#fetlife — Public Fediverse posts

The number of men who ask Fetlife groups for advice on why they're not getting any interest in their profiles, who then throw a big old tanty when they get that advice.

#fetlife #Men #kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive

The number of men who ask Fetlife groups for advice on why they're not getting any interest in their profiles, who then throw a big old tanty when they get that advice.

#fetlife #Men #kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive

Not lonely enough.

#fetlife #kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fat #fatness #FatTGNC

Not lonely enough.

#fetlife #kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fat #fatness #FatTGNC

Intimacy and love. Wishing you all the same. #happiness #swingers #lifestyle #fetlife #flswingers #realcouple #couple #couple #bicouple

Intimacy and love. Wishing you all the same. #happiness #swingers #lifestyle #fetlife #flswingers #realcouple #couple #couple #bicouple

Intimacy and love. Wishing you all the same. #happiness #swingers #lifestyle #fetlife #flswingers #realcouple #couple #couple #bicouple

Intimacy and love. Wishing you all the same. #happiness #swingers #lifestyle #fetlife #flswingers #realcouple #couple #couple #bicouple

Exophilia: A Fetish for Extraterrestrials https://maramenoci.com/exophilia-a-fetish-for-extraterrestrials/

#exophilia #fetish #extraterrestrial #alienfetish #bdsm #findom #domination #fetlife #kink #spacekink #alienlover #fetcommunity #exokink #financialdom #extraterrestrials #fetishlife #fetishworld #bdsmcommunity #kinklife #exophiliakink #fetishfun #alienfantasy #domme #fetishplay #findomme #alienfantasies #bdsmfetish #extraterrestrialkink #fetishaddict #alienlove #kinkcommunity

A guy from Fetlife has found my VANILLA insta.. which is fine. I don't feel any sort of way about it.

BUT.

He's commented on one of my (once again..) VANILLA pictures. It's just a picture of my face, but he's made sexual comments about wanting to see where "all" my piercings are. It's fucking creepy to make sexual comments on non-sexual pictures without consent.

He's then commented again, asking me if I'm going to be attending either of the munches being held at [pub name] on [date] or [other date]. He specifically mentions they're Fetlife events.

This is not only outing me on a public platform, but it also tells everyone where I might physically be on these two dates.

This is potentially putting me in very real danger. But I'm sure he'd insist that he's a nice guy.

It's not good enough, guys.

Fucking do better.

_____
* yes, I am personally "out", but he doesn't know that.

** I don't attend in person events, so I won't be going to either of these munches, but again.. he doesn't know that.

#Men #Sexism #mansplaining #ToxicMasculinity #safety #kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

A guy from Fetlife has found my VANILLA insta.. which is fine. I don't feel any sort of way about it.

BUT.

He's commented on one of my (once again..) VANILLA pictures. It's just a picture of my face, but he's made sexual comments about wanting to see where "all" my piercings are. It's fucking creepy to make sexual comments on non-sexual pictures without consent.

He's then commented again, asking me if I'm going to be attending either of the munches being held at [pub name] on [date] or [other date]. He specifically mentions they're Fetlife events.

This is not only outing me on a public platform, but it also tells everyone where I might physically be on these two dates.

This is potentially putting me in very real danger. But I'm sure he'd insist that he's a nice guy.

It's not good enough, guys.

Fucking do better.

_____
* yes, I am personally "out", but he doesn't know that.

** I don't attend in person events, so I won't be going to either of these munches, but again.. he doesn't know that.

#Men #Sexism #mansplaining #ToxicMasculinity #safety #kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

#Fetlife has taught me that there is a community of centenarians living in Antarctica

Intimacy and love. Wishing you all the same. #happiness #swingers #lifestyle #fetlife #flswingers #realcouple #couple #couple #bicouple

Intimacy and love. Wishing you all the same. #happiness #swingers #lifestyle #fetlife #flswingers #realcouple #couple #couple #bicouple

I just saw the most wholesome post in a FemDom group on Fetlife!

A submissive in Sydney who is a qualified air conditioning technician, offering to fix or service air conditioning units so that people are more comfortable in this weather. He's offering it no-strings-attached because he just wants to be useful and doesn't want people to be uncomfortable.

Bless him!

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife #kindness

I just saw the most wholesome post in a FemDom group on Fetlife!

A submissive in Sydney who is a qualified air conditioning technician, offering to fix or service air conditioning units so that people are more comfortable in this weather. He's offering it no-strings-attached because he just wants to be useful and doesn't want people to be uncomfortable.

Bless him!

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife #kindness

What I didn't need this morning was to try and compassionately explain to someone why referring to their submissive as "my little autistic meltdown machine" is pretty fucking gross.

