#adoptee — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #adoptee, aggregated by home.social.
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Jennifer Finch was an #adoptee. RIP.
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The problem is that almost everyone involved in the debate over #adoptee rights—except for a few adoptees and birthparents—frames the debate as a matter of balancing the rights of all parties involved.
No. Sealing birth records violates ONLY the adoptee’s rights. Unsealing them violates NO ONE’s.
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“children: the ultimate accessories” as an #adoptee i feel this
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the things you hear from people’s actual mouths as you grow up as an #adoptee
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oh I’m on a blocklist? that’s fine. I’m an #adoptee. The government put me on a blocklist
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I’m hoping Kathryn finds a good landing place! More than once, during the #adoptee meetup I attended this past weekend, I cited THE CHILD CATCHERS, her pathbreaking book on the Christian adoption crusade. We need Kathryn Joyce to keep digging into things!
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Sandra is the second #adoptee I’ve seen in the past two minutes posting about access to our birth records as an out-of-body experience. I agree. Holding my OBC was the most deeply transformative moment of my life, even deeper than becoming a parent (which started me on the path to it).
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i get really emotional these days both because my children are reaching these moments in their lives and also because i, an #adoptee not raised by my parents, get to be involved in raising my own children. it’s all a bit much to take in.
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as an #adoptee i am as opposed to forcing people into parenthood as i am to forcing people out of parenthood. Both are central to the fascist Right’s program of white supremacist, patriarchal family engineering.
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as an #adoptee i am as opposed to forcing people into parenthood as i am to forcing people out of parenthood. Both are central to the fascist Right’s program of white supremacist, patriarchal family engineering.
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The way it works is: if I add your account to the feed, then any of your posts containing hashtags like #adoption #adoptee #adopteesky #adopteevoices or the 🥚 symbol will go into the feed. Otherwise they won’t. Lmk if you’d like to be added!
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hey #adoptee friends who followed me on here after I gave my Facebook/Instagram farewell! There’s a feed for folks to post about adoption. Let me know if you’d like to be added! bsky.app/profile/did:...
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I'm an #adoptee & friends and I've created a Discord server for adoptees & biological siblings of adoptees [whether they're in reunion with their adopted siblings or not]. It's an attempt at both having a space for adoptees to chat, but also having a space where biological siblings can learn what adoptee-life has been like while also learning to connect with adoptees in general and hopefully having their own space to chat with fellow bio-sibs. There aren't very many members -- I think less than 10 right now. But we're there.
We are also trying to build up a Signal chat, but that is adoptees only. If you'd like to join either group, feel free to PM me for the link.
We're very no drama. We just want to hang out casually, socially and be able to bring up adoption topics for mutual discussion.
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I'm an #adoptee & friends and I've created a Discord server for adoptees & biological siblings of adoptees [whether they're in reunion with their adopted siblings or not]. It's an attempt at both having a space for adoptees to chat, but also having a space where biological siblings can learn what adoptee-life has been like while also learning to connect with adoptees in general and hopefully having their own space to chat with fellow bio-sibs. There aren't very many members -- I think less than 10 right now. But we're there.
We are also trying to build up a Signal chat, but that is adoptees only. If you'd like to join either group, feel free to PM me for the link.
We're very no drama. We just want to hang out casually, socially and be able to bring up adoption topics for mutual discussion.
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today—TODAY—i learned that a bakery within a short walk from my house was opened a Korean American #adoptee who envisioned it as “a space that prioritizes Asian American and adoptee voices.” and it’s closing! 😢 www.boston.com/food/food-ne...
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today—TODAY—i learned that a bakery within a short walk from my house was opened a Korean American #adoptee who envisioned it as “a space that prioritizes Asian American and adoptee voices.” and it’s closing! 😢 www.boston.com/food/food-ne...
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I was at a gallery displaying student artwork, including some of my 17yo’s, and I complimented one of their classmates on her painting and I said, “by the way I’m *****’s dad.” And she said, “I had a feeling.” my #adoptee heart leapt a mile. I don’t care if she was roasting me.
