#doubleempathy — Public Fediverse posts
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Protocol variation does not mean either is malformed, only varied.
In systems theory, an interface must be developed to translate between the two.
In category theory, a functor must be developed to map between two objects.
In society, the autistic person is expected to adapt.
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Protocol variation does not mean either is malformed, only varied.
In systems theory, an interface must be developed to translate between the two.
In category theory, a functor must be developed to map between two objects.
In society, the autistic person is expected to adapt.
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Is empathy political?
A thread on autistic empathy.A still-quite-popular belief about autistic people is that we lack empathy.
I think this is faulty logic.
Here's why:A thread 🧵
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#ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent
#DoubleEmpathy #TheoryOfMind -
Is empathy political?
A thread on autistic empathy.A still-quite-popular belief about autistic people is that we lack empathy.
I think this is faulty logic.
Here's why:A thread 🧵
1/10
#ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent
#DoubleEmpathy #TheoryOfMind -
Is empathy political?
A thread on autistic empathy.A still-quite-popular belief about autistic people is that we lack empathy.
I think this is faulty logic.
Here's why:A thread 🧵
1/10
#ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent
#DoubleEmpathy #TheoryOfMind -
Is empathy political?
A thread on autistic empathy.A still-quite-popular belief about autistic people is that we lack empathy.
I think this is faulty logic.
Here's why:A thread 🧵
1/10
#ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent
#DoubleEmpathy #TheoryOfMind -
Is empathy political?
A thread on autistic empathy.A still-quite-popular belief about autistic people is that we lack empathy.
I think this is faulty logic.
Here's why:A thread 🧵
1/10
#ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent
#DoubleEmpathy #TheoryOfMind -
Is empathy political?
An article on autistic empathy.
#Autism #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #Neurodiversity #Empathy #DoubleEmpathy
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Is empathy political?
An article on autistic empathy.
#Autism #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #Neurodiversity #Empathy #DoubleEmpathy
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Is empathy political?
An article on autistic empathy.
#Autism #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #Neurodiversity #Empathy #DoubleEmpathy
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Is empathy political?
An article on autistic empathy.
#Autism #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #Neurodiversity #Empathy #DoubleEmpathy
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Is empathy political?
An article on autistic empathy.
#Autism #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #Neurodiversity #Empathy #DoubleEmpathy
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Recommended: “Why everything you know about #autism is wrong” by #OpenlyAutistic Dr. Jac den Houting
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A1AUdaH-EPM
For me, I think this is a very good video to pass as an introduction of sorts to family, friends, colleagues, who are not (yet) knowledgeable about us. Most especially to those who only (blindly) listen to doctors/professionals or to reputable (public) figures.
#TED #TEDx #TEDtalks #TEDxTalks #AutismSspectrum #Autistic #Autistics #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyAutistics #Neurodivergent #DoubleEmpathy #SocialDisability #Disability
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@pathfinder Totally this 🩷
There is a great short on double empathy here by Morgan Foley (AuDHD), as well as a longer video here.
#neurodivergent #neurospicy #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #DoubleEmpathy #DoubleEmpathyProblem
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Repeat after me
Autism is not possession
Your child was not stolen from you
They are not contaminated
They are different. Their mind works differently than yours. Yes it still works. Yes it is weird. Yes it is wonderful.
Your child is not a witch. Burning their insides with proverbial fire and literal poison will not back the thing that was stolen from you.
The only thing that has been stolen from you was your humanity, the moment you looked upon your own child as anything other than exactly who they were supposed to be
And that is lost from you forever
We exist because we have to. We are the optimal solution to a problem most of you don't even see.
You can't from way up there. The solution stolen by the same reactive contagion that caused you to treat your child as a symptom to be corrected instead of a person to be understood
You see labels
We see effects
People used to be embarrassed to be this ignorant.
Now they're celebrated
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Repeat after me
Autism is not possession
Your child was not stolen from you
They are not contaminated
They are different. Their mind works differently than yours. Yes it still works. Yes it is weird. Yes it is wonderful.
Your child is not a witch. Burning their insides with proverbial fire and literal poison will not back the thing that was stolen from you.
