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  1. “children: the ultimate accessories” as an #adoptee i feel this

  2. oh I’m on a blocklist? that’s fine. I’m an #adoptee. The government put me on a blocklist

  3. I’m hoping Kathryn finds a good landing place! More than once, during the #adoptee meetup I attended this past weekend, I cited THE CHILD CATCHERS, her pathbreaking book on the Christian adoption crusade. We need Kathryn Joyce to keep digging into things!

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:ek7k6sjcntkofjcaclv6c27i/post/3mjxica2jcs25

  4. Sandra is the second #adoptee I’ve seen in the past two minutes posting about access to our birth records as an out-of-body experience. I agree. Holding my OBC was the most deeply transformative moment of my life, even deeper than becoming a parent (which started me on the path to it).

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:mysxye325i2tcnnduw7tmdtr/post/3mjfptb7lec2v

  5. i get really emotional these days both because my children are reaching these moments in their lives and also because i, an #adoptee not raised by my parents, get to be involved in raising my own children. it’s all a bit much to take in.

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:2sfy6irvmfmnwxe4ouhrrn7a/post/3mjdhfvli3c2s

  6. as an #adoptee i am as opposed to forcing people into parenthood as i am to forcing people out of parenthood. Both are central to the fascist Right’s program of white supremacist, patriarchal family engineering.

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:foalrmuwpoiopyshy2izpz3u/post/3mimmvl2n7c2g

  7. The way it works is: if I add your account to the feed, then any of your posts containing hashtags like #adoption #adoptee #adopteesky #adopteevoices or the 🥚 symbol will go into the feed. Otherwise they won’t. Lmk if you’d like to be added!

  8. hey #adoptee friends who followed me on here after I gave my Facebook/Instagram farewell! There’s a feed for folks to post about adoption. Let me know if you’d like to be added! bsky.app/profile/did:...

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:2sfy6irvmfmnwxe4ouhrrn7a/feed/aaadnim25wkmc

  9. I'm an #adoptee & friends and I've created a Discord server for adoptees & biological siblings of adoptees [whether they're in reunion with their adopted siblings or not]. It's an attempt at both having a space for adoptees to chat, but also having a space where biological siblings can learn what adoptee-life has been like while also learning to connect with adoptees in general and hopefully having their own space to chat with fellow bio-sibs. There aren't very many members -- I think less than 10 right now. But we're there.

    We are also trying to build up a Signal chat, but that is adoptees only. If you'd like to join either group, feel free to PM me for the link.

    We're very no drama. We just want to hang out casually, socially and be able to bring up adoption topics for mutual discussion.

  10. today—TODAY—i learned that a bakery within a short walk from my house was opened a Korean American #adoptee who envisioned it as “a space that prioritizes Asian American and adoptee voices.” and it’s closing! 😢 www.boston.com/food/food-ne...

    Nine Winters Bakery is closing...

  11. I was at a gallery displaying student artwork, including some of my 17yo’s, and I complimented one of their classmates on her painting and I said, “by the way I’m *****’s dad.” And she said, “I had a feeling.” my #adoptee heart leapt a mile. I don’t care if she was roasting me.

  12. It is common? One estimate is that in Minnesota alone, over 17,000 people of the Korean #adoptee diaspora lack US citizenship because of their adopters’ negligence. americancommunitymedia.org/immigration/...

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:5khesvavvttyuygvncdhfjge/post/3mgx3xmmubs2t


    More than 10,000 Adoptees in U...

  13. being a mouthy #adoptee online has taught me—who enjoys every social privilege *other* than being adopted—so much about what it can be like to have one’s ideas and voice co-opted by people who can reap praise for “outspokenness” without facing any real risk of abuse for speaking out.

  14. being an #adoptee who was taken from my birth mother because of a complete lack any of social provision enabling her to keep me, I think of the treatment meted out to her and latter-day birthmothers and try to remind myself that in the fairy tale, Rumpelstiltskin was supposed to be the *villain*.

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:2sfy6irvmfmnwxe4ouhrrn7a/post/3mgncl5ubdc2g

  15. because i am a librarian and therefore move in rarefied circles of power and privilege, i got a copy of this report. 😎 #adoptee friends (and anyone else who is interested), DM me. I’ll actually look at my DMs for once.

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:2sfy6irvmfmnwxe4ouhrrn7a/post/3mgaihpwujs2x

  16. I won't go into the details that bring this request on because I'm an #adoptee and the background stories of people within my community, are deeply profound, often painful, and incredibly difficult to share.

    Parents: Please. Tell all your children about each other's existence. Even when we cannot grow up together, we need that knowledge. It's a part of us. Even if we're only half-siblings, we're still siblings.

    Oh, and one more thing: whether we contact each other as adults 👏 IS 👏 NOT 👏 UP 👏 TO 👏 YOU.

    #sayitagain #shoutit #adopteesonadoption #wearesiblings

  17. Over 17 THOUSAND people of the Korean #adoptee diaspora in the US, spanning the entire period up to its inception 70 years ago, lack US citizenship because of their adopters’ inaction. americancommunitymedia.org/immigration/...

