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  1. Big couples #counselling session coming up. I’ve realised that I’m in the last chance saloon with E, the mother of our one year old. We have been looking to buy a house together and are ready to exchange contracts but that would be insane given the state of our relationship. I’ll be telling her today that the house move is off. I’m not sure where we’ll go from here.
    #relationships #blendedfamily

  2. @edstink I’m glad Smeegle found a new precious, and could accept Dobby’s preëxisting family. #blendedFamily #blessed

  3. In honor of finding some good... my stepson gave me 3 flowers this morning 💖 #love #family #stepmom #stepmomlife #blendedfamily

  4. Today is Father’s Day here in the United States. Is it Father’s Day anywhere else? I don’t know.

    Are you a father? A dad? Are you, like me, a step father or someone who fills the roll of a father? Are you a single mother who takes on a father’s responsibilities? Well then, today is your day.

    May your kids shower you with love and affection today. We are going to have lunch with my father, which should be lovely. My step kids are having lunch with their father, as it absolutely should be, and then they are coming to our house for dinner. I am touched.

    I always feel conflicted on Father’s Day. I don’t want to be the kind of person who tries to take attention away from my step kids’ actual father, but at the same time they always make a point to make me feel loved on Father’s Day and I absolutely love that they do that for me. I am overwhelmed by how much I love my step kids. I call them my kids because to my eyes I couldn’t love them more if they were my biological children. I think if I loved them more I would literally explode. So while I do feel conflicted today, my step kids ignore that and treat me like the real deal and I cannot thank them enough.

    I say it all the time, I am stunned that they keep me around at all never mind treat me like an actual parent that they care about. They are amazing. It’s that simple. I can’t put it any other way. My step kids, Bellana and Harry, are utterly, unequivocally, objectively, amazing people.

    May your Father’s Day be a happy one. Fathers, love your kids. Kids, love your fathers. If it is not Father’s Day in your neighborhood you have my permission to act like it is and have yourself a merry little unofficial Father’s Day.

    https://robertjames1971.blog/2024/06/16/happy-fathers-day-11/

    #affection #blendedFamily #extendedFamily #Family #father #fathersDay #Love #Parenting #stepFather #StepKids

  5. Today is Father’s Day here in the United States. Is it Father’s Day anywhere else? I don’t know.

    Are you a father? A dad? Are you, like me, a step father or someone who fills the roll of a father? Are you a single mother who takes on a father’s responsibilities? Well then, today is your day.

    May your kids shower you with love and affection today. We are going to have lunch with my father, which should be lovely. My step kids are having lunch with their father, as it absolutely should be, and then they are coming to our house for dinner. I am touched.

    I always feel conflicted on Father’s Day. I don’t want to be the kind of person who tries to take attention away from my step kids’ actual father, but at the same time they always make a point to make me feel loved on Father’s Day and I absolutely love that they do that for me. I am overwhelmed by how much I love my step kids. I call them my kids because to my eyes I couldn’t love them more if they were my biological children. I think if I loved them more I would literally explode. So while I do feel conflicted today, my step kids ignore that and treat me like the real deal and I cannot thank them enough.

    I say it all the time, I am stunned that they keep me around at all never mind treat me like an actual parent that they care about. They are amazing. It’s that simple. I can’t put it any other way. My step kids, Bellana and Harry, are utterly, unequivocally, objectively, amazing people.

    May your Father’s Day be a happy one. Fathers, love your kids. Kids, love your fathers. If it is not Father’s Day in your neighborhood you have my permission to act like it is and have yourself a merry little unofficial Father’s Day.

    https://robertjames1971.blog/2024/06/16/happy-fathers-day-11/

    #affection #blendedFamily #extendedFamily #Family #father #fathersDay #Love #Parenting #stepFather #StepKids

  6. Today is Father’s Day here in the United States. Is it Father’s Day anywhere else? I don’t know.

    Are you a father? A dad? Are you, like me, a step father or someone who fills the roll of a father? Are you a single mother who takes on a father’s responsibilities? Well then, today is your day.

    May your kids shower you with love and affection today. We are going to have lunch with my father, which should be lovely. My step kids are having lunch with their father, as it absolutely should be, and then they are coming to our house for dinner. I am touched.

    I always feel conflicted on Father’s Day. I don’t want to be the kind of person who tries to take attention away from my step kids’ actual father, but at the same time they always make a point to make me feel loved on Father’s Day and I absolutely love that they do that for me. I am overwhelmed by how much I love my step kids. I call them my kids because to my eyes I couldn’t love them more if they were my biological children. I think if I loved them more I would literally explode. So while I do feel conflicted today, my step kids ignore that and treat me like the real deal and I cannot thank them enough.