The only thing that has been stolen from you was your humanity, the moment you looked upon your own child as anything other than exactly who they were supposed to be
And that is lost from you forever
We exist because we have to. We are the optimal solution to a problem most of you don't even see.
You can't from way up there. The solution stolen by the same reactive contagion that caused you to treat your child as a symptom to be corrected instead of a person to be understood
You see labels
We see effects
People used to be embarrassed to be this ignorant.
Now they're celebrated
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People talk about the "challenge" of autistic kids. Personally I don't know how I would deal with having allistic kids who wanted to socialise and go out and do things all the time.
#DoubleEmpathy #Autism #autistic #neurodiverse #ActuallyAutistic -
People talk about the "challenge" of autistic kids. Personally I don't know how I would deal with having allistic kids who wanted to socialise and go out and do things all the time.
#DoubleEmpathy #Autism #autistic #neurodiverse #ActuallyAutistic -
People talk about the "challenge" of autistic kids. Personally I don't know how I would deal with having allistic kids who wanted to socialise and go out and do things all the time.
#DoubleEmpathy #Autism #autistic #neurodiverse #ActuallyAutistic -
People talk about the "challenge" of autistic kids. Personally I don't know how I would deal with having allistic kids who wanted to socialise and go out and do things all the time.
#DoubleEmpathy #Autism #autistic #neurodiverse #ActuallyAutistic -
People talk about the "challenge" of autistic kids. Personally I don't know how I would deal with having allistic kids who wanted to socialise and go out and do things all the time.
#DoubleEmpathy #Autism #autistic #neurodiverse #ActuallyAutistic -
@pathfinder Totally this 🩷
There is a great short on double empathy here by Morgan Foley (AuDHD), as well as a longer video here.
#neurodivergent #neurospicy #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #DoubleEmpathy #DoubleEmpathyProblem
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@pathfinder Totally this 🩷
There is a great short on double empathy here by Morgan Foley (AuDHD), as well as a longer video here.
#neurodivergent #neurospicy #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #DoubleEmpathy #DoubleEmpathyProblem
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@pathfinder Totally this 🩷
There is a great short on double empathy here by Morgan Foley (AuDHD), as well as a longer video here.
#neurodivergent #neurospicy #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #DoubleEmpathy #DoubleEmpathyProblem
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@pathfinder Totally this 🩷
There is a great short on double empathy here by Morgan Foley (AuDHD), as well as a longer video here.
#neurodivergent #neurospicy #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #DoubleEmpathy #DoubleEmpathyProblem
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It's Autism Day/Month, and I keep telling people they need to learn from autistic people... But what do they most need to know? It's funny, none of the key autistic theories about autism are just about autism: #Neurodiversity, #Monotropism, #DoubleEmpathy. oolong.medium.com/506c7d649823
Autistics on Autism -
It's Autism Day/Month, and I keep telling people they need to learn from autistic people... But what do they most need to know? It's funny, none of the key autistic theories about autism are just about autism: #Neurodiversity, #Monotropism, #DoubleEmpathy. oolong.medium.com/506c7d649823
Autistics on Autism -
It's Autism Day/Month, and I keep telling people they need to learn from autistic people... But what do they most need to know? It's funny, none of the key autistic theories about autism are just about autism: #Neurodiversity, #Monotropism, #DoubleEmpathy. oolong.medium.com/506c7d649823
Autistics on Autism -
It's Autism Day/Month, and I keep telling people they need to learn from autistic people... But what do they most need to know? It's funny, none of the key autistic theories about autism are just about autism: #Neurodiversity, #Monotropism, #DoubleEmpathy. oolong.medium.com/506c7d649823
Autistics on Autism -
It's Autism Day/Month, and I keep telling people they need to learn from autistic people... But what do they most need to know? It's funny, none of the key autistic theories about autism are just about autism: #Neurodiversity, #Monotropism, #DoubleEmpathy. oolong.medium.com/506c7d649823
Autistics on Autism -
"Theory of mind"
And why it isn't all it's cracked up to be.
A thread.
🧵
#Autistic #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #ADHD #Neurodiversity #TheoryOfMind #Psychology #DoubleEmpathy
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"Theory of mind"
And why it isn't all it's cracked up to be.
