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there's a big overlap between being #nonbinary & being #bi+.

there's also a big overlap in how nonbinary oppression & bi+ oppression work.

you cannot be pro-nonbinary & anti-bi+, and vice versa.

both #exorsexism & #monosexism are based on binaries, on the idea that there are only two valid options someone can be. everyone else just doesn't exist. or we exist but are only "accepted" under very narrow conditions. or that we exist but violence against us doesn't.

one of the most common ways this shows up is what i've called "in between rhetoric": the idea that nonbinary people are in between male & female (and by extension, between cis and trans) & that bi+ people are in between straight & gay. this means people see us as being "in between" privileged and oppressed.

it means that both nonbinary & bi+ people are treated as "the most privileged" group in the trans/queer community, as inherently more harmful, as "less oppressed" than binary trans & gay people, as "wanting to be oppressed so bad" etc. framing us as inherently closer to cis & straight people helps people justify the continued erasure & denial of our lived experience with oppression & violence.

take almost any common exorsexist talking point, switch out a few words & you'll have a common monosexist talking point & vice versa.

this is why as a bi enby, i don't trust you if you fully embrace nonbinary people as trans & as an oppressed group with unique experience, but get weird about bi+ people and our oppression. and vice versa.

it shows me you're really just one step away from throwing the group you claim to support under the bus, too.

Your wellbeing as a nonbinary person is a greater priority than any "belief."

You're not a curse, sin, accident, problem, or even in the way.

Your life will always be more important than an idea.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism #bigotry

Nonbinary people make up a large part of the transgender community now and historically.

Our needs, voices, and experiences are important. We will remain, as we always have, woven into the fabric of humanity.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

In those moments that you're faced with hatred towards nonbinary people, remember that bigotry isn't really about you. It's about the one spreading hatred.

They're telling you about themselves. They're saying that they're afraid, weak, resistant to change and to learning.

You have to suffer it in the moment, but they must suffer for far longer.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

“There are only two genders.” “You just want attention.” These frantic statements are the dying breaths of an ideology.

These defenders of a rigid gender binary have been reduced to shouting hate behind anonymity and bluster with no hope of changing us.

Such acts are only to briefly lessen their own fear. They are afraid because we are winning.

So, keep fighting. Continue winning.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #exorsexism #GenderBinary

The strength that you've had to cultivate in yourself to survive as a nonbinary person is invaluable.

It's a strength that reaches beyond you because queer/lgbtq people lean on, heal, and protect each other.

Your pain and your power is not wasted. We share strength.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

It's alright to be frustrated with the limited spaces that nonbinary people have carved out for ourselves in society.

It's important to be happy with what you have. However, frustration is also a sign that more work needs to be done.

Listen to that anger. Use it to push at the edges of what's "allowed" for you and make room for those after you.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism #activism

You can love yourself for being nonbinary.

It may take time and a lot of work, but you will overcome the artificial self hatred instilled in you by the cowards of your childhood.

You will come to love yourself because an indomitable being like yourself is worthy of it.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

If all you can do right now as a nonbinary person is survive in spite of bigots, then keep at it.

Hateful people want you to give up. Your community needs you to survive.

With time, I hope, that you'll also live for the joy you deserve.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

By embracing yourself as nonbinary, you're focusing on life, not hate, which means that you actually have more than your oppressors do.

They drift through a life ruled by fear, stuck hiding from fabricated monsters.

Keep growing, nonbinary folks.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinary #NonBinaryPride #exorsexism #transphobia

I hope you build the strength fight for your needs as a nonbinary person.

Learning to say no, accept help, and take up space are difficult for many people. When much of the world is on a mission to erase you, asserting your basic needs is a heroic act.

It's hard, but you are stronger.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

You have the power to make change as a nonbinary person.

It doesn’t matter how many disregard you because you are “too complicated” for them to want to understand, or how many times your needs are considered irrelevant.

You will always have the power to change the world.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

You, a nonbinary person, are real.

No twisted rhetoric, tired bigotry, or irrational thinking can permanently plaster over the truth of your existence.

Hold tight to the truth.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

Make life difficult for those who wish to oppress, erase, and destroy nonbinary people.

Your oppressors are spoiled and accustomed to getting their way. They expect you to give in without a fight.

So, resist and make them afraid. Resist to keep other nonbinary people brave.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinaryCommunity #exorsexism #NonBinary

It's normal and understandable to be afraid of the future as a nonbinary person.

