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CW: question abt hrt
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CW: question abt hrt
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I got some really helpful feedback on this topic from some friends earlier, but I thought I would ask here too.
Having only been fully out about a month, I feel extra self-conscious the more femme I present. (As an example, I have never worn a dress out anywhere.) I identified an underlying thought where I'm telling myself that I haven't "earned" that yet.
Any advise beyond ignore/push-through those thoughts?
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I got some really helpful feedback on this topic from some friends earlier, but I thought I would ask here too.
Having only been fully out about a month, I feel extra self-conscious the more femme I present. (As an example, I have never worn a dress out anywhere.) I identified an underlying thought where I'm telling myself that I haven't "earned" that yet.
Any advise beyond ignore/push-through those thoughts?
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I got some really helpful feedback on this topic from some friends earlier, but I thought I would ask here too.
Having only been fully out about a month, I feel extra self-conscious the more femme I present. (As an example, I have never worn a dress out anywhere.) I identified an underlying thought where I'm telling myself that I haven't "earned" that yet.
Any advise beyond ignore/push-through those thoughts?
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I got some really helpful feedback on this topic from some friends earlier, but I thought I would ask here too.
Having only been fully out about a month, I feel extra self-conscious the more femme I present. (As an example, I have never worn a dress out anywhere.) I identified an underlying thought where I'm telling myself that I haven't "earned" that yet.
Any advise beyond ignore/push-through those thoughts?
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I got some really helpful feedback on this topic from some friends earlier, but I thought I would ask here too.
Having only been fully out about a month, I feel extra self-conscious the more femme I present. (As an example, I have never worn a dress out anywhere.) I identified an underlying thought where I'm telling myself that I haven't "earned" that yet.
Any advise beyond ignore/push-through those thoughts?
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I have the opportunity, but not the obligation, to send an announcement of sorts to coworkers that my name has changed. I've directly told my team and others I work with on a daily basis. Is there a point to making a wider announcement?
I don't really want acknowledgement or extra interest, but I also don't want to be rude and have someone surprised by seeing it in Slack or in email first. This is a very LGBTQ+ supportive workplace.
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I have the opportunity, but not the obligation, to send an announcement of sorts to coworkers that my name has changed. I've directly told my team and others I work with on a daily basis. Is there a point to making a wider announcement?
I don't really want acknowledgement or extra interest, but I also don't want to be rude and have someone surprised by seeing it in Slack or in email first. This is a very LGBTQ+ supportive workplace.
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I have the opportunity, but not the obligation, to send an announcement of sorts to coworkers that my name has changed. I've directly told my team and others I work with on a daily basis. Is there a point to making a wider announcement?
I don't really want acknowledgement or extra interest, but I also don't want to be rude and have someone surprised by seeing it in Slack or in email first. This is a very LGBTQ+ supportive workplace.
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I have the opportunity, but not the obligation, to send an announcement of sorts to coworkers that my name has changed. I've directly told my team and others I work with on a daily basis. Is there a point to making a wider announcement?
I don't really want acknowledgement or extra interest, but I also don't want to be rude and have someone surprised by seeing it in Slack or in email first. This is a very LGBTQ+ supportive workplace.
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I have the opportunity, but not the obligation, to send an announcement of sorts to coworkers that my name has changed. I've directly told my team and others I work with on a daily basis. Is there a point to making a wider announcement?
I don't really want acknowledgement or extra interest, but I also don't want to be rude and have someone surprised by seeing it in Slack or in email first. This is a very LGBTQ+ supportive workplace.
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My voice therapist asked me to bring her some sample voices that appeal to me and I'm a bit stuck. I have a terrible time with names or faces, so while I can remember voices in my head and think "oh, that was nice", I can't put it to a name to find a recording to share with her. I'm not really sure even how to proceed. I know I want to go for a softer, gentler voice, and though I have a decent vocal range I'm going to wind up in alto territory. Does anybody have any suggestions?
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My voice therapist asked me to bring her some sample voices that appeal to me and I'm a bit stuck. I have a terrible time with names or faces, so while I can remember voices in my head and think "oh, that was nice", I can't put it to a name to find a recording to share with her. I'm not really sure even how to proceed. I know I want to go for a softer, gentler voice, and though I have a decent vocal range I'm going to wind up in alto territory. Does anybody have any suggestions?
#trans #AskTrans -
My voice therapist asked me to bring her some sample voices that appeal to me and I'm a bit stuck. I have a terrible time with names or faces, so while I can remember voices in my head and think "oh, that was nice", I can't put it to a name to find a recording to share with her. I'm not really sure even how to proceed. I know I want to go for a softer, gentler voice, and though I have a decent vocal range I'm going to wind up in alto territory. Does anybody have any suggestions?