A thread.
🧵
#Autistic #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #ADHD #Neurodiversity #TheoryOfMind #Psychology #DoubleEmpathy
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"Theory of mind"
And why it isn't all it's cracked up to be.
A thread.
🧵
#Autistic #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #ADHD #Neurodiversity #TheoryOfMind #Psychology #DoubleEmpathy
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"Theory of mind"
And why it isn't all it's cracked up to be.
A thread.
🧵
#Autistic #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #ADHD #Neurodiversity #TheoryOfMind #Psychology #DoubleEmpathy
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"Theory of mind"
And why it isn't all it's cracked up to be.
A thread.
🧵
#Autistic #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #ADHD #Neurodiversity #TheoryOfMind #Psychology #DoubleEmpathy
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For those playing along at home, here’s how I assess myself at meeting the stated needs of my SO as these things have been expressed to me:
Being inquisitive 10%
Shared space 10-20%
Not needing to be micromanaged 20%
Emotional engagement 30%
Verbal expressions of affection 30%
Engagement in activities 30%
Not getting defensive 30%
Engaging in conversation 30%
Physical displays of affection 40%
Remaining open to dialogue 60%
Housework 80%
Practical help 90%Note that these concepts are scored according to their definition of what those traits entail (e.g. I’m very inquisitive, but don’t ask them many questions, I tend to be led through conversations we have).
Also note, this is not meant to be judgmental of them asking for these things - they have every right to want them in a relationship and ask for them.
I’m feeling right now that I’m incapable of meeting their needs to a viable level to maintain the relationship, and I have no idea when I might be in a position to meet those needs to a viable level.
At the same time, I feel like I’m not meeting some of my needs (time/space alone to work through childhood trauma pushed down for 50+ years, for one), and because I’m a DAPP*, I find it hard to give myself the space and time I feel I need when I’m in a "living together" arrangement.
If I were to rate my suitability for being in a long-term, living-together relationship right now, I’d probably put it at about 20%.
Let’s see what their psych says when we have a joint session with them tomorrow - I’ll likely be reminded of several other things to add to the above list before then.
An “interesting" 20 hours ahead 😳
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CW: Ableist, pathologising autism research 🧵
8. Finally – this could have been a blog post! – under ‘Limitations’, the authors identify four caveats, one of which suggests further research to link ‘subjective reports of discomfort with neural activity patterns during eye gaze’
That is, they want to make sure we actually *are* uncomfortable with what they’re doing!
But they also doubt it would really tell them anything useful because of ‘the potential limitations of self-reports in a condition that is very often associated with alexithymia’
Very conveniently for them, it seems we’re not reliable witnesses of our own feelings!
In the last paragraph under ‘Limitations’, the authors talk about potential clinical implications ‘despite these caveats’:
‘… during behavioral therapy, forcing individuals with autism to look in the eyes might be counterproductive and elicit more anxiety …’
They had me at ‘during behavioral therapy’ – behavioural ‘therapy’ (ABA, PBS etc.) is abuse, akin to conversion ‘therapy’
’… however, by not looking at the eyes, the person with ASD will continue to miss critical social information, …’
Again, critical for whom?
‘… and somehow one has to help them to gather all these important cues.’
Oh great, so it’s up to the neurotypicals to ‘somehow’ help us do something we don’t want to do
‘One possible strategy could consist in progressively habituating individuals with ASD to look into the eyes, analogous to the way surgeons habituate to look at open bleeding bodies, and then in incentivizing them to look at the eyes, finding a way to make eye contact somehow less stressful.’
WTF?!
And on that note, I’ll leave it
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CW: Ableist, pathologising autism research 🧵
8. Finally – this could have been a blog post! – under ‘Limitations’, the authors identify four caveats, one of which suggests further research to link ‘subjective reports of discomfort with neural activity patterns during eye gaze’
That is, they want to make sure we actually *are* uncomfortable with what they’re doing!
But they also doubt it would really tell them anything useful because of ‘the potential limitations of self-reports in a condition that is very often associated with alexithymia’
Very conveniently for them, it seems we’re not reliable witnesses of our own feelings!