Especially when they're not autistic, and the people they're asking advice from are.

#audhd #autism #adhd #disability #neurodiverse #ableism #disabled #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

What I didn't need this morning was to try and compassionately explain to someone why referring to their submissive as "my little autistic meltdown machine" is pretty fucking gross.

Especially when they're not autistic, and the people they're asking advice from are.

#audhd #autism #adhd #disability #neurodiverse #ableism #disabled #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

The best sexting apps for discreet and NSFW chats

https://fed.brid.gy/r/https://in.mashable.com/sex-dating-relationships/105829/the-best-sexting-apps-for-discreet-and-nsfw-chats

Also ich habe gerade meinen #fetlife Account wieder gelöscht. Das bringt mir nichts. Die paar lokale Profile dort, die noch aktiv sind (und ultraschwer aus der Masse an inaktiven Accounts herauszufiltern sind), sind nur im BDSM-Bereich aktiv und nicht interessant für mich. Und euch alle habe ich ja eh hier.

Naja, war ja mal einen Versuch wert wieder.

#fetlife #kink #bdsm #dating #Men

#fetlife #kink #bdsm #dating #Men

An Overview of Munches in the BDSM and Fetish Communities https://maramenoci.com/an-overview-of-munches-in-the-bdsm-and-fetish-communities/

#BDSM #fetish #munch #kinkcommunity #submissive #dominant #fetlife #bdsmcommunity #kink #financialdomination #findom #domme #slave #kinkeducation #bdsm101 #fetishlife #powerexchange #consent #kinkfriendly #bdsmfun #fetishculture #munchlife #kinkevents #bdsmplay #findomme #domination #subspace #fetishworld #bdsmfamily #kinksters #fetishparty

I just got called a groomer by someone on Fetlife because I said that deliberately misgendering me was transphobic.

He's 46 and in multiple "age gap" groups looking for an 18 year old.

#fetlife #hypocrisy #transphobia

I just got called a groomer by someone on Fetlife because I said that deliberately misgendering me was transphobic.

He's 46 and in multiple "age gap" groups looking for an 18 year old.

#fetlife #hypocrisy #transphobia

Hey, if you want to read some of the most intense Fetlife nonsense I've ever seen in godknows how long, take a look:

https://fetlife.com/groups/1789/posts/34570760?page=1#comment_246257937

#kink #bdsm #fetlife #drama #DramaLlama #ShowingYourWholeArse

Hey, if you want to read some of the most intense Fetlife nonsense I've ever seen in godknows how long, take a look:

https://fetlife.com/groups/1789/posts/34570760?page=1#comment_246257937

#kink #bdsm #fetlife #drama #DramaLlama #ShowingYourWholeArse

IT IS DONE

https://fetlife.com/ShowMeYourNoods

#fetlife #kink #bdsm #Food #ShitPost

IT IS DONE

https://fetlife.com/ShowMeYourNoods

#fetlife #kink #bdsm #Food #ShitPost

Super (souper) tempted to make a Fetlife profile that's just pictures of ramen and hand-made noodle dishes, etc.

ShowMeYourNoods

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

Super (souper) tempted to make a Fetlife profile that's just pictures of ramen and hand-made noodle dishes, etc.

ShowMeYourNoods

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

Some young guy approached me on FetLife with an out-of-the-blue message without a title and going:

"Hey!"

Well, if you cannot state why you are contacting me, why should I want to talk to you?

Instablock, FTW!

(It is really not hard to approach me. I had someone who speaks Spanish approach me on Delta Chat yesterday. We had a nice chat, mostly in Spanish. The difference is that this person did not just go "Hey!" They told me how they got my contact info, etc. You know... a modicum of information.)

#FetLife #hey #instablock #block

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#Adclicks #Publishing #FetLife #DigitalMedia #Monetization

@kyhwana I wish "progressive" places got the memo too.

No matter how much you just want to "protect the kids/vulnerable/users" on your platform, stop demanding verification like that!

All of the queer online communities with photo verification can seriously fuck off.

And #Fetlife for example still holds your account hostage whenever anyone reports you for any reason, unless you send them an uncensored ID picture to unlock your account. No way to delete the account either!

Great for trans people, people in dangerous situations or anyone who doesn't want to be outed in the inevitable data leak!

There's a group on Fetlife called Sadists and Masochists. They are Very Clear in the rules that the group is about sadism and masochism, NOT about D/s or any other power relations and that sadists are not necessarily dominant or tops, masochists are not necessarily subs or bottoms.

A woman posted in it and literally states in the post that she loves humiliation and pain play but has absolutely no interest in submission.

