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The recent news of Ngozi Fulani’s (CEO and Founder of Sistah Space) treatment at Buckingham Palace has opened up more conversation about simply asking “Where are you ‘really’ from?”.
Why does this question matter?
There is nothing wrong with asking about where you lived or where you grew up, these are normal questions for making connections with people. However, the follow-up question “Where are you ‘really’ from?”, or “You look/sound like you are from X or Y”, trying to satisfy their own assumptions leads to more uncomfortable conversations.
I grew up in the UK and lived in Europe, South East Asia, and Asia. From experience, this question follows you around wherever you go. When I provide a simple answer, “I grew up in the UK”, it never quite satisfies their curiosity according to their own biased judgement. From those who ask, I don’t stereotypically look like someone who should identify as that. They probe further and push me in a position to convince new acquaintances that that’s where I am REALLY from. After numerous microaggressive conversations of the same questions, it gets very exhaustive.
These intrusive questions are often excused as being curious and framed without malicious intent. It can be triggering as it undermines your identity, making you justify your identity, distorting your sense of belonging and making you feel alienated. These unwelcomed conversations have real undertones of racism, anti-minority and anti-immigration, these judgements about someone’s race, ethnicity and nationality can be harmful to the recipient.
The only way we can eliminate unconscious biases is to listen carefully when someone speaks and make meaningful connections. We need to stop profiling someone’s identity based on our own biased judgements. We are all different, no one should be measured and placed neatly in a box!
#WhereAreYouFrom #WhereAreYouReallyFrom
#MicroAggression #StopAsianHate #Identity #NgoziFulani -
The recent news of Ngozi Fulani’s (CEO and Founder of Sistah Space) treatment at Buckingham Palace has opened up more conversation about simply asking “Where are you ‘really’ from?”.
Why does this question matter?
There is nothing wrong with asking about where you lived or where you grew up, these are normal questions for making connections with people. However, the follow-up question “Where are you ‘really’ from?”, or “You look/sound like you are from X or Y”, trying to satisfy their own assumptions leads to more uncomfortable conversations.
I grew up in the UK and lived in Europe, South East Asia, and Asia. From experience, this question follows you around wherever you go. When I provide a simple answer, “I grew up in the UK”, it never quite satisfies their curiosity according to their own biased judgement. From those who ask, I don’t stereotypically look like someone who should identify as that. They probe further and push me in a position to convince new acquaintances that that’s where I am REALLY from. After numerous microaggressive conversations of the same questions, it gets very exhaustive.
These intrusive questions are often excused as being curious and framed without malicious intent. It can be triggering as it undermines your identity, making you justify your identity, distorting your sense of belonging and making you feel alienated. These unwelcomed conversations have real undertones of racism, anti-minority and anti-immigration, these judgements about someone’s race, ethnicity and nationality can be harmful to the recipient.
The only way we can eliminate unconscious biases is to listen carefully when someone speaks and make meaningful connections. We need to stop profiling someone’s identity based on our own biased judgements. We are all different, no one should be measured and placed neatly in a box!
#WhereAreYouFrom #WhereAreYouReallyFrom
#MicroAggression #StopAsianHate #Identity #NgoziFulani -
I just want to say that I’ve been asked ‘where you’re from?’ many many times in my life. And you know if the asker’s intention is to alienate or befriend. You feel it straightaway.
#NgoziFulani
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One of the worst things about #racism is that it robs people of their voice. So let's talk about #SistahSpace https://www.sistahspace.org/. They support African and Caribbean heritage women experiencing domestic and sexual #abuse. They help these women navigate #prejudice and #cultural illiteracy in the #police force. Their work includes support, advocacy, training, research and lobbying. Please support them.
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Old age does not mean you can be racist, anymore than it means you can sexually abuse children and expect to use a get-out of prison age-clause. Equally to change your name, portray yourself as someone who grew up in a different culture to what you actually did, cry foul when questioned appears to be a deliberate attempt to be dishonest. It appears to undermine progress towards getting rid of racism and dishonesty. #LadySusanHussey #NgoziFulani #MaryHeadley
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This is Floella Benjamin's amazing Autobiography.
Check the Title out.
'What are you doing here?'
Is that not what #NgoziFulani of Sistah Space was effectively asked at Buckingham Palace the other day? 🤷🏽♂️
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What’s amusing me today is thinking about how the hole racists are digging for themselves is now so deep they’re going to end up burying both the tory party and the monarchy in it with them. They've lost the demographic battle and the more they bleat the worse it gets. They’re like a football team that’s 3-0 down with time running out that's lost all discipline and getting its players sent off.
#Racism
#SusanHussey
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‘Reading about what happened to #ngozifulani at #buckinghampalace reminded me of being asked this question a few years ago.I was out for drinks with a large group of friends+a young white man of abt my age repeatedly asked me where I was "really from"
Each time I answered with increasing levels of detail,until this stranger had heard about my entire childhood. But he still kept asking
I eventually gave up+said that I am Indian
"Aha!" he exclaimed. "Got there in the end." https://t.co/85Txg8z0SU -
Every #Nigerian reading about this #NgoziFulani issue right now is facing a conundrum:
How do I ask "Yes, but where are you really from?" without sounding like that racist old white woman?
How can your first name be Ngozi and your last name Fulani?!
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The experience of #NgoziFulani reminds me of Jimmy's musing in #TheChioduFiles. Spoiler alert!
"For someone born in the USA, I always found questions about where I was from very annoying. I usually replied that I was from Cincinnati, Ohio, then they will prod further, asking where I was originally from or where my parents were from. I always desired to blend in, and not to stand out like an immigrant when I was fully American, born and bred....." #BlackMastodon
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0821RWS45/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_awdb_t1_x_lDI4DbMCYJ9EX
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When making small talk, if you start on a topic that the person you are speaking with doesn't want to talk about, it is courteous to change the topic, rather than double down on it. #NgoziFulani.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vice.com/amp/en/article/g5vn39/royal-family-ngozi-fulani
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@SamYoung841 I think the misconception about Black people is that we are overly sensitive. So we are dismissed when we experience racism or talk about our experiences.
But we're not sensitive. We actually ignore a lot of shit. What we actually talk about should require pause and reflection.
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Would you ask Richard E Grant which part of Africa he was born in (he was)?
Then why would you ask the same question of #NgoziFulani (she wasn't)?