In the last paragraph under ‘Limitations’, the authors talk about potential clinical implications ‘despite these caveats’:
‘… during behavioral therapy, forcing individuals with autism to look in the eyes might be counterproductive and elicit more anxiety …’
They had me at ‘during behavioral therapy’ – behavioural ‘therapy’ (ABA, PBS etc.) is abuse, akin to conversion ‘therapy’
’… however, by not looking at the eyes, the person with ASD will continue to miss critical social information, …’
Again, critical for whom?
‘… and somehow one has to help them to gather all these important cues.’
Oh great, so it’s up to the neurotypicals to ‘somehow’ help us do something we don’t want to do
‘One possible strategy could consist in progressively habituating individuals with ASD to look into the eyes, analogous to the way surgeons habituate to look at open bleeding bodies, and then in incentivizing them to look at the eyes, finding a way to make eye contact somehow less stressful.’
WTF?!
And on that note, I’ll leave it
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CW: Ableist, pathologising autism research 🧵
8. Finally – this could have been a blog post! – under ‘Limitations’, the authors identify four caveats, one of which suggests further research to link ‘subjective reports of discomfort with neural activity patterns during eye gaze’
That is, they want to make sure we actually *are* uncomfortable with what they’re doing!
But they also doubt it would really tell them anything useful because of ‘the potential limitations of self-reports in a condition that is very often associated with alexithymia’
Very conveniently for them, it seems we’re not reliable witnesses of our own feelings!
In the last paragraph under ‘Limitations’, the authors talk about potential clinical implications ‘despite these caveats’:
‘… during behavioral therapy, forcing individuals with autism to look in the eyes might be counterproductive and elicit more anxiety …’
They had me at ‘during behavioral therapy’ – behavioural ‘therapy’ (ABA, PBS etc.) is abuse, akin to conversion ‘therapy’
’… however, by not looking at the eyes, the person with ASD will continue to miss critical social information, …’
Again, critical for whom?
‘… and somehow one has to help them to gather all these important cues.’
Oh great, so it’s up to the neurotypicals to ‘somehow’ help us do something we don’t want to do
‘One possible strategy could consist in progressively habituating individuals with ASD to look into the eyes, analogous to the way surgeons habituate to look at open bleeding bodies, and then in incentivizing them to look at the eyes, finding a way to make eye contact somehow less stressful.’
WTF?!
And on that note, I’ll leave it
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CW: Ableist, pathologising autism research 🧵
8. Finally – this could have been a blog post! – under ‘Limitations’, the authors identify four caveats, one of which suggests further research to link ‘subjective reports of discomfort with neural activity patterns during eye gaze’
That is, they want to make sure we actually *are* uncomfortable with what they’re doing!
But they also doubt it would really tell them anything useful because of ‘the potential limitations of self-reports in a condition that is very often associated with alexithymia’
Very conveniently for them, it seems we’re not reliable witnesses of our own feelings!
In the last paragraph under ‘Limitations’, the authors talk about potential clinical implications ‘despite these caveats’:
‘… during behavioral therapy, forcing individuals with autism to look in the eyes might be counterproductive and elicit more anxiety …’
They had me at ‘during behavioral therapy’ – behavioural ‘therapy’ (ABA, PBS etc.) is abuse, akin to conversion ‘therapy’
’… however, by not looking at the eyes, the person with ASD will continue to miss critical social information, …’
Again, critical for whom?
‘… and somehow one has to help them to gather all these important cues.’
Oh great, so it’s up to the neurotypicals to ‘somehow’ help us do something we don’t want to do
‘One possible strategy could consist in progressively habituating individuals with ASD to look into the eyes, analogous to the way surgeons habituate to look at open bleeding bodies, and then in incentivizing them to look at the eyes, finding a way to make eye contact somehow less stressful.’
WTF?!
And on that note, I’ll leave it
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CW: Ableist, pathologising autism research 🧵
8. Finally – this could have been a blog post! – under ‘Limitations’, the authors identify four caveats, one of which suggests further research to link ‘subjective reports of discomfort with neural activity patterns during eye gaze’
That is, they want to make sure we actually *are* uncomfortable with what they’re doing!
