#queerplatonicpartnership — Public Fediverse posts

I've identified as #trans for at least seven years now. In the very beginning that was my only gender identity, but soon I determined for myself, that my transness is part of the #NonBinary spectrum and since then I identify as #enby too.

As I've posted before I used to introduce myself as trans, as I thought more people understood that, even when non binary was already my main identity.
Then I thought to myself that I should start introducing myself as non binary, as more people should start to understand that.

I've always had my problem with the word trans, as for me it basically implies, that there are two genders and you switch from one to another, like crossing a river (in Vienna we call the part north of the Danube river "Transdanubia").

I'm not trans. I didn't "become" non binary. I am non binary.

Btw as a sidenote: I do use the word "identify" in regard to gender. Many say they don't identify as xy, they ARE xy. Because "identify" implies, that its just a feeling, not a fact. And I totally get that.
But I still use the word for two reasons:

1. As explained above, my gender can change. And if I first said I was trans and now I say, that I am no longer, that feels a bit strange to me. For many that may be true, but for me: I was never trans. My gender never changed. My thoughts about labels did.

2. The argument that "identify" implies feeling, not fact, protects against discrimination, which is important. But I'd like to use language that reflects how things should be, not how they are. People should accept, that my identity matters, even if it changes and later I'll say that what I said before was not factual.

But just to make sure: I'm not at all arguing that others should stop using the word "trans" for themselves. I'll continue to fight for trans rights and for people to be free to identify with or be any label they like.

And one more thing: I'm also starting to identify less with the #WTFRomantic label. It implies that I have a hard time distinguishing romantic and platonic feelings and don't know what kind of relationship I want if I have feelings.
I do know though. I have #QueerPlatonic feelings and want a #QueerPlatonicPartnership (though I'm fine with a platonic friendship or a romantic relationship if we both decide that that's what we want.).
But still I'm keeping the label, at least for now, as I simply like it. Plus also I want to help make it more known in the world.