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CW: #nsfw HRT, sex, question (plz boost for viz)
Doing some homework on transitioning and I am nervous/excited about the changes to sex that will come with HRT. Currently, there is a huge disconnect between what turns me on internally (kinky slut) vs how my body responds (slab of meat) during sex that I'm hoping will change for the better. Like, basically the only time I can climax or enjoy sex is when I'm fully in my head and alone despite holding fantasies involving one or more partners.
For the ladies/enbies willing to share, how has sex changed for you after you started transitioning? And if there's a better place to ask or learn I'd appreciate the direction. :blobfoxcute:
#asktransgender #transgender #hrt #transfem #sex -
Hey y'all, I'm looking for a lawyer who can help me set up a small foundation that essentially acts as a mutual aid escrow account for trans people (and family) in Illinois. :boost:
I have a vague idea of what I want this to look like, and enough money to personally fund it for a fair while. It'd probably start with the various support groups at Center on Halsted and radiate out from there. As I see it, the biggest problems would be:
0. Setting up the organization or at least a bank account
1. Time to manage it. Probably we'd need at least a couple other people
2. Verifying identity for first time distribution
3. Validating requests if it's over (for example) $300 (under the theory that small requests will take longer to validate than they would save in preventing possible waste)
4. Setting up some standard way to donate, ideally through direct deposit and a web portal
I've been sitting on this idea for a while, and I really want to make it happen. This is somewhat dependent on my current work contract getting renewed in May, as otherwise there's no way I'll have the bandwidth to deal with this
#askTransgender #trans #transIllinois #Chicago #transfem #transmasc #MutualAid #MutualAidFund #MutualAidFunds -
Does your blåhaj have a name? :boost:
#blahaj #trans #transfem #transmasc #asktransgender -
CC: @trans @amapanda @SiteRelEnby @2something
If any of y'all have input regarding what this replies to, I would especially appreciate it. I get it if it is too much or if you lack the bandwidth, but I am anxious and at my wit's end
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CW: Seeking advice re: transphobic, conflict-avoidant parent :boost_requested:
Seeking advice re: confronting my conflict-avoidant mother about her obvious shame for my transness
Context:
- she refused to go to the bathroom after learning I also had to
- she posts pics for the milestones of every family member—but stopped doing mine after I came out
- she continues to tell me about people I am very-low-contact with because they have to be bullied into using my name & indirectly said I'm going to hell
- she constantly uses the wrong pronouns for me, often going "he—she—they"
- she has noticeably reduced contact with me
- early in my transition I expressed fear of assault. She strongly implied it would be my fault for "dressing that way" (which was a long skirt and relatively modest top)
I would love advice on how to confront these, but especially the posting one. I am fairly sure she is trying to hide from her social network that I am trans & I am sick of it
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Anyone in my contacts know how difficult it is to set up / run a mutual aid fund? Thinking of starting one for the various local trans support groups, but I don't know how complex of a task I would be getting myself into. I would probably want 3-5 people doing work for it just to make sure funds are always quickly usable. I am not opposed to personally seeding it and paying for operating costs
#AskTransgender #AskMastodon #AskFedi #legal #LegalSupport #MutualAid :boost_requested:
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CW: Seeking advice re: support groups and bad things happening
I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.
The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.
How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.
#AskTrans #AskTransFem #AskTransFedi #transfemme #transgender #AskTransMastodon #asktransgender
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CW: Seeking advice re: support groups and bad things happening
I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.
The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.
How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.
#AskTrans #AskTransFem #AskTransFedi #transfemme #transgender #AskTransMastodon #asktransgender
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CW: Seeking advice re: support groups and bad things happening
I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.
The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.
How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.
#AskTrans #AskTransFem #AskTransFedi #transfemme #transgender #AskTransMastodon #asktransgender
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CW: Seeking advice re: support groups and bad things happening
I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.
The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.
How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.
#AskTrans #AskTransFem #AskTransFedi #transfemme #transgender #AskTransMastodon #asktransgender
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CW: Seeking advice re: support groups and bad things happening
I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.
The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.
How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.
#AskTrans #AskTransFem #AskTransFedi #transfemme #transgender #AskTransMastodon #asktransgender
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CW: Electrolysis
Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate
Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often
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CW: Electrolysis
Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate
Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often
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CW: Electrolysis
Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate
Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often
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CW: Electrolysis
Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate
Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often
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CW: Electrolysis
Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate
Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often
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Anybody have a video they recommend on doing your own HRT injections?
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How open should I be about being trans at work? I am a programmer in a research part of UChicago Medicine. I would really like to talk about these things with my work friends, but currently the only people who know are the ones who interviewed me and HR. The all know me as a woman and as my chosen name.