    More than 17k Korean Adoptees ...

  18. liberals love this “gotcha” whereas i, an #adoptee who knows what the fuck i’m talking about, hate it with the heat of 1 million suns

  19. another #adoptee i know calls intercountry adoption “disaster capitalism,” and i think that’s absolutely on the nose. Kathryn Joyce’s THE CHILD CATCHERS makes this vivid.

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:vjhrhk6me52erjhbtf6orhro/post/3mfhxzqtfok2b

  20. this story, of the Trump regime trying to deport an intercountry #adoptee from a country she never chose to enter and that is also the only place she has ever called home—should be getting more attention.

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:sicrze73fnfen7lp5nf427om/post/3mffxxb4v7k2r

  21. my belief that the state should only record and never dictate or constrain a person’s identity is why i see #adoptee rights and trans rights as connected at the very root.

  22. being an #adoptee and facing another round of “never ever ever use dna genealogy databases” 😬

  23. this is what it’s like to be an #adoptee who talks frankly about adoption on social media. To be fair, it is a MILLION TIMES worse on other platforms than it is here.

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:xwzxgbwvnnu2dntpty765y5j/post/3meehmbzlb226

  24. one of my dear friends, an #adoptee and someone many of you might follow on this app, sent me this photo from Oedipus on Broadway in NYC tonight

  25. more than usual lately i have been given reminders that not every #adoptee is worth listening to, or associating with in any way.

  26. the taboo is so strong that any #adoptee who says “i actually don’t like being caught up in this system i had no say in being caught up in” is immediately attacked as -ungrateful -suicidal -angry over a “bad adoption experience”

    RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:2sfy6irvmfmnwxe4ouhrrn7a/post/3mdnlyb6xok22

  27. #AdopteesofMastodon #adoptee #adopteevoices :

    Do you speak up about adoption online? If so what is it that you're attempting to share or teach other humans about adoption?

    So often on mainstream social media, I see my fellow adoptees speaking out. I applaud them. I believe their experiences are 💯 valid no matter how they choose to present it, or whether I agree with them; however, in checking in with myself after reading their posts, I often feel a sense of negativity -- as though I'm walking away from a toxic exchange. I'm uncertain if this is merely social media somehow tainting their message, or if the individuals are simply so hurt by their experiences that the telling of them is a bit much, even for a fellow adoptee.

    I wonder if any others are like me in that they believe it entirely possible to share negativity without requiring others to drink the same poison, in a sense??

    Would love to see a discussion on this if anyone's open to it.

  28. My essay in GEIST, "The Dead Viking My Birthmother Gave Me" and you can read the whole thing! www.geist.com/fact/the-dea... My illustration of my #birthmother fielding messages from the dead for an audience. She connects people. #adoption #adoptee #faith #spirituality #lgbtq

  29. I finally got 'round to updating my Substack and going to work on posting there more often now.

    I've been marveling at how much easier it is to get things done without Meta-based brain clutter.

    I've not left Meta -- I may eventually hop on & deactivate accounts. But for now, I've backed away quietly. A big part of this is the fact that I'm in recent reunion with my biological family. I'm an #adoptee -- so not only am I recently in reunion, but several have added me on Facebook & it makes me sad to think of leaving the platform totally behind... feels a little like severing those relationships without giving them half a chance, even though that's not what I'd be doing at all. I will be inviting some of my newly-acquainted first family to other apps where we can do the same things as on Facebook, but I'm taking my time to figure the best way to phrase those invitations.

    #adopteechallenges #adopteevoices

  30. First of all: to get a post into the feed, it needs to include at least one of the following terms (and please suggest more!): #adoptee #adoption #adoptees #adopteevoices #adopteesky #trafficking #trafficked #displaced #erased #erasure #adoptive #adopte #babyboxes 🥚

  31. Adult #adoptee @corsent dropping adoption truth bombs in his #NAAM 🧵. Raise your hand if you knew that "the one federal agency that exercises regulatory oversight over #adoption is the Department of Commerce." #AdopteeVoices #UglyTruth

  32. Coming out of the adoption fog—leaving behind fear, obligation, guilt—was a long, complicated, beautiful journey.

    My story @medium

    mindystern.medium.com/coming-o

  33. Coming out of the adoption fog—leaving behind fear, obligation, guilt—was a long, complicated, beautiful journey.

    My story @medium

    #adopteevoices #adoptee #adopteerights

    mindystern.medium.com/coming-o

  34. Coming out of the adoption fog—leaving behind fear, obligation, guilt—was a long, complicated, beautiful journey.

    My story @medium

    #adopteevoices #adoptee #adopteerights

    mindystern.medium.com/coming-o

  35. Coming out of the adoption fog—leaving behind fear, obligation, guilt—was a long, complicated, beautiful journey.

    My story @medium

    #adopteevoices #adoptee #adopteerights

    mindystern.medium.com/coming-o