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I was at a gallery displaying student artwork, including some of my 17yo’s, and I complimented one of their classmates on her painting and I said, “by the way I’m *****’s dad.” And she said, “I had a feeling.” my #adoptee heart leapt a mile. I don’t care if she was roasting me.
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ask Moses. never underestimate the power of an #adoptee.
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It is common? One estimate is that in Minnesota alone, over 17,000 people of the Korean #adoptee diaspora lack US citizenship because of their adopters’ negligence. americancommunitymedia.org/immigration/...
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More than 10,000 Adoptees in U... -
being a mouthy #adoptee online has taught me—who enjoys every social privilege *other* than being adopted—so much about what it can be like to have one’s ideas and voice co-opted by people who can reap praise for “outspokenness” without facing any real risk of abuse for speaking out.
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being an #adoptee who was taken from my birth mother because of a complete lack any of social provision enabling her to keep me, I think of the treatment meted out to her and latter-day birthmothers and try to remind myself that in the fairy tale, Rumpelstiltskin was supposed to be the *villain*.
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because i am a librarian and therefore move in rarefied circles of power and privilege, i got a copy of this report. 😎 #adoptee friends (and anyone else who is interested), DM me. I’ll actually look at my DMs for once.
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I won't go into the details that bring this request on because I'm an #adoptee and the background stories of people within my community, are deeply profound, often painful, and incredibly difficult to share.
Parents: Please. Tell all your children about each other's existence. Even when we cannot grow up together, we need that knowledge. It's a part of us. Even if we're only half-siblings, we're still siblings.
Oh, and one more thing: whether we contact each other as adults 👏 IS 👏 NOT 👏 UP 👏 TO 👏 YOU.
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I won't go into the details that bring this request on because I'm an #adoptee and the background stories of people within my community, are deeply profound, often painful, and incredibly difficult to share.
Parents: Please. Tell all your children about each other's existence. Even when we cannot grow up together, we need that knowledge. It's a part of us. Even if we're only half-siblings, we're still siblings.
Oh, and one more thing: whether we contact each other as adults 👏 IS 👏 NOT 👏 UP 👏 TO 👏 YOU.
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Over 17 THOUSAND people of the Korean #adoptee diaspora in the US, spanning the entire period up to its inception 70 years ago, lack US citizenship because of their adopters’ inaction. americancommunitymedia.org/immigration/...
More than 17k Korean Adoptees ... -
Over 17 THOUSAND people of the Korean #adoptee diaspora in the US, spanning the entire period up to its inception 70 years ago, lack US citizenship because of their adopters’ inaction. americancommunitymedia.org/immigration/...
More than 17k Korean Adoptees ... -
no intercountry #adoptee should ever be subject to deportation. ever. apple.news/Aksu3o76pRta...
A U.S. veteran adopted an orph... -
liberals love this “gotcha” whereas i, an #adoptee who knows what the fuck i’m talking about, hate it with the heat of 1 million suns
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another #adoptee i know calls intercountry adoption “disaster capitalism,” and i think that’s absolutely on the nose. Kathryn Joyce’s THE CHILD CATCHERS makes this vivid.
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this story, of the Trump regime trying to deport an intercountry #adoptee from a country she never chose to enter and that is also the only place she has ever called home—should be getting more attention.
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this story, of the Trump regime trying to deport an intercountry #adoptee from a country she never chose to enter and that is also the only place she has ever called home—should be getting more attention.
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my belief that the state should only record and never dictate or constrain a person’s identity is why i see #adoptee rights and trans rights as connected at the very root.
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my belief that the state should only record and never dictate or constrain a person’s identity is why i see #adoptee rights and trans rights as connected at the very root.
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being an #adoptee and facing another round of “never ever ever use dna genealogy databases” 😬
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@genealogy I'm working ever so slowly on my family tree & ran into a question: I'm an #adoptee My biological parents never married, so on sites like Family Search, I must select a preferred parent rather than them being listed as both my parents... this makes it difficult to view my entire tree. Any suggestions to fix this?
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#AdopteesofMastodon #adoptee #adopteevoices :
Do you speak up about adoption online? If so what is it that you're attempting to share or teach other humans about adoption?