#AskTransgender #AskTransMastodon #AskTransFedi #UChicago #trans #transgender #transfem
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Have any other transfems noticed their startle reflex increasing since starting HRT? I feel like I used to never startle from anything, but now I'll jump at something like the doorbell ringing. /gen
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Hi all! I would like to get the reading list I prepared for my dad "peer reviewed". I certainly have mistakes, and I have simplified when I think a point wouldn't be taken well quite yet, but I want to be sure that those simplifications are not horribly problematic
I am definitely aiming to educate them on trans women first, since it is most relevant to me. It should be high overlap with other trans people, though, I hope
https://joplin.oliviaappleton.com/shares/efH31SlAew8oGkcLigLTvt
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Hey y'all, I think I finally have my dad willing to read things about being #trans
Does anyone have recommendations on what to give to him? I want to do my best here
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honestly, i am terrified of the thought of going in to the womens bathroom. Like, what I mean by this is like, those initial few times where you're not sure how people will react... Don't get me wrong I can feel as fem as I want but the womens washroom is probably THE environment you'd want to be passing in, I feel... generally to avoid being ousted or attacked is my main concern.
Also, I just. I still feel even I could be 100% cis fem passing or whatever the criteria is, and I'd still feel it's wrong to be in there. We all gotta poop and pee it's just like, idk. This is why I prefer single stall individual toilet setups.
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Should I seek out anti-acne cleansers for when I start taking #estrogen ?
Puberty Two: Return of the Acne?
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Trans ladies,
How long did it take for your wardrobe to be primarily filled with women's clothing?
( Women's clothing meaning clothing generally sold and advertised towards cis women; but it can include transfem oriented clothing as well if you want. Whatever your definition wants to be! :blobcat: )
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I should just start taking estrogen to alleviate/repair my baldness cause TIL that is one effect. But I don't get then how finasteride comes into play... :blobcatthink:
#estrogen #asktrans #kindaJoking #unless #finasteride #fin #trans #asktransgender
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CW: hrt question, chest related
Serious question:
If I were to start HRT, and have grown breasts, and then later stop taking HRT and effectively revert back to a male presentation and being of body and such (testosterone and etc)...
What happens with the breast tissue and such? Does it go... back in? Does it get redistributed to other parts of the body? Would it act like a muscle that I no longer work on or something?Thank you for helping me understand what I think would not be a situation I would be in, but something quite pressing on my mind otherwise.
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thinking about getting my facial hair waxed.... i'm finding the always present stubble kinda... dysphoriating? frustrating maybe... idk. like I just don't feel I'll pass with facial hair, or will be more male presenting with even the least bit of stubble...
Not really sure, like I try my best to shave close and with the grain, but it's never enough. and with the grain is HARD to do cleanly without causing infection or ingrown hairs, bah. hot water, steaming, clean blade and hot water on the blade, never enough. If I was rich I'd buy Feather blades (they are INCREDIBLE), astras are fine though I guess...thoughts?
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tags r below#asktrans #asktransgender #asktransmastodon #transquestionoftheday #transquestion #trans #enby #nb #lgbt #shaving #waxing #facialhair #esthetic #esthetics
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thinking about getting my facial hair waxed.... i'm finding the always present stubble kinda... dysphoriating? frustrating maybe... idk. like I just don't feel I'll pass with facial hair, or will be more male presenting with even the least bit of stubble...
Not really sure, like I try my best to shave close and with the grain, but it's never enough. and with the grain is HARD to do cleanly without causing infection or ingrown hairs, bah. hot water, steaming, clean blade and hot water on the blade, never enough. If I was rich I'd buy Feather blades (they are INCREDIBLE), astras are fine though I guess...thoughts?
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tags r below#asktrans #asktransgender #asktransmastodon #transquestionoftheday #transquestion #trans #enby #nb #lgbt #shaving #waxing #facialhair #esthetic #esthetics
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thinking about getting my facial hair waxed.... i'm finding the always present stubble kinda... dysphoriating? frustrating maybe... idk. like I just don't feel I'll pass with facial hair, or will be more male presenting with even the least bit of stubble...
Not really sure, like I try my best to shave close and with the grain, but it's never enough. and with the grain is HARD to do cleanly without causing infection or ingrown hairs, bah. hot water, steaming, clean blade and hot water on the blade, never enough. If I was rich I'd buy Feather blades (they are INCREDIBLE), astras are fine though I guess...thoughts?
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tags r below#asktrans #asktransgender #asktransmastodon #transquestionoftheday #transquestion #trans #enby #nb #lgbt #shaving #waxing #facialhair #esthetic #esthetics
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thinking about getting my facial hair waxed.... i'm finding the always present stubble kinda... dysphoriating? frustrating maybe... idk. like I just don't feel I'll pass with facial hair, or will be more male presenting with even the least bit of stubble...
Not really sure, like I try my best to shave close and with the grain, but it's never enough. and with the grain is HARD to do cleanly without causing infection or ingrown hairs, bah. hot water, steaming, clean blade and hot water on the blade, never enough. If I was rich I'd buy Feather blades (they are INCREDIBLE), astras are fine though I guess...thoughts?
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tags r below#asktrans #asktransgender #asktransmastodon #transquestionoftheday #transquestion #trans #enby #nb #lgbt #shaving #waxing #facialhair #esthetic #esthetics