The entire comment thread:
sounds like you obviously have a deep desire to submit 🤔

My comment:
Jesus on toast, people are fucking stupid.
It's honestly like some of you were schooled by geese.

_____

Guess who got the 24 hour time out. 🙄

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

There's a group on Fetlife called Sadists and Masochists. They are Very Clear in the rules that the group is about sadism and masochism, NOT about D/s or any other power relations and that sadists are not necessarily dominant or tops, masochists are not necessarily subs or bottoms.

A woman posted in it and literally states in the post that she loves humiliation and pain play but has absolutely no interest in submission.

The entire comment thread:
sounds like you obviously have a deep desire to submit 🤔

My comment:
Jesus on toast, people are fucking stupid.
It's honestly like some of you were schooled by geese.

_____

Guess who got the 24 hour time out. 🙄

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

I love that people are posting ICE sightings in their locale on FetLife.

#fuckice #fetlife

Leakt mal was aus dem #FetLife-Vortrag.

#GPN23

Leakt mal was aus dem #FetLife-Vortrag.

#GPN23

Him:
Like taboo?

Me:
It's ok, but can be a bit boring.. my go-tos are more along the lines of Eldritch Horror or Dead of Winter

Him:
What's that

Me:
Hang on.. You weren't talking about gaming anymore, huh?

#gaming #boardgames #games #fetlife #kink

Him:
Like taboo?

Me:
It's ok, but can be a bit boring.. my go-tos are more along the lines of Eldritch Horror or Dead of Winter

Him:
What's that

Me:
Hang on.. You weren't talking about gaming anymore, huh?

#gaming #boardgames #games #fetlife #kink

I just saw the hashtag for Caturday, and was thinking two thoughts at the same time:
- oh, I should post a picture for Caturday
- it's already Sunday here

...the thoughts melded together and came out as "I should post a picture for Cuntday"

That's not a thing. But also.. I mean...

#adhd #audhd #autism #disability #neurodiverse #caturday #Australia #fetlife #kink #bdsm #swearing

I was going to post something the other day about how I had a submissive until about 10 months ago, when we stopped our dynamic.

He is married and his wife had asked him to stop his kink stuff for a time to refocus his energy and time in his marriage and family. He and I had talked when we first started with our thing, and we're very open about how his relationship with his family, and my relationship with Greg, were our priorities and that was how we wanted it. I don't usually do hierarchical relationships, but this suited everyone involved and was a deliberate decision... whereas my issue with hierarchy is that it's often not through deliberate choice, but is just followed because that's "the way it's meant to be".

For some reason the last couple of weeks I'd started thinking about him a fair bit. I had a couple of dreams that he was in, and when I sat down and had a real think about why I was thinking about him I realised it was because I was missing him.

Then, yesterday.. out of the blue, he messaged me on Fetlife. He's reactivated his account, we're chatting again. Things with his wife and family are great and they've agreed that he can go explore his kink side again.

Sometimes the universe is an interesting place.

#relationship #dating #NonMonogamy #kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

Honestly, as far as kinksters go.. Swingers have to be some of the most whingey little babies I've ever met.

I'm constantly getting messages from swingers complaining that there are no events for them to attend, and when I point out that there are monthly munches they are welcome to attend they complain that it's a kink munch.

Dude, it's Bathurst - the selection pool is small.

Firstly, swinging is a kink. Secondly, if you're not interested in going to the event and you're not bothered to start your own, don't message a complete stranger and about something not being tailor made for you and your dick.

This is exactly why I stopped organising.

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife #dating #swinging

I often get messaged on Fetlife by people I don't know asking to meet up with them to play.

I don't tend to do this anymore because of covid, so I'll simply respond "sorry, I don't meet up with strangers".

Women and queers tend to message back with something akin to "I totally understand, have a great week!"

Men almost always message back asking how to "not be a stranger", or they start arguing with me that they aren't a stranger because we're chatting/I know their name/we both live in Bathurst etc..

But it's like... why are you, a grown adult, unsure how to not be a stranger to someone? Like is the concept of learning about and becoming friends with another person that much of an alien idea to you?

Also, I'm not a vending machine you pay friendship into until I fuck you - and I get the irony of this, seeing as I often fuck my friends.

#fetlife #dating #kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive

Every damn time a fake Domme posts in the local personals on Fetlife, there's an idiot that goes "I'm interested!!!!"

:headache:

#SexAd #Fetlife #fakes

Now we know why the Heard and McDonald Islands ended up with tariffs...

#USPol #US #USA #Trump #tariffs #kink #bdsm #fetlife #antarctica