#trans #AskTrans -
My voice therapist asked me to bring her some sample voices that appeal to me and I'm a bit stuck. I have a terrible time with names or faces, so while I can remember voices in my head and think "oh, that was nice", I can't put it to a name to find a recording to share with her. I'm not really sure even how to proceed. I know I want to go for a softer, gentler voice, and though I have a decent vocal range I'm going to wind up in alto territory. Does anybody have any suggestions?
#trans #AskTrans -
My voice therapist asked me to bring her some sample voices that appeal to me and I'm a bit stuck. I have a terrible time with names or faces, so while I can remember voices in my head and think "oh, that was nice", I can't put it to a name to find a recording to share with her. I'm not really sure even how to proceed. I know I want to go for a softer, gentler voice, and though I have a decent vocal range I'm going to wind up in alto territory. Does anybody have any suggestions?
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:repost_ok: i have questions for AMAB people on estrogen HRT! i'm non-binary, considering going on estrogen sometime in the future. i think i'd like it maybe
when did you start? what are some side effects you are getting/have gotten? have you stopped? would you have done anything differently? what would that be? why?
#transgender #transition #hrt #trans #transsexual #transfem #nonbinary #estrogen #hormonereplacementtherapy #asktrans #genderaffirmingcare #boost #boostswelcome sorry for hashtag spam i need reach for this -
:repost_ok: i have questions for AMAB people on estrogen HRT! i'm non-binary, considering going on estrogen sometime in the future. i think i'd like it maybe
when did you start? what are some side effects you are getting/have gotten? have you stopped? would you have done anything differently? what would that be? why?
#transgender #transition #hrt #trans #transsexual #transfem #nonbinary #estrogen #hormonereplacementtherapy #asktrans #genderaffirmingcare #boost #boostswelcome sorry for hashtag spam i need reach for this -
:repost_ok: i have questions for AMAB people on estrogen HRT! i'm non-binary, considering going on estrogen sometime in the future. i think i'd like it maybe
when did you start? what are some side effects you are getting/have gotten? have you stopped? would you have done anything differently? what would that be? why?
#transgender #transition #hrt #trans #transsexual #transfem #nonbinary #estrogen #hormonereplacementtherapy #asktrans #genderaffirmingcare #boost #boostswelcome sorry for hashtag spam i need reach for this -
:repost_ok: i have questions for AMAB people on estrogen HRT! i'm non-binary, considering going on estrogen sometime in the future. i think i'd like it maybe
when did you start? what are some side effects you are getting/have gotten? have you stopped? would you have done anything differently? what would that be? why?
#transgender #transition #hrt #trans #transsexual #transfem #nonbinary #estrogen #hormonereplacementtherapy #asktrans #genderaffirmingcare #boost #boostswelcome sorry for hashtag spam i need reach for this -
:repost_ok: i have questions for AMAB people on estrogen HRT! i'm non-binary, considering going on estrogen sometime in the future. i think i'd like it maybe
when did you start? what are some side effects you are getting/have gotten? have you stopped? would you have done anything differently? what would that be? why?
#transgender #transition #hrt #trans #transsexual #transfem #nonbinary #estrogen #hormonereplacementtherapy #asktrans #genderaffirmingcare #boost #boostswelcome sorry for hashtag spam i need reach for this -
CW: Seeking advice re: support groups and bad things happening
I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.
The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.
How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.
#AskTrans #AskTransFem #AskTransFedi #transfemme #transgender #AskTransMastodon #asktransgender
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CW: Seeking advice re: support groups and bad things happening
I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.
The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.
How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.
#AskTrans #AskTransFem #AskTransFedi #transfemme #transgender #AskTransMastodon #asktransgender
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CW: Seeking advice re: support groups and bad things happening
I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.
The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.
How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.
#AskTrans #AskTransFem #AskTransFedi #transfemme #transgender #AskTransMastodon #asktransgender
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CW: Seeking advice re: support groups and bad things happening
I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.
The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.
How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.
#AskTrans #AskTransFem #AskTransFedi #transfemme #transgender #AskTransMastodon #asktransgender
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CW: Seeking advice re: support groups and bad things happening
I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.
The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.
How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.
#AskTrans #AskTransFem #AskTransFedi #transfemme #transgender #AskTransMastodon #asktransgender
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CW: Electrolysis
Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate
Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often
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CW: Electrolysis
Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate
Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often
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CW: Electrolysis
Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate
Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often
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CW: Electrolysis
Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate
Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often
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CW: Electrolysis
Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate
Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often
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Has anybody renewed their passport using their deadname plus the gender flag of their choice? I think I understand what the process looks like but it'd help my autistic brain to hear someone's experience doing it.