So often on mainstream social media, I see my fellow adoptees speaking out. I applaud them. I believe their experiences are 💯 valid no matter how they choose to present it, or whether I agree with them; however, in checking in with myself after reading their posts, I often feel a sense of negativity -- as though I'm walking away from a toxic exchange. I'm uncertain if this is merely social media somehow tainting their message, or if the individuals are simply so hurt by their experiences that the telling of them is a bit much, even for a fellow adoptee.
I wonder if any others are like me in that they believe it entirely possible to share negativity without requiring others to drink the same poison, in a sense??
Would love to see a discussion on this if anyone's open to it.
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I've just edited my profile introduction & thought I'd do another posted intro as well, since it's been awhile.
🍕 I'm from the #stateofGeorgia in Southeastern US.
🍕 An actual #adoptee, I'm in reunion with some of my biological family.
🍕 I #crochet and #draw | #sketch and enjoy practicing amateur #mobilephotography -- this is my work as traditional employment wasn't the best fit for me.
🍕 I'm proud of my #Appalachian roots | birth culture and always looking for good #stories about life in those mountains.
👾 I play #StardewValley
🌈 Rainbow-friendly, y'all.
🖋️ Office | #Stationery supplies are my jam!! Sadly, I'm rarely asked about my favorite pens or pencils etc.What are y'all up to?
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as i have said before and will never tire of saying, i am in awe of the energy, creativity, and courage of the Korean #adoptee diaspora in bringing the realities of adoption in front of the eyes of those—millions of them—who prefer to look the other way.
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I finally got 'round to updating my Substack and going to work on posting there more often now.
I've been marveling at how much easier it is to get things done without Meta-based brain clutter.
I've not left Meta -- I may eventually hop on & deactivate accounts. But for now, I've backed away quietly. A big part of this is the fact that I'm in recent reunion with my biological family. I'm an #adoptee -- so not only am I recently in reunion, but several have added me on Facebook & it makes me sad to think of leaving the platform totally behind... feels a little like severing those relationships without giving them half a chance, even though that's not what I'd be doing at all. I will be inviting some of my newly-acquainted first family to other apps where we can do the same things as on Facebook, but I'm taking my time to figure the best way to phrase those invitations.
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Genuine question for those who have left Meta in the dust:
How did y'all address with family members the topic of "we're not going to be on Meta anymore & would like to switch to [insert non-Meta messaging app]?
And if you went this route, what apps did y'all choose as extended families?
I personally don't have a family chat thread in Messegner, but I'm recently in reunion [I'm an adoptee] with bio-fam who are relatively active on FB. I'm not leaving the app yet, but I feel like that could happen at some point...
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So much to catch y'all up on. Cliff notes:
- We've completed our move to Georgia [state] from North Carolina.
- I finally gathered the courage to write a few biological family members & have received a reply... #adoptee
- ...I've since spoken to 2 half-siblings & a bio-parent. It's a lot for all parties to process, but we'll be okay.
- I'm currently reading: How to Draw and Wite in Fountain Pen by Ayano Usamura in addition to The Life-Changing Manga of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo.
- I've been taking a TON of photos around our new home, mostly of animals...
- speaking of which, my dad got an incubator for his birthday; 29 out of 30 of the first eggs he tried it out with have hatched... -
“My dad died thinking, ‘I raised my daughter. I did my part,’ but not knowing it put me on a path of instability and fear. Adoption tells you: You’re an American, this is your home. But the United States doesn’t see me as an American.”
"Now she lays awake at night, wondering what it would be like to be sent back to Iran."
"They know it could happen, because it already has."
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Ooo, it's time for a 🧵!
Every time I post my support for #abortion rights & access, some jackwagon comes along & tries to shame this #adoptee by responding AREN'T YOU GLAD YOUR MOTHER CHOSE LIFE (or something similar).
1st off, my mother didn't chose anything. I was born in 1961, & choice didn't exist. She was forced to grow & bear me--& then forced to surrender me to strangers.