But they also doubt it would really tell them anything useful because of ‘the potential limitations of self-reports in a condition that is very often associated with alexithymia’
Very conveniently for them, it seems we’re not reliable witnesses of our own feelings!
In the last paragraph under ‘Limitations’, the authors talk about potential clinical implications ‘despite these caveats’:
‘… during behavioral therapy, forcing individuals with autism to look in the eyes might be counterproductive and elicit more anxiety …’
They had me at ‘during behavioral therapy’ – behavioural ‘therapy’ (ABA, PBS etc.) is abuse, akin to conversion ‘therapy’
’… however, by not looking at the eyes, the person with ASD will continue to miss critical social information, …’
Again, critical for whom?
‘… and somehow one has to help them to gather all these important cues.’
Oh great, so it’s up to the neurotypicals to ‘somehow’ help us do something we don’t want to do
‘One possible strategy could consist in progressively habituating individuals with ASD to look into the eyes, analogous to the way surgeons habituate to look at open bleeding bodies, and then in incentivizing them to look at the eyes, finding a way to make eye contact somehow less stressful.’
WTF?!
And on that note, I’ll leave it
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CW: Ableist, pathologising autism research 🧵
7. In the Discussion section:
‘In everyday life, [oversensitivity to socio-affective stimuli] may lead to attempts to decrease one’s arousal levels, and first-hand reports suggest that simply avoiding to attend to the eyes of others is one common strategy among individuals with ASD.’
It’s a very good strategy! Works for me anyway
(Here btw is another reference to the listicle in The Mighty, suggesting the authors hadn’t directly engaged with the Autistic community at all!)
The paragraph continues:
‘Such a strategy is unlikely, however, to come without costs, since the eyes carry *important interpersonal and deictic information* during social interaction and communication, …’
Important to whom??
‘… and eye-avoidance may result in cascading effects leading to *improper development of the social brain*’
Improper development? By what standard of propriety?
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CW: Ableist, pathologising autism research 🧵
7. In the Discussion section:
‘In everyday life, [oversensitivity to socio-affective stimuli] may lead to attempts to decrease one’s arousal levels, and first-hand reports suggest that simply avoiding to attend to the eyes of others is one common strategy among individuals with ASD.’
It’s a very good strategy! Works for me anyway
(Here btw is another reference to the listicle in The Mighty, suggesting the authors hadn’t directly engaged with the Autistic community at all!)
The paragraph continues:
‘Such a strategy is unlikely, however, to come without costs, since the eyes carry *important interpersonal and deictic information* during social interaction and communication, …’
Important to whom??
‘… and eye-avoidance may result in cascading effects leading to *improper development of the social brain*’
Improper development? By what standard of propriety?
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CW: Ableist, pathologising autism research 🧵
7. In the Discussion section:
‘In everyday life, [oversensitivity to socio-affective stimuli] may lead to attempts to decrease one’s arousal levels, and first-hand reports suggest that simply avoiding to attend to the eyes of others is one common strategy among individuals with ASD.’
It’s a very good strategy! Works for me anyway
(Here btw is another reference to the listicle in The Mighty, suggesting the authors hadn’t directly engaged with the Autistic community at all!)
The paragraph continues:
‘Such a strategy is unlikely, however, to come without costs, since the eyes carry *important interpersonal and deictic information* during social interaction and communication, …’
Important to whom??
‘… and eye-avoidance may result in cascading effects leading to *improper development of the social brain*’
Improper development? By what standard of propriety?
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CW: Ableist, pathologising autism research 🧵
7. In the Discussion section:
‘In everyday life, [oversensitivity to socio-affective stimuli] may lead to attempts to decrease one’s arousal levels, and first-hand reports suggest that simply avoiding to attend to the eyes of others is one common strategy among individuals with ASD.’
It’s a very good strategy! Works for me anyway
(Here btw is another reference to the listicle in The Mighty, suggesting the authors hadn’t directly engaged with the Autistic community at all!)
The paragraph continues:
‘Such a strategy is unlikely, however, to come without costs, since the eyes carry *important interpersonal and deictic information* during social interaction and communication, …’
Important to whom??
‘… and eye-avoidance may result in cascading effects leading to *improper development of the social brain*’
Improper development? By what standard of propriety?