Thank you!
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Has anybody renewed their passport using their deadname plus the gender flag of their choice? I think I understand what the process looks like but it'd help my autistic brain to hear someone's experience doing it.
Thank you!
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Has anybody renewed their passport using their deadname plus the gender flag of their choice? I think I understand what the process looks like but it'd help my autistic brain to hear someone's experience doing it.
Thank you!
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Has anybody renewed their passport using their deadname plus the gender flag of their choice? I think I understand what the process looks like but it'd help my autistic brain to hear someone's experience doing it.
Thank you!
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Has anybody renewed their passport using their deadname plus the gender flag of their choice? I think I understand what the process looks like but it'd help my autistic brain to hear someone's experience doing it.
Thank you!
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CW: HRT injection question
For those doing estradiol-valerate injections, how long do you keep using the same bottle? I was briefly on depo-estradiol and I remember the bottles saying to dispose after 28 days. I don't see a similar warning on the EV bottles, and obviously with TFG in office there may be a need to stock-pile so I want bottles to last as long as possible.
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CW: HRT injection question
For those doing estradiol-valerate injections, how long do you keep using the same bottle? I was briefly on depo-estradiol and I remember the bottles saying to dispose after 28 days. I don't see a similar warning on the EV bottles, and obviously with TFG in office there may be a need to stock-pile so I want bottles to last as long as possible.
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CW: HRT injection question
For those doing estradiol-valerate injections, how long do you keep using the same bottle? I was briefly on depo-estradiol and I remember the bottles saying to dispose after 28 days. I don't see a similar warning on the EV bottles, and obviously with TFG in office there may be a need to stock-pile so I want bottles to last as long as possible.
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CW: HRT injection question
For those doing estradiol-valerate injections, how long do you keep using the same bottle? I was briefly on depo-estradiol and I remember the bottles saying to dispose after 28 days. I don't see a similar warning on the EV bottles, and obviously with TFG in office there may be a need to stock-pile so I want bottles to last as long as possible.
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CW: HRT injection question
For those doing estradiol-valerate injections, how long do you keep using the same bottle? I was briefly on depo-estradiol and I remember the bottles saying to dispose after 28 days. I don't see a similar warning on the EV bottles, and obviously with TFG in office there may be a need to stock-pile so I want bottles to last as long as possible.
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CW: HRT Maths
I appear to have satisfied my HRT doc's expectations for T and E2 levels with my most recent check. I do daily spiro and 4mg of E once a week and after testing at peak it was very close to what the TransFemScience estimator predicts (but for monotherapy). The values are lower for that than what I've remember reading around here for suggested levels, though.
I know you should never ask the internet for medical advice, but I have plenty of EV left over when the bottle has expired, so I was thinking of doing 6mg a week instead of 4. That bumps the peak from around 300 pg/ml to about 450 and the trough from around 100 pg/ml to 175 in the estimator. I was lower than the simulator predicted so I think if I err, I should err a bit on the high side. It's legit hard to get .2ml in a 5ml syringe, so if I'm closer to .3 then I think I would avoid going below 100 at the trough.
Anybody have thoughts on this? "Just shut up and trust your doc" is totally acceptable, lol.
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CW: HRT Maths
I appear to have satisfied my HRT doc's expectations for T and E2 levels with my most recent check. I do daily spiro and 4mg of E once a week and after testing at peak it was very close to what the TransFemScience estimator predicts (but for monotherapy). The values are lower for that than what I've remember reading around here for suggested levels, though.
I know you should never ask the internet for medical advice, but I have plenty of EV left over when the bottle has expired, so I was thinking of doing 6mg a week instead of 4. That bumps the peak from around 300 pg/ml to about 450 and the trough from around 100 pg/ml to 175 in the estimator. I was lower than the simulator predicted so I think if I err, I should err a bit on the high side. It's legit hard to get .2ml in a 5ml syringe, so if I'm closer to .3 then I think I would avoid going below 100 at the trough.
Anybody have thoughts on this? "Just shut up and trust your doc" is totally acceptable, lol.
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CW: HRT Maths
I appear to have satisfied my HRT doc's expectations for T and E2 levels with my most recent check. I do daily spiro and 4mg of E once a week and after testing at peak it was very close to what the TransFemScience estimator predicts (but for monotherapy). The values are lower for that than what I've remember reading around here for suggested levels, though.