2nd, I absolutely wish she'd had reproductive choice. EVERYONE should--not everyone but my mother. +
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@[email protected] @[email protected] Just catching up on this morning's #genchat and, whew, as an #adoptee it's interesting to read various viewpoints on DNA testing & learning of family secrets. There's no shame in anyone wanting to know where they come from, even when that someone may be previously unknown to their bio relatives. Yes, there are unfortunately still those who wish to maintain their secrets, but none of us is obligated to oblige, and DNA testing makes that kind of thing nearly impossible anyway.
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This small thing has been adopted by my nephew after having been rescued from a restructuring builiding. She suffers for congenital cerebellum hypoplasia. But she's so nice!
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This journey, to allow oneself to be seen, is one I'm on as well. It's an #adoptee thing, I think, to want to protect one's true self at all costs.
"I’ve rarely felt comfortable being seen, but especially up close — it has always felt much safer to be witnessed from afar, still able to hide a bit. It has felt safer to not be truly known; if no one truly knows you, no one can see what’s wrong with you."
https://open.substack.com/pub/lisaolivera/p/to-be-known #AdopteeVoices
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CW: Mention of transphobia & transphobic arguments, content that may be triggering for adoptees & other people not raised by their biological parents
Yet again scratching my head at transphobe arguments against changing the name &/or gender listed on one's official documentation (drivers license, passport, birth certificate)*. "It's an official document, you can't just change it on a whim! Your biological sex needs to be listed for emergency healthcare & stuff!"
Folks, let me tell you something about myself as an adoptee: my birth certificate was falsified almost immediately after my birth. It was "amended" to change my name & the names of my parents. No medical professional I have ever worked with has ever had access to my true family medical history, something that any doctor who didn't get their education out of a Cracker Jack box could tell you is very important. In my home state in the USA, I could not (until very recently) even petition for an unaltered copy of the certificate without going through the courts. And after all that the court would almost certainly have denied my request.
Even now that the law has changed it is not "easy" to get my records. My unamended birth certificate is incomplete & does not list both of my parents. The state also provides biological parents the opportunity to request that their identities are censored out of any official documentation, which makes the whole effort futile. To my knowledge there is no legal provision requiring that I am provided even an anonymized version of my biological family's medical history.
If you thought that I could go to the adoption agency, think again. The only family medical records they have for me are over 30 years out of date. Plus, when I last requested even the most basic info from them they took my money (yes, I have to pay to learn even the smallest detail about my past) & then avoided my calls for months until I finally gave up**.
All of this is to say that the opposition that trans folks face on this issue is utterly stupid. Apparently it's bad & dangerous to make certain changes to official documentation if you yourself requested those changes & give informed consent to them; but it's totally ok & normal for other people to request those changes without your consent & regardless of the consequences for you. Yeah I call bullshit.
*To clarify, I'm not confused at fascists intentionally making bad faith arguments in order to harm people, that's nothing new. I am a little frustrated & confused by the "normies" who accept these ludicrous statements at face value without any desire to dig deeper.
**If you're curious, all I wanted was to know if my biological father had left any documentation about his preferences for if/how he should be contacted. I wasn't even asking for a name or any identifying info. Literally just "did my bio father indicate (30 years ago) whether he would be ok with me contacting him or not?" It's a question that totally should have been able to be answered via a single email without violating any laws or agency policies.
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Did you know Debbie Harry is an #adoptee who attempted to reunite with her bio mom but was rejected? #Blondie #MusicWomenWednesday https://youtu.be/SXX8rUV4p9A?si=KB-7rfCQ4W5RYm59
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I spent today and part of yesterday writing letters to some of my biological family members. I think these are both the most difficult letters I've ever written and the ones I'm most proud to have penned...
I've never met any genetic relative, to my knowledge. I've no medical history from either first parent... It's time.
Theme song 🎵 of the moment: Bravery Be Written by The Show Ponies 🎶
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Instagram, too -- it seems they've become and adverts app practically overnight. My friends and I have been chatting about how we've seen so many repeated reels, advertisements one right after the other... it's not looking too good.
Yet, Instagram is where most of my #adoptee | #adopteevoices content has been going. It's so frustrating...
I reckon this looks more like a vent than anything else. But I also honestly wanted to inform anyone unaware that this is going on. Thank y'all for reading through. And for any advice, encouragement, or even petitions to sign to stop, or at least readjust the madness...
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