Make a space for any despair you might have. However, it's important not to simply stay in that space.

Contribute your skills or resources to empowering our community. Support other nonbinary people nearby with your company. If all you can do is survive, then continue to stubbornly do so.

As always, we have work to do.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #exorsexism #NonBinary

There have always been dark times for nonbinary people, but we had good lives all the same.

Our community is greater, and far older, than a temporary political surge.

You, like every nonbinary person, are stronger than you know.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #transphobia #exorsexism #NonBinary

New evidence indicates that only weenies disbelieve the words of nonbinary people.

#NonBinary #NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryHumor #exorsexism

Invisibility is NOT a privilege.

Violence towards nonbinary people can, and does, leave physical wounds. Violence can also ensure that those wounds go untreated through the erasure of our existence.

To be unseen is an act of violence towards us all.

#NonBinaryPride #erasure #exorsexism #NonBinary

You are worthy of good things in life while also being nonbinary.

Those who try to bring you down due to your nature bring themselves down even more. They are cowards and are not worth listening to.

Live your life with the dignity that you deserve.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #exorsexism #bigotry

Being out, proud, and obnoxiously nonbinary is immensely important right now.

Hateful people want to scare us into hiding and invisibility, and some of us will have to comply.

So be out for those who can't. Remind the world that nonbinary people exist. Make it clear that our enemies are taking rights away from real people.

We are here to stay.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

The world has been a hard place for nonbinary people in recent centuries. Yet, nonbinary people have survived, and their stories have become our heritage.

The nonbinary community will remain a refuge for any who need it (as it always has in various forms).

We are stronger and will last longer than any hateful time.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

All of the slurs, violence, or other bigotry you are forced to endure as a nonbinary person are not your fault.

Those that harm you do so because they are afraid. They are afraid due to their own failings.

There is nothing wrong with you. You are fine.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

It's hard to live with the invisibility and violence that currently comes along with being nonbinary. It can even be expensive!

Nevertheless, there is a wild, chaotic magnificence in this barely-defined experience of being nonbinary.

Even while under immense pressure from all sides, any small amount of wilderness beautiful. I hope that you continue to preserve your own.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

Remember that your feelings and needs as a nonbinary person are still important.

So, share them and do it boldly.

Being different doesn't mean that you must be silent.

#NonBinaryPositivity #NonBinaryPride #NonBinary #exorsexism

If you're able to see a therapist, then make sure that they're a good fit for you as a nonbinary person. You should not have to sit there and pay for someone to feed you their bigotry.

You deserve to have your full existence respected. Disrespect is poor practice.

#NonBinaryPositivity #Nonbinary #NonbinaryPride #Therapy #Exorsexism

Nonbinary people, you are not just a fad. You are not making stuff up to be special.

You are taking command of your identity, your personhood, and your very existence, which is more than many even dream of doing.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #exorsexism

It's hard and often dangerous to be yourself as a nonbinary person.

The way you dress or otherwise present yourself now might be more authentic, but it comes with a price. You shouldn't have to pay it, but, nonetheless, you must.

It's alright to grieve the loss of respect you once received from strangers. The new love you're shown by other queer and lgbtq people will help heal you.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #genderpresentation #exorsexism

There are people who claim that they “just want to learn,” when really they are using that as an excuse to attack nonbinary people. That’s not good way to learn anything.

There’s a big difference between respectfully asking questions and trying trick you into putting up with their sh*t.

You don’t have to feel guilty about refusing to talk to someone you suspect is just being a miserable, bigoted waste of a human being.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #exorsexism #bigotry

Your experience as a nonbinary person is beyond agreement or disagreement.

You exist irrespective of someone's ridiculous "beliefs" about your own life.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #exorsexism

Keeping your true gender under wraps due to your job or school does not undermine it.

It’s not your fault that people are bigots. It’s the fault of bigots for putting you in this unfortunate, but completely understandable, situation.

Don’t take responsibility for their hatred. Take care of your own needs.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #exorsexism #school #work

You deserve a place in professional life as a nonbinary person.

If no place exists for you, then make room like the fighter you've grown to be.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #exorsexism #work

You likely faced hatred and even violence for being nonbinary, but that doesn't mean that you deserved it.

A nonbinary life is magnificent, which makes you magnificent, too.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #exorsexism