    I say it all the time, I am stunned that they keep me around at all never mind treat me like an actual parent that they care about. They are amazing. It’s that simple. I can’t put it any other way. My step kids, Bellana and Harry, are utterly, unequivocally, objectively, amazing people.

    May your Father’s Day be a happy one. Fathers, love your kids. Kids, love your fathers. If it is not Father’s Day in your neighborhood you have my permission to act like it is and have yourself a merry little unofficial Father’s Day.

    https://robertjames1971.blog/2024/06/16/happy-fathers-day-11/

    #affection #blendedFamily #extendedFamily #Family #father #fathersDay #Love #Parenting #stepFather #StepKids

  7. Today is Father’s Day here in the United States. Is it Father’s Day anywhere else? I don’t know.

    Are you a father? A dad? Are you, like me, a step father or someone who fills the roll of a father? Are you a single mother who takes on a father’s responsibilities? Well then, today is your day.

    May your kids shower you with love and affection today. We are going to have lunch with my father, which should be lovely. My step kids are having lunch with their father, as it absolutely should be, and then they are coming to our house for dinner. I am touched.

    I always feel conflicted on Father’s Day. I don’t want to be the kind of person who tries to take attention away from my step kids’ actual father, but at the same time they always make a point to make me feel loved on Father’s Day and I absolutely love that they do that for me. I am overwhelmed by how much I love my step kids. I call them my kids because to my eyes I couldn’t love them more if they were my biological children. I think if I loved them more I would literally explode. So while I do feel conflicted today, my step kids ignore that and treat me like the real deal and I cannot thank them enough.

    I say it all the time, I am stunned that they keep me around at all never mind treat me like an actual parent that they care about. They are amazing. It’s that simple. I can’t put it any other way. My step kids, Bellana and Harry, are utterly, unequivocally, objectively, amazing people.

    May your Father’s Day be a happy one. Fathers, love your kids. Kids, love your fathers. If it is not Father’s Day in your neighborhood you have my permission to act like it is and have yourself a merry little unofficial Father’s Day.

    https://robertjames1971.blog/2024/06/16/happy-fathers-day-11/

    #affection #blendedFamily #extendedFamily #Family #father #fathersDay #Love #Parenting #stepFather #StepKids

  8. Today is Father’s Day here in the United States. Is it Father’s Day anywhere else? I don’t know.

    Are you a father? A dad? Are you, like me, a step father or someone who fills the roll of a father? Are you a single mother who takes on a father’s responsibilities? Well then, today is your day.

    May your kids shower you with love and affection today. We are going to have lunch with my father, which should be lovely. My step kids are having lunch with their father, as it absolutely should be, and then they are coming to our house for dinner. I am touched.

    I always feel conflicted on Father’s Day. I don’t want to be the kind of person who tries to take attention away from my step kids’ actual father, but at the same time they always make a point to make me feel loved on Father’s Day and I absolutely love that they do that for me. I am overwhelmed by how much I love my step kids. I call them my kids because to my eyes I couldn’t love them more if they were my biological children. I think if I loved them more I would literally explode. So while I do feel conflicted today, my step kids ignore that and treat me like the real deal and I cannot thank them enough.

    I say it all the time, I am stunned that they keep me around at all never mind treat me like an actual parent that they care about. They are amazing. It’s that simple. I can’t put it any other way. My step kids, Bellana and Harry, are utterly, unequivocally, objectively, amazing people.

    May your Father’s Day be a happy one. Fathers, love your kids. Kids, love your fathers. If it is not Father’s Day in your neighborhood you have my permission to act like it is and have yourself a merry little unofficial Father’s Day.

    https://robertjames1971.blog/2024/06/16/happy-fathers-day-11/

    #affection #blendedFamily #extendedFamily #Family #father #fathersDay #Love #Parenting #stepFather #StepKids

  9. Had a long call with the ex wife about the way she’s allowing our kids to opt out of sleeping over at mine. Made it clear that this needs to stop. After much protest from her (90 mins on the phone), she’s agreed to meet to come up with a plan.

    I’ve temporarily moved my finger away from the ‘get solicitor involved’ nuclear button.

    I have many other difficult issues to address with her - including renegotiating monthly maintenance payments 😬

  10. Had a long call with the ex wife about the way she’s allowing our kids to opt out of sleeping over at mine. Made it clear that this needs to stop. After much protest from her (90 mins on the phone), she’s agreed to meet to come up with a plan.

    I’ve temporarily moved my finger away from the ‘get solicitor involved’ nuclear button.

    I have many other difficult issues to address with her - including renegotiating monthly maintenance payments 😬
    #divorce #parenting #sharedparenting #blendedfamily

  11. Had a long call with the ex wife about the way she’s allowing our kids to opt out of sleeping over at mine. Made it clear that this needs to stop. After much protest from her (90 mins on the phone), she’s agreed to meet to come up with a plan.

