#biphobic — Public Fediverse posts

In my lifetime, I've watched society, or at least parts of it, swing from the assumption that if you're #questioning your sexual orientation, you must be #queer, because straight people would never need to question, to the assumption that if you're questioning, you must be straight, because #LGBTQ people "just know" that that's who they are and only silly, straight girls who want to steal attention from the so-called real queer people would make a big deal out of questioning their sexual orientation 🙄

And I'm finally in a place where I can say that both of these views are #biphobic, because when you're #bisexual, your feelings and experiences often don't fit into the straight or homosexual depictions of the world that you're given, so you very well may need more time to figure things out and go through a process of questioning. And I wish we had more honest representation of what that's like.

And I think it's sad that growing up, the only example I had of someone #questioning whether they were #queer was #Seinfeld, a show that, while I'm defending it with some #UnpopularOpinions is still deeply problematic. It's a show that, like every other show of that era, was #biphobic and participated in #BiErasure. And yet, I'm also weirdly grateful to it, because at least it was something when I had nothing, and now I can look back on that era of my life and rewatch it and realize how far I've come in my own journey.

And I also think it's sad that there really isn't more representation of characters questioning their sexual orientation, even today. I think today questioning is assumed to be something people don't do because we're all supposedly so accepting of the #LGBTQ community now, but for pretty much all of my life, I could have used some questioning representation.