or “female.” This is already problematic. If you think that the biological sex binary is a given, I invite you to listen to this TED talk:

https://youtu.be/stUl_OapUso?si=DizHKNWPUynGjMZ_

I already knew that the biological basis for the binary is on shaky ground. However, there is nothing like someone speaking from actual lived experience to sharpen your understanding.

I’ve mentioned above that on top of biological sex, society imposes a series of behavioral conventions that define what men and women are. Men should act this way. Women should act that way. This is the gender binary. When a man acts in the way a woman should, it is deemed unnatural. Same when a woman acts in the way a man should.

I used to think that if I declared myself nonbinary, it was from an ideological standpoint more than anything else, but I don’t think this is the case. I’m just puzzled when people talk about feeling their gender, because this is something I don’t experience, or that I experience only faintly.

The gender binary is a complete fabrication from society. It is mere convention. It is not nature itself that compels those we call men to be competitive, or to be the provider in a couple, but society. It used to be that women couldn’t get credit without their husband’s approval. It is not nature that dictated this, but society. This restriction disappeared, not because of any change in nature, but because of changes in how society sees the gender binary.

Thus, it is that when I talk about my nonbinary nature, I talk about behavior. This is only because society itself distinguishes one side of the binary from the other in terms of behavior. It happens from time to time that someone interjects that gender identity is not the same as gender expression. Yes, this is true, but it has no bearing on what I am saying.

Let me make this clear. I’m not the gender police. You absolutely can be a feminine man, or a masculine woman, or any other variation. I won’t get on your case for it, and may even give you romantic love. However, as far as I am concerned, when it comes to evaluating whether I am man, woman, or nonbinary, my behavior is a critical component of the analysis.

So society, just like it has made me think that I was neurotypical by treating me like a neurotypical person, has also made me think that I am a man by treating me like a man. This is where gender dysphoria sets in. Yes, I am well versed in looking the part. Yes, I’ve been encultured in manhood, and, usually, I role-play a man. However, there are some behaviors that are required of me, as a man, that I don’t want to engage in. Hence, the gender dysphoria that occurs when I’m pushed to engage in those behaviors.

Still, I don’t feel the male gender in my life. I don’t feel special enjoyment when I do manly things. The notion of whether an act is manly or not does not figure in my decisions. For instance, my relationship with sports has been quite tepid. I used to watch racing, and that was it, as far as sports were concerned. I don’t anymore. I don’t think I’m missing anything important. I’m not pining after sports. It is not somehow missing from my life as a man.

It is only because society insisted that I am a man, and I believed society, that I thought that I was a man. Since I do not feel my gender, where does this lead me, but to the conclusion that I am in fact nonbinary?

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