    I’ve temporarily moved my finger away from the ‘get solicitor involved’ nuclear button.

    I have many other difficult issues to address with her - including renegotiating monthly maintenance payments 😬
    #divorce #parenting #sharedparenting #blendedfamily

  12. Drove home from Family Haircuts (not my own, but all 3 of the others) with just my 14yo daughter in the car.

    We talked about evil planets and super powers and the Universe Power that has four emotions (happy, sad, angry, afraid) and what she does when she feels those emotions.

    Daughter is AuDHD, and long conversations are sometimes hard for her, but I think we did pretty well today.

    She's a good egg.

    #BlendedFamily #Parenting #AuDHD #Autism #ADHD

  13. I've played in the SCA for 20 years (off and on, mostly dormant since 2017) and even when I've been in relationships, I've played alone. I've been getting more active lately, and then this conversation happened:

    Me: I think Daughter would really like playing in the SCA with me
    Husband: I think we *all* would like playing in the SCA
    Me: is that a request that I garb this family?
    Husband: sounds like it
    Husband: when's fighter practice?

    TIME TO SEW!!!

    #SCA #Sewing #BlendedFamily #Ansteorra

  14. Today in: called it!

    Every single article of clothing my children brought to their bio mom's house on June 1st came home dirty.

    (Guess whose month of light duty on the laundry just came to a screeching halt, lol)

    #Parenting #Life #BlendedFamily #Laundry

  15. One year ago today, I did something I said I wasn't ever going to do.

    I got married again.

    And it's one of the best things I've ever done. Being in a relationship with someone who is so focused on giving and care and partnership is something I still boggle at. I'm lucky, but we also both have worked hard at this, in the joyful kind of way. He makes my life better, and if he is to be believed, the reverse is also true.

    Happy Anniversary, Husbot. Here's to about 40 more.

    #BlendedFamily

  16. My 13yo stepdaughter came to live with us in 2021 from a really tough situation that included a lot of physical/emotional/medical neglect.

    It's been 18 months of busting my ass (and hiding my fury) to help her thrive.

    She's now got her IEP/ARD settled legally, her Autism and ADHD diagnoses. And I spent 40 minutes on the phone with her team at the school and the report was *glowing* about how well she's doing.

    I am so proud of her, and of myself.

    #BlendedFamily

  17. My 15yo stepson's order of Yule gifts got delayed by shipping fuckery, and just got here. He handed me this, obviously VERY pleased with himself. It's the right size and everything too.

    (His dad and I have only been married 10 months, and have been living together for a year and a half. I'm new to this stepmom thing.)

    #BlendedFamily #Stepmom

  18. CW: Big (happy!) heavy lifting - blended family stuff
    So Husbot and I haven't been married quite a year yet (2/22/22 is our anniversary), and I was a single, childfree adult prior to our relationship.

    When we moved in together, it was also with his then 14yo son, whom I knew well, and that was fine. Three months later, due to big problems with birth mom's living situation, we moved his then 12yo daughter into our home - without my having met her. Adding her to our home is what turned me into a stepmom, and it truly happened almost overnight.

    Husbot also has a much older daughter (whom I adore), and I've always known he had another older child as well. That child had left his life when they were 4 months old, and their mom had said basically "I'll file for child support, never contact me again".

    So for the last 18 years, he has diligently paid child support but never met his kid. He followed them a little bit on Facebook, but didn't want to be stalkery so other than their name, and a little bit from public pictures, he'd been quiet.

    Turns out he has a (trans) son, who has been looking for him for awhile, and who finally asked his mom about his dad's actual name yesterday. That resulted in a Facebook conversation, and now a long phone call this morning, both of them tentative and hopeful and joyful in having found each other.

    So as of yesterday... I have another stepkid. A LGBTQ+ stepkid whose life is full of passive-aggressiveness and false-acceptance, it turns out.

    Which ... my heart is big enough to welcome him on his terms, if he wants me to be someone in his life. And Husbot has already made unconditional acceptance clear and explicit as well.

    My family got one person bigger yesterday, and it's got a lot of feelings with it. But they're mostly good feelings, if a bit of anxiety.

    But yeah uh. I have a new stepkid.

    #LGBT #Trans #BlendedFamily #Parenting
  19. Sometimes, it's the hard stuff of life that shapes who we are &, as we learn about those things, we fully grasp their impact. With that in mind, I'd have to say that my interests also include #childhoodillness #miscarriage #divorce #stepparenting #blendedfamily #dementia #mentalillness #cancer #kidneydisease #poverty #childhoodpoverty #selfcompassion