I know you should never ask the internet for medical advice, but I have plenty of EV left over when the bottle has expired, so I was thinking of doing 6mg a week instead of 4. That bumps the peak from around 300 pg/ml to about 450 and the trough from around 100 pg/ml to 175 in the estimator. I was lower than the simulator predicted so I think if I err, I should err a bit on the high side. It's legit hard to get .2ml in a 5ml syringe, so if I'm closer to .3 then I think I would avoid going below 100 at the trough.
Anybody have thoughts on this? "Just shut up and trust your doc" is totally acceptable, lol.
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CW: HRT Maths
I appear to have satisfied my HRT doc's expectations for T and E2 levels with my most recent check. I do daily spiro and 4mg of E once a week and after testing at peak it was very close to what the TransFemScience estimator predicts (but for monotherapy). The values are lower for that than what I've remember reading around here for suggested levels, though.
I know you should never ask the internet for medical advice, but I have plenty of EV left over when the bottle has expired, so I was thinking of doing 6mg a week instead of 4. That bumps the peak from around 300 pg/ml to about 450 and the trough from around 100 pg/ml to 175 in the estimator. I was lower than the simulator predicted so I think if I err, I should err a bit on the high side. It's legit hard to get .2ml in a 5ml syringe, so if I'm closer to .3 then I think I would avoid going below 100 at the trough.
Anybody have thoughts on this? "Just shut up and trust your doc" is totally acceptable, lol.
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CW: HRT Maths
I appear to have satisfied my HRT doc's expectations for T and E2 levels with my most recent check. I do daily spiro and 4mg of E once a week and after testing at peak it was very close to what the TransFemScience estimator predicts (but for monotherapy). The values are lower for that than what I've remember reading around here for suggested levels, though.
I know you should never ask the internet for medical advice, but I have plenty of EV left over when the bottle has expired, so I was thinking of doing 6mg a week instead of 4. That bumps the peak from around 300 pg/ml to about 450 and the trough from around 100 pg/ml to 175 in the estimator. I was lower than the simulator predicted so I think if I err, I should err a bit on the high side. It's legit hard to get .2ml in a 5ml syringe, so if I'm closer to .3 then I think I would avoid going below 100 at the trough.
Anybody have thoughts on this? "Just shut up and trust your doc" is totally acceptable, lol.
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CW: Looking for advice on girl-moding for the first time
For the last year I've done a lot of prep for being able to publicly transition. While I'm not ready to go full time yet, the desire to start going out in girl-mode is getting stronger by the day. Most of my shadow is zapped off. My hair is in a bob, 2 inches past my chin. I've done makeup enough to feel 75% confident in it. I've got clothes, shoes, and purses that fit and look decent (aiming for middle-aged soccer-mom here). The only thing I can think of that's missing is that calling my boobs an A cup would be overly generous, so I'm going to have to add some padding there. I have no idea how passable my voice is, but I've done what I can for now.
Am I missing anything? Did you have a check-list for going out when you started girl-moding publicly? I don't have any IRL support network so I'm dependent upon a mirror and I'll probably have to post some last minute selfies here for some confidence. Any other suggestions or ideas?
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CW: Looking for advice on girl-moding for the first time
For the last year I've done a lot of prep for being able to publicly transition. While I'm not ready to go full time yet, the desire to start going out in girl-mode is getting stronger by the day. Most of my shadow is zapped off. My hair is in a bob, 2 inches past my chin. I've done makeup enough to feel 75% confident in it. I've got clothes, shoes, and purses that fit and look decent (aiming for middle-aged soccer-mom here). The only thing I can think of that's missing is that calling my boobs an A cup would be overly generous, so I'm going to have to add some padding there. I have no idea how passable my voice is, but I've done what I can for now.
Am I missing anything? Did you have a check-list for going out when you started girl-moding publicly? I don't have any IRL support network so I'm dependent upon a mirror and I'll probably have to post some last minute selfies here for some confidence. Any other suggestions or ideas?
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CW: Looking for advice on girl-moding for the first time
For the last year I've done a lot of prep for being able to publicly transition. While I'm not ready to go full time yet, the desire to start going out in girl-mode is getting stronger by the day. Most of my shadow is zapped off. My hair is in a bob, 2 inches past my chin. I've done makeup enough to feel 75% confident in it. I've got clothes, shoes, and purses that fit and look decent (aiming for middle-aged soccer-mom here). The only thing I can think of that's missing is that calling my boobs an A cup would be overly generous, so I'm going to have to add some padding there. I have no idea how passable my voice is, but I've done what I can for now.
Am I missing anything? Did you have a check-list for going out when you started girl-moding publicly? I don't have any IRL support network so I'm dependent upon a mirror and I'll probably have to post some last minute selfies here for some confidence. Any other suggestions or ideas?